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- A woman is convinced her husband is waking up from his 14 year coma when his eyes open one day, despite his brain showing no signs of activity.
From New Amsterdam Season 2 Episode 12 '14 Years, 2 Months, 8 Days' - Sharpe has an important realization that will affect her career; Max and Reynolds take on uncharted waters when a young patient comes to New Amsterdam with symptoms of a heart attack.
New Amsterdam (2018) After becoming the medical director of one of the United States's oldest public hospitals, Dr Max Goodwin sets out to reform the institution's neglected and outdated facilities to treat the patients.
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The son calling this a "never-ending wake" sounds like torture
It is like my grandma and her advanced dementia; she isn't grandma anymore.
Last year, my dad died after just over 2 months in a coma, and that’s exactly what it was like. A never-ending wake, waiting for the doctors to call with news every day, always hoping in vane, waiting for the final call and fearing it more than anything at the same time. Getting the call that he died actually brought some relief after all that time. Hoping and waiting is so hard, so tiring, so so scary.
@@smartie489 I am so sorry for you and your family. His soul is a peace. Prayers for all of you.
@@badateverything5392 my mom has dementia and I know what is coming and I am scared.
@@user-qo8ko5sx3e Sorry to hear that. What type of dementia does she have. Some of the more common types have a lot more treatment options that could buy your mother more time as herself. 🤍
My sister worked with coma patients and the families would get so hopeful when their loved one’s hand would twitch or their face would move briefly. It was saddening for her to have to know that the patient wasn’t actually going to get out of the coma. Sometimes it just crushed her inside. She felt for the families but she just wished they’d accept the truth.
Doctors took a woman off life-support after more than 20 years. Instead of dying, she came out of the coma. Everyone had given up, but the patient.
@@danyellerobinson5940: Unfortunately, that is very rare.
@@pamelaj.betz-baron2420 Indeed, and most are taken off life support long before 20 years. Insurance doesn't usually cover such prolonged care. A family friend came out of her coma fairly soon, she is in a full care facility. She has little control over her body, but she is still able to communicate and fully aware.
Comas are extremely dependent on causes it, it also can be used to induce such symptoms. All medications are on EXACT timestamp and cannot adapt to the organs if being left for more than a day. Hospitals hate it, but are forced to worked what they're given.
It’s possible, you’d hang on to hope too if it was your loved one. At least, if you have any compassion and understanding at all.
My dad was in a coma after he had a heart attack. It happened July 3rd. On July 7th we let him go. He kept moving and stuff because he was having seizures and we kept hoping he would wake up. He made us promise to not leave him on life support. So we let him go. It was the hardest thing. I was 14. I held his hand. We donated his organs. He saved 5 people and improved a lot more from tissue and muscles and so on. It was so so hard.
Good call, he would be proud of your courage.
The actor who played a doctor is bollywood superstar anupam kher ....i'm very surprise...😊
not be surprised because this first English show done by him
He’s a great actor, hope to see him more Hollywood productions
This must be a difficult situation. As a wife, you must constantly ponder, what if the doctor is wrong, what if my husband did show signs of waking up and I just ignored him and treated him like he was already gone?
In my country, doctors are almost always wrong
@@theflashgirl2057Sure they are. I'm sure you're the expert.. while not being a doctor or going to medical school and all
Doctors make studies about the pacient...if that man had an accident his brain is for sure very damaged and many nerves destroyed or desconnected...
This is something couples must talk about. My partner knows my wishes and I know his. It’s important for everyone involved.
Also organ donation. I would hate for my body to be wasted while a human being who needs a heart/kidney, lungs, etc, to die because I didn’t make myself clear…….
My husband, children (all adults, now) all know my wishes and we know one another's too. It was also SO helpful to know my parent's wishes when their times came.
"at this point we're all making involuntary movements" ...I'm sorry but that cracked me up 😂😂😂
"He's all I have left"
Except her kids and grandchildren.
Every relationship needs this talk, my bf wants me to do everything to keep him alive
I'm sure he does 🙄
I don't
Girl, he’s your BF, he better put a ring on it to make those sorts of demands. Will he fight for you like this as his girlfriend?
Strange
He wants to live?
How strange
NOT
I would NEVER want to be kept alive by machines, my husband knows this. No brain activity, no way to breathe on my own, let me go.
I remember watching a documentary about this coma rehabilitation center in Denmark.
Where they were doing exercises and such, to keep the connection between body and brain active.
