My Coming Out Video

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  • čas přidán 6. 09. 2024

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  • @palebleudot7292
    @palebleudot7292 Před 4 lety +54

    Dude this video actually helped me come out several years ago. Now I’m a happily gay man who is 30 lol

  • @bradberwick
    @bradberwick Před 10 lety +76

    Would love to see an update. You are a kind, interesting, smart, handsome young man, and "You're braver than you believe".

    • @aliceflt9146
      @aliceflt9146 Před 4 lety

      "braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think" we love winnie the pooh haha

  • @pearljohnporm2529
    @pearljohnporm2529 Před 9 lety +100

    you posted this 2011!! where are you now? are you still alive? are you doing okay? bro you gatta update us :(

    • @Lila-ym6pm
      @Lila-ym6pm Před 3 lety +2

      He's alive! I think he's doing fine guys,you can check out his social media accounts: Dustin Michael Stollings.

    • @richardackley1823
      @richardackley1823 Před 2 lety

      Wow do you have his permission to post his name here?
      That’s kinda like outting him to the whole world.

    • @jyogurrz
      @jyogurrz Před rokem +1

      @@richardackley1823 Bro what

  • @Lucas.Arellano
    @Lucas.Arellano Před rokem +9

    Wow he's so pretty, I would like to know what happened to him, someone know his name or something abt his life now?

  • @ella122112
    @ella122112 Před 11 lety +30

    I'm bi and when I came out to my mom she came out to me too! Honesty is beautiful!

  • @tinygingervitus
    @tinygingervitus Před 3 lety +4

    Even 9 years after you posting this, your story still has power. Very happy for you! 😁🎶

  • @RCSVirginia
    @RCSVirginia Před 9 lety +4

    When the strong crushes that you have are almost all for guys, and you're guy, that's a pretty strong sign. Coming out as bisexual first before finally coming out as gay does seem to fit a pattern. 'Tis great that your best friends were all so supportive of you. As for your twin brother, I hope that you were able to work things out in time. He is still your brother. All of your advice here is good for other young people who are thinking of coming out, and I hope that those who watch this will take it to heart. Your video is going on my "Coming Out As Gay" CZcams Playlist.

  • @mikaey01
    @mikaey01 Před 9 lety +33

    this guy is so gorgeous to look at . I cant take my eyes off of him. WOW. so beautiful , damn . I in love , and he has a twin . theres 2 of them . mk i love u. mike

  • @cool-xr2gl
    @cool-xr2gl Před 10 lety +4

    These coming out videos have helped me so much while going through a hard time in my life right now and it gives me hope to hear ur stories. Thank u for sharing :)

  • @MyOwnConfessions
    @MyOwnConfessions Před 10 lety +8

    Good for you for coming out and sharing your story, it helps a lot more people than you would think!

  • @revejohn
    @revejohn Před 4 lety +8

    2011: Nope
    2012: Not yet
    2013: Wait..........
    2014:...................
    2015:
    2016:
    2017:
    2018:
    2019: My coming out video :)

  • @paulrodgers7228
    @paulrodgers7228 Před 7 lety +2

    Hi! Your video was one of the many videos I looked at 4-5 years ago when I was trying to summon the courage to come out. Thank you for posting this. I hope you are doing well!

  • @dsff85
    @dsff85 Před 10 lety +18

    Your brother is a real shit head for doing that. Your twin brother of all people.
    Nice story by the way.

  • @randallelch1
    @randallelch1 Před 11 lety +1

    Thank you for posting. I am 32 and still dealing with this. You are beautiful and wise beyond your years. I wish you all the best.

  • @matbolabc
    @matbolabc Před 12 lety +4

    Thank you for telling my story :)
    Still struggling to find myself and come to terms with my sexuality, also waiting on my parents' approval. I'll get there one day...

  • @equilibryan
    @equilibryan Před 12 lety +2

    I'm sorry about your twin doing what he did. I completely understand. My friend (female) at the time told my very best guy friend that I was gay. It devastated my world, I thought I was gonna "be straight" until high school and then tell my secret to the universe, that I would never tell any of my guy friends. In the end it was good that she told him because eventually I came to tell him myself. But that breach of trust hurts...A LOT...thanks for the vid!

