Jen where's your doek? - The Bala Family | Mzansi Magic| S1 | Ep 7
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- čas přidán 26. 08. 2024
- Jen and Loyiso invite the family over to their house in Gqeberha, however things get awkward when they discuss Makoti duties and dress codes.
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They don’t like Jen and it’s sad cuz she’s been in this marriage for 12 years. And she was right to remind them that they all have failed marriages. I think the bigger problem is they can’t accept Loyiso’s spiritual standing and how he keeps them away from his family, but I think that is why his marriage has survived this long. No annoying family that is hell bend on not understanding you while also trying to control you
She must not allowe them to control her,they all failed so they must shutup
Yena Umama likuphi elakhe iduku ungumama omdala. Makuqale yena abonise ukuthi nali ngilufakile nawe njengomakiti kwamele ubenhe can June family gatherings
So true!
I completely agree. They trying to control her. I'm glad she reminded her meddling and controlling inlaws that shes the only one who's still there .😂
Let’s hope their marriage doesn’t start having issues now that family is involved. Clearly they did fine without everyone.
Sometimes family can mess a Son's marriage..I also think this is probably gonna create some issues for Jen and Loyiso.
But loyiso guyz is very humble and calm
How can one family be so blessed musically? No man. It's not fair. The Balas have a distinct sound and I love it ❤
No one talks louder than the sister-in-law with no husband.
I wish she would shut up maan! 🤐
bathong😮
Yazini she’s out of line
Yhoo makathule nyhani uyenza mbi yonke lento
In Xhosa culture she has seniority in the family as U dadobawo .
Exactly!!!
Shame these people have made it clear that they have a problem with Jen. Especially the sister in law! Bathong, ke jealousy or what???
I love Jen for how she always stands up for herself😂❤
She can't win ngwana batho. And she does not even pick fights with anyone.
@@keepitfrankwithfentse they stay provoking her shem
I wanted to say the same thing, what is the issue kanti.
I feel terrible for Jen so many digs.
Mama ka loyiso must lead by example though and stop telling Jen things in front of the whole family because that feels like a humiliation and a humbling tactic.
It’s a family meeting though
@@ZomziWeAfrika men don’t need to hear womens business like that. She’s saying these things in front of Jen’s husbands brothers it’s not appropriate. When a makoti gets married, the older women of the family groom her. They don’t tell her these things at a family lunch 😂 they’ll never tell you how to be a makoti when there’s men sitting there. And I repeat, uMakoti learns by example.
Well said, I definitely agree. Your approach is important, and right now it seems like she is being ganged up on
@@ZomziWeAfrika it’s not, it’s an anniversary celebration 😂
@@ZomziWeAfrika it's NOT a family meeting, it is a Brunch & they are invited by Jen & Loyiso! How do makoti invites you for food & enjoyment at her home & then you start berating her?? Poor timing from jolling Makhulu!
I just noticed. When Zwai or Loyiso gets angry, they start blinking a lot😂
Yes😂
Lol😂😂telling someone to wear a doek in her house
Imagine someone coming to your house and tell you how to dress
in the name of culture that she failed to apply in her marriage😂🤣
and after they have been married for 12 years😂😂 Cha ayi
She remains a makoti to avoid a lot of issues dress appropriately uphume kubo. Avoid izinkulumo
@@hleziphidhlamini1012I agree with you.
Zwai has anger issues did you notice his nose when Loyiso wife says lm the only who is still here
Yes I get a feeling of resentment
Thank you Bala family for allowing us into your home ❤😍. I pray we get more seasons, such an authentic reality show
They don't have timing at all imagine after 4kids they tell me to do things as Makoti,hayi leave Jen alone
Seriously they don't hey. Love how Jen always has some come-backs though 😂😂😂😂
Jen is what a wife should be! 🥹
I like the way she stands up for herself
@@tumimasibi2366 I also like it. It's so hard to do that sometimes she is very brave.
The singing warmed my heart ❤️
Sispinkie'voice tjo and Zwai's baritone 😢😢😢
Jen is right, she's the only still around because for 12 years they were married with her husband they didn't have the in-laws meddling in her marriage.
