Should I Go to a Gay Wedding? - The Becket Cook Show [Clip]
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In this clip, Rosaria Butterfield and Christopher Yuan join Becket to discuss whether or not a Christian should attend a gay wedding.
The Becket Cook Show Ep. 58
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ABOUT BECKET:
Becket Cook was born and raised in Dallas, Texas. He attended Jesuit College Preparatory
School of Dallas. After graduating from Austin College in Texas, Becket moved to Los Angeles to pursue his dream of writing and acting, finding success in both. He eventually went on to become a production designer working with the top photographers and directors in the world on fashion shoots for magazines such as Vogue and Harper’s Bazaar, and for ad campaigns such as Gap, L'Oréal Paris, and Nike.
Finding a new sense of freedom in L.A., Becket also fully engaged in his new life as a gay man. He had a series of many relationships with men throughout the next fifteen years.
In September of 2009, Becket met a stranger at a coffee shop in Silver Lake who invited him to his church in Hollywood called Reality L.A. Becket reluctantly agreed to attend the service. After hearing the sermon that Sunday, Becket was utterly transformed by the gospel and gave his life to Christ. He also knew on that day when God revealed Himself to him that homosexuality was a sin and that he could no longer live that life. Becket was more than happy to count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus his Lord.
Becket spends much of his time in ministry speaking at churches, universities, and conferences helping believers (and non-believers) understand this issue biblically, theologically, culturally, and personally. Balancing grace and truth when teaching on this subject is of primary importance. His goal is to challenge the current cultural narrative about sexuality in general and homosexuality in particular by demonstrating through his personal testimony and biblical truths that, yes, homosexuality is still a sin, and that following Christ is infinitely more satisfying and joyous.
He has lived all over the world in major cities such as Rome, Vienna, and Tokyo.
Becket graduated from Talbot School of Theology at Biola University in 2017 with a Master of Arts in Theology.
Becket’s book, A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption, with a
foreword by Francis Chan, published by Thomas Nelson, released July 30, 2019.
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It is funny that I came across this today of all days. I am 68 and have spent the time since I retired examining every aspect of my life asking myself where I could have made a turn. This is personal but here goes. I was molested by my father when I was 4. I dearly loved both of my parents and up to that point no one could have asked for better parents. I was the apple of their eyes. I loved them so much I remember thinking "I will whisper this to my mother and she will make it stop." Needless to say, it did not work out that way. This situation and the the fall out from this crippled my life. I will leave out the details. I have pondered over and over how I could have handled the situation back then (keeping in mind that I was only 4) and could not come up with an alternative other than dying (a story for another time). No one believed me at the time - mother, uncle, siblings, aunt or family doctor or probably more than likely did not want to face it themselves. Today I realized the one thing that would have made a difference - that is the truth. If one of those individuals had said they believed my regardless of whether they interceded or not, I believe my life would not have gone down the route it did - constantly questioning my own realities. Today I realized that compromising the truth for any reason only causes more heartache. Christians have begun to view Jesus as what I would describe as a "I am OK, you're OK, faculty lounge lizard." It has become the church of nice unwilling to speak the truth. Parents do not speak up as their daughters go down paths that will only lead to their own destruction, cohabitation is now common place, fornication, porn as well. I could go on. Not speaking the truth is being complicit with the sin and does incredible damage to the souls of all involved.
Hola 🤍 Thank you for sharing, it takes courage/strength & speaks volume in how powerful our Lord & Savior is 🙏🏼 Love & Blessings ❣️
Thank you for sharing Mary, God bless you and heal you. I hope to meet you one day when we see our Lord Jesus, face to face, and there will be no more lies or deception or hurting.
Thank you for sharing...very insightful and moving. God bless you.
Yhe absolute truth 👏 🙌 👌 💯
I’m so sorry for what happened to you Mary. I have a similar story (molestation by a family member at around the age of 4 as well as targeted by a pedophile around age 8-10). I was a believer very young and I believe it kept me from facing worse consequences for those evil actions perpetrated against me. I’m sorry they did not believe you. 😞
Derek Prince’s teachings on deliverance and generational curses really has helped me a lot.
Just had this exact experience last year. Has torn the family apart. My cousins wedding.
The decision was easy. But the fall out is tough. We pray for them every day.
Keep on praying & don't give up. It's NOT a hopeless situation. Ephesians 6:10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, & in the power of his might.
@@myeshareynolds9624 amen 🙏
I know some one who wouldn’t go to a gay wedding but took the couple out for dinner instead
My wife and I may face this situation soon. It's hard, but loving Jesus and believing in truth has a cost, and he was up front with all of us. We love our family member dearly, and hope they'll remain close if we're not there.
Family first.
this was my favorite quote from Rosaria that day: "You love The Lord the most over your spouse, over everything, …if you don’t, you will destroy those people you think you love with a predatory kind of sin that’s going to infect them."
Going to a party is not going to infect anyone dear.
Going to a gay “wedding” is approving of the ceremony. We are witnesses at weddings because we’re there for approval and support. Marriage is a sacred and holy ceremony created by God.
