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  • čas přidán 17. 12. 2023
  • 32-year old Capetonian Alexander is a spiritual being walking this earth in search of meaning. A guitar teacher by day, he wants a woman who appreciates his soul over his material offerings. Kelly is walking her own path of discovery. Copywriter by day, she is now learning about holistic health and healing. On paper they tick each others boxes. Will Alex's views on modern woman's roles overstep feminist Kelly's sensibilities?
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  • @ianfin
    @ianfin Před 5 měsíci +1116

    Women are too independent but he still split the bill 😂. You want a submissive wife but not showing that you're an alpha/provider, how does that make sense?

    • @blahblahblah7551
      @blahblahblah7551 Před 5 měsíci +53

      I think when they split the bill they are not interested

    • @Idgjfho
      @Idgjfho Před 5 měsíci +11

      Exactly!

    • @PROVOCATEURSK
      @PROVOCATEURSK Před 5 měsíci +23

      You shouldn´t pay for first few dates even when you are getting to know a traditional woman. Your money and times has to be earned.

    • @TomNook.
      @TomNook. Před 5 měsíci +19

      Poor logic. Guys want to be the provider...for their partner. Not a date.

    • @ryantucker2166
      @ryantucker2166 Před 5 měsíci +12

      She's not his wife or girlfriend.

  • @artapothecary53
    @artapothecary53 Před 5 měsíci +1160

    'Clearly you're not smarter than me because you aren't smart enough to know that you shouldn't have said that!' - good for her for being able to stomach the rest of that date

    • @JoshPhoenix11
      @JoshPhoenix11 Před 5 měsíci +34

      On the contrary, he's coming from an entirely different level. A level that she isn't aware exists.
      And to those people, higher intelligence looks like foolishness.

    • @artapothecary53
      @artapothecary53 Před 5 měsíci +8

      On the contrary, I am aware of what he believes he is speaking of. It is the path he thinks is required to obtain that and the continued division he believes should exist in order to maintain it. It is foolish. It is more nuanced and beautiful than 0010

    • @johnnyboy123211
      @johnnyboy123211 Před 5 měsíci +7

      Actions speak louder than words, he is very vocal! Sorry

    • @hannahlou3406
      @hannahlou3406 Před 5 měsíci +36

      @@JoshPhoenix11 I think you mean delusion not "higher intelligence"

    • @zbridgjpxupzm
      @zbridgjpxupzm Před 5 měsíci +8

      He didn't say that. He said he uses his mind (will power) more versus women who mostly go with their emotions. IMO none is "better", it is just a different way of operating. They both need each other.

  • @christianelila3374
    @christianelila3374 Před 5 měsíci +855

    The fact that he is a teacher and might transfer these stereotypes onto the children is awful.

    • @katella
      @katella Před 5 měsíci +11

      "might" ?

    • @traceyarnaud8433
      @traceyarnaud8433 Před 5 měsíci +38

      Thank god it’s just guitar lessons. He probably can’t expose them to his verbal diarrhea in such limited time constraints 😊

    • @elizabethmenegon8057
      @elizabethmenegon8057 Před 4 měsíci +7

      @traceyarnaud8433
      🤣🤣🤣💯

    • @richgreeeat8736
      @richgreeeat8736 Před 4 měsíci

      Much better than the nonsense of feminism which is slowly destroying civilisation in the west.

    • @tonimaestre96
      @tonimaestre96 Před 4 měsíci +17

      like it is better those teachers who tell the kids it is okay to change your gender like you can exchange your drinks

  • @Supamav11
    @Supamav11 Před 5 měsíci +682

    As a guy, I commend her for keeping her cool, being respectful, and finishing the date even though he basically said he believes women are intellectually inferior to men.

    • @gaildavis8004
      @gaildavis8004 Před 5 měsíci +11

      I think you completely misunderstood what he was saying…..

    • @mechloe8528
      @mechloe8528 Před 5 měsíci +42

      ​@@gaildavis8004 - I think uv missed understood what this guy is saying??

    • @Supamav11
      @Supamav11 Před 5 měsíci +63

      @@gaildavis8004 He said when he meets a woman he assumes he’s smarter. I don’t know how else to interpret that.

    • @PV-pu5iu
      @PV-pu5iu Před 5 měsíci +59

      I would've gotten up, and left. I'm too old for this garbage.

    • @crusadersofthesea
      @crusadersofthesea Před 5 měsíci +8

      BETA

  • @pepper1188
    @pepper1188 Před 5 měsíci +351

    Funny how he thinks he's so unique, actually there are millions like him.

    • @glosske
      @glosske Před 5 měsíci +4

      Everyone is unique, duh

    • @katella
      @katella Před 5 měsíci +12

      ​@@glosskekeep telling yourself that. 😂

    • @LottieJ-fq6es
      @LottieJ-fq6es Před 5 měsíci +16

      "I'm not like the other guys"
      That's what the other guys said!

    • @Littlemouse884
      @Littlemouse884 Před 5 měsíci +9

      Exactly he's a dime a dozen...yawn🥱 😴

    • @malenahernandez9377
      @malenahernandez9377 Před 3 měsíci

      And I’m glad. Because they world would be destroyed by now if the feminists do really something significant but complain.

  • @janebaker4912
    @janebaker4912 Před 5 měsíci +399

    So glad he showed his cards. So she doesnt waste her time. She was very classy how she turned him down.

    • @sonetgreyling5504
      @sonetgreyling5504 Před 4 měsíci +4

      She’s not classy. At all

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      He also shouldn't waste his time with a feminist who doesn't know what to do with her life.

