Helping Hungry Ghosts | Thich Nhat Hanh (short teaching video)

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  • čas přidán 1. 11. 2020
  • In this short teaching video from the Plum Village app plumvillage.app/ Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh talks about "hungry ghosts," the suffering people who are not well rooted in their families and societies, and how to help them.
    Excerpt from: Touching Peace | An Evening With Thich Nhat Hanh ( • Touching Peace | An Ev... )
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    Find more similar short teachings on the FREE Plum Village app plumvillage.app/
    Enjoy! 🙏
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Komentáře • 678

  • @kerrilowdon6956
    @kerrilowdon6956 Před rokem +35

    I was once a hungry ghost
    I was a ward of the state
    I was a heroin addict
    My first healings was in Narcotics Anonymous, a simple spiritual program , I also began mindfulness and I have not been a hungry ghost for many years .
    I feel blessed I can use my suffering to help hungry ghosts as they trust a former hungry ghost . I’m so greatful and humbled to hear Thay’s teachings,I can continue to help and this makes me so happy

    • @plumvillageapp
      @plumvillageapp  Před rokem +4

      🙏🏻 Keep the practice dear friend. 🙏🏻

    • @kerrilowdon6956
      @kerrilowdon6956 Před rokem

      @@plumvillageapp yes I do daily practice and I hope to go to plum village in Victoria for more teaching of dear Thay as he lives on and on smiling with compassion , I wanted them be a nun as a child , today I breath in I know I’m breathing in breathing out I know I’m breathing out . I can be a humble student and as I learn I help others

    • @ironmymaidennow
      @ironmymaidennow Před 2 měsíci

      what a beautiful & touching share - you have certainly helped me today with this ❤

  • @shyamfootprints972
    @shyamfootprints972 Před měsícem +1

    What a great man. Thank God he was here in my time and I can hear his beautiful words

  • @mrscpc1918
    @mrscpc1918 Před 2 lety +235

    My father was a serial paedophile , responsible for the destruction of many lives. My only child was one of his victims and is in mental hospital now and has been for 15 of the last 20 years because of what my father did. Me and my little brother ( who will not acknowledge us as family) were victims also. My life has been taken by trying to resolve this. I am 70 this year and the tears still flow every night for the damage done.

    • @jennykelter9518
      @jennykelter9518 Před 2 lety +103

      It is rare to hear people speak out of this.
      My father was too a pedophile. He molested my daughters and when I went to my brother and told him he said “don’t you remember what he did to us when we were little “? I knew he was saying he molested me and him too - I couldn’t protect my daughters from him - I blocked out memories. Fast forward 5 years , my brother molested one of my daughters again in secrecy for over a year.
      My world shattered over and over and I have spent the last 10 years helping my daughters recognize the patterns and heal and I am finally on the path to healing myself.
      My grief process was stalled because I needed to care for my children first so I spent many years hyper-vigilant with ptsd - I used to be a fawn and I turned into a lion just waiting for someone to mess with my kids again. I was ready and prepared to hurt anyone and not give a shit about the outcome.
      That rage has become more balanced but I do not trust anyone. I have seen what family can do.
      I am so proud of you for sharing this because it is hard to find people willing to be honest like this. I am so sorry for your child. I hope you find healing , I know how hard and complex it is to find peace. Much love 💗

    • @akakonoha
      @akakonoha Před 2 lety +8

      🕯️🙏🏽💕

    • @mrscpc1918
      @mrscpc1918 Před 2 lety +17

      @@jennykelter9518 Thankyou for bothering to reply. I am just resting in a lay-by for a little cry after going to my son’s house to get clothes for him and start to clear up the terrible mess. He is very poorly and has never had appropriate care or support. I have now started an official complaint regarding his lack of care. I think he will be in care now for another year at least.

    • @karadiberlino
      @karadiberlino Před 2 lety +14

      Honestly I never understand this! Whenever I hear these stories and that the women say they wanted kids, but never had any - I always think that‘s for the best.
      Seriously, when I hear this kind of bullshit that there are women out there having their sexually predator parent to the same to their own kids - I must say you are either not very smart or emotionally very immature or just unempathetic and irresponsible.
      And then complain that the son can‘t take care of himself and that you are taking legal actions.
      Wow, lady that‘s all on you 100%.
      The truth hurts!
      But that you kind of ladies let this happen AGAIN by the same person and to your own kids is just sick. You‘re part of the problem, a so-called enabler.
      I feel very sorry for all your children, you should never have gotten them in the first place.
      You have even brought more misery into the world by your denial and ignorance and neglect.
      How can you see yourself as a victim and hoped someone would have helped when you did not even manage to help your own children? Protect them, which you should have?
      Women like you are not better than the abuser. 😤

    • @urmila16
      @urmila16 Před 2 lety +16

      Love and healing to you. Follow a Master like Thay. You will be healed.

  • @temp850
    @temp850 Před rokem +52

    I suffered deep and damaging abuse from both of my parents - both dead now. As I have seen them as five year old children, across many years of healing, I myself have deeply healed. 🙏❤️

  • @christopherlaro4156
    @christopherlaro4156 Před 3 lety +40

    Hungry ghost is a sacred phrase. The soul as well is a hungry ghost. Feed it well in best ways n hope the feast will make us better humans. Peace ✌️

    • @onnion63
      @onnion63 Před 3 lety +7

      It's actually one of the lesser reincarnations such as the animal rebirth . Ancient for sure, not sure about sacred. Animals spend their whole lives just surviving , trying to eat and not be killed. Hungry ghost is also a samsaric kind of painful existence .

    • @lillysnet9345
      @lillysnet9345 Před 3 lety +6

      @@onnion63 I was born in Macedonia and my father died when I was 16... that how I learned about honoring dead.
      We constantly make offerings in food, clothes and good thought.
      We even have saying...
      "All the best about the dead."

    • @lindamaemullins5151
      @lindamaemullins5151 Před 3 lety +1

      @@lillysnet9345 ❤️

  • @sterlingray3982
    @sterlingray3982 Před 2 lety +4

    I was a hungry ghost until I realized the God is within me.

