If you guys have more questions for me or Jon, write it in the comments and we will respond! (Address it to Abbey or Jon depending on who you want to answer you!) 💕
@@Jonwatchin although im watching this a bit late, i wanted to say the same thing! i am an infp 4w5 as well and i rly admire you ♡ hope to see you more often on this channel ^^ (which i love, thank you too abbey)
You two are so adorable! I love the energy you two have together. John is very lucky to have someone who understands him so well. What four, wouldn’t want that!
Thank you! You guys seem well matched as a couple. I am an INFP, like Jon, but I'm a 6w5. I can believe that you're an introvert. I wish more people understood that introversion is about where you get your energy, not how friendly or outgoing you are. The two 3s that I know best are both introverts. I didn't think so at first because they get so much done, and I have a hard time doing anything. It took me a long time to figure out that what's true for me isn't true for everyone else.
Thanks for the insight!! I’m a 4w5 INFP and my gf is a 3w2 ENFJ. A lot of our own personal habits and thought processes was very similar to yours and your husband. I was nodding in agreement the entire video lol.
Please do more! Y’all are adorable! I’d love to know more about you and John’s instinctual subtype and how that shows up. John is a great representative for us 4s. :)
This was actually really helpful to understand whether someone might be a 3 or 4 because you went through a range of scenarios, plus you guys are so cute :)
Thank you for sharing each other with us ... you two show us what it looks like to honor love, expansion and truth of be willing to take a look inside and out ... so that you get out of the way of your deep soul connection
This is so cute! I love it ❤️ I'm a 5w4 INFJ and my husband is a 1w2 ESFJ and I call him my sweet ESFJ when I watch personality videos because his type(s) just seem so pure and kind compared to mine, lol. His 2 wing is veery strong.
Wow this is so helpful, cool how you guys balance each other out and also how your husband shared that he was able to develop stronger assertiveness and ask for what he wants. As a 4, that gives me hope that I can do the same, it’s one of the hardest things for me but I’m slowly getting better at it
Thanks for sharing this! My wife and I love your videos. I’m also a 4w5 INFP and my wife is also a 3 (with a 2 wing I think) but she is an ESTJ. The enneagram has been a helpful tool for us to understand ourselves and each other. Your advice about needing processing time before entering into conflict resolution was a good reminder. Thanks!
the processing time is KEY for us! I'm so glad the channel is helpful for you guys. I love hearing that because it makes all the work worth it! Thanks, Matthew!
🙌🏽. Loved seeing the 2 of you together 💕. Yes!! It's the stereotypes that drive me crazy as well. We are more than our number! Really enjoyed it, Sandy
You guys are adorable, I love this. My hubby is an INFP 2w1 and I'm an INFJ 6w5. We are totally like you guys in a sense, I'm the future planner and he's the here and now guy.
Abbey, I’m an infj 3w4 ...wife is a 4w5 and an infp...anyways...we’re both earth signs...what signs y’all got gonna? Purely, to humor this fan of course.
We were both already interested in the enneagram when we met, but I don’t remember when we first talked about it. We definitely didn’t choose to be in a relationship because of our enneagram pairing! I firmly believe that you can make it work with anyone, no matter what the enneagram pairing is. All that matters is levels of health!
This was me and my ex’s pairing. Thou.. he never wanna understand why it’s so valuable to me to be called precious. Having known one another for over 10years, he is only and only want to work and please his narcissistic parents and his bosses. We ended when I see how he is becoming the worst of both his parents.. Emotionally dead.. I still care and would want to best for him even if it means that it’s at my expense.. Which happened throughout and even after our relationship.. 🤷🏻♀️
Abbey..thank you for the vedio..your relationship is amazing ... I am a type 5 wing 4.. infj in the mbti , a psychoanalyst and personality types coach I am very sure that anyone who type themselves as infj in the mbti system cannot be enneagram 3 .. It is impossible.. First of of all , the mbti test is not reliable..because it types people based on the letters not the basic pscycological functions Everyone I coach , mistyped in the mbti .. Now looking deeper into the infj functions They use introverted intution first .. then extraverted feeling .. their last function is extraverted sensing Infjs are intutive and feeling types and they have underdeveloped instinct (action and connection with the tangible world ) Enneagram 3s however have powers in actions and instictual energy and underdeveloped feeling Most enneagram 3s .. have feeling function in the mbti system the last one or the third one ... it cannot be first or second Most infjs are withdrawn types in the enneagram ( type 4 , type 9 and type 5 ) They cannot be aggressive types ( type 3 , type 7 and type 8) Now your husband is typed perfectly as infp enneagram 4 .. he fits the types very well Abby I am sorry but I hope you take it kindly and in an impersonal way . You mistyped as infj You could be enfp .. but also enfp cannot be enneagram 3 I think you are Enfp in the mbti and type 6 wing 7 in the enneagram Take a deeper look into the types .. Because mistyping means false growth.. Thank you for your vedios.. I wish you the best ♥️
If you guys have more questions for me or Jon, write it in the comments and we will respond! (Address it to Abbey or Jon depending on who you want to answer you!) 💕
Not even halfway through and I can't get over how cute you two are. The way you look at each other 🥰
Hehehe
I'm an INFJ 4w5 woman married to an ENFP 6w5 man. I loved watching this video. Y'all are so cute!!
