EMDR Self Administered
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- EMDR Self Administered: 3 Snags and How to Overcome Them.
There are 3 common problems that interrupt EMDR processing. This video discusses the solutions to these problems, so your self-administered EMDR can be more effective. These are the same snags that can come up when working with an EMDR therapist. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing is a highly effective form of therapy, and many people are finding that self administered EMDR helps them considerably. Barbara Heffernan, life coach and EMDR Approved Consultant, provides actionable steps to be able to process difficult events more effectively. Barbara is also an affiliate of Virtual EMDR, an online program that provides step-by-step guidance for doing emdr either by yourself or with coaches you can access through the site.
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The connection between flooding and avoidance makes perfect sense
Thank you for the link to the virtual EMDR tool. I've signed up for the 3 days free and have done one session with notable positive results. It is so difficult for me in my area to find a therapist that I can afford. I know that with C-PTSD I should be guided by a qualified therapist. I'm going to use the self-guided service for less traumatic things to help me start to feel lighter and brighter. I've also downloaded that worksheet you mentioned. Without the generosity of all you online therapists, people like me would be doomed to darkness. Bless you!
🙋🏾♀ Hi, a year later! Would you by any chance be able to say if that service helped you even just with the lighter things?
I have no words other than thank you!🙏🏾 The journey to mental wellness is a harrowing experience, and I’m grateful to the light workers who give this information freely!
You are very welcome. I do hope this is helpful! Wishing you health and healing!
Got it…difference between avoidance and flooding. Makes sense.
Great!
This makes a lot of sense. I completed emdr with a therapist and since then have remembered more blocked memories and I get stuck in flashback loops currently so it's a great thing to know about and know I'm normal... lol going to try the movie technique you mention.
Thank you. I do agree with the "flooding and avoidance". I just started working with a therapist and we're going to do the EDMR together. I'm just doing some research and how I can make my sessions better. Also he told me about the tapping, that I could do at home. I do chakra tones and I believe that that all ties in together. I'm watching a couple of the EMDR videos I noticed that there were
different hertz tones that go from ear to ear and I find that interesting.
Would you like to share those videos ?
Thank You, I've saved this video for futute reference for when I'm doing EMDR alone N=and need immediate solutions that I feel cannot wait until I see my Psych next.
You are a blessing for helping those who cannot see a professional. I need this so I'll be watching all your videos ❤ thank you
One of my favorite ways to get a different perspective when looping is asking: how does god see this/see me in this? Happy healing everyone 🤍
Thats a terrific reframe!
Thank you so much, you've made a topic I was not clear on into clear, comfortable, compressive manner for me. Thanks Barbara. I'm also interested in self-administering.
So glad the video was helpful! (I'm releasing a related one tomorrow as well 😀)
Thank you. This is a clear, well presented and concise video. I've subscribed and look forward to learning more. I instantly felt comfortable with the way you've presented yourself, your qualifications and your subject.
I’m just learning about this. I never heard about emdr until yesterday.
Thank you for sharing this information and making EMDR accessible to all - it is so lovely that you are doing that!!
You are so welcome!
🎉😢🎉@@BarbaraHeffernan
Thank you so much for takking in details about the psychological symptoms and would check out your recommendations
Thank you God for Barbara
Thank you so much Barbara!
You are so welcome!
Was thumbing through you tube. Seen this video. I haven’t commented, or watched a video from you in away. I felt like I needed to say thank you for what you do. I’m doing better. I have been exposing my thoughts to the fears Exposure therapy is work. Was at the chiropractor this morning, the place reminded my Brain of the car accident, I felt faint, and shaky etc. I don’t like those feelings. PTSD is no fun. Your videos were a big comforter. Thank You.
I have same kinda situation, how did you go through it?
@@leanlopezduran3124 Hello I’ve been dealing with this for three years. And you have to think about your thinking and realize that your emotions are attached to your thoughts. I have panic attacks while driving. I’m not going to stop driving. They’re just emotions and when you realize that their emotions you now have a choice, to stay, Calm or not. It isn’t easy It’s going to take some work. Chewing mint gum helps. Breathing sometimes helps. Think about thinking… stay calm , tomorrow is a new day. 😁
Thank you 🙏 so glad I found your channel!
You are so welcome!
Great. Thank you very much for your presence here. Wishing you happiness and joy
Thank you for your beautiful wishes :). So glad you enjoy the channel!
Yes I do. I learn from your channel. You explain everything nicely. Wishing you happiness.
This is so helpful as someone who is trying to do self-administered EMDR. I have a wonderful therapist, however the practice will not pay for her to become EMDR certified. I can't afford to do much more than I already spend on meds, therapy, and other doctor's visits. I really attribute all my looping, shame and self-hatred ("I'm disgusting", yep, that's how I feel about myself) to the insomnia I've had for 8 years due to very traumatic events in 2013. I do the movie excercise and know I would be heartbroken to hear anyone, let alone a loved one, speak about themselves that way. I'm seeing a sleep specialist next week and hope to get to the bottom of this to finally heal from all this and love myself and forgive myself.