  • @peyote.
    @peyote. Před 5 měsíci +313

    This dude is a perfect example of why women should continue to be strong and independent. His ego is radiating insecure and controlling. He looked pissed at the end, and I wouldn't be surprised if he was a ticking bomb so rigid and unable to let loose and ready to go off. He also wouldn't compliment her when she was talking about what seemed like similar interest and seemed like someone who would hold back appraisal to a woman he felt intimidated by. This is just my observation.

    • @OyVey-
      @OyVey- Před 4 měsíci +8

      vvomen are neither strong or independent

    • @ArtAffliction099
      @ArtAffliction099 Před 4 měsíci +23

      🤡@@OyVey-

    • @Mandaxx25
      @Mandaxx25 Před 4 měsíci +4

      ​@ArtAffliction099 no he's not a clown just because you haven't got a clue.

    • @jubernardi23
      @jubernardi23 Před 4 měsíci +4

      🤡

    • @malenahernandez9377
      @malenahernandez9377 Před 3 měsíci +2

      By seeing your face, we know why you think that way. You’re on a mission of keeping men away. 😊

  • @GAYKEEPDEEZNUTZ
    @GAYKEEPDEEZNUTZ Před 5 měsíci +254

    Bro thinks he explained feminism to a woman by saying it’s a bunch of confused women. This is how little some men have actually ever even interacted with actual women or even understand feminism. Insane, absolutely insane thing to say to a person on a blind date. Let alone actually believing.

    • @admar6934
      @admar6934 Před 4 měsíci +4

      Well it kind of is they say they're strong and independent but expect men to do everything although they work they don't contribute to anything, they don't want a man but still look for one,they really font know what they want since they are constantly shifting thoughts and ideas than complain when no man wants them, yet they are strong and jndependent but not when it comes to accountability

    • @GAYKEEPDEEZNUTZ
      @GAYKEEPDEEZNUTZ Před 4 měsíci +4

      @@admar6934 strong and independent not when it comes to accountability is a hilarious sentence in it of itself. Read that one a few times and tell me why that makes sense to you.

    • @GAYKEEPDEEZNUTZ
      @GAYKEEPDEEZNUTZ Před 4 měsíci +9

      @@admar6934 was your mom like not independent and very reliant on your father or something? Did your mother work? Not all women are like that. My mother raised three kids by herself. Owned her own business for ten plus years. Traveled the world. Worked construction for 20 years. Made a ton of money without anyone’s help and bought her own home all as a single parent. There’s millions of women out there doing great things without zero input from a man. What makes you think a women is inferior?

    • @sapphirewilliams5586
      @sapphirewilliams5586 Před 4 měsíci

      This doesn't even represent feminism at all. Feminist fight for womens rights, to give women opportunity and freedom of choice. ​@admar6934

    • @84bravado
      @84bravado Před 3 měsíci

      In fairness there's about 4028 ways I've heard feminism be explained. Lol. But yeah, he's not doing himself any favours

  • @aimeebelinda6288
    @aimeebelinda6288 Před 5 měsíci +366

    What a gorgeous woman. I love that she stood her ground whilst also being respectful. He was a tool

    • @TinMan445
      @TinMan445 Před 11 dny

      She’s at least 30 pounds over weight… gorgeous is a big stretch

  • @andrewvail5458
    @andrewvail5458 Před 5 měsíci +355

    "You're not smart enough to know that you shouldn't have said that". Spot on... in the bigger picture, her statement applies to soooo many people. 😎

  • @TheEntryCode
    @TheEntryCode Před 4 měsíci +57

    Here's a man who is lacking, who knows he is deep down, so needs to put women in their place to feel superior. It's actually kind of sad

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      So everyone who is against feminism is a bad person and lacking something. Got it. You gotta love how "tolerant" feminists are.

  • @Arrouba123
    @Arrouba123 Před 3 měsíci +68

    She was incredibly polite. I don’t think I would’ve dealt with it so graciously lol

    • @rxnnnz9698
      @rxnnnz9698 Před 3 měsíci +2

      I know! I was thinking the same thing!

    • @silentwitness536
      @silentwitness536 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Another angle: Women complain "why arent men up front and honest?" Man is up front and honest about what he wants. The female reaction? - HOW DARE HE BE SO UP FRONT AND HONEST!!!! laughable.

  • @shanfarco1574
    @shanfarco1574 Před 5 měsíci +162

    Most feminist I know (myself included) do not judge how a person chooses to live. If you want the traditional life, go for it. If you want the opposite, go for that. What we don't do it tell people what they should be doing. I've noticed that traditional men tend to be the ones who TELL women that they will be happier in the house. If you want a housewife, take a housewife. But stop telling all of us that thats the role we should be interested in.

    • @laraantipova389
      @laraantipova389 Před 5 měsíci +12

      I’m not a feminist, but I have always seen my marriage as a team situation. We choose to take each other (and each other’s families) as our team. I worked then stayed at home then worked and then stayed at home again. I started at home because 1) the daycare cost 2) all the sick days and appointments that kids have the first year or so 3) my personal beliefs about children’s psychology 4) my husband has a salary of $140,000 and he is not very good with babies (so it wasn’t reasonable). When the pandemic started my husband was WFH while I was out of the home. He made a commitment to wash every dish since 2020 because he didn’t have the commute and could squeeze it into his day!
      I think the main problem is that so many men were raised traditionally, but do not have the salaries to support a woman, so they expect a woman to work, 50:50 bills, but then be more of a house slave than a teammate or partner.