Glad you enjoyed it!! 🥰
I admire how honest you are with each other! It truly is a must in relationships,
Totally agree! Thanks for watching, Xavier!
Your husband is very cool! I'm an INFP and 4W5 too!!
He’s the coolest 😎
Someone on the internet called me cool. You made my day, Dori! 😁
@@Jonwatchin although im watching this a bit late, i wanted to say the same thing! i am an infp 4w5 as well and i rly admire you ♡ hope to see you more often on this channel ^^ (which i love, thank you too abbey)
You two are so adorable! I love the energy you two have together. John is very lucky to have someone who understands him so well. What four, wouldn’t want that!
I am a very lucky person! Abbey makes me feel so cared for, understood, and heard. A Four's dream come true!
And I am very lucky to have Jon in my life!! 💕
Thank you! You guys seem well matched as a couple.
I am an INFP, like Jon, but I'm a 6w5. I can believe that you're an introvert. I wish more people understood that introversion is about where you get your energy, not how friendly or outgoing you are. The two 3s that I know best are both introverts. I didn't think so at first because they get so much done, and I have a hard time doing anything. It took me a long time to figure out that what's true for me isn't true for everyone else.
I love the way you put that: what’s true for me isn’t true for everyone else. Words to live by!
So many equate shyness with introversion, but it couldn't be further from the truth! I second your wise words!
Thanks for the insight!! I’m a 4w5 INFP and my gf is a 3w2 ENFJ. A lot of our own personal habits and thought processes was very similar to yours and your husband. I was nodding in agreement the entire video lol.
Love it!
I am also an Infj 3w4! And my boyfriend is an infp 4w5.. it's crazy to see our similarities. You two are both so cute ❤️
Please do more! Y’all are adorable! I’d love to know more about you and John’s instinctual subtype and how that shows up. John is a great representative for us 4s. :)
This was actually really helpful to understand whether someone might be a 3 or 4 because you went through a range of scenarios, plus you guys are so cute :)
Thank you for sharing each other with us ... you two show us what it looks like to honor love, expansion and truth of be willing to take a look inside and out ... so that you get out of the way of your deep soul connection
Thank you so much! 😊 We had fun making this.
This is so cute! I love it ❤️ I'm a 5w4 INFJ and my husband is a 1w2 ESFJ and I call him my sweet ESFJ when I watch personality videos because his type(s) just seem so pure and kind compared to mine, lol. His 2 wing is veery strong.
awww I love that you call him your sweet ESFJ 😊
Your being INFJ makes a lot of sense!
You really can see from other types' perspective.
Thanks Ashley!! That means a lot
Let's go!! You're the best
Thanks Andrew!
Wow this is so helpful, cool how you guys balance each other out and also how your husband shared that he was able to develop stronger assertiveness and ask for what he wants. As a 4, that gives me hope that I can do the same, it’s one of the hardest things for me but I’m slowly getting better at it
Glad it was helpful!
I'm a 4w5 and my older sister is a 3w4. I just saw this and thought it's going to be great to see how other people function with our same dynamic
Being an INFP 4w5 female i resonated with nearly everything John said my god never been seen more in my life, I need to find my husband damn it! XD
I am also a singer/songwriter and I can relate to Jon.
People seem to confuse being bubbly and friendly with being extraverted. People confuse a lot of things for being extraverted.
agreed!!! you can be bubbly and outgoing AND AN INTROVERT! 👏
This is awesome to see! My husband is 3w4 and I’m 4w5.
Yay! We're in good company 😎
Amazing!!
Thanks for sharing this! My wife and I love your videos. I’m also a 4w5 INFP and my wife is also a 3 (with a 2 wing I think) but she is an ESTJ. The enneagram has been a helpful tool for us to understand ourselves and each other. Your advice about needing processing time before entering into conflict resolution was a good reminder. Thanks!
the processing time is KEY for us! I'm so glad the channel is helpful for you guys. I love hearing that because it makes all the work worth it! Thanks, Matthew!
im an enfp 4w3 and this was very comfy, thanks for sharing also your infj stare gave you away hehe
🙌🏽. Loved seeing the 2 of you together 💕. Yes!! It's the stereotypes that drive me crazy as well. We are more than our number! Really enjoyed it, Sandy
As a 4/5, this video was AMAZING. I need to find my Abbey. Wow. I want to have a healthy relationship like this.
Im just like Jon, lol infp 4w5, I do relate to you Jon!
A pre-marriage course! Yes!
What is Jon’s subtype and stacking?
