Mitski - Because Dreaming Costs Money, My Dear (Official Video)

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  • "Because Dreaming Costs Money, My Dear" from the album Retired from Sad, New Career in Business by Mitski.
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    Video - Heather Barcelo
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    Lyrics:
    I can still smell the fire
    Though I know it's long died out
    The smoke still hangs in my hair
    And on some quiet evenings it burns my eyes
    So darling, play your violin
    I know it's what you live for
    Darling, play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    I once lived in the sea
    Bring me to your ear, you can hear
    The tide where I used to be
    Though now I'm but a shell
    Oh, baby
    Don't say sorry
    Darling, play your violin
    I know it's what you live for
    Darling, play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    Don't dare regret anything
    Remember what you're here for, you
    Just play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    #mitski #becausedreamingcostsmoremoney #retiredfromsad

Komentáře • 640

  • @mitskileaks
    @mitskileaks  Před 10 měsíci +113

    Mitski's new album 'The Land Is Inhospitable and So Are We', featuring the song "My Love Mine All Mine" is out now. Watch the music video: czcams.com/video/vx4kLgnFexo/video.html
    Listen to the album: mitski.lnk.to/TLIIASAW

  • @zo.yeahhh
    @zo.yeahhh Před 3 lety +3448

    I am so fkin envious of people whose parents support their life choices because it's so scary and lonely when no one encourages you. At least I have this song.

    • @kiabeth5326
      @kiabeth5326 Před 3 lety +28

      I agree

    • @foundingdaddy4123
      @foundingdaddy4123 Před 3 lety +12

      Agree

    • @OO-ls6fi
      @OO-ls6fi Před 3 lety +10

      agree

    • @solus8685
      @solus8685 Před 3 lety +41

      I support you
      I believe in you
      You're doing incredible
      Keep doing what you love
      Don't listen to those who say otherwise
      It's your life and no one but you should have a say in what you do with it or not
      💕

    • @liif7152
      @liif7152 Před 3 lety +13

      @@solus8685 That's some amazing words of encouragement right there! Thanks you for typing those kind words for people who need them :)

  • @tonidu6809
    @tonidu6809 Před 3 lety +2300

    This is basically the mother's response to Class of 2013, and I love it

    • @emmett8247
      @emmett8247 Před 3 lety +295

      ayo thats such a cool interpretation ima put them next to each other on my playlists now

    • @almondwaet7966
      @almondwaet7966 Před 2 lety +216

      WHY DID YOU HAVE TO DO THAT TO ME ITS ALMOST 4AM AND IM SWIMMING IN TEARS

    • @Atabey1877
      @Atabey1877 Před 2 lety +33

      RIGHT

    • @theuirseursyes
      @theuirseursyes Před 2 lety +39

      wait ur so right

    • @Lalaloopsie16
      @Lalaloopsie16 Před 2 lety +25

      I love that you said this

  • @colorboxbooks2432
    @colorboxbooks2432 Před 8 lety +5423

    This struck me so hard. I gave up on playing the violin because lessons were expensive and I can't afford a new one. Yet my father's still willing to get me proper one rather than settling for cheap ones. To learn art sadly is not cheap and to master art takes your whole life. I love how Mitski's songs always manage to use the right words to express the struggles of love and life.

    • @teaterpurnama3639
      @teaterpurnama3639 Před 7 lety +74

      thus this isnt the end of your creativity. you can use youtube as well to learn things😉 and hey, you still have friends too so ya, when you cant play your violin so you can hang out or do smh with your friends. cheer up whoever you are😊

    • @mickmickymick6927
      @mickmickymick6927 Před 7 lety +40

      Violin is difficult, but many things you can get preety good preety quick using online resources and the instruments themselves aren't too bad on ebay or somewhere. You need time though which might be hard or impossible if one has to work a lot, it also requires determination and perseverance which not everyone has. So yeah, it is possible, not necessarily easy though and not always practical

    • @smokes3974
      @smokes3974 Před 6 lety +6

      wait, you dont have free music education in your country?

    • @blahkabelison2234
      @blahkabelison2234 Před 6 lety +19

      Pigmented do you? where do you live??

    • @smokes3974
      @smokes3974 Před 6 lety +21

      Blahkabelison in poland we have an entire music eduaction system that follows your normal school's grades. You have primary music school, high school and conservatories and all are free. We learn not only our main instruments there but we also have practical subjects like: orchestra, choir, additional piano (every instruments besides main piano have these) and theory: harmony, music theory, music forms, eartraining, counterpoint and music history. At the end of all this which takes about 16 years for each instrument you get a diploma and some deegrees and you can be a professional musician

  • @meadow7229
    @meadow7229 Před 3 lety +4810

    did anyone else grow up without any big dreams because they knew those dreams wouldn't come true or is that just me?

    • @brianna_s-yl3ic
      @brianna_s-yl3ic Před 3 lety +120

      me!! my biggest dream rn is to buy a grand piano? i’ve never really had any huge dreams

    • @masterofneincontact4799
      @masterofneincontact4799 Před 3 lety +31

      Omg :((( I never thought of it this way, but damn

    • @solus8685
      @solus8685 Před 3 lety +141

      Yeah, I never thought about my future because I didn't even think I'd have one

    • @ryu_u.
      @ryu_u. Před 3 lety +5

      lmao me

    • @telaohara4562
      @telaohara4562 Před 3 lety +70

      Girlboss we're listening to mitski this goes without saying

  • @Gabriel-ud5hu
    @Gabriel-ud5hu Před 6 lety +2539

    Dreaming costs a lot of money. I'm in my 20's now and now i don't dream so big like i used when i was 16 and naive. Now everything is about working hard and try to get money. It's so bittersweet.