  • @louisesumrell6331
    @louisesumrell6331 Před 2 lety +167

    I'm very moved by Thay, every time. Here's my gratitude statement from this morning;I'm so grateful that my heart feels full. I'm grateful that I'm an alcoholic. 45 years of drink and drugs. 43 years of the occasional flirt with recovery. That's what happened. It's only what happened. That part of my journey is over. In the here and now, the only place that life ever happens, I'm grateful to be learning, growing, emotionally and spiritually. The time is now. I'm grateful and loving it! 💖🌈🙏🏼🦄🥳❣️🌻😁😉🙏

    • @DivineLoveBeing
      @DivineLoveBeing Před 2 lety +7

      Thanks for Sharing Beautiful Soul 😘💖🙏

    • @dan-andreivasilescu228
      @dan-andreivasilescu228 Před 2 lety +5

      Congratulations, madame Sumrell!😇, best of luck in your endeavours, thank you very much for sharing!

    • @carolbriseno3132
      @carolbriseno3132 Před 2 lety +3

      Thank you SO much...I am deeply touched by your story and your now transparency and realizations and validation of Thay's meaningful transmissions..

    • @doreengaze3552
      @doreengaze3552 Před 2 lety +2

    • @Iamthepossum
      @Iamthepossum Před 2 lety +3

      Sending warm thoughts to support you in your journey of recovery, Louise. Much love to you from your spiritual family. ❤️

  • @juliaphillips9436
    @juliaphillips9436 Před 3 lety +221

    I cried when I listen to this. I am grateful I became an alcoholic so that I could find Alcoholics Anonymous and the sister programs. I found everything I needed in the meetings and in the fellowship.

    • @mothersarmsreadinesscoachi9360
      @mothersarmsreadinesscoachi9360 Před 3 lety +6

      Yes yes yes yes yes

    • @mikehunt5134
      @mikehunt5134 Před 3 lety +4

      I hope you're okay friend!!! You're never without love and support. Love you buddy ❤

    • @mortalclown3812
      @mortalclown3812 Před 3 lety +5

      Ditto. Peace

    • @ericabogart1245
      @ericabogart1245 Před 3 lety +7

      Me to!!! We are loved We are guided. One day at a time.

    • @adelhartreisig9020
      @adelhartreisig9020 Před 2 lety +2

      I'm truly grateful for finding crack, it enabled me to find all these wonderful people working in the anti drug programs. Had I remained a functional, sane adult, I'd never had that experience. Come to think of it, now I've beaten the crack cocaine addiction, I'll become a raging drunk and get to know c.... like you.

  • @davidsmith-fc9cu
    @davidsmith-fc9cu Před 2 lety +5

    I feel in our family WW1 AND WW2 are still causing pain to this day, our Fathers and Grand fathers paid a very heavy price which is still felt today.

  • @Iamthepossum
    @Iamthepossum Před 2 lety +14

    So much gratitude to the universe for sending us Thich Nhat Han. A man of unparalleled greatness, a prophet of our time . ❤️💕 sending love and gratitude to my virtual sangha for upholding one another, and continuing the traditions and teachings of Thay 💕❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @jarcau_vegan
    @jarcau_vegan Před 3 lety +87

    I used to talk to myself in a very hard and harsh way, and when I started to learn about mindfulness, the intensity of my expectations about myself cranked up the harshness of my inner dialogue. I found some teachings about loving yourself when you go looking within, and to embrace whatever emotion, judgement or thought arose. I practiced speaking to my beating heart and breath as if it was to my innerchild: "I love you, I love you". I visualize my innerchild as a 5 year old in pain when doing so. The clue for me was to understand I was not pretending, but getting used to tell myself I loved myself. Now I cannot imagine speaking to myself and others the way I used. May all beings find worthiness and relief within.

  • @vandymajor
    @vandymajor Před 3 lety +7

    I hear the master saying we must work on our society and communities so we don’t continue to produce hungry ghosts.

  • @KS-ne5mq
    @KS-ne5mq Před 3 lety +77

    I’m a hungry ghost for I was abused by my parents and more family members. I stopped the cycle.

    • @sonnyroy497
      @sonnyroy497 Před 3 lety +2

      ♥️

    • @shannon6708
      @shannon6708 Před 3 lety +1

      How did you stop the cycle?

    • @sallyrile7601
      @sallyrile7601 Před 3 lety +2

      @@shannon6708 healing, therapy etc I guess. Long road.

    • @shannon6708
      @shannon6708 Před 3 lety +5

      @@sallyrile7601 I cut the roots so to speak. I will always be a hungry ghost maybe less hungry by practicing meditation and breathing.

    • @mortalclown3812
      @mortalclown3812 Před 3 lety +5

      Sending you real hug across the miles and extra angels for your healing.

  • @dan-andreivasilescu228
    @dan-andreivasilescu228 Před 3 lety +102

    I have lived with a hungry ghost, my step father; he was like a black hole leaving unpleasant traces of his unrecognized tyrant wounds. Later on psychotherapy started working upon the (in)visible threads that did not leave him in peace.
    Yes, indeed, the hungry ghosts need great amount of love, caring, forgiveness along with firm roots to rely on. Sanghas, retreats are a wonderful solution for healing, for restoring and transforming the vacuum into authentic loving kindness. Of course these people should also follow certain steps in order to transmute their pain body.
    Dear Thay, by having shared your wisdom as insightful gems, you have surely made this planet more sane.
    Thank you!😊🙏

