A Heavy Hi Dad Soup Conversation.
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- čas přidán 13. 09. 2024
- Trigger Warning: Pregnancy Loss and Infertility.
This week's episode is full of theme park news including news regarding water park admission on check in and check out days at Walt Disney World Resort hotels coming in 2025, new scenes on Star Tours, potential new Encanto experiences at Walt Disney World, and a Pandora themed land in Disneyland?! We also discuss our experience together at Monster Jam and what our boys thought about it! Finally, during the beginning of the episode, the conversation gets heavy as Nick shares his Hi Dad Soup moment. The conversation leads to his family's experiences with infertility and pregnancy loss. We hope that this episode may help others feel less alone! We are all in this together right? That definitely tracks!
Nick, I appreciate you always bringing up the heavy topics. It's so so important to normalize these feelings, especially grief, and especially with your children. My 4 year old is a twin, and her brother died in the NICU. We talk about him every day and express our grief with her when we need to. The harder part now is navigating other people who don't understand her talking about death so freely, but I'm so proud of her being able to do so. Proud of you too, Nick!! Thank you 💚
Nick got me bawling my eyes out 😢 sending love to everyone who have suffered losses ❤
I appreciate Nick talking about the cost of all these Disney events
As someone who has suffered 4 losses and is now in the early stages of pregnancy, the anxiety is real. I have had a loss at our 12 week scan as well. Two early miscarriages, and a ruptured ectopic. The whole shabang. I've never told my 2 living kids about the four siblings that could have been because I'm not sure if they would understand, being 8 and 5. Your conversation got me thinking how I would even begin to approach the subject with my son's when/if they do ask. It's definitely a heavy conversation that I don't think I'll ever be prepared for.
Nick, thank you for sharing. The conversation of miscarriage and the impacts it has on the family are priceless. The conversation needs to be had and I'm so glad that we are moving into a time where people share.
Thank you Nick for sharing your story on loss. I recently just lost my Mom, she was 85 and lived with us. We also just had to put our cat down last weekend. Whether it is a human or animal, the loss and hurt is just the same. As my husband puts it, they are a constant and when they are gone and that constant is no longer there. It’s difficult. I appreciated you sharing your story as it validates that it is ok for men to have those strong feelings.
I can't say enough how much I appreciate this podcast. From the lighthearted moments to the heaviest both are felt deep in my heart. Thank you both for always being willing to share.
Thank you both for sharing what you do in the Hi Dad soup segments! 🩷
Thank you for being honest. Not many people in this world would be this vulnerable and it is very appreciated.
Nick, I know you didn’t mean to talk about your experience so deeply, but I wanted to say thank you for expressing your feelings on such a hard subject as a dad. Pregnancy loss is a topic that is not talked about openly enough. As a loss mom, I have found an online community to connect with, but I don’t think my husband has nearly as many outlets to connect with. Expressing your feelings about your experience can absolutely help men who are struggling through and feel incredibly alone.
Hey!! Thank you, Nick, for talking through such a painful topic. We have suffered 2 also & it hurts daily! We do have a beautiful daughter also and daily think that she would soon have a sibling had it progressed. To hear you creating space when you found out, i totally relate to that. Thanks for sharing & talking about it. Hope you & Francine are OK. ❤
I was excited about this podcast because I’m a huge Tim tracker fan. But I’m becoming such a huge fan of Nick as well. As someone who has struggled with her infertility, it can be such a lonely thing to sit in but when people let down their guards and share the raw emotion, it makes you feel less alone. I even had my husband watch this part because you hear it a lot from the women’s perspective, but not always from the man’s perspective. Thank you guys so much for everything you both do.
I love this podcast because you guys don’t shy away from having the hard conversations. Thank you for being honest and sharing your truths with us.
What a fantastic episode! Nick, I admire your vulnerability and sharing such a hard experience. This is going to help so many people navigate their feelings.
Having just walked through this ourselves (we lost our baby at 17 weeks along last month), this hit so hard, but was very validating. And you are right….there is soooo much more conversation that can be had around this topic. I’m so sorry for your losses, I hope the comments are validating for you in the same way that you sharing your experience is validating for us. Thank you for sharing.
Nick, I needed to hear this podcast. Thank you so much for sharing and being open. My husband and I have two boys, 5 and almost 2. We are so blessed with them.
