Sharon Salzberg: Treat Your Anger with Lovingkindness
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- čas přidán 4. 09. 2023
- Sharon Salzberg (meditation pioneer, NYT bestselling author) breaks down what successful meditation looks like, how to extend lovingkindness to ourselves in the social media age, and what it really means to have compassion for our enemies while standing firm in our fight for others. She opens up about how her traumatic childhood and studying philosophy brought her to her career path today, why her first reaction to meditation was anger, the truth she has personally found in meditation, and how she managed to not allow early meditation critics to stand in her way. Sharon explains ways to combine introspection with lovingkindness, how balance and presence can lead to self-compassion, and the positives and negatives of anger. She and Mayim discuss the differences between meditation and prayer, the commercialization of meditation vs the foundation of mindfulness, the importance of slowing down to enjoy moments of happiness, and why we are more connected than we realize. Sharon reveals the role love and relationships has played in her life and shares her own personal meditation practice.
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I am so happy you had Sharon on your podcast. She is the Real Deal and has never in her entire life sought out the spotlight or tried to gain followers. She is the epitome of quiet strength and ever-growing perpetual spiritual knowledge which she has generously shared with the planet at large for no more than the cost of a book, a free lecture, or NPR style interview.
The real deal, indeed !! 🧠🫶
I’m so 😢😢
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@@MayimBialikThank you for sharing your podcast on youtube! I absolutely love it and have been listening since you started! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and the wisdom of so many amazing people!!! Stay blessed ❤
I'm so grateful to Sharon for being one of the bringers of the Dharma to the western world in deep and meaningful way. Much Love ❤
That is why you have to say, Do not confuse my kindness with weakness. ❤
This is an excellent episode with Sharon Salzberg. You have such great guests and conversations in this podcast. Thank you so much Mayim, you are wonderful! ❤
Good to see you Sharon!
I am a 72 yr old female who lived though .... When I lived in CA I went to Spirit Rock and got to know many teachers --Ah LovingKindness!
I had no idea about this wonderful person or the Insight Meditation Society, which is 1 1/2 hours from me. Usually everything awesome like this is in CA. I'll definitely be learning more. When the student is ready the teacher will come. 😍
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Ram Dass put me on the path when I was in 20's. His writings have been my guide.
Happy this popped up just in time to listen on my morning commute ❤
Started listening to the podcast and this was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
I needed this episode! I have anger deep inside me from having an addict father and not having control over my life.
Such a beautiful class! I’ve been listening to this in small chunks all day, pausing to digest one gem after another. Thank you Sharon, Jonathon and Mayim! 💝🌺🌸☺️💝🌺🌸☺️
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Sit down have a cup of tea or beverage of choice and truly listen. Amazing.
Thank you for bringing back the last part where Mayim and Jonathan are reflecting about the conversation they had with the guest. I always love that 🫶
I use the 10%happier meditation app and one of her guided meditations is my go to. it's Sharon's simple guidance in getting you to recognize your goodness and i cry every time.
Now Dan Harris next please!
Please have Dan Harris! His journey from panic attacks as a national news anchor to starting 10% Happier app and writing his books. He would be a phenomenal guest!❤🙏🏼
I took course with Sharon a couple of days ago, it’s been life changing ✨ I’m forever grateful for her service and love ❤
Thank you from my expanding heart, so grateful for listening to Sharon, Mayim and Jonathan’s conversation❤💖💕
I had the same “problem” as you Mayim when began meditating: where to start. With so much “noise” around (daily life struggles, work, social nets, information & misinformation..) I wish I’d had Sharon then! Thank you for having her in this fabulous podcast!
How did you first start meditating? Did you do it on your own or did you have something to guide you? I do a lot of stretching which I pretend is my meditation but I guess I don’t really know if it is meditation or not.
@@HH-gv8mx I began by myself at home. But as I said, after some sessions, I was sure I was doing it bad. Then I do it at Nature, that I found easier to begin. And someday, a friend of mine mentioned Insight Timer app. I use it since then.
I'm sorry. So sorry
I’m thinking I’ll be listening to this more than once. Can your podcasts get any better . Thankyou Mayim and Jonathan . 🙏💜🙏💜 blessings from Australia.