    • @lunity1111
      @lunity1111 Před 2 měsíci

      I completely agree with you and I think it’s because not many women want that role now they have options and I guess if women don’t want that role and would be happier single than filling the role and men want a partner they will have to change slightly what they are looking for and adapt

    • @Roswell33
      @Roswell33 Před měsícem +1

      @@laraantipova389 I always find it confusing when women say that they are "not a feminist" when they value equality and respect from men, which it sounds like you value, so I'm curious about what it is that you're rejecting? Maybe a feminist stereotype of some sort?

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      I know feminists who are mocking traditional guys, there you go.

  • @Nomadic_psyche_
    @Nomadic_psyche_ Před 3 měsíci +20

    The fact that she sat that out with composure and was emotionally intelligent enough to call him out on not being ‘smart enough’ to recognise his lack of self awareness. Shows she is mentally “strong” (in his words) and (emotionally) intelligent.
    I also love that at the end she was like “uh can I go first?” 😂

  • @CannagirlGettadab
    @CannagirlGettadab Před 5 měsíci +118

    So he is a hippie/incel? That's a new one for me.

    • @dileee44
      @dileee44 Před 5 měsíci +14

      ISTG I HAD THE SAME EXACT WORDS IN MY MIND BAHAHHAHAHAHAHHA this guy is definitely a new one

    • @katella
      @katella Před 5 měsíci

      Probably actually looking for a woman to support him.

    • @seraphilight
      @seraphilight Před 3 měsíci +7

      He's not a hippie, hippies get laid.

    • @jessicastephens9712
      @jessicastephens9712 Před 3 měsíci +8

      Oh it's definitely a sub-genre lol

    • @thecosmicxx
      @thecosmicxx Před 3 měsíci +6

      Sometimes people go so far left they end up right wing. It’s bizarre

  • @ashsmee
    @ashsmee Před 5 měsíci +253

    “Women are becoming too independent” yikes buddy it’s not 1940.

    • @carolinammajp11
      @carolinammajp11 Před 5 měsíci +1

      😂😂😂😂😂 she would have to be the breadwinner and cut her hair lol @@evalilith6703

    • @Ali-Bea
      @Ali-Bea Před 5 měsíci +19

      Or indeed 1840.

    • @PROVOCATEURSK
      @PROVOCATEURSK Před 5 měsíci +16

      You not liking it doesn´t mean it´s not true. People now are more single and depressed than before.

    • @ashsmee
      @ashsmee Před 5 měsíci +42

      @@PROVOCATEURSK I’d rather be single then with some who degrade me lol

    • @ms-corleone
      @ms-corleone Před 5 měsíci +34

      ⁠@@PROVOCATEURSKstatistically it’s men who are more depressed when single. So, there is that…

  • @o.h.w.6638
    @o.h.w.6638 Před 5 měsíci +274

    And he’s a teacher? For children?!?! Yikes

    • @georgeoliver349
      @georgeoliver349 Před 5 měsíci +3

      I wouldnt worry its not like hes got free reign and can teach whatever he wants

    • @richgreeeat8736
      @richgreeeat8736 Před 4 měsíci

      Yeah not like with poisonous ideaology of "feminism"

    • @JK-lj4vr
      @JK-lj4vr Před 3 měsíci +4

      oMG! Traditional ideas that brought us prosperty for millennia! Happy families, happy parents! Functional relationships! Taught to kids! The total horror!! 🤡

    • @rose-yeah
      @rose-yeah Před 3 měsíci +1

      I had a teacher who is like this because he is religious but he never said anything about gender roles or feminism. Maybe he is like that, or not.

    • @Samuel-hd3cp
      @Samuel-hd3cp Před 28 dny

      JK.
      Did they though?

  • @AKiki-ct1ro
    @AKiki-ct1ro Před 5 měsíci +185

    That woman is great. She deserves a masculine man who can top that and isn't threatened by his woman flourishing.

    • @stratfordbaby
      @stratfordbaby Před 3 měsíci +5

      She's too full of herself.

    • @kittykitteh3747
      @kittykitteh3747 Před 3 měsíci +6

      Why masculine? Maybe masculine men aren't her taste. She deserves a good guy is what I think you were trying to say.

    • @StimParavane
      @StimParavane Před 2 měsíci

      Arrogant boss babes are not attractive.

    • @HeBorka
      @HeBorka Před měsícem +2

      ​@@StimParavane if you saw her as an arrogant boss babe, you must be extremely insecure.

    • @David-vq1pn
      @David-vq1pn Před měsícem

      Yeah, I'll be her house-husband / stay-at-home Dad - where do I sign up! 😂

  • @BeezersFufoon
    @BeezersFufoon Před 3 měsíci +84

    ‘You’re not smart enough to know not to have said that.’ Spot on.

  • @karenstieglitz3443
    @karenstieglitz3443 Před 5 měsíci +86

    He's really ultimately just quite a twit. But he gave me a giggle, and I thank him for that.

    • @hal3760
      @hal3760 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Great point! 😂😂😂

  • @JuliaStone75
    @JuliaStone75 Před 5 měsíci +301

    This woman is right on. He's so toxic.

    • @PROVOCATEURSK
      @PROVOCATEURSK Před 5 měsíci +12

      She should be happy that any man wants to talk to a woman that destroys her skin like that.

    • @hazar2354
      @hazar2354 Před 5 měsíci +23

      He is insecure

    • @Shnayblay
      @Shnayblay Před 5 měsíci +2

      @@PROVOCATEURSKI don’t think they do hence having to try her luck at blind dating. Would probably find a bit more luck if the men were actually blind. Deaf too come to think of it.

    • @zombiehunter1152
      @zombiehunter1152 Před 5 měsíci +12

      How many cats do u ladies have? Just wondering.

