Our Realistic Birth Experience
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2022
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what a journey, sending both of you all the love in the world ❤ so happy you and baby are all safe
hi yt
Hey Susan
Omggg CZcams
SUSAN WHAT U DOIN HERE
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When Liana was describing her thoughts on the operating table about how she would have been okay with dying now that she knew that babi was safe.. I literally teared up. You guys are so strong and I’m so glad that your family is together.
I completely agree with you
Agreed ❤️
I cry when she said that
I also cried. It was beautiful
She is so brave willing to die knowing her child is safe! Connor better limber up those knee’s 💍💍🤍
Liana speaking in the car and then Connor speaking in the kitchen broke my heart, the way they were both trying to stay so strong for each other🥺
Bro i cried 😭😭
Connors crying at 33:00 is just heartwarming. The fact that he cares so much and worries … you guys are gonna be so good parents.
You are so right
You are righ he dose care so much
That’s a good sign that he’s a good boyfriend and a good dad
So true I hope they will live happy and healthy forever
As a maternity nurse, birth is so traumatic. Don’t ever apologize for your trauma. It’s still taboo to talk about what happens in there. Especially in our sanitized society. You guys did great! Congratulations 🥳
Completely agree. I think anyone that’s going into birth has to expect it 1) to not go the way you want it too. I know you can’t prepare from trauma. And birth isn’t traumatic for everyone. I know I was lucky to have the experience I did but not everyone has that. My best friend had a really difficult time and it sounded very scary. She said she would not do it again. She was to traumatised by the experience
People need to use a new word. At this point "trauma" means literally nothing.
@@hollydaugherty2620 for some people birth does cause trauma not every birth experience is super traumatic but what some people go through is definitely traumatic not to the point the word means nothing
Just want to say thank you for all you do . I’ve had 3 natural births, but this last on July 29th was the wildest experience. My water broke at my regular dr appointment when he went to check my cervix so I had to go get induced and I only had 4 hours of insane contractions, I got one every time I moved my body and they were inconsistent the whole time but extremely intense. My labor nurse was AMAZING. Daddy was too but I think he was also 😳 about how it was going down . She really got me through the whole thing! I almost got an epidural just bc the doctor asked if I wanted one in the middle of an intense contraction, so out of complete fear and pain I said yes , she calmly asked me if that’s what I really wanted and I said no , and my daughter came so fast that she caught her! I will never forget her . This was also the first time I didn’t have my momma with me and she took on that roll for sure . ❤ thank you for all you do!!
@@hollydaugherty2620 the hell, plenty therapists and psych professionals use the word “trauma” as medical term. So yes, it is very such word that means something.
Connor definitely deserves an applause for making Liana smile during her painful contractions, and making things positive even though he is on the brink of crying. Liana and Connor are going to be great parents, congrats on the Babi! I cant imagine how hard it’s been, both of you are so strong and brave.
Agreed. 👍
For Sure
Yep! 👏🏻👏🏻
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Whos watching this in 2024 ??
Samee
Mee im watching again 😂😂😂
Me again
Meee
Me lol
The fact that they both cried because they are worried and thankful for the other is so sad yet adorable it shows that they really care about eachother
This as someone who also had a traumatic birth after wanting a natural home birth, has been such a comfort to me. I struggled for ages (still do) to come to terms with my birth of my boy. After watching other people's 'fairytale' births I honestly thought I was on my own. Thank you for sharing your story x
Same here. My daughter is 6 and this video just brought it all back. My husband and I discuss having her a sibling all the time, but I still feel that trauma and I'm just not sure if I can do it again! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
im pretty damn sure my mum had a tough time, im a triplet oops
You’re definately not on your own. Traumatic births are more common than fairytale ones 100%. A lot of women fall somewhere in between, but a lot of women have extremely traumatic births and pregnancies, they just feel guilty talking about it or admitting it. It’s okay. Hope you’re doing well mama.
@@taylorah6409 my suggestion is don’t. Your body is 6 years older, it likely won’t be better no matter what your obgyn says. I’d adopt.
@@ThatDataLady you have no idea what you are talking about.
Statistics show that the likelihood of having the same sort of traumatic birth is relatively low
"Liana was over there taking it as a boss
and I was over there forcing myself not to cry because I was so scared"
Their relationship is the best one I have seen online. I feel like a lot of women don't know the many ways their birth can go, when Liana said she was fed fairytales of how her birth will happen is so true how a lot of women have it. It's so nice to see both mom, dad and baby healthy and happy.
Same great job liana your the best
Most women don’t have a fairytale.
birth. Many many women have extremely traumatic pregnancies and/or births, and many have births that fall somewhere in between. I personally haven’t seen many fairytale births in my time. But I understand telling yourself, and ob’s telling first time moms to be calm and it’ll be beautiful. I have never been the type. I tell moms the truth, to not be scared, but it might be very very scary, but we will take care of you. Honesty is important. I’d say probably 40% of patients consider their birth traumatic, especially those who have to get emergency c-sections with little to no warning and those who go into labor very early, but women seldom talk about it because it often makes them feel guilty to admit that they didn’t love how their child came into the world
I know I’m super late but this is like my third time watching this. Every time I do, I like Liana more and more, she keeps smiling, making jokes, even when she is in excruciating pain, it shows how strong she is.
My brother and sister in law went through this emotional rollercoaster of nearly losing my sisters in law as her uterus and bladder both had ruptured during her BVAC attempt. She had an emergency c-section but the staff wouldn’t listen to her when she kept saying something is VERY WRONG. She waddled into the hallway screaming something is wrong and a doctor finally did an ultrasound and saw what was happening. Her numbed her right there and started cutting while they were wheeling her into the OR as he said they had about 3 minutes or less to get baby out or they would lose them both. They both lived but it was a terrifying time and it took months for the family to recover from it. I don’t wish that on anyone. I’m thankful for your medical team that was willing to give you the opportunity to try to have a natural birth, but stepped in and helped you through a very difficult delivery and post-birth period. Glad you and baby are safe but you did go through something traumatic. Take your time and heal mentally, emotionally and physically my dears.
