What you shouldn't say to a woman who is child-free by choice
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- čas přidán 26. 02. 2023
- Content creator Dominique Baker sits down with Tracy to discuss the social pressure that comes with not having kids, and why it's important to respect the choices of women and couples who decide not to have children. "Stand strong in your choice."
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I made the decision to not have kids at 10. Was told I would regret it by many. Still waiting for the regret to kick in. I’m pushing 70, so it doesn’t seem likely. I couldn’t be happier with my decision.
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 only if they’re used on the moon. Things are dangerous.
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985lmao you're just mad this woman is living her best life
Same. I was only 4 when I said I wouldn't have kids for the first time. I'm in my 30's and still absolutely sure. It's just ridiculous when people whine and throw tantrums at childfree people. How pathetic can you be for getting triggered by someone's personal choice, right?
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 Sex in a bounce house is fun! You bet your ass you boring trod. Now go watch your dull ass kids.😂🎉
People: who's going to take care of you when you get old?
Me: Money😂😂😂
Lmaoooo yesss
Exactly.
😂😂😂
I'm a happily childfree Black woman. Having a child is a choice, neither a requirement nor a right as a woman. In some cases, it's a privilege, because in some cultures, motherhood is forced upon a woman. I'm grateful for the opportunity to be able to opt out of parenting, as a woman. Not everyone was meant to be, or should be, a parent. Just stop bugging women about our personal reproductive choices!
Merci., you must be awarded
Well said.
What do these people care? Strangers being angry that you don’t have babies? It’s not their business at all.
I'm Antinatalist so no one should have kids
@@avikazak655The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 😱💀🎃👻👹
As a BW who is childless by choice, I've found I get the most pushback by BW who are single parents.
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 Uhm, no...
@@Lilboozibert replace your last word's "a" with "er"
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 What does a bounce house got to do with anything? And there ain’t no problem with that
As a black woman, i can defenetly say that we tend to glamorize the concept of struggle and sacrifice a little too much, people look at you like you're doing something wrong if you're trying to make your life easier, i dont get that martyr mentality
I don't regret my decision of being child free, regardless of what anyone says.
There's nothing to regret about being childfree cheers🎉
It’s funny bc I never run into ppl who regret being child free, but I constantly run into folks who regret NOT being child free 😳😳😳 connect the dots y’all lol
Some people who don't want kids might just look for a partner who doesn't want kids. But there are some people out there who will just except it if they don't want kids. Even if it means not having kids like they wanted. Some people would reather be with the partner
@@twilight6779The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 😱💀🎃👻👹
I applaud 👏 women for being child free. I'm a man and I'm don't want children because that's my personal choice. Besides why raise a child in this evil,corrupt,satanic society. I'm a man and I feel sorry for women who already have children by these deadbeat sperm donors, going back and forth to child support court, hoping that he finally starts taking care of his responsibilities. I say "sperm donor" because you have to earn the right to be called a farther in my book 📖.
That's why I'm not having them, I'm a woman and this society is crazy in the grand scheme of things. Not having kids to keep these greedy corporations in America in business.
Couldn't have said it better.
@@TerriaaaaaThe red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱
@@rosafuoco5374The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱
Good for you, Dominique. I was brainwashed into having kids by family and church. Although I have one child and don't regret it, I never put that programming into my child. It is up to him to decide. Everyone should weigh the pros and cons of this huge choice. You can never regret doing what's best for you. Great segment as well cityline.
I did not enjoy the company of children when I was a child so it wasn't something I ever even thought about doing. You don't decide to have a child or spouse presuming they will be your caretaker later in life you choose then because you want that type of relationship. Assuming that people want what is considered normative or what you want is presumptive and dismissive of other people's experienced and values.
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 Are you bot? Or just dumb?
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 and yet you went through these all because you are stuck watching your boring offspring!
