The real effects of single-parent households | Stephanie Gonzalez | TEDxCarverMilitaryAcademy
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
- Stephanie isn't in denial, the stats for single parents and child with single parents are pretty grim. Stephanie shares her story of overcoming those odds.
Stephanie Gonzalez is a 16 year old who grew up and was raised in Chicago by her single mother and older brother. She is an honor roll student who constantly tries to do her best in everything she does just for the sake of self achievement. She has a great fascination for music and art. Stephanie always liked to learn new things. She plans to go to college and graduate.Stephanie will speak from personal experience of growing up in a single parent home and why our culture needs to reconsider the way we perceive single parents.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
The biggest problem with relationships is that people are selfish. Period
The current state of "relationships"
Hook-up culture and selfish behaviour of women in relationships causes alot of damage.
Selfishness is not a problem until you allow the state point guns at people via the curse of democracy
Facts
With social media definitely
As a man, I would be a completely different person without my dad. I love my mom, and in a lot of a ways I'm closer to her than I am my dad. But my dad directed me on the right path when I was a teen, and I don't think anyone else could have. The inconvenient truth is kids need both parents in their life. The best advice I could give my kids is graduate high school, don't believe the lie that is most social media, and don't have kids before you're married.
Great for you, but if a dad is a useless man who can't teach anything other than drink beer, fart, burp? I think is better to be without them. Sad they don't show their true colors until there are kids involved.
@@amadahycatori6198 Some research says that children of single moms who have a good uncle/grandpa/male role model may be better off than if dad is physically present yet emotionally absent
But involved male presence is important
BTW fact I think is interesting- babies, even newborns, respond differently to male touch than they do female touch. Female touch makes heart rate go down & is relaxing/ calming whereas male touch causes heart rate to increase & is exciting
Having a biological father and mother is written in the Holy Bible. Our creators words speak *TRUTH*
@@three5581 an abusive, violent, or oppressive man is of no benefit in that aspect to family or society. If he is held accountable and in check by other men, then that is a different kettle of fish. Then his good efforts will still bare fruit. It takes a village, a village that requires accountability.
True. And if the father is a drug dealer and a pimp... def much better for the kid to be raised without him.
The real effect of growing up in a single parent household, a mother who never got over my father, whom I never met, was I grew up without a compass. And at 37, still am looking for one.
continueprisoner Amen. I had no skills and each choice was a random guess.
Not good odds.
Yo soy tu Papi wey.
You men are a bunch of bigots! How come nobody criticizes the single dad that left the children behind?? Everyone always puts the blame on women! As if men are the innocent ones!
@@strawberriesblueberries2258
Because it isn't always the case,
Often (and I mean QUITE often) the woman is denying the father visitation and then calling him a deadbeat.
@@strawberriesblueberries2258 Lol no..they don't. You only perceive it that way through the lens of your own emotions & bias.
Lots of truth in this TED, yet I must say I lead such a peaceful, happy life with my 6 year old girl, our dog and the wonderful friends we have surrounded ourselves with. Single moms out there, be positive, invest in your emotional health. No one ever dreams of being a single parent, but if it happens to you, be strong and don't give up. God's grace is abundante. "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."
God never advocated for single mothers 😂
@@Juan-zk3dl if he didn’t they wouldn’t exist.
Good luck, I hope you and your child do well.
I got custody of my older daughter when she was young. Her mother was nuts, totally nuts, now lives in homeless shelters, hopelessly bipolar. I poured effort in my kid, since her mother was dysfunctional. She has turned out very well; has 2 of her own kids; very happily married.
Your daughter is blessed to have you.
I'm in the same boat with 3 girls and I needed to read this. It's so very tough and I'm a veteran.
they say kids have more chances to turn out great with only a dad than a mom. Kids are more scared to dissapoint their dad.
I lived with a hospital trauma victim. She was cut open with no painkillers and a baby was taken out of her. She went into shock. She heard the ssurgeons deciding she was not going to live and the tied her up with rope, whelled her into a room on her own and left her to die, with a curtain pulled around the bed. That was in 1972 during a nurses srtike. She was supposed to be taking tranquilisers, but she stopped as soon as we were married. She could become manic at one wrong word. It must have been a nighmare for you. The pre judgement is they will be better off with the mother. They overlooked a major variable by the looks of it, in your case.
I also am a veteran.@@jacobconner6506
It's nice to see the world at large taking a second look at divorce and all the shit that brings. I myself am the child of a poor, white, hippie household and my childhood pretty much ended with my parents divorce. Imagine what it's like with not 1 but 2 single parent households struggling to make ends meet and hoping to their sacrifices lead to something better. Now throw in childhood videogame escapism, poor parenting skills which came from 2 brokenish households, being anti-social and emotionally withdrawn from living in the middle of nowhere, AND being uttely unable to talk to your parents about your parents because you'd either be A) criticizing either of the persons you singularly depend on for their actions when you know they don't need any more problems like your complaints or B) telling one about the other's life which might lead to various forms of harassment/legal bs.
This conversation is nearly 20 years overdue for me, and im glad that the middle class is getting so squeezed by everything that it's forcing them to take another look at the poor people already underwater.
This girl is only 16. She can't possibly know that she's "fine" without her dad. It leaves a hole in your life. She won't understand this until much later.
She is doing fine at a very difficult age. Good enough - to cope whatever may come up later (maybe with therapy later). Children can deal with adversity (and affluent kids in homes where the parents stay married can also be in dire need of therapy, the dysfunction is just different and the challenges are different).
Idk she is focusing on all the negative aspects of single parenting so, maybe she’s not really all that “fine”
This is true. Typically, women raised by single moms end up continuing the pathology.
@@brandonhanner5525 So...is it inevitable that MEN who had absentee fathers continue to be absent from their own children's lives, or is it a choice?
@@brandonhanner5525 not if they break the cycle.
im a dad, I work and my kids are proud of me...
Luis Castillo and you should be proud of you too !
Great
It's kinda what you're supposed to do.
That’s a good thing. I wish people would reward women for working for their kids too; instead of being put down all the time.
Im not in prison and my parents are proud of me.
As a kid I never thought family impacted my life. Now I'm 24 and I only noticed dysfunctional relationships in my past. I grew up with my mother only, as a girl. I noticed letting myself being used in relationships like my mother was. I have zero notion what is being friends with a guy. I never saw my parents even talking to eachother. My father impregnated my mother and threw her away. The problem was she always acted like that was ok, it was normal to be treated like that.
She acted like it was normal because this was part of the plan. A lot of women now a days want to have it all. They want to have the kids and be able to still date other men and have fun. It is hard for me as a guy because I keep meeting women who just want to have kids but not really interested in a relationship. Too many women are like con artist now a days.