    • @bestof1506
      @bestof1506 Před 5 lety +98

      how is it bittersweet?? It's just.... bitter...

    • @Gabriel-ud5hu
      @Gabriel-ud5hu Před 5 lety +90

      @@bestof1506 I was trying to stay positive... lol

    • @brianna_s-yl3ic
      @brianna_s-yl3ic Před 3 lety +21

      @@bestof1506 well that’s the bitter part yes, but in the process you can still make many sweet memories per se

    • @hoot6916
      @hoot6916 Před 2 lety +7

      not surprised that you have a shinji pfp

    • @a.g.d3162
      @a.g.d3162 Před 2 lety +3

      You still holding up? :(

  • @SamChaneyProductions
    @SamChaneyProductions Před 8 lety +2339

    She uses tension in such a harsh and at the same time gentle and subtle way! It just tears me apart.

    • @shifterkart1
      @shifterkart1 Před 7 lety +18

      Oh, stop being such a hipster and just enjoy. :P

    • @Misha0angel
      @Misha0angel Před 6 lety +26

      this is so true! omg you put it to words. It kills me. I love it.

    • @lettersviastars
      @lettersviastars Před 3 lety +53

      @@shifterkart1 lol theyre just describing how they enjoy it!

    • @friendlyghosthost1830
      @friendlyghosthost1830 Před 2 lety +8

      It’s like she comforting the listener while holding back tears

    • @hyperspace7122
      @hyperspace7122 Před 2 lety +9

      same with bag of bones. also the line "and you tear me apart" from that song. it fits perfectly.

  • @nerdcentral9728
    @nerdcentral9728 Před 2 lety +471

    The ending of this video where Mitski makes eye contact with the camera as she sings absolutely kills me. It’s like she’s addressing us directly and telling us to hang on. And the subtle little nod after the last “we will manage somehow” wrecks me every time.

  • @afaye2268
    @afaye2268 Před 3 lety +1337

    i wish dreaming didn’t cost so much. money, time, energy, everything. it’s so painful to know that once i grow up, i won’t have time to dream and i won’t have money to even think about dreaming. i can feel myself getting old even though i’m only 15 and still have my whole life in front of me

    • @okyes2753
      @okyes2753 Před 3 lety +64

      Life is about keeping the ability to dream, to create. You don't stop living at any age.
      The teen years are especially hard, remember, you're worth it in life and it won't always be this awful. Life is always different 3 months after the thing you don't want to happen happens.

    • @ninalisazu1521
      @ninalisazu1521 Před 3 lety +11

      same, and im 16

    • @gen6375
      @gen6375 Před 2 lety +8

      14 here, I understand you so much :c

    • @amanjii701
      @amanjii701 Před 10 měsíci +2

      can we get a checkup

    • @merledrw8203
      @merledrw8203 Před 3 měsíci

      Im 18 and out of school, what am I supposed to do? I just want to dream…

  • @shekinah3798
    @shekinah3798 Před 3 lety +821

    “we will manage somehow” reminds me so much of my mom. we already don’t have very much money but 4 years ago when i said I wanted to play the violin, she was so excited and even bought me one for my birthday. and it wasn’t just a cheap one either, she went to one of the best instrument shops in my town and bought it. there have been countless times where she’s been behind in paying bills but she always made sure that my monthly violin bill was paid no matter what. then eventually she stopped paying for lessons because we just couldn’t pay for it anymore and i felt like it was my fault because if it wasn’t for me, she could’ve used the $30 a month for my violin on actually important things. i still tell her that i’ll stop playing if she really can’t afford it but she doesn’t want me to at all but it just makes me feel so bad knowing that i’m part of the reason that we still don’t have very much.

    • @rainadas2088
      @rainadas2088 Před 2 lety +73

      she loves you very much and is willing to give many things to see you thrive in the arts :) i cannot imagine how difficult it must be, but she is an amazing mother and cherish her for as long as you can

    • @greentea_sogood
      @greentea_sogood Před 2 lety +10

      i'm so sorry :(

    • @meowmix2940
      @meowmix2940 Před 2 lety +52

      your violin IS important. your mother is a wise woman to know that. keep making music, keep doing what you love, and keep making your mom proud. it sounds like she loves you very much and wants nothing more than for you to be happy. im so sorry things are rough for your family right now, and i hope one day that will change. for now, just keep trying to learn and practice as best as you can without a teacher. its worth it, i promise you. wishing the best of luck to you and your family ♥️

  • @mourningdewey
    @mourningdewey Před 2 lety +213

    i will never forget how my dad bought my art for $20 when i was in middle school. i always dreamt of being an artist and for one day, he let me be one. i've never felt that good about my art again and i've resigned myself to becoming a history teacher instead. despite letting my dreams go, i'll never forget my dad's kindness and how he's always believed in me.

    • @humgoose5680
      @humgoose5680 Před rokem +18

      hey, just wanna say, art will always be there for you to come back to, if you ever want to.