I wish you health and healing! So wonderful that you are putting in the effort to heal.
I went to therapy for help with anxiety due to the extended lockdown. She wanted to do trauma work on something unrelated. She unlocked a childhood event that i had locked away or put in the past. It’s brought it to the forefront and i cant shake the guilt. Flooded on a daily basis. She lacked any real coping skills to help me heal my guilt. I’m reluctant to return to therapy. Now I am left with memories of guilt and shame. I feel traumatized by her version of therapy.
Praying for both of your situations 🙏
“Come to me all who are weary and heavy burdened and I will give you rest.”
Loving caring words from Jesus recorded in the book of Matthew (in the Bible) ❤️🙏🕊
Excellent presentation and material. Thank you
You're very welcome!
I began therapy in January of this year and I've just recently learned about this process. I didn't realize that I was holding on to traumatic issues, experiences from different ages in my life. I want to thank you because I'm going to try this. I just need you to know from me personally that I appreciate you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to let me know! I hope the therapy and EMDR is super helpful for you! Wishing you health and healing :)
Thank you! This is super helpful and appreciated💜💜
You're so welcome! Thanks for letting me know! 😀
Thank you! Very useful 😊
Interesting thoughts. I'm not especially interested in self-administered, but local EMDR therapists are few and far between. My gut reaction is that even with a therapist, this might be better done in an in-person setting.
As someone with lifelong heritable fight/flight/freeze issues, I recognized the snags immediately. Flooding, in general, I think is more associated for me with AuDHD emotional dysregulation (i.e., big emotions) than fight or flight; the latter can happen, but when it does I am in meltdown. Flooding occurs frequently for me, and can absolutely happen without true fight or flight, though I have judged that my overactive adrenals do come into play. A weak PFC is a more consistent factor, though. Dopamine helps.
I would agree that avoidance is a freeze behavior, but I'm not sure it presents in me as numbness. More of it is probably a deer in headlights/panic response, which is the physiological freeze seen in animals. (Numbness is perhaps closer to fawn in some ways.) I agree, looping is probably the hardest thing to get past, especially for neurodivergent people, in part because of the way autistic brains process data. The movie technique is the one I grasped immediately, and I think is most practical for my neurology. I like crafting a story with a beginning, middle and end; this is similar to how autistic people process and plan. "It's over now," to me, is an unnecessary and even undesirable addition, in part because for autistic people many things are never over. The resolution I would craft would be a happy fiction, which I think might nonetheless be a good strategy. That is one thing I've debated with regard to EMDR: if I can train my brain not to respond badly to associative triggers that create behavioral loops, that would help immensely. If it's only effective with core issues that are no longer likely to happen, that would be harder to use. Which leads me to the next para:
After listening to this, I'm undecided if the EMDR you describe is a good fit for me or not. My understanding, from discussions by other neurodivergent people, is that it is largely focused on the bilateral eye movements as a way to allow your CNS to desensitize to cPTSD triggers directly. Your "core beliefs" description gave me pause, because that's basically CBT, which is often poorly suited for people on the spectrum. Can I ask a blunt question? Are core beliefs, and replacing wrong ideas with right ones, a standard part of the original EMDR process, or has the therapy been adapted to incorporate standard therapeutic approaches, on the theory that adding "cognitive distortion" techniques could only make it better? For me and others like me, I'm not sure that's true.
Thank you for this video.
You are welcome!
just found you and you are helpful all ready to me you explain things very easy and you dont speak down to people, im in red alert or fight or flight with tinnitus and help on this, would be fantastic not just for me but for many people im sure,, keep safe and thank you for your time.
I'm so pleased my channel has been helpful! I am not an expert in tinnitus, though lowering stress and anxiety can only help - so hopefully my videos on anxiety, meditation and stress reduction can help a bit.
hi im also locked in a high stress fight or flight, from a trauma life. did anything help you? im 17 and just want to a feel like a relaxed teenager
That was very helpful for me, thank you very much!
You're verywelcome!
Let me know: Does the connection between flooding and avoidance make sense to you?
The difference is very clear; thanks a lot for making this video.
Is what you call "avoidance", the 'flight' part within the experience of hypERarousal?
Is what you call "looping", the 'freeze' part within the experience of hypOarousal?
Because I see you working with the Window of Tolerance here.
How do you deal with a numb, depressed, frozen state of hypoarousal?
Is hypoarousal, a consequence of hyperarousal peaking to a point of overwhelm, at which point we (decide to) 'step' on it?
How does one move from hypOarousal to a trauma-activated (WoT) state in a controlled way?
So without snapping right into hypERarousal, as seems to be so common with trauma.