This happened to my biological mother with me. First baby though. I was breech and footling and labor stopped completely (I’m adopted so this story is amazing to me. We met when I was 21). When the drs finally checked in on her after 12 hours I was in distress so they raced to surgery and I was born in three minutes. She was hiding this pregnancy from everyone so she had no prenatal care and was so I’ll she only gained ten pounds. I was 7 pounds 9 ounces. She even showed me the scar where I came out. Isn’t life amazing?
Oh my goodness send 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 to your in-laws from me, how did they do that? It must if been so painful (>_
@@DreamingOf_TheBeach more scary in the moment and painful afterwards. They are doing terrific and my nephew is now 7.
I can’t believe how similar our stories are. My son was born on August 4th via c-section. I stopped progressing at 7 cm and the dr said the baby’s head was tilted and said we may have to consider a c-section. There was also meconium in my fluid. After trying to continue naturally for 3 more hours, the dr suggested a c-section again and at this point we decided to go forward with it. After he was out the dr said there was no way he was coming vaginally due to the position of his head. After my husband left with the baby I started having an anxiety attack while on the operating table. The anesthesiologist told me that they were almost done but then 30 more minutes passed and they were still working. After what felt like forever they were taking me to the recovery room and I was shaking uncontrollably, crying, and couldn’t catch my breath. I found out in recovery that I had hemorrhaged during surgery and that’s why it took so long. My mom and husband kept asking if I wanted to hold the baby but I was shaking so bad I was afraid to hold him. Eventually the shaking stopped and the anxiety attack passed and I thought the bad part was over. We were discharged on the 5th day but 2 days later I was in my drs office because I had an infection and my incision had opened. I started to show signs of PPD pretty much as soon as we got home from the hospital. Yesterday marked 4 weeks since surgery and we are still working on getting the wound to heal completely. This was not how I ever imagined the birth would go and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But we made it through and I have my beautiful baby boy. Thank you for sharing your story and making me feel less alone in this experience ❤️
I lost a lot of blood naturally delivering, and I was two weeks late, with my first according to due date. I shook tons I didn't know they gave me pitocin my first daughter took almost 15 hours, and my second she was a week early at only 6 hours of labor they said oh hunny we're giving you fluids, no no they weren't fluids well not the hydrating type anyway 🤣 I was terrified all of a sudden my body was no longer in my control I didn't get anything for pain with either girls but man I would have with my second had I known, what a nightmare but she's happy healthy and almost 7 now, these videos bring me back
Wow, well done for getting through!
omg that's scary. How's your healing now?
No one talks about how traumatic birth can be. 😕
Hey! My birthday is August 4th!!!!
Connor needs a best boyfriend/dad award. The way he didn't want to stress liana out by crying, he stayed with her the entire time and everything else. Congratulations guys!!
I agree! ☺️
bare minimum
@@littlehell2655 bye
Ye
@@arianabrown9925 it’s true, that’s the bare minimum
I’m so sorry it didn’t go to plan Liana. This shows the strength of a mother, how instinctual it is and how it instantly kicks in during labour because it sounds like you so bravely bossed such unpredictable and dangerous situations. It can be really tough to gather your thoughts and piece things together after labours like this so please take your time.
I’m shocked we’ve even had this video so soon now knowing what you’ve been through. What both of you have been through, it’s hard for the Dads too! Take your time and continue to find the joy in baby boy, your life is now forever changed.
Congratulations on baby boy being here and safe and congratulations on being a badass mummy ready to take on the world, because now you’ve done this, you can do anything. X
Ye
@@Saffie15 wow what a follow up
@@elizabethcarpenter696 no
@@daniel_azad … what
@@elizabethcarpenter696 no
I love how Connor said “we ha-“ and he corrected himself by saying “she has” when describing what she has been through. As someone with a really big pet peeve about people saying “We are pregnant”, this just made me so happy that Connor is still crediting Liana with the pains of the experience
time stamp?
6:41
@@Oliver389 thanks bro💖
What's wrong with, "we had a baby" It's the result of 2 people who love each other becoming one through their friendship and sexual union and creating something beautiful .
@@klaurel4984yeah we have a baby is great but WE are PREGNANT is honestly disrespectful in my opinion 😕
Props to Connor for being a real man and doing everything he can to support
i know so helpfull init
@@cheekymacey6116
He really is an amazing soul ✨
Yasss
Everyone deserves a Connor 🫶🏽
That's true 👍
My mum lost her first child during a c- section. Even though it has been almost 17 years she can't talk about it. Now I know how she must have felt but even worse cause she told us that she tried so hard to get pregnant but lost her baby many times in the first trimester. I just wanna say all mom's are amazing and deserve nothing but love
That's like my mom she lost 1 of them during c section and gave birth to a dead baby and lost one a few day before it was supposed to be born and so the doctors had to operate to get the rest of the baby out, the 4th one she lost during pregnancy but after 12 years minus 2 years she got pregnant and now I have a baby brother and minus 2 years is because in 2020 mom lost the fourth baby
@@Icehockey_music-lover I hope you and your family r fine
Yes we are he's healthy and mom is too
My mum had to have a c-section when I was born and I almost didn't make it
@@heartsfortokiohotell well included to the 4th baby the same happened my mom was in labour for 48 hr and nothing happened if she hadn't pushed to get my brother out both cude of died
The way she started crying bc of all that Connor has done really hit me. She is sad for Connor even tho she is in pain shows how much they care about each other. Love you guys❤️
The fact that Liana feels bad how much Connor is doing for her and Connor doesn't know what more to do shows how amazing the two of them are as a couple. Your babi is the most lucky baby ever to have you two as his mummy and daddy. Happy 1st Birthday Koazy, we love you so much ❤
It really does make a world of a difference to have a supportive partner. My mom really had to do EVERYTHING on her own and I can’t even imagine.. I have birth yesterday to my husband and my baby girl and he has been AMAZING. An amazing father from start to finish and on and an AMAZING husband for the past 4 years. I wish everyone, every single person, could have someone like that. Connor seems to be in the same boat. Loving partners and rock star dads. I’m so proud of you and how you’ve handled everything Liana, with what you chose to share! Even though your birthing experience didn’t go exactly to plan, you handled everything, including contractions, like a champ! Much love towards you all and Gods many blessings!❤️
I was checking youtube and tiktok everyday because I was getting so worried. I'm glad that baby boy is here now. I'm sorry to hear what an experience you guys had. To be honest I would've had a breakdown too. So happy that you're all okay even though Liana still has to heal a little bit. So glad to hear from you guys!!!
