Why Depersonalization Recovery Takes SO LONG (RiseUnlimited.Net/Recover)
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- Welcome. My name is Jordan Hardgrave. I once suffered from debilitating trauma, depersonalization/derealization, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, health anxiety, social anxiety, existential anxiety, and many more things that wasted many years of my life. I was tired, frustrated, and gave up hope that I could ever find healing. To be honest, I didn’t even know I was traumatized. My symptoms became a part of who I was. They became “normal”. Many years ago, after throwing together all the tools I could find online (most of which didn’t help), I accidentally stumbled upon a body-based method that brought me permanent healing. I figured, “If I apply all these tools at the same time surely one will work”. Little did I know at the time that hidden within the dozens of tools that didn’t work, I had discovered body-based tools that DID work, which skyrocketed my results and got me to being 100% symptom free.
When I was suffering I made a commitment that if I ever could become symptom free (I never thought I actually would, lol), that I would spend the rest of my life helping others heal. I spent tens of thousands of hours and dollars studying under the top trauma and mental health experts in the world, as well as constantly perfecting my method until it would bring rapid results no matter how long someone had been suffering. I based my method off evidence-based tools as well as the work and understanding of experts such as Dr. Steven Porges, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Peter A Levine, and Dr. Joseph LeDoux just to name a few.
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Dpdr are uncomfortable but not dangerous! They are safe Trauma coping mechanisms. Trauma is a state of overwhelming stress. Focus on changing your state and not trying to change your symptoms. Need help? My program can help you avoid waking up tomorrow wondering if you’ll ever recover. You’ll be confident that you’re on track to get to 100% symptom free. Dprecovery.com
Is it normal for it to last months?
@@nunami- it's been 61 years for me
Can Deja vu be part of the symptoms?
@@SlightlySoberYThow
How do I join your class?
I talked about DR to my dad and he said to treat it like an observation. Like saying to yourself “this feels kinda surreal, that’s weird” and then move on. This helped me a lot so i assume it can help others
How are you now?
Interesting
this was explained so well. if anyone out there is experiencing this. i promise you are okay just sit down and relax and get yourself collected and tell yourself “i am okay it’s all in my head and my brain is overworking” it may sound like your deep in your conscious but that’s what it is. your gonna be okay❤️
Thank you 😔🙏
Thanks
Try telling that to me, who has tried everything and is still suffering after ,61 years
@@SlightlySoberYT Do you believe in God?
What am I if not my brain and head?
Sometimes my dpdr is so heavy for days i feel like im full psychotic…
This exactly is how I’m feeling
@@800Jbangz its terrible
As a 15 year whos had it for 3 years now non stop. I truly regret eating that edible that triggered it
My shit was also started by a fucking edible
Just know a psychotic person don’t their crazy
I’ve dealt with for years and so glad it’s going away, anyone struggling with this, you are not alone, I’m thinking of you 🙏
How is it going away?
@@larisaportillos7515 yes
I had dpdr about 3 years ago. I didn’t realize at that time I was going through a lot of stress and anxiety. Over the last few months I’ve been dealing with the same amount of stress and anxiety and sure enough, the DPDR came right on back like an old friend. Go after your anxiety and stress and the dpdr will subside. This is 100% spot on
is it possible to be completely the same as before
@@araiq7005 yup. In many cases you become even better than you were
@@jdlewis7064 Is it possible that it will be worse than before? What I'm really worried about right now is my ssri effects.
Absolutely true. And I didn't understand it when this started for me when I was a very young teen. But I understand it as an adult. It's an absolutely terrifying experience.
It goes away after about a week or so with no more anxiety panic attacks heavy amounts of stress etc. you got this!
Eh no sir 🤣🤣 your BLESSED if it goes away in a week
lol no it doesn’t
@@69daysago yes it does I’ve been dealing with it for years. It goes away when all of that other shit goes away 100%..