We lost our baby girl at 13weeks the first of the year. Wow wow wow everything you said, made me feel so seen and 100% less alone. Thank you ❤
Thanks for sharing your story Nick. Pregnancy loss is so difficult and also so common. Three miscarriages for me. I found the first extremely difficult, I had no children at the time, and we were so excited, took a year to get pregnant, when there was no heartbeat at 8 weeks it broke our hearts, and like you my husband was heartbroken too. Luckily we went on two have two beautiful girls via IVF. Every time we tried naturally we lost it. Thanks again for sharing.
Nick, I appreciate you talking about the hard things. We experienced 4 losses before we had our 2 beautiful kiddos. It was so hard. I had to try so hard just to keep myself and my marriage going I didn't get to dive into my husband's feelings at the time and he was just trying to help me. Thank you for discussing the male point of view on this difficult grief so many go through!
Nick thank you so much for sharing about the miscarriages you and your wife experienced. My daughter and son-in-law just lost their first baby on March 4th. We were so excited and then so crushed. We thought it was going to be the day we could share the excitement but instead it was the saddest day. We completely understand the loss.
I cried so much listening to Nick! Thank you so much for being open, honest and raw with us. I wanted to give you such a huge hug listening to you. You’re so strong and an amazing role model for your little ones 🖤
Powerful Nick. Well done, Well said.
So sad for the pain you both went through Nick, life can be so tough sometimes, you both have such lovely families and it's lovely to see your love shine through ❤❤
Hi Dad Soup is my favorite part of this podcast. I really think you guys could spin it out into it's own thing if you wanted to. As a dad of 1 (soon to be 2) boys under 3 it feels so relatable to hear you two talk about this stuff. I really appreciate you sharing your loss Nick. I feel it helps those of us who have gone through the same thing to have our feelings and experiences shared. I pray for the day we all get to hold our babies in our arms again.
My husband grieved our miscarriage more than I did. We were shopping for a baby shower gift for a friend, and he started crying in the store. Everyone’s pain is different. I didn’t get another chance…cherish what you have.
Thank you Nick for sharing your story! I know Tim didn’t talk about him and Jenn’s story, but as someone who had trouble getting pregnant, I can tell you it helps others not feel so alone. Thank you both for this podcast. ❤
Stinking love you guys!! Can’t wait to hear where Santa is next week. 😉♥️
And I’m here weeping for you Nick. And everyone who has experienced this loss. Thank-you for being open, and vulnerable. So many people go through this, and it is still often something that is hush hushed. We need to be open and vulnerable and honest about our life experiences, so people dont feel isolated. I am closer to Tim’s age, and we witnessed generations before us NOT TALK about big things. so I know, personally, so many times in adulthood and parenting I am so confused why I didn’t know these things, or why no one’s ever talked about these issues before etc. thank-you for being open, so others can relate and feel seen and validated, but also so others will see and hear and think, maybe I can be open too.
Hope you both had a great weekend! Looking forward to the Podcast!! ❤❤❤
I love this podcast and how real the conversations are. Thank you for sharing ❤
Loved the latest episode guys, heavy hi dad soup indeed. I didn’t expect to be crying on my way to work today, but I’m so glad you can both open up and share these things with us! Thank you!!
Happy birthday Oliver!!! Nick, thank you so much for sharing. I feel that you help validate that it is okay to sit in your feelings.
Nick, thank you for sharing your experience with miscarriage. I had an almost identical experience with my second pregnancy. Everything was great at the very first appointment around 8 weeks. When I returned for my 12 week scan, the baby had no heartbeat. There was no warning and I remember being so crushed in the doctors office. It’s so common but yet you still feel alone. I was blessed about a year later with my second son, but I still think about that baby I lost. ❤
I've dealt with losing a lot of family members over the years. I grew up not knowing my grandfathers because they passed away when I was very young. I lost my 2 grandmothers a couple of years ago one month apart from each other. That was a hard one because my son was 6 and he knew them. Trying to tell him was difficult because he remembers them and hang out with them since he was a baby. Thanks for being so open. Hugs
I suffered a miscarriage- thank you for your honest and I send hugs!
Tim- you make me laugh each week- thank you for that!!!