  • @cambrown5633
    @cambrown5633 Před 8 lety +1267

    "Don’t dare regret anything
    Remember what you’re here for"

  • @isav1116
    @isav1116 Před 7 lety +2256

    [Verse 1]
    I can still smell the fire
    Even though it’s long died out
    The smoke still hangs in my hair
    And on some quiet evenings it burns my eyes
    [Chorus]
    So darling, play your violin
    I know it’s what you live for
    Darling, play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    [Verse 2]
    I once lived in the sea
    Bring me to your ear, you can hear
    The tide where I used to be
    Though now I’m but a shell
    Oh babe
    Don’t say sorry
    [Chorus]
    Darling, play your violin
    I know it’s what you live for
    Darling, play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    [Post-Chorus]
    Don’t dare regret anything
    Remember what you’re here for, you
    Just play your violin
    And we will manage somehow

  • @lauren4237
    @lauren4237 Před 2 lety +80

    This song will always wreck me. The night my dad died I cried to him about not being able to afford art school, he told me he basically said the exact same thing "We'll manage, don't feel guilty about anything- you are worth it".

  • @whitebear224
    @whitebear224 Před 4 lety +592

    Big salute to those parents who still does their best to provide and buy gifts despite financial problems 🙂

    • @sad_melli7270
      @sad_melli7270 Před 3 lety +5

      hello? Where do I find those? 👁👁

    • @merci-bcp651
      @merci-bcp651 Před 3 lety +14

      @Loukya Sai They are not. Although, people don't know how the story usually ends with a financially struggling parent and their child(ren). Yes, they buy their children gifts despite being in financial hell. However, they soon end up resenting the child. They suddenly wake up one day, realising "I have wasted my time providing for this child who will turn out to not how I shaped them to be". Then they'll give up the child as soon as he or she turns 16. The mother will kick the child out and the dad will stand by and watch - without saying a word. Atleast... that is what happened to me. I relate to this song in my own way. I have wasted my mother's valuable years, and she has grown envious and ruined the beginning of mine. Do I even deserve to dream at this point?

    • @merci-bcp651
      @merci-bcp651 Před 3 lety +8

      And although there are some out there who stay loving and nurturing as a mother should be, unfortunately the financial struggle will eat them alive and create momsters. I will never get my life back. My life consists of crying to this song, which I relate a little too much to.

    • @uyhuuejeh539
      @uyhuuejeh539 Před 2 lety +1

      this is probably why this song hits different for me

    • @merci-bcp651
      @merci-bcp651 Před 2 lety +1

      @Koviches thank you 🙏

  • @lilac_hem
    @lilac_hem Před 3 lety +272

    this song always gives me goosebumps and makes me cry.
    my dad is an immigrant. he and my mom both worked so hard to get in-debt and get through school. they continued working so hard when i was little, both as medical practitioners - helping people. after my mom broke her leg and back, the responsibility to provide fell on my dad. he and my mum had already been working most of the time, but after that he had to work even more often. every day, including holidays and birthdays. i barely got to see him, and when i did .. it wasn't always pleasant, but that's another subject i guess. we moved a lot. then our house burned down, and another house flooded, and another was broken into and robbed. gradually, my parents spent all of their savings .. trying to care for us kids. my dad spent his entire 401k, and he and my mum filed bankruptcy more than once. he still works every day, and he and my mother still struggle. it hurts so badly. how can they still struggle so much, after spending their whole lives working and helping and providing? how are they still struggling with bills and to keep a car and ... it hurts. i want so badly to be able to take away all of their burdens. all i wanted to do, growing up, was go to a performing arts school. we couldn't afford it, not to mention the instruments and other forms of instruction i wanted. i had four siblings. i can't afford college, now, and they refuse to give me loans because "my parents make too much money," and my mum can't collect disability because "she is too educated," and it hurts so bad. my parents don't make enough to pay for my schooling in any capacity, they barely make enough to pay for their rent, utilities, insurance, food, and everything else. so i .. will also work. i'll suck it up and keep working as a file clerk. i don't wanna let my dreams die. i really don't. but, i dunno.

    • @inesloichtl7152
      @inesloichtl7152 Před 2 lety +7

      Do you have a gofundme of sth? Bc i would totally donate

    • @francisforever6554
      @francisforever6554 Před 2 lety +8

      dont let ur dreams die, please, you will figure out someday, Believe that money is countless and its everywhere if we keep dreaming and try hard for them. we could attain our dreams to come true, my dad passed away since I was a kid, my mom got health issues so she cant work again, I carry many responsibilities and im still young.. still im grateful enough that i go to school and have something to eat, we will reach our dreams, both of us and the one who is reading this. one last thing im not trying to gaslight you im just leaving hope that tells u are not the only one. ily.

    • @haphephobia
      @haphephobia Před 6 měsíci +1

      hey hows it going?

  • @nomihabo9752
    @nomihabo9752 Před 4 lety +376

    Just reading the title got me in tears. I'm still not ready for this one

  • @snailuka
    @snailuka Před 3 lety +588

    this might sound weird but when I listen to this song I want to take the sun out of the sky, holding it close to me, never letting it leave, because it brings me happiness. I want a small part of the sunlight to become a part of me, so I can always be happy.

