" You Should Have Multiple Partners Before You Settle With One " || Calculated Couples || Episode 4
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Episode 4: Things took an unexpected turn from one of the couples from last week where Paul demanded for an apology. This episode we find out if they were able to find common ground in their differences.
Calculated Couples is a unique and heartwarming CZcams show that follows the journey of Paul Bridges, a charismatic and relatable businessman who is on a quest to seek relationship advice from five diverse couples. Paul is determined to learn from those who have successfully navigated the ups and downs of love.
The show spans over five weeks, with each episode focusing on a couple. Paul engages in candid conversations with these couples, exploring their unique dynamics, challenges, and the wisdom they've gained from their own relationships. While it's not a traditional therapy show, "Calculated Couples" offers viewers valuable insights into the complexities of love and relationships.
In a world where social media often showcases only the highlights of relationships, "Calculated Couples" provides an authentic and relatable look at the joys and struggles of real couples, offering both guidance and encouragement to anyone seeking to improve their own relationships.
Thank you everyone for being here and showing support, please be open minded as you watch each couple share their stories. Could we ask you for a favour? Can you hit the like button on the video! Helps us a lot!!
Great show! Will there be any more episodes?
I'm here looking for more episodes.
This female pastor is wisdom personfied. I love her
Wisdommmm!
I hate the way Solomon silences his wife constantly to spew his nonsense 😢 this woman really has special grace to live with that man
I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT!!!!! Cocky narcissist piece of work he is.
Did you see the Pastor always quietly listening to the wife and supporting her arguments? That’s lovely and wisdom. But Brother Solomon will shut his wife and talk ..
Oh!!!
I loveee Paul’s facial expressions 😂😂😂
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I was really skeptical of the pastor couple on first impression - but they’ve really grown on me. The lady gave as straightforward and concise an explanation on the biblical idea of this word “submission” as I’ve heard in all my time as a believer. Very helpful.
Glad you took something from this
Ngl Shay and Miles are in a whole different world...interesting to know what others believe and think.
Yeah?
Paul 's facial expressions are giving "oga, no vex but wtf!!?"
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I dunno Manka is a little delusional. You've settled for the bare minimum this whole time, being a yes man, yet a ring is where you draw the line? With all they've been through, a haribo ring should suffice🤷🏾♀️
😂😂 not a haribo ring
@@CeeCeeOj did I lie please lol
You did not. I'm dissapointed in her reasoning thought she was smarter than that @@stacie8131
The discussion with Prophet Power and Prophetess Cyy Cyy was very good, a lot of knowledge about the true meaning about submission because a lot of ppl don’t fully understand that term properly
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I hope you continue producing shows Paul. I'm watching this at work😂
Thank you so much! We’d love to have him on for another season maybe?
Paul bridges should continue more in this direction of acting, he has a profound character,
Indeed 💯
Nah Manka your tripping babe !!! How could you propose it's not that deep o just be patient if he's the right one I'm sure he will propose with time and if you feel you've waited too long then it's time to move on shes to pretty for this 😂❤
Side note I love how Paul is holding everyone accountable and saying what some of us are thinking😅
Holding everyone accountable 🤣🤣😅😅
Somethings not giving with Solomon and Arike... The "babe, let's fast" yhuuu😂😂😭.
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I am 24 years old (which means I’m gen z) and I think some of Tanya and shaq’s viewpoints when it comes to relationships is insane to me. I agree with Paul in how he said he believes that shaq hasn’t reached his masculinity (fully) as it shows in some of his answers. A courting stage is very important & I don’t agree with people sleeping with one another in that dating phase.. at least be in a commitment because I believe it could cloud judgement and make them think they like one another more than they actually do.. if someone can’t offer you a commitment AT LEAST do not sleep with them (in my opinion)
How shaq conducted himself on Love island proved this too
Nah I feel like I’m the only one who doesn’t like Miles and Shay. I can’t put my finger on it but I don’t think their relationship will make it down the aisle, also too much fake deepness- I’m the only one not falling for it.
