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LISTEN///I AM THE PROFESSOR OF THESE THINGS...SPREAD. THEY WANT A LEAN SPANKY GUY TO ORDER...OR ONE BUILT DADDY TYPE TO PULL AROUND
would be great if you started video by doing push ups or pull ups outside not you talking head
Sometimes I am surprised that how long you create content from something abstract))
Start off w/ boxing really boost convidence. For self defense, BJJ, Muay Thai, Luthwei, or Kickboxing
Very well said, man - extremely well thought out and succinct, my dude. You can always mention that skinny guys find it easier to get shredded, and bigger guys find it easier to bulk up...everyone can get an edge somewhere!
This video reminded me of a quote by Socrates, "What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable"
Wise words. :)
I just told this to my wife yesterday when she asked me why now we are old when you start caring for your body. The thing is i never heard this qoute from anybody before. Make me feel proud of myself to have a thought of something that socrates thought too.
@@aionwafu05 yes, Socrates is more relatable and palpable than ppl lead on. Much of his reasoning and values are commonsensical to those with sober minds. The idea you share is very powerful.
You may enjoy reading the Charmades or the Symposium.
Cheers
@@lukajung9051 Thanks for the recommendations
Already told thousand of years ago. Before the birth of Jesus himself.
“Civilise the mind, but make savage the body.”
Facts!
It also describes the Sagittarius half-man half-animal archetype in a very practical way...
Reminds me of the movie Major League 2 where Tanaka tells Cerrano, "Peaceful inside, outside WARRIOR!"
no one has a civil mind, they just convince themselves of it
What's the use of a savage body gym-bro if he's a blue pilled beta?
This is life
I once was at a party. Was talking about how being "big" impacts your dating life as a man. Then this girl in the group says: "I don't envy you guys. I never done any physical activity in my life (and trust me you could EASILY tell) but I idgaf I got 100 matches in Tinder every 10 minutes."
Really got me thinking. I have to work incredibly hard to maintain my body, while that girl can sit on the sofa all day and still have more dates than I will ever have.
oh and don't forget women are oppressed lol
Until they hit the wall.
Are you Italian?
Have noticed that as well. They can be essentially 'skinny fat' but as long as the all important pairs of fat bags are of the reasonable size and proportion they can generate interest without ever stepping inside a gym.
@@tamrix hitting the wall is a joke, as those women will always have guys going after them.
Maybe not the man they want, but men none the less.
And you can't say, just to screw, because that's what a lot of men just want anyways, even with the girls who aren't terrible.
Women aren’t everything, fellas. Just a reminder.
@Karol Jeske and women what have to do with those things? you can be a respectable and successful human being w/o any women at your side.
@Karol Jeske Imagine being 40 plus with no job, education, friends, relationship.
@Hittem With The Slappa Whammy >39.9 year old
honestly cant be bothered with them anymore
total waste of time
@Karol Jeske HA! You say that like a woman is gonna get him all that. Nobody can help someone who doesn't have that at that age.
After an intelligent guy opens his eyes and see how things on relationships work these days, he cannot close them anymore. As Alexander says, we, as guys, should boost our confidence in all the possible ways, including loving our body.
@@oscarchicalucena7980 women being “bad” isn’t a position taken up by red pillers, but that women are NOT the sweet, innocent little angels they’re sold to men as inherently being. Fundamental difference.
@Raja K Ghosh nah, no one ask you to go back. we ask you to go further. okay, we know what women truly wants, then what's the smart move. what do we *do* about that
@C Pryme maybe because they know there is leas likelihood of cheating with other wan?
@C Pryme You ARE the media narrative
@C Pryme lol have you ever been out of the house before? All you have to do is....look at the people around you
If you see an overweight guy with a stunning woman...it’s an anomaly. It’s so abnormal that people develop a narrative to explain it. For example “he must have a lot of money”.
95 percent of the time, a fit and beautiful woman is going to have a healthy looking, lean man on her side.
Channels like this would not exist if laziness were the key to prosperity with women.
Sorry but someone lied to you. All you have to do is leave the house and look around and it becomes obvious.
Doesn’t mean that fat guys can’t get girls. But if there were any truth at all in the fact that girls preferred out of shape men.... the entire fitness industry would cease to exist
You are actually the one who has been tricked by the media. The entire modern narrative is an effort to tame men and take them down a peg and equalize everything.
every boy should be taught how to fight so that he can stand up for himself.
Always aim for the eyes first, make sure there is no vitness and disolve the teeth and bones in acid, the rest of the body can be boiled and feed to wild animals or pets
@@doppelhelixes very interesting, thanks
I Heard that pigs if big and hungry eat even the bones
@@profetaisaiah5218 same for dogs and they are easyer to get. you need to think more practical. However the teeth are still a problem
Every boy and girl should be thought not to cause violence so that people don't have to stand up for themselves.
@Sixshooter 9 yessir
My mindset became "Who cares what women think about me?" I worked hard on my body and mind for me, not for women to notice me, and I started getting lots of attention after it. Bottom line is: Love yourself first guys! Don't battle on their terms, battle on your own terms! :)
P.S. Thanks for your videos Alexander! :)
This. Everything else falls into place on it's own.
Its great strategy. But sadly only when you have already good amount of experiences with dating and picking up girls
Amen brother you should want to be tour best for you and not for women
this applies to women attracting men too
@@jjkkmmmmjjib can u elaborate sir?