And at least 80% woke up, and started walking around (they reminded more of zombies than humans at that point) but they woke up.
We induse coma on patients to heal them, and I truly believe that it's the bodies way of self healing.
Just like when we get sick, we sleep more, as sleeping is resting, and the less energy we use on being active, the more energy the body can use for repair.
The problem comes when the coma lasts too long, so they lose muscle mass and I guess reality.
You also have locked in syndrome, which can easily be misunderstood as a coma.
Err...I mean, not to knock that documentary, but I'm not sure that's the most scientifically robust perspective on the subject. If 80% of those patients did wake up, then that's likely a result of only people who were good candidates for rehabilitation going to the centre.
Comas are not a means of healing. From an evolutionary perspective, almost all individuals who fell into a deep coma would have died. There are neurologists who spend their entire lives studying coma patients and understanding the causes and outcomes of their conditions. Second guessing that on the basis of hope is probably not doing anybody any favours.
A coma when it happens naturally is always the result of brain injury; that's never a good thing nor is it the body repairing itself in the same way a scrape might get itchy and scab over.
And medically induced comas are controlled and can be instantly reversed, it's not quite the same thing. You can compare it as a medically induced coma being like an athelete swimming in a pool, and a natural injury-induced coma is like an athlete being thrown into the middle of the ocean.
presumably only likely awakeners are sent to that clinic and undoubtedly it's hugely expensive
I will definitely have a conversation with my future husband and family to what I want if it came down to my death decision. I would never want to be stuck in a coma for over a decade, making my family suffer like this. The mother is the one that should have went to her kids, asking if she can be a part of their lives since she is the one who left their lives, and never getting to know her grandkids, the lives her kids have now. Thanks for uploading.
I knew a young man who had often visited my home with his friends. One day he had a heart attack and despite his mothers CPR he went into what they called a 'no brain activity'. Friends surrounded him to say goodbye as they were going to take him off life support. He awoke and said hello and lived another six months. I wonder how many people are shut down and chopped up who were not in fact 'dead' !
That is a very rare occurrence.
@@pamelaj.betz-baron2420 It seems not so much. I watched a video of a hospital doctor who said that the tests done to conclude brain death before organ harvesting were not up to date and should be changed as people who could have awoken have been ended. She said that the reason was the organ transplant system that didn't encourage change for obvious reasons.
@@TheFiown Got the link for that video? I'd like to watch it.
@@pamelaj.betz-baron2420 I fairly doubt that it still exists, these things usually are taken down. It was some time ago, maybe three years and took place in the US.
@@TheFiown and this is never talked about
I yell this from the rooftops but ppl just want to keep cutting up their not dead loved ones
It’s sickening
I worked in a retail store where a man collapsed when his heart stopped. We called a code white on the intercom, and off-duty paramedics were in the store and did CPR. The ambulance was nearby, and they worked for 30 minutes to get him stable enough to travel. This was a Thursday, late Satuday they took him off life support, Monday he went home with no heart damage. He had to have a pacemaker put in. I don't know their criteria to take him off life support.
This happened to my son one year ago. Long story short- drs did not expect him to survive, let alone not have brain damage from lack of oxygen. He had a pacemaker + a defibrillator put in. He is doing great!
I remember when a friend of mine who was in a coma for months opened his eyes. We all thought he was gonna wake up and get better and be back to his old self. Fast forward 5 years and he's a vegetable and I doubt that's ever changing. Fate isn't kind.
My sister was in a coma. They stopped feeding her and it was horrific. She didn’t die for two weeks. Can you imagine starving for two weeks. Not a couple of days
So sorry. We had to remove my husband's feeding tube because his cancer had progressed to the point that he could no longer process the food. He was completely aware of what was happening. He only lived about 6 days and the last two he was gone tho his heart still beat and he still breathed. Everyone has a different (awful) experience.
Hey man, if it makes you feel any better, as someone who's studying nursing, your sister didn't feel a thing. Doctors usually only do that if the person's brain is no longer functional or they use medications to block hunger signals if necessary. It sounds horrible but I promise you it's not. May your sister rest in peace Katie, I hope this comment brings you some comfort.
she absolutely didn’t feel it at least
"He's all I have left."
You willingly gave up on your kids and grandkids. You don't have to sacrifice knowing your children and their children to stay by your comatose husband's side; you can do both. But don't exchange your children for your husband's bedside and then say he's all you have left.
I was kind of under the impression that the kids came to terms with the idea that their father was never going to come out of it and wanted to move past this point while the mother/wife became so engrossed with the idea that he might still be in there that she wants to convince her children of the same idea and they had no interest in hearing this again.