    • @JuliaStone75
      @JuliaStone75 Před 5 měsíci

      Most people have pets. Only sociopaths think that is somewhat a bad thing.@@zombiehunter1152

  • @snicholson8884
    @snicholson8884 Před 5 měsíci +52

    Hey he goes 50/50 on the bill😂😂😂

    • @PV-pu5iu
      @PV-pu5iu Před 5 měsíci +9

      Unbelievable

    • @zombiehunter1152
      @zombiehunter1152 Před 5 měsíci +9

      Why is that so shocking ? She’s a feminist she got what she wanted and that was to pay half.

    • @ASadPigeon
      @ASadPigeon Před 4 měsíci +22

      ⁠@@zombiehunter1152Duh, because he "believes" in traditional gender roles and women being less independent...which would mean him paying the bill.

    • @malenahernandez9377
      @malenahernandez9377 Před 3 měsíci +5

      He’s not going to pay for a feminist. Why does she not show how a truly feminist she is?

    • @ASadPigeon
      @ASadPigeon Před 3 měsíci +11

      @@malenahernandez9377 Why doesn't he show how much he likes being traditional?

  • @Zeepjeliefs
    @Zeepjeliefs Před 3 měsíci +43

    She's very beautiful and intelligent and strong. She will not let herself be manipulated 😅

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      I hope that this is irony :)

    • @Zeepjeliefs
      @Zeepjeliefs Před 20 dny

      @@Just_a_Lad why?

    • @F1R3EMBLEM
      @F1R3EMBLEM Před 3 dny

      Feminist though, so basically worthless

    • @Zeepjeliefs
      @Zeepjeliefs Před 3 dny

      @@F1R3EMBLEM truly wondering why you say that. Is it for the attention? Is it to put someone down it gives you a better feeling? Hope you can get over that

  • @donaldauguston9740
    @donaldauguston9740 Před 5 měsíci +40

    Gurl! RUN don't walk away from that.

  • @brown_recidivist
    @brown_recidivist Před 5 měsíci +67

    he let his intrusivve thoughts win lol

  • @deadeyes4626
    @deadeyes4626 Před 5 měsíci +85

    Not everyone is ‘’spiritual beings’’ these guru types are the most judgmental people going vailed in self help *it’s narcissism end of*

    • @nineteenfortyeight6762
      @nineteenfortyeight6762 Před 5 měsíci +3

      💯

    • @nattie911
      @nattie911 Před 5 měsíci +7

      They're so superior to everyone else 😂

    • @jennifermae134
      @jennifermae134 Před 5 měsíci +11

      They are ironically also usually not that intelligent either 😂

    • @katella
      @katella Před 5 měsíci +6

      ​@@jennifermae134and are often alergic to work

    • @hannahlou3406
      @hannahlou3406 Před 5 měsíci +11

      A lot of the worst misogynists seem to disguise themselves with new age spirituality....

  • @CorporateQueen
    @CorporateQueen Před 5 měsíci +147

    I like how he used her opener to talk all about himself, not dive deeper into her story...
    That vegan line..😅
    He literally frames everything back to himself. Women don't want to be men...they want men to step up and many don't, and this guy is a prime example of it.

  • @TUHHHHHHH
    @TUHHHHHHH Před 5 měsíci +78

    “Maybe a lot of woman do more cause some men don’t do enough “ exactly.

  • @juliecortes8459
    @juliecortes8459 Před 5 měsíci +88

    She handled that date like a THE CHAMP she is!!!

    • @JK-lj4vr
      @JK-lj4vr Před 3 měsíci +2

      A champ without a man. A future champ in boxed wine and cat litter.

    • @astrid8433
      @astrid8433 Před 3 měsíci +2

      @@JK-lj4vrbetter to live a happy life with cats and boxed wine than a man like that.

    • @JK-lj4vr
      @JK-lj4vr Před 3 měsíci

      @@astrid8433Women cannot handle being single, esp when they age 😆

    • @astrid8433
      @astrid8433 Před 3 měsíci +2

      @@JK-lj4vr that’s not true. There are plenty of women (and men) who are content with being single ☺️. Good luck to those happy in relationships, and those happy single.

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      It's time for her to get cats and a gallon of chocolate.

  • @hekkeh5427
    @hekkeh5427 Před 5 měsíci +15

    a water??? mate even if you don't drink i would order a double rum coke after that interaction 🤣🤣 🤯🤯

  • @brandysewell8295
    @brandysewell8295 Před 5 měsíci +32

    I don't think any self respecting woman would go on a 2nd date with him, given what he said. If he respects women and wants a good relationship at all, he needs to find a different way of explaining his ideologies.

    • @ffreshfields5211
      @ffreshfields5211 Před 3 měsíci +4

      He will need to change his ideologies and learn mutual respect in order to have any good relationships

  • @itsmememene8953
    @itsmememene8953 Před 5 měsíci +21

    He’s never stuck at anything by his own admission and he’s now a teacher. He’s very uneducated. It’s cute and funny . He knows a little about a lot and it’s gotten him nowhere so far. He should read a book from the front to the back and not the other way around x

  • @corkandi
    @corkandi Před 5 měsíci +22

    Her... I was a vegetarian for a long time but I do eat meat now. Him... I was a vegan last year. It's like they're point scoring and jumping from one bandwagon to the next - Yawn!

