Should husbands watch the birth of their children? (1962) | RetroFocus
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- "Perhaps they might not have so many children if they watch the birth."
People on the streets of 1962 Sydney gave their thoughts on whether husbands should be there to share the birthing experience.
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That lady who said no but then thought about it and said "maybe they would have less children if they saw the process."
I like her she's funny.
And even less if THEY had to give birth tbh!
@@Cassxowary Don't hate us cause you ain't us.
@@laobok don't hate us cause u don't compare to us
@@laobok nah we don't hate you. We just want you to feel how hard it is to have a woman's physiology so you don't act all inconsiderate towards your spouse and women in general because "wOmEn hAVe tHinGs eAsyYyy"
@@sherine9033 who said women have things easy?
The man that explained “It depends on the temperament of the husband and the feelings of the wife.” That was the most correct answer I ever heard.
yes, loved that one too
I feel like if a man cant handle seeing it then he should reconsider his decision to have kids. Its painful for her, she needs emotional support and the best support is from the husband
@@hyrunnisa997 Not necessarily. Some people faint at the sight of blood. They can still be great fathers, but when they faint during the birth this is just stressful for everyone.
I got to that part exactly after I started reading your comment! Aye!
10:57:47 PM
5/27/2020
Gustav 123 I think it‘s in the hand of both. Neither the woman, nor the man should be forced.
“Well as far as I’m concerned, mate, it’s got nothing to do with me. I’m not Married”.
That hit Me hard
🤣
@IHave ToBuy I’m lonely
Dude was probably mad he's single.. lol
mans been rejected
He has that 'Im single' energy
I think the doctor was looking for nicest possible way to say they don't like to deal with nervous husbands in the delivery room with all going on there already.
He did say that it is an unnecessary worry, or something to that effect.
My brother-in-law fainted seeing his baby born and needed his own team of medicos as he hit his head on something.
2:35
"You're married, you become one, and you should participate in all the ups and downs of everything". Such a simple truth, yet so lost among so many.
His answer melted my heart...a true man.
Who said they had to be married XD
👏🏻
Snuggles McSquishbottom very true
Looks like men had more of a sense of unity than women did. But then again in those times women were taught to be private, reserved, never talk about themselves and always look beautiful. I understand that they could feel uncomfortable when seen so "imperfect" in such tremendous situation.
My wife said "you were present while making, you're present when waters breaking" 😄 bit scary for the man but it is unity indeed and such a beautiful moment when a man can ease the pain of his wife bringing their child to the world by being with her.
The first guy: yes, absolutely, all problems in a married life should be shared
the woman in the background: good evening, are you single
Ikr, that woman was so invested 😂
I think she's the wife actually. She was going ahead and the husband decided to stop for the interview after all, or something like that.
I like this idea. I’m going to go tell errr I mean ask my wife to mow the lawn tomorrow.
@@mattwodziak1750 😂😂😂
Ruby literally what I thought
I like how for that one woman after she said no they slowly zoomed in on her baby as she walked away as if they were making some meta joke😂
Lol
😂😂
In the video about the white Australia policy they zoom in some Chinese kids in the background whilst some women is talking about how Australia should remain 99% white
I just love love love how they are dressed. Wow. And how humble so many of them are. Beautiful.
I love this 50's housewife, Mad Men vibe. I like how they spoke. People sounded like they had accents back then. Edit: this was in Australia (duh). Lol
Most of them are racist
Jk
ikrrrrr
@@cody7342 hm, but sounds like your level of racism, ignorance and bias is way way higher so far
The first man said we should share the burden equally, ahead of his time.
I thought he had the best response as well.
Except... that’s not possible. The baby grows in, and needs to get out of, mommy.
I thought the first guy had a beautiful answer. I mean it's not a guys fault that biology doesn't allow them to birth children.
Feminist moment
Someone bring that first man back from the dead so I can marry him.
The first guy was a sweetheart, whoever married him must’ve been a lucky woman lmao
Right
Dude the first guy reminded me of Neil Patrick Harrison 😂😂😂
Except a woman is going through the experience primarily for herself.
John Cronin ... do you mean other than for the child as well?
When he said share the responsibilities and problem I- 🥺🥺🥺
Love how everyone is able to express their personal opinions without shaming one another for them.
I mean, it definitely still happened, especially since the 60’s were a Red Scare utopia.