    • @elle4630
      @elle4630 Před 3 lety +25

      this is so pretty

    • @aylin5903
      @aylin5903 Před 3 lety +26

      But u are an ice cube :(

    • @x03452
      @x03452 Před 3 lety +4

      this is so beautiful

    • @anomnomnomnivore1350
      @anomnomnomnivore1350 Před 3 lety +22

      You, right there, wrote something with a double meaning without it. We assume prettiness based on appearances (in your case, the sun). But in reality the sun is flaming ball of energy floating in the literal dead of space. We think it’s pretty tho because it gives us life. We’re merely in the right place of the solar system with water. The rest of the solar system… well, let’s just say that if they’d have a conscious they’d view the sun as a source of destruction, death and emptiness and sorrow. But does it matter what they think? The sun is pretty and sustains us. But if also kills and brings death, sometimes here on earth as well.

    • @oishd6077
      @oishd6077 Před 2 lety +9

      @@aylin5903 the romantic tragedy 😔

  • @xrayxo
    @xrayxo Před 2 lety +95

    the way mitski looks me in the eyes and says “we will manage somehow” and then just starts humming ( 3:00 ) gives me so much comfort and makes me feel somewhat safe idk but the rest of the song just makes me cry like a baby

  • @aj-rk9zp
    @aj-rk9zp Před 3 lety +296

    this song feels like a self hug

  • @cassandrasantiago7553
    @cassandrasantiago7553 Před 2 lety +206

    This song is like apologizing to my younger self for giving up my dreams of art for math because my siblings deserve a chance to live their dreams.

    • @seasalt3756
      @seasalt3756 Před 2 lety +5

      I did the same

    • @erresefele
      @erresefele Před 10 měsíci +8

      you deserve to live your dreams too

    • @NikiAesthette
      @NikiAesthette Před 9 měsíci +2

      @@erresefele that's right! you still deserve to live your dreams too after you see them live theirs. it's never too late to follow your dreams, to pursue whatever you want to pursue

  • @makaylahendrix2296
    @makaylahendrix2296 Před 3 lety +152

    after watching the given movie.... the violin part really hits hard

  • @comradehermit9320
    @comradehermit9320 Před 5 lety +126

    She breaks my heart every single time. Greatest songwriter of our generation.

  • @romellebee6474
    @romellebee6474 Před 3 lety +35

    2:34
    im sobbing
    she's looking into my soul and i will give up everything for her

  • @dumbalexa8859
    @dumbalexa8859 Před 3 lety +162

    this hits so hard, growing up wanting to pursue a dream was just not a choice, I always envied kids that had supporting parents or what i really mean is rich parents. i don't want to sound ungrateful, bc i love my parents and how hard they have worked for everything i have. but growing up without having anyone support ur dream or help you is so lonely and heartbreaking. now i must think realistically and work for money and that money is not for pursuing my dreams.

  • @Wilfrdeleon
    @Wilfrdeleon Před 3 lety +82

    To me this song comes from the perspective of a mother... A soothing song or poem directed to her child that knows about her family's economic situation. Reasauring, calming and caring. As someone who grew up faster than i shouldve this song makes me cry. Even throughout those problems they always found a way to fund my dreams

    • @borzoi2006
      @borzoi2006 Před 3 lety +12

      imagining this coming from the mothers perspective just makes me cry dude

  • @jayantisewnath75
    @jayantisewnath75 Před 3 lety +54

    I was not prepared to cry, i come from a family that has had some hard times and my parents have somehow always been supportive of me making art. I feel like i'm dismissing all their hard work since my art has been stagnant. This song hit so hard and im so grateful to my parents

  • @bituinn
    @bituinn Před 2 lety +41

    it sounds so desperate and comforting at the same time. especially when she sang, “we will manage somehow”, reminds me of a mother’s reassurance.
    i’ve only heard of mitski from twitter, i wish i could have listened to her music before. i stumbled upon this song on spotify, and cried so much. this song resonates what i’m going through right now. university has been difficult. i hope everyone gets to achieve their dreams. it’s so hard tho, when you are worrying about money.

  • @YvviieYT
    @YvviieYT Před 7 lety +508

    She's the most inspiring woman I listen to, i wish you nothing but success in your life mitski!!

    • @leiluv
      @leiluv Před 2 lety +11

      Guess what

    • @bareera.akramm
      @bareera.akramm Před 2 lety

      @@leiluv what?

    • @sickleflow
      @sickleflow Před 10 měsíci +2

      not to make this about numbers but 6 years later she's now the top alt artist on Spotify at the moment with rapidly growing listeners (25.5m+) and well on her way to a grammy nomination 🤞

  • @pcplmk
    @pcplmk Před 3 lety +100

    The most advanced American songwriter

    • @Lara-vo6rp
      @Lara-vo6rp Před 3 lety +7

      Hello it seems as if I'm finding you everywhere again haha 🌼

    • @pcplmk
      @pcplmk Před 3 lety +5

      @@Lara-vo6rp we love mitski

  • @ven7033
    @ven7033 Před 2 lety +14

    that song hurts, "we will manage somehow" reminds me of about everything my mom had to do in her whole life just to give me a good life and i feel like i dont deserve this

  • @chips6042
    @chips6042 Před 2 lety +21

    This song hits me so hard. My band director and 2 other band members groomed me (separately), and even though it didn't last too long because my intuition helped me, it went on long enough for me to be haunted. I never noticed what was going on until I turned 16 and I looked back. I quit band after confessing to my parents.
    The director plays the same instruments as me, piano and trombone, and hearing them in this song kills me. And the other member also plays trombone. They ruined playing music for me, but crying it out with this song feels likes it's helping me release what I represed.
    Dreaming costs more than money, it cost me my innocence and my chance at a happy childhood.