The irony is, once you've acquired intelligence, confidence, physical prowess, and all the people you once fantasized about are knocking at your door, suddenly, you are no longer interested in them, because you finally learned to love yourself.
That is the place to be. Then you become the chooser and you can select women who ACTUALLY contribute to YOUR life, instead of just benefitting her own.
Very true. The girls I was dying to have 20 years ago were no match for what is easy today.
girls: haha that guy is so short
also girls: Love your body! Every body is perfect!
They're fake as f
@@user-ww9ch the fakest people on the planet.
@Reise Reise height shouldn’t be a deciding factor in a relationship
@@Latifa-dx2qb it shouldn’t matter about height tho. i don’t care if a girl is taller than me, if she is perfect for me, idc about height
@Joona Ahonen No, i’m just saying girls go back on themselves
This is a wake-up call. Time to grind boys.
Grind boys?
I don’t wanna grind on boys
sesh time lets go champ
Yeah maybe a comma between grind and boys is necessary :)
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If you can be intelligent, funny, AND have a great muscular body, even better
Better for what? You only need ONE woman. Well more if you want STDs.
I can reasonably say I am the first and last one, and funny given the right circumstances. Yet still a virgin. Luck plays a role too, and some peoples just suck (like mine)
When I was in high school I could never talk to girls. I started wrestling and it was the hardest thing I’d ever done. I would get really close to having anxiety attacks, but I was superb at hiding it during practice. The reason for that was a history of abuse. After a while I adapted to this fear, and what’s really strange, it completely shifted my social status internally. I wasn’t as afraid of talking to girls, that fear paled in comparison to the mental battle that ensued every day after school. It was almost as if I was subconsciously proving to myself that I could take it, whatever “it” may be. That and I was more ripped than I’d ever been so that probably added to the confidence😂 I would say go join your local BJJ, Muy Thai, or wrestling gym. Especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Much love
You're not the only one, i had a similar experience 😎👍
Same experience for me but for boxing , every time I stepped in the ring I was nervous. The first punch in the air and it all goes away. Mike Tyson said he wanted to run away and cry minutes before his first amateur fight and he overcame his fear and knocked the guy out quickly . Never back down
When I did Kickboxing I suddenly felt cameraderie, important and full of confidence...ball busting and joking around felt incredible good...
The higher it feels "scary"...the bigger your growth will be 😎🤴🏻
Martial arts is really good. It’s humbling to remind you that you can be easily knockout
Humblecel
Easilyknockoutcel
Yeah, I do jiujitsu. I feel confident that I can choke out or break limbs of most men.
I got stabbed from forearm.I can't do anything now so am I done then?
A man who hasn't been tested cannot be trusted. Danger recognize Danger. Team sports, gentlemen, everybody wants to be center forward and captain, not everybody gets to be center forward and captain. Knowing your role matters in all aspects of life.
When I was young, muscular, and athletic, all I ever heard from women I was with was that they wanted a man with higher body fat. I can only guess why, but I think it was a result of their own body insecurity. From comments made here and there, I think they were always aware of their own body fat when they were with me. I didn't think they were fat, but regardless I think they wanted a fatter guy so they could be less judgmental of themselves.
I had same experience, I eventually succumbed and went from 8->15%, gotta say the sex got better if anything...
She wants the upper hand
Same. I hated it a lot. Really beautiful girls wanting guys with dad bods before they hit 18.
Odd, I never been told that directly and I've always been relatively lean and muscular, even now in my early 50s. I'm not a big guy by any stretch and have generally stayed within 175 to 185lbs at 5'10" since college and at my leanest measured 4% body fat. There was a period of several years where I lifted heavy but even then the most I weighed was 195lbs. I'm blessed with wide shoulders and a narrow waist so I don't appear too thin. I've had women stare at my chest, compliment my abs, legs and back. Freaks me out that my oldest daughter (20 yrs old) has been dating my doppelganger for 4 years now ... he is my height, lean and surprisingly ripped.
I should make a side note that it is not all good ... despite being "fit" externally, I have heart problems and am constantly battling my bp and cholesterol ... I will not likely live far into retirement, a likelihood I am painfully aware of.
In support of your point though, people my age "hate" me (as they will (semi)jokingly tell me) because I'm naturally lean but what I will say is that it was a real disadvantage for me when I was young and only became an advantage as I got older. Throughout my teens to maybe mid 20s, my physique and looks (cannot grow a full beard to this day) made me appear much younger than I was and I just had a very difficult time being taken seriously. The women I preferred did seem to prefer bigger, more mature looking men. A couple of caveats though ... first, I seemed to get an unusual amount of attention from much older MILFs ... which is more appealing on paper than in real life. Second .. and it's funny now but not so much at the time ... near the start of my career, the company where I worked was located adjacent to a largely LGBTQ neighborhood and I'd say I got noticed more by men than women, routinely getting hit on. I will also admit that my own wife, while never telling me that I should 'have more body fat' or being critical of my body, has a preference for large burly men over guys with my body type. That's ok, I have a preference for shorter petite blondes ... which she definitely is not, lol.
Dude, they were testing you. You failed the test.
Women only love intelligence when it translates into something that she can gain something from like you having a high paying job. I have a lot of knowledge on a variety of subjects but I stopped even bothering talking about any of them because women don't care about it at all. I save my passion about these subjects for the men in my life, because they actually seem interested sometimes. I just learned how to do some small talk for interacting with women because their brain seems to shut off as soon as anything serious comes up anyway.