Well they're not debating, they're sharing their opinion, they don't get to hear the other's opinion, they're not even talking to each other, its just one person talking to the host. This was the age of segregation, these racists clowns had no problem putting others down.
You have something you want to get off your chest?
sounds like a stretch to assume a correlation between freedom of expression and political ongoings. There were taboos then and there will be today. Much like bad actors or your "racist clowns" that give a lot of 'muricans a bad look.
@@sumkindacheeto I was actually making commentary on the original comment, OP trying to be woke and spread faux positivity by saying "they expressed their opinions without shaming one another for them." When in fact, they didn't hear anyone's opinion, they just expressed their own to the host. It's more of a stretch to assume they would not shame each others opinions.
The THIRD old man with a hat reminds me of the Aparently kid💖
Maybe he's his grandpa lol
Which one? There is a lot of old men in hats in this video
I think she's talking about the 3rd video/second dude
There's like 95 old men with hats in the video...
@@Skelyboss I think she's talking about the 3rd video/second dude
"When you're married, you become one. And you should participate in all the ups and downs and everything." God bless.
Kenzi ! Then he shouldnt be in the room. But the meaning of the quote is that the husband should voluntarily want to be in the room with his wife. Unless, of course, the wife diagrees.
Kenzi ! Why wouldn’t she want him there? His child is being born.
I wouldn't. My husband has a terrible bedside manner when I am sick can't imagine when I'm birthing...
I think women are *a lot more* open now, then they were back then.
@@shirleydeebonilla6712 Well.. it *IS* very graphic to watch.. and gruesome too.
first bloke was woke
lickle sossij roll yeah... he was hot too
Sitti Inastasia So?
@@sittiinastasia5430 So this was 57 years ago. If you think he is in his 70s now, that means he was a 13 year old teenager in the video? :D
@@sittiinastasia5430 70? The dude was in his 30s in 1962, 56 years ago hes probably dead or close to 90 years old.
@@realsugar7056 looks more like in his 40s or 50s. As a 33 yo dude, believe me, we aint that old :P
As a father, I was delighted to bring my children into the world with my wife. We both got to hold our children, welcome them, hear their little cries. A man should witness his children being born. I felt like a father that day.
@@neo_tsz lmao
That's beautiful. Can't understand a man who wouldn't want to welcome his child into the world.
You wouldn’t feel like a father in the waiting room?
@@billf7062 its not even close to being the same as actually witnessing your child enter this world. my father was present for my birth and was unfortunately travelling for work purposes for my brother's birth and to this day he says his number one regret in life is not being there to see my brother take his first breath. he's also much closer to me
Watched all three of mine. Was great. One born in Canada and two in Japan. Quite different experiences. Will never forget the look on my coworkers faces in Japan when the call came that the birth of my son was imminent and I told them I was leaving. They were utterly shocked. “You can’t leave, you have classes to teach!!” My son is about to be born!! I am outta here. Men in Japan would not ever leave work for that reason for the most part.
Don’t let this distract you from the fact that both of Heinz Doofenshmirtz’s parents weren’t there for his birth.
What 😂
F
Who's Heinz doofus? 🤔
@@Snobviously the villain from phineas and ferb
And he’s a supervillain.
Interesting that most of the men thought it was okay and the women didn’t
women were ashamed of their bodies a lot more then. this question was pretty much like "Do you want to have a close-up look at your wife's vagina giving birth?" Women say no and the men say sure it's fine, or they're also a little bit grossed out by it. That's a big part of the debate no one spells out. Men weren't that opposed to it, they were mostly not physically allowed into the room.
Makes perfect sense, given the prevailing gender roles and social norms of Western societies back then.
I mean who could blame them really? If you really think about it it us really a private and embarrassing moment for a lady.
I will have my husband and those who are delivering and that is it.
i mean I wouldn't really want anyone watching me shitting myself while ripping my body open to plop out a blood covered little human while sweating and screaming like a maniac. Awful enough the nurses have to be there
Noelle
Most of the time the husband is away from the “business side” unless they want to see what is going on
Just knowing most of these people are already dead is so wierd...
Im certain less than two people in this video is alive
Well damn ☠️
You could not be more wrong, people from the 1962 are still around today !
Do you not understand math ? My parents were born in 1938 & 1941 and are still alive today (they would have been around 21 & 24 yrs old in 1962)
@samantha id say around 25% of these people are still alive
One Truth Media Company eh I don’t think I’m wrong... I wrote “most of these people” not all of them. And a lot of those people which they interviewed looked of middle age.