... and sometimes even exceeding the available containment. (retraumatization?)
@@SuspiriaX for me I go to flooding and at a certain saturation avoidance shuts everything down. Like walks in, says okay enough of this bs and literally flicks switches off and I am calm and cool as a cucumber. A spaced out non functional cucumber but cool :)
Absolutely agree with the numbness, I wonder how I can un-numb so that I can move past everything?
Very nice explained!
very helpful. Thank you.
barbara i just wanted to say thank u so damn much lol i've been frozen for six whole months, i haven't seen a psychologist but i am going to soon cus i can't handle it myself anymore. hearing a person describe my exact situation is kinda cathartic though cus it's jus been me in my own head. i can't think, i can't even move at this point cus my body tenses up with anxiety and whenever conflict arises i get stuck looping which is a new thing to me. i knew where i needed to go even in my thought processes but it is so hard to like. not internalise all of those irrational feelings and completely get out of the idea that you aren't safe in a really not that bad situation at all. it's that i can realise this too but it keeps grabbing ahold of me. but i've been looking into emdr with barely any knowledge - and it's some kind of coincidence that yr simultaneously describing every problem i'm having with my brain right now. i appreciate yr eloquence and deep explaining very awesome contribution to some of us i appreciate u
all of these snags are jus my daily life snags i wasn't even fully clear on so i think it's helpful either way to have some techniques to chill out now
I hope this helps, and it is definitely worth seeking out more help if needed!! Wishing you health and healing!
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It is very well explained, thank you.
So glad to hear that!
OMG you are so amazing! Thank you so much for your work to help humanity! This is the first time I found you..I am subscribing and giving you a like. Excellent video
well, thank you so much! And welcome to the channel!
Thank you!
You're welcome!
Thank you! It was very informative:)
You are welcome! Glad it was useful :)
Second question this recent trauma from domestic violence has triggered a lot of past traumas to come up yet I'm not really even processing the domestic violence trauma which was an assault. my life threatened with a knife that was interrupted so the guy left my house. it was all done in my kitchen and living room.
I just feel like I'm going through some weird stuff .... all the past is coming up all my hurts and traumas are coming up but the trauma of the assault from my intimate partner who I had broken up from, who stalked me and harassed me and threatened me and vandalized a lot of my property, broke into my home, them later assaulted me.... I have not really even begun to process that because all my past traumas have been flooding me for the past year and a half.
From what I read and see ....this is called complex PTSD?
I am seeing a counselor which was hard to even get a consistent therapy dates until now.
They are so booked up and the first two therapists were not effective or tuned into what I was going through they had their own agendas one trying to work on a distorted thoughts which was not the issue.
you have explained here looping....for me it is past traumas. This is all so complicated to unravel but I appreciate you being here to share it just helps so much to figure all this out.ty
Hi Barbara! Thanks for your helpful video. I would like to know if during the desensibilization, you have to remember the situation or scene every set of stimulation, again and again. Thanks for your help.
Hi: This is a slightly complicated question... but yes, pulling the situation-scene to mind is the basic instruction. However, the mind does wander and it is ok to sometimes keep processing with the new thought...
My mind and body has been in fight or flight mode for so long that I started going numb. I think I’ve been doing that loop thing. There is only so much that I can remember or am willing to talk about I guess. I am afraid to go get help from others because I don’t trust them. I show trust but deep inside I don’t trust because of gaslighting and being hyper aware, I think.
Oh my god thankyou so much for this video
You are very welcome!
Thanks a Million 😊🥰
You are welcome!!
thank you
Welcome! I hope it is helpful!
It makes sense to me
excellent
glad you liked it!
Hi Barbara, does emdr work for specific anxious thoughts in your opinion? Not trauma, but anxiety?
Can we do self administered EMDR for driving panick attack?
I want to ask one question. About processing stuff. In Somatic Expirience creating the more resilliance for stress in our nervous system is to first heal shock trauma if it is stuck and after that creating space for traumas created before. I had PTSD induced to relationship breakup. In modern psychology it is in its origin BPD. I had so many issues come up after that breakup. I work with my therapist. In my understanding EMDR works past, presence and future. In Somatic perspective it is the oposite in my case. I really feel that I should come bacn threw EMDR to that specific trauma that induced PTSD. And not to work only on my childhood. If I have a deep urge, and if its problem num1 in my life, ruminating, feeling freeze around it, would you sudgest that I should do that even speciffically, and after that past. Thank you
My safe place is the Shire (before the war of course) :) it's always soothed me for some reason. It works amazingly. Anyone else?
For CPTSD freeze types, where their reaction to trauma is one of emotional blunting. I never flood. I only get a few flashbacks, and few of those are strong. Sounds like I'm in avoidance. But I don't feel scared, or even anxious.
