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I remember when Wayne Goss said “beauty room tours are just drawers full of expired makeup.” I’m glad I have a small collection of which most of it gets used.
*influencer pulls open a drawer with over two dozen foundations*
I remember him saying that a couple of years ago and that phrase has saved me sooo much money!!
LOOOL genius
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Bingo!
As an advertiser I'd say CZcams is definitely not dying BUT more and more brands don't care to sponsor CZcamsrs because they're so problematic/expensive and rather do ads on Instagram and other platforms, so yt is not dying, CZcams influencers surely are.
Dood that’s some hot insider gossip 👀
That’s what I was thinking
I feel massive youtuber are dying, but mid size is thriving
Good
I think music videos are not getting as many views as they used to but that's probably because of Spotify, apple music etc people don't care about music videos anymore imo
I definitely agree, but more so on the top CZcamsrs who have millions of subscribers. I've seen smaller creators with a bigger range of sponsors than the huge ones, probably because although smaller creators have fewer subscribers, their audiences are more likely to watch their videos every week. A lot of big creators now are burnt out or have lost the trust/support of their subscribers, and companies don't see it as a good investment.
Men are told “your never going to sleep again” or “good luck having a social life now.” And women are told “you have to be the best mom or you will be roasted by everyone.” That part of being a parent is so annoying.
Which is ironic cause most dads don’t actually do anything.
Women have to actually raise their children while males have their children as a hobby.
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@Tashana Luda she said most, not all, your men are safe dw lmao
Is so frustrating that when girls say they don’t want kids, there’s always ALWAYS backlash like “oh you’ll change your mind” or just pushing pushing pushing that being a mother is the best thing to ever happen to you, but if a guy says he doesn’t want kids no one blinks an eye
It just perpetuates this idea that women are meant to be baby making machines and that’s like the main goal in life, that’s what will make you happy whereas guys just get to figure it out and be human beings. Egh.
Yesss. You’re also dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t. My husband and I are one and done. We get “where’s his sibling” “you can’t just have one”. I’ve seen people get comments like “what happens when you die” “you need at least two to be a real mom”. My favorite response when I’m asked about more is “when I find someone who will pay for it, get up with it during the night, and cover child care” I guess that could work for woman who also don’t want children
@@madisonbates0107 They're children, not Lay's. It is definitely possible to have just one.
Sadly, while it’s slowly changing, there’s been a long-held belief that men who enjoy spending time with children must be sexual predators. There are still men’s rooms without changing tables. My husband hated taking our daughter anywhere alone when she was in diapers if he didn’t know ahead of time if there was a changing table. He didn’t want to put her own the floor. More than once, we’d all go out, and he’d go to change her, and would come back pissed because there was no changing table. Stupidly, men who want to be involved and change diapers are also treated like sexual predators instead of as people who want to be involved parents and who like doing fun stuff with kids. No one treats women like there’s something wrong with us if we have fun with kids.
Our daughter and he are very, very close, and we do have guy friends who are dads who are envious of that. It’s sad that they didn’t get the encouragement to be so involved from day 1.
I myself didn’t change a diaper until day 20, and that was only because he was sleeping, and he was so upset. He wanted to do everything he could for her when he was home since he knew he’d miss so much when he was at work. She was the result of IVF, and we lost her twin sister.
You’re 100% my comfort youtuber and I’m having anxiety right now
Hey I hope you’re doing better
hey man I feel you :(( we are here for some distraction together!!
you can do this! i’m proud of you :D
Awwwww, thank you all so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. This is so sweet, it really warms my heart 💕💕💕💕!
Take care of yourself 💞
“Candles are a waste of money because you’re literally burning money.” I mean, by that logic, what is food, or soap, or toilet paper? I think candles are essentials - they smell nice and make you happy. Buy them all! ❤️
toilet paper is the funniest to me. you are literally wiping your ass with your money
@@madisonbertrand217 maybe it’s the sleep deprivation, but my god is this the funniest thing i’ve read all day
i know a woman who makes her WHOLE personality around being a mom. she only posts about her kids now and literally nothing else. and she has strong opinions about breastfeeding and how if you have a c section you're not a real mom. this woman boils my blood.
Yeah, Hannah made a good point but in the back of my head I was thinking "okay but those moms are still annoying as hell" lmao
I have a friend who has made a whole IG profile just for pictures of her 3 sons, and honestly idk how she thinks people need to see 20 photos a day with personalised hashtags
Uh oh...what does that mean for the humans born via c section? Are we not “real”? If not, boy do I have some shocking news for me and my mom! 🙃
If you a have a c-section you're not a real mom? Guess I've been an imaginary person for 30 years now cuz I'm a c-section baby. A baby is born in many ways, and none of them are wrong. ❤
Damn. Here I am dealing with all these real mom responsibilities.
In regards to the plus size woman thing, I believe Hairspray is an amazing representation of a plus size woman who’s loved for who she is , and isn’t pressured to be skinny by her attractive partner . There are songs referencing her body, but it’s never in a super negative way, as a chubby little girl I rewatched it over and over again .
Like, imagining Zac Efron, my high school musical heartthrob sing “I’m in love with you, no matter what you weigh” made me swoon
It does contain some questionable race politics tho jsjs
@@handsoaphandsoap Would you mind elaborating on this? I'd love to hear your thoughts. It was one of my favourite childhood movies so I have a skewed perspective and would love to see how other people perceive the messages in that movie
@@maddymp4
I don't know which version you'd have watched, but the older one has the main couple saying "we're black in the inside"
Definitely questionable 👁️👄👁️
@@maddymp4 I'm not really the right person to talk about this stuff since I'm white as fuckkk, so take it with a grain of salt and I'd recommend seeking some black folks' thoughts on the topic, but the story has a very white savior vibe to it and the ending is a little "and after that, racism was no more". That doesn't mean you can't enjoy the work, it's just good to be conscientious of this kinda stuff, especially since racism is a major plot point in the movie.