I wouldn’t agree 100%. For example, I went to the wedding of my father and his current wife (a woman I can’t stand). Going to a wedding doesn’t necessarily mean you approve of it. However, it does usually carry that connotation and so unless it was for the sake of going to preach the gospel I wouldn’t see why any believer should attend a gay “wedding.”
Gay weddings are a great thing though. Why use "?
@@nickgagnon3626 how else will she express her condescension?
Amen 🙏🏽
@@nickgagnon3626 what's great about them?
Very interesting. Here in Japan the same dilemma arises when Christians are in a position to attend a family members Buddhist funeral where they will be put in a position to engage in ancestor worship. Christians are divided as to whether or not they should even attend. But, generally they attend and present a flower in front of the casket rather than light incense which is a sign of "worship". I have attended several Buddhist funerals and in place of incense, I laid a flower in front of the casket. On two such occasions I was publicly yelled at by the Buddhist priest presiding. He basically said, "If you're not going to worship the dead, don't even come!". I realize that this is different than a gay wedding, but I do wonder if attendance automatically represents condoning the act.
Wow I didn't know they did that at funeral...
You did your best to honor the person who had passed without compromising your morals.
Perhaps 2 Kings 5 might help in this situation?
That's a dilemma right there...
Whilst I don't know if it's the same as attending a gay wedding, I think it's a situation worth sorting out with the Holy Spirit. Consider if there are other ways to show your support besides attending the funeral-pay for the food, help arrange the reception, etc.
I mean, even the Buddhist priest clearly said you shouldn't come if you won't be a part of the ceremony. However, this is easier said than done 😅
So, with an open heart, it's back to the Holy Spirit for guidance. And in everything, remember that God's love for you surpasses every dilemma ♥
It is a great analogy that is similar. Honoring God trumps all.
This happened to me. It was also a Wiccan wedding. Most of my family was mad at me for not going. I felt so sad and conflicted. I love my family.
I know. My family declined to go to my cousins wedding last year. Now the families aren’t talking.
It’s hard being in the minority but we must please God in everything that we do. Keep praying for your loved one
@@ComeOutOfHerMyPeople everyone talks behind my back and kind of treats me like an outsider now. It sucks.
Family first.
@@Eyesofmars2040 yes I can’t imagine what they’re saying about us. Two Christmases and not a word. No phone call. Birthday. Nothing.
What a powerful trio. Thank you for such insight. For such a time as this.🙏
I am so blessed to see the three of you together again. God bless you all. Greetings from the Philippines🇵🇭
This encouraged me a lot. My son has got into drugs and says awful things via text. We live in different provinces. Nothing to do with gay issues but it confirmed I’m doing the right thing. Just loving him in spite of the awful things he says I needed this tonight 💕
My momma’s heart hurts for you Debby. Lifting you up in prayer 🙏🏻
God Bless
I've been there too. My son did the same thing. I knew he was not in his right mind and he was being controlled by demons. I just prayed for him. I let him know I loved him but I didn't reach out or contact him. Eventually God brought him to his knees. He's still not where he should be with the Lord, but he is well on his way. There is hope! He has apologized and now tells me he loves me every time we talk or text!🥰🥰🥰
@@nancyjones247 Well that’s encouraging to. I tell him I love him and pray for him. When he was younger he was the sweetest child and always singing hymns and somewhere along the ways bad friends wrong crowd. Thank you 🙏
@@deborahannwood3576 where's your husband?
My son professes to be gay,he was in a relationship with another man for a couple years and they were living together,I showed kindness and not judgement to both even though I am a born again Christian and believe homosexuality is a sin, when my son told me they were getting married my heart broke into a thousand pieces 😭He is deceived by satan and homosexuality is a spirit,I realize this,but my son did not understand why I would not come to His wedding and was extremely hurt by it😭😭😭we no longer have a relationship,his choice,even though I reach out to him all the time and tell him I love him....He feels I don’t except him for who he is. Satan seeks to destroy and divide families and relationships.....
Family before religion always.
@@nickgagnon3626 I don’t have religion, I have JESUS ❤️
@@robinsaba3888 But still family first.
@@nickgagnon3626 that tells me you don’t have Jesus....
@@robinsaba3888 Why would Jusus turn family against each other?
I'm so glad you covered this. Thanks!
Hola Beckett & Friends, Once Again Great podcast 👋🏼 Interesting that today co~workers were talking about this very subject. Please keep ur videos coming 🎉 Love & Bendiciones Para Todos 🕊️
Loved these responses,they were very helpful. Thanks for tackling this topic.
It’s interesting. Same sex attracted people want to be “accepted for who they are”, but often don’t want to extend that same understanding in accepting Christians for who they are. It’s a very one-way street.
Strange comment. You've got a whole group of Christians in this comment section saying they would not attend, yet you call it a one-way street. The one-way street is in this comment section.
@@lorrilewis2178 You’ve misunderstood my comment.
