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Advice I learned the hard way going through divorce: As soon as you two decide on following the separation thru to divorce get a written document notarized from this date on stating he is responsible for any of his own accrued debt thats began from this date on, and you yours. Otherwise since you are still legally married bill collectors can come after spouse cuz you're still legally attached to each other until divorce is completed.
Hi, ty for this advice! Is this just something I can hand write, like a self-attested statement and then get it notarized? Thx again!
@@aug07broken i don't see why not as long as its legible. And both parties sign it. Once its notarized its a legal document. Comes in handy if soon to be Ex spouse tries to make big purchases and then doesn't keep up on payments like a vehicle and such, or in my case if you each have your own vehicle Already, mentioning he's taking sole responsibility for ( list his vehicle) and you for yours (list your vehicle) so if his gets repoed after date of notarized split it can't be held against your credit.
@@lenarobins2480 Thank you Lena! All the best to you! âșïž
Yes free trader agreement !!!!
Volunteering is so fun and humbling, you can do this with or without the kids!
Itâs a great way to help and meet, giving and caring people like yourself. Give yourself time. Donât rush. Look up events going on in your area for you, and the kids.
Iâm so proud of you! Donât pressure yourself on anything. Give yourselves Grace and understanding.
Praying for peace and solace for you.
This is a new year with lots to look forward to!â€
My son started going to his dad's house at about 6 months old. He just turned 7 years old. It definitely gets easier to be alone. And the guilt will subside about making up for being a split home. This will become their normal and they will appreciate being in two happy homes instead of one unhappy home. I learned to embrace the alone time. I used to spend all day in bed crying because he was gone. Now I look forward to it sometimes. The first night is great for me. Then the second day is harder. But I know it's important for him to spend time with his other family. And I have learned to trust that he's being taken care of by them. I see his "other" family as more people that love him.
Many years ago I was single and had just lost my job so I was in quite a "funk". I took line dancing classes. You don't need a partner, it's great exercise and I had so much fun and met some great people.
i met my very best group of friends by going to a book club. Volunteering is another great way to meet people!
I was married for 30 years and it ended in divorce. I remarried a man with 3 children ⊠with that came an ex wife, his parents and his childrenâs personalities. It is so more difficult than you can imagine. Tread lightly
YES IT IS.
Iâm a MESS during my separation and impending divorce. Here is what Iâm starting that has helped. Just me, not saying is good for everyone. Back to church, reading,volunteering, gardening, hiking , in counseling snd joined the YMCA. 56 years old and the jerk is paying me half of his income and half of all OUR assets. So Iâm not working. Sucks but itâs getting better. I have to force myself to out outside away from home , do something once a day at least. We got this woman! đ
Praying all went well with mediation, Mai! đđ»đđ»đđ» I was so happy to see your video this morning. I've been checking to see if I missed a notification... lol I miss you when you don't post regularly, so I went back and watched some of your decluttering videos in the meantime for motivation. Hang in there, it will all be ok đđ» You got this, girl...đ
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Hey Zimmy, love your content đ I highly recommend taking salsa classes. It has helped me become more confident and outgoing as well as made a few friends along the way.
Itâs hard to like these videos when I wanna scoope you in for a hug. There should be the heart or care buttons like in Facebook đ„° I truly hope that you you both have talked through what it is that you guys can live with and grow your family together but apart with in the future. Much prayers for you doing this uncomfortable time.
Blessings
Love your videos, always feel like Iâm listening to a friend when I watch them! Ps where is your shirt from?! Love it!!
Hope the mediation went well and that you will post a new video soon, keep us updated :D Regarding hobbies - after divorce I went to a dance class for a year and when the teacher started with aerial yoga lessons I tried that out and have been doing it ever since, over 4,5 years now. LOVE IT! I've always loved hammocks so it's really great and fun way to move myself, do a bit yoga, bit strength training, but most of all I love all kinds of tricks - upside down, somersaults etc. You know they say it's important to let your inner child have fun even when you are grown up? Those tricks really do it for me. Aerial yoga classes can be very different - some are really acrobatic and sporty, some more chill (I'm attending the last type).
We really care for you, Mai! I know it's easy to say that from across a screen but you truly have such a likeable personality and grit and we see you and are here for it! Prayers for your well-being and mental health not just for the after effects of the meditation but also as you continue to get used to not being around your kids full time. Wish I lived closer to you so we could meet up for coffee or a kid's play date or something, and of course I'd deliver some of hubby's homemade crĂȘpes! Take care đ
Me as wellâŠI wish I lived closer to you & we can meet for coffee & just chat about our momâs crazy lifeđ·đ
Missed you!!!! Good luck!