@@JuanGarcia-yn2rm it doesn’t necessarily go away in a week it can take a year but the more you keep thinking about it and obsessing yourself about symptoms it will stay with you forever as long as you want to stop googling shit get off CZcams get outside and be active stay off of social media and get a job. yes the more you stress, the more anxiety and panic attacks. You have the worst it gets but the more you keep obsessing about it the worse it gets and that’s exactly what you people on here doing.
@@marcushuffman5262then why have I had it constantly for 9 months now?
Am emotionally numb I don’t feel no love nothing because of this
How are you doing?
I love you for making this video and saying these words. Why can't I find a counselor or phycologist with this type of wisdom.
That is so true. I have been there.
Body-centered therapy has rid my body of overwhelming stress and my mind from causing more stress. It healed my life in ways I never thought possible.
Thank you so much man ♥️♥️ you've really helped me a lot man ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Hey Kendy! Happy to help my friend!
This is what I needed to hear 😮 thank you and God bless you
You are so welcome
Thanks brother, it's real helpful
Happy to help
Thank you so much you explained this so well GOD BLESS YOU ❤️!
Happy to help
what about the existential thoughts? Those do not seem like a defense mechanism
Side effect of anxiety/racing mind
Ive been struggling with DP/DR for about 3-4 years now, but its oonly getting worse as im untreated. It happens everyday,without a trigger, i just wake up and go about my day and i feel like im fully out of my body and like im gonna slip away from this reality any moment and its terrifying
I remember i had this from 2017 to 2019 it was hell specially being a parent my kids grew up and missed that time with them
Hey sorry super random but I've had this for 2 years and I cant seem to get over it , will it ever go away
@@zachariahwhisman-yd3sy It got better after the third year but it leaves a scar
@@miaalvarez722 i have to kids and it sucks but with counseling its getting alittle better , but what do you mean by scar . I just want the out of it feeling gone .
@@zachariahwhisman-yd3sy i mean i never felt myself 100%. But still better than how i was before to this day i do not know what triggered it. Do you know what caused yours?
@@miaalvarez722 my brother passing away and just letting stuff build up and never letting it . I'm doing way better than I was but the out of it feeling hasn't gone away , I finally started counseling so I hope it gets better 🙏
is this that terrible feeling ? like i had that when i was a kid when i was asleep or before sleeping it feels like everything is loud, very heavy, sharp, slow and like i’am very sensitiv my god it’s terrible and now slowly i get this feeling when i’m awake during the day it’s so strange please explain me what it is
Almost 27+ years i am suffering with this 😢
Praying is the best recovery for anything. give it all to god and your gonna be ok even though its been a super super long time for you no matter how bad it is just remember you lived without this before and you are in the sam life everything is real bc i have it and its not very fun but it will go away
@@000jaccVery true. Only God can heal us
@@user-in4mz9go4d yess
DP is either a product of an sensitised nervous system/fight or flight, or all in your head and non existent. It can’t be both. If it’s fight/flight it makes sense that you have a traumatised nervous system and recovery takes time. If it’s all in your head, recovery is impossible because it can be turned off and on with a thought
You really opened my eyes to alot helped me out a lot have a baby on the way and this really helped
Happy to help! If you haven’t got the s5 method yet and you’re ready to wake up tomorrow and be on track for recovery it’s at dprecovery.com
I hope you can find abortion care!
Does it even help to recover having dpdr from panic attack?
I have suffered over 20 years with it. When I’m very stressed it kicks in or even sometimes just coming back from a holiday it will kick in it still scares me I feel I won’t be able to ground myself again in the here and now but mostly I can control it when it happens.
but im not stressed
I struggle with dp dr often and I am a zookeeper who works with lions so this is a very real threat for me 😂
I did not now this!!!! 💝
Hello, I am extremely stressed out because i have a extreme amount of work/homework to complete and i dont know what you would suggest. should ai start to go to therapy or would that make it worse?