Because Christians are in agreement on the Biblical doctrine concerning this issue-which is how it should be-does not make our relationships with gay friends and relatives a one-way street. EVERYONE feels “one way” or another about ANY issue, after all.
I’m talking about the graceful acceptance of different viewpoints part. The part where, when someone doesn’t precisely agree with your worldview, instead of “agreeing to disagree,” they dump out the baby with the bath water.
I wouldn’t abandon the relationship with my gay nephew, for example, but I have no illusions that if marriage came up and I didn’t attend the wedding that I would be dumped.
That’s what makes it “one way.” You, (Christian) must accept me (gay person), but I (gay person) don’t have to accept you (Christian).
@@suz2761 Many people's personal experience is that more intolerance comes from the Christian side.
@@lorrilewis2178 Really? The many comments in this thread reflect exactly the opposite.
@@suz2761 Well, you're in a Christian thread. If you were in a thread with gays talking about their experiences, I think you'd see the opposite.
WOWWWWWW! What awesome responses from both of your guest!!
Thank you for this discussion. My oldest daughter is in a homosexual relationship and she has written me off completely. This particular video has been extremely helpful and encouraging. I continue to pray for her and love her with all my heart. Blessings to you all. 🙏
God bless
I have done many things for my daughter, in other words, closed my eyes to things that l know in my heart are not right. It’s easy to say No, don’t go but when it’s your only child and you face losing her, sadly you compromise. But I’m here to say l went to my daughters wedding, but it felt like a funeral. People thought l was crying for joy but it was the opposite. My heart broke that day. I walked out and did not go to the reception. I made my stand and all hell broke loose. These two have three children, that l love, my daughter and her partner, (l cannot say wife ) decided l was no longer allowed to see the children.
It’s with tears in my eyes, that l write this, l will never stop praying for them or loving them, l stand in obedience just like the prodigal father, waiting for my God to go before me in battle. To open their blind eyes and set them free.
I’m so sorry, I’m praying with you for your daughters salvation🙏
@@ComeOutOfHerMyPeople Thank you. 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry. May God hear your prayers and comfort you.
@@Topg1 Thank you. I wouldn’t be able to go on if it wasn’t for God.
@@RoseZeke I will come alongside you sister and pray for you and your family💛
Thank you, Beckett! Very informative.
As a bisexual atheist this is wild to me
It is wild because you are trying to understand in an unconverted state. That’s not a “dig” on you. The Bible says essentially that trying to make an unconverted person understand spiritual matters is like speaking a foreign language to someone who doesn’t know that language.
“But a natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.” 1 Corinthians 2:14
@@suz2761 peace & love.
@@alicia.george To you as well, my friend.
It's really beyond sad that this has caused so many heartaches! 😞
Actually, I believe this is just the beginning of choices that will alienate us. They take it as hate but it's a deeper love than anyone can imagine.
No. It is hate, not love. Get over yourself.
@@janetkizer5956 you’ve proved her point. Praying for you.
What love is there that hates a person’s most divine aspect.
God bless you Becket! I saw your testimony a couple years ago and it really touched me!! The Lord makes such huge wonderful changes to us doesn't He! Much love to you brother in Christ
I love their answers. Thank you and God bless you!
Thank you guys so much!!
great perspectives, thank you
By God’s grace I have not been in this situation. My heart breaks as I read some of the stories. It sounds like people are handling it well. My encouragement would be, as we hate the world to be not hateful in our tone in a situation like this.
Such wisdom. Thank you all and God bless.
The whole episode was pretty awesome!
This was GREAT! Thank you!
"if you don't love your Lord the most... you will destroy those people you think you love with a predatory kind of sin that's going to just infect them."
I had to run the video back and listen to that several times!
This was/is me. Hard lesson!
SO GREAT TO YEAR THIS - - *KEEP SPREADING LOVE IN TRUTH*
A wedding is a celebration. When a particular union is called an abomination in Scripture, how can we, in good conscience, be a witness to that event? Even if we personally don’t approve, our very presence would communicate otherwise. It’s a no-win situation.
Thank you so much for this!!! I so appreciate your biblical world views!!!
What do you do if your daughter wants you to go to her gay wedding? You go, of course. She’s your daughter. Being a parent is a sacred duty. You don’t choose your orientation - she certainly didn’t choose to be gay any more than you chose not to be. If she didn’t choose to be gay, Who do you think made her that way?
I love these discussions.
I'm glad you are emphasizing this answer to the question; it is much clearer and wiser than the prior guest a few months ago who left the door open on this question. I found his advice disturbing.
Agree 100%. Thank you all.
I love all of you. I have read your books and listened to your testimonies. Thank you for sharing your transformations through Christ. Praying for you!! ❤️🙏🏻😊
Every time I see you on my feed, I feel so blessed. Thank God for your life Becket, because of you my hope is restored. God continues to work in human’s lives despite what we hear from the world. God is good and He wants to change whomever is willing and in need of the Savior 💙
Love the Lord your God with ALL your heart, mind & soul & we must love Him so much that it looks like we hate everything else, of course we don't hate but He must be first place in our hearts✝️❤✝️
Amen, such truth spoken! Thank you!