  • @josephineeather9852
    @josephineeather9852 Před 4 lety +88

    "We will manage somehow"

  • @ingridtan6339
    @ingridtan6339 Před 6 lety +134

    I love how her songs never go where you expect them to

  • @alece
    @alece Před rokem +12

    she is so pretty

  • @MrTrademarked
    @MrTrademarked Před 5 lety +142

    Thank you. I’ve been coping. Many days have i wondered if I’m enough. Even given my constant effort. You make me feel brave. I love you. Thank you. Again.

  • @tvyvess
    @tvyvess Před 2 lety +26

    this song hits hard, i grew up with a single mother in a lot of debt yet she still paid for my gymnastics lessons, gymnastics was my life but i ended up hurting myself and never being able to do gymnastics again, all of that money for nothing, it hurts

  • @frankie4020
    @frankie4020 Před 5 lety +3523

    im in awe. i am going to eat god.

    • @megplum1287
      @megplum1287 Před 5 lety +202

      on this night we will have a feast!

    • @gabeitch4484
      @gabeitch4484 Před 5 lety +61

      that deep, huh?

    • @dandylions3540
      @dandylions3540 Před 4 lety +95

      Your username is my name, and I am glad that there are two Frankies out there who have similar energy *shakes ur hand*

    • @mintchew2757
      @mintchew2757 Před 4 lety +49

      Do it no balls I bet you won't

    • @cornmono3665
      @cornmono3665 Před 4 lety +12

      Oh okay... wait, what?

  • @ihatedmyoldnamesoheresanew7204

    cant believe mitski invented the piano

  • @tearay1073
    @tearay1073 Před 5 lety +78

    I can still smell the fire
    Even though it's long died out
    The smoke still hangs in my hair
    And on some quiet evenings it burns my eyes
    So darling, play your violin
    I know it's what you live for
    Darling, play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    I once lived in the sea
    Bring me to your ear, you can hear
    The tide where I used to be
    Though now I'm but a shell
    Oh babe
    Don't say sorry
    Darling, play your violin
    I know it's what you live for
    Darling, play your violin
    We will manage somehow
    Don't dare regret anything
    Remember what you're here for, you
    Just play your violin
    And we will manage somehow

  • @arianeuy4663
    @arianeuy4663 Před 5 lety +83

    im so tired. mitski's music seems to help

  • @corah3544
    @corah3544 Před 3 lety +31

    the guilt and sadness i feel listening to this song holy shit!!! she’s put it all into words and sounds!!!! mitski has done it again she rlly gets it!!!!!

  • @adrianna9458
    @adrianna9458 Před 2 lety +7

    i had so much imagination. i was so motivated to write poems & stories & even sing & dance when i couldn't. now im just trying to find back that artistic spark. i envy people who can do their art endlessly. i used to write such beautiful pieces & now i can't think of anything. i stripped my individuality away now im stuck with nothing. i fear being boring or bland so much but it's sad to say that i am. i want back that spark.

  • @aurora-10
    @aurora-10 Před 2 lety +7

    i remember when i first wanted to become a doctor, i was only 5 and my mother told me that she did not have the money to support me then, but promised she'd push through for me
    not only did she get a better job, but i worked twice as hard at school, and now i've been taking dual enrollment for almost five years and i'll be able to go to med school early :)) miracles do happen if you want things enough

  • @andreimalate8158
    @andreimalate8158 Před 2 lety +15

    The part where she just stares at the camera breaks me every single time. It makes me feel seen and understood in this world😭😭😭

  • @afaye2268
    @afaye2268 Před 3 lety +37

    i’ve never wanted anything more than to learn to play piano and guitar and sing. but it’s too expensive and i’m too old now. it hurts to know i can’t do what i’ve always really loved because it is just too far out of reach. self teaching can only get you so far when you don’t have a good perception of the world around you

  • @Sara-et9sm
    @Sara-et9sm Před 3 lety +28

    As a young kid I never got to dream big. My family was too open on money to the point I would never buy anything for me because I thought we couldn’t afford anything. I always wanted to go into debate during elementary and middle school but I was always told no because “it costs too much money and you’ll fail.” I just wish my parents wouldn’t have made me feel that way as a kid. Now as I’m older I realized they never wanted to give me the things that brought me any interest, they would always give my sister anything she found fun and completely disregarded what I wanted. She got a car from them and I got a older computer when I turned old enough to move out. They used to tell me and my sister “We’re saving up for both of your colleges.” But they never saved up for my college and only my sisters college because t was too much money to spend on both of us. Sometimes I feel like I’m always burdening them so I never let them get me anything in fear that my sister will get upset about it.
    Rant over

  • @fanofthings6720
    @fanofthings6720 Před 2 lety +9

    i have hard feelings with this song, i wish i had a dream so big i could simply follow it, but i have never been that passionate about any one thing, and dont have any big dreams and really wish i had them

  • @fleurscaptivess
    @fleurscaptivess Před rokem +7

    this is her most heart wretching song ever

  • @clairiebee
    @clairiebee Před 2 lety +7

    But I think just like the burned house and the sea, seeing a child play their favorite song on violin would become another cherished memory and a reason to keep going through hard times as a parent. I felt ashamed of myself the first few times I heard this, but just now I realize why "play your violin" is repeated, seeing your child enjoying yourself IS the repayment to their parents. My parents have always supported my art and I think this song brings out the most selfless part of that dynamic. Have you ever seen a kid doing something they really like? How could you ever let the cruelty of the world rip away their favorite thing? I would work until my legs went numb to support just that excited look, and to think my parents must have felt this way about me makes me cry like a baby.