I’m sorry to hear you had these experiences that made you feel this way, however I have to tell you that there are woman out there (me) that love to learn and listen from/to a man talking about his passion.
@@aylamg I think that I've gotten pretty unlucky and surrounded myself with the wrong people. I always read that women love a man who is passionate about the things he does but I have not experienced this. The biggest example is my ex. She hated it when I talked about something I was passionate about but Im pretty sure this was largely due to the fact that she wasn't passionate about anything.
@@2pacorwhat I haven’t found mine yet either and sometimes I get a bit jealous when seeing others knowing theirs, but that doesn’t take away my happiness for seeing them having found theirs. It mostly inspires me to keep leaning about new things and maybe finding it through that.
I hope you come across your intelligent, interested and loving person!
@@aylamg Thank you. You sound like a lovely person. Best wishes to you.
@@aylamg it's strange how some people can go decades without finding something they're passionate about. Do you not know what you enjoy doing? Such as dancing, singing, reading. I've known since I was kid that I want to rock climb ever since I saw men on tv scaling walls. It took till I was 19 but I'm a rock climber now
The truth of the matter is that for women it is all temporary.
But Doom is eternal
This is why you do it as if your doing it for God and of course yourself
What is for women temporary?
Nutrition when you are young is what is vital, maximise growth and development.
What if you have a severely picky eater?
@@aliciamarie9704 endure... but that doesnt mean to eat stuff you're allergic to. Theres always a way.
@@ghaldurinanubios4290 My child is the picky eater. He is skinny and tall. He doesn’t have much body confidence.
@@aliciamarie9704 I love the fact your looking out for your son, wish I had a mom like that lol.
Just my opinion I eat meat mainly chicken all day every day I do great I run 7 minute miles(going for 6). And work out every day no lack of energy and only sleep with 5 hours and feel great, hard to get up but 8 hours or 5 doesn’t change that. So find something healthy with lots of protein for nutrition and something in high carbs for weight gain. But tbh don’t change him if he’s tall and skinny that’s not bad maybe encourage him to work out and don’t stop motivating and supporting him to do it. Plus tall and skinny is a chick magnet, not like it matters it’s about the confidence in the end of the day being fat, skinny, muscles, no muscles. I’ve doing great in all stages lol.
@@josedlopez4100 Awesome! Good for you & thanks for the suggestions/advice.
You need to be good looking, fit, intelligent, have money and assets for her to take advantage of.
At what point are men going to say "what do women bring to the relationship?"
when they stop living to please and gain validation from others and actually stat living for their selves.
something thirsty and primitive minded men will never achieve so simple let them be an live your life, things could be worst.
Because we men are so desparate for mating thus the demand is already high and additional girls make it harder to mate (Low Supply). That's why the girls have negotiate power over men. Well unfortunately it's has been seen in all other animals as well so you gotta deal with it.
@@hackwithharshil4334 Yep, it's pretty much just the sex. Women figure this out very early on because it's super obvious from their point of view, while most men are in the dark about it. If men had a way to switch the need for sex off, women would be in a lot of trouble because they would lose most of their value.
Women have the children. Duh.
@@mooilife2497 that's changing soon. Scientists have made artifical eggs from stem cells. The push is for gay men to be able to have biological children.
They have already created artifical wombs for sheep, won't be much of a jump to humans.
When this all happens and becomes normalized, then no, women won't be having the children.
Good performance in bed is bit like in the kitchen:
- you get to do your best with the available tools
- don't go too complicated, most ppl like the simple stuff
- try to gauge how spicy your partner like the food
- don't underestimate the power of slow cooking
- hunger is the best sauce
this is your chance to leave a very long lasting very good first impression
:-)
There's a limit to what you do,
- experience is better whenever everyone is relax
- everyone involved is responsible its own enjoyment of the overall experience
- don't add artificial flavours/boosters ...they will dull everything in the long run
- half of taste is smell
- work your tounge
- Dry food is not enjoying, if saliva does not flow something is not right
- warm is better than cold
- don't forget dessert, but don't push to excess
@@DeepInsideZettaiRyouiki I agree on hot/cold, but as a treat, ice cream can be a nice treat every now and then.
Good stuff
Lol, your last point was a bit of. I can tell you from experience, that it is You that is responsible for everyones pleasure! They want to be led to please town, they don't want to drive!
@@chadcadsonvii5258 Noooo there's a point where you can't enjoy for someone else, uyou can cook the best dish that they like but you can't put it in their mouth and enjoy it. If you're in a discovery phase, that's different but somehow, at my age that ship has sailed a long time ago and the women I meet know very well what they need for a good experience.
Really resonated with the bit about dancing. I used to be so awkward in nightclubs and at parties until I learned to let loose. It got to the point where I was being approached all the time and even though both me and the girls knew I was a terrible dancer... the conviction I did it with was obviously extremely attractive.
did you get laid after they approached you?? Cause from experience being laid back has 2 outcomes
1. if you are not attractive (my case) chicks approach you or are more receptive because they see you innocentlike and not as a threat in a friendly nonsexual way.
2. Women are receptive and it leads to sex as long as you are not that awkward in social interactions
"remember that kid in school who seemed awkward in his body"
mhm, thats me
Haha... me to...with socker or basketball ...but when it came to fights or both parties drawn blades, it was diffirent story. Some things are just bellow your dignity/interests and of woman consider this a negative, then shes low value.