  • @rickeydean8130
    @rickeydean8130 Před 10 lety +14

    Thanks for sharing your story.
    You are really cute btw. (:

  • @Shoujin1
    @Shoujin1 Před rokem

    I hope you’re okay alive and healthy friend! Your coming out video was a pleasure to watch I’m glad you had an awesome support by everyone and i hope your brother realized his wrongdoings and apologized! I truly wish you the best from the bottom of my heart ❤️

  • @warrenpaine
    @warrenpaine Před 11 lety +5

    "This above all, to thine own self be true."

  • @humu76
    @humu76 Před 11 lety +1

    A lot of times, if one twin is gay, so is the other ... maybe the reason your bro spread the news ... to create a smoke screen for himself, or just to see people's reactions to you, before he decides to come out too. God bless you for your bravery, and altruism.

  • @BrettHarvey
    @BrettHarvey Před 10 lety +7

    would be great to see an update video. :)

  • @billbradley3122
    @billbradley3122 Před 8 lety

    This meant so much to me. I thank you for making this video. Please make another and bring us up to date. You've touched many lives and you are good in the way you express yourself, people can relate with you very easily.

  • @jeremywilson5872
    @jeremywilson5872 Před 4 lety +4

    You are so cool and brave for coming out. And u are super cute and sweet person and seem like a great personality

  • @Leatherkid01
    @Leatherkid01 Před 5 lety +2

    Nice story....your vid3 is not boring ....new sub from 🇨🇦🏳️‍🌈....😀🤙

  • @malin6755
    @malin6755 Před 9 lety +6

    Why don't you post more videos? We're curious! Do you live in a relationship?

  • @robbrent
    @robbrent Před 5 lety +2

    Would really be nice to get an update, and you did not bore me or the thousands of others who’ve watched you.

  • @kiere55
    @kiere55 Před 8 lety +7

    I can't even deal with how gorgeous you are... Where are you now?

  • @mfontaine1001
    @mfontaine1001 Před 11 lety

    You sir are extremely attractive. One thing to remember is never listen to the stupid comments people make. It just makes them look small and it also says that they are not comfortable with their sexuality. You are a beautiful work of art and do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

  • @steve1reg
    @steve1reg Před 4 lety +4

    When he told his close friends he's gay, they hugged him and some even cried. When his twin brother found out, he went through the school telling everyone. I really can't imagine how I would ever reveal something so personal about my own brother. So where is Boarderboy 165 now? This was a very good coming out video.

    • @seangildersleeve1270
      @seangildersleeve1270 Před 3 lety

      Especially your twin. I would have thought they were super lose. I guess Soap Operas were right.

  • @basil1906
    @basil1906 Před 12 lety

    well i dont know about you, but my family is really important to me and i think it does give me strengh to know that they accept me as i am. i know there are familys where this is not possible. i dont think there is a right way to do this. its important that you feel secure about yourself and that you are ready for anything. i must tell you that even though my coming out was really difficult for me, all the people surrounding me were so awesome. even those i thought would not accept it.

  • @cruzloredo6225
    @cruzloredo6225 Před 10 lety +15

    and you're such a cutie omfg

  • @Bojan_V
    @Bojan_V Před 2 lety +2

    I hope and wish that today you have a wonderful life🙏🏻🌈💚!
    Best wishes from Slovenia...

  • @jamesknight3738
    @jamesknight3738 Před 5 lety +3

    I'm gay too and I come out in the 1990's it was so challenging back then. You got it I wish you the very best

  • @jiyano
    @jiyano Před 10 lety

    Wow, you know I really think youtube is one good tool to help people with that fear of rejection. I have heard more positive stories then the negative ones. I'm older and I wish that, when I was your age, I could have known there was so many people going thru the same thing. When Internet started we had IRC that's where I started to find friends that understood me. Internet is truly a great thing cause people like you, who I will never meet, inspire me and helps me be good with my own self and help me accept and be proud of who I am. I think I will make a video to soon, you really inspire me. Thanks kid I wish I could shake your hand!