Girl, please disregard the guy who made offensive (and quite clearly erroneous) assumptions about your mother. Regarding what you shared, thank you, and I am so sorry that you're struggling. What you do have going for you is remarkable self-awareness. Perhaps the next step is utilizing this awareness to make positive changes in your life? While it's true that our upbringing strongly influences our behavior into adulthood, too often we minimize the control and independence that we do have over our own lives. Perhaps you could generate some short-term goals and decide what feasible actions you can take to achieve them.
PearlyJamx congrats on another successful sugarcoating of the truth about women. You do your sisters proud and make the world just that little bit worse in the future, but a bit more feelgood in the present.
Me too. This is also my story.
Maximus Prime DO NOT GIVE EM KIDS
alot of women i know told me they never had their father in their life because the mom ran them away , and i have heard this more then u can ever imagine .
kody scot
Do you notice how society ignores that? They just call men deadbeats!
I tried to stay with a girlfriend and help raise her daughter, but she undermined me everytime I disciplined her daughter Also, she was very poor at managing money. Therefore,. I STAY AWAY from single moms. Many have emotional problems.
This is what they call feminism and materialism
@@cwazychik it has.nothing to do with feminisam or materialism children's can be happy or sad in a single parenting household personally I know lot of people who are happy at the same time lot of people who are sad all people don't have same experience
Sometimes is to protect the kids😮 there are parents that do more arm than good
People are totally missing the point when it comes to single parenthood. In reality it's not two parents versus one parent but support versus lack of support. Children need many caregivers and role models. Even two parents are not enough and economy makes it hard for parents to find time for their children.
A single parent household which is financially stable and has benefit of support of extended family and comunity is way better for a child then two parent household which is isolated, financially deficient and where parents struggle with mental health, stress and relationship problems.
The focus should be not on constant pointing out disadvantaged of single parenthood but on making our society more supportive of families and children in general. It does take a village to raise a child.
Excellent comment!
Paraphrasing and repasting on toxic single parent videos
Yes and no. Your parents are your DNA and who you are. Kids need support but they need to watch how their real parents cope and handle the world. My father told me one time he believes its better to have a bad father then no father at all. You lose your compass in life.
Hilltop Street
If a child's parents are violent, abusive, criminal, or sabotage their children's education they do not deserve a pat on the back.
Innocent children are being ruined that are going to grow up mentally ill or criminal with that same excuse you just shared.
yea there is a small percentage of that. But lets face it it is just divorce and one partner getting tired of the other which breaks up families and 70 percent of divorces are initiated by the wife. After that they use their child as a tool to manipulated and get revenge upon the husband they don't love anymore. I've seen case after case of this.
While this is total true the problem is also. Most single parents are Single because of SELFISH reasons even Financial reasons. It is sad when its possible to have a better outcome financial being single parent then with two. Law make this possible and many *ahem* single mothers abuse this law ALLOT. I see it everywhere i go.
I think that the use of students for a Ted Talk is a great format to teach public speaking and to tell their stories.
They are made for teenagers.
I was so happy when my parents divorced! Fear became smaller. It started to be much more easier but was still difficult. I'm proud of my mother she had enought strenght to divorce my father.
Yeah my daugther disliked when I left because it was just me and her… I always wanted 2 children but her dad was very verbally abusive he would randomly try to argue with me everywhere we went and try to curse me out I left after 1 year my daugther is now 15 .. she’s never been in a two parent household and I grew up in a two parent household my whole life my parents were married 40+ before my mom passed .. but I realized when she was 1 that this was not going to be end well… and I decided that I didn’t want to have anymore kids because of the stress and anxiety of a full time stressful job that pays well I am perpetually exhausted but that’s the way it is till she reaches 21
Or mothers keep the father away through parental alienation.I pay support ,Medical insurance. I am refused parenting time with my children. For doing nothing more than leaving our abusive relationship. My punishment, no parenting time, not a picture, not a phone call nothing except the bill. I dont know what they look like if they re safe. Some of us want to be fathers and be loving and supportive. These Family courts are abusive and destroy families
100% agree
I hate to hear that
Keep trying bro, and pray. Those children will find out what happened to them and may want to repair or establish that relationship later in life.
THE 1 sorry to hear your story. I was faced with the same situation after escaping an abusive relationship. I was almost robbed of the joys of fatherhood like many other men are. But I got one lucky chance, she made a mistake, I gave it everything, and I gained full custody. There is nothing more rewarding than being given the chance to be a dad. So never give up brother and when your chance comes then take it!
That's sad I keep doors open for the father and he refuses to grow up now I'm stuck but not complaining
Her friend was not depressed because he had one parent...he was depressed because he LOST a parent.
I have witnessed my parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends divorce in high numbers. All I have been exposed to is drama, fights over money and material possessions.
Because of this I don't believe in marriage and starting a family. Just too traumatized of the idea of marriage. If you want to learn the root cause of single parenthood, look at monetary policy, feminism's unintended consequences, divorce courts money making industry and many other factors to fuel single parenthood.
Hey, you are right on that. I just wanted to add something. My parents are not the great example in that area either. They are great parents, but not in the way I would dream to be as a couple with my future husband. I have seen multiple divorce, separations, etc too. But all those bad examples helps me to do not commit the same mistakes that they did. I have faith in God that my marriage will be different. That I will find the right person and bring a happy (as possible) family to the world. I understand how you think, my family was kind of broke up for money too. Its just a thought. God bless you.
im so sorry :(
I've experienced the same experience plus some drug abuse. I've used this experience to better understand what is wrong and right. I grew up up moving every two years all in the same city with a single mom,on and off welfare and drugs and different boyfriends and no father.
Now I'm 30, with two babies, my wife stays home with them, no daycare, we don't fight in front of the children and they will have 30 acres in the country to always call home, I will be a rock in the storms rather than have them think they need to fight life on their own. After an adolescence that saw me be an angry and rebellious boy, making all the errors any grown man could've warned me of. Because of this, my kids will have guidance and know they won't have to figure out all their problems on their own because daddy might have some experience on the matter.
Blaming bad marriages on feminism ... so somewhere along the way you also learned that it’s a woman’s fault.
go mgtow!
Imagine growing up with a single parent and no siblings. Talk about loneliness
TheSnowFoxParty I would love it
TheSnowFoxParty I think it’s a beautiful thing
Ugh. Especially of your parent gets remarried.
*Immediate neglect*
My life pretty much... LONLINESS
@York Hunt Invalid argument. Some people thrive in such environments, others not so much or not at all. We don't share the same genes. Science of behavioral biology has sown evidence of this.
Being a lone parent myself, I have far too much put on me and I would be a much better parent if I had support from another parent.
I’m sure my daughter would prefer to have two good parents to have her back and support her.