The way he said it kinda cofuses me. Is there really some problem with guys that have great body but can't aim, throw or run fast? I'm far from great body but I know some great guys with great body's that are bad at throwing/aiming/running... they just lift weights
Bulk up & give 'em hell.
Some people don't have the gift. I am one of those.
at this point i don't even care anymore. everyone wants me to be/have something. only Gundam don't asks anything from me, so i choose Gundam over anything else.
I like long-range Gundam!
😂
Ore wa Gundam!!!!!!!
With the Dark side, instead of bending your being into society's expectations, you bend beings to what suit you.
And cookies. We have excellent cookies.
I get it. We as males are always found lacking. This feels like a. Flavor of the month vibe.
1. Take up a martial arts
2. Sports that utilises your body
3. Dancing (I freaking love freestyling)
4. Some variation of sport for fun: skating, surfing, etc.
5. Yoga (a great place to meet a lot of women)
6. GYM or callisthenics or some workout with body weight at least. (My advice)
The 6 6s
6 feet tall
6 figure income
6 hundred horsepower car
6 pack abs
6 inch peen
6 months out of a relationship
Nailed it! Though most women don't want to admit it!
I see no lies.
bruh 1/3 of what women want is determined by genetics.
@@riglancer5473 As the old saying goes, looks do matter; especially on 1st impressions!
6years
Problem: I want to go back to my MMA gym but all gyms are closed due to COVID.
If you have enough space at your residence I recommend considering purchasing a heavy bag. It's not the same as using at a gym but it can be a reasonable substitute. I used to have one in my room.
Train at home. Stop being lazy
@@Fernandotulumtrainer solo trainings are rubbish tbh...the way you get better is by sparrings with others and u cant do it at home by yourself...
Yep :(
@@Lukasz.Kaa09 lol you get to improve your cardio and stay sharpe. Don’t use that as excuse. And yes I practice. And yes I teach people. Don’t be lazy
For a man, the main advantage of yoga over martial arts is that yoga classes are full of attractive women, and martial arts classes... aren't. 😏
But doing yoga AND boxing... that's really gonna help create a well-rounded dude.
Tough, capable, and spiritual.
I do both and I agree.
My self-esteem went up a lot after I participated in boxing exercises. I was always a shy person who got pushed around a lot but after that I started to believe in my self because I knew of my capabilities. Suddenly people started respecting me more. Best decision of my life and would recommend it to anybody
Generally, I think more intelligent people also have much higher standards. If you're a strongly and persistently moral person - that is, assuming you wouldn't want to "date down" - and intelligent, the chances of finding someone are incredibly small. From my experience, I "feel" confident in my body, in terms of being able to protect myself due to having done (and still doing) self-defence. I also do many "intelligent" extra-curricular activities and have academic and career goals, but I'd also call myself someone who highly values morals, and from my experience, it has been nearly impossible to find someone.
Also, personally, I don't see the value of relying heavily on body confidence, though I can see how it is useful. Simply because would it not be true that the "right" (or high-quality) girl would see straight through whatever is on the outside (whether you're confident in your body or not). Also, in my opinion, you might be biologically correct in saying "life is physical", that's probably true for most people who do not have good control over the instincts. However, for those who do, I think you might perhaps find that, for them, life is quite a lot more cognitive (thoughtful, prudent) and less physically focused, as they may be wise enough to understand that physical appearance and fitness, generally, does not last forever.
You're mistaking intelligence for wisdom.
I can definitely relate. Heck, it is even hard to find a friend with such qualities! If I met someone like you on my campus I would 100% want to be friends (I study at Temple uni at present)
Very good comment, can relate, too. The "problem" I see in modern redpill community, is the whole dating down, lowering standards. I find that "high quality woman" is something totally different for me, than for most men I know. And it is OK, of course, everyone got their own perspective and goals. I went after low hanging fruit once or twice, experienced it, thank you, never again. Personally, when I hear some of my friends bragging about experiences with women, my reaction is "bro, I am amazed that you can put so much effort to learn game and tricks for mediocre girls". Like dude, seriously, all that self-improvement to hunt some 5/10 boring, entitled, lazy creature?
This is accurate. Perfectionism and Hero Complex often follow gifted people.
@@SerekWaniliowy900 Yeah, I have the same thoughts sometimes as well. I also tend to think that there really is no point in going into a relationship, unless there are prospects of it lasting a lifetime. It might be just me, but what is the point in dating for like a year, which so many people seem to do? You hardly even get to know the person properly in that time, I'd say. Nevertheless, I still think it's good to stay optimistic, whether it's hard or not. I'm sure these girls exist, somewhere!
Start lifting guys
Only lift if it's something you do for yourself and your own confidence, not for girls.
@@dmitrialeexev7131 Any reason is good
@@dmitrialeexev7131 Why? No one works out for themselves. They work out to get laid.
@@lylez00 I disagree , maybe at the start you do it to lose weight and have a shot but if you're good at it then you dgaf about pussy. I am a competing powerlifter and back when I first started I did it because I was fat af and wanted to lose some to be visible to women so my first year of working out was solely focused on bodybuilding but it quickly changed once I saw that my compounds lifts were growing extremely fast for my weight and lack of sports my whole life to the point where I am about to have some records under my belt.
A man is the most attractive when he doesn't tryhard for women and that is a fact because it just oozes confidence and stoicism.
@@lylez00 no dude some people work out for their own health and mental improvement not to get those garden tools in bed.