I often get told my decision to be child free is selfish....as if them having children is them given something back to an already saturated world.....I love women are waking up to the fact to women realising its a choice not an obligation ❤❤
The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 😱💀🎃👻👹
People are concerned about women not wanting children and not concerned about creating a world we would feel safe and stable enough to raise a child in. I’m 32 and have always wanted to be childfree. I remember having that thought for the first time at about 8 years old. My mom and stepmother both had my 1/2 siblings within a month of each other and I saw how much strife it caused them, their marriages and their overall satisfaction in life. At eight years old, I probably wasn’t mature enough to understand exactly how much babies were impacting their lives, but all I knew was that everyone’s life became exponentially more stressful with a baby around and I knew I didn’t want to do that. I remember being SCARED at the idea of having to go through this one day as a mom. And then it was like a light switch flipped in my brain a few years down the road and I thought…”WAIT…I don’t HAVE TO be a mom, do I?!” I answered my own question😉. I have nightmare about being pregnant, not dreams. I wake up panicking thinking a baby is in my spare room. It’s crazy because it’s almost like in those nightmares, I am seeing my life and how it would be if I did decide that I had wanted children. And the relief that I feel when I realize that it was all a dream lets me know that there’s not a single cell in my body that wants to be anyone’s mother, ever. When a woman tells you she does not want to have children, believe her. It goes so much deeper than just waking up one day and deciding babies aren’t for you.
I agree with her. I know true love with my lovely dog. Not having children doesn't make you less woman. We all have a choice to do what we want and live happily
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
Are you dating, yadi? Or are you uninterested in marriage? You don't have to have kids but you can still get married. Its nice to go through life with another person. Pets are nice to have though! I always wanted a cat or a dog.
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 still too dull to come up with something new? Sex in bounce houses are great you boring Trod!
Yes, so true..
@@ommandababineaux1888 High school chemistry lab where there's a bit of oil and grease on the tables
andover trip in 2 days weather looks in the clear the plan will be brought out
thinking about compounds lately
This is why Tracy is a great host....from bringing on this guest and providing a comfortable forum for them....as well as sympathizing with them. There can be cases when mothers isolate and ostracize women without children....as if the mothers don't have a sensitivity chip. Tracy didn't fall into that trap and was respectful. PS also love how their outfit colours are complimentary too.
Agreed! Tracy is👌. I don’t watch our own daytime talk shows here, I’m in NYC but I did subscribe years ago because I love ALL the various topics they discuss on this show. Particularly women’s health, mental, physical and sexual. Tracy and all the guests are always professional and informative.
I knew when I was a teenager, I didn’t want children. I love children but till this day I haven’t regret my decision.
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 you have no life
People with kids are cooped up with them and have time to cut and paste a boring quip about bounce houses….
@@77Tadams 😂😂😂😂😂 good burn!
@@77Tadams Yep. It's a miserable breeder. 😂
Also, if people with kids tell you “You’ll never know true love until you have a baby”, ask them if they believe that their children truly love THEM. Because if we’re going by THAT standard to establish what love REALLY is, your innocent child does NOT truly love you since they they didn’t give birth to you…right?!😅Almost all parents are gonna say they think their kids DO truly love them, so you immediately flip their statement back on them and make them realize how ignorant it is. It makes them realize that true love can exist in many ways across many different forms of relationships. I “truly love” my parents, but not in the same way I “truly love” the woman I’ve been best friends with since kindergarten. But I don’t “truly love” my best friend the same way I “truly love” my dog. If they get offended by you pointing that out, it says more about them than you. The truth hurts and throwing an insulting question back in someone’s face after they threw a backhanded insult at you is a good, low-key savage way to say “f-ck you for assuming I haven’t experienced true love”.
This lady has such a calm and friendly demeanor.
I was Childfree before I even knew what the term was. I was only 13 and I’m 24 now; haven’t changed my mind and I don’t think I will 🤣
If they don't want kids and there with a partner who wants kids. It's not all ways that much of a worry. There are some people who are able to just except it and not have kids. Like some people would just except it if they was with a partner who couldn't have kids
@@bennewman4675The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱
It means a lot to me to see all this happy childfree women!! I’ve known my whole life I didn’t want kids but I only verbalized it last year when I turned 17. I am so happy with this decision and I have an ever growing list of reasons why I don’t want them. 😅
Perfectly said! Great interview! Thank you.
