Family Tax | After The Vows - Episode 7 | Season 1 | Full Episode
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- čas přidán 7. 11. 2021
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One of our guests being the beautiful @NozibeleQamngana - Zábava
Learnt the hard way. My mother told me that the world will continue just fine without me, that I don't owe her and anyone anything. Those who helped and contributed to where I am today, did it put of their own hearts, and so I don't owe anybody anything.
I live by her words everyday. I only do what I can do. It's not everything that needs money and even emotional needs don't need me to always attend to them.
We need to learn to develop people so that they don't rely on us.
If they refuse, then it's their burden, not yours.
Rather teach a man how to fish, instead of giving them that fish.
Family tax needs to end, and it needs us to fix it. Help where help is needed and the rest bazoba strong.
so true
The problem is parents having the mentality of doing things to be paid back. To me it doesn't seem like those parents that demand tax were doing things out of love so you as their child can have a good future. It kind of seems like they were investing in you as a child so they can get their cash backs when you have matured. which honestly is sick. I am glad that my parents are like your mother.
Love this!
Family tax is real. It has contributed to a breakdown of a lot of marriages.
These conversations need to be longer🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I am so happy to see Sis Nozi.❤️❤️
It's a reality but if you cannot then don't. This is also a stress contributor and cause of deaths. Black people must learn to say no at some point. If you don't have then what? I'm over it and I don't do that anymore. Thank God my parents are not that way.
Most black and brown families face this. It’s not unique to South Africa. South America, Indian culture and most Asian, middle eastern families. Iv heard both arguements against and for this topic. Personally I think you do for family especially if you saw your family suffer for you. But there’s limits I’m not paying for your laziness but I would pay for you not to suffer. For example my grandads pension for isn’t enough for him to survive on (house tax, electricity, food, etc) I don’t mind. But I can’t pay for someone’s gambling problem. I can’t I can’t.
black and brown?!?
Bathong i just played this and went to the bathroom
I just heard *kaloku* with that voi e i went like tbat should be Nozibele Mayaba💞💞💞💞
It's heartbreaking to bend for people who don't even lift a finger...yes some they can't support themselves for valid reasons which is understandable. They must understand that sometimes even God breaks the wall that you are leaning on so that you can stand on your own.
It never enough, money was not an issue anymore. Now I have to a problem solver, being asked where is your brother and sister I'm not even staying with that person. I've blocked them, when I want to, I contact. Luckily for me I got to a serious relationship in life when I've already bought a homes for them, full furnished my home, buy clothes, where is the fridge is not work they call me yeeeeeey the list is endless but I've realized I'm really being used and unappreciated. Therapy helped me so much, now I give when I want to.
its so hard nt to help.but today i learned a lot...
I love this show very very much. You are doing a great job
I'm here for Nozi.
Big up to you Mphopops research before 😁
...and the fact that he is not yet married himself and I like how the conversations are always flowing.
Very important episode, we need to teach our family not to be dependent. It get worse and land people in debts
Wow thank you for the show, thank you for Sis Nozi she's so beautiful
Yesss sis Nozi
Thank you Admin
An important conversation...very insightful man!💥
Learning and unlearning!
Great episode
this is one uncomfortable concept to discuss yet its having such a negative impact on unions..... we still have a long journey shem....
Thanks Anele
My family knows that I don’t do family tax. My money is my money. Eye-family tax angiyingeni
Me too darling 😊😊😊😍and I have done some of the things I wanted to do with my finances like immovable property.
Wow wealth Ngcobo atleast you can stand for your self
Sometimes we are like that because we also received someone's help to get to were we are. If someone paid your school fees and took you through school, who am i to refuse to do the same for someone else. I guess it depends with your background as well and couples are different
But they did it because they decided to have a child and with that child comes responsibility and part of the responsibility is putting said child through school. So every child out there should pay their parents back for all their school years? For it's cruel. It's like you had a child so you can one day have a cash cow and that is not love
@@PlayingTheSims was not referring to parents taking their child to school. Speaking of a situation were say you are an orphan and a cousin or relative takes you to school out of their good heart. Naturally if you ever come across a situation were you now have a niece or nephew whose parents cant pay school fees or whose parents are late and struggling, wouldnt you feel it as an opportunity to also help someone, the way someone as helped you????
@@chidostacey8086 I said part of the responsibility, meaning school was used as an example of a responsibility a parent has towards a child they have brought into the world.
If its within my means I don't see a problem with me helping, but if it's not then I would not help. Instead I'd find ways to be able to help them
@@PlayingTheSims Again quoting you
" But they did it because they decided to have a child and with that child comes responsibility and part of the responsibility is putting said child through school"
You are speaking of parents taking their child to school and i am not talking about that, i am referring to a relative, someone who is not your parent taking you to school
@@chidostacey8086 yes I am talking about parents and I'm not talking about them taking them to school. I am talking about that just being part of the responsibility.
Honestly someone else's child isn't anyone's responsibility unless they choose it for themselves.
I had my parents do that for my cousin, they took him in and treated him like he was their child, but that was a choice
I can relate to this, I'm going through this at this moment, I feel deflated and drained, I've got so much to take care of, and everyone is depending and expecting from me, I get food from a food bank and food parcels, just to make sure I have enough money so the people I've been taking care of are ok, I never buy me anything, because I never have money for anything extra, the thing is I cant even cut them off because they were there for me when no one else was there, this family tax is a really big thing.
You can't give from an empty cup sisi, even if they helped you when you were down and out.
You give from abundance, not from an empty cup. You will suffer as you are doing.
God loves a cheerful giver. If your giving is from emptiness and duty, then it is not worth doing.
Take care of your needs, don't take debts and give from the abundance of your heart.
What you can't do, don't force it.
@@swazi4769 , I hear you, and what you saying make a lot of sense, thank you
it means you will not go anywhere when it comes to developing in ur life
@@bushybee7541 , I'm really trying my best, It's hard being an only child, and have to see to everything, anyways I get what you say.
@@blossom6235 i hope you now came to understand why is it important to raise our kids exposing them to financial education,money doesnt bring hapiness yes but financial freedom gut priceless view make sure your kids you expose them to it .
It is a burden that needs to end.
True
"Malome a ntshe gold ko mashonisa" 🤣
Painful reality but we can control it. There are people who can survive with their own money but they still need extra money from you.
Mixed race tax🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Someone needs to suffer to break the cycle.