I think even 13yos should have serious restrictions on social media because that’s when emotions begin to become stronger and less manageable and younger teens can be especially nasty
Absolutely. I am so glad I’m a fossil because if I had my 13-year-old self immortalized on a public platform I’d probably cringe myself right off this plane of existence. 👻 I was probably my WORST self at that age.
@@Pajali as someone whose 13-year-old self is immortalized for all to see on accounts where i've forgotten the password, i am very jealous of you-- i mean i'll admit i've always been mature so mine isn't as bad as others but that doesn't make it feel any less cringe worthy :'(
Remember when you had to be 18 to use Facebook? Then they lowered it to 13?
Well there’s really no way to enforce it. When we were in middle school, all of the kids would set their ages to at least 5+ years older
Yeah lmao! I was trolling, hating, writing nasty comments EVERYTHING when I was 16-ish and younger. That's why I believe that everyone doing it now are young. Can't imagine acting like that now
Don't think being a mom is a personality trait but it is an all encompassing, all comsuming, life changing experience that often doesn't leave a lot of room for hobbies, friends, careers and whatever else for several years before you slowly get some of that back
I agree. When you have your first or second baby, your life changes completely. You are exhausted and hard wired to that screaming, pooping, smiling ball of heart warming joy. It takes you awhile to emerge from the mummy-cocoon.
thank you for putting it into words. I often feel judged for mentioning my baby all the while its hard not to mention her all the time as she is what interferes with everything in my life. My whole life is about her because she still needs me so much. The other day my own brother (childless) was venting to me about how parents have this tendency of not being able to talk about anything else than their children and I just had to sit there, nodding while knowing this was about me. I do my best to not SEEM like she is my whole life (not talking about love here, just the practical aspects, although I do love my baby very very much), while she really is. Its so hard being a parent in a society that expects you to act as if you didnt have children.
*doesn't leave room for hobbies, friends, careers only if you do not receive adequate support from your spouse and community.
@@laurejohannesen1024 I think the counter argument (and what I have witnessed) is that it's not that a person's entire personality is their child, but they only want to talk about their child. As in, they will not ask you a single question about you, they will expect that you want to only talk about their child so the conversations change. And after 5 meetups of just talking about that child and the mother seeming to have zero interest in you, you don't really want to have that same interaction again.
It's not that dislike the child, but you liked spending time with the mother beforehand and talking about other things on both sides, so it doesn't really become the same for you anymore.
@@TheAuroraGalore that does sound really annoying and I get why someone would not want to repeat an interaction like that. Although I would like to add that on the moms side, that is all that is going on in her life and all that her brain is wired to care about for a while. Personally, I did and still do my absolute best to still care about the people around me, but Ive lost quite a lot of friends from just becoming a mom. The girl who was my best friend for years before i fell pregnant, and who was thrilled when I told her, have never met my baby who is now over a year old. She just stopped responding. I still do not know what I did wrong.
People have different priorities and different interests, and from what I could understand from my brother's rant, is that people who dont have or want kids truly just dont get it. Its something you have to experience to get. And if you havent, you might just get the feeling thah they dont care about you. Because the new mother most likely does care, she is just so wrapped up in everything that is happening to her atm that she doesnt have the mental capacity to show that she does. It will pass and she will slowly start to care again as she gets her sleep and brain back.
But again, I get why an experience like that is not so great. Be patient, maybe take a break from that relationship and come back and try again after a little while, if you are not willing to endure that stage with her. You dont have to. But please dont judge moms on their behavior as long as theyre not hurting their baby. We are doing our best but we just cannot seem to win ever.
No names: there was one beauty influencer that held a chat and stated James just needed to “seek therapy and learn how to date differently” when literally crimes occurred to children.
Kimora Blac??
I think they’re talking about Jen Luvs
Bro what?!? Twitter is the actual worst social media. It’s such a toxic hellhole. Every time I go on there I end up so upset abt something I didn’t even know I should care about. Plus the misinformation is rampant.
I literally saw someone replying to the Jake Paul rape allegations saying "I like Jake Paul now" and it made me immediately delete the app 🙃 that was the last straw
it is
My life has gotten so much better without Twitter. There was so much negativity, I had to unfollow a lot of my friends cause they would retweet or like toxic posts. I don't get on twitter for more than 15 mins anymore.
i agree. i deleted my actual twitter account years ago bc it stressed me the hell out, BUT occasionally i’ll go over to buzzfeed and read some of their compilations of funny tweets. it’s the best of both worlds!
But today I went on Twitter, saw a shitty video of Rick santorum erasing native American history, and ended up learning about the Iroquois Confederacy and how it influenced the US Constitution. It's a wild ride, but what other social media app is going to educate so effectively?
when hannah says “hi friends” i immediately feel SO SAFE
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Facts 👏
So much same! 🙌
ikr! it always makes me happy
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Personally I dont think your channel just got lucky. You make in depth captivating videos that take on messy topics that people search for. The influencers that got "lucky" are the ones that made a morning routine or what i eat in a day or just any basic video that just blew up.
YES! THIS IS SO TRUE!
As a childfree person I really appreciated your perspective on the way women are treated re: having kids. Hearing you acknowledge that double-standard and how having children is not most people’s sole purpose was validating
I agree that videos like D'Angelo's series should stay up. I personally see those types of videos like articles from magazines or newspapers, they have a date for one reason, you can see when it was posted and know from what moment that information is from. Yes, new people can watch that video after events happen but, they are just one click away from the time frame of the video, just like news.