I thought I would never get married again after I had my short huge mistake marriage at age 26. I seriously thought I would be single forever. Ten years later I met my hubby and he is the best. Most of the time in the thick of divorce you think you will never get married again but never say never!
Awe! Well said!! â€
Thinking of you. Glad AZ trip went well.
Would you ever get a dog? Iâve met a lot of friends at the dog park and training. Plus when your kids are away you wouldnât be totally alone.
Take the group exercise classes at your gym. Great, fun workouts. You will get to know the people that come regularly and form friendships and camaraderie. The people that go like staying healthy and those are the types of people that I like to be friends with!
What about a part time job to get you out of the house and meeting people?
I used to be a hairstylist and it's a very fun and sociable work environment. If you didn't want to go to cosmetology school, you could always be a receptionist.
i suggest maybe a crafting, painting or ceramics community class then you can always use, gift, or sell the stuff you make! usually colleges/universities have community classes available! or maybe a book club or learning an instrument and eventually joining a community group if you have something like that near you! hope you find something fun to do :)
Love your smile. You are doing amazing even in the great time of stress. I love your Arizona trip pictures so pretty. Your room/suite was heaven sent! So glad you were given that specific room. You are going to do great things in your life and great job as a mom!! Thank you for sharing your videos.
I joined my local CrossFit gym, and itâs been a game changer for me. Iâm such an introvert, and the gym helped me meet some great people!
Volunteering is a great hobby!
Iâm an introvert too and itâs really hard to make new friends honestly. Especially since Covid it just feels even harder. And I just had my second child, I thought I wanted three but Iâm overwhelmed and my eldest is three, i donât know how you did three under two! And Iâve never been through a divorce but after bad breakups I tried to focus on activities I enjoyed, like taking an art class, I did fencing club fir a bit in college, just pursue your interests.
church, and their groups. Is a great way to meet some quality people and help each other within the community.
An Aries too đ I can relate to your whole personality itâs so crazy that both of us are introverts but yet have CZcams channels Iâve still yet to figure that out myself đ
One thing you can do to get out is to join a local singing group. Sweet Adelineâs International has choruses in cities all over the world. They sing â4 part harmony in the barbershop styleâ. There are also local chorales choruses to sing with ( for example the chorus here in Wilmington NC is focusing on patriotic songs for itâs spring program.
Its the freedom for me too! I am introverted so I wanted to be outside but not with people necessarily. I kayak and hike! Both are so peaceful. the PEACE is worth the divorce for me. Highly contentious divorce, angry ex is always coming after me. It affects our kids, so to be able to go outside with them, or just myself, is super freeing and peaceful. When you are stressed, go outside!
You asked for ideas of a hobby, so I'm here! Lol. I've never commented on your channel before now, but I love watching you. I've kept you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Anywho..I'm very introverted as well. HULA HOOP DANCING!!! The best part about it is you can do it alone AND gather with others/make new friends! Plus it's an active work out.
Tennis is fun, I have friends who enjoy golf, but I donât try that. Take some arts and craft classes, painting, ceramics, cake decorating.
Not for everyone but snowboarding is a new hobby I picked up in the last year and has helped me make friends. Itâs incredibly challenging and has truly pushed me to face my fears and tested my patience and ability to persevere. I would love to take up pottery or dance lessons so I can work on being more present in my body and be creative. I am an infj as well đ
Hope tomorrow goes well for youâ€đ
Here đ like always supporting your videos đ Have you tried going to the gym class? And not by yourself? I sometimes bound with the ppl around me đ no idea what else you can do cause like you I donât go out often đ”âđ«đȘ
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Hobbies from my own personal list that facilitate meeting people; dance class, book club, cooking class, film club, yoga class, group art classes (very therapeutic, much like dance!) learning a new language or instrument, photography (less social but still fun)
What?! I love watching your videos and have always especially appreciated the fact that youâre so comfortable in your own company and today I find out YOURE AN INFJ TOO?! Girl some time we gotta get together and just nerd out together about INFJ life and mom life!
Watched some vids on your channel. Love it!!!
Great videođ„°
Iâm an INFJ-A too! Actually spent the last 3 years working as an Advocate, haha! No wonder I love your videos âșïžđ€
Praying for you, you are handling your divorce in a good and healthy way. I truly admire you!!!