Bruh deep fakeness!!!!
To be honest, I find it really hard to understand what they are saying but if you have time to watch it a second time, you would get it
Honestly same to be honest. It all sounds like “deep” hocus pocus but hope it lasts for them
Nah me too, they lost me at the no religion but christian pastor at the wedding
Because of too much Delulu.😂 new age ezenmo 😂😂😂😂
Shay and Miles are lost. All this divine self malarkey is so nonsensical.
Marrying with a pastor is a submission in front of God in a Christian respect. If you aren't Christian, you might as well cut all of that out and stand in the river and commit.
Exactly my point
Na colo dey worry dem 😂😂😂😂 imagine Christ invited to the same wedding as “spiritual “ . I rebuke.
@@AmplifiedCookiee As innnnn 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't think you can just go to any church to marry unless things have changed
I’m not gonna lie, Paul growing on me.. he is actually very rational and fair. I didn’t realise he had moral compass
Never judge a book by its cover they say…
Praying for Shay and Miles, Jesus is King ❤.
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😂😂😂Manny’s girl is giving delulu land. Is she alright? Solomon and his wife brainwashed each other😂😂, the gaslit to believe you are clapped and believing it is insane. Solomon wanted to go viral and he did end of. I’ve finally come to terms with Miles and Shay, they actually make sense and they’re moving as a team on their views, im just not over toes yet
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The toes thing is a real factual thing though, whenever you get time, do some extensive research
@@thesocialbreakoutt lol I don’t doubt that at all, i just wasn’t ready for the camera to actually show them. They’re living rent free in my head🤣🤣🤣
Shaq didn’t agree with Tanya but still had her back 😢
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Was super skepitcal about uncle pastor and his wife but theyve grown on me.. dropping that HMMMM WISDOM
WIZDOM!!!
Tanya and Shaq need to stop using the year 2023 as an excuse for being fast. Abeg, if you're both easy and fast, then just own that with chest. Dignity doesn't change because of the generation
Thank you
My sister if you are Normal in this generation you’re definitely the crazy one. I tire for thé matter.
@@AmplifiedCookiee honestly oo, because this nonsense they're spewing is dangerous. Very sad generation
Paul could be a meme, he’s hilarious 😆. While I don’t always agree with everyone, I really like Shay and Miles; they’re mature. The pastor’s wife is good too, but I disagree with the “being poor is a choice” comment - found it insensitive. People born into poverty aren’t in control. Luck plays a big role in getting out; hard work helps, but it’s often about luck. Staying grateful and humble is crucial; if not, God, and life might/will definitely humble you. Good show overall. J’aime beaucoup 👍🏾👏🏾
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Nah Paul! Not the "more bang for your buck" comment.😅 this guy needs to have his own stand-up show. I'm on the floor 😂😂😂😂
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Paul loves the word respectfully - you could build a whole drinking game on how many times he says this?
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Paul . Paul you are just something else . Honestly loved your facial expressions
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When I Arike said I think we need to pray... I lost it hahaahahahaa
Why am I only finding out about this show now. I am enjoying the episodes. Keep it up Paul, doing a great job ❤
I also believe there is hope for you Paul. Looking forward to seeing the end. Good Job
Fingers crossed!
“It’s a choice to be poor” 😂😂😂😂😂🤣😂😂 otflr 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Damn. this is good fam!
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Miles & Shay ❤ love them.
Being aligned with someone who shares your spiritual values is a blessing. #deep
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We appreciate that 🙏🏾 thank you..
Prison babe needs to leave, that man seems to only be there cause she held it down
Why do you think that?
She didn't leave then and she's definitely not leaving anytime soon 😄
Prophetess is speaking facts 🔥🔥
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38:36 LOOOOL I'VE DONE "UMHHHHH" dkmm .. I THINK WE NEED TO PRAY oi that was too funny!!