    • @vindembmw6421
      @vindembmw6421 Před 2 lety +1

      Poporul nostru este plin de boli, îngreunat de corupție morală și iluzionat religios din cale în afară. Cioran - recunoscut pe plan internațional pentru pesimismul său profund dar și pentru intelectul său remarcabil, a fost "exilat", poate parțial spre binele său, de poporul român, rămânând în Franța alături de Ionesco, Eliade, Brâncuși și mulți alții asemenea lor. Chiar dacă tatăl lui a fost preot, el a suferit enorm pentru că suntem un popor întunecat la minte. Țuțea, un alt posesor de intelect impresionant, suferind ororile închisorilor comuniste, a spus la sfârșitul vieții că a suferit o viață întreagă pentru un neam de proști. La fel simt și eu, însă Thay, chiar și după ce nu mai este cu noi așa cum îl știm, mi-a vorbit prin intermediul acestui video "de dincolo de moarte", la fel cum și lui i-au vorbit mulți de pe linia lui Gautama Buddha prin intermediul practicilor, sutrelor, și învățăturilor. Prin acest video, Thay m-a ajutat să accept faptul că în loc să fug continuu și să caut noi rădăcini în țări și popoare din Orient (unde dharma este vie, trăită și transmisă cu grijă, cu disciplină, cu înțelepciune și cu multă inteligență, eleganță spirituală, etc.), trebuie să învăț ceea ce am nevoie să învăț și să mă întorc înapoi la rădăcinile mele ca să transmit mai departe ceea ce am învățat pentru ca să transform răul din mine în bine - nu numai pentru mine, ci pentru toți și toată lumea 🙏🏼

  • @pinklady7184
    @pinklady7184 Před 2 lety +5

    I live in a haunted home and work in a haunted vintage shop.
    Every night, before I go to bed, I always pull chairs out from under the table and leave enough room for our unseen ghosts to sit. All ghosts appreciate chairs. They love a sense of home in our place and a sense of family too.

  • @nikadodoleschal8360
    @nikadodoleschal8360 Před 3 lety +37

    Whatch this until the end!!! if you should have any problem with the relationship to your mother or your father or your children; or in case you feel angry on a regular basis. Thank you!

    • @kr1221E
      @kr1221E Před 3 lety +9

      I no longer feel angry with my parents, Dad died, but I do not feel I can engage with them in future as I do not feel mentally safe with mother and siblings.

  • @pauljung3534
    @pauljung3534 Před 2 lety +16

    "A deep explanation, of deep understanding, of deep compassion, of deep love, of deep need, of deep healing, of deep restoration." ~ Of Immense Gratitude

  • @sugarfree1894
    @sugarfree1894 Před 3 lety +126

    I have been practicing for nearly 8 years and have become aware of the pain in my ancestral lineage. Thank you so much for broadcasting this lesson, I will do the smiling practice in order to embody my understanding that my parents also suffered. And back and back. Thank you so much - Ngawang Dechen Palmo UK

    • @sixthsenseamelia4695
      @sixthsenseamelia4695 Před 3 lety +4

      🌱🌏💚🙏

    • @GateKeeper36
      @GateKeeper36 Před 2 lety +1

      🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

    • @brahmaiahk6800
      @brahmaiahk6800 Před rokem

      Op

    • @kateglennon9618
      @kateglennon9618 Před rokem +1

      What a beautyful teaching I will practice on my inner 5 year old and then on my parents, I always knew I was loved but I came from a big family in Ireland and I often got lost and detached from my feelings,needs and wants and I became a people pleaser in order to survive,I carried that into my interactions with others after I left home,in my work place and in my marriage and community, I never got to know who I was, now I have a chance to work on that and embrace my 5year old and that of my mother and father although they are both dead,but still alive in me,my siblings, and my children and granddaughter, and so it will continue🙏🦋🌈❤🙏

  • @Itsmeimyourdad
    @Itsmeimyourdad Před 2 lety +26

    My father died from suicide last year. It’s been hard to forgive him, as I had my first child but a month before he passed. This talk has brought me to tears. I hope this is the beginning of my healing.

    • @b.c.4902
      @b.c.4902 Před 2 lety +9

      He was suffering. See that it was not about you and he was not thinking clearly or to do you personal harm, it was out of a place of extreme suffering and not seeing how to go on. Feel compassion instead of suffering yourself

    • @a.s2118
      @a.s2118 Před rokem

      It certainly is 🙏🏼✨

    • @sunlovinsnowflake
      @sunlovinsnowflake Před rokem

      🙏🏼✨🤍

    • @Light-ji4fo
      @Light-ji4fo Před 6 měsíci +1

      Forgive? He doesn't need your forgiveness. He was a very troubled man who needed love and care and patience. Alas..

    • @alesanchez87
      @alesanchez87 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@Light-ji4foSometimes forgiveness is needed not for those we forgive, but for ourselves, so to acknowledge that it was not our nor anybody's fault.

  • @swhite8381
    @swhite8381 Před 3 lety +36

    Such a beautiful human

  • @sixthsenseamelia4695
    @sixthsenseamelia4695 Před 3 lety +42

    Thank you Thich Nhat Hanh. 🙏
    Thank you plum village. 🙏
    Beautiful. Peaceful. 🙏

  • @LeahRuth5729
    @LeahRuth5729 Před 3 lety +82

    For brothers and sisters who may have felt a disconnect with the biological family, you are a child of God. I love Thich Nhat Hanh. But do not overly concern yourself with the label "hungry ghost". Make peace within yourself and forgive as you would want to be forgiven. Know that you are Loved.

    • @onnion63
      @onnion63 Před 3 lety +10

      The term is deeply rooted in Buddhism and Taoism. He is using it as part of this dharma talk to explain what a "hungry ghost"
      is. It's a term that is ancient.

    • @juliaphillips9436
      @juliaphillips9436 Před 3 lety +3

      Thank you for saying this

    • @onnion63
      @onnion63 Před 3 lety +5

      @@juliaphillips9436 I grew up in a super violent (physical and verbal) abusive household. I owe Thay a HUGE debt and I did not discover his wisdom until I was about 45.

    • @jennieprasad818
      @jennieprasad818 Před 3 lety +3

      Thank you for detailing about the term,most of us are not familiar with🤔😘! Its good to broaden one's knowledge but never divert from your purpose ,practice & goal in life!

    • @truth8307
      @truth8307 Před 3 lety +6

      You should not believe in any God and get too attached to any religion too. Look at how many people died from the covid-19 which their God don't save. Don't let a religion that used a God that is proven fake or "love" as a smokescreen.

  • @eloise6111
    @eloise6111 Před 3 lety +112

    I see this in abused and abandoned animals too.

    • @sixthsenseamelia4695
      @sixthsenseamelia4695 Před 3 lety +19

      Sentient beings. 🦋💖

    • @tracyjusttracy8899
      @tracyjusttracy8899 Před 3 lety +14

      Yes.. just seeing this statement made me cry.