I shared videos from each one of you from CZcams, now you three are holding a show together, it is awesome!
My college son asked me how to respond to an invitation to a house party if it is from a gay friend? I would love to hear from your thought?
Thank you Mr Beckett for posting this, I was throwing this question around in my heart. Reason be: my husbands only child/ only son announced his "identity" 13 years ago, now 2 months ago he announced his engagment set for this year. I love him so much.
I know what the TRUTH says to this question , except how do I explain to my husband who knows my beliefs, that I probably will not attend. He isnt a believer himself (athiest) (UNEQUALLY YOKE I KNOW ...lets say we met while I was in my rebellion-prodigal year.)
However just last week his son was out here to visit and he brought his fiance' (another male) ... we had a great time.. the entire time my heart just ache for them. I did however had a good chance to share the Good Gospel and along with that tracs. Which I hope he reads. Also they both allowed me to pray for them.
Thing is the question did not come up about my Faith vs his preferable identity. Mostly about sin, repent, Jesus died for him and everyone etc. I didnt force anything as in "pitchfork judgement" ,I did mention along the line that its has to be him from his heart to accept what Jesus did as TRUTH.
No one can believe it for him.
Anyways Brother Beckett please keep these two in prayer. Thank you in advance.
Blessings ❤🕊.
@@4thbrooker
Bless you surely bless you.
Read it again.
Blessings 🕊
@@4thbrooker
....my post.
@@4thbrooker
Ok... now there!
Hun neither I or Mr Beckett nor anyone can CHANGE your heart on this matter, ONLY THE Holy Spirit of God. We extend the good news of greater LIFE in Christ ...but of coarse it is up to the one recieving/ listening on the other end to open their whole heart.
What I did not mention in my original post is: I asked my stepson "if anyone shared the Gospel with him?" .... his reply "no" ... so I ask "if I can share the Gospel of Jesus with him?" ... he replied "yes" , so I did.
The conversation wasnt at all judgemental or bashing. He asked question I answered in TRUTH, without holding any piece of it back.
I have an older brother who also identifies as homosexual (...more as Oueen) celebrates the part. I DONT refuse in normal conversation with him, Im there for him and he knows I will be there for him when he needs someone when everyone else turns about. He knows my belief... he respects it.
I also have a nephew who identifies as gay. I love him TRULY! Since my conversation in Christ he choses to exclude me, but thats ok... but I DONT STOP loving him, because I do love him very much.
Then there is my neice who recently identified as pan sexual. Who I truly hold dear to my heart because she has been through so pain early on.
These family members I love them truly and as I said .... I cannot change their heart to accept the Gospel for that you need the Holy Spirit.
I will be there for them, extend love to them because HONESTLY everyone in this world NEEDS absolution... even I.
I dont know you but Bless you.
Blessings 🕊
@@4thbrooker
Ok. Bless you.
So much wisdom imparted here! Praise God!
Man I love this show♥️♥️♥️♥️
I love that the Christian life is not a multiple-choice exam...
I understand where they are coming from on this issue. It is complicated, to me. Not going to the wedding would impact a parent's relationship with their child, no doubt.
The reason I am conflicted is as Christians, I don't think we apply "sin" the same way. Many people do not want to go to the wedding of a gay couple, but would they have the same reservation if the couple getting married was one Christian and an unbeliever? What about if the Christian was marrying a divorced person who didn't have Biblical grounds for divorce?
Does going to a wedding automatically mean you support the couple's lifestyle? I don't know. But Christians are not calling out sin in an even-handed way. How many Christians are going to baby showers (celebrating a baby) that is conceived outside of marriage? How many Christians are celebrating a couple's engagement while said couple is living together and having premarital sex? How many Christians celebrate a marriage but when asked "should I divorce my spouse" don't ask the hard questions of "what Biblical grounds do you have for divorce?" "I'm not happy" isn't really one of the reasons unless it's because your spouse is beating you up, sexually abusing you or your children, or having an affair.
I think we as Christians do not evenly call our sin.