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I loveeee Miles & Shays Realtionship 😍
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love this show
Thank youuuuu
You can hear when people who are doing the work speak - it has substance to it. That’s Miles and Shay for me. I could listen to them for ages. The square conversation is interesting - hence the saying “think outside the box” not circle/sphere, not triangle. I’m watching you from a square too 😅 📱
Paul putting the book in his pocket gave me mad uncle vibes 😂🖤
On the other hand, someone mute Simon please😂
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❤️❤️❤️ sometimes it’s so hard to put what you are thinking in to words but we are so glad you understood what we were trying to say!
Miles and Shay, yas. As a black person that broke free from the shackles of Abrahamic religions. Spirituality, is about finding and applying principles that religion complacently claims to hold the monopoly over, love, marriage, meaning of life etc. Religion, yawn, it smacks of hypocrisy and self righteousness. As for spirituality, I am all ears. Tanya and Shaq, with guidance can last, they are sweet, people are too judgemental. Manka and Manny, she gives me the vibes that she will push Manny to commit a crime to get her a ring she wants. I adore the sacrifice she has made for Manny, but while he is down, please give him the chance to blossom he can for you.
What religion were you before? There's a d8fference between Following a religion and having a personal relationship with God.
@@steph.o9707 I hear this all the time from theists. But, I got a dilemma for you. If two people who believe in God, have a job interview for 1 post and both pray to receive that job. Only one of them gets that job. How will you justify this? There is so much cognitive dissonance when it come to religion or relationship with God. I am not interested full stop. Where is concrete proof that you have a relationship with God? I am done with this wishy washy rubbish.
If the other person did not get the job and they prayed for it, then the job wasn't for them. It's simple. If we got everything we wanted whenever we asked for it, then how could we worship God. He isn't a genie where you can come to Him when you want something, makw a wish 3 times and you automatically get what you requested. I've heard many responses like yours all the time as well..have you actually ever said aloud "Jesus if you are real, please show me". If you did, then He will definitely let His presence be known.
Tanya’s exploring comment had me like 🙆♂️🙆♂️🙆♂️🙆♂️🙆♂️🙆♂️🙆♂️
Did she Lie ??
Hallelujah Mr and Mrs Pastor, tell them ooo
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Sorry but the square thing is sending me. I get what is trying to be done but naah 😂
😂😂😂😂 we have to agree with you on this… we should of kept these thoughts in our heads lol
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Is they more episodes and a final episode? as I've been waiting as i loved the show
Lady pastor is preaching !
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It’s the Paul we need to pray for me😂😂😂😂
Let us all keep Paul Bridges in our prayers 😅🙏🏽
0:47 always has me crying 😂😂😭
If Manka really loved Manny then she would accept a hula hoop ring.. or a haribo ring. I mean stop with this expensive ring business.
Shaq, Tanya has too many 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩.
Miles and Shay lost me at the Squares😂😢
Solomon..errrrr
The Pastors can preach!!!!!
She wants an expensive ring, nothing wrong with that
@@thesocialbreakoutt absolutely, but it sounds to me that if that expensive ring isn't there she will not marry him. I think they have been through too much together and got through it, for a ring to be the basis of this.
Manka let it go. You went 4 a road guy, hes gonna commit in his 50s. Marriage to road guys is gf and bf.
Raaaaah lol, is that so?
Yes! I say it with chest loool
8:45 Paul being as confused as I am🤣🤣. Atleast i know I’m not crazy.
Solomon saying men complaining but spending on only fans is too real👏🏽👏🏽enablers fr ! N their imagination will have them calling these women gold diggers🤣💀
Hmmm
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@35:30 😂😂😂 Paul is hilarious
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This Jail guy, im very surprised they are still together and their behaviour seem even worse than before. Why is she so obsessed with him, she has issues 🤔🤔
I really pray Arike won’t face what it looks like she will face with this Solomon Buchi 🤦🏾♀️
N what’s that ? 👀
What does manny's girl see in him? What did he put in his stew?