It’s all well and good everyone on here saying “Oh, I wouldn’t want to be like this” or “I’d let my loved one peacefully slip away” but unless you have actually been in this f***ing horrendous situation you have no idea what you would want…..
Been there, done that. People need to start talking about uncomfortable things and stop pretending the whole world is roses and unicorn shits.
Yeah, I have been there and I would turn everything off all over again not matter how bad it hurts. They gave him a sedative and pain meds, let us say goodbye, turned off his pacemaker and breathing tube, it was over in seconds. Keeping somebody here on machines because I can't let go, would be a me problem. You have to love them more than yourself to let them go.
@@matthewoconnor5690 totally agree
Knowing what you want is completely different from what you will do, I know what you mean, because I think if I was in these sorts of situations I know what I would want, but in situations like that that are so stressful that's probably not going to be the decision I make, when people are in such high stress situations they end up not doing what they said they were going to do or what they trained to do, that's why schools have drills to train you on what to do in high stress situations because most of the time your brain is going to go into fight or flight mode and you won't be able to think rationally.
uh no nobody would want to live like him ever and making someone do that would be cruel
My sister's doctor recommended unplugging her. She wound up waking up on her own. It's a difficult situation
I would never subject a person I love to this kind of torture
I hope I’m sounding insensitive or anything, but I don’t think that’s technically a person anymore. A person and a body are not the same thing.
If a doctor insists that a person in a vagatative coma will not suffer when starved to death, it's actually going to make it harder to convince me that staying on the feeding tube is torture.
I hate my so-called autocorrect. *vegatative
I feel for this lady. It’s hard to let go and when you do, a piece of your heart goes too.
I watched a similar situation with my grandparents, my grandmother never gave up but some of my grandfathers kids did and to their surprise he did come back to us, and he remembered hearing some conversations.
This is what true love looks like this act right there that it's what it's all about
Act of what
This isn't true love or an act of true love. Yes, she undoubtedly loves him, but love is also being able to let him go. The love they shared doesn't go away after someone dies. It is almost selfish to keep him alive because she is unable to let go. No one should have to live like that. Not to mention her children and how this affects them. Focusing so much energy on her husband who's not really there and forgetting the rest of her family
@@CarolineGodseycarolinagurlie Exactly 💯
She neglected her kids and I think if her husband was a good person then he would have wanted his kids and wife to live a good life
The wife didn't do that
If you’ve never been in this situation. You can’t truly judge.
@@mel9662 I watched my grandmother be on life support and then be taken off of it. I watched my mother make that decision, knowing that the machines were the only thing keeping her alive. For three days I was in my grandmother's room after they took her off life support waiting for her to pass. Three days of seeing the involuntary movements, hoping there might be some miracle. Those three days were torture. I couldn't imagine 14 years.
Such a profound message
5:13 -- That tree-with-the-faces mural seems too creepy for a hospital wall.
Accepting the truth is one of the hardest lessons in life, especially after putting all the hopes up and believing in miracles. I always believe that moving on is a brave step that not everyone could make it.
The wife has been living in anticipatory grief for 14 years. A spouse is the only one that can relate to this.
I loved this character in the show, I miss him. I think they did the right thing.
So true ❤
Their is such a thing as a condition called locked in which the person can hear everything just can’t move
I had a very good friend who's brother was in a coma for a year. They said he would never wake up, it took a year but he woke up. Sadly he did not change the lifestyle that got him there and he died about a year after, while making breakfast for his son. Cruel world...
This is so sad. Grieving isn’t easy and when you loose someone close to you, you don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it and carry on with life. I lost my fiancé 8 years ago to complications that arose from non Hodgkin’s lymphoma. I’ll never forget him but I’m glad he’s no longer in pain. It’s the worst kind of pain imaginable watching someone you love die in front of you. Like this woman In the show, she isn’t ready to say goodbye
I know how it is to say goodbye. By the time we had to make that choice, she wasn't there anymore. I held her hand as the machines were shut off, and waited. Watching her heartbeat tick down lower and lower until nothing.
When we went through something similar in December, three neurologists treated us like crap for wanting to understand the science behind what was happening, and all 3 told us to pull the plug without any context, without explaining why. They seemed very offended that we would want to understand before following their orders. Unfortunately, I rarely meet doctors that truly behave compassionately. I can think of maybe 5-10% of doctors that cared in all my years of being chronically ill and having two kids with special needs. I enjoy these medical dramas, but this vid just touched a nerve after the hellish week of her seizures and not knowing what was going on before she passed.