This is a hard topic. I think most Bible believing Christians struggle with this. Not going to a loved ones wedding because it's a gay wedding would be painful because it would require us to stand for our faith, make a confession, and stand for it even when it is very uncomfortable, but I think what may be missing is standing for Christ and His principles needs to be without hypocrisy. I am a compulsive binge eater and my weight is a dead giveaway that I am a glutton, an out of control glutton. If I claim I cannot go to a gay family members wedding because of "Christ" but then am not actively dealing with my sin of gluttony, then am I just grandstanding with my faith and it's actually not all that genuine? Also, how many Christians do not want to go to the wedding of a gay friend/family member but will think nothing of going to the baby shower of an unmarried friend/family member? Premarital sex is just as bad as homosexuality, but we are not as freaked out about that in the Church. And I am going to harp on compulsive binge eating/gluttony. That is a sin as referenced in the Bible as any sin, but if you notice the general physical appearance of a lot of Americans and Christians, you will see a lot of very obese people, and I do not mean 5-10 pounds overweight. I mean very obese, like 50-100 pounds or more overweight. That is as much of a sin as homosexuality, but it is not as looked down upon as homosexuality. I wonder if that's because a lot more Christians in the church actually struggle with that sin and want more grace in that area? I know I do. I know I say "it's not that bad." When it is that bad. We point fingers at "others" in the church who are "sinning" and say I can't associate with you, I can't go to your wedding because it's a sin, but then we often will turn around and go home and sin behind closed doors with that pesky little sin that we cannot shake. I am a horrible glutton. I do it almost every single day, but I also know I do not want my friends/family to turn away from me because of that sin and I do still sometimes want my family/friends to even walk with me when I sin gluttaneously. Not right, but there you have it.
Wow! Loved both responses and especially appreciated Rosario’s scriptural reference and advice about praying for the situation.
Thankfully I have never been put in this situation but my quick answer would be "no." I do see how this could be very tough and divisive. The only latitude I recall that could warrant a believer in attending such a celebration is when Paul talks about he became all things to all men that he might win few, 1 Cor 9:22.
I’ve been invited before since I have so many gay friends.
I’ve been shocked when they had more respect for my honesty than not. They didn’t appreciate my rejection, but they respected my handling.
I also thought it out well before I was asked initially
Also, my big sister is a formerly professing Christian turned lesbian. I would’ve loved to have declined attending her wedding to her face. She never gave me the choice 😒
Can you offer any advice for those who might need it on how you went about those conversations?
@@ComeOutOfHerMyPeople sure, but as a caveat, they tend to come to me leaving little room for uncertainty.
Otherwise I can explain how I’d go about it if I were to introduce it
Kind of curious why you have “so many gay friends?”
@@sassysandie2865 I’m an evangelist by spiritual gift so many times these ppl come to me. Do u think it’s problematic to have many many unbelieving friends?
Come out of her my ppl, don’t force anything down anyones throat and stick with what God says. Many of these unbelievers will try to mischaracterize what God says or what ur doing to get u to change ur mind or make ur position sound absurd. Stick with what God says and you’ll do fine. This partly makes them have to confront what He says, Isaiah 55:11.
This was so good. I just randomly clicked on it and expected nothing but was so convicted again.
When you three going on tour? Cause I'm gonna go.
I seem like a stalker... but I think he is on tour with a group, can't remember the name, but he mentions it in the video titled The Real Problem with CRT.
I can't be overjoyed by something I cannot agree with. I would have to graciously say thank you for the invite but I cannot attend due to my biblical beliefs.
Perfect answers 🙏💕
Luke 14:26 Whhaaatt? 🤭 I’m glad Rosaria clarified what “hate” means here…! Being a Christian is complicated … glad we have you guys to answer/explain the tough questions. ❤️🇨🇦
Lol....tell them I have covid!😂. Thank you for that. I needed some laughter. I had to tell my brother recently that I couldn't attend his wedding....it was hard n heartbreaking for both of us. I'm grateful and thank my Lord that my brother did not shut the door on me. Yes, God comes above all. I didn't have time to pray and fast...my brother expected an answer asap. I know what the Bible says and thats where my decision came from. I prayed b 4 I talked to my brother and the Lord softened his heart enough to understand my conviction and to allow our relationship to continue.💝. Ive prayed for my brother for a long time and will continue to do so. This show is so valuable to me! Thank you and God bless you all!
I hope your brother is praying for you. Praying you will become less self righteous.
Praying with you 🙏🙏
@@janetkizer5956 the Bible tells us to sanctify ourselves. To live holy and seperate lives. To come out of the world. If that’s your definition of self righteous, fine 🤷♀️
Thank you Becket for your channel. You are truly wonderful. This guest panel is great. I hope you can address my questions. How is going to a gay wedding any different than going to a wedding where the people are totally secular and have been living together? Or pregnant at the wedding? Aren't we approving that lifestyle if we go? Are Christians only supposed to go to weddings where the couple are living a committed Christian lifestyle? If that is the case then we become totally inward with no outreach to a secular world.
That is a good question, Rebekah. I noticed no one responded yet, so I thought I'd share my thoughts based on the passages mentioned in this video in reference to couples with present cohabitation or even fornication. A lack or repentance in the case of proclaimed Christians does bother me, but in this case of a man and a woman getting married he, the image of God and the oneness he designed to reflect His glory is not being defiled.
@@allisonwilson7942
So essentially you think that being gay is somehow worse than everything else.
You can understand why I find that hypocritical.
Weddings are not not have they every been about agreements of all attendants.
Queer people especially are aware that not all of their guests are in favor.
But they know as we all should that attending an event is not an agreement with the values of the event.
Muslims go to Christmas parties and Christians go to the baby shower of unwed mothers.
Refusing participation is just that refusing to be involved at all.
Respectfully decline
That would be awful.