The man at 2:02 has my respect because he took into account of the wife’s feelings.
its not like showing empathy didn't exist back then
@@musiccer7446 empathy for women, not so much…
@@imagirl688 thats honestly ridiculous. What arguments could there possibly be to support such a claim? Political landscape doesn’t equate to behaviour among people. Despite what you might think, even back than husbands usually loved their wives and vice versa. Just because there were more traditional roles doesn’t mean empathy didn’t exist. Our picture of the past is very wrong. Painting a negative image of the past is in positive interest of the modern progressive movements. Saying that men regularly beat their wives and that women had no say at all in the family is so wrong if you look at such recordings. It’s like calling your grandfather a wife beater simply for being born in that generation.
Well, I’m sorry to disappoint you, men back then weren’t just machines trying to beat their wife at any possible instance and women were in many ways privileged at the time. You just don’t want to see it. We are not better today, In many ways were worse, things changed, but not everything for the better. I have the feeling open mindedness is much less prevalent today as it was back then. Social media has ruined this generation. And I am not even old. I am 18
@@musiccer7446 in general women weren’t as privileged as men. Simple as that. They weren’t paid as high, they got mistreated, and beaten for little things (most of the time by their husbands.) so don’t go around saying women had it good because when you get down to it, it wasn’t. And I’d like to point out that I know not all men were like that. It’s just refreshing because throughout the whole video, nobody seems to acknowledge the wife in the situation. Stop making such grand accusations based on one comment. Stay in school, kid.
@@imagirl688 grand accusations? I don’t know what you’re talking about.
Apart from that as I said, the roles were more traditional and the political landscape was fairly one sided. About just as one sided as our modern view of the past.
No, husbands didn’t beat their wives for every little thing. Violence is in all species rarely used among intimate partners especially in social species.
In fact studies show that what contributes most to domestic abuse is how the person was raised. Talking about abusers isn’t what will stop abusers from abusing. Our talking won’t change domestic abuse statistics. The only thing that awareness does is help victims after it already happened.
The average man was not and never was abusive. Some cultural norms surely seem abusive, but then one could argue from our modern perspective that most women back then were gold diggers because money was a much bigger factor back then.
Apart from that, human decency is imbedded in our nature as a social species. If you actually believe that husbands did regularly or even wanted to beat their wives than you are wrong because you clearly don’t understand the human psyche.
Talking about roles. Yes, from our modern priorities women had it pretty bad. But you need to look at it from their perspective. Many women didn’t want the right to vote because usually that right came with the work of the husband. Men usually worked themselves to death in Cole mines and industry to provide for their family. Death by various diseases or accidents was common. Whereas women may have had less political and economical power they usually had a fairly comfortable life style. Autonomy was revoked for obedience but under better living conditions. Men had full freedom, but freedom can lead you down into the darkest corners of life. Just as much as you can rise you can fall. And unlike women, men were and are still forced to go to war. I personally would rather stay home and care than be send to the battle field to die or be traumatised for the rest of my life. Besides, Mutual respect on appreciation are the foundation of any relationship. If you want to tell me that healthy relationships were less common or didn’t exist at all compared today you are naive. A short look at divorce statistics should disprove you. It might be that people were more confined to their roles and that cost many individuals freedoms purely based on irrelevant factors such as sex. But it can’t be said that there wasn’t an appreciation for each other’s roles.
And to say that women had it only bad and men only good is far too one sided. Women enjoyed many privileges men didn’t have that cost them many freedoms men did have. The pressure alone on men to provide and protect and be strong alone is much more psychological torture in case you are failing than for women. Women had less pressure for achievement. They had other pressures.
Fact is, you can’t see this as one sided.
Apart from that. Imagine a scenario where people are asked these exact questions on the street today. Do you really believe the answers would be that much different?
Damn that one lady that was like “Having the husband in the delivery room would destroy the bonds of the marriage” needs to chill lol
I can understand why she says that..😂😂😂 "its like seeing your fav restaurant burn downs"
She was also pretty old which means she might have been Born around 1890
Victorian Era Sexual repression, woooo!
Probably doesn’t like her husband
@@sittingonceilings6805 Booo you're no fun
The man who said consider the temperament of the husband and and feelings of the wife. Spot on. Its not a one size fits all. Respect both.