Side note, they ALL have failed marriages, except her & Loyiso.
its none of her business . It doesn't matter . How has a failed marriage or not . She must wear. A doek . Or ask .they invited them . For saying that she was disrespectful.
@@mynameis2685 Your sentence construction my dear, let me try to decipher what you're trying to convey to me. 1st of all, she invited them to their home, that was not the forum to address such, secondly if they do things culturally, they must invite her elders, & do things the proper way. They can't come & dictate to her what to do in her house, that's not right. If she goes to their house then they can have those demands. There was nothing wrong with her dress, it covered her arms, did you see any cleavage? NO. And for the mother to say "that's not my daughter" that's where the danger is🚩🚩
@@mynameis2685 It is her business that they have failed marriages. I won't listen to a single person to teach me marriage advice, just like I won't take advice from a failed business man.
@@mizzleefromsa3493 well said. Pinky Bala is the one that irritates me, poor Jen.
@Nana Nxumalo 😂I know right? Yes, in this episode, she annoyed me too.
But mama, where is your doek? She is taking your shape.
Thank you wear is mama's doek
She's not married to Loyiso, and Jen is not her mother-in-law so she doesn't have to.
🙄🙄🙄 they all failed in their marriages to apply wat,they want Jan to apply yet they expect Jan to follow all this crazy rules after 12 yrs
@@asive_dimpho but she's married to the man she came with
@zama yes, tradition doesn't say you cover up when you with your men it speaks to your in-laws, Jen is with her in-laws and not with her husband and friends. Read up on IsiXhosa tradition guys if you not Xhosa, the only thing I can agree with yoll on is why they waited so long to teach her the ways of being a Xhosa bride.
❤️ love Loyiso and Jen , humble couple and rooted in their believe👌
They are expecting Jen to wear a doek and yet they are still addressing her as Jen. They are trying to instill the tradition when it's convenient for them. Poor Jen 😢😢
Pinky can sing maaaan!!!
Pinky's voice😍😍😍😍
I got goosebumps while listening to her
Why do people do this? Because she could have addressed her makoti on the side not put her on blast like that no! After 12 years of silence and disregard, now you want to play catch up like this?? No.
And also, Jen wasn't being shady bhut Zwai, Jen was just saying she is the only wife to her husband and the only makoti the family knows concerning her husband like there is no other that will replace her. She was not referring to anyone else's marriage. We need to learn to have generous assumptions of people not always jump to assume the worst. Or rather people should talk less and just eat and part ways because wow😂😂😂 the discomfort is tangible.
Pinky looks like their mommy❤❤❤ beautiful women including Jen. Ive always admired their family
That's her house tjooo...she isn't naked or half naked or dressed in an appropriate way ..ae suka tlohelang ngwanemong...Pinky itholele lejuba
They hate each other’s guts 😭🤣
Every family has issues in the real world. Their is being publicized that’s the difference
@@ZomziWeAfrika I agree with you there.
Well said Jen futhi uZwai uyaphapha
I feel like this family wants to bully Jen 😢 If they know it all well why are their marriages all broken 💩
One thing about Xhosa families we will sing our little hearts out when we gather
Mama is a Christian and she doesn't follow culture, but Jan must wear doek and follow a Xhosa culture. They must give Jan a break. Now that she has moved closer to the family, she'll have headaches.
The mother in law must tell the daughter in law to not wear a doek even if the mother doesn't follow tradition . The daughter in law gets permission from the mother in law
To wear a doek is not a Xhosa culture, it is a mother inlaw's responsibility to teach her daughter inlaw how to conduct herself as a makoti that has got nothing to do with culture.
You do not understand what this Monster in-law is troubling my spirit. She's evil, questioning that nonsense of wearing a doek, on other hand doesn't conform with that traditional work or do that was happening there, she wasn't happy at all. Meaning is confused, She's a Christian on other hand, she wants her daughter in-law to wear a doek as symbol of respect, but do not want to support the traditional gig that was happening in the family. I was very patapt, it just shows how arrogant in-laws can be towards their daughter in-law, and as a husband you have to keep quiet , not back chat bcz you respect your family, and compromise your relationship to your siblings. It does put a man in a dilemma bcz he cannot choose between his parents and wife. Going forward , that abuse will destroy their children's marriage.