@@nickgagnon3626 It should not be. Each person is the arbiter of his own conscience. His not attending is not an insult to the couple.
Thank you so much for having these conversations.
Wow, this is soo good!
One of your best content thus far..i mean the whole 2-hr conversations with both of your highly inspiring Resource Speakers..Thank u, Becket.
I would pray about it and ask the Holy Spirit. I believe he'd lead different people differently. You wouldn't be there to show approval people will get married whether you're there or not. I think as Christians we need to lean more on God's wisdom and not our own understanding.
The Holy Spirit only and always leads according to scripture
Great content. Important question. I like those answers. I am here for you, I will visit you and support you and your spouse, I will not celebrate your ceremony. We did this for my cousin and she loves us still.
Great input for ANY issue. YOU MUST LOVE YOUR LORD THE MOST. wow that seems so simple, but so I walk that out in everyday life? Obviously I cannot unless I listen to and follow the lead of the Holy Spirit
Family over faith though.
What's wrong with just saying that I can't go because it's offensive to God and my beliefs? We shouldn't be ashamed of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, for it has the power to save our souls. The world is not ashamed of living in sin;
Why should we be ashamed of following Christ and righteousness? Speak the truth in love.
Absolutely! That is the only appropriate response because above all else, we serve God. Living out our commitment to Him in a wishy-washy manner is just BS.
I love these scripture based answers!
So what about people who have lived together and then decide to get married in the church with the white gown and all the hoopla? There’s a side of me that says we should just get married without the government’s involvement just before God and not the government license. I’ve lost confidence in the government the last few years. I have a dear friend who was in her 60’s when she married a man after the death of her first husband. They married with a pastor but didn’t get a marriage license or she would have lost the pension from her first husband. Doesn’t seem right or fair. I realize my comment isn’t about a gay wedding but in the same realm.
Yes, God is the author of marriage, not the state. It isn't necessary.
This is going to go viral
My gay stepson wanted his dad and I to attend his wedding ceremony. My husband met with him privately to tell him because of our relationship with the Lord and our understanding of His word regarding homosexuality and marriage, we would not be able to attend. However, because we love both him and his fiance, nonetheless, we would attend the small reception dinner consisting of mostly family. My husband made it clear neither of us will make any "toast" nor pay for anything except our own meals. No gift of anykind will be given. It has been a very tough decision, but the best we believed was made with regards to our particular
circumstances. Please pray for all. Thank you.
2/22/22
When did Jesus say anything about homosexuality? Why do you think that saying the things you said to your son is somehow going to change his sexuality? Because you're so perfect, or what?
@@janetkizer5956 I'm definitely not perfect, just saved by the precious blood shed for us all by Jesus Christ.
The Bible defines marriage in Genesis 2:24 as a union between one man and one woman. Jesus Christ upholds this definition of marriage in Matthew 19:5, as does the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5:31. Any and all sexual activity which takes place outside of this context is treated as sinful, what Jesus calls ‘sexual immorality’ in Mark 7:21.
@@janetkizer5956 I lived a sinful lifestyle as a heterosexual for many years. I knew it was wrong, but I ignored the truth. God got my attention in an extremely painful way...my eyes were opened to how the way I was living was not honoring God. I repented ( turned away from) the lifestyle which wasn't easy because I was in deep, yet through God's forgiveness, mercy and grace, I got out of the muck and mire. Temptations still arose for quite awhile, but by turning to God each time and asking for His strength, I was able to overcome them. It's only because of Jesus that I am now clean in my conduct!
Praying for you and everyone involved as you walk this difficult path in faithfulness to Christ
@@janetkizer5956 Jesus didn’t come to abolish the law. He came too fulfil it. Just because Jesus didn’t specifically mention homosexuality doesn’t mean it’s admissible. God does not change. He is the same now as in the beginning. What was not permissible back then is still not permissible now. Read Jude. It confirms Sodom and Gomorrah.
If that is a line we will not cross then we need to examine if we would go to a divorced couples wedding or a wedding of the unequally yoked etc as well. ❤
I was invited to a destination wedding of a Buddhist woman with a man who used to be a pastor--he and i used to go to same church before he married,became a pastor. I declined.
@@blancau8223 Right? We can't just pick out one type of wedding and not others, that is being judgmental instead of listening to God in all instances.
@@pepperwell4297 I think we use our judgement God gave us based on the Bible. It is not wrong to judge based on what we pray about and make a decision on based on God's direction.
Yes I agree, the bible does say about divorced people getting re married, you cant just cherry pick
Thanks for the wisdom
One of my former best friends married her girlfriend. Unfortunately, our friendship broke before that so she didn't even invite me. I would not have gone if she would have. The whole thing made me so sad.
Why though? She was your friend.
@@nickgagnon3626 Two girls. Not right. It is sad though, very difficult.