In sports teams, new players suffer hazing and abuse by older players. When they become the older players, they then haze and abuse the younger ones instead of being mature and ending the cycle of abuse. Breeders are the same way, they want to force everyone to breed and suffer children the same way they did. They hate Childfree people's willpower to say "No" to society, our thinking that led us to question conformity, our determination to make our own decisions.
2:30 - Questioning and commenting on people's reproduction is sexual harassment and should be treated that way. It doesn't matter whether it's a Childfree person or even someone who does want kids, asking is sexual harassment.
Yesss! Love Dom!
Thanks for sharing the love ❤
I'm 39 and I'm childfree by choice it baffles me that some people get mad at me because I decide I don't want to have any kids at all I be telling them it's my choice that I don't want to have any kids at all and having kids is a choice
People need to mind their own business. Which century is this? 🇹🇹
Yeah I totally agree with you
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@angelaholmes8888 You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 and you just love to troll on people
@@angelaholmes8888
*the vaccine* is to *20th booster coming out*
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*interracial marriage* is to *races not existing anymore*
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*a man wearing nail polish* is to *not telling the genders apart*
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*being childfree* is to *our population going extinct*
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*banning hate speech* is to *banning nearly all speech*
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*banning machine guns* is to *banning knives*
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*lowering the voting age to 16* is to *having no age limit anymore*
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*allowing breastfeeding in public* is to *allowing public ndity and wasting*
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*a white person wearing dreadlocks* is to *not telling the races apart*
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*adults using bounce houses* is to *not telling the ages apart*
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*having a 3rd bathroom in a gas station* is to *there being 50 bathrooms in every gas station anywhere*
ALL AS
*running stop signs* is to *T-bone accident!!!*
Heeelp, these are all risks, pleeease!!
I love this interview! Dominiques not only gave wonderful answers but looked stunning while doing so! I loved her outfit!!
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 Uh who cares if they find it fun. Yall just are miserable people for no reason.
@@thezu9250 i knew it
I enjoy being involved in the lives of friends' children childlike energy, and children's creativity AND I enjoy coming home to my own space and my cats. Parenthood is a huge responsibility and it never appealed to me. Grateful my parents were generous with me and gave me a decent foundation yet I have no desire to do that.
Those "friends" that called me selfish are no longer my friends.
Proud of you girl. Live your best life!
One awkard and terrible experience when i was twenty three from a stupid mistake confirmed to me that I was asexual and that I did not want children. I carried the pregnancy to term gave kid up for adoption haven't dated or had any regrets about staying childfree and I'm now coming 34. I'm a complete introvert love my own space and peace and quiet and hate been around people. I sell online at home so i dont have to work all day surrounded by people i make just enough to pay bills and feed myself and my two dogs not raise a child. I stay up at night sleep until whatever time I want in day. I love my life love movies, music, hiking with my dogs and not having to change everything I am and give up everything I love to be a parent. There's more to a woman than a childbearer having children is a personal decision that changes your whole life it should only happen if you know it's what you really want.
I don’t need the miserable life of a mother to know what love is
I’m a conservative woman who wants to live my life child free for many reasons. I come from a diverse family, with half of them being Puerto Ricans and the other half Sicilian, both of which are huge on family and “old school” traditions when it comes to these societal expectations of bringing life into this world as a woman. However, it’s even more confusing to fellow conservatives that I don’t hold the same value in wanting to start a family because of political correctness (God, faith, family, women’s rights when it comes to abortion etc…) and while I am pro life, I can also have every right to be childfree myself. Another thing that aggregates me are the “what ifs” from pro lifers. What if you got pregnant? It’s called birth control. Use it accordingly. Now stop worrying so much about my life choices, and go change that diaper. 🎉
Yeah, I agree with that statement. It is truly selfish to have children considering they don't ask to be born and this world is sick and disgusting. This is coming from a both single/unmarried and childfree man who doesn't regret this life decision.
Dominique !! Love her on Tik Tock! Happy international CF Day 8/1/23 🎉🎉😄.
The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱..
Even tho I want kids if I was with a partner. Who doesn't want kids or couldn't have kids. I would just except it and not have kids
The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱.,,;
This audience rarely gave any applause during this segment which means they do not agree with Dominique Baker on being childless.