36:44 _"Hi_ _Lucy!"_ ✨🙏🏼
This is one of the most profound explanation I have ever heard! Thank you so so much!
Thank you so much for having the amazing Sharon Salzberg on your show. I follow her closely and have done many of her offerings including her book clubs. She is a major part of neuroscience. I also enjoy her work on the 10 Percent Happier app. I’ve seen the majority of your Breakdown episodes as well. Thank you again for having her. I hope this episode gets an enormous number of views. ❤🙏🏼❤
A lot of the times when we feel anger the majority of that anger is anger and disappoint directed to ourselves, this is usually because on some level we decided to trust the other person and that trust was destroyed, so we are angry at ourselves for trusting them in the first place. We also define people a certain way, put them in a certain box, or put them on pedestals, and when they can not live up to our expectations we are angry with them for not being what we want them to be. Then there is the feeling of being personally attacked by what they did/said, even if they did not intend it that way, or was even thinking of you when they did/said what they did.
So when you are talking to your anger you need to ask who are you really angry at and why are you angry. It is ok to feel anger, but how much of that anger is deserved? You should also ask where do you want to go from there. Keep going through and untangling that angry mess so you understand what exactly is going on. If you are having a hard time doing it by yourself find someone you can trust (either a friend, family member, or a professional) to talk to about it. At the end you need to realize that at some point you need to let go of that toxic mess, and you need figure out what you personally can do to do that.
Ho'oponopono
Love, Love, Love Sharon Salzberg and you Mayim Bialik! I just stumbled on your channel and I'm so glad I did. I really like your thought provoking questions, interactions, etc. Even though I 've heard Sharon's background before, I found this quite interesting. This makes me happy! Thank you.
Yayyyyy, so glad you found us!!! Thanks very much for the lovely feedback 🧠🫶
love the idea of meditation in correspondence to silent or movement prayer!! i've found that when i visualize internally (with which my mind's eye isn't always entirely switched on to active or passive imagination - i long for access to these modes often and meditation helps to strengthen the "muscle") what helps if i try to build an inner landscape to move around, look around as if. rotate my head around looking "in to it" with my eyes closed, kind of like one would with those VR glasses or movement detection technology but trying it on the inside. seems to stimulate my imagination.
Mayim, this was wonderful. Sharon’s journey is so “bashert”. She called it “happenstance” that she discovered the Asian Philosophy course where she started her journey on meditation. I believe this was "meant to be". At 18 she had the courage to go to India and jumped right in. Amazing. Three days before leaving to India, she hears about this Tibetan who just “happens” to be speaking in Buffalo NY at a nearby university? Seriously? How “bashert” was that? He picks her question out of the pile of questions? She just “happens” to be in a Tibetan restaurant and overhears people talking about the International Yoga Conference? Again… to me it was all “meant to be”. Lastly, she goes to the conference, and the one speaker who later wrote Emotional Intelligence, guides her toward the 10-day retreat where she finally got what she was looking for and found her home. Her whole life led up to this, Mayim. Everything she suffered now had meaning for her and all the people she has helped. I am so blown away by Sharon’s story. Please know that I wrote a book about my mother who survived the Holocaust and my father who survived the atomic bomb as a POW in Japan. The story of how they survived the horrors of their captivity only to meet in the most extraordinary of circumstances and triumph over their tragedy despite the trauma of their past is filled with Sharon’s kind of “meant to be” life moments. Like Sharon, I never had kids to pass my family legacy onto, which is why I wrote my book, give talks about their story and am working on a movie adaptation of the book. I can’t help but wonder if you, Sharon and Jonathan also believe that things happen for a reason and are "bashert". I am confident that you would love my parents' story.
Mayim we have similar interests - meditation, brains and judaism. Wanted to extend my gratitude for speaking out against the horrible attrocities that happened in Israel. Many stars remained silent and even made excuses for it. Shal-OOOOMmmm
Thank you! You asked Sharon all the questions I’ve always wanted to ask her ❤❤❤
I have been waiting for this one to drop. You mentioned you had her on the podcast on instagram one day and I couldn’t wait to hear this one.
