6 Things Every Christian Girl Needs to Know Before Getting Married
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- čas přidán 17. 04. 2017
- Looking back now, after 6 years of marriage, there are some specific things I wish I had worked harder on prior to getting married.
If you’re single right now and are hoping to get married some day, here are 6 things you definitely need to know.
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currently a bored Muslim girl watching this
AYE SAME🙌
Yo me too
I bet you agree with everything she says lol
@@Rolando_Cueva I am a muslim and no we don't :) stop hating
Islam is equality!
Rolando Cueva | no our religion is about peace. Our goal in life isn’t to work for our husbands. Please educate yourself before you you comment something disrespectful. Have a wonderful day love ❤️
All adults should have domestic skills, not just married women.
All adults should have accountability, not just men.
@@BalboaBaggins What is that supposed to mean?
@@BalboaBaggins All people do.
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@@BalboaBaggins pff
Women have
You can still be strong and independent and be selfless, I don't know how that line got blurred.
Good
Correct
I just want to point out that being independent, doesn't necessarily meen that you are selfish and only focussed on yourself. It means being able to look after youself. That's not the same as being selffocussed
I'm just replying so you can see how much likes you got. How did no one reply for 5 years?
@@afellowpotato 😅😅
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I agree with the part saying that your husband is NOT the main source of happiness/satisfaction. Yes, he is ONE of the reasons!! Not the only source
You are absolutely right! He has to contribute to your happiness, in many ways, and should be ONE of the main sources of your happiness, but nothing replaces God. I love Phil. 2, especially the first half describing Jesus selfless sacrifice, but my fav verse for relationships is Phil. 2: 3. I'm still single and I used it on my roommate, and he transformed from a very selfish self-centered person to being much more inclusive. Of course, all the time being prayerful as well.
You're lucky there's no dislike button anymore.
I wish it was still there
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As a married woman, she’s wrong af
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Before I got married,years before, I was kinda obsessed with marriage, learning how to be a good wife and I listened to so many sermons and I read a lot of christian books. My happiness was based on the person that would be my husband. And I got married,I have the most loving husband, and now I understand that he's not the source of my happiness. I think that even cristian books can mess you up, because you expect your husband to be the perfect christian and if he's not, you start comparing him with what you read. It's really a tricky thing to do, so be careful.
silvia magda
Thanks for the warning/advice.
As a single woman I'm intrigued of you ladies saying the man you marry is not the "source of your happiness" wowwww....thanks for the heads up.
Yes, true!
.-.
@@blessedbythebest1003 no one no matter your gender should be the sole course of your happiness. It’s an internal thing not something you can get externally
not gonna lie i was with her until she was like dOmEstIc skiLLz
foreal🥂
Is it bad to have domestic skills? That's honestly something everyone should have!
Paige Mitchell no it’s great and a nice thing to have but you shouldn’t HAVE to do anything unless you want to
@@paigemitchell7066 yes but she’s acting like she’s her husbands slave
@@hadley20 how so being a house wife is a slave🤔
But unity doesn't have to mean to give up your independence but more make compromises in my opinion. You can be independent and selfless at the same time! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, we always have to work on our selflessness anyways.
theshiputopia I agree
Pretty much every Christian book or source on marriage/relationships say that we shouldn't look to one person to fulfil us, that only God can fulfil us but...if you look at the creation story, the Garden of Eden. Everything was perfect. And yet God doesn't expect Adam's relationship with Himself to be sufficient, he sees that something is lacking, even though no sin had entered the world at that time and everything was beautiful and you would expect that everything, including man and God, to be in perfect unison. Surely if there was ever a time when a person didn't need anyone or anything other than God, it was in the Garden of Eden? And yet with just Adam, things weren't complete. I think that says a lot.
I get that people fail and human relationships aren't perfect and that they let us down sometimes. I get that God fulfils us but I think He also created us for relationships, and acknowledging that is OK and shouldn't be frowned on. You could be living on a tropical island and living in deep dependence and communion with God, but if you were all alone, you would still be lonely.
sawyerlovesfreckles I agree.
GREAT POINT
Yes,but when the woman comes into place to fulfill his so called loneliness,look what happens.
Love this!!
Loved this! Perfect explanation!
my husband will be doing 50/50 of house keeping. I want children, so it’ll be 50/50 taking care of them as well. He can work, but I’ll be working too. I’ll be a lawyer, and I won’t be some stay at home mom. If that’s right for you, to stay home and take care of the kids and house, then great. But for me, I’ll be a strong, independent, woman who loves her husband, kids, AND work. ✨
Both working parents will only create unloved children when you both did it starting from when they're still so young. One got to stay at home.