For me the polyvagal model is utter crap. I don't go through hyperarousal to get to freeze. I can go form normal Window of tolerance to light freeze directly, fully aware all the way. i can ease out of it the same way. One possibiliity is that I've spent my life in the lower part of WoT and slightly into hypo-arousal. Another is that I'm just weird. A third is that I am in a position where I can't judge.
Safe place exercise. Tried a mediation for that from the guy who pushes Ideal Parent Figure Protocol. Guilded meditation for that, I had to stop 5 minutes in. I found the concept of considering a safe place to be dangerous. This Voice was gaslighting me, trying to lure me into a state of complacency. Complacency is death.
EMDR so far has done nothing for me but get me bored. At this point I do not have a reliable trigger. Memories don't bother me. The holes where memories should be bother me.
Shoot...wish I'd watched this before I did an online self-administered EMDR video. Of all things, I'm a retired therapist who actually has EMDR (I) training so thought I didn't need this one. (Also did one EMDR session...though not very successfully...in person many years ago.) Too big for my own britches, I guess.
My training was years ago, and I rarely practiced it, so I'd forgotten most of the details...including these snags and how to handle them. Consequently, I got flooded during the video; kept thinking "maybe I should stop and take a break" but made myself continue since I know one can't get past memories without going through them; and, I kept thinking maybe it would get better if I just kept going. (Shouldn't have chosen a 10-min. one, though, I now realize.)
Basically, I didn't move through it at all; just stayed stuck...and came out feeling re-traumatized. Wondered if I should watch it again but quickly decided I couldn't bear any more and to watch your video instead. Now I have my answer, and I know what to do if/when I try it again, though I'm not sure I want to.
I also just now realized that the trauma I was processing (which was 5 yrs. ago) is very similar to one from childhood...60-some years ago. Well, duh...no wonder, lol. I just never made the connection till now. Not sure I want to try it again (online probably not the best choice) but if I do, I'll have a better grasp on what to do...especially knowing that it's OKAY TO STOP! Geez...maybe I'd better come out of retirement and repeat my training, lol. Might make my britches shrink to a more appropriate size. ;O) Thanks so much for this video! (Sorry so long.)
Hi Suzanne: Yes, self-administered can be quite tricky... I hope this is helpful and can help you decide how best to get help. And I don't think you're too big for your britches! It is something we all can fall into... I sometimes remind myself that a surgeon wouldn't do surgery on themselves! (Though they might want to!). WIshing you the best,
On the long road of Un-Effing myself from well intentioned but injurious therapy related to PTSD
My first self administered session was so successful I feel very encouraged. I have had sessions with qualified professionals prior but you know doo doo 💩 happens.
Your sessions with a therapist didn't work? I ask because I will be starting EMDR soon with a therapist. I'm watching video's like this one to learn everything I need to know because I'm tempted to do a lot of it at home self directed. Weekly sessions with a therapist may take the rest of my life to reprocess all of my traumas.
Hi Barbara, first of all, love your content. Great to hear how you talk about these things; the way you present information is very easy to understand and personal. Thanks!
I have a question for you if you've got the time. Right now I am pursuing a theory that in the summer of 2020 I accidentally gave myself EMDR by watching Reiki/ASMR CZcams videos. In an attempt to soothe myself through minor T trauma I was dealing with, I started watching a TON of videos where flashlights were repeatedly shined in my eyes and ASMRtists (love them to death but) had me track their finger back and forth on the screen for extended periods of time. Though I knew what EMDR was then, I have only just recently made the connection that this could be the reason I had an unprecedented psychosomatic episode that I understood to be an intense physical reaction coupled with halfway-resurfacing memories of big T trauma. When I went to the hospital seeking help, I was diagnosed with and treated for bipolar disorder and a weed addiction. I don't believe this was the care I needed, and it was an extremely frustrating process. I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm able to reassess what happened to me then and carve out a path forward. I guess my question would be -- have you heard of this happening? I'm finding a lot of videos now of pursue-at-your-own-risk at-home EDMR videos, but is oopsie daisy giving yourself EMDR and getting trapped in an incomplete process of it something that, like... happens to people? Would be so interested in hearing what you have to say. Thanks.
Best,
Erin
Hi Erin: Unfortunately, I can't give an opinion on something so important and complicated via social media! Wonderful that you are looking for answers!
Hi barbara, I did emdr self admined yesterday at night really trying to focus and feel my body sensations, I notice that during this, my body feels anxious then fades then comes back then fades. im trying to feel it to heal it tho.
But after I did it for Emdr self admined for 15 mins, my body or stomach or just my nervous system. Felt unusually calm and just "still". i just felt at peace. I wake up and gradually start to feel the jittery anxious and nervous with the difficulty of taking a deep breath.
i tried some vagus nerve excersises but then like 20-30 mins it went away and felt calmer then usual.
(keep in mind i have been struggling with fight or flight trauma state for 4 years) is it possible that mabye im shifting or something? what do you recommend for me to continue this momentum?