    • @g.h.7755
      @g.h.7755 Před 3 lety +10

      It’s terrible how men not only sexually abuse their own children, but also all kinds of animals. Disgusting subspecies...

    • @copyninja8756
      @copyninja8756 Před 3 lety +1

      @@g.h.7755 what

    • @kr1221E
      @kr1221E Před 3 lety

      :(

  • @roxannebritt5023
    @roxannebritt5023 Před 3 lety +7

    Homeless people are our hungry ghosts. They are wanting love and acceptance..

    • @Simson616
      @Simson616 Před 3 lety +3

      I've been myself a hungry ghost and am still in a sense. I was never homeless though. My experience is, that hungry ghosts are also homeless people but not only.

  • @user-ns7mz1ld9u
    @user-ns7mz1ld9u Před 17 dny

    Everything deserves love and sympathy

  • @miamichel4586
    @miamichel4586 Před 7 měsíci +2

    This completely changed my perspective about my father who I had given up on having a relationship with. I thought I just had to accept and let it go but I am going to try again. I cannot begin to express how deeply moved I am right now. Thank you. 🙏

    • @plumvillageapp
      @plumvillageapp  Před 7 měsíci +2

      A lotus for you. 🙏 Thank you for sharing.
      With much care,
      Plum Village App team
      plumvillage.app
      (the app is completely free)

  • @yunqian2294
    @yunqian2294 Před 3 lety +56

    I'm so thankful to watch this video. I feel it resolved some obstacles I'm facing recently with Buddhism practicing. I really appreciate the explanation of the hungry ghost from Thay. I was never sure about why I should learn the three miserable regimes. Now I can see part of me is a hungry ghost. I will try to practice as Thay said to connect with my ancestors but I'm not sure if I'm capable of doing it :) I'm recently practicing loving speech with my daughter. It is so hard. But Thay's voice often appears in my brain and that's the real loving speech.

  • @danutashayler34
    @danutashayler34 Před 3 lety +32

    Beyond the pain of childhood, has never been an easy journey. However with teachings through Plum Village/Thich Nhat Hanh, I have touched on the jewels in my roots after the forgiveness takes place. Today's Dharma talk has been again a strong hearing for me lest I forget and fall into the past, which is always a possibility. Much less today than yesterday.
    Love in practicing meditation is my strong element. I give thanks to the Universe for sending me Thich Nhat Hanh and me hearing the sound of the language. Today and tomorrow, feeding the ghost within.

  • @eisforeverything
    @eisforeverything Před 3 lety +54

    The way this teaching comes around to heal, and not criticize or turn away from the root is needed more than ever!

  • @kimlock9440
    @kimlock9440 Před 3 lety +7

    ♥️ for the hungry ghosts

    • @kimlock9440
      @kimlock9440 Před 2 lety

      @Birdy Bundle don't know what your talking about please explain?

  • @danilles.4247
    @danilles.4247 Před 3 lety +41

    We are all connected. To love others is to love ourselves.

    • @sonicboom2738
      @sonicboom2738 Před 3 lety +2

      Wish more people understood that. Look at the us 🇺🇸 right now. It's black against white, democrats against Republicans, short people against tall people lol. U have to laugh instead of crying sometimes 😢.

    • @priyankasalelkar3564
      @priyankasalelkar3564 Před 2 lety

      true! ❤

  • @denniskatinas
    @denniskatinas Před 3 lety +25

    I have been this for over a dacade, and its hard to get over it, especially if there’s no one to open up to. Let me give you a little hope, no one needs to understand you, you dont have to try to be understood. Even when someone says they understand, they may to some degree, but its mostly politeness based on their own understanding and experiences of suffering. No one can really understand you when it comes to the details and subtleties of your experiences that make you suffer, but its oke, sometimes when you cannot get full understanding, you at least can receive someones willingness to understand you. And yes, dont throw yourself blindly at someone who takes the slightest effort. The best understanding you can get, is coming to the point of understanding your own pain, acknowledge the reasons for your pain, giving yourself permission for suffering as you have, and then you just sit and be with that pain in sillence and solitude. You can do that and be there for you like no one can. It really is possible to overcome, no matter the details of your suffering. Just sit, close your eyes if you must, but just feel what you feel and understand where it comes from, allow it and smile to it and acknowledge you understand. You dont have to understand in detail, dig deep and force yourself to remember some lost puzzle piece detail that makes everything logical and that makes your pain go away like magic, that menory may never come, you dont need it also. Just you have to understand your pain by looking at it and understand where it comes from in general, not detail, you’ll never need someone else to understand. You know what you’ve experienced, that makes you the perfect person to give understanding. Thank you Thich, thank you for helping me.

    • @lordbyron3603
      @lordbyron3603 Před 3 lety

      I went through a similar insight a month ago.

    • @goognamgoognw6637
      @goognamgoognw6637 Před 2 lety +4

      Thanks for your effort to help others, you have been read. I understand.

    • @denniskatinas
      @denniskatinas Před 2 lety +1

      @@goognamgoognw6637 Thank you, I appreciate you and your response. All best to you.

    • @goognamgoognw6637
      @goognamgoognw6637 Před 2 lety

      @@denniskatinas You are welcome and thanks for that too.

    • @440SPN
      @440SPN Před 2 lety

      Beautifully put.

  • @sharonlujan9497
    @sharonlujan9497 Před 2 lety +2

    my dad was a loving father to us 3 kids an it broke our hearts when mom divorced him,

  • @freyasmith9588
    @freyasmith9588 Před 3 lety +63

    Many families, many lineages; lost, confused roots... must weave new stories together. Yes, help parents.🌀🌸

    • @kr1221E
      @kr1221E Před 3 lety +4

      My remaining parent my mother, would not trust me to help her, my sisters and brothers help her.

    • @shiverarts8284
      @shiverarts8284 Před 2 lety +5

      The planet is one big weave. Our patterns, our roots.

    • @jaxymama
      @jaxymama Před 2 lety +1

      Is it safe to help parents if they are so hungry themselves they hurt you when they get a chance? How do you heal your roots if you have narcissistic parents and you keep getting reinjured when you reach out to them?