2 things....Your Genetics and your Money. That's what they have evolved to notice. Case closed.
actually its 3 ;D, visible from the outside: 1.money&status , 2.muscular body
3. not visiblue from the outside, big cock. But girls chat a lot.
3. sucess with other women. if they dont see you with others they think there is something wrong with you
1. face,body,height
2. money/status
3. preselected by other women
4. confidence
5. social skills
@@ShowMeYoBoob Can't imagine even getting one of those
@The Meowing Kitty that's you. You are being a sopisilistic woman. You don't speak for all women.
I'm a neuro-developmental optometrist. A lot of the guys who literally don't feel comfortable in their bodies actually have developmental neurological deficits. Their brain-body connection isn't normal. There are all sorts of causes for this. Women are naturally turned off by it. Men tease each other about it. It wasn't until I had been in my field a few years that I realized that a lot of my own inadequacies are due to some of these issues--being terrible at sports, being carsick easily, can't think straight, etc. Besides telling people what women are attracted to, it's important to know what you actually need to do to fix it. There are many videos on CZcams discussing things like primitive reflex integration and learning related vision problems. A lot of these types of issues are actually what's holding people back from their full brain capacities and thus their ability to feel comfortable in their own skin.
I discovered I am neuro diverse since childhood...a neuro motor endocrine hormonal developmental disability....could water and snow ski but anything else I was so clumsy. At 66 y/o still divorced from my body even after years of yoga , water aerobics etc...you can shift it some but at a certain point in life its important to accept what is and make the most of what is. thank you for your comments Mr Shao
Where did you take these guys may have " develop mental neurological" issues? These guys at most are just sedentary without muscular memory after years without getting any phisical exercise. Once they exercise, work out, they'll get some muscle and get to have a better mind-body connection.
Meditation and Yoga makes a man less reactive and thus more masculine.
It makes you more grounded.
@doorn roos True, women are more open-minded to spirituality I think.
Alles goed?
I agree. Meditation has improved my mind body connection. I am less in my head and more in my body.
@doorn roos Oh really, what an interesting discrepancy.
Altijd goed om een gelijkgestemde Nederlander op youtube te zien.
@@DivineLogos yoga is not just stretching. That is the bastardized western form of yoga and is close to nearly completely useless. Yoga means union with god, and there are various forms of such as Raja Yoga, Karma Yoga, Bhakti Yoga etc.. Women harp on about spirituality yet unironically at these yoga retreats have no problems "hooking up" with a guy breaking one of the core precepts of yoga, which is celibacy.
@@jamestucker4800 Yeah I know, real yoga is different.
When you do it the traditional way, like also practicing celibacy, it becomes much more beneficial in my experience.
When I was younger and in the "growing up" phase my dancing partner (and gf at that time) mentioned a lot of times that i look awkward dancing and it does not attract her that much. This video really makes this really clear to me. Really good observation, Alexander
@Reconsider your position it might not even surprise u, but she went on just 2 weeks after the breakup with a more lazy, immature, intellectual dickhead of friend of mine that only knew her because i introduced her to him through kindness. Never gonna do that again. In the retrospective, i prob was just attracted to her looks
@@symphony1966 yeah, we as men get very delusional about a woman's looks, even if they're complete assholes we only focus on that sometimes and that can very dangerous
you should have told her that she had an amazing body, but she's beginning to gain weight and it does not attract you that much
@@symphony1966 also, this isn't necessarily true to women, sadly your girl was just an idiotic asshole
@Xelbayria i can tell (from my Own experience) that this hurts so much
I am sorry for him. Took me a year to get over it and Destroyed my self-esteem to a degree where it was almost nonexistent. Happily i am now in a better State, almost done with University and going to the Gym reguarly. Focussing on myself was the best desicion ever
advanced level: car races , run from cops , parkor
Ah the good ol' reliable run from the cops
underrated comment.
As a person who is fan of boxing, dancing and surfing, I must admit, Alexander is telling the truth - body confidence is the key
For me, I mixture of gym and Judo has done me wonders
Indeed, you create strenght and a good muscular weight and so the techniques of judo work even better
awesome
Not going to start a discussion about which martial art is better, but I recommend Brazilian jiu-jitsu for who's planning to start.
It's one of the most effective and less tiring during a fight. Just immobilize your opponent and that's it.
@@Nyconbr It's based on judo
I do Gym and BJJ :) Did judo for couple of months at the beginning but switched to jiujitsu.
Day 1: of asking Alex to do a dance video.
This is so true. Before I got fat I remember feeling so good in my skin and just moving effortlessly. Nowadays I feel like I have to plan my moves to not look stupid, and that makes me very conscientious.
Thank God I started going to the gym a couple weeks ago. Once I feel stronger I'll definitely pick up a martial art. Thanks for this amazing video.
Good to hear that ur making a difference but don't even wait take up a class. I was 280 in January and took up Brazilian jiu jitsu and now im at 230. With a decent diet, you'll get fit in no time. And bjj is all about leverage and momentum so its the most practical martial art for the body. A couple months and u can take on most normal ppl in an altercation. Its a life changer.
BJJ and Muai Thai are great, learn striking, movement etc
It sound like bullshit to me. I fell god in my skin and that doesn't get me any girls. I don't even understand this relationship with your body, trust etc. It's your body. You can't have more relationship with your body, you are stuck in it and you know what you can do so how can't have trust in it?
After getting some treatment for some health problems (found I had some food allergies), I got back into Kenpo at 250lbs.