Hey, I tried it too. But not hers. I guess it has went unbelievably wrong for me. I need help. Can you help me out with it?
Any update you can share if you kept using EMDR? Thanks!
Hi Barbara,
I have a question for you,
I am sure you have the answer to that.
If you are going through a change and at that point you are changing your thought process which is not very easy but what I want to know is, since your old pattern of thinking is in your brain which was there for quite some time and now you are working to change that what's the right way or how can we make this process easy as you have made your beliefs on the old pattern and now it has become your thinking pattern .
I have been suffering from anxiety due to some thought patterns.
I am working on to change but with anxiety it becomes difficult at times to move on to new patterns.
Can you guide me how can I make this shift to new thought process in an easy way.
Your lecture on I Hate change ,has changed my opinion .
Now I am suffering with anxiety and adopting change.
Hi Rabia: There is no "easy" way to change thought patterns. It takes a lot of time and practice, and often outside help. Keep up the work and it sounds like you are on your way!!
Great content, sound is way low, have you thought of getting a boom mic? or lapel mic? or even a cardioid mic?
That's unfortunate! I haven't heard that from others... I wonder if you were able to try it on a different device? But maybe it is my video - I don't know!
I can hear well on minimum volume😃
Barbara - can you please post the link to the video you mentioned about how you know if you're ready for emdr? Thank you! - Katelyn
Hi Katelyn, Link is in the notes under the video! Enjoy!
@@BarbaraHeffernan thank you so much!!
Silly question maybe, but is it normal to be afraid of this process? And what will happen to me? Will I completely break down crying or potentially have a panic attack?
Helpful
Glad you think so!
Do you teach on YT how to do self EMDR please?
Hi I have a question about flooding. If we have been doing work to remain grounded in intense negative emotions, is it still necessary to step back when they come up? Ex: If I have been practicing holding space for my grief, sadness, or anger, and during an emdr session feel flooded with that emotion to the point of wanting to sob / scream, etc, but still feel present in expressing that emotion, is it okay to continue with the emdr or is it better to step back, and return once the emotion has subsided? I also feel that sometimes in waiting for an emotion to subside, I sometimes slip into avoidance instead of actually returning to a neutral state (and was actually more grounded / present when I was being present with the emotion). So I am curious if it is okay to be expressing / feeling intense emotions while doing the emdr. I hope that question makes sense, and obviously no pressure to answer. Thank you for this video! It is super helpful and informative.
Hi: First, I truly can't provide advice via social media - so your own judgement is most important. I will comment that in general, if people can stay present with their emotions, it can be helpful to keep processing. The main risk with flooding is if it leaves the person in a state where they have trouble functioning or feels too overwhelming. With EMDR, there can be a dance...
I am in the stage right now where I am learning about the process and trying to figure out whether emdr is right for me.. I grabbed the pdf but my biggest question is would this work on multiple core beliefs that you want to fix over several emdr sessions? Maybe jotting them ahead of time would be helpful for me so I can just basically throw them on the table so to speak so I am prepared to work on what's next.
EMDR can definitely work with multiple negative core beliefs... most people have 2-3...
9:00 There wasn’t an end. It continued. And it continues.
I'm not sure how to get to a "safe place" that isn't avoidance or detachment. Just being present in my body and in reality for me is overwhelmingly distressing due to YEARS of denying how poorly I handled myself after an upsetting event and finally understanding what that has cost me.
During my first experience with self administered EMDR it led me to strange places. Wow.
First to being 15 years old while I spent two months in a ward for troubled youth, I hadn't attended school in 8 months. It was like the 30 year old me was now watching myself, accessing those times again. While doing the EMDR I felt calm, but could say things like I feel so sad, I feel miserable for seeing my mom worried to tears and wanting to help, and pissed of for seeing my dad being so self-centered and oppressive, smearing all my difficulties I couldn't yet understand to my face, with the "you're no son of mine" attitude. I also realised that his actions are very much connected to his own unprocessed traumas, he has been in prison for killing a man in his alcoholic criminal youth. It has had deep impact on him, his behaviour has also affected me and my brother. I don't blame him, but I hope he would address those problems because they're still affecting him and have affected me as well.
From there the EMDR continued through my life phases until I found drawing and art. It was strange, I had felt calm during the EMDR, but now I started to feel anxious, while thinking about art!? How it had helped me through difficult times. How I had found my identity and connection with others by sharing what I had drawn, and how they thought it was cool. The anxiety probably has something to do with an artist's block I've had for the past three years, I've drank more during this time, probably to mask my sadness.
This whole experience left me puzzled in a good way. I'm definitely doing more self-administered EMDR and consider doing it with a professional. Wow.
How did you feel in your brain? Did you felt extreme tightness in your brain? Were you able to sleep peacefully? Did you felt after emdr if you think or different trauma it directly takes a shit in mind? Are you able to cry peacefully? Did your subconscious mind felt extremely cloudy because of this?