Hey yt
Babies head is tiny
Same
@@juliemay6945 Sameee
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my mom was in labor with me for three days as well. she always told me it was the most difficult thing she ever had to go through and now, watching you, liana, go through this makes me feel so much respect for my own mom as well. i cried twice during this video, once when connor was upset at seeing how much pain you were in, and another when liana said she would’ve gladly died knowing she delivered beautiful babi into the world. i’m so glad you three are all safe. babi is going to grow up in a wonderful home.
I’m so glad that you and your mother are safe and god bless you both.
I agree 😭😔🥺
umm what?
My mom was in labour with me for over two days, and I was over 10 lbs like Liana's Babi 😅 My mum says it was very very difficult, and she had pain relief as soon as her contractions got bad, so I can't image how much pain Liana went through.
I can't help but cry when I see other people cry, so I feel you 😔
@@RED-fo9py I don’t see the problem with their comment
I’ve watched this so many times and always cry at the bit where Liana talks About how grateful she was for Connor
I absolutely adore how you two are with each other one minute we see Connor rushing to get everything perfect for Liana and make her comfortable, doing anything he can. The next we see Liana crying because she sees how hard he’s trying to be there for her and she feels bad, Liana don’t feel bad labor & pregnancy are both painful and can be stressful Connor is just doing everything in his power to make your job a little easier. Throughly enjoyed this video so happy for mum, dad & the sweet baby boy
connor couldn’t even bring himself to say that he thought liana might die. what a love the three of you share ❤️ congrats on a healthy mama and baby!
I love how Connor is so supportive and trying to do everything thing possible to make you feel much better
Dude!!!
That's a gentleman right there
When I was watching this and when Liana was talking about her experience and being able to be OK with the fact that she could die, but she was fine with it since she knew that her babi was safe, made me literally ball.
Aw literally bawled when Liana started to cry discussing that she'd given birth to a healthy baby boy. Tough momma! ❤❤
I swear Connor treats her so well as though she’s the most fragile and important thing in the entire world
I almost starting crying when she was saying she felt bad that Connor was doing all this for her. This shows how much she cares about him and how much he cares about her. ❤️
Yes
i highkey teared up because you could just FEEL the love they have for one another ugh they're awesome
Right? Made me emotional 🥹
I've had two sons naturally and they were both so quick, that with one of them(can't remember which one), the doctors said I had ripped my uterus(or something) and I was bleeding heavily. They had to inject me(inside) with something that apparently stopped the bleeding. Both sons were 8 pounds something in weight. I can't even imagine going through labor for days, with little progress then having to have a C-section. And then with so much blood loss. I started following you after your baby came, so I am backtracking to catch up. You are both such a sweet and genuine couple. I wish your little family the best, and many blessings into 2023.
I think its really awesome that couples cover their deliveries like this, you guys did an amazing job with the camera work, the editing, I really enjoyed Liana talking about what she felt, as a young woman, 23 years old, and I've never had a pregnancy scare, never missed a cycle, but in 5 years with my partner, nothing, I have done some readership just trying to learn what its like, alot of my friends from school are growing up and having kids in curious when or if I ever will too, Im so glad you guys are together and have this beautiful family together now, you're such a beautiful couple, the way Connor catered and tended and cared for Liana was just beautiful to see. Much love you guys! Congratulations! And amazing Job Liana! I hope i can be a brave strong mother like you one day in the future!
I love how involved Connor wants to be and has been with this pregnancy. You can tell he's invested 100% in these two.
The fact that she FILMED the entire thing while she was experiencing that kind of pain is truly amazing, sending love and prayers during this tough time ❤️
Yes
yeah but i cant get over connor saying i KNoW I CaN bE a d**K
Yes
I had my own traumatic birth story almost 13 yo ago (oh I’m old) you forget how emotionally taxing it can be, you guys rocked it. You never know how you will react until you’re in the situation, you guys deserve a medal for how you got through it together. And now you have this amazing little bundle of love you get to spoil for the rest of forever. Great job mama (& dada)! Rest , enjoy and welcome to the parenthood club!
My mom went through the same thing when I was born. And she lost a lot of blood and died. They brought her back to life thankfully. So I'm glad that you stayed strong and my mom too❤️. I'm thankful for you sharing this story
I started crying when Liana was talking about how bad she feels because Connor is doing everything for her. I also cried when Connor was saying how hard it is to see her in pain knowing there’s nothing he can do apart from be there for her. I also teared up when Liana was talking about how if something was to happen during surgery that she would be okay because she birthed their beautiful baby boy. Amazing story congratulations 💙
I agree and I hope u have a wonderful day your a great person
Same
About a year ago, I would've never expected myself to watch a youtubers journey through pregnancy and then watch a like, documentary about it too. But here I am, and I'm not mad about it. You two are some of the sweetest people I've seen, you two are perfect for each other and you'll be amazing parents. I know you didn't end up getting the home birth you wanted, but I'm glad that Liana and the baby are okay.