Thank you Mayim and Johnathan! I love your podcast, and have been introduced to so many incredible people including you two!! I
As a Dharma teacher, and 25 year MBSR teacher (I have a professional medical background in addition to Mindfulness training), this episode totally captivated me. I'm an international teacher trainer and retreat leader. Over the years I've noticed the dilution of the teachings , as well as what people call Mc Mindfulness; I wrote a book called The Dharma of Modern Mindfulness, The Buddhist Foundations of MBSR. I am also involved in NIH funded research on the effects of MBSR on families with children onthe ASD. My most recent grant is one which allowed us to train a cohort of BIPOC mindfulness teachers. It's been a woefully white world... It's so exciting to see it unfold. I've worked closely with JKZ, sat retreats with Sharon. I'm not trying to self promote or name drop, I just think these issues might be of interest to you. And perhaps we could have a great conversation. with love and gratitude, Beth Mulligan
Thank you, Mayim ❤
love your channel, mayim!!!
Definitely a favorite podcast! ❤
This is a great episode! The podcast has excellent guests and discussions. I hope Lady Gaga will be the next guest! She is a mental health advocate and will have a fascinating discussion with you, Mayim, and Jonathan ❤
LG!! yes please
@@jmsl_910 right? 😁
Oh....i caught the names!!!! My therapist recommened them to me to learn about mindfulness
48:44 for me, I had to learn to have compassion, kindness and love for myself too, which means I have to have boundaries when I'm the one being harmed in some way, like narcissistic abuse, where I'm always trying to placate/please despite my own needs. It's kind of a paradox insofar as I'm aiming at understanding the illusion of ego, while maintaining a healthy ego concomitantly! Whew! Who am I anyways? 😂
What I'm saying, basically, we are all sentient beings, you, me, the bug on the window, the mite on a pillow, the bacteria in yogurt, may we all be happy, well, and free from suffering, and know the sources and causes of each, and may we all discover, recognize and abide in our true nature ❤
1:03:26 so true! I avoided taking my own life based entirely on the thought, "I wonder what will happen next? Who knows, how about let's find out!" Wr want certainty but it's uncertainty that makes life interesting :)
I need to suggest something to you, Mayim..and I love your podcasts, by the way. *waves to Jonathon too* I have come to the conclusion that we are not, in fact, human beings...but human becomings. I have decided my first book will be titled, "Lucy does not live here anymore" May you have peace and I hope someday we can meet and/or chat.
Thanks for doing this, I did not know her. Great human beings 💓
Thank you so much
Thank you
Wonderful podcast mayim this podcast is very good
I did a meditation with her at Shambhala center in nyc in the early 2000's. I also wanted to go to Jon karat zin center for migraines. Thankfully I found Dr John Sarno who's work healed my back pain. Then I found Nicole Sachs, Dr alan Gordon, Dr Howard schubine, dr dan Ratner etc & no more migraines. If, when I get one, it usually goes away.
Once again, I really enjoyed this guest. I am her age. Never did get into meditation. I got a kick out of you and Jonathan bantering at the end .
Never too late to start meditating! And thanks so much for the kind note ☺️
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Making coffee ❤❤❤
My algorithm is on point! 🤩
The way she explains meditation it’s almost like EMDR
“We are human beings, not human doings (…) Just sit down. And be quiet. And listen. And stop.” by Mayim. This is the best briefing, not only regarding this episode, of Sharon’s teachings who, btw, I follow from time ago at Insight Timer about practicing Gratitude. Thanks for having her in your podcast!
I'm sorry I have to leave before the end of the discussion. I so sorry. I respect you so much and I'm excited to work with you.
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I am the other Sharon Salzberg. I have an MSW from N.Y.U. and am a retired School Social Worker. I have had to respond to being mistaken for you. I live in Charlottesville, Va.