@@It.is.snehal I felt at peace afterwards, happy and puzzled by the impact it made. It has worked for me without any problems. I recommend to read a book about trauma to understand the topic well. The Body Keeps The Score was a great book. It's misunderstood and THEREFOR stigmatised topic. We people have all sorts of unprocessed matters (severe form is trauma) and fear it's a trauma. Then in attempt to convince ourselves that we are fine, we out of fear stigmatise things we don't fully understand. Alcohol addiction is like that as well. People like to think they're not addicted, when in reality everyone who drinks has some level of addiction. Stigmas only get in the way of understanding things fully.
@@actual_john_doe I tried it on myself and I've messed with my mind. I'm unable to recognise myself. And I don't know what to do about this now 😕
@@It.is.snehal Okay, well I was little confused afterwards, but nothing serious or nothing that would stay. I recommend to see a professional if you are worried, that's the best advice I can give you :(
@@actual_john_doe that's right..
You are cool, thank you.
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I had EMDR over a year ago with a therapist, it really helped, and my ptsd improved a lot, the thing is now I’m experiencing a bit of a relapse, I kind of know what the deal is with how it works, therapist are all booked up where I’m from. I’m kind of thinking self administrated could be a good call, anyone here got good feed back from it?
YES, YOU CAN DO IT!! ......
..your higher self, knows how to help cure you...... TRUST yourself❤️
Agree with Rhonda. You are your own healer. Believe in your self.
Yes! I did EMDR with a therapist and it was profoundly helpful for my many traumas but I am looking to do it now on myself as I am in the same boat here.
If a child from quite a young age, say age 3 onwards feels unsafe- insecure- they also had a few separation traumas at around 4 and 4 and a half - can emdr help them so they feel safer or safe as an adult and more secure? Currently I am more in freeze mode, making it hard to deal with life!! I need to be functional and do the stuff that needs doing to care for my relative who has gone into care.
See 6:21 mark for flooding/avoidance/freezing solutions - diaphragm breathing, safe place exercise, movie technique, physical reset
Does anyone know if you can get POTS from PTSD?
Or have POTS flare up from a traumatic event?
I dont have a big event but a lot of small ones. I feel like they will be too short for a emdr session. Should i do for example multiple or just one and possibly shorter
Why my eye moves automatically if I do nothing just relax?
Question when you're telling your story to yourself beginning middle and end snag is is there is no end because I am still going to court because it's been continued and continued 8 times and jury trial is not until March, now. this month is December. that is my challenge. for me that is the reality of my situation right now. Anxiety stress looping thoughts and dreams at night waking up early in the morning resulting from domestic violence trauma and stress. It has taken almost 1 1/ 2 years for the court system to get its act together to get a trial date for a jury trial.
Meanwhile it's all working on me because there is no finality yet. So what EMDR techniques would you recommend in that situation to work with since my story has not finish has no ending.
How do i find the mini series?
Thank you 🙏 how and where can I get certified for EMDR?
Go to www.emdria.org - they are the official accrediting body. It’s a wonderful thing to get certified in!
I really dont know what to do. Im 17 and had a pretty traumatic life. Im supposedly deep in fight or flight so i never feel calm, feels like i cant breathe well. i try to breathe thru diaphram but cant, only thru chest and it feels like dont get enough oxygen.
I tried EMDR self adminsterd like 30 times. not a single time have I felt emotions, remembered anything traumatic, no crying nothing.
I've done breathworks like 60 times, and again... no emotions, no memorys and no crying. (although i do feel calmer temporarily but then revert to my trauma body physiology.
I tried somatic experiencing but still feel unsafe paranoid. ive done a alot of things like guided meditation but they are all "Visualizing" i cant imagine anything its all black no matter how hard i try.
I feel like a disapointment, spending my teenage years trying to fix my self, everyone having fun at partys and im here alone mentally psyhically fucked up.
I do vagus nerve exercises, yoga etc. im still stuck in this unsafe state where I feel paranoid cant breathe deeply, doing everything in a rush. this horrible state has affected me a ton, social anxiety, anxiety, anger, frustation. no concentration. Cant even park my fucking car or motorcycle without looking out the store window every minute thats how paranoid i am. also stutter trying to talk becuase lack of oxygen
Plz respond this took me a while. I so done feeling like this. im been stuck like this since 2017
Hi: I'm so sorry to hear how difficult it has been for you. Often, healing happens in relationship and therapy truly can help. It is awesome how much you are doing, yet it is very hard to do this work on one's own.
@@BarbaraHeffernan so what do you recommend for someone trying to heal on their own? I dont really want to go to therapist right now, only as a last resort.
@@inforthewin3231 It sounds to me like you are doing a lot of the right things for self-help... and you are saying it isn't working... which would indicate to me that something else is needed... I really can't give individual advice via youtube, email or social media... but I do find people try to avoid therapy when it truly can help.