Rain Blooms I thought his answer was perfect. Personal preference.
My husband was present for the births of our children but he remained fixed at my head. I was happy to have a hand to squeeze and shirt collar to grab! 😂
No the dad is the boss. If he wants to watch he watches, if he wants to go get a steak it’s up to him. Women obey
@@displaychicken Your just sad, Hun
Eric Schick I can’t tell if your being facetious or not lol I think/hope/pray you are. Dads are the boss? Lol 😆 you’re super funny if it’s sarcasm!!
tara tara tara I’m just old fashioned. Back when people were burning CD’s, I was still burning books.
Hearing the development of the Australian accent is so fascinating.
I can’t believe that this is not what every comment is about. It’s so interesting
I think people thought this is the UK, that’s what I thought too until I read your comment.
Yassssss I was wondering big-time where this was filmed! I did think UK at first but there was too much twang
فتاة مصريه it doesnt sound british at all!
It's remarkable! Even as a English person I was thrown off at first thinking that they were British. The interviewer in particular.
Can't imagine going through childbirth without my husband. While he absolutely admits that it was way more graphic than he expected it would be (he didnt really take any time to mentally prepare), he also said he can't imagine NOT being there!
What a disgrace. He didn’t give anyone an ig shoutout
they are probably too poor to afford a smartphone😔😫
maybe he wasn't allowed😤✋
are you all dumb they want privacy!!
Haha.
Bruh he didn’t want fake racist fans 😂
“It depends on the wives feeling, if she wants him there or not” CEO OF TAKING WOMENS FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION
Yeah, incredible that men these times seem more considerate than men today.
@@alicefaitdescarabistouille924 dude... that's so mean, and a tad sexist.
@@alicefaitdescarabistouille924 keyword "seem". We take in consideration everyone's feelings
Alice fait des carabistouilles probably, the family unit was still strong then, and good values were passed on... now less so. When it comes to culture, we should not only look back to the 50’s for the bad (restrictive for women) but also the many goods.
Alice fait des carabistouilles Well, before watching this, I thought about it and came to the conclusion that the wife should be the one who chooses if she wants him there first and then the husband should decide wether or not he wants to be there if she allows him. It's only fair, I mean, women could either feel embarrassed or more comfortable with their husband there, so they should be the ones to make the choice.
I don't think there's a video of men in 2020 answering this question, so there's no knowing if they'd think about the women first or not.
When my grandma had her kids the only reason my grandpa wasn't there is because he didn't realize he was allowed to be, by the time he learned he could they were done having kids and wished he could have seen it at least once.
I believe that is right.
If a female wants to keep her partner and want him to be attracted to her. He should not witness childbirth lol.
I mean, some guys can handle it, but some guys get turned off by their partners after seeing their va-jay-jay shit out a kid
@@vipr1142 or they need to grow up
@@vipr1142 if the only think in a marriage is how turned on the man is by his wife then that marriage is not going to be happy
@@vipr1142 Or they can man up
@@vipr1142 Lack of attraction caused by childbirth signifies that the couple is unprepared to start a family, not that one partner should just excuse themselves from the situation while the other cannot. If a couple chooses to have kids, they had better be 100% in because any less is a recipe for disaster.
There's just charm that I find from vintage stuff: recordings, clothes people used to wear and their speech.
I love this little old man with the hearing aid who’s like, “I think it’s okay!”
I just had a dumb moment 🤣 I thought it was an earbud
@@paige6306 airpod😭
Literally thought the same thing. So cute 😍
Paige me too lol
*i think it’s AWH-KEH*
Love the old guy who actually thinks about asking his wife if SHE would be comfortable with him there and then says he would prefer it if he could. Now that's applaudable.
Renu Thakur I’m a woman, and I was waiting for someone to feel the day way as I do hahaha
I’m comfortable with it, but definitely depends on the partner as well (some may not like to see blood)
Yes! He's the only one who gives any consideration to the wife's wishes. Everyone else is focused on the husband.
I like the woman in the back who’s just looking and smiling like “this guy’s got it”
King shit 👑
@@killerkitten7534 shes probably more excited to see a camera and mic. Back then people were really wow'd by this kind of stuff because of how new it was
Gentleman at 2:02 is the middle man of reason. As long as she says it’s ok then yes. It’s incredible by the way.