And who cares? She doesn’t need validation from anyone but herself
Some mothers are threatened by and hostile towards child free women. That was discussed in this very video. Even more so when it comes to older women. How many women in the audience are likely childless or childfree themselves?
❤️
You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
I never wanted to be a parent. Forty-seven years old and have zero regrets. I love my freedom!
The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱.,
Children are a damn handful, people need to mind their damn business if you have kids raise them and mind your damn business, damn
The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱,;
Or when people say "just adopt" likes its actually affordable and easy 😂
When people ask me when am I having children I say never because I don't want that responsibility I love my freedom. Some responses are supportive while others assume am barren. Black communities are the worst in passing judgement but at the same time complain about high rates of single parent homes
Absolutely nothing wrong with this.I have no children am very happy.The only problem is when you grow old and your health changes .
I have no children, by choice...love kids...would not ever want to burden with my health...know yourself know your choices...live with respect.
I am trying to understand how having children will either stop me from growing old or having health challenges? You are very wrong if you think all children take care of elderly parents. Very
@@beatrice2236 Very, indeed. These young people are moving to entirely different countries, now. They not going to be here for you, OP.
@@beatrice2236 You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
@@marciamellow1211 You are probably the same kind of person who thinks young adults still using bounce houses is okay
42 yr happily married and childfree. Do what’s best for you. It’s far worse to regret having children. Don’t bring babies unless you are 500% committed.
The red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱 .
I didn’t want kids. Now that my parents have entered assisted living I have huge regrets. Their life is so much richer in old age because they have us.
My grandmother lives far from me and they have a program where young adults can spend one-on-one time with them weekly.
She really likes it but she told me that the good feeling is gone as soon as they leave.
She tells us all the time that seeing us once a month fills her cup more than any activity, excersion or regular "friend".
I don't have children so that hit me really hard 💔
Wrong. Kids are not guaranteed to take care of you. And also: what's the deal with people not having anyone else in their lives aside from their kids? My neighbor is a 80yo lady with no kids and she's never alone. That woman has a bunch of friends. People just love to be around her (she's very smart and funny, I'll admit). Don't rely on kids alone.
@@gabecoolwater4497 wrong? Not altogether. Be polite.
I highly doubt that Petersburg. Aging is aging with or without kids.
@@wheatstonebridge you highly doubt an opinion? Ok
We men do get the same push back, believe it or no.
not as much cause men don't have biological clock.
@@somabalestra1131 We actually do. Men lose fertility as we get older & birth defects like Down syndrome can be more common with older fathers as well as mothers.
@@jpbart1390 I meant to say, men have longer time to procreate and are usually married later in life while a woman’s fertility is much shorter as she is the one carrying the fetus. The older she gets, the more complications she faces. This is why people pressure women to get married and have children. Men also get push back but not as much.
@@somabalestra1131 Granted, but it doesn't mean we should procreate when we're old enough to be grandfathers. I'm 47 now, have been married since I was 26, wife's the same age & no way would I want kids at this age! On that note, my wife & I still get harassed about having kids & I don't react very nicely to that.
@@jpbart1390 Don't get me wrong, I am a childfree woman myself. I'm just explaining why people treat childfree men and women differently cause our reproduction process and time is different. It make sense why people treat them different, it sucks but it makes sense.
"Granted, but it doesn't mean we should procreate when we're old enough to be grandfathers."
I meant men in their 50s and 60s can still impregnate a woman, there is a possibility If the man has a healthy diet. For a woman. regardless of her diet If she gets pregnant in her 50s, it's a miracle. Most women deal with menopause in their mid to late 40s.
"On that note, my wife & I still get harassed about having kids & I don't react very nicely to that."
Just ignore them. they're either jealous or want more slaves in this corporate world. They don't care about you nor the souls they bring into this twisted place. They're just mindless followers. Pay them no mind.
Everyone should have 30 kids or as many as they can if they can!!
I'll say whatever I want to someone who Identifies as Child free. I miss the days where literally nobody gave a sh*t or questioned it. Better not to glorify it so the narcissists feel seen.
😂 say whatever you want! I am glad she is telling a lot of our stories! Your offspring will know they have a choice! Choice is freedom.
