I think another way of putting the "Fact-Inference Confusion," is that many people have difficulty telling the difference between Objective Reality (the man walked through the apartment hallway) and their Subjective Reality (I think that his walking through the hallway *means* something, I have an *opinion* about it, it makes me *feel* a certain way). Even if people can conceptually understand the difference between Objective Reality and Subjective Reality, they often get confused in practice- in real life, on-the-spot situations. Some people vehemently believe that their Subjective thoughts/feelings/opinions are fact. This causes problems in relationships and societies!! Definitely! Thanks for teaching me about this "Fact-Inference Confusion" topic. So interesting.
Related to "Allness," one example of this that bothers me is, "We all feel ___ way". I hear this a lot in radio journalism. "Of course, the whole country feels awful anxiety," et cetera. Well, no, not really. It's not accurate, it's not good communication, and it's not really respectful to the listener. Thanks for another great video, Dr. Lyon!
I've definitely been guilty of #2, "Allness" , making sweeping generalized statements that lump people into a category etc., and I've shot myself in the foot this way on numerous occasions. For example, after someone in a big truck cut me off in traffic, and I recalled other similar instances, I've said something like, "People who drive big trucks are jerks!" and then had some of my friends who drive big trucks say, "Hey, I drive a big truck, and I'm not a jerk!" It is easy to "other" people with these Allness statements and these statements are damaging to our relationships as those listening will "switch off" and stop hearing us if we've lumped them into a group/category for the sake of our complaint.
It’s a cognitive distortion. Cognitive distortions develop due to the minds needs to make sense of the world and also to be “safe”. It’s a way of simplistically categorizing, generalizing…vs the alternative, thinking through, stepping back, being ok with the uncertain, being open to possibility. When we question our narratives, limiting beliefs and cognitive distortions…and reprogram our subconscious (which is where much of this originates) we can become empowered to see others, and ourselves, more clearly. We have a chance to connect to others more fully, really “seeing” them, when we remove the warped filtering processes.
I think another way of putting the "Fact-Inference Confusion," is that many people have difficulty telling the difference between Objective Reality (the man walked through the apartment hallway) and their Subjective Reality (I think that his walking through the hallway *means* something, I have an *opinion* about it, it makes me *feel* a certain way).
Even if people can conceptually understand the difference between Objective Reality and Subjective Reality, they often get confused in practice- in real life, on-the-spot situations.
Some people vehemently believe that their Subjective thoughts/feelings/opinions are fact. This causes problems in relationships and societies!! Definitely!
Thanks for teaching me about this "Fact-Inference Confusion" topic. So interesting.
Related to "Allness," one example of this that bothers me is, "We all feel ___ way".
I hear this a lot in radio journalism. "Of course, the whole country feels awful anxiety," et cetera. Well, no, not really. It's not accurate, it's not good communication, and it's not really respectful to the listener.
Thanks for another great video, Dr. Lyon!
Good example!
I've definitely been guilty of #2, "Allness" , making sweeping generalized statements that lump people into a category etc., and I've shot myself in the foot this way on numerous occasions. For example, after someone in a big truck cut me off in traffic, and I recalled other similar instances, I've said something like, "People who drive big trucks are jerks!" and then had some of my friends who drive big trucks say, "Hey, I drive a big truck, and I'm not a jerk!" It is easy to "other" people with these Allness statements and these statements are damaging to our relationships as those listening will "switch off" and stop hearing us if we've lumped them into a group/category for the sake of our complaint.
It’s a cognitive distortion.
Cognitive distortions develop due to the minds needs to make sense of the world and also to be “safe”. It’s a way of simplistically categorizing, generalizing…vs the alternative, thinking through, stepping back, being ok with the uncertain, being open to possibility.
When we question our narratives, limiting beliefs and cognitive distortions…and reprogram our subconscious (which is where much of this originates) we can become empowered to see others, and ourselves, more clearly. We have a chance to connect to others more fully, really “seeing” them, when we remove the warped filtering processes.
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Hi, Hassn.