My dad died of cancer as well and I can’t take my mind off of it
I'm hurt! She loves that man! And I understand her actions!😢😢😢 I would keep him alive too....
I’ve heard of patients that were diagnosed comatose only to find out they had locked-in syndrome. How many get mis-diagnosed.
House M.D. and Chicago Med both covered locked-in syndrome.
After my family passed away I ended up alone without anyone because my brother doesn't want me in his life and I don't know why
Sending you hugs & comfort🤗💗🙏🕊️
I guess all you can do is ask him.
Hugs and love May God console you
((HUGS))
Time to find a friend or two, don't let your brother's choice decide your life.
This is just so painful to watch.
I always tell my family that if I'm ever in a comatose situation with no chance or coming out of it, I want them to let me go, pull the plug, or do whatever. I know my parents will try ang go against doctors diagnostic's, so in my Living Will, signed and validated, either a future spouse or my 2nd eldest brother will have a full saying in the decisions, which I've clearly told him what I want done. I even went as far as to make him smuggle me with my own pillow if necessary. LOL!
14 yrs in a hospital? Usually he would wind up in a second rate nursing home
Ive never knew any one in a coma to have opened eyes opening and closing his/her mouth and quote on quote pushing air out past vocal cords and making sounds esp at the momnent she was talking about removing the feeding tube
I had a cousin who was in a coma for over a decade. I had never seen anyone in a coma before. I thought they would look like they were sleeping. NOPE .her eyes were open and would move around. She also had body movements. Her parents would sit with her every day for hours at nursing home. Brushed her hair, took care if her. She was their only child. She was in a car accident. Her parents were hopeful she would come out of it. She never did.
Now…. I wonder how many MILLIONS of dollars 14 years of coma care is
This is why I told my mother that I know you love me. But if I'm in this state let me go.
Aberdeen,Uk. ❤
I would always wonder if they I made the right decision.
We had to pull my moms plug in 2015… it felt like freedom for her. Not bound to a bed, machines keeping her alive even though she wasn’t there… she’s not sick or in pain anymore. I miss her everyday.
@@sharonvalentine2373 Gosh, I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss ~ hugs & comfort to you & yours 🤗💗🙏🕊️
"He's my husband!" Yeah? And he's my Dad. You may have known him for a portion of your life, but i knew him my WHOLE life. Thats kinda how it felt for me when i told my mom that we needed to let my dad go since he suffered enough in life
I'm gonna sign something as soon as I can that says if ever in a coma, they will have to unplug me or take me off or out of everything that's keeping me alive, after 31 days. There is no way i am risking locked in syndrome for a longer time.
The son is so angry. Doesn’t he see his mother needs that hope, if not I’m scared of what else would happen to her.
the mother not being able to move on and enjoy life is mentally hurting her and is not healthy. Letting her cling onto a never improving situation will only hurt her worse in the long run.
she needs to not hang on to false hope
What about what he needs and his sister. They look like they were only teens when their father went into the coma. And she neglected them for 14 years.
The cost to keep him in a coma for that long would bankrupt you. Sorry, but at some point you have to say goodbye. It's the hardest decision but to watch someone decline or not improve is horrible. It was for us.
dude it was weird to see the actress who played Kathy Geiss on 30 Rock
House would have woke him up
That actress is so familiar.
Unfortunately love comes with a price. Everyone pays up eventually.
Hard to understand her after she kidnapped a girl in pd
This is exactly what my family is going trough. My brother is on a semi-vegetative state, he barely moves, is eyes are open, but he is not there and can't do anything...
She is ruining this family just like that woman, is all she thinks for almost 15 years...
It's horrible for me overcome depression and be over and over againg with the same fucking situation, I only ask God if he could take my brother, because not one Dr said he can overcome that state. The only thing he did for 15 years is suffering...I can't see him like that anymore.
My aunty made us promise not leave her on machines. When they took her off she opened and looked around the hole room looked At my grandmother took a huge breathe closed her eyes nd passed away 💔she had brown surgery organ failure due to cancer ☹️
0:14 her voice is so familiar to me?? has she been in any other tv shows or movies?
edit: just realised im thinking she kinda sounds like Winona Ryder lol 💀 not rlly but that line she sounded like it
3rd grade library teacher 😅
The Mayor in some of the Onion News Network skits, the judge in Better Call Saul when Jimmy pulls the fake defendant
Bra he’s not awake yet!!!