You guys are adorable, I love this. My hubby is an INFP 2w1 and I'm an INFJ 6w5. We are totally like you guys in a sense, I'm the future planner and he's the here and now guy.
Loved this video! You and Jon are super cute ☺️
Love compatibility ennegrams
I’m also infp and 4w5!!!!
I’m a 4w3 so this was like hearing my type traits speaking to my wing
My husband are the exact same types. I am a 4w5 and husband is 3w4
Congratulations and you are both adorable 🥰
Thanks Leah!! 🥰
Love you too!
This is adorable!
Also, I HATE doing laundry, it’s literally a time suck and am so glad my partner doesn’t mind it.
Haha what if there’s always a partner who likes doing laundry and another who hates it? 😂
@@francesca.pellegrino See, Francesca gets it! 😂
It's really interesting to see that I'm a mixture personality of you two because I'm an Infj-t 4w5
👌 John. Just perfect. (his discription of how to see 4s outside of stereotyped garbage. Love his take on us. 👍😁✨♥️ Isfj, a, 4w5,w3.
I miss you guys!
we miss you!! Used your arguing advice here as well!
@@AbbeyHowe I noticed! I called JD in to watch. Our type 3s mega-fived 😎😎😎
@@kellynwohlwend4405 I feel like Jon did a mini-JD impression when he was explaining it 😂
This video is so nice I would love another q and a!
Abbey, I’m an infj 3w4 ...wife is a 4w5 and an infp...anyways...we’re both earth signs...what signs y’all got gonna? Purely, to humor this fan of course.
OMG. I'm a 3w4 married to a 4w5! What a coincidence! ❤️
No way!!!
@@AbbeyHowe For real! First time I saw a similar couple... :D
4:15 date someone that looks at you the way that abbey look at him.
Should you like the sports teams that your spouse likes?
Yes, no matter how depressing they can be 😉
it helps that I have no opinions on the matter... so GO ANGELS
When did you get into the enneagram, and once you were into it did you pick relationship based on the perfect enneagram # for you?
We were both already interested in the enneagram when we met, but I don’t remember when we first talked about it. We definitely didn’t choose to be in a relationship because of our enneagram pairing! I firmly believe that you can make it work with anyone, no matter what the enneagram pairing is. All that matters is levels of health!
Just loved your video. Can u please tell me your what therapies are to be given to 4 ? I am in India
Lovely video! :D
Thank you!!
no vid on type 3 wings?
I am confused..you said before in one of your previous vedios that you are a type 6 ...
Did you mistype or what ??
I’m a 4 dating a 1. I was 26 and him 49 when we met. Still going strong. I’m now 29. Any advice? He’s never been married or had kids me either
thank you very much this was great :) i am 1-2-7 and my husband is 4-6-9. any tips for me please?
This was me and my ex’s pairing.
Thou.. he never wanna understand why it’s so valuable to me to be called precious. Having known one another for over 10years, he is only and only want to work and please his narcissistic parents and his bosses.
We ended when I see how he is becoming the worst of both his parents.. Emotionally dead.. I still care and would want to best for him even if it means that it’s at my expense.. Which happened throughout and even after our relationship.. 🤷🏻♀️
You mentioned in a type 6 video that your boyfriend John was a type 6. Did you both realize he wasn’t one after all?
Abbey..thank you for the vedio..your relationship is amazing ...
I am a type 5 wing 4.. infj in the mbti , a psychoanalyst and personality types coach
I am very sure that anyone who type themselves as infj in the mbti system cannot be enneagram 3 ..
It is impossible..
First of of all , the mbti test is not reliable..because it types people based on the letters not the basic pscycological functions
Everyone I coach , mistyped in the mbti ..
Now looking deeper into the infj functions
They use introverted intution first .. then extraverted feeling .. their last function is extraverted sensing
Infjs are intutive and feeling types and they have underdeveloped instinct (action and connection with the tangible world )
Enneagram 3s however have powers in actions and instictual energy and underdeveloped feeling
Most enneagram 3s .. have feeling function in the mbti system the last one or the third one ... it cannot be first or second
Most infjs are withdrawn types in the enneagram ( type 4 , type 9 and type 5 )
They cannot be aggressive types ( type 3 , type 7 and type 8)
Now your husband is typed perfectly as infp enneagram 4 .. he fits the types very well
Abby I am sorry but I hope you take it kindly and in an impersonal way .
You mistyped as infj
You could be enfp .. but also enfp cannot be enneagram 3
I think you are Enfp in the mbti and type 6 wing 7 in the enneagram
Take a deeper look into the types ..
Because mistyping means false growth..
Thank you for your vedios.. I wish you the best ♥️
Dude arent u labelling a little to much
Iam a very aggressive Infj and my Ni is killing the charts with it ps I think I might be 3.
Our Se can be super development too we can tok be extroverted like becux of past truma u never know
Wow i forgot how to type
AND MY ENFP FRIEND IS 3W2