    • @freyasmith9588
      @freyasmith9588 Před 2 lety +1

      @@jaxymama Connecting with siblings, allies and friends to help get through the tougher moments is crucial when working with family where there are unresolved issues. Healing roots is coming to terms with the realities, acceptance, making decisions with "bodhicitta" and being able to voice clearly without reacting the basics necessary to keep family safe. One must be willing to give up family to help family. Such a tough process sometimes; know you are most certainly not alone.

    • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
      @melliecrann-gaoth4789 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@jaxymamathat is an excellent question. You must give yourself plenty of compassion and make yourself stronger with self compassion and self care. That way you may learn with peace and integrity that the path for you in life and the way to help the parents who harmed us to separate with awareness that what was wrong is wrong and that abuse is abuse. That way firstly the truth is honoured. To leave a peaceful, self respectful, truthful life, you may only share your truths with very few but always with yourself. This is helpful to heal the generations. The ancestors are the part of the generations past, you are present and whatever children may be born in this generation can get to experience the healing. And for your parents it may mean the best generational healing you can be part of us to be very, very separate from them.

  • @mariammimi3563
    @mariammimi3563 Před 3 lety +11

    Thanks for uploading such a wonderful video. The wisdom in this video is priceless. I just watched Thich expose the root cause of my life's problem. I am a hungry ghost. It's sad but true.

  • @heonieluvr6781
    @heonieluvr6781 Před 2 lety +3

    Interesting. A few months ago, I was doing some work on the connections between my childhood and chronic physical pain. I had been struggling to work through one incident in particular when I realised I had been focusing on my present day anger against my mother all those years. I turned my attention to terrified nine year old me and in my mind's eye went to that child and took her in my arms to protect and love her and my present day physical pain has decreased so much since then. Since then, I tell myself every night, "I am safe. I am supported." Only a few weeks ago, I found Thay and I am so, so grateful for this community.

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  • @starboi1017
    @starboi1017 Před 3 lety +6

    True , not everyone is able to transmit the jewel of love and nourishment, even though physically we carry an Ancestral lineage. However, at the core all of Earth is one. Every person ,plant, animals , everything is simply one giant energetic force.

  • @mortalclown3812
    @mortalclown3812 Před 3 lety +16

    Our tribes of choice are sacred ones where all kinds of healing can occur - even ancestral wounds that seemed permanent. Thich Nhat Hanh's wisdom crosses all unnatural boundaries and reaches into the truth of humanity. I've loved his gentle brilliance for decades on life's path and am grateful for this post especially, in addition to his books. I think Jesus and he would have a lot to talk about. Pax et lux. ♡○☆

    • @MinnesotanMysticism
      @MinnesotanMysticism Před 2 lety

      I think Jesus would have a great time talk to many zen monks, he’s have much to talk about, I’d love to hear those conversations

  • @jeanettem8304
    @jeanettem8304 Před 2 lety +2

    It has taken me a lifetime to embrace this reality - intergenerational trauma and forgiveness.

    • @Eric-tj3tg
      @Eric-tj3tg Před rokem

      It seems that for me, this will take many lifetimes. Childhood maltreatment really does a number on us; it definitely did on me. Mindfulness was a wake-up call, but then I was overwhelmed with what I was experiencing and understanding was my experience. It's very hard to stop running from self, and yet there's nowhere to go. I don't think everybody makes it, and I can understand that. Wish I had a Sangha, but feel so absolutely lost (hungry ghost is me), that I don't feel I belong anywhere on this great ball of life. It's really heartbreaking. Much of the intellectual knowledge is useful at times, but more often, it's simply infuriating that I cannot seem to break through.

  • @kantia.natali
    @kantia.natali Před 3 lety +24

    Some people are just wired differently, maybe their physiology or something.. bcs it doesn’t matter how much love and sacrifice you do for them, it’s not going to be enough. They’ll continue to spread hurt and sorrow everywhere. In these cases, I believe we need to cut ourselves some slack and move on with our own lives. Bcs being near them is just too toxic and painful 💔

    • @akakonoha
      @akakonoha Před 3 lety +3

      Very true 👌🏽 there's nothing else you can do. If you're lucky to be able to get away, be truly grateful.

    • @lordbyron3603
      @lordbyron3603 Před 3 lety +1

      Agree 1000% ! Run from them! They are ultimately responsible for themselves not you. And You are ultimately responsible for yourself,

    • @akakonoha
      @akakonoha Před 3 lety +1

      @@PersisP very wise words....👍🏾

    • @sydneycohn6455
      @sydneycohn6455 Před 3 lety +3

      I have a sister who has never been satisfied with the love, attention, and ultimate efforts of our parents to care for us. She recently estranged herself from them, causing great pain to everyone. It's hard to watch because our parents are good people, who have been so kind to us both. But she just cannot see this. I'm sure she is suffering a lot through her views. I'm sure her feelings are valid with the perspective she has. Our parents did not abuse her verbally, physically, or emotionally. But her expectations of them are sky high. I hope she comes to realize the kindness of their efforts.

    • @dan-andreivasilescu228
      @dan-andreivasilescu228 Před 3 lety +1

      Totally agree! The best way is keeping distance and clear boundaries without getting immersed into their victimhood.

  • @rushiaskinnerwallace6175
    @rushiaskinnerwallace6175 Před 2 lety +9

    What an incredible teaching from such a beautiful human being. 🙏🏼❤️

  • @bigfootzen8948
    @bigfootzen8948 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you for sharing this teaching. As a 'hungry ghost' myself, it resonated with me greatly and is helpful in my journey.

  • @themmydiedrichs8107
    @themmydiedrichs8107 Před rokem +2

    I am one and grew up in a house of hungry ghosts. Pray and vigil 24/07. Not easy task as the dark hole needs to be fulfilled by God's grace and it is upon each individual to chose light and call for help. Sat Nam🙏🏾🧘🏾‍♀️

  • @danyellerobinson5940
    @danyellerobinson5940 Před 3 lety +59

    This is why we should all know our ancestry. It helps to know who we are.