I tell you one thing, that women really did mean in sickness and health.
For me death is just a part of this sin broken world. So I will cry and then I just move on and get the grief over with and be done and then just look forward to heaven while I live the rest of my earthly life.
Do you have children?
@@Odd-Vegan-Singing-TFOL No but children are a blessing from the Lord though they are not for everyone. I would like to have a lot of children some day.
Did anyone noticed coma guy was swallowing his saliva and moving his jaw at 1:09
Dr. Kevor? Hmm.
She has children and grandchildren but he’s all she has left. I feel sorry for her but she’s being selfish
I really don't get why the last bit went the way it went. The mother was the one who pushed her kids aside as she was glued to her husband's hospital bed and she missed out on so much that she hurt her kids and grandkids. Why do her kids, the victims, have to reach out to the mother when the mother is supposed to be the one reaching out? This reeks of victim-blaming
I can see how you would feel that way. However she's a victim too. Reconciliation is a two way street.
@@mynaturalneeds I acknowledge that there are "takes two to tango" problems but this is not one of them. The mother is the one who ignored her kids and grandkids and her son and daughter moved on with their lives because she made her priorities clear to them. For 14 years, she focused too much on her husband and her kids paid the price
They're not bullies and more often than not, forgiveness is something you earn. The adult son and daughter always wanted their mother but the mother chose not to be a part of their lives. SHE is the one who is supposed to apologize,not her kids who did the mature thing and focus on their lives instead of obsessing over a loved one who was probably never going to come back
The mother may need support but she doesn't and shouldn't get out of the consequences of her actions just because she's sad; people like her don't get that
@@DragonGoddess18 The thing in this situation was that who should apologize and who shouldn't apologize was less important than reconciliation.
Maybe she is the one who is "supposed to" apologize. But what if she NEEDS them to be the ones to reach out to her? What if she doesn't have the emotional strength to be the one who reaches out?
We are in no position to judge her in any case.
@@DragonGoddess18 well, I guess it comes down to being right at the cost of being alone, or being forgiving & starting to heal together.
🤷🏻♀️
Wow, I wish *I* was wealthy enough to keep someone on life support for two decades in America. That's probably about the only argument I can think of against universal healthcare: there's too damn many people who refuse to let go even when facing financial ruin, I shudder to think what they'd do if you gave them a blank check.
Dying is better then coma 💀 some people don't understand that my father died too he was so sick can't even walk drink and then died one day it's good for him nothing else
You have to realize suffering is worst thing dying is more easier
How can he know? Technology.
Its the evil lady from Chicago PD 😅
Some of those movements are not involuntary
Since it is a fictional TV show the actor had to make those movements. It is not an easy thing for actors to realistically replicate.
Starving a patient to death is barbaric. I know it happens all the time. I've seen it. I would much rather be given an overdose of morphine, if it was me. More humane for everyone involved.
His SOUL is gone? Holy crap, that's a doctor?
We don't know what happens when the brain is fried beyond recognition but the heart continues to beat.
The son seemed heartless to me.
Why? For 14 years his mother has pretty much ignored him, his sister, his kids. Everyone who wasn't his comatose father. Plus instead of allowing her kids to properly grieve the death of their dad she has kept then on the edge of hope and grief.
Hes tired.
@@Shaphina everyone greeves in different ways
@@kassidygean Yes, but that doesn't make the son heartless. He's just done grieving but his mom won't let him be done. Though the problem is she ISN'T grieving.
I think it's resentment towards the mom. Seems like she spent the last 14 years hanging on to hope that her husband would recover and pushed the rest of her family aside. If your mom made you feel that way for 14 years, and can't pull herself away to enjoy being a grandma to your kids, you might feel some type of way too.
He's real. He's lost two parents and his family. He might of been helping financially too.
Beating heart is life. In the womb a heart beat is the first sight of life. You don't need more then a heart beat.
When a person breathe their last breath thats when the soul leaves.
Not true my dear, im sorry. The brain has to have activity to be alive. A heart can beat when hooked to machinery, alone.. is the heart by itself alive because its beating? No.. Heartbeat isnt life. And babies arent alive when their hearts develop, when their brain develops they are "alive", though unconcious until birth, sometimes after.
Brain dead would have to disagree with that statement.
@@snuffandstuff1423 A fetus is not unconscious until birth. When doctors perform in utero surgery, the fetus is put under a general anesthetic.