  • @T77pt
    @T77pt Před rokem +3

    Would be good to have a life update.

  • @DominickWhelton
    @DominickWhelton Před 9 lety +1

    Awesome video, you can tell your happy, and that makes me happy! :)
    I posted my story as well :) Awesome channel!

  • @BillTkachCAATMAN4
    @BillTkachCAATMAN4 Před 10 lety +13

    great vid. more power to the gays.

  • @pryanross64
    @pryanross64 Před 10 lety

    I concur with what many of your subs have already mentioned. The clarity of your story will resonate with many other LGBT youth who are struggling with coming out. Keep spreading your wings as you embark on many new life adventures as an out and proud gay man. Peace, love and happiness to you!

  • @danthomas6587
    @danthomas6587 Před 5 lety +3

    You're adorable. Bet you're even better looking now.

  • @b4804514
    @b4804514 Před 12 lety +1

    Hey I see you are intellegent with a well thought message - we need to see more of what you are doing in your life at least every 6 months. As you know there are lots of different personalities some more grounded than others - your advice would add a lot and that is why you made the vid so make some more -you are comfortable on camera and make good sense keep it up there are lots of guys that need your input thx

  • @48acar19
    @48acar19 Před 8 lety +5

    I knew since I was 6 that I like boys...but for me it was awful because I am older! The times were very different and Christianity was prevailing. I mean the Christian hatred!

    • @athleticguy15
      @athleticguy15 Před 3 lety

      Sadly, there's still a lot of "Christian" hatred.

  • @2006Scape420
    @2006Scape420 Před 12 lety

    Im bi-sexual. Every now and then i watch these videos to remind my self there's nothing wrong with being gay or bi. I was bullied alot through school lost all my friends, lost my girlfriend that i actually cared about. A year later and these memories still haunt me. This video helps me alot and almost every time i watch it i cry.

    • @JL-re1rx
      @JL-re1rx Před 3 lety

      Hope you are enjoying life and doing better

  • @MrRockstar5678
    @MrRockstar5678 Před 10 lety +5

    Your Really Cute!!

  • @fuzzylogic450
    @fuzzylogic450 Před 11 lety +1

    Awesome vid man! Thank u so much for posting! Cannot get my head around the fact that your twin brother betrayed you - he could learn so much from you - you're absolutely amazing!!! (Don't blame you for not talking to him for a year!!) Please post an update - we'd love to know how you're doing! All the best always!

  • @nicholasnguyen3979
    @nicholasnguyen3979 Před 4 lety +2

    Any updates?

  • @23jgaston
    @23jgaston Před 11 lety

    Don't be afraid to accept yourself for the way you feel.Honesty with yourself is the most important thing you can do.I love and respect you for having the courage to come out and say that. II don't think less of for that.I believe you are a wonderful person. Hope we can talk to each other.

  • @selenaramos569
    @selenaramos569 Před 9 lety +4

    Damn you need to make more videos though :)

  • @aaronfawcett9911
    @aaronfawcett9911 Před 12 lety

    I got the same thing from my Mum on the phone! "wife... or partner, or whatever" haha.
    I was straight until I was 13, then started liking guys too. I came out to my group as bi (9 straight guys) and 3 female friends less than a year ago. Now I have moved away to uni (college) and am yet to come out here. I like for people to get to know me for who I am personality wise not who I am attracted to. I have mainly been attracted to guys lately but I fly around the Kinsley scale.

  • @ethancort2213
    @ethancort2213 Před 5 lety +4

    youre so cute

  • @Bennncool
    @Bennncool Před 12 lety

    I'm just so relieved for the people who found the courage to come out because I'm a seventeen-year- old guy and I really don't have the guts to do so. So yeah, I'm just so happy for you ;) Being in that state of mind must absolutely be amazing.

  • @orlandobarrett6429
    @orlandobarrett6429 Před 9 lety +3

    i like your face!