  • @uleursule9534
    @uleursule9534 Před 5 lety +55

    i thought that i'm strong enough to not cry during this song...

    • @pragmagoth
      @pragmagoth Před 5 lety +7

      HA! I didn't. My tears were done after Your Best American Girl :'(

  • @caitiecordes9384
    @caitiecordes9384 Před 2 lety +7

    I’ve always been told that my dreams are unachievable, because my family has no money or connections to make them happen. I don’t know where to go from here

  • @jncarvajal
    @jncarvajal Před 2 lety +7

    I actually interpreted this as Mitski singing this to a friend or a fellow artist, but reading the comments also makes me think this is what Mitski wanted to hear when she was younger.

  • @specialed4659
    @specialed4659 Před rokem +7

    im still a kid but this song hits hard as someone who grew up poor, and still is. my mom has been addict for the longest time, my dad wasnt in my life and i had four other siblings. ive never had enough money to pursue anything ive ever wanted, and now im led down the same path as my mom already. i remember stealing from stores a lot to get my own stuff, like deodorant, school supplies, food; things i shouldnt have needed to steal. i feel like such a waste of a kid but thats how life goes, because dreaming costs money, my dear.

  • @jamiemaybe
    @jamiemaybe Před 3 lety +47

    I think this is my ending song of choice for 2020, Because Dreaming Costs Money, My Dear. This year has been hell and back, but through it all I've had one person that has been there through everything. And personally that's what this song is about to me. Its easy to feel helpless in the constant stream of bad news that has been this year, but as long as my Darling 'plays the violin' or is doing what makes them happy such as art or music, we will manage somehow. No matter what happens I never want my partner to feel sorry or regret anything when they are with me. And although the smoke of 2020 may hang in my hair I hope they can pick me up and hear the tide and we can into 2021 and continue to have our passions that we live for, as well as living for each other. Happy new years

  • @louds0ft593
    @louds0ft593 Před 3 lety +37

    i'd really love to study music but there's basically no public universities in germany that offer the degree i want, and i can't afford to go to a private one, or one in a big city abroad. i know that there's worse problems and it's not a requirement for a career in music but i feel like i can never be good enough without it - and i guess i never will, because dreaming really does cost money lmao

    • @xim287
      @xim287 Před 3 lety +1

      I'm literally in the same situation :( I hate this

  • @ariana8573
    @ariana8573 Před 2 lety +14

    hot take this is sadder than class of 2013

  • @aflooki
    @aflooki Před 5 lety +45

    Ok i gotta say i cried w watching this. Its such a sad and loving song. I dont know how to describe it but just the softness in the song is also so harsh
    I just gotta go n hug my mom real quick ok

  • @bunnana8522
    @bunnana8522 Před 4 lety +35

    The title itself hits me really hard

  • @forestsnares
    @forestsnares Před rokem +5

    The "don't say sorry" part has me crying

  • @mcd3635
    @mcd3635 Před 8 lety +146

    How has she not mad major bucks yet she's AWESOME

    • @scatlauncher
      @scatlauncher Před 8 lety +87

      Because she's not conventionally attractive and doesn't sexualize herself.

    • @mcd3635
      @mcd3635 Před 8 lety +20

      +scatlauncher the disappointment in the current popular icon system :(

    • @dakotahope599
      @dakotahope599 Před 7 lety +46

      +scatlauncher to me she's one of the most beautiful women. She's herself

    • @gabauchi8338
      @gabauchi8338 Před 7 lety +40

      stylistically shes also an acquired taste
      it's a delicious taste, but an acquired one

    • @tayloeisthebongolord8992
      @tayloeisthebongolord8992 Před 6 lety +53

      I know this is incredibly late but I'm kind of upset no one said "because dreaming costs money my dear" to reply

  • @sonatachabanga
    @sonatachabanga Před 3 lety +9

    I'm sad. I'm afraid of going after my dreams because Im scared I'm not good enough. Adulting is hard lol

  • @reiiwashere
    @reiiwashere Před 6 měsíci +3

    my family, especially grandparents were falling apart quickly, quicker than most families drift apart somehow. my mother was about to go into debt, my grandparents were blaming my grades (which were B's nd the occasional C) on everything i do, being like "you're not gonna be a detective (my old dream job) if you dont get good grades" or "_____ is why you're getting bad grades" and all i ever craved was support but nobody would ever give me it, sometimes they would even call me spoiled if i wanted to talk to them (KEEP IN MIND I WAS 8-12) but im so glad i had this song to practically sing me a lullaby, knowing there would be someone, or something in the world who supported me.
    edit: i didnt mention my father due to his passing when i was around 3 months old, never even met him.