Hi Mayim ❤
I looked up Mother Teresa, just curious about comparisons- it was documented that her father died when she was 8. I wonder if they were allowed to experience such suffering at an early age to frame who they would be in the future? There are so many things - that God only knows. ❤
I truly believe that we as humans only develop compassion for others when we have suffered ourselves or have been the 24/7 carer of someone who has suffered (and had conversations with them about what is going on in their internal being). Those with compassion have not just merely seen someone physically impacted but have seen the mental, emotional, spiritual and social suffering.
I believe compassion (and empathy) is choosing to see the suffering of others, feeling like we want to help, and acting on the instinctive need to help. When we are suffering , or have been suffering, we see others suffering in a different light. Our perspective changes.
For me it was no longer OK to see someone or some animal suffering and not do all I could to help ease them. Suffering has taught me some lessons about what is valuable/important to me and what can be let go/released.
Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot
You recommended cutting down on screen time and then you posted a 2 hour video, LOL!
i think it's about being intentional w what we consume.
Have you heard of Lame Surya Das? Pico Iyer? Would be interesting interviews.
Thank you for your podcast and this episode. I actually didn't listen to the whole thing but want to share a resource with everyone, in case this is helpful. Please check out a type of therapy called internal family systems therapy, I FS. It's a cutting edge approach With a spiritual basis that helps us work with our InnerVoices in a somewhat new way. Builds on what you all are talking about and then takes it to another level. Very compatible with all types of Buddhism, all religions and spiritual practices. I am a practitioner as well as client in this method and I believe it is revolutionary. Just wanted to share that.
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Oops i thought was Sergio Saccanni...
I detest that saying. Life is not suffering. The rich humans on this Earth have wrought suffering upon the poor humans. Buddha was himself was born into wealth & sought out suffering thinking it would bring him wisdom. No religious dogma has the answers especially ones made up by the ruling class thousands of years ago. You might be able to cherry pick some pearls here & there but it's just another tool of control.
Life is suffering. What a cold, cruel, callous thing to say to someone in pain. Invalidating everything they've been through & sucking the hope right out of the soul.
I get some people find comfort in that. I do not. It makes me want to lay down & die right on the spot. It very much feels like the response an ancient king would spout to his serfs who are broken from toiling to build his 5th palace while they starve in the gutter. Or to put it in modern terms something Elon Musk or Trump would say with a sneer.
I don't usually allow myself to post when I'm feeling this low for obvious reasons but I can't help it today. Before I close my eyes I want to say I do not intend any malice towards the speaker or posters of this video. It is the term, the ideology & those who support the wealthy ruling class I sharpen my proverbial guiatine for. I'm too poor to exist anymore & it's taking its toll. I don't expect compassion & feel free to delete my comment. Wailing into the void doesn't help anyway
maybe it reflects the suffering you felt into as you were typing this? is that not the suffering of life in translation? fully with you on how suffering isn't all that life is but i do think you tapped into the suffering OF life right there? how life can be suffering but like life suffering is impermanent. love the word sneer though i think if suffering went personified it would wear a snear for many of us! hope you feel better soon, hope the sneer fades into something more genuine
also fully think you deserve to expect compassion!! we all do!! really love that image and the symbol of a rose by the way, to me it's like the rose protects its heart with the thorns and petals, think that's so vulnerably powerful. if you need a good cry and a fullhearted pick me up at once and you don't know the story yet i so recommend the story of the little prince (and his rose). it's a children's story of loss and love by antoine de saint-exupéry but it's deeply deeply comforting (to me).
@@curseofcontext I came back to delete my comment but found unexpected kindness instead. Thank you for your words❤
@@kahldrialeighsun1208Thank you for your genuine and thought-provoking comment.
Rage against the machine comes to mind.
All the best
I, too, am glad that you didn’t delete your comment, your honest heart-cry.
Muddy man
I'm sorry.
🤗What is happening to Sharon’s body, she is not looking healthy. 💜Love Buddha’s Wisdom. Suffering is a powerful teacher, it teaches us to train our minds to put a positive spin on everything so that we don’t continue to steep in the miserable thoughts about a given situation. BE kind to yourself !!! 🥰
When is this Barre, MA meetup? 🤣 I want to be in the room too for the adoption ceremony. I'm just a little over an hour away. 🌈🩷🪷