  • @hppyxs
    @hppyxs Před 12 lety

    Went through a similar situation with my brother who is a year older. I told him first to get advise. He ruined my high school life. Its been a few years and we're closer than ever. He just won't stop apologizing.

  • @axlerose7741
    @axlerose7741 Před 10 lety +4

    lol yes your dad knows

  • @R_SF
    @R_SF Před 11 lety +1

    I would like to thank you for uploading this. It gave some really good advice, as well as some great anecdotes.This has helped me see that I am not alone in the coming-out process.
    thanks again, cutie.

  • @ThePrinceOfWaves
    @ThePrinceOfWaves Před 12 lety

    If you're not ready for everyone to know, don't tell anyone. It's just difficult to tell who is trustworthy these days, glad I didn't have that problem though. Once I came to terms with my sexuality, I just didn't care who found out. I think being outed before you're ready can have extremely negative effects.

  • @dennisdman11
    @dennisdman11 Před 12 lety

    I admire your openess . You are helping alot of people by this video . Hope you make a update video very soon . Take care man .

  • @veindustjr
    @veindustjr Před 12 lety

    i don't think you'd bore anyone going into detail because half these people just like to look at you including me lol. Couldn't have said anything better myself. It's people like you that keep me moving forward. Couldn't be more proud.

  • @NicMercy
    @NicMercy Před 12 lety

    I can tell you why you might be reluctant to bring it up to your parents, even if you're fairly sure they know. For me at least, I was reluctant to tell my mom, even though I was sure she'd be accepting, because once it was acknowledged everything would change. Change is scary. I didn't know how things would change but I knew things would. Things changed, but for the better. My mom and I grew much closer and I was more comfortable talking to her about things most teens don't with parents.

  • @ilovemirandamuchsigga6029

    You said many truth things in this video that I admire to hear. I myself am gay and I experienced similar things, and I am glad to see that you made a video to help and give great advices. I look forward to your next video!

  • @RJ4O4
    @RJ4O4 Před 7 lety

    great story. And yes..you do help people with telling it. a 6 yrs later update would be nice to hear. :)

  • @mahatmadick
    @mahatmadick Před 12 lety

    I am sure that by now you have began your journey of self-discovery. Try not to lose yourself in the search. You are truly a precious soul and a remarkable young man. Your sexuality will always remain your own artwork, and you will find that the canvas will change with time. Don't limit yourself to preconceptions. Enjoy life and touch everyone. Let others learn to love and admire you first. Love will return from every avenue, and true love usually appears from the most unexpected sources.

  • @ItsJustEddy
    @ItsJustEddy Před 12 lety +1

    I seriously love this video so much please make more videos on your channel!

  • @joeythomas2743
    @joeythomas2743 Před 12 lety

    Hey Bro,
    What your doing to help others is great man. Everyone in your life should be proud of the person you are because you seem to be a caring and generous dude. I hope you and your brother can work things out because family is everything. I will not bash him for his mistakes but I would like to say that even though your twins, he may be asthetically georgeous (if you are identical),but, he will never be as beautiful as you are because that comes from within. Much respect bro.

  • @viceharmy
    @viceharmy Před 12 lety

    people calm down, this is not a hook-up site. Good for you. It's short to say that the experience was liberating! Enjoy life

  • @brustypipe
    @brustypipe Před 12 lety

    I recently came out to my dad. It's so nice to finally not have to hide it anymore. Keeping something like this locked up is so hard.

  • @MrJohnnythetree
    @MrJohnnythetree Před 12 lety

    I was like you about looking on CZcams for advice and watching your video has inspired me to make a coming out video as well, sort of to give back, to help other people with their coming out.