However, two bad parents or toxic people aren’t good and one good parent is better than adding a toxic one.
There are days when I feel I’m pushed to my mental limits. It’s not just financially, it’s having support emotionally and physically.
May you continue to have the strength and be blessed with good health both mental and physical. 🙏🏼
@@joshnippleton3449 thank you
You're doing amazing. If the love is genuine there is nothing better for your child.
I come from a 2 parent household and i couldnt be more damaged. My father was neglectful and now im finding out he has another family over seas, which he visits once in a few years. Its almost like a movie, he apparently makes hundred thousands of dollars and has a company in his home country. Meanwhile our family over here was under the pretense we were struggling. Having a dad that didnt care about me (his son) and has his energy placed elsewhere has done more harm than good.
I say that story to tell you, the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Your child will love you to the moon and back for the sacrifices you make for them. Life will be tough, it always is. But to show them a genuine connection is something that will make them grow. You are an awesome person
@@izzyDbuzzin thank you for sharing your story.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. 🫶
Right there with you. Better one healthy one than two in a toxic environment, we do not live in a perfect world so let’s stop making each other feel badly about not meeting “ideal” situations. This is over the top grim.
Wish , I had a Father. I’m 42
Wish I had one too. I'm 27.
be the father you always wanted, it's the closest we can get to that bond.
I was an only child , with a single mother ,seven half siblings that I never got to know. ( They were all overseas. ) All my mother would do is leave me with babysitters and relatives growing up, ( she worked 2 jobs to keep up with the mortgage .) and date various men who would all end up leaving . I felt very unsafe and uncomfortable growing up by never having any stability or time to talk, or bond, also, I never witnessed what a healthy family dynamic was nor what a healthy parental role models were . Because she wasn't there half the time. I find it difficult to connect with anyone or trust anyone because even though my dad was absent , she would break every promise she had to me and couldn't wait until I left home at 18. This might sound horrible but Britney Spears comes to mind when I think of " individualiatic " parents. She might be great in her career, and maybe even be a decent human being but certainly not a good parent. Humans care for their young the longest in the mammalian family and I think some people just aren't born to be parents .
You just gave a good reason for the reluctance.
What is the goal of this TEDTalk? Is it to demonstrate that fathers are not needed? On that question, the verdict is in. Children raised in single parent households headed by mothers have catastrophically worse outcomes than two parent households and, more significantly, catastrophically worse than single parent households headed by fathers. The rates of adverse interactions with the law, violent tendencies, imprisonment, running away from home, teenage pregnancies, drug addiction, high school dropout rates, homelessness, and suicides are significantly worse when a child is raised in a home by a single mother. Not a little bit worse, dramatically worse. Astonishingly worse. Because the statistics do not favor single parent households led by mothers, instead of attempting to address this fact directly, the woke mob decided to try to engender sympathy and widespread acceptance for households lead by single mothers by putting a sweet 16 year old girl on stage so we could watch her limp through a scripted monologue about how her life isn’t so bad. This seems to me to be an implicit request that we all engage in willful blindness and pretend that we don’t see the catastrophic effect on the social and economic outcomes of the children raised in fatherless households and ultimately on society at large. I am not willing to close my eyes and pretend that everything is OK. The war on men and the expulsion of fathers from the lives of their children by fickle ex-wives and divorce court judges will be our undoing as a nation. The very fabric of our society will unravel if we keep this up. And with that in mind, it is absolutely horrifying to watch this 16 year old girl try to persuade an audience that her absentee father has not had an adverse impact on her life. From her soliloquy, we are supposed to extrapolate that fathers are simply unnecessary. I notice that this video was posted in 2015. I would like to hear a postscript, how has her life turned out? Now that she’s 24 years old, how are things going for her? That is the litmus test. Let her come back to the TEDTalk stage and provide us all with an epilogue telling us all about her happily ever after. I don’t wish her ill, but if she’s supposed to set an example for how children raised in fatherless households can and will thrive, then let’s see how things have turned out for her. And then we can draw conclusions.
*Long read*
Interesting read
*But pretty spot on*
Well said..!
Single parent is not an easy job... Why this kids now a days only mind themselves..their emotions etc. Did you ever thought about your parent especially single mom doing everything she can to provide you everything... The 9mos of carrying you on her womb afraid everything that might happen to you...the sleepless night when you want to have milk... The stress of the bills, your future, your health and her job... A single mom who got pregnant without a responsibility of a father...or divorce mother.... We forget about our own self since the first time we hear your heartbeat...it is not always about your selves... Did you ever ever had any idea where we stand right now..???did you ever understand us????and i know each of any of us single parent ..we love our children more than any one else...proud single mom here...
This is part of America's (and the world's) problem today...……. too many single parent homes...…… too many young ladies getting pregnant, for one reason or another, too many dad's leaving their families, too many people on drugs,,,,,, reason after reason......… and making their life 100 times more difficult...… we should applaud the kids who grow up with one parent and work hard and become successful!! Parents need to be parents!! We adults need to step up!! Best of Luck to all.
I'd change my username if I were you
How do people explain the drop in the violent crime rate since the 90s even as single family households grew as a percentage? Conservatives who blame single moms for violent crime can never seem to fit that square into a round peg.
Henlo. I am only child, single mother.
I never realized how difficult chasing my dreams, and trying to gain financial stability on my own and for both of us.
I feel majorly diminished because Im having a difficult time finding that balance.
How come people praise single fathers and not single mothers? I praise both!
Who praises single fathers? First of all single fathers are so rare since women automatically get custody, and they prolly get praised because the mother passed away or left which means he deserves praise. Mothers are usually single mothers because they are selfishly trading their kids stability and future for a child support check
@@observer_underobservation3753 I'm a single mother, the father of my child left me when she was born and moved to another country - Never asked for a penny from him. So no, single mothers are not just in for the money. I never planned on my partner of many years to left me after we spoke a lot about having a baby - Don't speak about a situation you don't know and make generalities because it's easier and reassuring for you - Some men aren't capable of taking their responsibilities and this is the issue.
Ahem... first and foremost it’s quite obvious that every situation is different. I thought this goes without saying... for the women who are single mothers because the MAN left/was abusive/a dead beat. I’m not talking about you, obviously. I’m very aware of my situation so I can talk about it. But back to my point, a great majority of women from western cultures are rewarded financially/morally when they “HIJACK” full custody, again if this isnt you, then there’s no need to be offended
All i ever see or hear is praise for single moms. Even deadbeat drug addict moms....What universe are you living in?!
Charles Coe that’s a lie; all through out CZcams I see people putting down single moms
It makes me angry and sad that conservatives talk about single moms in a bad light, and then blatantly say they would not raise kids that are not of their own. Some kids need a father figure, how are they suppose to find one? What are your solutions?