This was a great episode
I think it's hugely admirable and important that you both can and do talk about things like this. We all share this love of Disney and the parks that many of us attribute to family. We're all very similar in many ways and talking openly continues the support and human side to all the entertainment you provide us. It's really healthy and i find this very helpful.
Whilst I haven't had the loss of a child, I have lost my Dad that is a huge part of my love of WDW and Central Florida and you guys are my escape there almost daily. We all lose our loved ones but we're also all capable of being kind and there for one another. This podcast is really a beautiful thing and hope it continues to grow.
Thank you for ALL the positivity but also for opening up. You guys are brilliant.
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This is what is so great about this style of podcast❤ You can just have a natural conversation and whatever it leads to it leads to💜 Thanks to the both of you for being so honest and open💖
Thank you for talking about this so honestly ❤ my first pregnancy was twin girls and one passed at 3 weeks old. It was truly an emotional rollercoaster and loss is still heavy after almost 15 years. As my daughter grows, there is always that thought of what could have been and grieving that bond they could have had. That kind of saddness kinda changed us as a couple but we are still together snd have another two daughters. Xx
Nick, thank you as always for sharing difficult moments as a dad. You seem to trust your intuition and modeling that it in itself is a beautiful gift to your boys. A few years ago I started to get to know a cousin that I did not grow up with (they were born the year I graduated high school). We had soul level connections and just as we started to get close they were tragically killed in a car accident. I mourn the relationship more than I think anyone knows. Thank you for allowing the space to share.
I hope Nick’s story helps others. My husband and I struggled with infertility before we eventually had three children. Everyone handles their journey in different ways.
Nick, thank you for sharing your story with us. You said it all so perfectly. Exactly 7 months ago today, my boyfriend lost his amazing older son, Jaxon (18 yrs old) in a car accident. This was something we never imagined, and my boyfriend always feared as a parent. It is completely surreal and not being able to take his pain away is very frustrating. And even more frustrating is mourning his future.
I am glad that my boyfriend, his son, and I lean into each other and therapy. One day at a time, and honoring his memory is what we focus on to get through this. Your boys are so lucky to have you and your wife, same as Tim and Jenn! Wishing you all lots of love, health and happiness! ❤
I went through a miscarriage at 7 weeks, me working as a nurse in a gynecologist office. I've seen patients come out of the ultrasound room, distraught, sad, and crying. Also I've seen when they are in second trimester, things happened. Never thought this would happen to me. So when it did, I was in denial and receiving by the doctors the "next step" was the toughest thing ever!. My husband and I say to each other we have 3 beautiful babies. I had the miscarriage between my first and last child. These girls of mine are the most beautiful and intelligent girls. I have not mentioned about the miscarriage but I think soon I will. Mostly to the oldest because she is 11, which I feel she will comprehend and understand. I know my girls understand because 3 years ago they lost their grandpa, my father. Which was the hardest thing ever! But my youngest was so supportive to her older sister. She amaized me that when the oldest was crying, she would tell her that "abuelo (grandpa) is in your heart and always be with you" 😢. You are strong! Also not alone! ❤
Thanks for being so vulnerable about loss today. I’m 30 and only have one grandparent left, I’ve experienced a lot of loss in my life, especially as a teen. Thinking of you and your family ❤
Hey Nick and Tim, love listening/watching the podcast, and truly love the two of you together. You guys are good compliments of each other, which makes it fun!
Had to send thanks to Nick for sharing your Hi Dad Soup topic. I appreciate you taking the time with your son to make sure he understand, to the best of his abilities, what grief is, how we each react to it, and ultimately find a place in our heart for it.
When I was 7 years old, my sister, who was 19 at the time and the oldest child, was killed in an automobile accident. This came six weeks after her wedding and the weekend before her new husband was to be shipped off to Vietnam. The event was further complicated because she was missing for three days before she was found dead.
Of course my parents were dealing with their own grief of losing their first child, and not thinking about how a 7 year old was dealing with it. Not to criticize my parents, but I did not attend a funeral, and no one talked about what happened very much. So at 7 I was left confused about what happened, how it happened and why it happened. I thought that we were not supposed to talk about it, so I didn't ask. There was newspaper clippings, police reports, pictures, etc that my parent kept in a cabinet, but I knew I wasn't free to look at it openly. So I waited til my parents were not at home (days of latch key kids), and would go through all the material on my own, without anyone to help provide clarity or context.