If you’re interested in someone else’s extperience, especially an older woman’s, I would watch Colleen Balingers journey with her son and miscarriage and twins
@@ThatDataLady she miscarried????
I feel the same.
Who’s watching this in 2024 when Koazy was already born
Me, I was waiting for the vid and I thought they didn't post one until today
@@bumblebee7263 lol 😂
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@@ur_fav_esethu_gallol
Me lol
I've been abused in the past, I'd rather not get into detail but I've been terrified of child birth since I was 5. You've inspired me bc of how brave you are and I'm curious.
I relate to your fears as whilst I'm nervous to share this, I want you to feel not alone in this. I was molested as a child, at 6, then 9, then 14 by different perpetrators. So anything to do with strangers/doctors examining down there scares me, even making love with my partner rarely but has triggered flashbacks. But thankfully my partner is supportive and understanding of my past. But now at 31w and approaching labour in 6-9 weeks I'm feeling a mix of fear and confidence as the weeks pass. With enough support think it's possible, and try to think positive that, I might be okay and just focus on getting baby out and those first moments of skin to skin. I'm worried I might panic or get flashbacks if laying back or on the table for theatre, but I'm seeking the perinatal mental health midwife soon and hope with my partner's support I can focus and breathe to get baby out. I believe all abuse survivors deserve to have the life they want, whether that includes children or not, whatever that looks like for people. I hope this helps you in someway knowing you're not alone, there is support out there for the struggle, as whilst it's there it doesn't have to get in the way of doing what you want to do x
Sad that they don't answer to such comments 😢 they are motivational.
The fact that this video has gotten over 1.5million views in less than a day shows how much everyone missed and care about Connor and liana
Yep
Indeed
And baby!
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I’ve been checking there channel and shorts for almost 11 days now and finally babi is here!🥹🥰😍
My son was 5 weeks premature and I started bleeding behind my uterus. I managed to deliver naturally, but passed out as they showed him to me.
My husband didn’t tell me until my son was about 8 that he nearly lost us both that day, and as a man who could lay his hand to anything, how helpless he felt.
I am so glad you’re all fine, and I and my now 22 year old 6’2” son wish you health and happiness. ❤️
I had an emergency C-section after they broke my water and saw she had pooped. She was barely 5lbs so I wasn’t left with quite the void. Weirdly it was so much better of an experience than I had with my second daughter’s scheduled C-section.
I lost track of y’all on CZcams for a while and just found this video. Cried the whole way through it. You both are so strong and have been through so much. Liana, you are a superhero. I am so so proud of you and your beautiful family. Much love to all of you.
Omg guys I’m so sorry, the community post told us something wasn’t right, but we honestly had no idea what trauma you were going through. But I’m glad baby is safe and well, and so are mum and dad 💙
Connor was amazing during labour, and Liana was so strong and brave. Well done both of you and I can’t wait to meet baby!
this was exactly what most people thought happened
@@misseselise3864 yep! I tried to warn them that this might happen, but when people get a birth plan into place they don’t like to differ unfortunately. Baby doesn’t care about our birth plans! My c sections were traumatic and they were planned. At least they have a healthy baby boy now 💜💜
I know, I’m not a birth expert, never had one of my own, but I mean let’s all be glad they’re ok. It’s just the way the community post said it I didn’t expect it I just thought they had to be transferred to hospital and no C section 😊
I have had 4 children. I am 31 years old. And I hemorrhaged with ALL four needing blood transfusions!! And iron transfusions!
You are a strong mother. Your body is capable of more than you will ever know. Your husband is a good man and you have a healthy beautiful baby boy that you grew! Embrace your story pull out your strengths and find that happiness in your power as a mother as a woman. And be proud!!! Be damn proud momma!!! Because labor is no joke. Because surgery is no joke!
Be proud strong girl!!
What a beautiful comment ❤️
@@Baky_T agreed! love to all the strong moms out there💘💘
We have 8 kids. I hemorrhaged with 6 of them. Our first 6 were delivered naturally and the last one was born at 25 weeks by cesarean. I worked in labor and delivery for over a decade. I always tell women that a birth plan is great, but to also remember baby will do what it wants and if it is healthy that is the main goal. So many people get very upset if it doesnt go the way they have always imagined/dreamed it would. I will say a cesarean doesnt feel as satisfying (if that makes sense) but most of these things are somewhat common. Not fun, but happen quite often. No one should feel like it wasnt one of the best experiences of their life if a healthy baby is the end result. Going through that as a first time parent can be scary though. Especially if they only pictured it one way during the whole pregnancy.
I'm sorry that you don't get your chilled home birth but I just wanted to say THANK YOU so much for being so open and honest about the reality of birth and how everything can change in an instant. I guarantee that this video is going to help SO many mums and dads in the future and make them realise they aren't alone and it's okay to be disappointed or upset about how difficult..traumatic and upsetting labour can be! By being so brave and open about the reality of birth your bringing comfort to so many people out there who don't have the "perfect" birth and it's so important to show the other side because all to often we only get to see the picture perfect labour stories where everything goes to plan e though the majority of births are not as movies and media present it to be.