Why should they be forced to do it? It's the child's parent's responsibility to find a suitable partner in the first place . Widows excluded
Imagine saying conservatives just believes this LOO
I'm a singke dad with full blown custody begging for their mom to spend more time with them, she always says no im just folloing a court order, wich breaks a daddy's heart, so how do I become that role modes when you've continously get shut down by the system.
Now you know how single moms feel.
I'm dealing with the same stuff now I'm tired
Same here I’m a single father with full custody having a custody battle with the unstable mother as long as the kids grandparents are in their life they’ll be fine
Luis Castillo I’m sorry to hear that
@@charlessncharge4920 A lot of single moms use the kids against their exes, women still have better custody rights, at least in america, which makes one part able to abuse the system to get back at their ex. In Denmark we made a change in the system because of this, it automatically gives both genders 50/50 rights, unless of course one of the two are mentally unstable etc. It has shown to give kids are more stable upbringing with less cases of mental problems, and better functioning adults. If you are a really strong parent, a very solid person and have a good village, yes then it can work too. But it still wont be the same, as kids need that love and support every day. And women and men do bring something different to the table, however, like i said if you have a good extended family, it can still work out, but they have to be very very involved. I just really despise what we see in especially america, where become a single mom being hailed as strong and powerfull, it is just pure insanety. The stats very clearly show how many problems the are at risk of getting. It is especially important if it is baby boy that you get to have a strong male role model, and the reverse for baby girls. The problems get even worse if their kids repeat the same pattern, and have kids on their own again, then the extended family is not there anymore.
To Luis, best luck to you mate, if you can find a woman with a good character, then it would be okay to get her in to your life. If not, then i would stay single if i was you, until the kids are older. The same i would say to single moms. I hope you have a strong family that can help you out. I am sorry to hear you had kids with a woman who completely disengages, best to just move on from her, and not get your kids involved in such a woman, it is not healthy for the kids.
kudos to you Stephanie for your bravery and honesty towards this fragile topic. your mom should be proud to have done a awesome job without the help of a father. she has done more than some mothers who have the support of the father parent. keep striving Stephanie!! #celebratingYOU
Not really a great talk imho. She could have focused on more important consequences. Sure, taking care of younger brothers and sisters may impose a sense of responsibility upon older siblings, however, being obligated to mature without anyone to look up at its way harder. This complicates even more when the child lives in a chaotic household.
MastaKneeGrow323 Correlation is not causation
@@shane8791 those kids do not have any good role models
telling a kid in a single parent home to just not listen make good choices and succed is like telling a drug addict to just say no, it completely ignores all the causal factors psychological and environmental..
Can I just say that there is a lot of negative representations of single parenting but there are instances such as me and my mum we have a great relationship and I'd say I'm not too messed up or at least not from not having a dad.
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 congrats to your mom❤
It’s great that this young lady has a lot going for herself despite her disadvantages, but single parenting is never a good idea, no matter how many “Cinderella” stories are out there. The truth is that not having a father in your life leaves a void, whether we want to admit it or not, that we try to fill the rest of our lives. Sometimes we find closure. Now, this is not to say that as an individual you will fail in life because your father was absent...but it takes an emotional toll on us...course we grow up and embark in raising families of our own, and even become good parents, despite our upbringing, and we compartmentalize our “daddy” issues, because what else can we do. Life goes on, but the damage (and the caliber varies) has already been done.
I know from experience.
Me too. My mother died when I was 12. Then my Dad tried to abandon me when I was 16. When I was 29 I tried to get to know what kind of man he actually was. Without formally making an apology for his lousy parenting, he hoped my siblings and I could get past his lousy treatment, and confessed at 62 he was still trying to figure out who he was. 1-2020 and I've attained the same age he was when he died (69.6), and finally have a handle on what his life was really like for him behind all the prevarication and posturing. Took years of studying his autobiography and other family histories. And just about as long to purge the effects of his "parenting" from my life. The party ain't over yet, either.
But single parenting is not a choice people make. The circumstances and environment is what makes single families.
How about having an abusive narcissistic father, would you have preferred that?
@@RojaRoseMathew circumstances is one thing, "environment" seems more appropriate for lesser creatures, say "beasts", which we humans are not. And in the end, for functioning humans it is always a choice.
@V F so narcissistic mentality abusive and manipulative mothers get a pass?
things are better with two parents more money or more encouragement. single parent households do not mean doom for kids
ASMR sounds SJ two parents always fight and get divorced
@@strawberriesblueberries2258 Only if they are horrible ppl, or one is impossible. If you are normal in the head you will figure out a way to give the kid equal time with both parents. Studies here in Denmark show the new rules which gives automatic 50/50 custody shows kids become more stable mentally, have less mental issues and go to achieve better in life.
@dingleberries It will if there are two chiefs trying to run the tipi. If there is yin/yang worthy balance, then teamwork makes the dream work. Unfortunately women don’t pick the best partners and are encouraged by western society to divorce and collect financially & sympathetically
Observer_Under Observation a lot of men aren’t good partners. It’s slim pickings out there.
@@strawberriesblueberries2258 absolutely. They say outcomes are better... The chances increase of success but this doesn't mean it isn't possible
I wish I had a father growing up, my mom is insecure who doesn’t like me growing up in life. I’m glad I left and got a happy life.
Women hold back boys from becoming men to control them. Its been that way since the day I was born. My mother would only let me do things her way, which made me into a weak, confused, hesistant boy, who later would be full of anger and rage. Even after the age of 18 she would still try to control. Her main weapon: shame. I packed my things, left the state, moved far away stopped answering her texts, calls, and it was like my life began finally. I will not talk to her again in the lifetime, its been 3 years and they have been the best 3 years of my life, although they have not been easy as I have grown and with growth Ive had to awknowledge what I was, what I am now and how far I have to go to get where I'm going.
Women do not hold back boys from being men... if your take on what it means to be a man is toxic masculinity: avoiding emotions etc that’s not what being a man is about... maybe your mom was simply just a narcissist idk bc many parents are. But the worlds view of masculinity is very flawed it creates selfish robots essentially. when I think of what it means to be a man I look at all the characteristics yeshua (Jesus Christ) had and frankly non of those exist in society’s concept of masculinity...
@@mayao5685 He is speaking from experience and it is a more common comment among men coming from single mother households.
A man with emotional intelligence is simply a response to what happens when a man is emotion. Emotional men get treated a weak and undesirable. No man just wakes up one day and strives to achieve "toxic masculinity" men just grow to see that being emotional doesn't solve problems. As a man we can't afford to be emotional, it doesn't solve anything.
Nonetheless, if a man in today's society did exist with the characteristics of Yahshua, do you really think he would want a modern day woman?
Single mothers control anyone in their reach, not only boys.