Mother in-law on other hand, is not modeling the right thing, is not wearing a doek to show Loyiso's wife how to go about as a Nkosikazi. Khona, why these years they've been married.
It's tiring!
@@thobekamvimbi3041 I also questioned the doek thing since she's christian. I know there are christians who follow tradition but you see it in practice. I just see hypocrisy here.
If they were as cultural as they try to come across ,they wouldnt be telling Jen these things now. How to be a makoti after 3 kids and so many years in marriage? Mxm
Maybe in their little minds they thought Jen would'nt be here by now hence they didnt bother showing her what is expected of her as a makoti.
Their little mind failed them and they are late with their so called culture.
Azikhale bathathe Jenn🤣
I wish Jen can just call them to order in Afrikaans if she is😍😂😂
She’s Polish 🇵🇱 & Ghanaian🇬🇭
@@neosjournal_ then how did she end up on the show?😂
She is Polish +Ghanaian
@@shalbec3232she is married to one of the Bala brothers, Loyiso
kodwa mama...you shouldn't have spoken about the attire in front of the brothers
Mother in law must wear a doek.I love Loyisos family and the whole show
My sister been married to Xhosa man for 20 years. She dont wear doek unless she wants to. Her husband told her it doesnt matter and her mother in law. How does wearing doek represent respect honestly?
It's our culture and if you decide to partake in a person's culture then you respect and comply
So if they're going down to rurals they don't Weare iduku? How did she do it with other makotiz
Lol and Xhosa ppl acting like they are cultural really is new to me,maybe cz they on tv. Those ones go to an Afrikaans speaking place and turn coloureds,go to JHB for a week,come back Zulu
@@houseofentertainment7243 I know a lot of Xhosa people who come back from Joburg and still speak pure Xhosa. And yes we are cultural, in my village married women wear docks especially when they are going to meet the mother in law.
There's is nothing wrong with being friendly and speaking other people's language's ungade uthi sijika sibe ngamaZulu namacoloured.🙄
Its tradition. Each family is different and can change their traditions.
Jenn must learn from Mamazala, how can you tell makoti to wear doek but WENA?
But she is the wife and its about respect
@@mpumelelontombela589 it's her house tho
Unxibe iWig ngelo xesha yena umamazala 👀👀👀👀 like pls
Even if she's got her opinions its how you say it. Respect and loving way.
Cz they doing it for TV
Zwai is so matured, uyindodwa mfondini... 👏👏👏 Got a big heart...
I like how you all don’t see a reason of Jen dressing as a Makoti infront of her mother in law but all of you married Xhosa dress accordingly hee ndiyanoyika
Such oppression on someone else’s child, daughter in laws will never find a space in homes they married in yhoo, sister in law must stay away.
worse she failed in her own marriage😳
I dont understand her as well. sister in laws should not be mingling She should stay away.
Is it me or PINKY has a problem with Jen??
I think her favorite makoti was Melanie. And from what I have picked up on other episodes Jen also doesn't like her inlaw's.
Yes
Yes, zwai aswell
@@khanyimkhizwana8048 Melanie is who's wife
No it's Jen who is a problem here to her it's all about Loyiso not his family must watch carefully and she's defensive
Pinky and Mama must leave Jen alone, it’s been 14 years later and you want to change things and don’t wanna respect her
Approach is important
Jen you loved. Contine to be humbled
I just feel they don't like Jan.
Jan u are beutiful and be strong dear❤
Amandla Jen😍😍
I love their singing part
I'm glad Jen stood up for herself as a makoti. Way to go, Jen!😂
Sham Jen an loyiso ...wishing you guys more blessings and prosperity.
They can sing though ❤
They are a beautiful family
The setting is Wrong wethu. Mama could have requested Jens ear privately about those things not During the people aibo. Now wenza ugirl ikomkyk infront of her kids
Yhu I love you the BALA'S.Mama you are so great.❤
The singing 🥰😊
Lyiso omg looooove him
Tjo Jen and shade tjo wow
When they broke out in music 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍.
Wow what a beautiful family. ❤❤
When she said “Jen invited us to Loyiso’s house” I knew she does not like her.Because how is it not Jen’s house to.Why not say they invited us to their house?