    • @durusan4839
      @durusan4839 Před 2 měsíci +3

      How can someone quit eating animals and then eat again after a long time 😮

    • @sd7785
      @sd7785 Před 2 měsíci +2

      ​@@durusan4839Yeah, feels a bit flip-flopping. Maybe it's something to do with the guy's "spirituality"

    • @julesc1665
      @julesc1665 Před 2 měsíci +3

      ​@@durusan4839they were never vegan they just tried a 'diet' as a fad. A true vegan who actually cares about the suffering of other sentient beings would never eat animals again after they'd given up doing so

    • @durusan4839
      @durusan4839 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@julesc1665 Exactly agree with you, i am a vegan and i can never go back to eating animals , it is a promise given for a life time for me it is not a game, innocents are dying 🥺

  • @aissdiouf9624
    @aissdiouf9624 Před 4 měsíci +41

    Wanting a traditional woman as your partner does NOT align with splitting the bill! Traditionally the man should be the provider and pay for the expenses Alexander. You can’t have it both ways.

    • @user-nv2wt4hi8t
      @user-nv2wt4hi8t Před 3 měsíci +1

      At the same time, neither can you for wanting him to split the bill in such an obviously tense and disagreeable context. They clearly differed massively on a fundamental perspective and it was causing immediate tension to the point where things were turning closer into an argument than the kind of happy date where a man looking for a traditional woman would do what many women mistake as the 'traditional' thing and pay the bill, given we're not at all in traditional times, nor is she a 'traditional' woman. Why, based on the energy of the date, would you still expect him to pay the bill, in this context?

    • @irondasgr
      @irondasgr Před 3 měsíci

      Clearly he didn;t. He had it HER way.

    • @Davechappelle445
      @Davechappelle445 Před měsícem

      Yeah but she said she’s a feminist. If she didn’t say that I’m sure he would’ve paid for the whole bill

  • @yasminedey8612
    @yasminedey8612 Před 5 měsíci +13

    That guy should first look up the definition of Feminism 😅

    • @BunkerWise215
      @BunkerWise215 Před 5 měsíci +2

      You're getting mixed up with modern and traditional feminism. Women have all the same rights as men so what are feminists fighting for now?

    • @yasminedey8612
      @yasminedey8612 Před 5 měsíci +3

      @@BunkerWise215 for equality e.g. payment, shop items (razors etc.), promotion, leadership position etc ....

    • @BunkerWise215
      @BunkerWise215 Před 5 měsíci

      @@yasminedey8612 Well a lot of women are driven and have goals when they are young but then when they have kids they want to stay at home for them. It's basic maternal instincts that get in the way of a full-time career. This is why men reach top more than women. But there is equality of the genders. Now a woman can become prime minister. But there are obviously pros and cons to being a man or woman. And most suicides are men.
      FYI.. Don't look now is my favourite movie 😉

    • @zombiehunter1152
      @zombiehunter1152 Před 5 měsíci

      @@yasminedey8612wow you really are delusional if u think all that still exists.

    • @yasminedey8612
      @yasminedey8612 Před 5 měsíci +4

      @@zombiehunter1152 yes, it does unfortunately

  • @raymondmuller6072
    @raymondmuller6072 Před 5 měsíci +48

    As a South African male I have to apologize for this doos!

  • @thefirm4606
    @thefirm4606 Před 3 měsíci +15

    The manosphere has a lot to answer for

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      What the hell are you talking about :D

  • @jleano609
    @jleano609 Před 5 měsíci +15

    Dude is one of those people who covers up being not that intelligent with a bunch of spiritual mumbo-jumbo to make him sound smarter . LARPing basically. But he can't keep it going and doesn't have sense of "shades of gray" so falls into the whole generalistic "men are this way, women are this way" nonsense. As in "men are more logical, women are more emotional. Feminism tells women to be more like men so its bad" binary thinking. The truth is of course a lot more complicated and gradational, plus he's not talking to all women. He's got an individual woman in front of him. I love her "you're not smart enough to realize you shouldn't have said that" statement. Good for her. Dude comes over like a guy who has just discovered the Red Pill but has very little actual experience of women and can't filter and sort the info and so is just parroting generalities.
    Because even if romance is the frame where women DO tend to fall into typical gender roles most because of sexual polarity you don't "explain the game" and your expectations of how things should go with a potential partner. You just play the game and see if they play with you. First Rule of Fight Club and all that.

    • @bibakroll8999
      @bibakroll8999 Před 5 měsíci +2

      I'm also doubtful that he's a teacher. Did he say something about "I teach them guitar" - something like that? I doubt he actually has the appropriate degree.

  • @reikiwarrior8888
    @reikiwarrior8888 Před 4 měsíci +7

    I think he felt intimidated and threatened by her, looking for a reaction maybe…
    I like the way she intelligently responded to his rude and arrogant assumption of women- hahah laughed so hard 😂

  • @AS-yo2uy
    @AS-yo2uy Před 5 měsíci +45

    I have not even finished watching the video, but this guy believes in traditional gender roles like men being a provider. But really he wants women to stay a size zero and do the cooking, cleaning, child bearing, shopping, holiday prepping, and working while he works and comes home and lounges all day, I will also bet he will ask to split the bill.

    • @basinball1
      @basinball1 Před 4 měsíci +6

      He did!

    • @malenahernandez9377
      @malenahernandez9377 Před 3 měsíci +3

      She claimed she was a feminist proudly. Then she has to pay. Or you just are feminist when is convenient for you but not when the bill is coming?

    • @maggiehemming7904
      @maggiehemming7904 Před 3 měsíci +4

      ​@@malenahernandez9377of course you're missing the point. His ideology would suggest he should offer to pay..her perspective would then allow her to refuse and pay half.

  • @fletchermemorial1920
    @fletchermemorial1920 Před 5 měsíci +23

    Once again, I really am disappointed by this version of the show

  • @kaputfretudy
    @kaputfretudy Před 5 měsíci +41

    Alex needs an education, clearly. Good on her for pushing through with the rest of the date, and changing the subject. She targeted the behaviour, not the person...kudos

  • @dangermace11
    @dangermace11 Před 5 měsíci +16

    Nothing likeable about that guy

  • @SongBillong
    @SongBillong Před 4 měsíci +12

    Fair play to her. He's a complete tool!