Maybe you could try archery or paint by numbers from Michels they also have classes of decorating painting paint pouring wreaths good place to meet creative people
Community or church choirs are awesome and easy ways to make some friends and community! Also, since theyâre community based being a good singer is not a requirement! Itâs also just fun making music with othersđ
Fun hobby you could try is martial arts! I'm a super introvert but all of my lifetime friends are through martial arts. Its an amazing workout, great for health, a way to meet people, and also a great way to focus on yourself. Not to mention..great for learning self-defense!
Sending good vibes your way for mediation âĄâĄâĄ
Hi Mai good morning happy Saturday morning and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you
If you belong to a church, they usually have tons of single groups, Bible study groups, etc. You can also find some fun things to do for free at your local library. A book club would be fun. Just check the community board at your library. I always see interesting things Iâd totally do if I didnât have my kiddos with me. đ
Iâm an INFJ too and it fits me to a tee as well. I definitely trust the personality test more than astrology. I took up the hobby of knitting a few years ago. It gives me something to do and itâs fun. There is a huge world out there that opened up to me with knitting. I joined a couple of knitting groups and we meet regularly. Iâve made so many good friends this way. Knitting fits my INFJ profile đ
Conventions... There are house, garden, media, gaming, art and pop culture conventions. Definitely brings you out of your shell but also lets you peak into other hobby cultures and you can make new friends with those same interests.
Salsa dancing! It was the best thing I ever did. You meet tons of men and women partner dancing and bonding with ladies learning styling. You dress up cute! Itâs exercise. And the dances are short and if you donât like someone, itâs easy enough to avoid them. I have friends for life from this.
Continued prayers for you. Activity suggestions - zumba, county line dancing at a local bar, intramural volleyball (churches, ymca, community center), crafting or ceramics classes, golfing. Local churches normally have a singles or divorce support group. My friend met a few of her new friends from a group like that at our church. Does your area have any business professionals mixers or a local group for entrepreneurs or social media influencers?
It's going to take time so don't rush into anything - like after giving birth, you need time to recoup. So enjoy the peace of learning to be happy with your own self and in time you're going to find the hobby/ outside interests that will make you happy.
You can take classes at the local community college or center for home and auto repair. Or you can also get a "handyman" relative to help you learn to be able to DIY.
I would seriously ask the ex if youâre still amicable! Youâre still learning and if heâs willing to help, why not?!
Hobby - highly recommend bellydancing!! Itâs a great way to make new friends, to practice muscle control, grow as a person, and gain confidence. You can learn online through a bunch of instructors and there are some really great teachers in Texas!
Also - lots of love for all the stress and heartache you are going through.
Taking a fencing class with my son.
I also love to paint and have a lot of fun doing wine and paint night with my friends .
Mai, what hobbies did you like as a kid/ and or teen? I garuntee there is an adult version out there to pick up whete you left off and meet others with that interest. I find it much easier to spend time with new people when weâre doing an activity in common. Iâm not much of a Smalltalk person.
When I moved abroad I tried Bumble BFF to meet new friends!! I also met people in art classes, yoga classes, going out to dinner or dancing with friends who bring more friends
I donât get out much anymore. Especially since the whole covid thing happened. But I go to the gym every day. The people there are mostly nice and friendly. Or maybe you could try fly fishing or golf? đ
Bowling is an activity that you can do year round.
Hobbies to try: aqua aerobics, Bible study, golf, tennis, coloring. Good luck. I enjoy your videos. Thanks.
I am a divorced introvert and my advice to you is to not force yourself to be extroverted. It wonât make you happy and you wonât follow through with it. Some great hobbies for introverts are running, crocheting, painting, cycling, etc. From there you may meet some other introverts who wonât overwhelm your energy. I am INTJ.
Hope all was ok x
Hope you are ok, I went through a separation after many years and 2 children, it takes time to get used to it but now I feel so much happier and I know you will. Shame I donât visit Texas, we could go out together and meet some new people đđ x
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Join a life group at a church. They will be your new family who will step in and help out and do life with you. It's really great
Hi Mai! How did the mediation go? Hope all is well with you.
I hope your mediation went well Mai.
You should try cooking! I'm Hispanic but have recently taken to Indian and Koren cuisine.. good change and challenge some đ
Also, do you think you'll downsize when it comes to your house? Thank you! Take care đ
Rock climbing đ
How did you stay in such amazing shape when so many kids in a short time span?!
Mai,would you consider doing a day in the life of a single mom of 3 kids and how you manage it all alone? You dont have to show your kids.