Of course my heart breaks for the fact you both had to go through such a difficult and stressful life experience and would have loved for you to have gotten the relaxing home birth you had planned for. However this experience is son important to share and if more people showed the hard and scary parts people would be better prepared when things do go wrong. Hats of to you both again you dealt with a extremely painful and complex birth so well and I hope you are able to health from the physical and mental scars a birth with complications can bring you. I wanted to say to Connor he was an amazing partner and although he isn't physically experiencing the pain birth partners often take on a lot of the trauma when complications arise because they are fully conscious and aware of everything going wrong. The person in labour if flooded with adrenaline and exhausted almost in a semi-conscious state not fully aware of everything happening which in cases like this is often a blessing . I've had a large bleed before and I was so woozy and out of it I make me weirdly calm and not fully aware of the imminent danger and panicking amongst the staff. Of course the pain is horrific and the experience was without a doubt traumatic it was defiantly worse for the mainly watching as they could see the bleeding and the life fading out of me coupled with the sense of utter helplessness and wanting to "fix it" . For that reason I'm blown away at how well Connor dealt with the whole situation because it's absolutely terrifying and you have to put on a brave face for your partner and he handled it perfectly. I hope the both of you continue to open up about the trauma and share your feelings .. I've NEVER been more proud of two strangers and I'm in complete awe of how strong and healthy your relationship is 😍. Often men feel like they can't complain or have a cry about what happened because they weren't the ones physically experiencing the pain but especially in situations like this the birthing partner takes on a huge amount of the stress..trauma and emotional turmoil and it's complexly okay to be terrified and be upset about what happened after all Connor had to watch on for days unable to do anything to really help and then he had to watch as she was bleeding out feeling he had to be the one to hold it all together
You got through this ❤
So 26 years ago I endured 135 hours of labour at 39 weeks and 6 days pregnant, but with so many problems I had to have an emergency c section…
It was incredibly traumatic.
We nearly lost the baby and nearly lost me.
My pelvis was fused following an accident at age 15 when I broke my lumbar spine.
My soft tissue dilated but my pelvis did not.
I was utterly exhausted, badly anaemic, dropping blood pressure ….
I nearly died… but I didn’t and my son was born at hour 136.
Two years ago I did do it all again for my daughter but with support and control! Mind you it was still horrific and once again I nearly died.
That was at 37 weeks, prebooked c section and my blood pressure bottomed out and I lost a lot of blood.
After 4 days in intensive care I was told to never have another baby again!
So at 24 years old my journey was done…
But I have 2 beautiful incredible amazing wonderful children ❤ and the NHS in Scotland saved my life twice ❤
That's amazing thhat the NHS saved you twice! hope you and your family are doing well!
Wow, having kids 24 years apart! That’s nuts
Jesus, that sounds horrendous, i could never do that myself, well done mama, youre so strong ❤
From Connor letting his guard down and getting emotional to Liana talking about how her only thoughts were the fact that if she died the baby was safe, this was beautiful. Growing up in a house filled with children, I've seen births go to plan, I've seen births not go to plan. I'd definitely say this deserves a massive well done, you handled it amazingly. You're both absolute warriors, hope everything's ok with Babi now, take it easy you guys, we love you❤
I labored for 36 hours before having an emergency c section. It’s not easy but you are so strong momma. Sending you all the love in the world, my son is almost 11mo now- it gets better ♥️
hi can i ask why you or them choose not to have a c-section or a normal birth in hospital but preferred pool birth at home?
@@user-bw1xg6ye6i I can’t speak for anyone else but my labor was at a hospital. I was induced before my due date due to medical concerns and I labored at the hospital and ultimately had a c section.
@@user-bw1xg6ye6i if they think that it's safe for the mother to continue with labor and she is ok with it normally it's fine if they continue labor. It's honestly 90% Up to mom and baby LESS there's clearly a medical problem. My brother was 2 weeks past due. He was scheduled for normal delivery. Bt he quit breathing bc his lungs said he should be breathing oxygen now bt for whatever reason he decided to show my mom early on what a shithead he'd be.
Bt doctors tend to prefer natural progress if it's safe to do so.
@@myliza700 i understood, thanks
@megan god bless u and ur family
Anybody watching this after koazys 1st birthday? 🎉
Yahhh I can't believe he's one 😭😭
Few comments here
Connor- you are a shining example of support, love, care and your drive to do everything you could here was absolutely incredible. So much respect.
Liana- you are incredible. I know your planned birth was for home but to just hear and see the difference In you after some pain releif and sleep in the hospital- you guys made the right call when u did. You did so good. So so SO good. I am so proud of you.
Connor is the best boyfriend ever. He didn’t want to sleep when liana wasn’t. He made sure she was okay at the slightest noise she made.
Liana is such a champion. The bit about when she was talking about how she would have been okay if she died as Babi was safe brought me to tears. Even though she was going through so much she felt bad for keeping Connor up. I am so proud of you guys and I’m so glad liana fully recovered and babi is okay
Thank you this is the most likes I’ve gotten 🫶🏼
Like if you know that Connor and liana are the best parents ever
Ik he’s so sweet
I was about to say the same thing
Exactly this!!! Made me emotional, they were incredible!
currently at the part where liana’s having contractions and her and connor got up to dance and i literally teared up. they’re so cute. you can see the love they have for each other. you can just tell they’re gonna be the best parents to their sweet boy 🥹
I was recommended this video when I was about 9 months pregnant and I avoided watching it because I was afraid it would give me birth anxiety. I am glad I waited to watch it. I too had a similar experience in the beginning and had a midwife and planned a natural birth. Similarily, it was a 40+ hr labor and was not progressing well and hubby and me were exhausted. I related so well to you guys at that time. My water was broken at the hospital and I received Pitocin and it progressed from there and I was able to deliver naturally 🤞 Baby was much smaller than yours fortunately and positioned as he should. He did have severe meconium aspiration though and had to be on breathing support for a few weeks before we could get him home. All is well now 🙏
Beautiful video. You are amazing people and role models, parents. Congratulations and well done.