Its been 2 years and I'm still dealing with it 24/7 . I cant seem to get over it
Same only 1 year and 6 months
@@lauramelgoza90 itll pass its hard but I just started counseling today and hope it gets better 🙏 I hope you find a way to get over this
@@KING05679hello I’m 14 years old and I’m suffering with dpdr from last 2 years now I am tired of it I literally suffered daily like 24/7 idk what to do I always feel numb and also feel like I am not in This world and I have no one to talk with I look happy from outside but from inside I’m crying 😭 please talk to me and tell me what should I do? Please
But sometimes u cant get rid of anxiety that causes ddd.
Just accept it its so fun
@@yassinboubay8947i also enjoy depersonalization
I just realized that I’ve been experiencing this on and off for years…
I never really realized I felt different from anyone else. I thought “my hands aren’t my hand’s because they don’t feel like mine” mukltiple times when I was a kid. Most of my childhood memories (specifically the bad ones) are all from a out of body perspective. Like Im remembering a movie where I’m the lead character. I have a lot of great memories from my own perspective too . But it’s just strange knowing it’s not exactly how you’re supposed to be experiencing life lol
I Watch myself the whole day and ask myself what is my brain who i am what are my thoughts and it gehts me panic Attacs, i feel the whole time disconnected from my body. Is this normal?
Ive been dealing with this for 5 yrs and its been off an on but just recently my job has been hectic and stressful and my wife is about to have major heart surgery and on top of that i just lost my job because of dpr an dpl. Because i cant function an feel like ive been watching someone else use my hands and body and im numb. How do i get rid of it? Or atleast be able to calm it down
Does caffeine make symptoms worse I feel it does but it’s such a big part of my day and work
Yes. Some day’s caffeine triggers it and makes it extreme for me. Some day’s caffeine doesn’t trigger it at all.
thank you
Happy to help!
Jordan how can I get ahold of you. I bought the s5 course and I am working on it but I’d like to do the coaching, another thing. I have a 7 year old daughter who is also suffering from dpdr. I would like to hear a recommendation on helping her out, this is such a horrible situation
Hey, Chris. Just saw this. You can apply to work with me and my team at coachjordanhardgrave.com/apply.
Got mine from smoking weed, everyday is hard to wake up to the same thing. Please be careful out there 🙏. Sometimes it even feels like I’m literally in the edge of dying. Hopefully everything goes back to normal..
Not hopefully, everything will go back to normal. You got this, keep staying positive.
Gosh me too. Been dealing with this since 2016
Is it normal having to twitch when having DPDR, it sort of helps me come slightly back to reality.
Just see it as a message your body is sending you. it’s better to accept the sensation then fight it or worry
Hey, i have very bad derealisation due to weed abuse... I quit and do see some improvement but its still really bad and stops me from functioning normally in my everyday life. Are the solutions the same for substance abuse-induced dpdr as stress-induced? Thanks a bunch for any help whatsover!
I’m having this same thing. Did it improve at all? I’m only Day 5 sober.
@@RamblingCSguy It definetely improves the longer you have sober, I also saw another video about how you should try to make yourself less scared of it by telling yourself its okay and your body is only trying to protect you, nothing you can do about it now that its happening anyway. That also sortof helps I guess, but most importantly dont go back to smoking. That brings everything back instantly.....
@@lewispeart2344 I relapsed once 23 days ago, followed by instant regret and the promise to myself to never do it again. I still want to very often but when i remind myself why i quit i think it will all be worth it in the end. Stay strong people!
Yeah weed gave me thought loops. And those thought loops basically made everything click into the place how the world works. It’s empowering, but also pretty scary. I think a big reason is because we spend so much time on electronic devices now. We are associating more with technology rather than humans. It’s similar to how money was for people when it was invented, it’s kind of difficult to live without money or technology now.
what do you mean by taking care of the stress of life? I've been in it for >5 years and I've gone through certain periods during DR that I've had very little stress and it never went away even a single bit
Hey Nelson! When someone enters state 4 severe trauma there is Dpdr and other trauma symptoms with no fight or flight symtoms (stress/anxiety)
@@coachjordanhardgrave Thanks for this info. For these cases would it be the same way to recover via bodyfulness and muscle relaxation?