@@salsabilaf.372 that's your opinion
Men need to help out with the household stuff too btw!!!!! Women work these days just like men!!!!! Its a team effort as u said. ;) oh and since when girls dream so hard on getting married?! Tell girls have bigger dream than marriage. Marriage YES but have career aspirations!
Gabrielle Angel-Valentine my ‘career’ aspirations are to be the best stay at home mum I can be ❤️
Just like not ALL woman have to dream of marriage, not ALL women have to dream of career aspirations. Some women want to be wives and mothers and there's nothing wrong with that. Take your own advice.
@Judihatemmoharram Judihatemmoharram of course I could have a daughter grow up to be a career woman.... I'm quite aware of the current year.
Edit: i read that back and it reads quite sharp but I don't intend to come across as rude ❤️
@@toni5543 Lord bless you and your family!
Much Respect and ❤️ in the SPIRIT!
@@user-ek2ms4om7p thank you! Hope you are well ❤️
“God is the only source of lasting fulfillment”
Girl has never had a pint of Ben and Jerry’s, a bottle of wine, or slept with her *husband*
Great video ❤️ the one I loved the most is “working on yourself and your relationship with with others” very important.
I feel fulfilled when I cuddle kittens.
Can you please do a video on domestic skills/managing your time/running efficiently?! I really need this!!
So encouraged! Thank you 😍 I'm watching this 5 days before my Wedding day and I wish I watched a year ago Lols
Oh my gosh, how have I never found your channel before?! I'm going to binge watch all your videos right now
Throughout college I went through a formation program that strove to teach & encourage how to live a radical christian lifestyle, both in college and as a post-grad. Among the many things I was taught & encouraged to grow in, all 6 if your points were mentioned at somepoint throughout my time in the program (probably in a discernment talk). While I greatly appreciated the fruits of this program, I often felt sad for the numerous other young men & women who didn't have the opportunity to hear the same message and coming across your channel today just gave me so much encouragement and hope. Keep it up!!!
Love how most ppl in the comments don't even like them
You should know that spiritual abuse happens and you need to make sure you know the person you are marrying can and could be an abuser in disguise. The number one time domestic violence happens is on the wedding night! Domestic Violence includes physical, emotional, psychological, verbal and SPIRITUAL abuse. There are men and women who use scripture, coercion and control and demanding to abuse the spouse or children. These are all great points, but the 4th point need to be careful of men who use the Bible to demand control from their wife. Please understand Boundaries are important. Know your love languages and if you have fears of getting married, but can’t put your finger on it, the Holy Spirit is telling you something. Please be careful of abuse. You never think it can happen to you, but it could. Lord willing it doesn’t and I want to make sure women and young ladies realize that there are men in the church, who use abuse in a spiritual way. Be careful.
This was such a nice video to watch!Thank for making it, I'm glad I found your channel!
i love this channel as it is so helpful and answers all my questions! i just wish it was also in podcast form as i could listen to it when traveling when there is no wifi
I’m muslim
I agree about selflessness and sacrificial hearts... but, domestic skills? I know they would help, but I think guys should not just help but really do part of housework! And if the husband is better at cooking it can be his job! I come from Asia, I know that would be very difficult to be true in my future marriage if I marry a fellow Korean... but I don't think women should take the whole responsibility of house management, budgeting, cooking, cleaning, while giving up her career. In my country, it's almost impossible to do both... MEN SHOULD NOT JUST HELP BUT BE PART OF HOUSEWORK!
annabelle7123 yes exactly what i believe :)
YES
The point I'm trying to make is, most women don't check this out in a man before they say YES, I Do. So u expect ur guy who have always believed he only needs to provide for the house to now automatically understands he needs to do house chores too. If you want that in him, you should make that your criteria for choosing a husband in the first place.
So are you going to fix the roof or faucet? Hook up a light fixture? Fix lawnmower? Fix the car to save $$$ Do repairs? Do any renovations? What about tools ? Do you know how to use any? Most men do and are expected to in "holy matrimony".
I loved this video! new subbie. You are spot on with the society telling us to be independent and how it causes a rift in the relationship.
Am really glad you posted this
So Glad I found your channel. Love everything you are sharing and doing.
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@@airqx2808 yes
@@rachelnkemokoro2004_ well actually, no
I needed this message and reminder!! Thank you!
Already loving this channel! Thank you! God bless youu!