Long way of saying, that was some grief that I "dealt with" for a long time before I could find a place to keep it. I appreciate Nick's vulnerability and transparency, you had me in tears most of the time.
Your son is lucky to have such a great dad and again want to thank you for thinking about your son's needs, even when he may not know he has them!
My husband and I love the podcast, you guys are great!
Thank you for another nice show. 🎉 appreciate your honestly & compassion. 🎉
Totally forgot to mention the loss of my mom and mother-in-law within 7 months of each other last year. It was a surreal time. They were 85 and 90. As time passes I smile more now when I talk of them and cry less. ❤
I needed this today. We are currently going through similar loss following our 8 week ultrasound last week. Nick, I can't tell you how appreciative I am of you being vulnerable with all of us. ❤
Thanks Nick for opening up. I haven't had that experience but several friends and acquaintances have. It's hard to deal with loss, but I really do believe talking more openly about miscarriage will help eleviate some stigma people seem to have around it. It is far more common than people realize and so many women take it as a personal failing. We are all just humans going through the same things ❤️
Nick, I continue to love you! Thank you for your story. ❤❤❤
Love your podcasts 🥰 thank you for everything that you share 🥰xxx
I loved special Agent OSO when my kids were little! Also Nick, you've got to see Goonies!
You two are so entertaining. The connection is real. ❤
It's interesting and profound listening to you speak about loss. I am 42. My grandparents are all gone. I also lost my Dad 8 years ago. It reshapes you as a person to lose a parent at an age you shouldn't have. I'm the oldest of 5 and my youngest sister is 21.
Nick can make me cry with his openness and then make me rage with saying pandora doesn't make sense in animal kingdom within half an hour😂 loved this episode
So much love for this podcast and how.....organic it is. The conversations are all over the place, but I think that's what makes it really special and genuine even if it can be a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.
Loved seeing the videos from Minster jam I have a 10 yr old son who loves MJ and it was exciting to see you guys do/talk about something that people all over experience not just theme park areas.
Thank you for being so open.
I know how loss feels, and its a blessing what you do got.
Please keep that part in mind.
Love you guys.
Oh nick how i wish i could have hugged you through my headphones! I had to come to the video to comment. Thank you so much for opening up about this. It shouldn’t be taboo to talk about! From the mom side it’s so hard to feel alone and think why me but reality is it’s way too common and hearing you say the exact feelings we felt as a couple and my husband relating so much to what you said from a dad’s perspective.
Thank you Nick for sharing your story, 🩷
Our kids have met Santa at Santa's Village in Jefferson NH in the summertime. Santa has a bunch of awesome rides for small children and an amazing little Waterpark! We love to get donut holes there! We love the good times and making family memories at this vacation spot in the mountains! 😉😉
Thank you Nick for sharing that your story about loss and struggles on pregnancy Because honestly same. Between loss and things that haven’t worked and getting news bad after bad. And watching friends and family have kids, growing, and having to navigate those questions of when are you having kids, don’t you want them, you are running out of time. It’s hard. And honesty your whole story just I did/do feel seen. And like you put feelings I couldn’t find words for perfectly. Thank you for sharing this. We needed it here. I needed it. ❤
Nick. Thank you for sharing. My first child was still born 1-31-1999. So I understand completely. My son Cody was born 6-29-2000 and is now 24 yrs old.
I don’t have kids and I don’t intend on having kids but this was so touching to listen to. Thank you for sharing with us!
Miscarriages are so incredibly difficult. We had 3 with the last one being twins. The hardest was the 2nd one being at 20 weeks (17 years ago yesterday) & had told family 1 week before. Would have been 2st grandchild for my parents. We gave up & then in Sept 2018, were at a church picnic playing with a 9 month old that was being fostered by someone else from church. She told us we should adopt him instead as she couldn't do it. 3 weeks later h3 started staying with is on weekends & moved in beginning of November. Our adoption took extra long due ro bad case worker & covid. However we now have a wild red headed 6 year old boy. My sister has not been able to have kids either & has had several losses.