And about Doek mother in law should set an example 😒😒
Jen is very stressful to Sis Pinky. She wants to humble her so bad😂😂😂
@@Estell-o3t how?
A love a singing family❤️. It reminds me of my own🥹.
So in-law and tradition apply on how Jen is dressed but not in other places lol typical Africans only to their convenience
My point exactly 💯
The Balas are real! I love it!
Loyiso blinks a lot though 😂
Yess Jen🎉
I'm the only one still here.... spicy
Sister 's voice 👌👌👌
And Zwai's low notes
Abasaculi kamandi❤
Zwai sana is very emotional yhuuu ha.a
Why the old lady is not wearing a dork? WHY the sisters in laws are not wearing doek ?
Ey pho niyangiculela yini Bala family 💝 ningithatha ningibeke
I luv u guyz👏👏your voices woow
Jen was so right!
"Makoti standing " khange ndihleke bethuna
Pinky you can sing nd you beautiful akere...but uve never married girl maybe take a bck seat nd hear what loyiso has to say khala sakhe isqathulo mostan chill 🤫
Typical sister in law Pinky, she hates Jen.
Did Zwai’ ex wife also wear lk that?
I love the way the Mother resetting everything, families really truly need such if there's a point & for the big sis I love older siblings who stand the ground .
Lol uZwai didn't like jen's shade
Is it gonna be on ShowMax?
Things can still be reviewed and re-looked at Jen, you can’t mend the past but only focus on the future, Xhosa 5:39 culture is best known by Xhosa people, if you had and eaten u Tsiki, khabavise kamandi maan nje bazive nabo banaye umolokazana, you’ll see, everything will fall into place,
Jen is so respectful. So wats the fuss about. Think they want Loyiso s marriage to fail.
Mama WA off rampa nou. You also married but you not on your doek too....
Klk they are trying to change that and celebrate with you guys...
The reason why Mel left
Jen sorry babe 🥰🥰but with respecting your elders u'll go far even if u feel like it's unnecessary..do as they say.
Umakoti is makoti and that doesn’t change.Kumele ulandele imithetho noma wazi ekumeleke kwenzeke as a or especially Xhosa tradition.But if u were told not to then….
Otherwise,I love u Bala Family
These people's marriage failed despite being "Doek wearers"
LOYISO'S MOM❤
Sis pinkie mare......
Family neh
Loyiso seems so offended
Heh bathong!🤣😂
ahhh nifuze bani ngokucula
Wow Eish am the only still standing
🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's not shade but the whole tree shame 😂😂U Jen kodwa une phuza face for umzalwane😂
@@beeelephant7898 she became mzalwane after meeting Loyiso, by then Jack Daniels had had its fair share! 🤭😭😂
@@fjhkerwoiero00 Ooooh makes sense ke ngoba hayibo🤭😝
I'm the only one,was far fetched 😮😮
Ungumakoti jan😂😂
It is soo important for Jen to wear a doek so that will consider her as umakoti woo Bala
12 yrs later😳 after their failures they now want to tell her wat to do
That's bullying maketala nentombi yakakho kumakoti. But why are you doing this... This way??? If it was you, how would you fill...?
My gosh, this is very triggering. This suppression of women in the name of marriage. Lots needs to evolve here in terms of what we perceive oomakoti.
Also mama, you live with tata Jafta kokwenu, siphi isintu kengoku?
Kwinto ka Phelo awuzifaki kakhuku, so why are you running with this ku Jen? Like I can't place you, this is why it's important to understand that religion is a choice and culture is not. Your identity is not negotiable.
The hypocrisy.
Eeeh 😂
Jenn is always un aware of what is expected of her as a makoti. As for other peoples failed marriages 😮😢 hayke😊 the shade.
Hai man that was too shady😂 but I think she should have let her husband say something. I don't like how he is sitting there just laughing at his wife's come backs. No, he must say "mama and Pinky this should be a private conversation between you ladies, for now let's enjoy the food".
How is it a shade while is a fact,she is doing well to defend herself from ppl who have too many failures of their own yet want to lecture u on wat to do.they failed to implement those rules in their marriages so they must chill