This was an answer to prayer, thank you for posting! And you are so sweet 😊
Such great advice, until we hit the speed bumps of real life often our attitude is we think we 'know it all'. I'd add 'expectations' as another key issue in relationships. Communication is so vital, never think "I'll tell him/her about this issue someday" or "I'll fix this in their life once we're married", instead talk about the issues openly as they surface along the journey and commit to dealing with your own issues rather than trying to 'fix' your spouse's struggles. Remember you owe it to your spouse and others to deal with your own plank before you tackle the speck! (Matt 7:1-5) Great vid thanks GD!
Russell Hamlet amen amen amen so true! This is def a vital great important key to know and remember!!! I had this problem too and I unfortunately learned the hard way , but we serve an Awesome God and I'm so blessed. He's so faithful to His promises and I'm so grateful that He's still keeping me and most importantly keeping me from my(inner wicked self lol) Praises Go all To Him and my wonderful amazing husband!
Thanks for the encouragement and confirmation Jamie! You are 100% correct, we do serve an awesome God, one that knows us intimately, even our deepest darkest struggles, and he loves us anyway - Jesus is proof of that! All glory to him, He is worthy to be praised!
Russell Hamlet amen to the fullest!!! I thank God for His merciful And unconditional Love daily❤️🙏🏽
Loved these tips! Thank you!💕
I am so happy to have found this channel. I subscribed after you made your first point... this channel what I need at this point in my life, God bless your marriage and ministry
This was actually extremely useful. Especially the first two. I had been wondering about some of those things already.
Domestic skills😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 happy 1950 everyone
Just being is not a sin.... You may have internalized that you are wrong and need to try to work constantly to fix it but don't pass it on....
Oh my jesus ❤ thank you! Please keep making and uploading videos!
Love this video thank you I really needed to hear this video 🙌🏾
I got married only last year and I really find so many of your points in my marriage. Especially what you said about being competitive instead of a team. I also found that the harsh way in which I often teat myself and how I expect so much of myself I now project onto my husband as well which is really not fair and godlike. I pray that god helps me to become a better wife. Thank god god's good ;)
Loene May God help you. Thanks for sharing
Ana Vigil I'm pretty sure god doesn't care about how you type lol
Ana Vigil lol
Loene hi
Very true words!
It'll take a long time to become a couple. W e're married for 27 years. Still learning...
Blessings from Germany
Yay! Thank you so much! It's so great to have a video about this subject
I just discovered your channel and I love it! I love that the church is coming to youtube thats why i make videos too because there aren't many youtubers. Thank you for the tips/reminders.
I want to encourage all of you not just to "be more Godly," but to ask the Holy Spirit to work in you! We CANNOT make ourselves more like God on our own strength--in fact, that pride comes before the fall. We can ONNLLLYYY be "better" through His power. I love these women's call to be counter-cultural, but let's make sure we're not just submitting to worldly Christian culture but submitting to the power of the Lord that lives inside us! Rely on Him. :)
Isabelle Mccauley thank you girl 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love this sister and a lot of what she says hits home but when she talked about striving to serve your spouse and so on my fear is that we get in that mentality and forget to seek God first and let him lead us into those things which he will if we are surrendered to his will! ❤️
You have a beautiful heart. Thank you. Many blessings are on the way to your home. Much love from Africa.
What a blessing it was to hear this. Thanks! Subscribed!
ive been through an abusive relationship that lasted for 3 years and its only been 7 months since i left it, and this allowed me to break free from the sin cycle and know God more. This video is a reminder for me:) thank you.
Girl, your make up… 😮
Praying for your happy life and more happier life every day!!
All of these tips are so true! I have been married for almost a year and can already agree tl all of them!
Thank you for this, i was struggling feeling alone at 27. This made me feel that i had to prepare and use this time to invest on learning more before actually date again.
You fit in the middle east perfectly
Even in Israel we have more advanced gender roles than this, and we're in the Middle of the Holy land.
I'm from iran and believe me when i say She doesn't.
lol as an Egyptian I agree with Jasmine she wouldn't at ALL
Christianity still exists in America, contrary to popular belief Gina
nope. I'm Israeli, she does not belong here. she belongs to the 50s
p.s., she's Christian, so maybe here in Israel she'll be safe, but in countries like Iran being Christian is a death wish.
“Your husband isn’t the answer to your happiness”
PREACHHHH
I love this 💞 thanks for making these videos 🙏🏼
Loved every advice. I've been married over 3 years and have learned the same tips from my parents. hearing it from you is just a confirmation. I look at my husband as my best friend. I have much love and respect for him. we are not perfect but we know how to lay our selfishness aside and simply apologize and work at it. marriage is sacrifice but in the end it's so worth it
Awesome! Thanks for being transparent! So glad I didn't rush into marriage like I originally planned!