Agreed. He’s already taken down the Shane Dawson & Tati videos before I could download them. But I feel all the work he put into it, it was so so well done.
At the least, they should update the title to make sure that viewers know that info is out of date.
The thing about tiktok is theres a lot of bad content on it, but a lot of people dont see it just because of the way the algorithm works. Not to mention how easy it is to steal content/culture from others.
I think it's extremely easy to spread misinformation there as well, people seem to trust the stuff being said by some creators simply because of the authenticity of the creators. Younger audiences are going to be especially vulnerable to this as well
@@beekah992 oh that’s so true
This is so true I see cute animals and comedy because the algorithm recognises it as what I like however I heard about very toxic communities
Yeah I stopped supporting tik tok for this reason
re: the mom thing, please remember when girls are still literal babies themselves, we give them baby dolls to play with. they learn early that they're expected to be moms.
Funny enough, my brother and I were both given anatomically correct baby dolls as kids. My daughter had baby dolls since she wanted them, probably because she was allowed to wean on her own, which she did finally when she was 5, and she treated her dolls like I treated her (she even pretended to nurse them!), but she also got toy computers and instruments and other things. It’s one thing when a girl ONLY gets baby dolls, and another when it’s one option among several for them.
I don’t think anyone gives a kid a doll to tell them they should be a mom, kids just like dolls/ like copying what their moms r doing it’s not that deep
@@jujualanazy8944 yeah agreed and also if you're a baby/toddler, like... the doll is the same age as you!
"You have such a great personality"
"Thanks, it's all the trauma"
Twitter is literally hell on earth, like twitter right now is the exact same atmosphere that made me leave tumblr in 2014 except it has celebrities and blue checks who think they're valid
I swear everyone saying this is following the wrong people. There's some idiots and some assholes on Twitter, but I choose to either ignore them or channel some of my anger into schooling them. I learned more about politics, religion, history, and different cultures from twitter than I ever did in school 🤷
@@k3upikachu 1) That's the thing! I don't even have to follow someone to see someone I follow reacting to their stupid awful tweet. 2) Learning about the world is just the internet, I could do that anywhere and not have to see some celebrity make an ass of themselves or scroll past a thread on ancient stale discourse 😩
This is also true for tumblr, I was around during 2014 and saw the toxicity, but I started unfollowing and following strategically and the app became good again
@@veronicavieyra4392 yeah I don’t know how it happened but so many social media sites got so bad that tumblr kind of became good again. At least in my opinion. Instagrams algorithms sucks and it’s way too monetized, Twitter is Twitter, Facebook is dead (at least here) and TikTok and CZcams are more video based anyway so you can’t really compare them. I mean tumblr is dead too but at least it’s still fun 😂 sorry for the rant 😅
I agree with the whole “mom” thing! Women are constantly told that they have to be a perfect mom.. so of course it’s going to become their whole personality.🤷🏾♀️
Same! It’s a completely unwinnable situation.
I know society puts pressure on women to have children and be a good housewife, but then when that becomes their life and personality it's also a problem. Women can't do anything right 🤦♀️
I also feel like a lot of women receive so little support from their spouses that they don't really have time to take care of themselves or do anything other than work and parent, let alone have hobbies, so by default theyre kind of forced into this motherly interests only sphere
Yep. "Oh just do your best" *doing your best* "but not like that". Or "breastfeeding is best" *breastfeeds* "but not in public where I can see you, cover up its disturbing" "postpartum depression is real" *has ppd* "okay but like just get over it?"
You seriously can't win as a mom (or a woman) against society.
I literally have no time to be much else than a mom 😂 I didn't choose to make it my identity but I'm mom 99% of the day so that's what I portray
Yes!! As a teen who loves tiktok and CZcams equally, I would say I definitely prefer long form content, especially within 30 min to an hour long. I usually watch CZcams videos while I’m doing something else, like cleaning, getting ready, doing hw, etc. I save watching tiktok for when I’m sitting down relaxing since it actively requires attention to watch the videos
Regarding the couples in different rooms thing: I actually just looked up why couples commonly slept in different beds/rooms through like the 50s because I had always just assumed it was something to do with sex being taboo for ages, but it was actually not only to ensure that there was some space since that’s healthy for the relationship as you and that person mentioned, but to help both individuals sleep better because it’s been proven that a) you get better sleep when you have space to move comfortably and b) you sleep better when the ONLY thing you do in your bed is sleep. so basically there was a separate bed for them to have sex in, which kept both their sex and sleep healthy!
I think on old videos, maybe adding a note in the description saying “This opinion/video was made before recent information has come to light.”
that, and/or a pinned comment. agree wholeheartedly
I agree. It should be kept up so we have a timeline of what was known and what the views on the issue were at the time, but the updated information should be displayed visibly
Lazy content is exactly what some of us need sometimes. I'm having a pretty horrible week, so I don't have the emotional or mental capacity to like really get into a serious or heavy video right now. I DO have the capacity to listen to you go off on mini tangents in your cute sweater.
I'm so sorry you are having a horrible week. I hope you have some peace of mind and moments of joy soon.
Hope you have a better day tomorrow Jenni and have that be a start to a good week!!
yes👏🏻
@@heyheyhey7988 thanks hun that's very sweet of you
@@leilaherrera7133 thank you ❤
In regards to donations, there are a lot of woman’s and men’s half way houses that would gladly accept clothing donations, books, furniture, cribs, car seats ect. When I was in recovery I was in a place with woman who were pregnant and a lot of them came there with nothing but the clothes on there backs and they relied on donations such as maternity clothes and the like in order to have as normal of a pregnancy as possible. Woman’s shelters are also a great place to donate. Call before hand just to make sure they are accepting donations during Covid.