On a lighter note, he loves monster trucks & his favorite is going to the Hot Wheels Glow Monster Truck competition. Gunkster is his favorite truck
Love that Tim acknowledged he cut Nicks story about baking off and went back to it and engaged about the cookies. Shows growth and learning!
Simply, thank you Nick ❤ I’ve been through 2 losses also and it’s hard to not think about what would have been. I had my daughter and got pregnant when she was 18 months which would have put our age gap exactly where we wanted. I sadly lost that baby then got pregnant with my rainbow a little less than a year later and she was everything we wanted and more. There’s a reason for everything I believe but it doesn’t make it any less tough. I have 3 beautiful babes now and all 3.5 years apart and they are perfect to us ❤ I’m sorry for what you and the fam are going through but appreciate your openness.
Thank you Nick for sharing the reality of loss. My husband and I went through years of infertility and loss and it was the hardest thing ever. We were lucky to finally welcome a baby through IVF, but like you said it’s sad to think this will be our only live pregnancy and will never be able to go through another pregnancy again. Sharing your experience as a father is so important!
Thank you so much for talking about loss this week. This past Saturday we tragically lost my brother-in-law😭words cannot express the immense pain that my husband and his family are experiencing. Walking through this deep grief with the ones you love is gut wrenching. In a weird way I feel like this episode was for me, which I know is not true BUT I paused the podcast to come on here to thank you for facilitating this conversation, it’s helpful to me. Much love to you both!
The pod cast is the best way to start a Monday! Thank you both for doing what you’re doing! Even talking about the difficult things and being 100% real!!! Xxx
It's very hard to talk about loss and trauma.. It's also good to see men talk about it and let it out.. . In my experience my man held everything in and became very verbally abusive that I had to leave.I lost both of my parents in a trucking accident and then I ended up with an atopic pregnancy and a surgery that caused many complications and health problems.
Thank you for trusting us enough to be vulnerable with us.
My son was 3.5when his great grandma was passing, and when trying to explain how she won’t be here anymore, but she will always be with us in our hearts…. And I was crying… he looked at me and said “it’s okay mom, she will be like Mufassa in the sky, watching us and there with us”. It was that moment that really made me realize they can comprehend so much more than we give them credit for. That changed my path as a mom, we talk about everything…. Any questions, heavy serious topics, I know if I explain in kid friendly ways he will grasp and understand SO much.
This also made me appreciate heavy topics in movies, because it helps kids understand. Gives them a reference, and a seed of understanding.
I love y’all!! Thanks for sharing the heavy stuff and the lighthearted things. Yall work well together.
Hi Nick thank you so much for sharing your story, I had a miscarriage 41 years ago back then it never got spoken about, I remember coming home from hospital and no one spoke about it, it was like it never happened, things are so different now 😢
Thank you both of all the things you share ❤
I always felt the water parks are more for locals than people coming in for the other parks. It is nice they are offering the free entry. I like when they had free Disney dining with a resort stay. Good show today.
Good topics again and great title. Loving the podcasts guys 👍
Was watching Abott Elementary yesterday and they said ‘that tracks’. Made me immediately think of you too. Looking forward to todays episode
Thanks for talking about the heavy stuff!
You two are SO GENUINE.
Your amazing nick!!! My family lost my grandson years ago and we still hurt so I get it. Thank you for sharing ❤️. Love you both and love this channel ❤
Nick….thank you for opening up about your losses. I know that was not very easy. As for how to tell your littles when there’s a death, that is never easy (obviously) but I will just tell you how I have approached that subject with my son. Unfortunately in my family we have enduring many losses and my son has been around for many of them. When he was 4 I lost my dad and he was always around so the conversations were being talked about first when he was sick and then when he passed. I just explained to my son that life is apart of death and that sometimes it happens sooner than we ever want and that it’s ok to be mad/sad and to talk about it to release your feelings. He was/is a very sensitive guy (he’s almost17 now). No matter what it’s never easy.