    • @lorinapetranova2607
      @lorinapetranova2607 Před 2 lety +4

      A lot of adopted people don't have the luxury of knowing their roots or even medical family history. Unless you find your birth people but even then, it can be difficult to get answers especially if you can find only one parent. Or maybe people are edgy about knowing the new relative. And you have to be respectful. You can't just body slam folks with what you might be craving to know. Discernment.

    • @hughslevin7120
      @hughslevin7120 Před 2 lety +2

      Lots of people Don't know who they are in that they don't know there blood This does not mean that they will become hungry ghosts Far from it

  • @kimtaylor9096
    @kimtaylor9096 Před 3 lety +29

    Love and compassion, understsnding for all. So much love and respect, I feel for Thay
    Thank you for sharing these teachings. 🙏

  • @pallas1560
    @pallas1560 Před 2 lety +2

    Abandoned by father and rejected by mother when she remarried. I have no family to share with my daughter and everyday the guilt I carry from not being able to provide her with a sense of belonging to a family is excruciating. I don’t know what or how to teach her she is ok with out family. This part of me is hungry ghost and it has stifled my own life to the point where I don’t know how to even have friends or connect with people, I am afraid to trust anyone, and fear this is what I have unconsciously passed down to my daughter.

  • @susan1302
    @susan1302 Před 3 lety +6

    So many of us are like this now....

  • @LINZpassionzandtravelz
    @LINZpassionzandtravelz Před 2 lety +9

    Understanding my Ancestors, particularly my Maternal line has helped me to understand myself and allowed more compassion to flower - I am forever grateful for the way in which you bring deep understanding to the Buddha's Teachings. Yes we must journey into the past in order to make the present moment and future brighter. Thank you Thay 🙏

    • @plumvillageapp
      @plumvillageapp  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you, dear Lynette 🙏.
      A lotus for you,
      The Plum Village App team
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  • @Bharatbroadcastingaajtak3210

    Omm mani padme Hoom ☸️📿🌹🙏🙏🙏

  • @persistentviolinnoob126
    @persistentviolinnoob126 Před 3 lety +29

    Thank you very much for uploading this wonderful teaching.

  • @veganphilosopher1975
    @veganphilosopher1975 Před 2 lety +3

    I feel proud to know I got to occupy the world at the same time as Thay

  • @SansAI0
    @SansAI0 Před 2 lety +3

    So much wisdom, released to the planet and beyond. On his day of freedom, the Blue Buddha came to me. Healing and Love is. i am free.

  • @akinorev1198
    @akinorev1198 Před 3 lety +15

    Thank you for these wise words.. I meet hungry ghosts often and this helped me in a new point of view. 🙏

  • @charlywalter2195
    @charlywalter2195 Před 2 lety +1

    Der Geist in Bewegung ist immer hungrig ,schafft Frieden im Geist dann wirds langsamer -

  • @k8eekatt
    @k8eekatt Před 2 lety +2

    Precious Thay 💗 now you are the cloud. Sail on dear one. Thank you.

  • @jochandler1180
    @jochandler1180 Před 2 hodinami

    Beautiful wonderful teaching, delivered with such love… my teacher… such gratitude that my teacher appeared when I was ready…. 🙏🪷

  • @colleendeane7888
    @colleendeane7888 Před 3 lety +41

    Thank u Thay for teaching how we inherit our parents sins. May we not pass them on to our children

    • @slimshany4602
      @slimshany4602 Před 3 lety +4

      Please, don't call it sins.

    • @colleendeane7888
      @colleendeane7888 Před 3 lety +3

      @@slimshany4602 yes it is a hard word which Thay wouldn't use. What can I say?

    • @truth8307
      @truth8307 Před 3 lety +2

      It's not sins. Your parents may be wrong but you should not, otherwise you set a bad example to your children to follow. Check the 8 conditions of the Noble 8 Fold Path.

    • @pibbles9
      @pibbles9 Před 3 lety +3

      We may ‘inherit’ our parent’s pain/endured traumas. I can only speak for myself but seeing it this way has helped me be more compassionate towards them; they couldn’t be there for me the way I needed them to.

    • @truth8307
      @truth8307 Před 3 lety +1

      @@pibbles9 yes, according to Chinese culture, if your parents or ancestors did something too wrongly or bad, it can be carried to their descendants but not forever, so make sure when we are parents now, we don't make mistakes that will cause our children or grandchildren to suffer. I call this the effects of karma. The Buddha taught nothing is permanent and we can do good karma to make changes.

  • @urmila16
    @urmila16 Před 2 lety +1

    Most moving. Tai. You have helped me sow compassion in my heart.

  • @paullim695
    @paullim695 Před 3 lety +8

    A very loviing way to tell us why these hungry ghost existed and why the are like that. Thank you for this video. Beautiful yet painful.

  • @dkipu266
    @dkipu266 Před 3 lety +8

    Such a gem...the enlightened are core resources for our world. Leaving a dharma retreat, I’m never hungry for anything,.

  • @jadesaddess
    @jadesaddess Před 2 lety +1

    I have no connection to my family because they want me to suffer. I worked hard for love and good life. Me an my son are deeply connected to ancestors and my ancestors and guides brought me to you. 🙏💓 I know you have passed but I know you are right here. I love to imagine you with my beloved kiki cat. We just lost her but imagining her happy with you and my ancestors makes me feel so much gratitude. When we let her go I kept hearing mya Angelou say "don't say sorry. Say I love you And ty so much for what you have brought to my son's life and my life " so that is what I did. Ty for all you do for us and for all you continue to do in spirit great teacher!

  • @radhakrishna1845
    @radhakrishna1845 Před 2 lety +1

    Through... Mindfulness..
    Going.. Back.. To.. Source..
    🙏💕.........

  • @juicyjesstv
    @juicyjesstv Před 3 lety +6

    I was this person... and the biggest thing is my relationship with myself. It has changed me so much.

    • @enriquevasquez9600
      @enriquevasquez9600 Před 3 lety

      How have you been dear friend? Want to know about this extraordinary story of your life.