Where I live, there’s a group on Facebook where you can post stuff you need to get rid of and people can come pick it up if they want it. I live in a smaller country so this probably wouldn’t work everywhere but it’s a pretty cool idea. Need to get rid of furniture or building materials or whatever and don’t want to pay for the gas and fee to drop it at the recycling center? Just post it on the group and someone who probably beeds it can come pick it up for free.
(From Schitt’s Creek)
Johnny: “Do you even know what a write off is?
David: “Yeah, it’s when you buy something for your business and the government pays you back for it.”
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I think that you should keep old videos up because I believe that it is productive to go back and see where public opinion was back then
I feel the same way, and I thought of this: private the original video (meaning make it unfindable but still watchable), make an update video, and give a link to the original video in the description box. If I had a YT, that’s what I would do.
Maybe just putting a disclaimer in the infobox if you do no longer agree with your past opinion, you could also link another video if you speak about the same subject from Your new perspective
As a curly girl, I know all about bad haircuts. It sucks for a while, but just keep trucking, grow it back out, and then burn any pictures of you during this time
That's what I always do:)
It kind of made me sad when you said people called you the DUFF. I think you are legitimately stunning and have such an amazing personality. I hope you never took that stuff as fact. I would say I’m considered conventionally pretty BUT I wasn’t super popular with boys in high school!!
I can't believe someone actually would say that to their friend! But that's probably on me being naive and not realising how shitty some people can be.
@@Atomkaerna humanity at its core is selfish unfortunately :/
My grandparents sleep in separate rooms, have for at least my whole life. And its genius. He's a go to bed at 7pm and she's a go to bed at 2am. And different rooms let's that happen. They still hangout a ton, but I've always thought that was so smart to have different rooms.
My grandparents sleep in separate rooms but I think it's mostly because they don't actually like each other 😬 but glad it's working for your grandparents!
My parents got married in a courthouse for practical reasons (military) and then had the wedding several months later - and that's the anniversary they celebrate! Congrats on the marriage paperwork and hopefully you'll be able to have a big wedding celebration soonish!
Someone: “Candles are a waste of money”
Smokey Glow looking targeted: “Yeah no comment”
Me: *Laughing my ass off at that comment*
Candle in the background of the video: “WHY MUST YOU PEOPLE DO THIS TO ME?!”
They’re not a waste of money but they are way overpriced. I make candles on a fairly large scale and seeing a candle over $30 makes me want to scream. It’s just wax, string, smells, and a jar.
It takes skill but not nearly as much as you’d think it would.
I kinda feel like they’re a waste of money, so I melt that last half inch of wax and pour it into a smaller jar with a new wick. I use every last drop of wax 😂
Omg can we get Hannah a money burning scented candle? 🤭🤭
When the person mentioned resellers, I thought more of people who buy out tickets to concerts or exclusive makeup lines because they indeed ruin it for everyone. They jack up prices without offering anything. People who buy furniture to fix it up or curate a collection of clothes to sell, I feel that's quite different because it actually requires effort on the part of the reseller.
I was thinking about the bastards who set up bots to buy ps5's and sell them for thousands of dollars. 😭 I just want a damn ps5 alrrady
Every time yeezy collabs come out people stand outside the shops at like 5 am buy the whole stock then resell for 4 times the price. I agree with you I think when people take the effort to look through clothes and find curated pieces out of 1000s of items that are not that nice it's not as bad as buying exclusive, limited edition items for the sole purpose of making $$$
I agree. The people who are reseling from good will, they very well could be people who have lost their jobs due to covid and it's a very low start up cost business.
I watched a documentary about a market in India where foods are bought and sold again in the same market for a mark up. Sometimes resold multiple times. If you look at it one way the farmers could be making more profit. If you look at it another way, the market is providing incomes for many more families by people upselling the produce.
And a lot of people who resell furniture or clothing on Posh are, ironically, moms who’ve been told that they’re only supposed to be moms and stay home with their kids, and so they’re doing what they can to earn an income to support their kids since they’re not supposed to rely on welfare. Damned if they do, damned if they don’t. Rather than blame them, blame a system that forces this situation.
@@LittlestPetShopPup I was just about to comment this, scalping consoles is becoming so normalized and it drives me UP a wall. When I started to plan for buying a switch lite it was sold out EVERYWHERE and only being resold by 2nd parties and that resell was $100 more than the base price. By the time I had saved up for one I ended up paying $300 instead of $100, I know to people it might not seem like that much but I could have gotten at least two games or even 3 or 4 games if on sale for that extra $100 I brought it for.
PS5 scalpers are bums straight up. Read an article where some guy just buys up 5 PS5 consoles resells them all for 1K($500 more than base price) each and then uses that money to buy more and resell them. Like just why? I was gonna wait a year and a half cause that's usually when new console hype dies down and they stop selling out, but it's not looking too good.....
I had a baby and literally forgot who I was as a person. I am just now starting to relearn that I actually have a personality other than being a mom. I’m with this little human quite literally 24 hours a day.
That happens a lot. Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, children require so much of you. That baby becomes the center of your universe so intensely, especially when they are young. Eventually you get your life back in dribs and drabs until they are out of the house and on their own. There are several independent years as they are finding their own way, starting, families, or building their careers. If you have grandchildren, you will be amazed how you run towards the new babies-seeing them and caring for them if you can. Human babies are helpless and take years to become independent so it’s a good thing the species is wired that way. By the way, congratulations on your new baby. Don’t worry- you’re still in there.