  • @fxaman
    @fxaman Před 11 lety

    You're not boring at all, so any amount of details would be just fine. Anyway your story brought back a lot of memories... I kinda experienced pretty much everything you described :-) You're a good storyteller... It might be partialy because (as pretty much everyone here already said) you're so good looking but you really seem to be a cool guy... You're gonna make someone one hell of happy boy ;-))))

  • @PluckySmurf
    @PluckySmurf Před 11 lety +1

    Aww, you're a beautiful kid. I don't know you, but I'm so proud of you. : ) It's such a head start in life to know who you are and accept it with gratitude and grace. You seem to be well-on-your-way. I hope your life is wonderful. *hug*

  • @josephmiranda9925
    @josephmiranda9925 Před 11 lety

    I did the same thing before I came out. I told my friends and family that I was Bi before I was gay, I could also feel the awkward when you said what your dad said about college.

  • @Blkptds
    @Blkptds Před 11 lety

    Thanks a lot for sharing. You have handled your self in sharing and dealing with friends. I am glad you are getting with your twin. If you handle the rest of your life as well as you did your coming out you will be a well respected successful man

  • @sophomer22
    @sophomer22 Před 11 lety

    My hats off to you, dude! I guess you are one of the prime examples of the "non-stereotypical" gay dude. I used to have this belief when I was younger that people were more "inclined" to be gay when they have or don't have certain qualities: usually more introverted, his "looks" are only "average to below average", or not into sports. But you don't (seem) to have those qualities - you seem extroverted, you're handsome and you play sports....

  • @paramoutp.4669
    @paramoutp.4669 Před 10 lety

    I'm supporting you... To get through this stage of life may be really hard but after you admit it and be who you really are, it's gonna feel a lot more better... GOOD VIDEO :D

  • @joeymatt2
    @joeymatt2 Před 11 lety

    My story is definitely similar. IV told my oldest sister which is my best friend. I'm still not quite sure I want to tell my parents. But we will see! Thank you. These videos keep hope in my future. : D

  • @danjohnrob64
    @danjohnrob64 Před 11 lety

    Congratulations on coming-out to yourself and some of your friends! You seem like a smart, articulate, sensitive person, and by achieving self-acceptance at such a young age, you will have many happy years ahead of you! Since CZcams is such a popular website now, I recommend sitting down to talk with your parents ASAP. They might be hurt to know you were willing to share such personal things with strangers before you were comfortable talking to them. Good luck!

  • @stephenmiller6030
    @stephenmiller6030 Před 11 lety

    You're so confident and hot! A real inspiration to other gays facing an uncertain future,.
    Please give us an update, we really care about you!!!

  • @komilatte
    @komilatte Před 12 lety

    It may seem like that, but it's a serious pain in the ass to tell everyone when you come out. Also, when you're the only one that knows about someone else, it's irresistible to tell everyone.

  • @fireflyuphigh
    @fireflyuphigh Před 12 lety

    for twins, if one is gay, there is a much higher chance the other would be gay, b/c a person sexual orientation (not gender) is determine by changes in hormones within the mother's womb.

  • @LeviTheMagi
    @LeviTheMagi Před 3 lety

    Yeah, I'm an identical twin. I went through the same thing. It's not fun. Only I was 12 years old when it happened to me. Fortunately, he became more mature, grew up, and we are best friends to this day.

  • @gabrielfalcone8234
    @gabrielfalcone8234 Před 10 lety +2

    U r exactly right for me it took time and I lost lots of friends but I learned that those friends that left me they were not real friends

  • @vidzzqueen
    @vidzzqueen Před 10 lety

    its hard at first but your family will get through it. just be strong and be honest. they may not like the idea but at the end , their love for you wins.

  • @stephanetchang6289
    @stephanetchang6289 Před 12 lety

    It. Gets. Better. Congrats and I hope you keep your best foot forth no matter what you do or encounter throughout life.

  • @bar06
    @bar06 Před 11 lety

    I love your transparency. Thanks for sharing your coming out story. Hope you can make more videos about your personal experiences. You will help millions of people.