Could you share your pre marriage life. You guys talk a lot about single advice and life and about marriage but could you make a video about your boyfriend experience and tips please! Love you girls❤️
YES! i agree.
Kate davies in the Bible you were single until you were married, so your life before marriage is your single life. Then after you get married you aren't single, so you should do the same things up until your married.
yes thats my request too :D
Girl Defined I LOVE YOU !!!!
I am only a first born so I can not offer much advice
I'm so glad i found your videos. I love this!
out of the topic, ur hair is soooo on point....u are beautiful
"aLL tHe cHriSTiAn ReCOuRCeS" girl i-
THIS REALLY HELPED ME TO IDENTIFY IF I AM A MUSLIM OR A CHRISTIAN THANK YOU. TURNS OUT IM MUSLIM
YES ME TOO
WHOLE CRAPPY YOU TOO???????????????
PREACH THE اله
العقبة
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Thanks for sharing this!! These advice are what I need the most! No. one and two were like "Amen!!" And then No.3 was mind blowing! Now I want to change my attitude and change the way I behave with precise intentions. Thanks!
I needed this so much today! Awesome!❤️
Thank you so much for this! God bless you ❤
I wish you girls were around before I got married. My wife went to church and she left me for some other guy from church when I was in the hospital
She and the guy came up to the hospital one day and said
Guess what I'm leaving you for Michael. Because you being in the hospital is making me unhappy
Them she left with the church member . After the divorce she married the guy. Now she is happy with him till he has to go to the hospital.
So sorry that happened to you.
Thank you for this video! Listen up, Ladies! If any video is important for newly married or even dating....this info is soooooooooooo important. Coming from a girl who has been married once!
These things are so true!
I have been married almost 4 years now and got married when I was 18 years old. These things are so hard to figure out after your married, even if you have been told these things before marriage it's is different living them.
Bless you for leaving the comment section open. So many people would close the discussion to defeat trolls.
Great job, girl! I truly feel as though you are made to be a public speaker :) This video was SO encouraging to me right now as I am preparing to be a wife someday during my current season of singleness. Thanks!!
I have to admit that I've heard youtubers talking about you and that discauraged me to come to your channel, but then this video was in my recomendations and I'm really glad I gave it a chance, you're an amazing person, hope you have a nice day and a nice life.
This video was recommended for me but I am so glad I watched this video. Great message . Praise God.
This video was really helpful and came into my life at the perfect time ♥️ Thanks for sharing!!
I love this! I am married and I think it's not too late to change. All these are great skills to work on! :-) Thank you!
I love this so much!!❤️ Thank-you
PLEASE! do a video on how to cultivate domestic skills :D
Very good reminder!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom for us girls out of the goodness of your heart!! Bless you for it!!
I must say this video was extremely eye opening especially the first point. Thank you. 💜
Very insightful, thank you Girl Defined. I shall be checking my character & correcting where needed. Guess it'll make marriage a bit easier in the future as nothing worth having is easy.
Thank you for sharing :) Very nice tips!
I get that God is the only one who can fulfill me, but I feel like since I don't have a boyfriend and no one asks me out that something is wrong with me. I feel unwanted and disgusting, do you have any tips for that?
Kayli K hey I completely understand what you're going through about the guy situtation. There have been days where's I felt terrible about myself. How I dealt with it was just focusing on the relationships that God has already blessed me with such as family and friends. Another major thing that has helped is just looking in the mirror saying nice things about myself. Remember God made us all beautiful and he wants us to love ourselves just as much as he loves us.
Everything is in the Lord's time and in His way and according to His will. For now, just follow God and seek the kingdom and a boy will come along when you least expect it. God should have the first place in our hearts always and just pray for your future husband from a young age.
I've encountered the same thing. I honestly think that this is our Father protecting us. Hopefully this makes sense but it's almost like He's "blinded" people to me because I'm looking to them for satisfaction and purpose. Its actually another way of showing His goodness and grace because it drives us to Him. No man or woman will ever fulfill us or always be there. Earthly relationships are fleeting. Only our union with the Lord will last. Now I'm thankful for this protection because now that I'm growing in the Lord I'm encountering more men that are sold out for God, and a godly character is the most attractive thing ever. I honestly think that if someone after God's heart were to notice me and pursue me, I'd fall head over heels straight away, because the flesh is flaky and doesn't think straight LOL. God has created a mate specifically for you that He will reveal in His time. We don't want to settle for the first guy that gives us attention, but we want God's BEST right? He has a best for you. I hope this made sense. It's late and I'm sleepy, so this may be an incoherent jumble LOL
I know that can be really hard...when I was in high school I was never the girl that got asked out all the time. But now I'm married and so happy and I'm so glad that I didn't just date a lot of people when I was in school. God has such a great plan for you!! He will lead your life perfectly! 💗 - Est X
I think it's a natural desire to want a man to love you. After all God did design for man to have a wife.. But then again, we should be completely satisfied with just God's love, but trust me I've struggled with this too and it makes me feel better that someone else has felt that way as well.