From 31:35 to 33:00 Connor made me cry for how much he was kind to her
As my old teacher used to say if you can choose to be anything in the world choose to be kind because you never know what someone is going through.
I wouldn’t stop checking CZcams to see if you guys where ok and if babi was here. Never would have expected this. I’m so glad you guys are safe and ok. I hope your recovery goes well
Me too! Everyday I would check the channels to see if anyone posted
Ye I did the exact same even on snap chat even though I knew they aren't on snap
Me too.....I'm glad you are so....and....so strong and if I could, i would hug you both, and then, sweetly also Babi..♥️
Same every day
Same
This just came on after the vlogmas today… Connor saying a “Booogie” It’s amazing your talking about another so quickly after what you went through!
This was so emotional for me. I cried through all your contractions and pain, watching Connor breakdown was so painful. I can't believe that I've gotten so attached but I am so so glad that your baby is okay, that you are healthy and that you are recovering. Congratulations 💙🔵
My mum went through this when I was 13 and I remember she almost died and I was so scared to lose her. She went through the c section in tears and almost died on the table. I still remember seeing her afterwards and feeling such relief, as much as we fight I never wanna lose her. I’m so glad you spoke openly about this to educate
I’m so sry🤕🙁🙁
Very similar thing happened to me as well, I was 13 when my mom had to have an emergency C-section, his oxygen supply was compromised greatly and was on the verge of brain damage, and we almost lost my brother. 2 and a half years later and he’s a happy healthy absolutely wild boy
I feel so srry for u!!!
My mom had a stroke and a c-section when she was having me and it almost killed both of us. I’m so glad me and her are both here today 15 years later
My birth story is almost identical to yours… 72 hour of active labor followed with an emergency c section and welcomed a beautiful baby boy 💟 congratulations love
Same here and also had a boy that flipped Sunnyside up last minute
Congratulations you two.
With me they tried to pop my sac and I was leaking amniotic fluid. I was not dilating my body just couldn’t do it no matter how many induction drugs they gave me so with me leaking amniotic fluid it put my baby at risk and they talked me into having a an emergency C-section at 47 hours in
girl same here!
Same here and had a baby boy also🥰🥰👶👶
Seeing Connor cry and talk about seeing her in pain set me right off! What a beautiful soul, both of you! I’m sorry it never went how you wished but I’m glad he arrives safe and wel and your all wel ❤️
As someone who has been trying without success to conceive for almost 5 years, I am so grateful that you are all okay, all three of you. I understand the feeling of helplessness that Connor must have felt not being able to take your pain away but by god Liana you are an absolute boss mama! Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I wish you all the happiness and health in the world. Congratulations on your wonderful baby boy
I teared up when Liana started talking about how amazing and supportive Conner had been, and when he kept saying how strong and amazing she was. Of course bringing a person in to the world is a beautiful thing, but I find it even more amazing when both parents can come together to support and uplift one another to see their creation come into the world. Congratulations to you both! Sending my prayers to you guys, and your amazing baby boy🥰
I cried at least 3 times through this video😭 both of them were so strong and amazing
Can we appreciate how strong they both are? Connor stayed up with her and did everything her could for her, and Lianna stayed strong the entire time and even laughed through her pain, they’re both so strong and are going to be great parents
100% agree. Such a lucky boy to have such amazing parents. So proud of them to stay so focused and strong xx
This moved me to tears you guys are amazing 😢liana I KNOW how hard it is to have a plan and it go the opposite & also to have blood issues. We had our babies just days apart too!! 😊thank you for being so real & I’m wishing & hoping that this birth trauma is acknowledged by you and Connor and definitely talk through it as much as possible ❤
Medical person here from US I was surprised you were started on peotcin immediately after birth. We do it almost immediately after to prevent postpartum bleeding. It’s crazy how different everything is everywhere. I’m so glad it went well liana I’m happy you’re recovering I know this is A LOT to process.
Liana has been so incredibly brave throughout the entire pregnancy, first off by deciding on a home birth for your first pregnancy, which may sound less scary to some people idk but I think it’s such a brave option. Then with the birth oh my gosh I’m just amazed and so so happy that everyone is okay.
The segment with each of them talking one on one on the camera about how much they’re thinking about the other and how much they love one another is so heartwarming I can’t even
I had never seen Connor cry before this video and Liana crying broke my heart, they both did stay strong for each other. Here after the birth
Anyone watching when koazy is now 1 year old 😢❤
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Ikr he’s grown so much
I did this myself 16 years ago. We didn’t end up with a c section, I was in active labor for three days and I thought I was going to die. No matter how that babi gets here, as long as they are safe that is what matters. Healthy babi, healthy mama. Both of you guys are so strong.
No it’s not.
@@vanillaxval wtf??
What’s wrong with you all? Healthy Baby doesn’t mean healthy mom. That’s bullshit. Mom’s heath is important too. Not just the baby. I does matter how the mom feels, If she’s safe. Stop that shit.
@@vanillaxval what I meant is it doesn’t matter how that baby gets here, the most important thing is that the outcome is a healthy baby, and a healthy mom. And right now Liana is healthy. Yeah, she had a lot of super traumatic interventions, but she is alive, and doing as good as she can be under the circumstances. She very easily could have died, and her baby absolutely would have died if she had decided to stay home and try to push through what she was going through. She shouldn’t feed bad for having medical interventions that saved both of their lives. End of story.
