How it feels to go out when you’re very anxious
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- čas přidán 5. 07. 2024
- Unfortunately, I suffer from a lot of anxiety and I hardly ever go out. I’m making these videos to share my experience with other people with similar problems. Hopefully a few people will be able to relate to living with anxiety and no there is Hope at the end of the tunnel.
Great video, I relate to all of your feelings, I think you are really brave. Self compassion is the key to getting the strength to push through that little bit further each week. We are all work in progress!
@@jamieabraham-brett2978 thank you very much, Jamie. It makes all the difference to connect to other people who relate. I feel like a prisoner so often.
Hello! I'm a 30+ year old bloke, also suffer from anxiety much of my life, though most people would laugh at me for saying it, as I manage it reasonably well. I too get the butterflies, gut pain, diarrhea from an anxious state. I do believe that it is a weakness, personally. Framing it this way has been a key part for deciding to fight to overcome it. In alot of ways, anxiety is the rational state, especially given things like road rage, the hustle and bustle, anger and rush that everyone is in - the world is a threatening place. From my research, I found that it is basically impossible to make scarey things less scarey, but - and this was key - you can become braver. I didn't have my hair cut for 10 years (grew dreadlocks and wore a beanie constantly), and when I did, it was only my girlfriend (now wife) that was allowed to cut my hair. I then spent the next 5 years transitioning to going to a barbers. I now love going to the barbers - though I still HATE the first steps of going. I still get anxiety about it, but I have developed strategies - mainly practice doing more uncomfortable things, just beyond the comfort zone, and keep doing it, every day! It does not need to be extreme, but you just have to take yourself past the comfort zone little by little and it will naturally grow further every day! You can do it! Desensitisation is the only way you can get past this horrible state. All the best on your journey, you're not alone.
@@tom.2900 thank you so much for sharing. It’s easy for people to laugh when they’ve not experienced something. I guess that’s human ignorance. I agree with you about the desensitisation and I know that is sometimes harder than it seems.
It’s just so hard for other people to understand when they don’t suffer from it themselves. I think, generally, it’s hard for us all to understand feelings and situations when we don’t experience them. I really appreciate your encouragement and help. Do you go out and about in general or do you find yourself restricted quite a lot?
Follow agoraphobic here. I just started documenting my journey. I can't walk more that a few yards from my house without panic. I feel pathetic but since I've started carnivore diet, I feel hopeful and I'm able to do a lot more
@@gratefulagoraphobe thank you so much for reaching out and sending me this message. I’m really interested to know how your diet goes and I know some other people that are following the same diet that might sound a bit strange coming from me because I am a vegetarian, but I am very interested in quite a few diets.
@@MaskedMother I'm day 94 of carnivore and I've seen more positive changes than 20yrs of other treatments, and I've tried them all. You can do vegetarian keto, a lot of seafood and eggs. The main thing is to go into ketosis and stay in ketosis for a while. Ketogenic therapy is game changing for people. Look up the channel Metabolic Mind. They are great information. I went carnivore bc is stomach problems, I'm better with no veg or fruit, but it doesn't have to be extreme. There are lots of vegetarian keto people getting great results. There are loads of channels about it. I have made videos about my journey, good and bad
I empathise totally and wanted to reply to say you are not alone. I have been in this state for the past 15 years but the past 2/3 post pandemic has finished me off. I don't go out and do everything online. MOT is done by mechanic who picks car up and delivers back to me. I turn down invites all the time. I venture out only in my car to drop my daughter who is becoming increasingly independent and soon will not need me to. The anxiety is crippling and made more complex by chronic pain. I don't discuss it with anyone because I can't handle the 'just get out there' comments. Nothing to add or advise you on, but wanted to fly the flag.
@@hn4338 your message has really touched me and I am so glad that you have shared this. I thought I was the only person getting the mechanic to pick my car up in the past the only reason I took it myself is because the MOT station is literally about two minutes walk away it’s a new MOT station that wasn’t there before. The Garden Centre is my next door neighbour and Tesco is less than a mile away from my house and I felt well enough to drive there. I read you have chronic pain. I’m very sorry about that, and I suffer from recurrent migraines, I also don’t discuss my problem with hardly anyone for the same reasons: told to just get out there and do it. If only it was that simple, thank you so much for this message.
Totally relatable ❤
I've had periods of my life where I've been in a similar situation to you. The truth is you just have to make yourself go out every day, even if it's just for a quick walk around the block. Once you're okay with that, up the stakes and go a bit further. But the key is you have to make it a daily in order to form a habit. All the other good stuff (diet, meditation, being kind to yourself etc) will help a bit, but only regular exposure to what you fear can truely cure the anxiety.
@@npwn6569 I totally agree with what you’ve said and I’ve told myself so many times I just need to go out every day for a very short period of time. I don’t even know how I end up forgetting that I’m so very grateful that you have reached out and messaged me. Couldn’t agree more about the daily habit forming pattern.
Hi, what initially instigated your anxiety? Nasty people - a society thing, and / or e.g. an infrastructure thing - busy roads etc, or something else? Thanks. Love from Scotland, ❤ X ...
@@inquisitive1911 I would love to visit Scotland. It’s a long story, but I suffer from emetophobia. That has a knock on effect on everything I do. I know I need to talk about this but it’s hard. Love from London x
I am in a very similar place. Not going out much, feeling isolated. I am pretty sure it is old trauma (fear) of this or previous lives that plays out in your nervous system. You probably need grounding and energetic protection and someone who helps you identifying the old fears and releasing them. In a way that's what you are already doing. You are doing a lot of work that you are not aware of. The world needs sensitive people like yourself. You will break through!
@@silkemansholt6283 I am truly grateful for your kind words. Thank you so much for taking the time to message me. I think there’s a lot more I could be doing and I tend to forget that I need to work on this on a daily basis as well there is so much to do every day I end up forgetting that I need to do more work on myself. Grounding and energetic protection is very interesting. I do not know much about it.
Hi - I suffered like you for 10 years. But cured myself 100% through using a couple of very simple thought/habit changes and then practicing these daily for approx 6 months. Please reach out as I have cured friends and family. Sorry but don’t know how to DM. Am in UK. BTW this isn’t a sales pitch! I know exactly how you feel and just want to help others as the cure is so straightforward.
@@chrisw76 thanks so much, Chris. That is so very kind of you. I am really curious and interested into your techniques. I’m very much into the mental state of mind and reprogramming. I am a huge fan of Hypnosis and I know quite a lot about it, but need to know a lot more.
@@MaskedMothermy replies to you aren’t showing :(
@@chrisw76 that’s very odd? I definitely have comments switched on?
Try to get prescribed pregabalin it works great and is much safer than benzos
@@Zkjibidi_1023-u6r I’ve not heard of the drug before. I will look into it. Thank you so much.
O my dear!!!
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Find a therapist!!! You Will absolutely get help!!❤❤❤❤
@@witchhazel8583 thank you so much for this. My parents used to use these essences I will see if I can get some.
I know there are a few brands in the States . I buy some of them from Belgium.
Good luck.
And If you live in GB you Will most certainly find a clever therapist that Will help you out.
@@witchhazel8583 I live near London, yes.
You singing so beuterfully stop practice yoga
@@user-ng7gb9pv1t you don’t like the yoga? Glad you like the singing! Thank you!