She is a real one that's all I got to say
Shaki and roundabout😂😂
Some people call it the stew of love 🥘
😂😂 please let’s allow Solomon to breeeeefff. Let us not suffocate him😂😂
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E is right i feel for him if he proposes at his lowest even after marriage she'll always remind you of it 😉 i learned that as well
Exactly
Guy with the Hat-- this marriage isn’t going to last
Wow!!!!
As one of the ladies, I don’t feel you babe💀💀💀 13:17
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As for Manka and her man, you people think this is High School Musical… please please.
Kini media prosumer ke? Chai una na just Dey catch cruise👀. Babe Dey shake head for background👀😩
55:50 man said oooooh cmonnn
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I love shay and miles..its a whole other world out there, so many dimensions, for those who get it do and for those who dont, your awakeneing will come one day or maybe not..best thing about spiritual people is they dont preach or look down on anyone elses belief, becauee we know that there is somethjng greater than us, and what yiu may call, God, Allah, the universe its all the same thing just different names..and we also know not to judge another persons belief because they are operating from their level of conciousness..spiritual people live by example
There is a saying that gies "a butterfly cannot tell a fly that eating poo taste like s*!t because the fly doesnt know any better lol
Wow said perfectly!!
Exactly. I love everything you said
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Wow this comment couldn’t have been said any better! Speechless.
There’s no grey area. What’s bad can never be good. Pick a side and wait for your consequences.
41:52 Paul, you know why you like them? I’d tell you. It’s because that marriage’s foundation is on Christ. Not “spiritual “, not “in and out of jail “ , not “love island cameras” . There’s a clear cut difference between being “in”the world and not being “of” it. The rest of the other couples definitely lack Jesus as a foundation. Solomon’s is still on his journey and I pray he gets where his actions really tally with who he follows. As for the rest, OTiloooo , they don go.
Hmmmmmmmm….lol 👏🏾👏🏾
When is episode 5?
Few days now
the replies and Paul face! priceless
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I would like to see Paul get baptize and give his life to Christ. Truly some things only Jesus can help this Paul. I see maturity in paul from ep 1 to now.
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46:00 😂😂😂
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Paul 😂😂
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Manka is ridiculous lol
Why lol
But this Solomon’s brown hat get as e dey pain my eye. 😅
Looool leave him
There hasn't been a new episode for time :((
Got a surprise coming for you….
Husbands need to complete the whole verse. Yes women are supposed to submit to your husband and husband are to love their wife as Christ love the church. Remember christ love the church so much that he gave his life for the church
This 304 is a big red flag 😂😂
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Miles, shay and the prophetess are the only ones with any damn sense
Lol yeah?🤣😅
If u don’t mention cheifer if you don’t mention Mayfair 🤣🤣🤣🤝🤝
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Is there no 5th episode coming?
Craziness is the new standard for relationships..the gods 🤣🤣 and penguins.. from a guy who hails from the ends 🤣🤣 not paired up like doves which are loyal to the end.. crazy i tell u
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Miles and Shay , “Spiritual” okay o . If I talk now, they will say I’m brainwashed. En tout cas , rendez vous le jour du jugement mama Sara.