YOU sound like the gauddamned narcissist. 😂
I'm child-free too and what I find odd is people who make a childless life their personality. (Yes, Yes, I know people with children do it too...)
I think if she made one or two tiktoks it would be ok since she's giving context to her life but a tiktok account dedicating so much time to that topic?? 🙄
And that pious "look at me eating grapes in my quiet home without the bother" is really cringe, it's why your friends don't include you because you appear to shout your choice from roof top - you lead with that like it's a character trait. (it's no different to the large family vloggers that the Internet is quickly losing interest in)
A whole list of judgments about how she lives her entire life from a 6 min segment? And where did it say the tiktok account only about this topic? The segment really was about not judging others choices especially when they don't affect us. Some of us got that.
I love this comment! I didn’t even think about the flip side. I too have seen her TikTok’s and have gotten that vibe but she also seems pretty resolute, and happy in her choices. I left a loooong comment on here as well🥴😂. Just detailing why I ultimately chose to become a mother. To each their own✌🏽
The childfree profiles are good to unite and educate people that think alike or are interested in the topic. As there are profiles that talk about motherhood or economy, politics... it is awesome and I learned a lot from these types of profiles...
@Kim which also came across as judging. Great for you. Clearly your "research " didn't unearth the genetic disease in her family that she was afraid to pass on and that her own mother daughter relationship was strained which she is open about. Stop thinking 2m tiktoks or 6 min edited segments detail someone's life. 🤔 And even if her ONLY reason was fear of not being able to provide financially so what? That is a real fear many people have. Why diminish it and judge her for living well child free? Sounds like your life is full and great yet..??...your children sound wonderful
Scroll to the comment calling her a transwoman (which is usually the next step after "barren") to understand why channels like hers are important. The pushback is unreal.
there is nothing normal about choosing not to have children and we should never normalise or make this thing look popular cz its not
That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it though.
It's completely normal
Nothing normal? Have you watched the movie Alien? That's what comes to mind when I think of childbirth. It's a risk and a sacrifice so it's very logical and natural not to want that.
@@leveticus1461 sleeping with men who are not willing to marry you or make a commitment to you is also high risk so is casual sex and stds so i guess everything is a risk nowadays
@@TerriaaaaaThe red cloth table lamp next to the TV you left on in the bedroom upstairs burned out on you 💀🎃👻👹😱
If the husband doesn't want kids wich is very unusual that's fine but for a woman to think she has the right or authority in a marriage to make that decision is selfish and just plain wrong when your married you become one flesh any woman who goes against this should remain single
That's why most childfree women always make it clear from the start that we don't want kids. Many men ignore our stance and pretend at the start and then try to pressure us into having children, or even try to force or baby trap us.
So it's not our fault most times.
@@saratujibrin3755 you seem to be missing the point if you marry a man it's not your choice anymore your body is not just your own and vice versa if you don't want children stay single it doesn't work that way.....that's new age modern women thinking our grandparents would say this is crazy and unheard of 😆🤣baby trap....if you have sex there's a chance you can get pregnant nobody raped you 😂and even birth control surgery and condoms is not one hundred percent to stop pregnancy so everytime we have sex is like rolling the dice 🎲 what if you crap out then what😅
Or maybe you should realize not everyone believes in your religion.
It’s more selfish for a man to decide on someone else behalf.
It’s not like it’s the man who’s gonna deal with the pregnancy.
And this is one of the MANY reasons why I have never been in a relationship nor have I ever wanted one, let alone children. You think that if you people cry long enough that women would give up their freedom and be cattle again, good luck with that🤣🤣🤣🤡🐑. My life will be child free and peer pressure does not effect me, so continue crying as people like me enjoy life without the burden of people who think that they can dictate our lives🤣🤡🐑.
Name 1 selfless reason to have kids
That’s a whole man, that can’t reproduce children! Hence, her stance. I love the show but, Dominique should be more honest with the viewing audience!
Huh? I am 25 and I would rather get sterilized than have kids. Not all of us want children! Smh...
I don’t want children either! But this person should be honest! It’s a man and should not mislead people! He is drop dead gorgeous, but still!
@@freereign911i don't understand... is she a trans woman?
Omg I had no idea
@@roser. This is a troll. Why would you even believe that?