This is very interesting to hear! I have a friend who told me recently she is struggling with the same thing, having had a baby during lockdown. Whether these babies are lockdown babies (where regardless of the general feeling of losing yourself, you also can't see anyone else or go out much) or not, I think having young kids is such a drain that people don't love talking about, for fear that it may be taken as not completely loving your kids- or maybe this is just my uninformed opinion lol!
Depending on when you had your kid, I hope you get through/have gotten through this with as much positivity as you can find :)
@@lia-DR I think having a baby during Covid just adds another layer of stress to the situation. You can talk to your family over the phone but there is nothing like their physical presence to lift the workload a little- hold and feed the baby, do some laundry, do the dishes or clean a bathroom. I also think the mom just needs a little physical comfort. We’ve been trying to do that with our new granddaughter.
@@kathleenem9207 That's very true! For lots of people family tend to take small burdens for newborns, so the covid void is strange and unavoidable, I wish I was able to be there for me friend this year! Best of luck with your granddaughter :)
@@lia-DR Thank you.
When you said that people called you a “DUFF” I swear to god I felt some serious rage.
Girl everyone has been shouting you out I heard Niki and Gabi talked about you and now Alisha Marie and Remi Cruz raved about you on their podcast saying they wanted to be on yours
oooh what episode of the podcast?
Omg and Lauren Giraldo!!
I came here because of a shout out by Cassandra Bankson lmao
Hannah definitely deserves more subscribers
Robert welsh also shouted her out ❤️
the rush of excitement that came over my body when she said TWO deep dives coming this week
Right!!!?
You should definitely do a deep dive on the hype house getting a Netflix show , the shows getting cancelled, and overall influencers getting these extreme opportunities that people have worked their whole lives for
Tipping overseas: not every place sees that as polite! Japan refuses tips, it’s seen as rude.
Also my parents had separate bedrooms to sleep in growing up bc my mom was a nurse and a light sleeper and my dad snores super loud. She was messing up at work from bad sleep so they split rooms so she could sleep.
I offended some servers in France, and then found out it’s seen as charity and a presumption on the tipper’s part that the server is working for a server who isn’t paying them, which is seen as a low thing to do. I can’t forget the EXTREMELY frustrated look the first server gave me, and refused to take it. She was NOT happy. The second time, the guy looked miffed and gave it back, but at least he didn’t storm off like the first one did.
When in another country, do as they do instead of insisting on doing as in America since it is definitely seen differently in different places, and it’s rude and conceited of Americans to think that our way, which is already so fucked up, is the best way.
While this is all true , I feel the original post was just talking about American culture and tipping. I was a server for most of my 20s and used to get confused when I got lower tips from people who weren’t American , also I know some countries like in the Caribbean gratuity is already added to the bill.
Also I agree that the us way is fucked up , guess that goes with the “Americans are arrogant “ idea that I also agree with 😂
@@cassier3544 My post was referring to Hannah saying she would too even if she’s in another country, so I was just posting that tipping in other countries can sometimes have the opposite effect.
I don't think your unpopular opinions vids are lazy I actually find these videos quite insightful plus I love hearing your opinion on things😊
Agree 100% !
I can't believe you got hate comments for announcing your marriage. No one ever needs to explain the decisions they make in life to anyone. Period. You do you boo 💜
Wow. You really hit me with the
*“I was the Duff that no guys wanted so we were just friends and I got to be myself with my great personality”*
SAME GIRL SAME
I'm an actual mom and it is NOT my whole personality. I love my child to the ends of the earth and they are the most important thing in the world to me, but they are not my personality and I get shamed for it all the time. I do not post them on social media and I get shamed for it all the time! It's insane! I have other things I love in addition to my child, and that's okay!
My daughter is the center of my world, and it’s because of that that being a mom isn’t 100% of who I am. Her father and I both want her to see that a woman can be a mother AND still be other things. But we also tell her she doesn’t have to have kids. Right now, she and her two best friends, a boy and a girl, want to get an apartment in France and some cats. Pre-lockdowns, I spent a couple months in France by myself. I also went to clubs, and went to Seattle for weekends to myself. Her dad and I do things together. She and I do things together. When I’m gone, that’s daddy-daughter time. She sees us having our individual lives as well as family time and one-on-one bonding. We’ll be damned before letting her think that she either MUSt be a mother or, if she chooses to be one, that that’s all she’s allowed to be. She knows I get judged, but due to how she’s raised, she’ll be the first to defend me. She’s 11, fwiw.
@@Author.Noelle.Alexandria I love that! That’s setting such a good example for her and she will thank you for it! Unfortunately, I’m a single mom and can’t do things like that, but I try so hard to always make time for myself and when my kid gets older, he will know that I need my me time. He’s only 2 right now
as a yt watcher, i feel like youtube is kinda dying because a lot of content creators are moving to patreon so they upload here less frequently. also the algorithm keeps pushing the same four videos to me on my homepage
for whatever reason i’ve had amazing content pushed to me from smaller creators, i’ve been subscribing to so many new people!!
I love unpopular opinions but especially yours!! Can you do a video like this with Charles? PLEASE?
Ooh good idea
Charles: BURN CAPITALISM
They have one on their podcast channel Glow Show. It’s pretty fun.
As a mom, I’ve been having this internal fight for the last 4 years trying to find myself again. A lot of us lose ourselves because we have a little mini person who depends on us for literally everything and we just kind of lose our purpose and personality. It really sucks sometimes.
I live in a country where hairdresses are mostly men, and regardless of what you say you want, they decide your haircut. Oh and there is not a ton of professionally trained people... it is apprentice style. I used to fly to England to get a hair cut and a highlight twice a year, thats how much I hated the process and wanted to avoid it.