@@BarbaraHeffernan hi again
I did the Wim Hof Breathwork for 3 rounds and after i felt so good and at peace, then after 30 mins i start reverting back to old ways and getting anxiety, my breathing feeling blocked again and cant inhale good, feel like im not safe.
This is getting so annoying... no matter what i do i revert back. I start breathing fast but just cant seem to get a full breath becuase something in my chest feels or throat feels blocking. the oxygen barley reaches my chest, i only get a full breath sometimes when I yawn, but even that is a hit or miss, most times when i yawn i still cant reach a full breath. only like 1 full breath (only by yawning) every like 2 mins. this is so stressful. feels like my body has a blockage.
what do you think this could be?
@@inforthewin3231 Dear InForTheWin32 - It sounds like you are looking for a quick change. And your body is giving you a big clue - "feels like my body has a blockage." I was stuck like for many years. And I had definite blockages - for a reason. The memories I had buried went back to my childhood. I finally found a therapist who could wait till my body was ready to open. It took a very long time. I went on living my life - but I didn't like myself too much. Finally, I started journaling daily - sometimes for a couple hours at a time. At the end of my promised one-year commitment to journal, I started getting answers. Not ones I liked! But I knew they were real.
If you can be patient and willing to comment to any practice - though I do recommend journaling (I added drawing too) - for a certain length of time, you will meet your real self. I wish you the best of luck. This was hard work for me, but I was committed to ONE YEAR before I began. And had no idea what the outcome would be. You might try 3 months to start, or 6. Stuff will happen.
How do you do EMDR with child hood CPTSD and child abuse + NPD?
A well-trained EMDR therapist can help with these issues. I definitely can not give advice on a personal level, but as a general rule, probably not advisable to tackle these types of issues on one's own. I do have a video on Find a EMDR Therapist, one of whether Self-Administered EMDR is a good idea or not and one on Complex PTSD: czcams.com/video/NuxMmSYea5U/video.html. I hope this helps and I wish you health and healing.
Do avoidance symptoms also include DPDR?
Depersonalization could be seen as a type of avoidance - but it is really a "freeze" state that becomes habitual. It is usually not an avoidance that is conscious.
Can I simply dart my eyes left to right looking at my stationary knees? When I use videos and look at a light going back and forth, I get a strain in my eyes. Would it make any difference if my knees are stationary? I notice therapist move their hand back and forth.
In my practice, I found that many types of bilateral stimulation were effective. Tapping one's knees (one hand then the other) as well as moving the eyes while doing that worked for some people I worked with. There are also electronic tappers available and the eyes can be closed, or listening to alternate beats with headphones (some of the YT videos do that if listened to with headphones).
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you. I am sensitive to noise and electrical stimulation so I will stick to what I am doing.
I believe that for small traumas (memories of offenses or insults etc ..) it can also be done alone but for serious traumas (violence, earthquakes etc) then you have to do it with a therapist.
For some people, processing the small traumas will bring them very quickly into the large ones, so they don’t always stay separate.
I want to become EMDR certified how can I do it? What you recommend?
www.emdria.org is the official organization. They list training programs on their website. It is great to get certified in EMDR! Wishing you the best!
Barbara, a question please: I am a highly senstive man (heterosexual and deeply abused) and my soul has being rape by an authoritarian, abusive, narcisisitic parent from early chilhood and also in adulthood, an extremely morally corrupt sick mind did this. I feel a void of self esteem in the pit of my stomach and extrmely disempowered and not enogh to defend my self or make other respect me using force when this is needed in extreme abusive situations, as a resulkt I feel my sefl respt as a man has been compromised because I am always threaten by stronger people o by a societal conspiracy and corrupt police that forcicly makes threats to the self expression of my emotional needs also not wanting to ackwoledge narcisisitc abuse as a devastating threat to life itself. and my question to you is: HOW DO A STAY EMOTIONALLY STRONG AND RECOVER FROM A SOUL RAPE, LITERALLY, I WAS SOUL-RAPED.
For some reason there are not “links” below to click on???
Hi, if you click on 'more' in the description you should be able to click on the links.
Excellent thank you !
❤️ Please read this whole thing. Mental health problems, brain fog, depression, and even full blown psychosis can be helped greatly if they get CORRECTLY treated for B 12 deficiency. ( VERY IMPORTANT VIDEO FROM EXPERTS BELOW)
Almost all doctors are making mistakes in diagnosing and treating this problem.
They were never trained properly in the details of this nutritional deficiency, and are missing critical information.
Failure to diagnose this or treat it correctly ( correct protocol is described in the video below ) can result in severe injury to the patient because of ongoing NERVE DEMYELINATION..
