HOW TO : BE HAPPY SINGLE! Loneliness, Comparison, and more!
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- čas přidán 13. 10. 2021
- Today we talk about how to be happy single/enjoy being single! We talk about how to stop feeling lonely, sad, and how to stop comparing. Let' talk in the comments!
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I'm happier when I'm single. When I'm in a relationship, I always lose myself and stop doing the things that bring me peace and joy.
Felt this comment on a whole deep level. 💯🙌
Same girl
Same girl
Amen to that!
Same
I don’t mind being either single or taken. I do like my peace alone,however, I like to be with someone that doesn’t try to belittle or betrayal me.
FACTS EXACTLY and we can GROW Together It Doesn't Even have to Be a Relationship Right Off I Want a BOND and Friendship Before Anything I Do I Adore My PEACE Me Time All that but I still want a Strong Bond with Someone us being COOL getting to know each other before Moving Forward
YES
Well said!
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That part✨🤍
happier when im single. i feel like im able to give full attention to myself. focus on becoming better. i always disliked having to share love, care, and focus with a man.
i agree, but do you see yourself being in a long term relationship in the future though?
@@fefe5908 yes ofc. i just dont see myself getting into one rn. i wanna grow that full relationship with myself first
@@Juliana-hh8rj definitely agree
I'm happy being single. I'm 18 and I've never been in a relationship. I know that God is seperating me for a reason, so he can work on me, so when it's time for the right guy to step into my life, God will show me himself. My validation is not from men, but it's from God. Having a relationship with Jesus, is the best thing that has happened to me, and I'm glad that I don't seek validation from people.
Love this 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@sashakay695 Thanks. I hope it inspires you and other people. Take care and God bless you.
amennnn. literals meeee. Im 18 and I never been in a relationship simply bc im waiting on Gods timing. when u know Gods love, a relationship with another person is secondary
This is so good! Keep following the Lord with all of your heart!
crazy but yes is true👏👍 and possibel! i think respect is very important but much humans dont have it
I swear your timing be perfect with these videos 😭 🙌🏽
i stg she doesnt even KNOWW 😭
Lol literally broke up with him today 😭👍
My FBI agent told her to help a girl out 😆
YESSSSS
Lmfao they really doo
Being single has just been so amazing girll😭🥺. Been single for about 2+ years and I don't think I'm ready to give all this up just yet. I personally think I'm not ready for a relationship I still need to work through some things I still need to learn more about myself. I love being alone, I love not reporting anything to anyone. I can literally go anywhere I want without checking in
Fact that I'll one day get married and share my room with someone for the rest of my life is just insane and it drives me to enjoy my room, my space and me time more. Ever since I found me it's been really hard letting someone ruin this good thing I have with myself
I bought my own flowers and it made me feel happy
I'm ready for a new relationship. Long periods of alone time can be aggravating. I don't want to live alone every time my parents go out of town without me. I'm actively looking for more female friends.
This video came at the perfect time for me.I've struggled with this for a while. I realized that the reason I was unhappy was because I would compare myself to others; when I shouldn't. Everyone is different and has a different story. Focus on what makes you great!
I've also realized that in order to even attract the right person that it has to be the right time in your life for you to even recognize it and accept it.
I needed this after having a meltdown due to this being my 8th year of being single 😔
@@goddessof1995 I am so glad that you saw the comment! Having your feelings about this is normal. Feel your feeling don’t allow them to control you. Me & my friend talk more about singleness on my CZcams channel. I hope it impacts you! ☺️🫶🏾💕 STAY BLESSED STAY BEAUTIFUL 🤍✨💕
I'm 23 recently got out of college and have never dated or been in a relationship before and I actually don't feel bad about it. I'm happy right now and I'm waiting til I get to where I wanna be at in life to start dating. Some people think it's a bad thing that I'm 23 and never been in a relationship before but I don't let social media fool me. I also don't always need people to go out with everywhere I go.
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I'm almost 40 and It would be nice to actually have someone to go out with. I've been alone pretty much my whole life. I'm thinking really dark thoughts lately.
@@s-wo8781 switch it into positive thoughts! Don't let society pressure you
@@s-wo8781 you’ll be aight eat some ice cream buy a dog or cat
@@redsavage2141 Ice-cream doesn't do shit. I don't want a dog and I hate cats. Why are people so insensitive to my feelings?