We love the bun, but we don't love the decreasing confidence! For what it's worth I think it's great 😁
I def need a separate bedroom if I ever am in a relationship. I need my own space and I literally cannot fall asleep laying next to another person.
Totally agree!
I need my own space in case I get gas or cramps. Not trying to be funny, but those things happen and I prefer to sleep or nap alone when I don’t feel my best. 😆
Omg. Didn't think anyone else was like that too. Just left my husband and came into my other bedroom. It's so hard to fall asleep with someone...lolol 😊
@@eli4delmar omg so you don't just get used to it? 😭 like i thought i just needed time
I sleep so much worse when I'm with my boyfriend 😭 I'm sure he does too but he's so cuddly he doesn't want to admit it as much lmao. When we move in together we will HAVE to have a huge bed at the least so I can stay on my own side for most of the night otherwise I worry for my health tbh. Good sleep comes above most things, lets be real.
The opinion about "we have enough straight people love stories", comes off quite white privileged and ableist. There is a gaping hole in the representation of BI&POC, neurodiverse individuals, and people living with disabilities.
For example, Crazy Rich Asians was the FIRST time in my entire life I saw myself somewhat represented in a US major motion picture. I literally cried because I realized I had never actually known what that felt like. I cried when I watched episode one of Fresh Off the Boat. I saw my immigrant mother and childhood somewhat represented on a major TV network show for the first time in my life. So some food for thought.
ps. I absolutely love your content and you! I wouldn't be taking the time to share this if I didn't think you would be receptive to this kind of feedback. So thank you for being awesome!
I think that in each country the people are taught from the kindergarten that their country is the best. I live in russia and its the same here as in USA) We learn about our country more and are told that we are the best, we won the WW2 and etc.
The "candles are a waste of money" comment stabbed me right in the heart. NO I do NOT have 4-5 full boxes of candles.
Hidden in the closet in a BBW palette- so i heard 😆
I've had a tough day physically and mentally- I've been in the hospital the last few days and this brought my spirits up! Anyone else feel relaxed when hannah does the ad read?!
Hope u r feeling better now and tomorrow will b a better day.
I am so sorry you are going through a difficult time. I hope you have some peace of mind soon.
Girl my god I feel you on being "the chubby friend". All my friends looked like models and there I was, being the chubby/funny girl lol but eventually gets kind of liberating, because you don't have to be a certain way or try to live up to anyone's expectations, because you were already just being yourself and doing your thing💛
I work in a live music venue in Scotland and it’s insane to me how you guys work for tips 😭 Obviously you don’t get tipped as much here, but because you get paid properly already any tip is literally just a bonus for good work... I feel like working for a tip just so you can maybe make enough is cruel 😭
girl please talk about the gabbie hannah mess that just happened on twitter a few days ago. i'm so annoyed by gabbie and I'd love to hear your thoughts on it as well!!
Oh lord... what kind of drama is she creating for herself now?
The best thing to do for Gabbie is to just ignore it. She feeds off commentary videos in the worst way
I hope she doesn't they shouldn't feed the troll
someone: “candles are a waste of money”
Me: *about to buy 5 more Champagne Toast candles* “yk I didn’t come to this video to be attacked”
if you think about it though, anything other than basic necessities could be considered a “waste”, however if it brings meaning and happiness to your life then it isn’t a waste at all!
There's a "free closet" I donate clothes to here, I found out about it when I had to stay in a DV shelter so it's special to me and I'd rather donate there where clothes are free to those who need them (99% are not selfish and do not come to 'poach'). Thank you for mentioning this!!!
That’s awesome! I did the same thing for our women’s shelter. Like a trunk and a backseat full of bags of clothes, shoes, bags, some makeup samples, and a bunch of stuffed animals because I know they have kids that stay there, too.
Also, a couple winters ago I bought a coat on clearance online. It didn’t fit, but I couldn’t return it, so I took it down the street to the homeless youth shelter. And when we bought a bigger TV, we donated our old one (and our Xbox 360 + Kinect with games and controllers) to the LGBT homeless youth center. We also donated a bunch of cat food that our cats didn’t like to one of our local animal shelter that doesn’t normally get much funding.
I write all that not to brag, but to say there are so, so many different ways to donate other than Goodwill, Savers, or Salvation Army. Giving direct donations makes a direct impact. But like Hannah said, make sure you call and ask if they want it!
i paused the video with such passion to double back and have my husband listen to the plus size woman romance plot not centered around shame thing I basically tore a hole in time and space
My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms for a lot of reasons (the main one has to do with having opposite sleep schedules) and honestly, it’s awesome. I mean aside from the fact that her bed is bigger than mine and yet both cats insist on sleeping in here lol.
LOL I have the much larger bedroom with the Cal king, and my husband has the smaller room with a queen, and our three dogs and four cats insist on sleeping with him! I’m a night owl and he’s an early bird. Neither of us slept well when we were sharing a room,
This is the first I heard about you and Charles getting married so please accept my late congratulations! I hope you have a long and happy marriage and that you have a wonderful time at your wedding!
As an archivist, I think we should absolutely keep the videos up. It's a snapshot of in a larger narrative. The dates are clear, as more information comes out the narrative will change. Wiping or erasing those videos is dishonest to how the timeline progressed.
I have a LOT of thoughts about the reselling discourse, so I apologize in advance because I know this is gonna be a very long comment.
To give whoever is reading this perspective, my parents purchased items from garage sales, flea markets, and clearance sections in stores, my entire life as a supplemental income for my household. Some of my first memories are getting up early in the summer time and driving around the neighborhood with my parents, going to garage sales where they would look for vintage toys and action figure, Longaburger baskets, records and record players to resell on Ebay, while I would look for chapter books and Beanie Babies. Doing this literally helped put food on the table and keep the lights on in my home. With that being said, I am very obviously biased in this conversation. This is a subject that I am very personally acquainted with. That also means that I have a lot of first hand knowledge about what goes into reselling items, how much time it takes, and the realistic impact it has on my community.