Thank you, that was very brave, I doubt I could have been so honest at your age. I'm sure your talk helped so many people. Whatever good you do, you will find benefits you.
❤️
Hahahaaa...the best kids I have ever met that came from single parent homes, were raised by Dad. The worst come from homes where only Mom and her continual stream of boyfriends are present.
@@dsangel4135 Made my point clear as day. How is your reading comprehension?
@Selim Sultan Akbar What is up Akbar?
@Selim Sultan Akbar Well Akbar; you may be right about that.
Peak Generalization
For a wonderful time in my life I interacted with many children. On occasion I saw a child needed some "daddy"time' the signal could be behavioral, stuttering, lisping or something equally insignificant. I had three of my own but would wait till I could give that child my exclusive time. It always helped.
The incentives for both divorce and single motherhood are too high and the consequences are too low. Until these dynamics change, expect more of the same negative perceptions about single mothers. Also, contrary to the mass media and what feminist and women's orgs maintain, the vast majority are not victims, but single moms by choice.
Or, they are women who have been let down by men in the past, wanting to shelter their kids from that same disappointment. They are women who crave control, due to a lack of control they felt at some point. Being a single parent is a huge responsibility that no woman would want to take on alone unless she didn't have another option, or the alternative options were worse. The problem is that many dads just don't feel the same sense of duty and obligation to their children that mothers do. They can easily walk away with only their own guilt punishing them, while a woman who drops a baby off at the fathers house without his consent is likely to face criminal charges.
+Ash O I disagree with the notion that fathers generally don't have a sense of duty and obligation to take care of their children. But I would concede that there are definitely men who are not fathers by choice and so their sense of obligation may be in question ( he doesn't believe he is the father ) or diminished as a result. Unfortunately you are incorrect about men being able to easily walk away Scott free of any obligation. Wage garnishment (debt slavery) and imprisonment await such men. She only need report it. As far as being single mothers, women have all of the rights, powers and resources associated with that outcome, while men have none. Men can certainly mutilate themselves (vasectomy), which given the extent of open female hypergamy being so in fashion today, I can only highly recommend. As for single mother disappointment,what else is new?It never ceases to amaze the readiness of women to shed their own ownership of poor decisions in selecting substandard sexual mates.
There are consequences to not securing the male's commitment before having children. But those consequences for women are comparatively light since the federal and state government will provide her money, resources and legal assistance to extract maximum value and resource from the father, even if he is not the biological father,as many recent state cases have revealed. The live-in cohabitating boyfriend will often do just fine in such cases, whether he likes it or not. He will be helpless to stop it.
In broader terms the indictment against men being commitment phobes and reluctant fathers is unproven. Most marriages (60%) end in divorce filed by the wife no fault (79%). Her disappointment in him is irrelevant. She is content to rip the family and children apart on her whim. So who are the long term commitment phobes?
+mfriedrich2012 I think you are grossly underestimating the amount of men who know they are fathers, yet do not play a role in raising their kids, either because they feel it is a woman's duty, or because of their own insecurities and fears. Also, money does not raise a kid. While child support offers some relief of burden, the responsibility of raising a well adjusted and successful child is immense. Fathers today often right a check to the mother, and act as if they've fulfilled all their obligations. What they're really doing is just paying someone else to raise their kid.
+mfriedrich2012 I understand what you're saying. However, many of these men know damn well who their children are. But you have to love and respect yourself before you can show that love and respect to your kids. A lot of these men have low self esteem and mess around with these women they have no intentions of staying with just to make themselves feel important. Then a kid comes along and they realized they messed up. At this point, a man has to take responsibility for the children he creates, regardless of how he feels about the mother, or if he thinks she makes poor decisions. We have to show kids that unconditional love and affection or else they're likely to grow up with low self esteem and the cycle continues.
People need to remember these are generalities relative to everything else.
The book Freakonomics has a chapter: "Why do so many drug dealers live with their mothers?" When you look at the "projects", with all of their dysfunction, it is the dysfunction of single parent households. John Wardlaw, former Director of the Hartford Housing Authority, surveyed residents. He realized he could get enough resources to maybe deal with 2% of the problems of his residents. He realized that if he could just reunify families, that he wouldn't need external resources. He started a Family Reunification Program. It was fantastically successful- and it was cheap.
Wooow thanks for reminding me about this book
I think she mised an element of parenthood. There are those of us who choose to be single parents becausw we never met anyone to fall in love with or simply never desired marriage but we weren't going to deny ourselves the joy of parenthood. So, are all of those single people who choose surrogacy or adoption to be labeled as bad parents? Will those children be bitter? I doubt it because they have grown up in a loving, caring home and that's all that matters in the end.
Mark Gailmor
"Deny ourselves the joy of parenthood."
Yes, you deny yourselves . It's called self discipline. I deny myself the joys of drugs, because it would hurt not only me but my family and community. I deny myself the joys of exercising in the morning, as the creaky floors in my house would wake those around me. You won't deny yourselves the joys of parenthood? What about denying you kids the joys of having a father. It's very selfish to do a thing that could have such a negative impact on another's life because you want that motherhood badge.
Emma Pin I agree with Emma. As a child raised by a single mother and whom never met my father, it was tough. On the mother, her friends and family, and us kids.
I think you're missing my point too. Should i not adopt because I'm a single guy? How many children in the world will end up in jail, or on the streets because they do not have the loving support that you had growing up? Life isn't perfect. I didn't have a father growing up. And in my heart, I know I missed something but I can't truly miss something I didn't have. So it is my need to feel the love from a father, which I never got, that would point me towards adopting my own children so I can smother them with the love I didn't get. But hey, I'm not angry. My mom did the best she could. She wasn't a super affectionate mom but that was a part of her own conditioning. Her parents weren't very affection towars her. I am the oddball to break this line because I grew up to be a very loving, affectionate guy and you know what? None of the girls I dated appreciated how affectionate I am. Now isn't that a laugh? And one more thing. Children who are raised by single parents grow up to be loving, productive members of our society because they grew up in a loving home.
Mark Gailmor You are soooo right. Having children is a joy and no matter how they come into your life and what your circumstances or choices are, as long as you focus on the joy your child will too. I am a product of a single mother and I am a hard working educated citizen. So are my successful siblings. I am optimistic about life. As a single parent myself now, I have NEVER made being single an issue and therefore, neither has my child. She is happy, secure, healthy and loved. That is all a child needs. As a parent, if you keep focusing on what's "missing", so will your child. Being a single parent has been tough sometimes but it is a true blessing for me AND my daughter. We are happy. THIS needs to be the focus, regardless of what society may say. It's your life and other folks should prob focus on their own problems and challenges. I'm sure everyone has their own. This sad, bitter, "less-than" focus on single parents has to go bye-bye. From my experience, we do better with our kids than some two parent homes!