  • @mhinim
    @mhinim Před 3 měsíci +8

    She is an amazing human for being that cool and respectful in that situation. I wanna be her friend!

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      She would have a lot of friends , of those who say meow :D haha

  • @lovinmytunes05
    @lovinmytunes05 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Here's what happened: He is very intimidated by her education and strength therefore, he needed to insult her so he could feel superior.
    No wonder why he is single.

  • @robertgelblum5154
    @robertgelblum5154 Před 5 měsíci +55

    I was thinking he might be very sensitive, intelligent, interesting . . . until he brought up his views on feminism and gender roles and capabilities. Then I realized that he is a complete idiot with views so old-fashioned and outdated that he belongs in medieval times. Women are at least as intelligent and capable as men - period! And women deserve 100% full equality with men in all aspects of life. That is what I believe wholeheartedly, and in a female partner I would seek someone who is my total equal but who complements me (as I her). It was foolish for him to disclose his views on women so blatantly on a first date, but it was necessary for her to hear these sad and pathetic opinions voiced so unequivocally - so she could stay far clear of him!

    • @TomNook.
      @TomNook. Před 5 měsíci +8

      Many men who get away with that attitude. They tend to be the rich, big successful and loud men. This passive guy acting alpha doesn't work.

    • @georgeoliver349
      @georgeoliver349 Před 5 měsíci +3

      Women do have 100% equality in fact have more opportunity and arent as detrimented as you may believe or think. Take trades for example look at the percentages of trades like carpenters plumbers electricians tree surgeons under water welders firepersons these to name but a few have such small numbers of women, why???? It comes down to choice a woman most of the time will hardly ever choose these industries because they are dangerous and difficult, so in terms of capability i dont fully agree. Take war for example men always have been and still sent to their deaths, viewed as surplus to requirements. And yet its men who set these to protect women and children in order to sustain humanity etc. But modern wave fwminism doesnt want to partake in the industries so heavily populated by men hmmmmm.

    • @prettymesmerizing
      @prettymesmerizing Před 4 měsíci +3

      ⁠@@georgeoliver349Equality is often misunderstood sadly. I am a woman and have never wanted to be treated like a man. It has more to do with equality in terms of both men and women deserving to be treated humanely. Both deserve love, respect, opportunities, freedom, to be valued as we are and so on. On average most men will be better at labour work since they have a physical advantage, some women may thrive in that field too but it may be less frequent. The point is neither gender is better, both deserve to be embraced as they are and complement each other.

    • @georgeoliver349
      @georgeoliver349 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@prettymesmerizing i understand equality perfectly well but such a luxury for both sides could only be attained in a utopian world. Since the context of this video was yo do with feminism i addressed the ideal at hand and as a byproduct or sub ideal if you will comes equality. A narrative thats ran usually more by the female side than than the male side of argument. Im not picking at anyone in particular im coming at it from a males perspective on how i perceive whats going on.

  • @lav7161
    @lav7161 Před 5 měsíci +53

    He stated what he believed and that's perfectly fine. She reacted to it and that's okay as well. Nothing wrong here. We all live in our own worlds. And things should end like this as well, they met, they disagreed and they moved on with respecting each other.

    • @carolmurphy7572
      @carolmurphy7572 Před 5 měsíci +34

      No, I don't think she respected him at all, nor he, her. She demonstrated great restraint and intelligence in chosing not to enter into a discussion with him about the subject of "feminism", a word he clearly does not comprehend. Her self-respect told her it would be a complete waste of time and effort. He doesn't respect her, obviously, as he doesn't respect women.

    • @kaycampbell8532
      @kaycampbell8532 Před 5 měsíci +17

      You're correct....he's living in his own world. An intelligent women wouldn't want to live there with him.

    • @ladistar
      @ladistar Před 5 měsíci

      Is there anything wrong with a man preferring a traditional woman? @@carolmurphy7572

    • @hirerebecca
      @hirerebecca Před 5 měsíci +14

      Except that he is empirically wrong and it was dumb to say if you want a second date which further illustrates that he was wrong.

    • @kat8295
      @kat8295 Před 5 měsíci +8

      Neither one of them respected each other. There was clear disgust from her and selfishness from him. He walked away empty handed. She's pretty and sweet; she'll do fine.

  • @desmondfransen5588
    @desmondfransen5588 Před 4 měsíci +10

    I understand what he was saying. But it was not the girl to have this kind of conversation with.

  • @TomNook.
    @TomNook. Před 5 měsíci +39

    I feel sorry for the matchmakers. On paper they thought "oh wow, both are into holistic health, this will be great!"
    They were not expecting someone debating feminism lol

  • @kyliejones8890
    @kyliejones8890 Před 5 měsíci +14

    He's not even Alpha...he needs to practise what he preaches.

    • @miam1074
      @miam1074 Před 3 měsíci +1

      and that is why he is insecure

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      He doesn't have to be

  • @CanMoose
    @CanMoose Před 3 měsíci +5

    Well it's pretty obvious who is the most intelligent in this couple...and it ain't him!!

  • @daldas1
    @daldas1 Před 5 měsíci +10

    Gut health....slams a martini!

  • @marriagecausesdivorce7540
    @marriagecausesdivorce7540 Před 3 měsíci +6

    He definitely watches Fresh and Fit podcast.