I had a miscarriage in my second marriage. My husband has no kids. He was and is an amazing dad to ‘our’ daughter who is now 35 and in heart he is her dad. But the sadness I feel for my husband over these many years breaks my heart. The comment you made about hearing ‘daddy’ is what I think about…. 😢
Thank you for sharing your story. Having gone through 3 miscarriages I appreciate you showing your feelings. My first I was 14 weeks and my ex husband just put on his sunglasses and didn’t talk to me I know he probably was hurting but that was so hard because I had no support. The other two he was in Iraq on tours for the army so going through it alone was hard but atleast had my family to help me through it since he was away and we found out both times while he was gone so he never got to be here for the finding out part of it. I wish more men would be open because it does not just affects the women. So thanks for talking about it.
Hey Nick! Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experience from the a dad's perspective. We found out pretty earlier on in my marriage that we would not be able to have kids. It has always been a dream of mine to be a dad and have a little one call me dad. We are foster parents now and are in the process of adopting them. God has a His ways and we have ours. I rejoice with you in your suffering and desire to count our blessings with you! Thanks again!
Nick, my condolences for what you went through. I had a similar situation, and as a female, it was helpful to hear the male perspective. And, thank you so much for sharing your story and sharing your vulnerability. It is definitely not easy. But, showing men it is okay to have feelings and share them is breaking down the stigma of men not being allowed to have emotions. Even though it was painful, your son will be better for it because he will know it is okay to hurt and have the space to share as part of the grieving process. Thank you!
Nick, I get it. Trying to figure out how to tell my daughter, when she was 7, that my mother died was so hard. I had an image of how she would react. And she did not react at all. I relied on her teacher, after-school sitter, and guidance counselor to let me know to go at her pace. Answer her questions when she asks them. She also drew lots of pictures during that time to help process her thoughts and emotions.
Nick I want to share this with you - I come from a very large extended family with 27 1st cousins! I was the 3rd youngest grandchild and all the Aunts.Uncles>GradP were mych mych older as were allmot all the cousins. My Dad was worried that as a youngster I would start to have many losses in my life so to help me prepare he took me to a funeral of a person I had never met - she was the mother of an Uncle by marriage so I knew a coupld of the mourners. He sat me down and explained what happens at a wake - we practiced hand shakes and saying sorry for your loss - he explained the person would be in casket, eyes closed and would look made up and stiff. He explained there would be a roomm where there were chairs and you could see them and a room wherer you could sit and not see and he told me he would hold my hand and if at any time I wanted to leave I could - I remeber it because that night made it so the 1st dead persoin I saw I didn;t love or know and it made it better when I lost all my other relatives
Thanks for the podcast. I appreciate the vulnerability
Knowing Jackson is tall enough for soarin just choked me up. ❤
Nick, you’re doing great. You seem like an amazing dad, husband and person. Tim, keep being you big chief. This podcast makes me look forward to Mondays.
Nick, thank you! Thank you for being so vulnerable.
Nick, my husband had had to watch me have 2 double miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy and he totally agrees with you that it is a lonely place to be we have a 22 year old now but we will forever miss our 5 other babies. Your are definitely not alone ❤
The Ducks play at the Honda Center. It used to be sponsored by Arrowhead so they called it the Pond (because Ducks) but now it's Honda.
Thank you for this episode 🥰 this was so special. I lost my dad just over 2 years ago and it has been a hard road. Not navigating the world of fertility treatment which is just as difficult ❤
Thank you so much for being so open and raw about your miscarriage we're gearing up to try for number two my friend had one I know it's common but it's so scary Thank you
The Andor Star Tours scene needs to be when the comets shoot across the sky from when they're robbing the imperial base. Great podcast guys!
My brain instantly went to the guy in high school musical. LOL & the dramatic response to him liking to bake "NO NO NO NOOOO" 😂
I had my second daughter much later than I ever wanted. I also wanted the toddler holding the baby moment and never got it. But telling my oldest that she was getting a baby sister was so amazing and special in it's own way. I hope and pray that ya'll get to experience that joy someday. Thank you for being vulnerable, guys.
You guys always impress me. From heavy loss subjects to peanut butter and jelly soft serve swirl. Tim, I love cones too but like my ice cream in a cup. I always get the party hat cup/cone. Best of both worlds! Soft serve in a cup with a cone stuck on top. Makes for a nice way to dip my cone in the soft serve and no messy melting on my hands. Great for kids too.
Nick you go home and watch goonies dang it! 😂
Fun fact: I ran the Disney half marathon with Sean Astin in 2015. And by with I mean he was running the same race