Eight months later I was down to 210. Still fat, but not like I was.
So two things were going on. I had to change my diet, which took out a lot of carbs. And I got regular exercise to gain muscle and burn the fat off.
In beginner martial arts, you don't need to be fit when you start. That will come as a consequence of the work you put into it.
gym helped build much needed confidence but riding a motorcycle put me on another level, every single limb is always engaged and your focus has to be razor sharp, all while feeling like youre flying. its amazing.
ride safe!
All it takes is one idiot not paying attention and you're done for. I'll stick with my dirt bikes. Ride safe and watch your 6.
I play the drums and go swimming. Drums are really reallly good to coordinate your 4 limbs and it is perhaps the most physical instrument to play, especially at fast tempos. Swimming is, at least for me, really good for calming your mind in the water and developing your lungs. Good video :)
Playing the drums, riding the bike and kickboxing does it for me.
same, I also play drums, but I don't play jazz though. I play rock and metal, the more violent genres. It gives me a play to coordinate my 4 limbs, but I can get a big sweat going.
@@Kashban you been playing the drums long dude? And do you find it benefits you in anyway in the kickboxing, like for coordination
Drummer here as well! I love to swim, but never got too confident with it! Time to work on it!
A close second is bass tuba in marching band.
As a man you're a warrior and a hunter and those roles require you to train! No man should neglect physical and/or martial training!
“…exert it’s will on the world around you…” I absolutely love how you worded this. Cheers mate!
You should do a video for guys that were traumatized by a rough childhood and have developed dissociation and disconnect between their mind and body. I can tell you now that no amount of sports or physical fitness would help heal that disconnect, as long as a subconscious shame or guilt is associated with the body. That kind of healing has do to be done both in and outside of therapy with yourself (and at times, psychedelics can help).
Nonsense. I’ve had this worse then you could imagine. The gym will literally rewire your brain ( neuroplasticity ) for all the development potential you had stunted.
Now this doesn’t mean it’s permanent. Any trigger will relapse you based on past coping strategies. This is why you have to keep pushing to grow physically.
But you’re right about the mind expanding “journeys” otherwise the gym and physicality become their own coping mechanism.
All this to say, you can heal, friend. I believe in you
@@jjh2k224 I think that's what's happened for me. The gym has become a coping mechanism. Like after I'm done at the gym I'm back in bed. I have no desire to do anything else but sleep after a workout.
Trying to heal, but you know how it is - 1 step forward, 2 steps back, 3 steps forward, 2 steps back, etc.
Thank you for the kind words :)
That is a valid point. I have had a similar experience growing up and it affected my ability to socialize immensely.
I've personally done a lot of mental and physical work on myself to the point it is noticeable. I have had relationships when I thought it was not possible, and I can talk my way through conversations now.
However, there is still that disconnect. That feeling that something is 'off' or that I am the odd one out. Not every conversation goes as planned, some girls still get the ick look if I am myself. The process of healing takes a very long time, so be patient and enjoy the small victories along the way. Going to the gym even as a form of meditation will help alot and is a fantastic base for believing in yourself as said in the video.
Awesome video, please keep with the series, love these “advice for intelligent guys”. Sometimes it happens to me that I loose interest to keep a conversation because I get bored really quickly because most of people are mostly on common stuff, and don’t enjoy/can go deep in a conversation in a specific topic.
My parents put me in combat sports when I was 9 or 10. At that point I was a big time crier and really immature for my age (always was). I did combat sports from 9 til 18 and I cannot explain the profound impact it had on me growing up and shaping how I see and handle myself. Fully recommend.
I played world of warcraft growing up
And yes, I am probably mere months away from killing myself
Don't have much evidence as to why, but don't, if you still can.
Man, you have a way, a perspective about life that no one has. Reminds me of me. One reason why I choose solitude over companionship because the thinking of most people is BEYOND shallow.
Keep doing what you are doing.
I can only imagine Alex breakdancing. Lol.
Ok weird fantasies you have.
Very very insightful. Great video. You have the ability to connect the dots and synthesize your own wisdom from your observations. Subscribed!
I would add social/ballroom (swing, salsa, waltz, etc) dance:
Higher women to men ratio. You practice asking women to dance. You practice leading them. You practice touching and handling women in a safe non-me-2 environment.
Easily the best way to engage with the opposite sex. I'm not very social but I can understand the importance of mastering this kind of female dominated environment
@@hectormejia5090 oh it's female majority, but it's certainly not female dominated.
Glad I came across this video. Feels like an honest and understanding way of providing useful advice. Definitely going to put this in action. Thanks!
I don't know how useful this might be but since Alexander is talking about body confidence and coordination (which are good indicators of over all physical and mental health) I think the area of excercise man should partake in mostly should be bodyweight (callisthenics) excercise and mobility. These excercise require not just a lot of strength and fitness to master but very high levels of focus and body awareness. They require you to consciously pay attention to your body in a way that simply lifting weights just doesn't achieve. So for the most bang for your buck, calisthenics and mobility work will really do wonders for how you feel over all and how you carry yourself. The ability to move and act competently in the world. Plus you get a nice physique from it too. And trust me, if you can achieve at least a 10min rest in a deep squat, your thrust game will be significantly improved.
Now just throw in some light MMA sprinkled with some boxing/kickboxing to get stress out of your system and you are in the right path. These can develop your anger management skills and help you deal with your inherent aggression, specially if you find a gym with a good teacher and good fighting buddies.