@@emmapin6815 if the father is abusive. Leave. Period. Single moms don't go into it thinking they will be single. Too msny negativr connotations of single moms.
Carver Military Academy? And she stated she doesn't need a father...
Emal A This has SJW agenda written all over it and continues to demonize the father. Yet:
The DHHS data shows that of children abused by one parent
between 2001 and 2006, 70.6% were abused by their
mothers, whereas only 29.4% were abused by their
fathers.
And of children who died at the hands of one parent between
2001 and 2006, 70.8% were killed by their mothers,
whereas only 29.2% were killed by their fathers.
Furthermore, contrary to media portrayals that leave the
viewer with the impression that only girls are ever harmed,
boys constituted fully 60% of child fatalities.
(Table 4-3, p. 71, Child Maltreatment 2006, www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/cm06/cm06.pdf,
reports that 675 boys died in 2006 as compared to 454
girls).
The pervasive media bias cannot help but influence judges.
Thus the newspapers, TV shows, and movies that promote this
bias must bear a significant part of the responsibility for
child abuse and deaths of children at the hands of violent
mothers.
Duh. Who / what groomed her?
The world society will get this back like a boomerang.
@@AdvocatusDiaboli92 Too late. Facts don't count anymore. Feelings is our guide now...
@@AdvocatusDiaboli92 some serious manipulation of date. Women do most of the daily interactions and mundane chores regarding children. Even if the father is engaged and lives with the family. Vomit in the car, child sleepless because of illness, the schedule for ballet, getting the laundry ready, dressing them in the morning, .... making breakfast, correcting homework .....
So if parents snap and kill the children, they is a good chance it will be the mother, mothers are more around the kids.
@@xyzsame4081 still doesn't change the fact that children are safer under a single Father's hands than a single mother's
Real talk. Instead of choosing the steady guy with a decent job, women choose the bad boy that smoke weeds and play video game. Now they’re single mothers. Action have consequences ladies
Gary Oakham the steady guy doesn’t want the normal plain Jane. They want the IG type girl
Evie Hall the steady guy would love to have any woman. It’s the woman the starts the contact. It’s the woman that decides what man to keep around her. Men don’t get choices. Only women do. And men these days are sick and tired to paying for women bad choices
Gary Oakham If that “steady man” is rejected by all women, he’s the common denominator and needs to look within. Men do the asking so they have choice too. No one respects men that refuse to take responsibility of their lives and always push the cause of their results on other ppl. It’s weak and will always turn off a female that’s got her head on straight.
@@Evettecord Thank you for speaking the truth
The real effects of single parent households are: higher poverty, higher dropout rates, higher teen pregnancy, higher teen drug use, higher crime rates, etc. No matter how much Mom thinks she "will give her kid all the love he needs", it won't be enough.
That's only because women have tended to have less money and time to relax with their children.
Better to grow up in a happy single parent house then a dysfunctional duel parent home.
It really comes down to what kind of parent you are and what you prioritize
The only people bad mouthing single parent households, are the ones that aren't doing it and can barely keep it together with a partner.
Nah dude. Majority of people badmouthing single parent households are children that grew up in them. Single mother household especially - hard statistics are there. I'm one of them. A young man, who was being continually neutered and suppressed by his mother, because "men are bad".
@@abishai3234 Are you a single parent?
Single parent can be the result of death, divorce, or seperation, but it can also result from single parent adoption or woman having children on their own thanks to fertility treatments. Whether they elect to be single parents or have no choice, single parents are usually at a disadvantage in many ways compared to two-parent families.
Yes but unfortunately most single parents are becuz of divource which 80%of the time women inceat according to the stats and BTW 50% divource rate that tells you alot also the other chunk if from women have babies out of wedlock and there is this interesting cycle where single mom encourage their daughters to be single mom's and so on a very vicous cycle and mostly they have kids with horrible men ..mainly selecting the men based on looks and if they can income......
Truly I think society needs to tackle this not the government organisations cuz they got us here in the first place ..
Sorry for my long post but it scares me how soo much of our suffering is by design
Thank you for sharing this, Stephanie.
Strong independent and don't need no man 💥
Women had no choice to go this route especially if he a bum that’s wanted to be taken care and not be a real man
@@marlenahawkins7098 or maybe a lot women can't take care even a bit coz they weren't real women in the first place 😂, women always shifting the blame
only child of a single mother represent!
Buttercup why is it sad?
@strawberries dingleberries are you a single mother?
@Buttercup I weep for her kids... lol not because she’s a single mother but because she sees nothing wrong with ruining her kids life and passing down generational curses that may continue for eternity
Bottom tier Ted talk
Thank you. I'm a single parent and need to hear more from children like you to learn your needs.
Well am a single parent too and I have two kids to take care of but can't do it all alone need a woman to stand beside me.
Completely disagree with this nonsense
brent Robinson it's feminazi propaganda that feeds the false bias of the "dead beat dad". She's not as ok as she thinks she is... I wonder how much money that talk cost her
Nobody cares about what you disagree with!
@@strawberriesblueberries2258 ditto.
Sweetheart, next time you do a speech please stand still. Don't keep moving around like that. And keep your head up as you speak hun. You did a great job! Just work on your confidence. (This is not a malicious comnent, I'm genuinely trying to help). Best of luck to her.
We live in a system that is not supportive to women as mother's and men as father's. Work and sometimes education come between family, also family patterns and history of abandonment. Fight the system! Pray invite God to do miracles in your life, continue to fight, don't settle for normal.
Just give up and leave to another country
Kids from single father homes perform equally to kids with from a nuclear family. It’s actually just single mother homes
She is saying a lot of nothing. This said “The effects of a single parent household”. This is just her talking about a couple of examples of a single parent household. It didn’t talk about the actual effects; the welfare state and it’s drain on society, the correlation between the rate of property crime and the amount of single mothers, or the fact that as long as society deems it ok the more it is going to happen. Nothing about K vs R selection, or anything substantial really. It’s all a bunch of personal stories. I thought Ted was about sharing ideas, not about allowing personal stories to seduce what I’m trying to contemplate. If you want to do that fine, but don’t mislead people’s thoughts. I come from a single mother household too. I want to actually see the effects it has on the world, not to tell stories.
Why don’t people ever talk about the bad effects on divorces
The government doesn’t want to lose those dollars
I'm a father of four beautiful children. My story is that my ex-wife cheated and destroyed our family. All she cared about was her "happiness". This definitely hurt me but it has emotionally destroyed my children. The saddest part is that my ex-wife is oblivious to the suffering of our children. Sometimes, and most commonly now, women are destroying families because of feminism. FACT!
Red Pill Rage
What happened?
She cheated on you because of feminism? Come on.