In the area that I live in, there is a community of people like my parents who do exactly what they do. I can't count the number of times we would run into fellow resellers (or, as we call each other here, flippers) and talk about the latest score we got or how much money we made on an item online. These people are also low income, who rely on reselling as a supplemental income, or as their entire income for their household. I understand that this isn't the case for everyone who is flipping things on eBay or depop, but I personally know people who NEED to do this to put food on their table. Many of them cannot work a typical 9-5 job because of medical injuries or mental illnesses. Having an outlet where they can make money for themselves and their families by reselling items is literally the difference between having a home and being homeless for some of these folks.
As far as the argument goes that the prices in thrift stores are increasing due to resellers, I have to disagree. The prices of clothes in thrift stores like Goodwill and Salvation Army are increasing their prices to make more of a profit. At the end of the day, those nationwide thrift stores are run by people who want to hoard their money, just like Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk. The unfortunate thing about raising prices in thrift stores is that it does negatively impact people who do rely on being able to buy clothes there without spending a lot of money. We need to be focusing our anger and frustration on the CEO's of these organizations, not the people who are shopping there.
As a plus size woman who has been frequently shopping for clothes at thrift stores for about a decade, I can safely say that I have not had a harder time finding clothes now than I did ten years ago when depop wasn't around and reselling clothes isn't as common. I still struggle finding pants that fit me, and I rarely find a pair of shoes that are comfortable for my wide feet with low arches. However, I have successfully found both of these things on Depop. I literally ordered a pair of shorts and a pair of pants on depop very recently and they fit me so well. I've also found 3-4 pairs of shoes that work perfectly for me. Depop has made it easier for me to find clothes that are still affordable and are not fast fashion, which I try to avoid if I can. This is a feasible way for me, a low income person, to not contribute to fast fashion and instead give items a second home.
Like Hannah said, there is SO MUCH textile and clothing waste that tons and tons of it does get shipped off to other countries, in which case they don't even want it. About 15%-20% of clothing in thrift stores is actually sold. The rest of it ends up in landfills, whether it be in America or somewhere else around the world. The majority of America's clothes that are shipped elsewhere around the world are not being worn, they are being thrown away. If someone can save even a few of those garments from being thrown into a landfill and instead give them to someone who will wear them, I think that's amazing. Every little bit counts.
If you made it to the end, thank you for taking time to read my thoughts and experience on this particular subject. I have seen a lot of the discourse on youtube and tiktok and I think people who are frustrated with resellers have good intentions. However, I think a lot of the aforementioned information and personal testimonies aren't being considered in this discussion. So I hope this gave whoever is reading this something to think about. Even if I don't change your mind, that's fine, I'm just glad you took the time to hear another perspective 😊
A 41 long minute video?? I am blessed today
I burn through toilet paper but I’m still going to buy it.
Candles are no different 🕯💸
Paha this comment ❤️
I’ve been here since Hannah’s Laura Lee video and I have to say I LOVE Hannah’s content. I also feel connected because she’s in SW and I’m in the public health/services field. When she talks about social justice and issues, I feel like I’m having a conversation with a colleague and friend.
my parents have separate bedrooms and have been together for 30 years. they just cuddle in the morning and right before bed. to each their own!
Putting in the work to make a 41 minute video is not at ALL lazy! Plus your rants are the best 💛
Re: the reselling topic, I think those people are adding value and providing a service by reselling. They have an eye, and they’re spending the time sorting through the shit at thrift stores, and then cleaning and indexing it for it to be easy to find and buy online.
Hanna!! Taliha Hibbert is an amazing black author who writes romance with plus size character where they're not insecure. Her books are very funny, cute books
Her best are get a life Chloe Brown and take a hint dani brown I definitely recommend this author to everyone
I'm gonna look her up, thank you!
I’m going to now look her up!! Thank you so much for sharing! I love finding new authors and romance just so happens to be one genre that I LOVE! So thank you for the recommendation!
It really is heartbreaking that D'Angelo is having to take his videos down. I understand why he is, especially because I feel like sometimes viewers don't look at upload dates and therefore may think he (or any other creator in this type of situation) still hold those opinions. I could see how it would almost be easier to delete than have to constantly clarify that the video is old.
“Twitter is the superior social media app” NOOOOOOoooooooo absolutely not.
This video popped up while I was literally eating a bowl of popcorn. The universe made sure I was ready for this video! ❤️❤️❤️
I love this 😂😂😂
So wholesome 🥺💚 I hope your popcorn was delicious!
I was getting ready to eat my dinner haha perfect timing
As a mom, the mom one is SO annoying!! I totally agree because people always act like I shouldn’t do anything but be a mom. Anything I post, it’s like “what about your kids?” Like they are with their grandma?? What about them?
I also agree with you on the wedding one, enjoy both!
I’m actually getting eloped today and am listening to this as I get ready. Can’t tell you how much I needed to hear that someone else is doing the same thing!!! It’s a sign 💕
So funny, I just listened to Ben and Cristine's (simply nailogical) podcast reading unpopular opinions. And now here I am. Today's really a mood.
Much love, Hannah!
CZcams is not dying, if anything I feel like Netflix will be the next to go
I don’t think so they keep on having really good tv show deals. Think Stranger things, The Witcher, Bridgerton, Shadow and Bone
I took a break from Netflix until Stranger Things is back (and Drag Race). I don't really watch much there anymore. Disney+ is better!