Thank you so much for talking about this. It's something I've definitely struggled a lot with. And I needed to hear this. Thanks again.
Thank you for this very wonderful video that you shared so much for us to take note of and apply in our lives! 😄
Just found this and subscribed. Thank you for this!
You point on selflessness made me think of this question- How do you cultivate a selfless and others minded heart without becoming a pushover or passive and voiceless?
Well... maybe study the ministry of Jesus? He was selfless, gentle, and nonviolent, and definitely not a pushover
You can be selfless and still have self respect. Your love and compassion doesn't go away because you stand up for yourself.
Thanks so much this really helped me as a 15 year old girl
Cheyenne Akins yep! You can never be too young to get ready for marriage.
Cheyenne Akins sameeee
Liza David I disagree. Saying what you've said above only brings peer pressure for teenagers who are still getting to know God and that are still developing their relationships with God. To the teenagers out there who think I need to find my husband or wife now don't rush. I'm nearly 28, and I have been engaged to my future husband for nearly 3 years. You have so much ahead of you. God has a plan for you. Trust in Him. Don't rush into big decisions now, just enjoy God's purposes for you.
Lily, let me tell you something just because you're 28 and engaged now doesn't mean young girls can't start thinking of marriage and preparing for it. I know when I was 15, I was totally in love with my now fiance. Never did I think I would marry him but even then I still thought of myself as a girl who wanted to be ready to know what to look for in a husband for when the time came. It does not mean you're rushing into something. Because in life we prepare for a lot of things. School, jobs, when you buy a house, get a car, get your first salary, etc but NEVER especially in this generation...we prepare for marriage. We let everyone dictate our lives with what they say about not rushing and instead study, get a job, get money then you get married. Turns out that day will never come because a job, and money aren't permanent. You can quit, get fired, lose and gain money, buy a new house, sell it, get evicted, etc. But a marriage. That's forever. That's why you see girls crying over boys even at your age. They never really knew what to expect, how to prepare for the things are more important in life. And btw. even after marriage there's a lot of people (20+, 30+, 40+) that are still getting to know God. Some don't even know their purpose in life yet and the age don't matter. Because 2 is better than 1 and 3 is even better. The third person would be Jesus, that guides them. I'm getting married at 19 and I'm PROUD to tell the world. I know that's what God intended my life to be. Young marriage is awesome. I encourage all girls of ANY age to prepare yourselves. Because money, a job, or school don't make up a wife. That's Jesus. Only Him.
stanzygarcia I agree 100%! thanks for sharing your story it really encouraged me:) congratulations I am so happy for you! God bless you, your fiance and your marriage♥can you tell me your "love story"? ;) ♥
I wish I had a friend like you! Your words are full of wisdom and backed up by experience. Thank you for this video
You are so right. When I first was married, I had to set aside my "independent and self focused" thinking. Marriage is about compromise, being a team, and working together. If you keep focusing on yourself (and this applies to both parties), marriage will be very challenging.
i'll be single forever.
Do not say that because it will happen.
No shame in that! I’m staying single forever as well. Remember, you don’t need a partner to be happy, or for your life to have importance!
A heart of selflessness!!!
Thank you so much for this, super helpful!
So good! Super awesome insight.
I honestly thought that this was a meme video, but no. These ladies are serious as a heart attack. They need to read the Bible. I don't know if Yahweh is laughing or crying at this video.
lol bible is product of 1st century what do u expect
Thank you for telling us this Biblical Advise full of truth and wisdom from God 😄 God bless you! ❤️
Love your videos!
Amen sis! All wonderful Information
I love this Video!
You are talking so clearly and I agree with every part! ❤❤😍
Yes yes yes! I've been married 3 years now and thankfully the things I fall short in, my husband balances out very well. But I would've definitely benefited from knowing more domestic skills and managing money going into marriage rather than my husband teaching me as we go along. Another thing would be to talk to your fiancé before you get married about expectations of household duties and either do a chore rotation or just over communicate on what you'd like each other to do. Do NOT expect them to just do the dishes without asking- that would've saved a lot of frustration and arguments 😂
Love this video!!!
Love this! Thanks for sharing your heart :)
Preach, girl! Thank you so much for making this advice video. I needed these reminders. :)