@@vanillaxval … the mom being healthy is pretty much the mom being ok after the birth- no it doesn’t ALWAYS mean that the mom is greatly after the birth but it’s not bull
My mum had the exact same birth as this with me, almost a replica. And as she was watching this she shed a tear as she never thought someone would have to struggle through the same thing as her, especially as she had the fairytale birth idea too and felt so upset at having this trauma yet joy that people couldn’t relate to .The fact that you’ve shared this, especially so soon after, really is amazing and will help so many mums and dads of the future. And I can tell you both now, that this baby will 100% appreciate all the love, pain, and tears that went into his birth just like I have. He will never ever forget ❤️ congratulations xox
I had a very similar birth to this with my daughter she was 9lb 7oz at birth (41 weeks)
The hosipital refused to believe or check her position and had to beg for a c section 3 times her head was down but body was to the side it was scary but we made it in the end.
I did not read this fully through
@@mangakitten1 omg I'm so sorry
@@rahafalali1911 it’s ok I was stuck at 1-2cm for 16 days with contractions on and off daily and the hospital refused to help said it was “normal”
@@mangakitten1 I’m so sorry ❤️❤️ but so so glad that you made it through and stayed strong xo
My mom almost died having me, I think it was bc I was bigger, I was late but also her placenta wouldn’t budge and so she kept bleeding out, if I remember the story right. She said that I almost killed her. Seeing this video back when you first posted it made me realize, she must’ve been so scared, if she was even understanding the severity. But then, I saw the look on Liana’s face as she said she basically felt content, bc she had at least delivered him and he was healthy.. I’m so glad my mom made it, and that you guys posted this, bc honestly, you gave me such a detailed perspective of how it must be for the parents as ones being born. I can’t wait to see my mom again, just remind her how much I love her for doing all she has since day one. Can’t wait to do it myself someday, despite the very difficult trials mothers have to go through to get there.
I am crying right now about how supportive both of you are towards each other!❤️ baby is finally here and I’m excited for both of you, I know every second of pain was worth it. I can not express how emotional I was watching this because I’m so happy for your success at becoming a new mom. I hope and pray for the best for you guys and baby!❤️❤️💕 to new adventures
She stood strong, she cried a few times, but with the help of everyone’s support she made it! She inspires us everyday and brightens me up when I am miserable. You are amazing Liana! We love u❤️😭 Connor, you stood patiently, was there to do anything for ur girlfriend (now the mom of your child), and was there to support her whenever it was needed. Both have u have taught everyone important life lessons and i hope you succeed to be an INCREDIBLE mother and father. ❤️❤️❤️
This was really sweet...
Amen 🙏
I can tell how much Liana and Connor care for their baby boy. The way she said she’d be ok to go having the peace of mind that Babi was safe made me tear up. I can already tell you guys will be and are amazing parents and I’m so glad the Liana is ok! I was checking your channel every day like I hope they are ok. And I’m so relieved you are.
Same here;],
What time of the video did she say about she was ready to go?
@@glossy.blaire4515 let me look
@@glossy.blaire4515 49:35 - 49:55 hope that helps!
@@melaniegarci9932 🙂
They are both so in love with eachother. The care and the softness, they are so lucky to have found eachother
It took me over 36 hours to give birth (naturaly) to a 10lb 10oz baby girl. I was having the same problem so they had to go in and break my water as well, So right up to that point I was reliving the birth of my daughter with you. Only difference was it worked for me. The rest of your story was like walking through my daughter's, sons birth with her and I sobbed through the rest of your story.
You do try to prepare yourself for all the scenarios but you really just can't. You were both amazing and so absolutely there for each other.
I am sorry it didn't go as you had hoped, but it's the perfect example of "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!" Litterally! You are both amazing! That is one lucky little boy!
Many blessings to you and your new baby. ❤
I was 11 pounds and I very rarely hear a baby as chunky as myself lol. Ofcourse my mom had a c section, I cannot imagine pushing that out. Proud of you momma ❤
When Connor said, “We are all family at this point.” I started to tear up. I love you guys. I am so happy that your baby is safe. ❤️
I'm so glad that little babi boy and Liana are ok, but can we just take a moment to give Liana the praise that she deserves for pulling through this and also for Connor being able to be there for her.
she didn’t have a choice
@@misseselise3864 but she didn’t panic which could have harmed babi.
@@areyoulostbabygorl231 yesss thissss i would have been wailing and flailing and screaming and grabbing and slobbering and honestly pass out and not be able to deal at all lol she did amazingly and Connor too.. oh i cant even imagine being is his situation.. i would have been doing everything previously stated plus sobbing and vomiting lmao they were so good im so glad they could be so strong for their baby boy! I really hope she recovers completely..
@@_sch_eme_ same lol
@@misseselise3864 so? That’s like saying that someone’s not strong for idk, getting fucking stabbed and recovering like a champ after going through such a painful and traumatic experience because “they didn’t have a choice”. Most trauma (as a trauma survivor) comes without a choice. Although my trauma is extremely different than Lianas, she still had a traumatic birth. Your strength shouldn’t be diminished after going through a traumatic experience because “you didn’t have a choice”. That’s ridiculous.
I wish that I can find a man like Conner being so Incredible, kind and helpful with liana having her contractions .
But also my mother never lost her water with neither of her 4 children and her baby bump didn’t show very much and all of us (my moms kids) are completely healthy. Liana your one of the bravest person I’ve met and Connor you are incredibly sweet to liana . 💜💜💜
As a person that had a 136 hour labour and an emergency c section birth can be really scary and I did have some trauma the first couple of months and I still think about about it ,8 months later I still think about it to this day it was very hard it takes a while to heal ♥️
I’ve never sobbed as much as I did. When Liana lost it just talking about how she would have been okay going knowing she had delivered her beautiful and healthy baby boy, really got me. I am so glad both baby and Liana are okay now.
Fr, that part made me lose it and I started crying.