@@AlexandraTama He didn't say that. No reason to conflate the two statements.
@@svartvist Sorry, its just that my husband cheated on me because of meninism.
He did write: "women are destroying families because of feminism"
@@AlexandraTama "meninism". That's funny. I like it. Yes, and as far as Feminism goes, it is true. The NOW has specifically stated that is their objective. What he didn't say was that his wife cheated because of Feminism. What he did say was that she was intolerably narcissistic, expecting the family members to fulfill her needs and wants. What is inconclusive is that Feminism was behind her attitudes.
I'm sorry too-that you went through that betrayal of Fidelity and reasonable expectations of felicity. Often times what appears to be betrayal is nothing more than human weakness that we all suffer from. My father at 62 confessed he was still trying to figure out who he was--and then he died suddenly 7 years later before I had taken the opportunity to unravel why he mistreated us so badly. 35 years later I finally understand his life, having investigated it from all the available records. I have compassion for him now I did not have then. In several ways, his life was far more messed up than the one I endured under his poor parenting.
The important thing for you is whether or not you understand your part in the dynamic of marital relations and its dissolution. No need to answer; Do you know how your husband came to that juncture, and why he cheated? Was he looking for something in you he could not realize? Were you looking for something in him he was incapable of delivering? It is such irony that the hardest person to get to know in life is the one staring back at us in the mirror.
I like to compare marriage to ballroom dancing. Sadly, most people today do not have any exposure to it, and if they do, seldom engage in it long enough to become adept. One of the hardest step routines to learn is the Tango. The partners have to know each other very well, able to follow the cues presciently and maintain good poise. Especially not getting put out with the partner who stumbles and throws things out of whack. Hence the phrase in relationship conflict: "It takes two to Tango."
I'm a happy single mom.
Don't want to change that.
Always wanted that.
Living my dream life.
Is it the dream life of your child? Ask your child if they would have preferred a father in their life.
Your bastard's happiness and well being far exceeds your own. See to it that it does...and your comments reek of American selfishness.
NOMHLEKWABO NHLAPHO your kid will grow to hate you.
Your dream, your child's nightmare.
How very selfish of you.
NOMHLEKWABO NHLAPHO well said!!!!! Single parents are beautiful.
why does this video have 30 dislikes, it was a great speech DOUBLE THUMPS UP to STEPHANIE GONZALEZ
#MGTOW
Thanks
So im searching for any information of parents that take care of multiple children on their own. Full time. 24/7. No Breaks. Im not finding any information.
Any resources would be greatly appreciated.
Any one out their that dose what I do?
This is my life in nutshell. My pa passed away when I was 4
I am a single parent with a decent relationship with my childs father. 7 years in, it is a much better relationship now than when we were in it under the same roof. We see each other every day. Our child spends time every day with me, time with his dad and on occasion with us as a trio. It was an acrimonious split but our child was important enough to us to find a way to work together to meet his needs as well as become the parents we needed to be. We owe it to our children to show them that are entitled to grow in healthy relationships even if that means that mom and dad live in separate houses. It is far better than two people that cant share stress and space under the same roof.
Totally agree. I hate how judgy people can be...
omg, it is exactly the same story as mine. i have2 kids. i just wonder how this will turn out in a long term for my kids.
@@karenely3830 Your kids will learn what healthy relationships look like and not settle for ones trapped in toxicity.
@@WestCoastCanuck
They Joys of single parenthood: Peace, Love, Happiness! No more bullshyt and drama! 💃👏
An angry stressed out mom. Unfortunately. When you try to raise your kids right but everything falls on you. Your needs no matter how urgent go lacking and wants lol forget that. You get blinded by the must do of taking care of children. Having a sick child and and elderly parent...sometimes I feel like I'm better off dead
I posed the question on FB "What is #1 change that has been worst for our society?". Thought I'd hear mostly about removal of God from our lives, and I did get that. Smartest person I know, Asian, MIT engineer had most compelling response: The worst thing we did for our society was to condone single-motherhood, 'normalize' it. I believe he is correct. Please think about it unemotionally, all that typically (emphasis on typically because of course we know exceptions) flows from that.
The real effect: Peace and Joy 💃🥰
That is why, ISLAM, have rules and Laws..which keep us away from ending at a bad end of life. Alhamdulillah. For everything.
My kids dad left me for a younger woman. I am really scared for my babies.
you should keep raising your kids and keep your kids away from this man , if he was a good person he wouldn't leave his kids for a b!tch 💁
Studies actually show that children raised by single fathers do just as good as children raised in households with both parents. Children raised by single mothers are, well, look at society today!
Kid haters can’t stand it when people like children.
I went through a no fault divorce haven't gotten to see my daughter in three years, needless to say my daughter will repeat k-12 so I get my parenting time and if she is defiant and says she will not she doesn't have a future in this world! I had a child to raise a child!
I think she did a real good job of speaking ♥️
Divorces should be banned and the family court system should be abolished.
Its all about asking the right questions to get the right answer. Are single parent families as common in the upper classes? Is domestic violence as common in the upper classes. If so what is it they know that we don't, and what is it their doing that we won't. discuss??
Sorry, but I'm about sick of these single parents glamorizing being a single parent. My husband and I worked so hard our entire live and stayed married through thick and thin even when it got very tough. Shame on our society for glamorizing single parent households. Tax payers pay for childcare, diapers and formula. Some of these single parents end up having no debt while married couples that have worked so hard to do the right thing and not use tax payers money end up in debt. Shame on our society for glamorizing this way of life.
No one glamorizes single parent families - but they are often put down. for instance you in this post.
2 parents in a good relationship ! - if they constantly fight it is better to break up - would be ideal for parenting. - but they did not have that in Germany, Austria, the Soviet Union, Japan after WW2. Most men between 18 and 50 were drafted, many did not return. In Germany or Austria it would be downright silly to wring your hands about the alleged dangers of single parent families.
I think that also in the U.K. a lot of families lost men, or in Finland or Norway.
They have a reasonable support system (welfare) for ALL low income families and that inlcudes of course many single parent families. But it could also be families with 2 parents and many children.
No husband and father was the situation for many famlies after the war, the women and children had to cope - and they did. - That is not to say that the men were not missed. Or that losing a father / husband was not traumatizing.
It was not ideal. And the children raised by these single women turned out well. As well as you can expect in that society (still quite rigid).
Poverty NOT single parent households is the problem. Without help single parent housholds are poor or low income. Poverty breeds crime. - in ALL rich nations the numbers of single parent households go up. In other nations they are not glorified, but also not villified like in the U.S., they just happen. And they deal with as a fact of life and modern society, to deflect harm for the children of these families.