I agree. Things like handstanding, balancing, etc. are great and achieving them is amazing experience.
Calisthenics does not trump weight training. It's all about individual goals and both weightlifting and calisthenics have their places.
@@Supreme_Lobster This guy is right and so is Deji D.
@@zerothehero123 yes you're right but if the goal is functional ability, body building is the most useless excercise. Lifting heavy weights with compound movements is great though. But it doesn't compare. A lat pulldown machine can't come close to developing the ability to do a pull up. The instability aspect of bodyweight training, especially with gym rings, gets at the heart of what Alexander is talking about. Too much weight training movements and equipment stabilizes you and locks you in place. It's too isolating and you can generally only work on a single plane.
Important tip before grinding: Don't do it with attracting girls in mind. I've been doing parkour, taekwondo, for half of my life now. Also consider myself highly verbal and intellectual. However, in life, you will most likely meet bitchy shallow girls that don't see the value in intellectualism and/or physical ability. I went through multiple heartbreaking rejections within the past 6 years.
You need to do it cuz you love it. And that you would keep on doing it, with or without a girl. You need to enjoy and accept being alone if that's what mother nature deems your fate to be.
But I'm very grateful that now I am with a beautiful girl that loves all the things I spent my whole life trying to build. My brain and body. But that was just luck. I should still be able to feel comfortable on my own.
One of the greatest videos on CZcams. Big respect for this knowledge being passed on.
Thank you Alexander. Always good feed back on your content in order to be a better man!
Hey, there's a great point to having a great body, a great brain. With a high intelligence, enhancing your body will enhance the brain. I mean you'll have better blood flow, as well a better relationship with your body.
This video makes sense.
When I was in middle school I was only the last or second last person who'd get picked in the team sports. I never had the motivation to use my body physically, was just standing there most of the time handling my body very awkwardly when going after the ball. It got better over time but not really that much. Things changed when I went out of school, from 17-20 a lot in my brain has changed and I somehow sensed that there's an actual connection between my body and soul and I started getting excitement out of moving my body in agile ways. I started going Inline Skating (still am every day), buying and training with a Kubotan, helping my dad with some side work (most often antenna construction, climbing and construcing on roofs is fun and muscle usage of the whole body), and dancing (primarily after I discovered K-Pop).
I'm still a rather skinny guy with not many muscles since those activities generally don't produce much muscle and gym was always utterly boring to me but I still have very good confidence and connection to my body and fairly pleased the way it is now. My friends always said that I'm the "cool" kind of guy.
just go to the gym and workout for an hour, its not hard. i dont like it necessarily but i manage to do it everyday
I took taekwondo for 5 years... Got my black belt within a year and a half... Ha... Didnt do a damn thing for me sexually. It actually did the opposite. Gents... As a friend's dad told me, "You can learn all the martial Arts in the world but you will never dodge a bullet."
True , humbling reality there .. but still it's good exercise
Great material, thanking you!
I am a big guy naturally but after 18 months of a fasting lifestyle my body confidence, which was always there, is so much better being 225 vs 295. For me just one thing gets boring so I find that walking, some weights and other cardio is great and I do find that a combination of yoga and body weight exercise really completes the package. I need stretching and coordination work so much more then I need the muscle bulk for so many reasons.
You gonna start eating soon? Fasting for a year and a half straight seems a little dangerous 8)
You sound like you and me could switch lives for a while and nobody would notice it's so similar.
THE martial art that impresses me most is Bruce Lee's "Jeet Kune Do" ! For a start, unlike many others it's very situationally flexible !
I needed to hear this, thanks man
You are by far one of the most socially and mentally intelligent ppl I found on CZcams! Keep up the great work!
Im going to through a divorce. Near the end of the marriage, my image of myself was greatly impacted. I used to go to dance classes and go to the gym everyday. My wife used to make me feel unattractive and not confident. I’m also in the military and I think the culture of the military makes confidence in one’s self harder. Weather it was your leaders belittling or disrespecting you it is sometimes hard to than come home to the someone that bring more negativity. I am currently trying to build myself back.
Stay strong brother 😁
When I was listening when you were talking about developing trust of your body, I immediately thought up martial arts. I do martial arts and it changed me a lot in the positive way, including developing a trust and good correlation between mind and body. Then the first advice I hear from this video is go to learn a martial art. LOL couldn’t agree more.
You hit the nail on the head. Good upload brah!
Great video today Alexander, thanks.
I just play instruments rather than dancing, feeling the rhythm, riding it and expressing myself🇵🇭
I have seen many youtube channels but this guy tells the things which we actually need and are facts
Hi Alexander Grace!
I think you are the one the best tutors on the youtube world :) Your advices and thoughts are very instructive. Keep up the good work!!
So true man, glad you sharing the right steps
For me Gym, Marshall Arts, Sometimes Yoga that static dance you talked about. I have noticed that having a rythm and confidence to evrything you do does attract women.
I lifted when I was younger just to gain bulk. But in terms of full body control and mind-muscle connection I recommend calisthenics, supplemented by yoga and kettlebells/sandbags work. In terms of sports, I think basketball is a great choice combining many movement patterns with hand-eye coordination, footwork, rhythm, and timing, as well as being physical yet not overly rough. I also really like ultimate frisbee for working on sprints, jumping, coordination, and timing, but it’s a much less popular sport. As far as martial arts goes, I think a good starting point would be a grappling arts such as jiujitsu/judo/wrestling, coupled with a striking art like boxing/kickboxing/muythai.