    • @artbygilik
      @artbygilik Před 25 dny

      Was gonna say this. A few red pill dudes in the comments defending him 👀🍿

  • @joeyjohnson4987
    @joeyjohnson4987 Před 2 měsíci +3

    That guy definitely shouldn't teaching kids. The idea of he mentioned that really puts my stomach upside down 🤮

  • @kittykitteh3747
    @kittykitteh3747 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I can't fathom how she was able to hug that guy goodbye after what he said. He was Yiiikes

  • @aoife3571
    @aoife3571 Před 5 měsíci +8

    omg, that was extremely hard to watch. Alex, you are going to be alone for a very very long time.

  • @erics670
    @erics670 Před měsícem +1

    She was such a pro. I love her emotional maturity. Plus so gorgeous.

  • @GiggaBigga976
    @GiggaBigga976 Před 3 měsíci +3

    This man is tooo based 😂

  • @carmb
    @carmb Před 5 měsíci +14

    he has the incorrect idea of feminism

    • @Just_a_Lad
      @Just_a_Lad Před 20 dny

      and what is the correct idea?

  • @rumbarumba1
    @rumbarumba1 Před 3 měsíci +5

    There is nothing wrong with a traditional marriage , my parents had 49 happy years before he passed away. As long as it is both agreed and you both respect each other my dad was the business/financial side and my mum was the emotional and disciplinarian we grew up my sister and i to be well rounded individuals and secure

    • @mamathemeat
      @mamathemeat Před 3 měsíci

      No one is saying that’s wrong but to say you’re smarter than a women is not intelligent

    • @fi-train8961
      @fi-train8961 Před 3 měsíci

      It's not traditional its simply a product of the 1950's, in certain parts of the world, wherein a certain order was maintained for the nuclear family, In many cultures there could have been multiple wives, or multiple families living under one roof.

  • @pizzapipeline.
    @pizzapipeline. Před 4 měsíci +5

    But lets be honest. This has nothing to do with dating. Producers saw a chance to mix two completly different people for some drama...

  • @ffreshfields5211
    @ffreshfields5211 Před 3 měsíci +2

    It's clear straight away that she is miles ahead of him and that he is only scratching the surface of her level of self-awareness. Funny how he said "women are becoming far too independent and in a way it diminishes the traditional male role". So he is more concerned about how other people's freedom and independence could negatively affect himself instead of caring about how it supports them and their lives equally to how his freedom supports his own. Ah men with control issues and internal confidence issues.... Same old same old.
    She handled it really well and graciously, and it is clear that she is way too smart for him and has too great an understanding of mutual respect as well as personal accountability.

  • @amyelizabeth9577
    @amyelizabeth9577 Před 4 měsíci +3

    5:48… can he hear himself? Literally WHAT? 😭

  • @jasminaj3682
    @jasminaj3682 Před 5 měsíci +24

    I'm dreading this comment section because I know all the incels will come out. His attitude and comments were definitely sexist and she had every right to call him out.

    • @fatcatontario
      @fatcatontario Před 5 měsíci +9

      Just because you don't understand something does not give you the right to label people in derogatory manner. Speaks volumes about your intelligence and open-mindedness.

  • @nlb1138
    @nlb1138 Před 3 měsíci +4

    I'd have to leave after he said "women are becoming too independent"

    • @StimParavane
      @StimParavane Před 2 měsíci

      No one is independent. Only someone with an inflated ego would believe that.

  • @Annsunshine30
    @Annsunshine30 Před 5 měsíci +7

    God, he`s annoying. He sounds like a guy that has a lot of opinions, but no life experiences....! There is a good reason he doesn`t have a girlfriend, and he won`t get one either, before he changes hiw whole way of thinking. He needs to grow up quite a bit!

  • @huggers5733
    @huggers5733 Před 4 měsíci +4

    I’m usually NOT on the “feminist side” but this guy was ridiculous and the girl was so classy.

  • @user-fg3bn6nj8v
    @user-fg3bn6nj8v Před 3 měsíci +4

    She owned him hard lol

  • @JaneHudnell
    @JaneHudnell Před 5 měsíci +18

    Oh wow, this guy is obnoxious. He thinks that he is smarter than women.

  • @AA-jp9cj
    @AA-jp9cj Před 5 měsíci +5

    Advocates for being unique, wants a traditional women XD

  • @nesigarcia7628
    @nesigarcia7628 Před 4 měsíci +2

    @ 5:24 he knew he had fu**ed up 🤧🥴😂🤷🏻‍♀️ I thought it was going well until then

  • @ITzzDecort
    @ITzzDecort Před 5 měsíci +8

    where do they get these people from? lol

  • @loulouedmo
    @loulouedmo Před 5 měsíci +19

    Omg - they should marry and breed goldfish - they’re both so dull and self-centred. “I’m self aware!” “I’m more self aware than you”

    • @samanthageach3146
      @samanthageach3146 Před 4 měsíci

      There is nothing wrong with breeding goldfish. They are super lame tho.

  • @anetak.9494
    @anetak.9494 Před 3 měsíci +2

    These kind of dates happened wayyy too often to me. I now have sworn myself that I would leave the moment the guy says bs like that.

    • @StimParavane
      @StimParavane Před 2 měsíci

      No one likes obnoxious boss babes.

  • @NidaaAlShoreet
    @NidaaAlShoreet Před 5 měsíci +4

    Woww the lady is so smart beautiful and have so much patience 😄

  • @karencampbell2410
    @karencampbell2410 Před 5 měsíci +16

    In a strange way I felt quite sorry for him. He was right on one thing though. This woman was higher on emotional intelligence. Shame he probably doesn’t get the significance of that.

  • @Elle-vm3ge
    @Elle-vm3ge Před 3 měsíci +3

    The guy is a failure and resents women who are more successful than he is in every way. It is so clear that is his issue. The guy scream insecure.