In the past many unhappy marriages entrapped husband, wife and children. Staying married does not mean it is a good environment to raise children.
you cannot always PLAN: you marry but it turns out the partner is not really into being a father (and has his personal midlife crisis while the wife is pregnant with the third. - Real life example, she and her boys are doing fine, she works now 30 instead of 20 hours. Sometimes partners get mentally ill, or they die. There you go: single parent household. The challenge is the same if you have rare cases or many of them. You want to keep them out of poverty, the children should be well taken care of and that means not overburdening the mum (usually the mother) with long work hours.
All rich nations have rising numbers of single parent houshold, divorces, patch work families, you can despise it all you want, it isn't going away. Let's not forget that the children ! have no choice in that. The tax money is mainly spent to help THEM (also by supporting the mother) and it is not so much spent for their parents (who could make do if they were on their own).
Also: other wealthy countries get something back for their investment in the children - especially of low income families (which are often single parent families).
Low crime rates. Young adults that are well adjusted, hold jobs, pay rent, get an education, and keep the laws. And by and large they stay away from drugs, pills, and too much alcohol.
There are no ghettos and there are no recruiting grounds for organized crime
I DIDN'T KNOW THAT BEING IN A SINGLE PARENTS HOUSEHOLD ALL OF A SUDDEN AUTOMATICALLY MEANT YOU WEREN'T GOING TO DO ANYTHING WITH YOUR LIFE? PLENTY OF PEOPLE IN SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS DO JUST FINE AND MANY WITH BOTH PARENTS STILL FUCK UP.
I REALLY DON'T GET THE POINT OF THIS. IT FELT LIKE AN EXTRA CREDIT SCHOOL PROJECT AND THE WAY SHE KEPT SHIFTING HER WEIGHT DROVE ME CRAZY. ALSO YOU CAN'T ACT LIKE YOU COULDN'T CARE LESS THAT YOUR DAD ISN'T THE PICTURE AND THEN READ SOME SAD LYRICS ABOUT WHY HE LEFT YOU.
ALL CAPS LETS MAKE A POINT
The girl is right when it comes to great numbers. Yes, some child born in two-parents families grow up to be screw ups, while some single mom's offspring becomes a CEO, but statistically speaking that's highly unlikely. A disproportionate amount of US inmates are from single parents families, whereas most engineers and CEOs are from two-parents household.
One of the worst TEDx Talks I have ever seen, to be honest :/
She ain't no stefan molyneux.
She's nervous. Give her a break.
She's a young kid
This is probably for the youngins.
She has a lot of courage to speak in front of a crowd.
I have many guy friends who were raised by single mothers.... Most of them have multiple addictions and do what feels good in the moment. One took out an auto loan at 20 percent interest. He spends everyday high on marijuana justifying everything he does and has done in a weird way.
This really does make you consider : is it okay or ethical to have just one child? And the answer is absolutely yes. We chose to have one child and as of now we can comfortably give to one child. I admit I’ve thought about if I need to have a second child FOR my first child to grow up with. But - we don’t exactly want to get pregnant again. Wasn’t a smooth process for me at all.
Quote: The reasons for a single parent family is "going through a divorce", "a parent chose not to stick around", or "a parent has passed away". Unquote. There is another reason ....... The guardian parent won't let the other parent see their child, or be part or their child's life.
At least you have a brother
Fathers are superfluous.
And women don’t need no man.
So they substituted men with the government through resource transferral.
Government provides her police state (protection), welfare programs (security), admissions and hiring quotas (resource$).
Thomas McGill I know you are just dying to correct the grammar of other men. I am waiting.
Most men refuse to protect or provide in normal society
If my questioning leads to statistics that suggest the upper classes are more likely to marry, less likely to divorce, and have less reports of domestic violence. Then we're in the wrong and clearly we need to raise our standards and expectations of life.
All you people makes me appreciate my dad.
I’m doing a report on this can you guys comment problems you had growing in a single parent home
Not a deadbeat daddy here. The government needs to be responsible for arearage.
Parents is who gave you life
this made me cry for my kids :'(
It's hard to watch her
Amazing Contin as always Ted talk 💙if you and the person that you’re about to sleep with has not had a discussion about having kids maybe one of y’all should wrap it up because parenthood is not something to play with. This is not when you were little kids playing house.If you want to play around, go get your dog.
There’s so much information out there about single parenting that single parents are a lot better equipped to know what the kids need.
BS
These single mothers should be accountable for their actions. Of course, Chad and Tyrone don’t stick around. They should ask one of the guys in their friend zone instead.
You sound ridiculous.
As soon as the divorce. The other kids treat them differently. Like lower class.
When women had abortions, they lost so much. To have to even think that is a sin.
Do they treat all life without the love they lost with the idea to just get rid of any other?
Can someone send me a link that's speaks to " What are the disadvantages of single parenting on the parent?"
Very poor speaker. Why?
Place 90% of family responsibility on women then wonder why they become single moms. Duh they've been doing majority of the work. Men start looking like dead weight. Men running around talking about how logical they're and how emotional women are not realizing women need their emotional needs met to nurture and care for a family. Men created this state with their constant whining and self loathing. Men have just become as needy as children. The woman that choose it are looking for relief much of the time. Sit down and have an honest conversation with a woman that's been married 50 years. Look at these comments, who wants to dedicate their lives to people who have contempt for them and see them as subservient? No one. Why are women fleeing men in droves? Yeah I guess if you get blamed for everything you might feel you're better off on your own. Ijs
the truth is that most women make poor husband choices, they choose for the most part the richest, most powerfull, best looking guy available around for their husband or kid and not the best person around.
If single mothers do so much great work raising their children, why are over 80% of men in prison from single parent homes? Over 70% of residents in the juvenile detention centers are from single parent homes. Over 71% of high school drop outs are from single parent homes. Over 63% of teen suicides are from single parent home. I can go on...
You'll see the common blame be placed on "fatherless homes" because shifting the blame away from mothers is the easiest thing to do but... which parent was present? Mothers.
And truthfully, men dont walk out on their children, they walk out on the woman they no longer want. It's not until the mother alleges physical and mental abuse and seeks sole custody and child support... that family courts either completely or substantially remove fit fathers from their childrens lives so the state recieves federal incentives from Social Security Title IV-D. Men dont walk away from their children, mothers just put great effort in removing fathers because of their bitterness. Mothers believe their life would be easier without the childrens father remaining in their child's lives. Mother goes off on her own and drags her kids through poverty... then prison.
Just MgtowFrance exactly, and when these men decide to place their interest in a better woman... they leave her. Men dont leave their kids, they just leave their mother.
Mom then turns mad.
Women never take responsibilit for their own action, they rather project their failure on the other gender instead of taking a honest look at themselfs... They take the decisions based on emotion and then later in life blame it on the man when it goes wrong.
@@orlandomarquez7872 blame society.