  • @fify1988
    @fify1988 Před 2 lety +9

    As some one who grew up afraid to ask for school supplies because of the cost, this song really tears at my heart. I want to have this kind of love for my children (when I have them). Working hard to see them find their dreams peacefully is a kinda of utopia I strive for

  • @Tam-um2qe
    @Tam-um2qe Před 3 lety +31

    TE AMO TE AMO TE AMO TE AMO TE AMOOOO TE AMO TANTO TE AMO, YA DIJE QUE TE AMO??? ERES MI RAZÓN DE VIVIR MITSKI, TE AMOOOOO AAAAAAHHH TE AMO TE AMO MÁS QUE A TODOS

  • @there.9254
    @there.9254 Před 3 lety +40

    this video deserves a bigger budget but the quality kinda matches the song/title

  • @borzoi2006
    @borzoi2006 Před 3 lety +12

    I cried the first time i heard this song because I could relate so much, like my family singing it to me considering all of my dreams revolve around art

  • @idk-ti3og
    @idk-ti3og Před 2 lety +5

    When i was little i always wanted to turn 18 and now im sitting here 19 years old not knowing what to do with my life, not really having any dreams or a big goal in life bc i never really thought id end up this far not bc i was depressed or something , i just never really realized who fast time passes by , and even though i am young i feel really old even though i have my whole life infront of me i choose to grief over my teenage years in which i feel like i wasted

  • @ross1364
    @ross1364 Před rokem +3

    This song reminds me of my mother, she is always there to make me feel better, always trying to help me reach my dreams and goals
    The “darling play your violin part” breaks my heart, it reminds me of how hard she tries to make me feel better, telling me to keep going even tho some people will not like what I want to do with my life, she is always there, telling me to keep going, even if it’s hard
    I love my mom 🧡 thank u for making this song mitski

  • @regina1860
    @regina1860 Před 6 lety +58

    Still my favorite Mitski song. I hope she tries exploring this sound again someday.

  • @sumayyahhussain14
    @sumayyahhussain14 Před 2 lety +13

    mitskis music resonates with me like no other. i wanna bawl my eyes out at every song

  • @ari-fx4kv
    @ari-fx4kv Před 2 lety +7

    this is really relatable when it comes to the one i'm in love with. her life is so incredibly heartbreaking. she's too young to hear her mom saying she wants to "disown her". give her to her father. get rid of her. just keep her away from her as hard as she can. and she's too young for her whole body to be covered in scars. scars she made. with her own hands, she'd cut herself and drink her honey everytime something bitter would come out of her family's mouths. she feeds on it. she feeds on her own honey. how innocent of a little girl does it take for someone to do something like that to her? it shatters my heart. it breaks it. i wish i could take her somewhere away from all of that, somewhere so far from everything, she doesn't deserve this, she doesn't at all, and i can't keep saying this to her because she isn't mine, she'd think it's bizarre. i just want her to have a normal life. one of where she's happy. one of where she doesn't feel the need to look out for her reckless sister and all of her wrecking doings. god, all i want is for her to be happy, even if it means we might have to become someones of strangers again. and as hard as i try to write my heart away, i'll never get this cowardly feeling out, it's always there, now i beat myself up whenever my heart is not blue, whenever my heart is not blue for her, i feel selfish myself for thinking i even have somewhat of a hard life. carry me away. carry me away. all i want is for someone to carry me away. and with that, all i want is to carry her away, with me.

    • @foreignersgod
      @foreignersgod Před 2 lety

      this is truly heartbreaking, i wish you both the best

  • @potato.pancake
    @potato.pancake Před 4 lety +15

    hi i just wanna say completely aside from her being an absolute wizard with melodies, vocals, and lyrics, I LOVE HER OUTFITS SO MUCH

  • @chelacala7320
    @chelacala7320 Před 3 lety +12

    This pains me because the thought of your parent supporting your choices in life while still comforting you in a way pains me so much. I love Mitski so much.

  • @einalteshemd
    @einalteshemd Před 8 lety +71

    i love mitski

  • @floralrune
    @floralrune Před rokem +2

    i dont know why "don't dare regret anything, remember what you're here for, you just play your violin" makes me cry instantly but it does

  • @emilyphillips1314
    @emilyphillips1314 Před 3 lety +4

    2:09 always gets me😔 the way her voice shakes for that whole line

  • @thelivingmanpart2
    @thelivingmanpart2 Před 9 lety +67

    saw her live last night at the echo... moved me almost to tears!! such beauty in her voice and lyrics

  • @helisarodrigues7185
    @helisarodrigues7185 Před 2 lety +7

    The only thing I can think of listening to this is my parents lifes before me. I envy people that were wanted from the beginning, and weren't a surprise. They had dreams, they lived in the sea, they were free to go to any direction, now they live in a shell, trapped together. I know I'm not supposed to say, but I am so sorry.

  • @wackywoohoopizzaman7218
    @wackywoohoopizzaman7218 Před 8 lety +72

    this is literally the best thing ive ever heard

  • @leila4244
    @leila4244 Před 2 lety +5

    this song is a very valid reason to cry in a positive way

  • @hi-rs7lx
    @hi-rs7lx Před rokem +5

    i am an incoming college freshman and my dream is to get into nursing school but my parents couldn't afford that and i understand them and still thankful for them. it's killing me inside but it's okay.
    this song really comforts me.