Swimming and any type of martial arts require the most coordination and are fun sports.
Very well said again, Alex. Keep it up.
This is such a valuable source of knowledge. Thanks so much.
Gifted Intelligence is a remarkable quality, but not one that in itself creates self discipline. You have to find that for yourself in your own way.
Fellas, there's a lot of videos like this on the internet, saying all these things you have to do to attract women...and honestly I can appreciate what this guy is trying to do...but like...man...why pander to women like this? Why not do things for you instead? I don't get it, just be yourself and don't be afraid to try new things, whether that be physical or otherwise, the joy of learning new skills is a reward in and of itself, doing all this to get women is honestly kinda sad.
Best comment ever!
If you want a steak you need a job. You don't have to have it but you'll be hungry. I'm sure you know this but still decide to type all that out.
Work for your true partner that'll share every second of your life : yourself
Well because everyone should work on themselves, anybody who goes "ehhh I work out for myself not for women" is probably lying
@@saifullahkhalid286 That's silly...
It all depends on the dudes mind set.
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Very productive advices ! Really good video! I feel like they are also good for us women .
Thanks for this... I really needed to hear this... God bless ya.
A truly inteligent man realizes very quickly that gym isn't just for meatheads.
Why spend $50 a month on a gym membership when my brother bought some dumbells and the neighbors threw away a fully functional climbing machine?
As a side note, when Alexander was talking about the aspect of dancing that you don’t get in sports, when you discover and tap into that aspect it will improve your ability in any sport you play as well.
Especially in boxing. Rhythm in boxing is next after technique. Then stamina. Watch "Golovkin leading the dance"
Thank you Alex. This vid is what I need it.
GREAT video. Thank you Mr. Grace
You literally spitted the truth at 11:38 😁 Great video yet again and thank you very much for your insights 👍🏻
I agree with your suggestions about body confidence, especially martial arts. I have been pursuing fitness and weight-training for several years, and I mainly do it for myself because it makes me feel good physically and mentally. I agree with you about dancing, and I would add that if you can lead in partner dancing, women absolutely love that.
Giving you my like so your message spreads around. Also, another way to boost yourself as a man is playing an instrument/singing in a band. It sends several great messages to women about getting well with others, passion, self-control, dealing with crowds; and of course, confidence (specialy for singers and lead guitars).
Informative and insightful.
Not being boastful, but I've been called handsome and smart my whole life.....and never did i get the attention I regularly get now because I was so skinny. Once I eventually attained a powerful physique, it was like magnetism. In terms of innate attraction, there's simply no substitute for a great body.
Hey Alexander,
I am a freestyle dancer. You described perfectly well how dance feels.
The challenge of making something on the spot with the music and capturing that with appropriate moves grants so much confidence boost, and it is true that it makes you more in tune with your body. Dance, in freestyle, is both mentally and physically stimulating, and performing it makes it even more attractive and challenging.
I’ve been a freestyle dancer for 7 years and I perform in freestyle occasionally. I can confidently say that I walk around feeling like, and knowing that, I am capable of something that not a lot of people have.
I am not at all a muscle builder nor a skinny guy, maybe slightly burly. However, my confidence with my own body is through the roof.
Thank you for encouraging people what essentially is my lifestyle.
For anyone reading this, I highly recommend dance!
magnificent message alex bro 🙏
WHATTT I just came across this video and it was exactly what I was looking for! thanks for the info :) Will apply these
When I started dancing (Northern soul style) I discovered I had a talent for it and immediately I noticed far more interest from girls, despite my 5.6'' height. When I took up Shurin Ryu Karate and performed Kata's in the nearby parks, I was watched almost exclusively by girls and some older women, and I am convinced that this led to far more sexual activity than I otherwise would have experienced. I am now 54 and not honestly not fit, but last night at a local pub when I danced I still ended up with several girls/women dancing with and talking as if I was a younger man. Training in Martial arts and a love of dancing and embracing body empathy has definitely served me well over the years.
The cindrella man.
every man owned it to himself to reach his body to it's top fitness level.
if you're not into lifting weights I recommend swimming and boxing just trust me.
* or running.
There's a thousand paths one can pursue but the premise is the same.
Gym Rings. All other exercises I do now are just to prepare myself for Gym Rings.
swimming is no joke, i got shredded by just doing that and i think swimming is the best sport to practice
Exceptional content on this one.
Top of the line wisdom and good delivery making it tangible / relatable.
You should feel you did men a big solid on this one. You made it a good and reasonable thing that must be acted on as it is part of the master equation to being your best with women and so forth, life living-
this is your best video mate!
I agree with "Women like intelligence," but women tend to view intelligence as "agreeing with them".
Too much of open minded type of intelligence they want
It's actually not true. Warbr33d has a point. Women love wise and intelligent men. It's quite alluring to disagree. "Agreeing with women" on everything means being too nice and not having your own opinion and confidence. ;)
Rofl nope, im highly disagreeable person. And women like me even if I'm debating with them. In fact it seems to turn them on.
you got me with the Yoga, i can't do any stressfull sport due a chronical knee damage carry, but yoga seems perfect :)
This is one of your best videos ! 👍
Thanks for the advice)) I like how you give such a nice talk. I really appreciate your work man))
When they say "looks don't matter" they mean that it doesn't matter whether you're a 10 or 12 in looks once it's already clear that you're smart and wealthy, too.