At first, I was uncomfortable with being single but then I stayed single for about 2 years and I realized it was really needed to get to know myself. Now I’m in a relationship and I’m more matured emotionally. Everyone needs to take out time to be single, cuz it’s an eye opener
All thanks to dr onyekwe who help me restore back my relationship
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I feel like I’m more happier when I’m single because it gives me time to focus on myself and I feel less stressful
You can miss something and not want it back 💖
Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
Preachhhh!!! “ You don’t have to be of use of somebody else to be valuable. You’re valuable because you’re you. “🖤‼️
I prefer being single. I love it and seeing couples don’t even make me sad anymore or want that lmao I just be skipping past that shit 😂😂
You so cap
Me too
Same some ppl been in relationship for years that they don't know how to be by themselves anymore
I have a fear of being lonely when single and attach my value to a partner. I decided to be single after careful thought and I’m so excited to date myself and get to know what I love and find value within myself!
Research shows women enjoy singlehood more than men.
Being single for 6 1/2 years (since I was 16) has been difficult for me. In the back of my mind, I always think I wish I had someone and I feel like I'm not good enough for a guy. Dealt with so many boy drama throughout the years and its tiring. Ik there's someone out there for me who wants to be with me and my time will come. It's best to focus on me and not worry bout a boy and/or a relationship. The time will come when I'm ready
Yes same here 19 years singel. I have never been in any real relationship. Never had a boyfriend or something. I hope I can find someone who truly loves me
I’m happier when I’m single, I focus more on building my life’s foundation
I’ve been single for 5 years and honestly it sucks. I’m always mastering thy self, that will never end. I want companionship because I have been alone for awhile. I want a lifelong partner, it’s fulfilling to share life with that one. How much dating and learning myself do I need to do??
im here because i LOVE being single, i can do what i want, i don’t have to worry about nobody getting jealous and or cheat on me, nor i don’t feel lonely when i see couples i be happy for them and etc. you came up on my recommendation and boom you earned ur self a subbie ! thank you so much for this💙
I’m happy when I’m alone because I like myself and I treat myself very well. But I’m also happy when I’m in the right relationship because I like sharing my success with my partner, I like to have an extra reason to wake up in the morning, I like loving and showing my love for others.
I like how you described loneliness. It also reminded me that no one can make me feel a certain way. I am in control of how I feel :)
I'm getting better at realizing that, I've been single 10 years, some of it by choice, and some because of my sexuality, I keep to myself, so the loneliness and depression is overwhelming at times
i don’t mind being single i think it just hits at night when i feel lonely and when my family continue to ask when i’ll get a boyfriend and things like that. but your videos always bring me comfort and leave within myself and you help me remember that i’m okay alone and still a baddie. love youuu❤️
What about when you’ve never been in a relationship and you wanna be in one because you’ve never experienced one??
Sameee
Yeah, it really hits me hard especially being a nerd and the stereotype that comes with it. I doubt many people who watch her videos are into things like video games, comics, anime, Yugioh, and cosplay, but for anyone that is we know all too well about the stigmas and stereotypes of nerdy men dating. I feel like our own community perpetuates the toxicity of it the most. Average people just seem not to pay us any attention, but our own community makes virgin and socially awkward jokes all the time.
YES THE WAY I SCREAMED OF EXCITEMENT
HI BABY!
@@TatyCokley I’m gonna cry you actually replied 😭😭😭😭 HIIII my inspiration 🛐
@@TatyCokley taty can you answer my DM’s
I love being single, I get like an “ick” whenever I get into a relationship or something similar. Besides I get emotional support and joy from all of my friends and we have tons of fun together so it’s chill. :)
I love her videos so much, she honestly reminds me of my worth and keeps me going with self growth. Also calls me out on things I keep tryna ignore ✋🏼💀 Without her I wouldn’t be so aware of how great things can truly be
I realized that i depended my value on how attractive I am to a man. I changed myself and changed who i was. It broke me inside, however, I started healing months ago and I realized I went into my journey of self-love at first with the mindset of wanting to change who i am for a man. Its crazy because Im now realizing this and I have never felt so free and relieved to know that it is not my fault men weren’t attracted to me but rather how i acted based of off insecurities. i have so much to offer as a woman and you helped me realize this. Love ya 💕💕
This is something that I've been struggling with recently. My boyfriend moved away last year and we had to break up so this year I have a crush on another guy but I feel like I'm trying to convince myself that I like him just because I can't handle being single. This video is exactly what I needed, thank you so much!!