    • @hi-rs7lx
      @hi-rs7lx Před rokem +1

      it is very true that the closer i am to my dream, the harder it is for me to achieve it.

  • @jasaray
    @jasaray Před 2 lety +6

    the melody alone makes me feel so many emotions at once

  • @imperfectstars2151
    @imperfectstars2151 Před 2 lety +7

    i remember crying to this in 2016, god mitski, was the comfort of my childhood 😭 as a person of color and inspiring musician, i feel everything she speaks through her music. she’s art & i’m so so sorry for her at the same time, writing such music must be emotionally exhausting.

  • @kalenraj
    @kalenraj Před 2 lety +4

    when i was younger i played the piano. i played since i was 4. it was my dream to go professional and become and concert pianist. but i quit when i was 16. we didn’t have the money to continue lessons, and the odds were stacked against me. my parents didn’t want me to go into music as a profession but it was all i wanted. now that i’ve stopped playing it feels like i lost my passion and my life is empty. i wish i could’ve had the encouragement to continue.

  • @theidlerwheel
    @theidlerwheel Před 3 lety +6

    mitski te amo

  • @isabelledoesstuff8040
    @isabelledoesstuff8040 Před 2 lety +6

    The first verse hits me so hard. Last February I had a house fire that destroyed my home and I can still smell it sometimes

  • @Igis
    @Igis Před 2 lety +4

    I have dreams, but then i have another dream incase THAT dream doesn't work, but then I have ANOTHER dream incase THAT dream doesn't work too. And it goes on and on, I guess I'm just scared of failing.

  • @kylagranville5449
    @kylagranville5449 Před 7 měsíci +3

    UNDERRATED SONG ALERT🚨🚨

  • @pierrotlehonque5084
    @pierrotlehonque5084 Před 3 lety +4

    idk why this got me instead of the other, equally sad mitski songs, but this one got me

  • @frankiesmith2903
    @frankiesmith2903 Před 2 lety +9

    i love this song, but something that particularly struck me was, oddly enough, the way the shirt she's wearing gaps at the chest. it reminds me of when i was in high school and my own uniform shirts gapped like that at the chest, because i had outgrown them and didn't have the money to buy ones that fit right. it's such a small detail, but it makes the song mean that much more to me.

  • @sofiamontanez6889
    @sofiamontanez6889 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I'm just so proud of her, gives me chills the last part while she sing "we will manage somehow" and stares at the camera considering how she made it and the today's success of love mine all mine

  • @cloutelfin8323
    @cloutelfin8323 Před 2 lety +5

    Kinda started crying because as someone in the arts who’s had big dreams since a very young age, but with parents who didn’t have the money nor the time to get me lessons, I started singing and playing my guitar quite late. I’ve played clarinet and bass clarinet since I was 9, only because of my school. I’m much older now, but it makes me feel envious of those around me who were able to start lessons from a young age because they didn’t have to wait years to become financially stable and had parents who did have the time and money and supported them in what they did. Dreams can be expensive.

  • @wnrd7270
    @wnrd7270 Před 2 lety +4

    I'm always ugly crying to this song, so comforting yet so heartbreaking

  • @mrtickletoes52
    @mrtickletoes52 Před 6 měsíci +5

    My dad won't let my brother have his dream job, a computer science engineer, which he's REALLY good at, but my dad wants him to be a nurse. Maybe this happened because dreaming costs money.

    • @boosay1146
      @boosay1146 Před 6 měsíci +1

      that's very strange of your father to do that, there must be something more deeper than that

    • @mrtickletoes52
      @mrtickletoes52 Před 6 měsíci +4

      @@boosay1146 My dad is an immigrant who grew up poor, so I understand his perspective. He doesn't aant my brother to have a hard time making money, but sometimes i wish hed just trust us, yk? We can succeed.

  • @mirandabulling2002
    @mirandabulling2002 Před 9 měsíci +2

    This song popped in my head and wouldn’t stop repeating in my head the day my mom died. It makes me cry everytime.

  • @isabelaalbis5387
    @isabelaalbis5387 Před 2 lety +4

    Fav song

  • @aflooki
    @aflooki Před 5 lety +17

    Damn mitski did that SHE did that

  • @azumi182
    @azumi182 Před 2 lety +10

    yo solo vi la carita de mitski y dije "no me mires asi mitski, no me mires asi" y empecé a llorar por el amor y comprensión de su mirada, sus ojos reflejan un "entiendo tu dolor, descansa, solo escuchame cantar"

  • @sod4xdrugs-CN
    @sod4xdrugs-CN Před 2 měsíci +3

    Ive never cried to a song before. But this reminded me of everything. I remember when mum got me my first sketch book. Not because I asked for it, no. I used to draw on the back of my notebooks and tear the page off, then fold it to keep in my closet. She one day handed it to me. I wanted to cry so so bad. I know it was expensive. And i also know that my mother barely had enough money for it, yet she got it for me. And i remember when my dad got chocolate for my sister when she won in the science olympiad. I know he didn't have enough money for that big of a bar, yet he still got it. I can never thank the both of them enough, ever. For having financially struggled their whole lives, they never let that effect our own needs and wants. I love them so so much. I couldn't ask for better parents then them.