That would be an awesome content Miađ·đđđđ·
Iâm an INFJ also. I think Meyers Brigg is the best personality test. I also love the enneagram. Iâm an enneagram 2. You have to read into all the enneagram types and decide for yourself - the tests that are online arenât really reliable.
Def agree! I think Myers Briggs is the best and itâs been so helpful in learning who I am
Try ballroom dancing! Or learn to play an instrument like violin or piano. Both would be great for emotional and physical health đ
I... don't have a hobby. Ahhahaha I'm thinking of crocheting and going to a meetup but that's pretty much it.
My daughter is an Aries! She's kind and spunky.
Unconventional advice for something to get you out there.
I took pole dancing classes and the community around the sport is very accepting, and they were very positive! You don't need a super body to go to classes, and at least the ones I did weren't stripping, they were the tricks. It never hurts to try! :)
If you have a local chamber of commerce, do their leadership program! A great way to connect with other professionals who like to socialize. Also, Junior League or the local Education Foundation or Womenâs Center volunteer groups. Hope all went well with mediation!
Take a bike riding I love it
Fellow Aries here! I also have no clue what that means eitherđ
ditto
Hopefully all goes well for you, Iâve been there with 3 small children a long time ago.
What helped me was the moms I met at school of my kids. Then the moms of the sports my kids were in. To this day some are my best friends and got me through some rough patches.
I thought I would never get married again, I never wanted more children mine were my life, and I didnât want to raise another manâs children. To hard, Iâll admit my kids were it for me. I found a man who didnât have kids and loved mine as his own. I was a lucky woman â€
This gives me hopeâ€. And he was a good guy? Not a secret cheat, addict or abuser? Can you tell I have trust problems?đ
I signed up for a pottery wheel throwing class. It really got me out of my comfort zone
Fellow Aries âïž woot!
Get a dog. A big dog. Go to dog parks and on hikes. OR!!!! Become a foster family for dogs!!!! Youâll meet other rescuers etc.
I canât believe it !!! Iâm an INFJ-A too !!!! Thatâs crazy- I havenât met anyone else thatâs one too!
Weâre a rare breed!
Iâm super into astrology but Iâm equally as into Enneagram. I love enneagram. Take the test if you havenât already! Have you tried pottery? Could be a fun hobby! And super relaxing!
How did the mediation go?
Mediation?! Ours was quick and easy.
Hi! Hope your ok! Haven't heard from you. Keep checking. đą đ đ· For you đ. Hang in there girl.
Keep going forward, hobby could take is going to shooting range, sure their group of women that does this,
You can do a birth chart, that would be fun for you to see if that fits your personality.
Mia keep up the great work. If you would like to learn wood turning I would be glad to mentor you.
Can I be one part of your family? Happy to support you and the kids.
Maybe find a local organic farm and volunteer there once a week for free shares of the produce or possibly flowers đ
Try pole dancing! I have found an amazing sisterhood once i started! Its also helped me feel more confident
Hobby Iâm doing - foster a dog!
Do you think that maybe if you made some changes to the house update your space and make it completely your own and your own style. It might make you feel better?
I married my HS sweetheart!! We are very unique though & not like "typical normal people" haha but watching what you're going through is helpful when we go through our periodic bickering disagreements. No one is perfect. Divorce seems like a long drawn out process & I'm sure we would change our mind in the process so I'm keeping it together as long as I can! Haha but you're so adorable & fit! I'm sure you'll find new friends soon!!! đđđ the one thing about divorce that does intrigue me, is that I would have LEGIT breaks for ME TIME ALONE - like no kids at all haha that must be sooooooo nice!!!! I'm super introverted too. I used to love yoga! I would recommend workout classes. I don't drink alcohol either so it is pretty hard meeting new people- besides my kids' friends' moms! Haha
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Yea this is your perspective we donât know what really went on
check out belly dancing. It's fun and even if you have all the coordination of a newborn puppy(me), it's fun and a workout. It also has the benefit of getting you in touch with your Female Body which is important for a mom but especially a mom who is going thru a divorce
I know this is going to sound weird, but you asked lol, but I got into direct sales. It brought a sisterhood in my life that I truly lean on and thrive in. I love having more female friends to chat with and we pamper other ladies. Then those ladies give you more friendships. And so on and so on.
I hope your mediation goes as well as it can. And I love your response to your children can't be taken out of the equation. Thank you for your honesty đ sending you much love and huge hugs!
My husband is an INFJ-A and I am an INFJ-T.
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Small boutique that doesnât have a website otherwise I would link!!