B12 deficiency causes a cascade of *seemingly unrelated symptoms* because it affects the entire body )
Almost all Doctors and nurses don't understanding how to *correctly* Test for it, they're doing several things incorrectly, testing, parameters, treatment protocol, necessary things that work together.... treating it incorrectly can HURT YOU.
Besides getting rid of grains ( grain brain / wheat belly / brain fog and inflammation)
This is so important :
B 12 deficiency can cause severe depression, miscarriages,
brain fog , forgetfulness, confusion, difficulty making decisions, progressing to full blown dementia/ Alzheimer's,
painful neuropathy, pins and needles, feeling electric shocks,
imbalance, stumbling, falling, worsening fine motor control, dropping things, clumsiness, worsening handwriting, these are all signs,
progressing all the way to being wheelchair bound or bedridden and unable to walk,
Incontinence, blurred vision all the way to blindness, and mood swings, depression, crabbiness to anger, mental health disorders, all the way to full blown psychosis.
Most doctors misdiagnose these symptoms and try to treat them all SEPARATELY, by giving more and more prescriptions for drugs that have a huge list of negative side effects.... while the Methylcobalamine deficiency continues to get worse and worse, and more and more symptoms develop because the NERVES ARE BEING DE-MYELINATED. Healthy nerve signals are needed for *EVERY* organ and function in the body to work.
If Nerve demyelination progresses , the person can end up wheelchair bound, bedridden and in diapers . Full body collapse, *multiple organ failure and death.*
It looks like rapid aging or M.S. --
In fact many people who are in a nursing home, could have their symptoms reversed if treated quickly enough.
Treating this quickly is important because some symptoms like blindness are irreversible.
If you know anyone who has any of those symptoms, should listen to this CZcams video by medical experts and take lots of notes ---
It's called
" DIAGNOSING AND TREATING VITAMIN B-12 DEFICIENCY." That title exactly, and take lots of notes, because almost no doctors or nurses are trained properly in this area of nutritional deficiencies, and they don't test it properly and don't treat it correctly at all.
Many people have a problem with methylation because of a gene,
And a very high percentage of people have difficulty processing the cheap, synthetic version of B12 ( cyanocobalamin, don't use that because it takes ten complicated conversions in the body, which is VERY difficult and most bodies aren't able to properly convert it into the usable form.
We need Methylcobalamine specifically *PLUS* other important specific nutrients* described in the video that are needed together with the B12.
This book is excellent also :
"COULD IT BE B-12 ? AN EPIDEMIC OF MISDIAGNOSIS."
COCONUT OIL FEEDS THE BRAIN.
See also " NURSE CURES HUSBAND'S ALZHEIMER'S WITH COCONUT OIL"
But that's not enough. You need the correct treatment for B12 or things continue to get worse.
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The link to the self administered EMDR doesn't work.
Hi: Here's the link: bit.ly/bhvirtualemdr
had to go due to voice fry. i have misophonia
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us! Just starting EMDR therapy and I need all the information I can get. So valuable coming from a competent therapist.
So pleased this was helpful. I truly wish you health and healing!
Did EMDR help you?
I love your video so much,
I feel this is an an amazing channel. I just didn’t like the Buddhist religion part...
Hi: Feel free to take what you like and leave the rest! I approach buddhism as a philosophy, not a religion, and simply bring in the philosophy pieces that I believe can help us lead happier lives. But I do understand that anything that touches on religion can become controversial.... Wishing you the best!
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you for your reply! You’re one of the kind, it really seems like you do care about people. I do congratulate you for the wonderful work you’re doing in the world! There’s so much to heal! 🧠❤️🩹🥨🌏
@@BarbaraHeffernan I really appreciate your understanding and can understand the perspective/ point of view approach.
I’ve been noticing that in recent years, for some reason, there has been a boom of Buddhism and it’s merging into the Psicology; as a result, it has emerged new tools such mindfulness, etc…
However; indeed, Budhism is a religion, in a strict sense and historically speaking…
Also, personally; I have had bad experiences with spirits. Not anymore! So, now, I’m very careful with those kind of things.
People think that the spiritual realm is a science fiction idea, or a crazy thought (I used to think the same), but it’s so real. It does come in The Bible. Only, until I started to dig deep into it and developing a closer relationship with Jesus was when I was able to stop being bothered by those spirits. I tried the dialectic or CBT and of course it didn’t worked because it wasn’t “a crazy idea”… Thank you for your respect!
You lost me at "Buddhist philosophy." Not very scientific.
You spent too much money for your training. You are a victim of commerce.
Interesting. Thanks for the feedback!
i think you could communicate better without all the hand/arm movements, which are VERY distracting - i had to scroll the video out of view
Hi Kevin: Actually, I don't think I can communicate without the hand movements!! That is part of my style and I know it doesn't work for everyone. However, it would not be a good thing for me to try to become self conscious about my hand movements. I totally understand if my material doesn't work for you. and I wish you the best!