Been single my whole life so I accept it
Taty's notification gives me life 🥰🥰
YOU give me life ❤️
@@TatyCokley ur my idol
This had to be the most REALEST girl talk video I’ve seen..period and I love taty. But this right here…GOLD✨🏆✨
I've never clicked so fast! Definitely excited for this video and much needed❤💯
I love Tatys energy. You always seem ready for every challenge and its inspiring.
I'm tired of feeling as though I need to be in a relationship because I want to be loved. I'm tired of feeling lonely so if I can learn how to be happy being by myself ☺️
Hey girlll love your videos your advices has helped through a lot and helped me to be more confident
Yooo I just got out of a rlly toxic relationship… you hit the nail on the head taty when you said that they don’t appreciate you and then you feel less valuable thank you sooo much🙏🏽
You are so wise young lady. Very proud of the work you have done and the positivity you are sharing with other women.
This really came at the perfect time and was so needed!! You put everything so perfectly and clearly. Thank you so much for this Taty xx
You're so beautiful. Thank you taty for spending some time with us. ❤️
I love how you teach us without belittling us. U feel a lot times ppl are embarrassed to say they want a relationship bc for whatever reason that’s deemed “desperate” but ur not giving that vibe at all nd it makes ppl more inclined to listen
Being single makes room for a person to learn more about themselves. 🙏 There is more clarity around who you are and leaning into enjoying your own company. It can be easy to lose sight of what you really want, and who you truly are, when bouncing from relationship to relationship. 😬 Being single gives you the space to really know your desires.❤️
Great content Taty, I wish you a lot of success with the channel and happy life. ❤️
But I've known myself since I was 10 and I'm almost 40. Damn, I should've at least had a kiss by now.
All this talk about getting to know yourself! Marriage is not only just given to those who "successfully know themselves". If it was we would have stable, God centered marriages in our churches and we'd see the love of Jesus poured out everywhere! Most Christian marriages these days are carnal and worldly, with porn and abuse hitting in the 70% range. Please married people: SPARE ME YOUR PLATITUDES!
Taty! You are an angel. I so appreciate how down to earth you are (even if you have to be brutally honest sometimes lol). You are just so wise and smart and amazing! I love to see women empowering women
I love how she talks and how confident she is with her words 😍
Message him on WhatsApp he can help you out
Inbox him on WhatsApp
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Tati everything you said is so true. Love how you explain things working on yourself and knowing your worth. Do important in life but what if u really never had a boyfriend since forever. How to not feel lonely when everyone around is in couple. It's not easy its very hard but u push through. It's a pain that no one can really understand until they are in your shoes. But turn the negative into positive.
Girl you be speaking my mind, I live for your videos❤️
thank you so much for this girl, I really needed it🥺💕
Was at your insta and commented I prefer being single..then my notification is about you talking about being happy while you single and am like...guuurll!! I just love you 🔥💯
Yo Taty you really got me thinking a lot. Im thinking about my whole past to answer those questions. But the you helped. You dont know how bad I needed this
The point is you are sooo on point🙌 needed to hear this!
it depends because in my past relationships I've been with toxic ppl and it causes me to feel more stress compared to being single but at the same time I could be much happier in a relationship if it was with someone that is actually a good person
Exactly
These are all great points!! This person is spot on about these things
Realist thing I have heard in a very long time. Thank you, I needed to see this
I’ve always felt resentful, sad, and lonely every time I see couples. I’ve already been going out to places by myself like the movies, the mall, so I enjoy my company and know myself. But I still feel lonely and depressed.
@Taty Your videos are definitely on point and on time always!! I’m talking to a guy that has really good qualities but I’m scared I’ll mess it up because I’m so anxious for a relationship!! Lol sometimes we need to chill! SIDE NOTE: You are always so well spoken and articulate what are some way you keep your mind sharp and illustrate your words so well ? Some public speaking tips or a video on this will help so much! Love you 💕💕💕
I wish I had a friend like you to talk to . I need this girl talk more often. Appreciate this so much .
I needed this ✨
Gurl I needed this vid omg thank you 😊😭🎀
Girl you always boost my confidence luv u 😍
Girl you’re always on time I needed this 🥰
I think I’m happier when I’m single because sometimes relationships are to complicated to where a point you think about your partner more than yourself and there’s all kinds of stress. Although it is nice to be in a relationship and feel the love around your partner. Which ngl you miss that when your single(the affection part)
I NEEDED THIS RIGHT NOW OMG! Thank you, Taty! 💘
I love these conversations! 🤍 but you like so good! 🥰
I love you Taty 😌
Thank you Taty you always make me feel better!!