She knew it wasn't right before God and she didn't want me to remind her, that's why she broke off the friendship. However, there also are more layers to this incident, for example she never felt homosexual before but she was very desperate for a romantic relationship and really hungry for physical affection, as she felt rejected by men because of her appearance and when her girlfriend came along and gave her what she longed for, it was a matter of a short time. Maybe she didn't feel understood by me as one of her best friends, and I remember how hurtful this was for both of us. She decided for a lifestyle she wouldn't have chosen if she was healed and whole in her soul. It was hurtful for both sides. Now, it was ten years ago and we both moved on to different federal states.I still hope some day we're going to be able to talk again about this all and I might be able to clarify my position sufficiently as I wished to do before she broke off the friendship.
@@agnesr.4664 + Just keep on praying for her!
@@mitchellr6927 You mean hurtful like your comment is?
What great answers
Great answers, full of Biblical wisdom. Jesus said, he would come to divide families ... He's a jealous God and as painful as some situations can be, We must put our Lord first 💜
Becket, I have recently discovered your show and I have been listening at least two daily. Thank you. I have a question in light of the disturbing things happing in our churches. What are your thoughts on 2 Corinthians 6:14?
“You can just say I have covid” hahah love it 😆
@@4thbrooker it was clearly a joke
WWJD? He wouldn’t align nor would he be celebrating this union. Imagine that?
I think he would.
@@nickgagnon3626 No Jesus called out sin as such. He also affirmed marriage was between a man and a woman. He was timid in calling out sinners. He did not celebrate sin, but did love the sinner.
I totally agree with your position on this as we always go to scripture and put the Lord above all, even family. My question though is...do we do the same with heterosexual marriages with a 2nd (or more) marriage with a previously divorced groom and bride who did not divorce scripturally? (As in their previous spouse did not commit adultery against them.) I've always struggled and wondered about this. If you have time to give your thoughts, would love to hear them. God bless you all!
I’ve been in this situation. My husband’s cousin got divorced and remarried because she cheated on him. I told my husband that, knowing the circumstances under which the first marriage ended, I would not be attending her second wedding.
@@suz2761 thank for your response...wondering how others think or have handled this...
That's a fantastic question. Jesus does say that divorce unto remarriage is adultery in Matthew 19, Mark 10, and Luke 16:18. He gives adultery as the only reason for a legitimate divorce, but he doesn't say it's permission to remarry in either 3 gospels for either party. With that said, I would either not attend an adulterous wedding altogether, or I would go with a second witness...Deuteronomy 19 and 2nd Corinthians 13 call for 2 or 3 to establish a matter. I'd wait for the officiate to ask for objections and then we'd kindly appeal to the scriptures so others can hear God's word. And, leave.
@@marriage4life893 tks for your response. I will look up the scriptures you mentioned. I have never been to any wedding though where the officiate asks for any objections. I imagine this used to be done in the past but I've never seen this.
@@TheLucyBetsy You're welcome.
Wow! When did officiates stop asking for objections before proceeding with weddings? That has to be really recent. Or, some do and some don't, maybe? Either way, they couple would know why I wouldn't be attending, assuming I was even invited. But even John the Baptist lost his head for speaking out against the incestuous marriage of Herod and Herodias. So, speaking out against unlawful marriages can be costly... and keep in mind, John was addressing them probably some time after they divorced their spouses, and married each other.
Another interesting point is when you read the genealogy of Christ in Matthew 1, it reads as follows:
and Jesse the father of David the king. And David was the father of Solomon by the wife of Uriah,
Matthew 1:6
Isn't it interesting that even Christ's genealogy refers to Solomon as David's son but by the wife of Uriah? It still calls Bathsheba Uriah's wife. 🤔
Blessings to you!
The more you have to resist is the more you can show true Love! At judgment day they will see the existent of your love
Agree with Rosario. Christian life is not multiple choices.
Good idea . Not going to the Wedding. But definitely stay in their life . Do not cut them off always love .
Love your lord the most ! Beautiful
All is hard
No you should go to their wedding.
@WTFW No Im curious why people are knocking their families.
@@nickgagnon3626 We’re likewise curious as to why you’re knocking God, the owner of your soul.
@@suz2761 I was not.
@@nickgagnon3626 Dear Nick, you may not believe that you are knocking God, but practically speaking, you are. You are “knocking” Him out of His position as Lord. In the hierarchy of authority, for you, family > God. You are saying that it is preferable to disobey God if that's what makes your family happy. That is neither logical nor practical.
Do you always acquiesce to the desires of your family (even if you disagree) on even trivial matters because “family first”? Of course, you don’t. How much more then for the Christian on matters where Scripture has specifically called a particular behavior a sin?
Agree. Wise words.
I have not been in this situation as to whether or not to attend a the wedding of a gay person but I have been in almost every other situation with my children. Two of my children were extremely strong willed. Youth pastors are always coming up to me and asking me how I raised such great kids.One thing was getting my kids involved in a church that takes God seriously but also keeps them so busy having fun activities that they don’t have time to get into trouble. Another was, when my son stole we got the police involved. We had a policeman explain to him the consequences of stealing. He was five. We told him that if he stole we would not bail him out. Having said that I knew when to go light. There was a time when my son needed a ride to school. He was demanding one. I told him there was a please in there somewhere. He said he did not have to say please because it was a school activity. I calmly looked at him and say to those there “Monopoly anyone?”