  • @TheRealGare47
    @TheRealGare47 Před 12 lety

    Yeah, I'm 15 and I've considered myself bisexual for about 2 years now and now that I'm in high school I literally can't find any girls I like but I see all these guys and I'm so tempted to come out, but my parents are very religious, so yeah

  • @stevencardoza2334
    @stevencardoza2334 Před 11 lety

    I came out my freshman year.That was in 1976.You should be proud of what you did and who you are

  • @starspangledwarrior
    @starspangledwarrior Před 12 lety

    good for you man, great to hear things are going well for you, not everyone can say the same thing, so consider yourself lucky... and much luck to you down the road as you continue your life :)

  • @jonasalden29201
    @jonasalden29201 Před 12 lety

    I liked your story and the way you told it. Thanks for that. I'm quite a bit older than you, and so I came out much later (sign of the times/generations). I subscribed! Write more about your life and how you navigate this issue. Many people need to hear it.

  • @Rexy_Machete
    @Rexy_Machete Před 12 lety

    hiding really isn't a good option at all, I hide it for about 8 years and it made me really sick. But it also made me a stronger person

  • @jasonjardine
    @jasonjardine Před 12 lety

    Really excellent video man and you say its your first, you are a born presenter (and unbelievably cute) ! Keep up the good work and post another video for us !!!!

  • @ArminXtosis
    @ArminXtosis Před 12 lety

    There is this thing that they say: No one is completely straight or gay. At some point sometime you are VERY LIKELY to have had "feelings" or the gender that you r normally not attracted to.

  • @ArtBook1000
    @ArtBook1000 Před 11 lety

    It has been over two years since you posted this video. Hope you are enjoying college and that all is going well for you. You seem like a really good person. Good Luck.

  • @jackvornberg8076
    @jackvornberg8076 Před 4 lety +1

    Heartbreaker. I know you have left many broken hearts in your wake. You are extremely handsome. I'm sure you haven't had any trouble attracting guys. Take care.

  • @sacdevoyage
    @sacdevoyage Před 11 lety

    Hi perfect video this is really helpful (actually I'm directing a documentary about this process). I'm from france and I met a lot of gays and lesbians all around the world, I noticed that wherever we are from, we all have similar stories. Keep being truthful with yourself we can see in your eyes and with your smile that it is the most important thing.
    Thank you
    (sorry if I made any mistake in my english)

  • @gagalovesjudas
    @gagalovesjudas Před 12 lety

    I just came out to my mom today ... I was nervous but I don't know why because she is super supportive. But I've been looking through soooo many coming out videos!! thanks for advice

  • @Cronkonium
    @Cronkonium Před 12 lety

    When you screw around with people when your in the third grade you know I did the most fraked up stuff around that age WEIRD. But still haven't come out, I just want the lifestyle. It's not like my fam. can do much. They don't know because I am not a feminine guy. I am a bit macho not bear like, and I know I like sex and I know I would like a relationship. Saying this the hard thing I find in both the life of a gay or straight person is that understanding sexuality is only the first step BY FAR!

  • @richardackley1823
    @richardackley1823 Před 2 lety +1

    Cute guy, nice voice. Best of luck to you Dustin.
    Hope you reconcile with your twin. He shouldn’t have done that to you.

  • @lonewolff3390
    @lonewolff3390 Před 12 lety

    that part about your dad saying partner really touched my heart man like after my dad actually found out he still kept pushing the girl's thing on me lol so that is something really special that hes willing to say anything like that

  • @Mysticblue1212
    @Mysticblue1212 Před 12 lety

    Thank you for trying to help those that aren't out yet. As far as your brother, that seems like something he did because he didn't like the fact you were gay. I think the issue was more on him because he was your twin. I am sure he was scared to death that he might be gay as well. I think that was his way of compensating. And dude, your dad knows. He is a little uncomfortable but cool with it. Open that door of communication.

  • @jakewheeler7908
    @jakewheeler7908 Před 12 lety +1

    Your perfect dude, and you have a good story! you should post more videos! :)

  • @chc2741
    @chc2741 Před 12 lety

    Good job bud. Glad to hear things went well. You're video will help a lot of people.

  • @corychapin5470
    @corychapin5470 Před 11 lety

    goddamn I'd have had the worst crush ever on you in high school. It's a very big deal to come out and I congratulate you on taking that step. Hope the future finds you happy and safe. And also you are kind of beautiful.