Your energy is unmatched❤
This is gold! Thank you 🙏🏻🤍✨
loveeeee the video, it’s SO SO helpful, plus Taty always lookin fly af 😩😩😩
When you're happy within is the most beautiful feeling in the world😊. And your friendships /& relationships benefits👌
The queen herself 🥰🥺 thanks for this!!
10/10 this video was all gems 😭👏🏾. Also, you look GORGEOUS 😍😍😍 as usual.
Taty you always on point with these typa videos i swear and you always seem to [post the exact issues I'm currently struggling with, I'm in my late 20s as in almost 30 and i have never been in a relationship at all like call someone my boyfriend or vice versa nothing , honestly i have given up on love or that i will ever be in a relationship, i just don't think there is someone out there for me but ja thanks for speaking on this topic. ily🤗
I am literally taking your advice bc i really don't wanna be like sad being single. Thank you for being my role model😘❤i love you bae
1st the outfit is bomb baby blue is your color
2nd the message is ✨💯
I really needed this reminder💙
Helps a lot I was thinking it also applies to wanting friends cause you should be comfortable on your own before getting to know anyone
Thank you for this. I really needed to hear this.
i literally screamed when i saw this because i needed it omg
I just found you and i mean....youre thr mother and sister i never had in real life. You dont know how much this means.lots of love to you❤
Thank you so much for making this video, my boyfriend just broke up with me today, and I was single for like 8 months before him, but the thing is... I was happier single, and more positive and felt better about myself
girl you spitting fACTS this whole video. found you through dr. daf. love your videos so far!
yes this was so good! i’m happy single or in a relationship lol it’s nice to have someone but i do love having my own space too.
I feel like if your taken there is always someone there to understand you and to make u feel loved and happy they give u this unique feeling
I’ve never been in relationship or dating, but I do desire a happy & healthy husband and family although I am comfortable alone(singleness won’t last much longer tho). I’m 22 and still learning to feel happy for others in relationships because I know it will come soon 💍💖
Same here sis 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👌🏽 this is the best thing to do. By doing so you will avoid being envious or jealous or this desire become an obsession:) As a religious person I'm trusting God that he will respond the desire of my hearts even I don't know when it would happen. I'm sure that I would happen 😃 Period 👌🏽
Patience is the key 😃😃😃
@@tejudiakanua6739 periodddd
Same here!
I just made a video on this and now there's videos EVERYWHERE LOL!!!! Being single is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I feel more emotionally clear, I'm not so distracted from my goals and ambitions. I feel MORE unhappy with other people in my life! I love being alone! I don't even have any friends or anything, all I need is my mom and my animals. There is nothing you can't do for yourself, that some other guy did before. Take yourself out! I do it all the time!
I'm happier being in a relationship because I am getting all the love and attention I need from one person on a consistent basis. I recieved love and respect from them which is something I've always wanted but never had when I was single.
GIRL THE WAY THIS SPOKE TO MY SOUL! 💞
Tatis videos are the therapy I need 🙏🏽
Taatyyyy it’s been too long but I’m glad you posted now❤️❤️
I have never needed this video so much in my life...
I always watch your videos when I’m going through it 😂 i feel so lonely in my relationship it’s so toxic and I’ve been having so many mental breakdowns and im just ready to be single even if I feel more alone this isn’t for me anymore it’s draining me apart 🥺
This girl is amazing with her words 😭💞
The loneliness topic is what I needed to hear 💀😭😂🥺💖 thank you for this 🥺
This is free therapy! And you’re so gorgeous!!
Amen I enjoyed this video I promise God knew I needed this video so we'll spoken I love you 💕 you blessed me
Thanks girl, I really needed this
This video is good timing... rn. I love love her videos.
Yeeeeeee!!!! So excited.. love u taty ❤
I literally get so happy everytime i see that she posted a new video lol♥️
I really enjoy your videos they help me out alot ❤
I don't mind always being alone I'm 31 years old and live with my parents
Living with my parents makes me feel so unsuccessful and that my self worth comes through them people don't see a woman with a good personality they see the daughter of the parents or a little girl
Tell your friends to tell their friends to come and subscribe coz Taty is serving us😭❤enjoyed this
I prefer being taken,I love the co-dependancy in alot of different situations...I love how after every relationship relationship learn something new about myself and how i handle certain situations,wether he's going through something and I put myself in his shoes or it's deadass something I go through or help him get through as a girlfriend ...but being single was also essential for me to learn myself and actually deal with alot of traumas that I brushed over or put to the back of my head and just jumped into a new relationship everytime i got hurt...but yeah