When Connor started crying my heart melted😭 he is the best boyfriend ever caring so much for Liana! I’m so happy for the both of you!!! Well done to the both of you! You have worked so hard and I’m so excited to meet baby boy!!! Love you guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️
So emotional 🥺 I’m happy that everything worked out well! Congrats on your healthy and beautiful baby 💕
The place you had set up around the pool truly looks so comfortable. I’m still halfway through this video and you guys are so strong. That must have been so long and hard to not know what was going on besides the pain.
As a c-section and definitely late baby about to become an adult, I was moved by this as it shed some light into my own parents' experience and want to assure you that both baby and mum can get through this. You both seem to care so much about each other, I look up to creating a similar bond one day and I can only wish you and your family the best in future. Congratulations!
After watching this whole video I finally realize how hard pregnancy actually is and how stressful and emotional it is for both parents in the situation. I’m so glad you guys were straight forward and didn’t sugar coat anything so that we can see how hard it is for everyone and how strong both parents have to be. I love you guys so much and you both are literally sooo amazing and are soooo strong! Can’t wait to meet little Babi, and I’m glad y’all are ok. Stop but I’m literally crying now😭🤍
Yeah
The way you guys were there for each other, the way you supported each other and your strength is worth a big applause. I’m so proud of you guys. Liana you are gonna be the best mom and Connor the greatest dad who will always be there for you. I love you guys so much and i hope for you guys to keep getting stronger and stronger by each day.
Love you guys so much❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I loved how supportive Conner was and it broke my heart when he starting crying, i was like nine days late, and idk how tramatic it was for my mum but it may have been for her. But i'm now in S1, (First year of Highschool) And quite Happy and Healthly! My life has been an emotinal rollarcoster but its been alright! Wish you bestest of life with Koazy!!
I had a very similar experience and I found it extremely difficult to talk about. You can request your birth notes, I read mine frequently during the first year. They can help you understand what happened, affirm your own memories and help to process the experience. My hospital also offered a birth debrief where the notes where fully explained minute by minute by the head midwife. I found that to be incredibly helpful. I also invested heavily in the idea of hypnobirthing and felt I was sold a pipe dream. You will heal physically and mentally, lean on your support network, vocalise your feelings often, cry all the tears. There will come a time when you can relay this story without having to relive the terror I'm sure you felt. Birth trauma is real, and a safe and healthy baby doesn't take away the trauma you've experienced. Sending lots of love and healing!
You are spot on I had a very traumatic birth too and with help and support you can talk about it and except what happened…
i hope she sees this
I wish I could award or highlight this comment. Liana, I hope you see this. I will be sending you good healing vibes. Congratulations on your beautiful baby. ❤️🩹♥️
I’m a twin, my mother had a similar story, however the hospital staff failed to identify the seriousness of the bleeding. I’m so thankful she is still here today, it’s actually her 50th bday! Be proud of yourself and enjoy life with your beautiful baby boy ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was so touching and the amount of times I got emotional I can't imagine what y'all were feeling. I'm so glad all three of you are still here and safe and healthy. The both of you are so unbelievably strong and so is your relationship I'm totally glad you could stick together through it all ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m new to your channel but I’m glad I found you! You two are such a sweet couple. It’s nice seeing a couple that can have fun with each other but very obviously truly care about each other. The fact you started a family is wonderful. I can already tell you three will be a genuinely happy family. I’ve been in this situation twice myself and omg pregnancy was totally fine the first two trimesters but that third one closer to the due date was okay but so painful. I remember that feeling of “ugh I love you tiny human but please evacuate my body so I can actually have ANY comfort at all” lol. I had a scheduled induction with my first because she was “small”, but I cancelled it due to the fact that I was uncomfortable with the idea of inducing labor on my physicians schedule. My daughter came on her own accord the very next day. So you know what? Birthing plans don’t always work out and ultimately the only thing that matters is BOTH of you being totally healthy. I will say this much, you two are already awesome parents. Congratulations on your sweet little guy!
My mum also lost a lot of blood during a c-section, and the doctors didn't handle it well at all they didnt listen to my mum one bit so i understand how scary it is and i'm so thankful to have her today. I am truly so unbelievably proud of you both for being so strong! Hope you are all doing great love you all ♥♥♥
Hi! Sorry! I was just wondering what they named their baby.. I guess I missed the announcement. Is it Babi? Idk I heard it a lot.
@@roxanestewart7195 babi means honey or something.
SHUTTTTT, DONT STRESS THE PPLS
@@sreelakshmi2546 I know. I meant that the only name I heard the child being called babi so I was wondering if anyone knows his name…
@@roxanestewart7195 he’s called Koazy
People tend to forget that birth is still insanely dangerous, even with all our medical advancements. I'm so glad you guys came out of this so well. Wishing happiness and health!
@@annabelle722 I'm not in the habit of lying to people.
I didn’t mean to offend you I meant it as a joke. I am pregnant in my second trimester so please don’t assume anything🤭
You both made me cry, you also had me on the edge of my seat seeing you guys go through this enormous, scary but wonderful journey together. So sure you're gonna make great and awesome parents and so happy for you guys and for your healthy baby and safe mum. Congratzz❤❤
You twos are so strong, I can't even say how amazing parents you are. Liana, you're an amazing mom, really the baby is so lucky that ur his mama. Connor, you did so well doing what you could for make Liana feels better. You two are perfect together and I can see how happy your family is gonna be ❤
As soon as Lianna started talking about how she thought she was gonna die but that’s okay because baby is safe and is with Connor, honestly I teared up so much, what she said really got to me ❤️. You know that feeling you just want to hug someone and just congratulate them and just tell them how brave they are, that’s all I felt watching this. The clip where you met baby boy was just so beautiful✨❤️. I’m so happy for you both and I know you shall both be brilliant parents, baby boy is so lucky!
Lots of love💕💕
Omg time
Same 🥹😭🥺
I did the exact same 😭❤️