He did smile then… but he also said please. I have had different issues with all of my children. I tell them once that they are wrong but in saying that I say “you are better than this decision” that gives them no way of saying “I would have listened if you had said it nicer”
That is a brilliant phrase, “You are better than this decision.” It denounces the bad behavior while separating it from the the person who has the power to make it. In fact, it magnifies the value of the person. I love it.
@@suz2761 thanks! 😊
I went to a gay marriage of an anesthetist and a finance manager who were both Christians. I worked as a Baptist Pastor and Missionary before retiring. I do NOT judge others but I love those two men dearly. Their deep love for one another is something that God has done. Not a doubt. Loving committed monogamous same sex marriage for life is not condemned in the Bible anywhere. I strongly support gay marriage.
really ? ? ? Why do you buy into the circular reasoning of the gays self proclaiming authority that God must surely approve of their "love" ?? by saying you "do not judge" does not extricate you from telling the truth of Gods word. Be it Leviticus or Romans 1:24-25. Truth is not to be hid . Isaiah said "woe to those who call evil good and good evil ...who put darkness for light and light for darkness, . . . ." "woe to those who re wise in their own eyes....." Isa 5:20-21 Gods words to Ezekiel, to be a Watch man and to warn the wicked to turn from their ways lest they die in their iniquity. God also told Ezekiel if you dont warn them HE would require their blood at his hands.
Yes, love your friends, but do not withhold the truths from Holy God , or God will require it at your hands at judgment. Go and tell them the truth of Gods word, and do so with love, meekness and fear.
Wow…
I agree with these answers.
Great wisdom here.
Even in a hetero marriage, I was never told to ask God for my spouse. Imperative!
This is a situation that I'm thinking I will have to face in the future unfortunately.
Family first.
@WTFW Cults? of family's?
Becket! I am curious if your parents allowed your partners to come to family events like Christmas, weddings of siblings, etc. What are your thoughts on that? To me it sets a non-Christian example, especially to children that may be attending. Consider this as a future video topic.
I don't want to quote him but he has discussed this topic in a few videos. He did say that one Christmas he did bring home a boyfriend but they were not allowed to stay in the same room. Rosaria also discusses this in other videos that are posted of her speaking. I am reading her book The Gospel Comes With A House Key, just got, but within the first few pages, I already HIHGLY recommend! She says We must show grace to ALL, sin is the problem. She obviously says it WAY better. Encourage you to find as much as you can from these 3! Also, maybe read Christopher's book Out Of A Far Country! GRACE is JUST GRACE. NOT approval.
Shouldn’t catch your kids or your family members off guard. If you raise your kids to understand that gay relationships are not allowed and that if they decided to pursue one it would be a goodbye to dad and mom, there is not only NO surprise about a gay wedding…there is also a strong deterrent for even the consideration of homosexuality. We don’t even attend second weddings if the previous one did not have Biblical grounds for ending. And yes, that means we haven’t been invited to a wedding in well over a decade.
Well said.
I am with you on all of this - but if someone asked, "Well what about a wedding with people who lived together before the ceremony?" Should we have the same response since it is also willful lifestyle sin as well? ...of course then that all can get nuisanced into other ways but what do you think?
As always, Rosaria is the GOAT.
No....Stand by scripture. It's OK to stand on your convictions. There will be fall out but the approval of the "world" is not what we are looking for.
Loved ones over scrpiture.
@WTFW Like I said, Im curious on why people put religion over loved ones. Its a different upbring than I got.
@@nickgagnon3626 it has been explained to you multiple times. Stop trolling.
@@nickgagnon3626 it's not about religion, it's about the truth. I'm a follower of Christ. I know God's word is the truth. I choose eternal life. It's simple. I still love my family, but that doesn't mean I break my covenant with God. I want them all to have eternal life. God bless and keep you. 🙏
Absolutely decline... in love.
That not love at all.
@@nickgagnon3626 then you don't know what love is.
@@nickgagnon3626 if your child was about to run out into traffic or put their hand on a hot stove would you stop them? It is not loving to allow your child to physically harm themselves. Same thing spiritually. It is not loving to allow them to engage in ongoing sin. That would be damage to their soul and relationship with God. It may seem loving to look the other way, but it is not.
On this topic, I want to put my head in the sand, Becket. Our daughter's best friend is planning to marry her girlfriend (they've been together several years and they are both good people). This stuff is hard! (That was all rhetorical and I know I am sounding like a cowardly weasel.) Love you, Becket. XOXO
There has been quite the kerfuffle this week about Alistair Begg approving of attending a gay wedding and even to bring a gift. Hope there is more discussion about this.
Prayed for you today. Best to you
Love your show! I’m just curious. I’m a believer and I ask this with humility. Would you have the same answer if it was not a gay couple, but unequally yoked?