  • @Davechappelle445
    @Davechappelle445 Před měsícem +1

    He’s right. His mistake is saying it out loud, and on camera. Men are meant to protect and provide. If u end up with a feminist you’ll end up divorced.

  • @cinnapokey
    @cinnapokey Před 3 měsíci +2

    It's fantastic when someone has an opinion but doesn't even take the initiative to learn on the subject.

  • @chiobabe2180
    @chiobabe2180 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Now I see why he still single 😂

  • @streaming5332
    @streaming5332 Před 7 dny +1

    She should stop fiddling with her hair. Look how beautiful and clever I am. She frightened him.

  • @areyouforeal
    @areyouforeal Před 3 měsíci +9

    I don't think Kelly or First Dates knows the definition of "misogynist".

    • @KristinNirvana
      @KristinNirvana Před 3 měsíci +4

      He was extremely misogynistic.

    • @areyouforeal
      @areyouforeal Před 3 měsíci +1

      ​@@KristinNirvana How do you define misogyny?

    • @CHROMIUMHEROmusic
      @CHROMIUMHEROmusic Před 3 měsíci +3

      @@areyouforeal Oxford languages definition of misogyny:
      "a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women."
      Oxford languages definition of prejudice:
      "preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience."
      What this guy said at 6:56
      "initially, I would assume, that my mind is more capable"
      He has a very strong preconceived opinion against women, and is therefore a misogynist

    • @areyouforeal
      @areyouforeal Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@CHROMIUMHEROmusic Thanks for proving my point. He doesn't dislike or despise women. The best you have is that he might be prejudiced against them but your evidence for this is that he says "I would assume, that my mind is more capable". Why would he assume that? Obviously based on reason, or actual experience therefore not prejudice. Oops, you played yourself.

  • @jacquelineshopbell8502
    @jacquelineshopbell8502 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Feminism, ooh how horrible. I'm a woman who is a professional and have a career. I'm in no way trying to act like a man

  • @MMConsultinggroup
    @MMConsultinggroup Před 5 měsíci +22

    The guys' a striaght-up narcissist cloaked in hippie garb. YUK

    • @nostradmis
      @nostradmis Před 5 měsíci +4

      I find they are typically synonimous

  • @coraline1503
    @coraline1503 Před 4 měsíci +2

    alexander the great! 😂😂😂

  • @Colin_Lawlor_Audio
    @Colin_Lawlor_Audio Před 3 měsíci +4

    She had to answer first at the end. In her own mind that was a victory lol
    Granted, the guy was a bit of an idiot in what he was saying, the girl just proved his point by getting emotionally charged and needing to have the last laugh.

  • @drewpeacock7465
    @drewpeacock7465 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Waterboy joke flew straight over his head

  • @ffreshfields5211
    @ffreshfields5211 Před 3 měsíci +3

    This video is fascinating for many reasons, gives a lot of insight, and explains perfectly what so often goes wrong between men and women. Thanks for the upload

  • @callummccracken7565
    @callummccracken7565 Před 3 měsíci +1

    "I don't drink, I don't smoke I d-"
    Don't worry mate, I'm an alcoholic too. Happens to the best of us.

  • @Nillionaire__
    @Nillionaire__ Před 4 měsíci +3

    Run bro.

  • @jvb8035
    @jvb8035 Před 23 dny +1

    Actualy the guy is right

  • @jessbelen
    @jessbelen Před 4 měsíci +4

    She's a saint

  • @elsaelectra9963
    @elsaelectra9963 Před 4 měsíci

    Awesome, I try to escape from the fact I'm hacked by some youtuber to come here and see 2 people who have in common that they watch this youtuber and therefore what they have in common is that they are both my students and stalkers without realizing it.

  • @cassandrasturgeon6161
    @cassandrasturgeon6161 Před 3 měsíci

    Brava! Excellent responses to student comments.

  • @mattneillninasmom
    @mattneillninasmom Před 5 měsíci +27

    Good for her, a woman who appreciates what Life has to offer and knows the sky's the limit! He's an almost comical throwback to another century where men just assumed they ranked first, and that women by dint of their "emotional" makeup were not capable of making the same intelligent decisions as men. It worries me that he's a teacher, and will likely impart his lopsided and outdated values to children, who will be told that females should avoid being "too independent" and that males are naturally geared toward intelligent thought and reasoning.

    • @enricozemmourez6153
      @enricozemmourez6153 Před 5 měsíci

      So only people who share your opinions should be teachers?

    • @zombiehunter1152
      @zombiehunter1152 Před 5 měsíci +1

      In a relationship men are meant to be the leaders, when this doesn’t happen. Then a relationship doesn’t last long, society is so screwed now. You have tiktokers complaining on how they just got misgendered for the thousand time or feminist’s saying oh they can’t find a man, what a load of rubbish.

  • @jordanroberts5466
    @jordanroberts5466 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Does no one think she looks a lot like selena gomez but blonde absolutely beautiful girl

  • @beautronics
    @beautronics Před 5 měsíci +10

    I wanna become her best friend

    • @zombiehunter1152
      @zombiehunter1152 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Cool then u can bring your cats over to meet hers 🤣

    • @t.78d
      @t.78d Před 4 měsíci +1

      @beautronics She's beautiful and seems to be a nice person, i liked her

  • @sre2545
    @sre2545 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Wow she is so smart and beautiful😍😍

  • @espiritualme2048
    @espiritualme2048 Před 5 měsíci +2

    THIS DAY'S ANY CRAZY PERSON IS ....😂😂😂😂😂 ESPIRITUAL