  • @pattygregory2596
    @pattygregory2596 Před 3 lety +13

    Your teachings are a blessing, your videos I think of as wise and loving parents

  • @Viidih
    @Viidih Před 3 lety +65

    I think I am a hungry ghost....now I should know a cure...🤍

    • @sixthsenseamelia4695
      @sixthsenseamelia4695 Před 3 lety +21

      I think that I am as well. I'm so happy to have heard kind words & an explanation that resonates in my heart. Now I can learn. I don't feel as sad now. 💖

    • @dbg0206091
      @dbg0206091 Před 3 lety +16

      I'm healing from severe abuse as a child and PTSD. I practice looking deeply and the guided meditations from the app everyday. Feeling that I am part of a Sangha & the Plum Village community is how these teachings were truly able to become incorporated in my everyday life. The Plum Village website has a page where you can join the monastics for live practice sessions ( plumvillage.org/live/ ) and a page for finding a local sangha ( plumvillage.org/about/international-sangha-directory/ ). If I can help with any book recommendations, practices tips, or any question you may have, please ask.

    • @lindaharrison1847
      @lindaharrison1847 Před 3 lety +9

      Agreement. And finally an answer to core issue through this teaching is hopeful. Grateful for these gems. Grace. Thank you all.

    • @danutashayler34
      @danutashayler34 Před 3 lety +8

      The cure is not instant unfortunately. It takes time and with understanding and love it happen. You are already
      half way. With love.

    • @Viidih
      @Viidih Před 3 lety +3

      @@danutashayler34 yes I understand. Sudden clash of understanding but still I must walk on the path every day. Thank you for your reminder!!🤍

  • @truth8307
    @truth8307 Před 3 lety +3

    It's so true. I see many Asians have a miserable life and family break up especially with their parents and siblings when they are forced or influenced by their spouses to convert religion when they are married.

  • @OzRabten
    @OzRabten Před 2 lety +1

    We are very fortunate to live at a time of a Buddha. Namaskar Guruji 🙏 Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏

  • @jyotivyas9286
    @jyotivyas9286 Před 2 lety +2

    Very True and Very Strange 🙏🏻🕉️🏹✌🏼 Thank you Respected Thich 🔥🙏🏻🕉️ Hari Om Tatsatt 🙏🏻🕉️🙏🏻

  • @user-id3ng2ol9q
    @user-id3ng2ol9q Před 3 měsíci

    Timeless wisdom. Practical wisdom Healing wisdom
    Thank you Thay

  • @lorievanson
    @lorievanson Před 2 lety +3

    This is so beautiful.

  • @america9704
    @america9704 Před 3 lety +5

    HALLELUJAH!!! BEST EXPLANATION I'VE EVER HEARD! From your #1 hungry ghost🗽

  • @NikoHL
    @NikoHL Před 9 měsíci

    This simple Buddhist Monk is a great teacher. I love to listen to these presentations. They have really helped me. Thank you Thay.

  • @PVandana99
    @PVandana99 Před 2 lety +5

    Thank you Guruji for this uploading this amazing video. ... you are a torch bearer for all forms of life 🙏🙏🙏

  • @mcouragee
    @mcouragee Před 3 lety +11

    So beautiful

  • @somipax
    @somipax Před 3 lety +9

    I needed to watch this. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏

  • @LoveAlwaysAlwaysLove
    @LoveAlwaysAlwaysLove Před 3 lety +18

    Cannot these hungry ones be placed in Sacred Light Chambers, Spiritually created in united meditations where they may obtain the Loving cleansing required for them to grow and know peace with their previously forgotten inner child? Let's all perhaps consider bathing our world and all within it, in Spirit or in the physical with our Creator's Divine LoveLight✨💫✨
    Blessings of Love✨unto Everyone✨ Everywhere✨🎆✨🕉✨🎆✨🕉✨🎆✨

    • @sixthsenseamelia4695
      @sixthsenseamelia4695 Před 3 lety +5

      ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
      🌏🦋🌱☮️🕯️🙏

    • @LoveAlwaysAlwaysLove
      @LoveAlwaysAlwaysLove Před 3 lety +2

      @@SamathaSharma
      Yes. Spiritual practices are practical combined with loving one another on earth as well.✨💫✨🕉✨💫✨

    • @truth8307
      @truth8307 Před 3 lety

      What creator is that ? Don't believe in a creator god religion that used love as a smokescreen.

  • @AislanBezerra
    @AislanBezerra Před rokem

    All teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh is a true gem of Buddhism. This is a beautiful way to help hungry ghosts. Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @kalpanakapadia213
    @kalpanakapadia213 Před 2 lety +1

    My husband went through this.
    His mother disconnected him from his roots completely and he could never connect himself with anything in life.
    Even after having a wife and a sweet child he still went into Depression.
    He always had a very low esteem
    He could never even explain that.
    I felt very pity for him but we also suffered because of that.After loving him so much I could never gain his trust.
    I felt so worthless and meaningless and could not see him suffer .If anyone could heal him I would have been so thankful n grateful.
    🙏🙏🙏🙏
    If you are healing people like the hungry ghosts you are doing the most needed job ever.God has gifted you to this planet.
    You are like God to earth.
    Hatsoff 👍👍

    • @plumvillageapp
      @plumvillageapp  Před 2 lety

      Thank you for sharing your experience, dear Kalpana 🙏

  • @semmoursnoussi9159
    @semmoursnoussi9159 Před 3 lety +5

    This teaching is so touching! I cried when I listened to it! Thank you Master Hanh !

  • @Bianca-ha369
    @Bianca-ha369 Před 3 lety +6

    Thank YOU so much for your words and Love and compassion...💚

  • @vandanarao8235
    @vandanarao8235 Před 3 lety +14

    So informative,needs to watch it again to comprehend it

  • @CanadianBear47
    @CanadianBear47 Před rokem

    Thank you

  • @MM-vv8mt
    @MM-vv8mt Před 3 lety +13

    My prayers of joy and love to the Sangha! We are all so blessed to have learned of the Three Jewels before we died so that we can practice ending the cycle of suffering within ourselves and in others. Peace and Love to Thay and to all of our Brothers and Sisters! Blessed be the Buddha and all on the Bodi path!