Mdrrrrr, rdv kaka
I’m sure shaq did btec 😩😭
Why lol
Oga Paul, why did you go to a club and your bending your head?😂😂😂😂
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Love Solomon & Arike, love the preachers too. I like the Ghanaian couples but today the lady lost me when the ring price came in. I don’t really care of the love island birds
Hmmm 🤣😅
@@thesocialbreakoutt you guys have refused to give us the final episode, can we know our offense 😅
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Shaq has 0 dominion
You reckon? Lol
Marriage is just a paper 😂 you don’t need a paper to be with someone 😤
Do you agree? 👀
Why does Solomon treat his wife like she’s nothing ? SMH
Paul is doing seriousss advertisement sha. How much are they paying you 👀👀
Ah ah! What’s your own? lol
3 Shaq
Please shay and miles are reducing my iq 😑😑😑😑😑😑😑 this is the most painful 7 minutes of any video I’ve ever watched 😑😑
gotta work on the audio
Will do better next time god willing
I think pastor is a lil bit … slow
Why
I'm actually loving this show, but am I miserable? I don't really like any of the couples, but they entertain me 🤣👌
The grass-eaters (you know, the book-wielding, open-toed-sandal types) give me a hard time, like seriously, enough already. Since this show is kind of like a biblical saga, which I'm into, here's a fitting scripture for them: "And if any man think that he knoweth any thing, he knoweth nothing yet as he ought to know." 1 Cor 8:2
Now, Mrs. Fanatic and Nigeria are a whole different story. Nigeria had to tell her to calm down with the persistent and somewhat aggressive "do you have the Holy Spirit, Paul?" Paul and Nigeria's mutual dislike for each other just cracks me up 🤣🤣 They see each other so clearly, probably because they both have a bit of those narcissistic traits, I think.
So, the 304 and the BATA (By All That's Amazing) couple might actually last the longest. They get this whole "don't assume my gender" era they're living in, and they annoy me the least.
I know Paul loves the preachers, but these new-age super churches can be a problem, and defending those televangelist pastors? Yeah, that's a problem for me. I'm a firm believer in the Word of God, and I just can't wrap my head around women preachers either. I don't see any justification for it in the Word of God. We're here to teach the kiddos and learn from our guys.
Now, the gangsta-loving couple is okay. She's a bit contradictory and superficial, but we all know that lovable gangsta, right? They're not annoying to watch, in fact.
I'm sending up some prayers for Paul to have that moment with Christ when you just "know, beyond your own understanding," and nothing in life is ever the same again. 🥰🙏🏾
You lost me at the second half of paragraph 5 for me. By saying you "can't wrap your head around women preaching in the church", you are falling back into the trap of patriarchy that keeps women suppressed from using their voices and contributing to the kingdom of God in a way that they are individually called to do. Contrary to your belief, talent, a calling and the holy spirit don't discriminate, sha. Who are you to do so? That is so dated. Please stop overthinking and embrace the message from a male/female messenger, as long as it is biblically sound and heals you, holds you accountable and helps you grow.
PS. Polygamy was also in the bible but we don't preach that as a fundamental lifestyle for a born again Christian, because we know where the God of Abraham, Jacob and Isaac stands with that.
Therefore, just because there were no female prophets and preachers in the bible, doesn't mean that a woman must fundamentally not preach the word of God. That is Law. And that law is within the context and political environment of that time (Being a born again Christian is driven by Grace). That in NO WAY means that God doesn't allow women to preach the word of God and push the needle to the progress of his kingdom. We don't serve a misogynistic God.
Everyone has their personal relationship with God, and if God calls you as a woman, to preach (because you are very much capable), nobody gets to theological-watchdog you into doubting that. Periodt.
@@trudytriad4574 My belief regarding women's roles in church leadership is rooted in the Word of God, specifically the verses 1 Timothy 2:12-13 - "But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be insilence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve."
Additionally, here are a couple more scriptures that are often referenced in discussions on this topic:
1. Ephesians 5:22-24 - "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
2. 1 Corinthians 11:3 - "But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God."
1 Corinthians 14:34-35 - "The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church."
And to address your point about a personal relationship with God in conjunction with His Word:
Believing in a personal relationship with God is indeed a cornerstone of many Christians' faith. However, it's essential to emphasise that this relationship should align with and be informed by God's Word, as it serves as our guide and foundation for understanding His will. Disregarding God's Word can lead to misunderstandings and potential deviations from His intended path.