@@playcost the s5 method would apply for state 4 severe trauma and state 3 moderate trauma
@@coachjordanhardgrave do you have a video on that method? I don’t know what that is
@@playcost for more info go to dprecovery.com
I don't have any stress in my life though. But i still have derealization every single day. I believe it came from recreational drug use (my God I regret it so much) and a traumatic event 13 years ago. How would accepting these scary feelings change my brain lol
Ok. So how the hell do I get rid of the stress? I can’t. I have a severely disabled child and CPTSD from a lifetime of abuse. Drugs used to help. But I got kids now. So no drugs. Ugggggggghhhhhh I am gonna have a stoke in 5 years
When you increase relaxation you decrease stress :)
You guys does anyone else feel like family are strangers? I would feel convinced of it or sometimes genuinely confused as to if it’s true or not. Is that part of it to feel like you truly don’t know if it or insanity?
the thing is its hard to sleep
sometimes i dont sleep like for 3 days straight
Yeah sleep just doesnt happen
beccause youre in constant thought patterns, I hope you found acceptance and joy by this time, if not maybe i can give more advice, you prob heard it all by now though
This 🙏 …wishing everyone a fast recovery.
Is it will recover
I’ve got both and about a year ago it got a lot worse. I’m about 20 years into having it and I’m definitely struggling…
If u have nthg positive to say stfu
So ur saying my social anxiety is so high that my brain thinks im getting eated by a lion lmao I'll take that
So I got a super power
Can it make you feel like your mind or brain isn’t connected to your head or body like I can see myself take every blink and it’s so hard to sleep cause it’s like I don’t know when I’m sleepy
YES, this is how I’m feeling rn, I’m supposed to be sleeping but it’s so hard to sleep because I keep thinking and thinking
Not a good feeling
@@800Jbangzdo you experience the feeling of watching yourself blink too?
10 months of this shit I hate every second of it
Can you make an interview with someone called Mohammed Kilani
He put a method called Reik Method and he says it can resolve trauma from root , please ❤️❤️❤️
All Love to you 💋💋💋
Is it normal for dpdr to make u feel trapped in ur body
That can happen yes
If I'm in emotional stress if my emotional stress goes away will I overcome dpdr
The latest neuroscience shows us that we need to address things happening in the body in order to heal. Trauma is a body that is constantly preparing for threat that that never comes so we need to your body out of fight flight freeze response.
They key is to use a body based approach (releasing tension energy and emotion from the body) paired with co-regulation (working with someone that can provide the necessary hope, encouragement and support along the healing journey).
I would encourage you to check out the 5 Shifts to Heal from Trauma, Anxiety, Depersonalization & Emotional Numbness Masterclass. It is a free Masterclass that will show you the 5 shifts to become symptom free using a body-based approach. You can find the link in my main CZcams profile as well as in the description and first pinned comment in any Video. Hang in there and thanks for commenting!
Mind fucking blown
I alone living 25 yrs pay bill super almost health skinny
wish I *was* being eaten by a lion. 22 years of this sh*t.
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👌🏻🙏🏻 100♡
I'm suffering from this please anyone help me....... I'm hopeless my life😔
Hey! Listen to my story at dprecovery.com and then at the end you can get my s5 method program which is everything I learned about how to heal.
I'm losing my mind l
Are you any better now??
My problem was weed. Smoking weed made me develops a bad case of depersonalization
Im about to eat a lion with this dpdr
thankyou
I have a friend who is driving around his city without clothes. You live in a dream, so you must be going crazy right…
21 yrs in this maze
Same