  • @Kmcheuk
    @Kmcheuk Před 2 lety +5

    So much wisdom and thank you for sharing this. It’s not just the words but I could feel the deep spiritual wisdom energy in this talk.
    I think he could’ve explained further in the breath exercise over accepting all parts of our 5 year old self (eg, angry, resentful, wounded… etc) … which I think he implied these parts by saying vulnerable 5 year old. My experience with this practice though is that I needed to practice that love to my own lil 5 year old for a good year or two before having the greater capacity to extend this same compassion to people / communities who hurt me … and what he didn’t say is that it’s totally ok. Keep the distance in the mean time so we don’t hurt one another out of default hurtful patterns in mean time. Keep the understanding but also keep the boundary. 2 weeks of self love and extending that compassion to the lil 5 year old is just the start … it’s a life long thing we continue to extend to ourselves (especially the parts within us the society / judgmental self put judgment on such as anger, pain, etc) … and for some of us, we will need to be staying in this practice longer before extending to those who hurt us or we risk not having our own 5 year old not seen and re injuring ourselves by abandoning our own 5 year old who might still be hurt. It’s not a race to love someone who hurt you quickly. When we pre maturingly give compassion to those who hurt us, we could end up hurting both of us long term. I wish someone spelled this part for me rather than I love through trial and error to find out.

    • @mashkin85
      @mashkin85 Před 2 lety +4

      Thank you for saying this. I was unsure if “give them love and compassion” meant merely accepting all the bad things made by the psychopathic family member and letting them continue hurting the others… My question was - should I understand love and compassion as a command to silently feed myself to the psychopath, agreeing with all the evil that they do? That’s exactly what every psychopathic person wants. Like, where is the balance of protecting my 5 year old self and accepting their 5 year old? If distance and help through other family members is OK, then I am OK with that and I feel like I am no longer angry. Still soooo soooo tricky for me though.

    • @Kmcheuk
      @Kmcheuk Před 2 lety +1

      @@mashkin85 maybe the focus then needs to be our 5year old self rather than trying to accept their 5 year old?
      Accepting our burned young parts is the labor needed to build the container and capacity for loving others. It’s like building the house where loving and accepting and caring ourselves is the foundation … while loving others (particularly those who hurt us) is really the roof. If we keep focusing on building a nice roof without a strong foundation, our house crumble … just like we see many humans crumble these days.
      The culture put so much emphasis over forgiveness to others who hurt us as a virtue, a prize to earn praise by society and to meet the idealized self society wants. And the root of this emphasis is genuine because we don’t want people going around and destroy one another. Just that with boundaries, we don’t go around and destroy one another AND we have the space we need to care for the painful, burnt part. And we can be real and authentic towards ourselves… authenticity to ourselves is the necessary ingredient for self healing.
      Gurus out there need to spell these out more… took me 15 years studying this and I’m still figuring it out a pathway that works for average being like myself.

    • @mashkin85
      @mashkin85 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Kmcheuk Thanks a lot for your reply! So much to live with and think about.

  • @anamaria-zo5ym
    @anamaria-zo5ym Před 3 lety +4

    Amazing!!! Thank you.Thank you.Thank you! Wowwww🌹🙏🙏

  • @carolinaboubee4044
    @carolinaboubee4044 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks so much for your teaching.

  • @kekabanerjee4827
    @kekabanerjee4827 Před 3 lety +7

    What an insightful message from our beloved Thay awesome in one word. 🙏🌷👌🏻🙏

  • @juliawright8469
    @juliawright8469 Před 2 lety +1

    This truth was so utterly healing that I caught my breath - and had to breath in and out. The thought came to me for all it is worth that we have had ancestors who were hungry ghosts and passed the seeds of it down to us to weed out gently in our inner garden.
    Thay's thoughts here open up on so much. I cried for all those inner children but also smiled to them🦋🦋. Thank you Thay.

  • @ANAHATAJADE
    @ANAHATAJADE Před 3 lety +5

    13:31 Meditation - Hungry Ghost - I value this information.

  • @abrahamhempel9260
    @abrahamhempel9260 Před 2 lety +1

    A very powerful meditation on our common humanity.

  • @carograce4111
    @carograce4111 Před 3 lety +3

    Very nourishing
    So So beautiful
    Bless your Kind & Excellent Heart

  • @DG-sl3ev
    @DG-sl3ev Před 3 lety +10

    Thank you so much! ✨🙏✨

  • @LittleMissKatrinaa
    @LittleMissKatrinaa Před 2 lety +2

    Thankyou for this beautiful teaching 🙏❤

  • @jswootheblackscreen
    @jswootheblackscreen Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you for the clear and precious teaching 🙏🙏🙏

  • @medeamaterial
    @medeamaterial Před 2 lety +1

    thank you. as a hungry ghost I can see that blood we spill with fellow warriors is thicker than that of the womb. Us fighters, us ghosts, we are family and we are home.

  • @aratneerg1375
    @aratneerg1375 Před 3 lety +5

    Not sure why somebody would laugh in the audience when he is speaking about the 5 year old in our father. Its so important. My brother asked my dad about things he did when he was really young. He came to life. A brilliant meditation for everyone. Never forget our inner child and their vulnerability.

    • @onnion63
      @onnion63 Před 3 lety +4

      No inferior no superior - free from judgments . The real dharma he is transmitting .Maybe the person who laughed has some seed from childhood they have not dealt with and a laugh is not comical but nervous

    • @seanbowerman1822
      @seanbowerman1822 Před 2 lety +1

      Sometimes laughter perceived to be inappropriate is the manifestation of a mind disturbed unexpectedly💖

  • @political-social
    @political-social Před 2 lety

    World leaders like him, would change the world, all existence and all life. What a great world it would be!

  • @als07369
    @als07369 Před 2 lety +2

    What a amazing speech I ever listen 🙏♥️

    • @pauljung3534
      @pauljung3534 Před 2 lety

      "From raging dark clouds ... there opens the sky, the sun, and salvation." ~ Our Deliverance

  • @jkelly5957
    @jkelly5957 Před 3 lety +13

    Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter more than Peers
    A book by: Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté

    • @heikevoigt7825
      @heikevoigt7825 Před 3 lety

      I love Gabor Mate, he is a wonderful person.🌞

  • @yanicklajoie6237
    @yanicklajoie6237 Před 3 lety +3

    Merci Beaucoup!