Ultimately, our aim is to seek a relationship with God that is in harmony with His Word, rather than a rebellion or departure from it. This approach helps us navigate the complexities of faith and ensures that we follow God's design for our lives, which, includes the order of creation (child, women, man, then God), not merely a product of patriarchy.
Thank you for engaging.
@@trudytriad4574 I forgot to add where you bring up an important point about the practice of polygamy. Indeed, the New Testament emphasies monogamy as the ideal marital arrangement for Christians. A key scripture supporting this view is found in:
1 Timothy 3:2 - "Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife..."
This verse, among others, underscores the principle of monogamy within Christian leadership roles. It's another example of how the New Testament provides guidance on various aspects of Christian life and practice.
Solomon’s wife is an olodo and you can tell he don’t value her
Ohhhh, that’s not nice
UK boys don't usually like guys that come fresh from Nigeria and they come into the church. I remember back in the days, the british nigerian boys call them FOBs, if you know you know. They come straight from nigeria, are very charismatic and likable in church. They often end up securing the trust of beautiful girls and their families in church with their charisma and get married to british girls. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not work. But UK nigerian boys don't like them. The good ones are good husband material, am not sure about Solomon though😂
Fresh off the boat lol, FOB is oldskoool lol
Shaq seems very reasonable and emotional intelligent but Tanya lord she is a nice girl and all but such a hypocrit.
She should really think how she would feel if the roles were reversed before she speaks lol
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Tanya was in her feelings when Shaq spoke to Zara on the show and mind you all they had was an innocent chat. Tanya however was different in Casa. It's one thing to explore your connection but to have slept with the person and share I love yous is not nice. She would not like it if the roles were reversed. If that's the case then don't say I love you. That was the problem the public had.
@@MissCriticizerYeah without the "i love yous" people wouldn't have been as mad as they were but both of them hinted multiple times that producers pushed her but that they can't talk about it, so the whole situation is fine with that in mind. Her saying sleeping with someone else to test it out would have been fine was just completely insane though
@lydiak2219 the producers can not make you do anything you don't want to do. There is only so much they can work with, and she has given them enough to work with. She should also know that it's a TV show, where you need to be loved by the public which affects your endeavours post show. The way people behaved on the outside isn't how they behave on that show. Also everybody is different and I understand most girls don't want to put all their eggs in one basket, but if you are "sampling" each man that you are dating, you will look back and realise that you've slept with 100 guys and nothing beneficial came out of it, you will still hop on to the next one. How does that benefit the woman. If your doing that to have fun then that's fine
@@MissCriticizerThey can't make you SAY anthing that you don't want to which is true but they do push you to do things S8 Jay said how they didn't let him talk to people he wanted to aswell as other things even in S10 Zach was pushed in a game to kiss someone even if he just wanted to do the cheek and many more storys have been told on Podcasts it's a reality tv show you only she 1 of 24h and even that is chopped up to fit their narrative.
but think whatever you want it doesn't change anything anyway.
Also she never said she sleeps with everyone she dates lol otherwise i agree that kind of approach is mad.
Paul is really immature
Why ? Lol
How ??!!
The pastor and the Christians in this are assuming the worst of people and very condemning mindset. They say a believer who sleeps with a woman who does not ask for forgiveness and dies in that hotel goes to hell, which is an obserdity. The pastor and his wife emphasise on doing to get good and doing bad to get bad. That's not the gospel.
They never said if the man asks for forgiveness, he will go to hell.
@steph.o9707 thanks for the correction. Yes indeed
Paul what is the uncle going to the club to just drink and put his head on the table. There’s a reason why he’s there looking at the women. At the end of the day let the husband buy his wife lingerie Have a discussion with his wife about spicing up their relationship
shaq i have bad news for u bro
What’s that? Lol
this show is unserious
It funny tho 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol why not?