@@aberdeen0107 True, but their stock also dropped after the Hype House show announcement, and they're angering people off with not renewing _The Society,_ and AWAE and instead choosing to make a _Tall Girl_ 2 and _Kissing Booth_ 3 and 4.
31:58 I don't mean to offend anyone but I just grew with this sort of irrational dislike towards kids. I'm the youngest in my family and my older cousins would always take me out to the mall and basically have fun together. When they got married and had kids, it just felt that I never got their attention anymore and I started to distance myself from them. Also because I was the youngest, I didn't have ANY experience with handle newborns or toddlers so I never knew how to interact with toddlers and I just would be uncomfortable and awkward. Growing up, it was kind of indicated that all women would have to become mothers and then stay at home and look after their kids. I hated that. I hated how my life, after years of educating and spending time in school was merely reduced to just staying at home and taking care of children. In my culture, a woman would become more family-oriented and having a career was only temporary until you get married. Which is why I kinda vowed myself to never have kids cause I want to prove that I can be financially independent and successful as a man and also that a woman can be the breadwinner in a family too.
So when I see youtubers who became moms and talk about the good life, I, first of all, am happy for them cause their life their choice but on the back of my head, I feel kinda down because they were focused on their careers and now their attention is on a kid. To me it seemed that they went along with the society expectation that I disliked and I wanted someone to look up to as a career oriented inspiration. So I would just stop following them.
I have never sent any negative comets towards mothers because I can understand the struggle they go through with raising a child and I wouldn't be any better if I sent a negative comment towards them.
I feel so awkward around kids, they either scare me or just make me plain uncomfortable, I am the youngest in my family so maybe there’s that contributing to it. I spent years caring for my dolls to the absolute brim but once I grew up those “caring,nurturing” instincts just went away, I lost a lot of empathy and I am quite goal oriented and I don’t think it’s a bad thing. People grow and develop differently, why is it accepts for men to be indifferent to children but if u are so as a woman, you are then regarded as cold and selfish.
One unpopular opinion I have is that I find the idea of platonic marriages really cool. Marry your best friend, get insurance and other benefits.
We love a 40 min Smokey glow video ♥️
I think is so funny how in Hollywood movies, when the "world" ends, it's just the USA. and also how you portray Latin countries with a yellow tint/filter hahahaha I promise not one country in Latin America is just yellowish golden hour 24/7, nor are we all super tan and sweaty 🤣
This comment section is so lovely, there’s so many people here replying and supporting those who have had a tough day and come to Hannah’s video, so credit to you Hannah for creating such a caring space
Since exam season is almost over, I wouldn’t be surprised if your views spike tremendously soon because all these students have all the time in the world to watch videos during the day lol (especially here in Ontario where we can’t leave or do anything)
Okay because today has been pretty awful for me today and OF COURSE you just uploaded. The universe is officially apologizing to me. My terrible day just got a bit less awful❤️
Hope things get better 🥰
Today was pure awfulness. Oddly, it IS a full moon out.
I can relate, I had a horrible weekend. We got this ❤️
I swear coral, blush, and forest green are your colors!
i started watching ur channel in december and u have quickly became one of my favourite youtubers, literally obsessed with ur content hannah 💗
My opinion on creators deleting content:
I would say if a creator has posted dangerous advice or misinformation that could harm someone (mentally, physically, financial, or otherwise) it should absolutely be taken down, even if the creator genuinely thought it was right at that time. But commentary videos? I don't think it's as much of an issue. I still respect creators who choose to delete their old content if they no longer align with it or have realized it's incorrect.
I definitely thought you were taking about highlighters as in the office supply. I was sitting here thinking, "when did highlighters go out of fashion and what replaced them?" 😅
Hey Hannah I just drove 2 hours to see my best friend for the first time since September because it was finally safe! I'm so excited to have a video to listen to on my way home
Drive safe 💕
i hope you had a good time💘
Hope you made it back safe! 🖤
I am so happy that you mentioned that you got married! My husband and I did the same thing 2 weeks ago, we got married with a small group of friends and we’re still having the big reception next year. We didn’t realize how anxious we were about getting married in front of 150+ people so having the reception next year will definitely relieve the pressure and we can just enjoy ourselves! I feel the exact same way as you and it was so nice to hear someone going through the same thing I am. Congratulations to you 💕
This is one of my favorite types of videos to watch! I love how willing you are to openly share your thoughts and opinions.
hanna: “Sorry if this is lazy content”
Me: “GIRL!!! THESE ARE MY FAVORITE VIDEOS!!”
please do more videos where you just talk about you’re opinions. Also love the podcast!!❤️
I love how you gave such thoughtful (and thought provoking) answers to all the questions. This def *wasn't* lazy content. Loved it. Love you!
hannah!!!! not a lazy video, i love listening to your thoughts. i also appreciate the longer videos, i LOVE the long form content.
I really enjoy watching your videos. You're such a genuinely nice person and your content is both interesting and kind of calming. And I appreciate that you're doing longer videos! Love watching them while I crochet.
Smokey Glow: "I don't know a lot of moms"
Smokey Glow: "I mean I know my mom"
Haha you're so funny i love this channel!
hannah thank you. needed this tonight bc i just broke up with my boyfriend lol❤️
Sending hugs and hearts
Oof, hope you're doing okay 💕
Sending you lots of love
I hope you’re doing well, sending virtual hugs 🤗
@@kitkatthewrapper thank you😌
It was so sweet when you were talking about tipping servers and fast food employees! I just KNOW you're the kindest and most understanding customer ever :)
I have noticed you growing and it absolutely warms my heart. I'm a relatively new sub, but when I first got here you had under 250k and have gone up a full 100k!!!