The guy at 1:50 was the rudest and he was still nicer than a lot of people I know
I don't believe he was rude he just haven't been in that circumstance in his life so he shy's away. If anything, for me the doctor is the one I cought having a sour way of behaving.
@@ezratehzib2168 Yeah, I guess that’s true. Not saying he was rude, he just seemed to be the least nice to me, which is still fairly nice.
@@belowxero3071 I see 👍🏻
He was probably busy and wanted to just give a quick answer before he got asked another
I need a guy like the first guy 😭 “All problems in a married life should be shared equally therefore the husband should be there”
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Yeah but childbirth isnt a problem 🤣🤣🤣
Adrian Barbuio sorry, i don’t speak ancient
@@shadowweaver3693 Of course it isn't a problem, to the MAN. It's a big problem to the woman who has to go through a lot of pain and shouldn't go through it by herself
@@avocado3-in-182 it means th
“Should a husband watch the birth of the children?”
“ No, I’m a doctor “
That one cracked me up!
He's probably seen enough for a lifetime.
He was 1000% sure of his answer too. Offended even that the interviewer would ask something so ludicrous lol
I imagine at the "family bonds" question, he thought "I've seen plenty of births and I've never gotten bonds to any of those women"
As he’s pushing the buggy that cracked me up lol
"Well as far as I'm concerned, mate, it's got nothing to do withme. I'm not married" this guy's just tired of hearing in every familiy reunion the question, when he will get a girlfriend lol
That fox at the end says, "I'm not a married woman" and then gets lost in the interviewers eyes when he mentions strengthening family bonds! I hope he got her number and now they're living together in an old folks home with lots of grand children to visit them!
He said, "Not for long, I'm sure." Haha it was definitely an old time flirt.
Did you actually just day "got her number"? Lmao starngely I dont think that's how they did things back then
I don't know, when were the first phones widely available? 1950s? I think this video could have been made when phones were a thing
@@basedostrich Of course they had phones in the 1960s!
@@basedostrich ..it was the main means of communicating with boyfriends. Oh dear. We are not in the ark times. Delia Morris
You have to remember the old ladies would have been born in the 1800s.
And the old men
Damn it's true
god thats old
and back then you didn't really marry for love and even if you did, it was still common to beat and rape your wife... some of them probably weren't that fond of their husband.
so? In the 1800's the husband was probably *more* present than in the 1960s!
I love how they’re not attacking people just politely responding
BLACK CAT LIVES MATTER TOO!!!
@@mittenzpurrez8235 was this joke necessary here?
That's how people were back then.
Now everyone's used to defending themselves because of the internet, so they jump to conclusions and aren't as level headed sadly
The formality and politeness of people in the past is something I miss even though I didn't experience it.
@@shoshishoshi127 I get that feeling. 😂 Although I feel like the new generation is bringing that back.
“Yea, for sure” sounds lost within all this polite and proper talk
Guy was a bit ahead
@@PajamCamno he just didn’t care about being formal for the camera. Has nothing to do with being “ahead”
As a father, watching my daughter being born was the best moment in my entire life.
@Sarah A we were never married
I appreciate the people not complaining about living without colors
9AIMEr BAHHAHAHAHA
I smell a woosh
it was just the cameras that couldnt record color.. the world looked the same
@@xxpandapotatoxx9766 8 hours
Ju Mei Ohhhhhhhhhhh I get it now!
Being present at birth, does not mean, you have to stare into the wormhole while it is doing its magic, or does it?
Just stand beside your woman and hold her hand, ffs.
My husband saw more than I did. The doctor asked if we wanted a mirror to see and we both said yes but I didn't have my contacts or glasses so I really didn't see much.
Wormhole?! Lol 🤣.. I mean if you are already there, why miss out on watching your own kid being born with the woman you are about to raise a kid with. If she can push a human out of her after growing it for 9 months, the dude can watch. It is just birth, a totally natural thing.. it is not scary lol. If he can't watch birth how is he going to handle projectile shit and vomit from a baby monster lol.
Yeah but he still can see all the blood and mucus and placenta coming out anyway.
He will also be asked if he wants to cut the umbilical cord, which, according to my husband, feels like trying to cut a thick, slimy rubber band.
But that’s ok too. He thought that at that moment “everything felt natural”.
Anona Meows
It’s not really about if the man can handle it or not. It’s about the woman, giving birth is already hard enough without your man looking at it.
Just hold her hand if thats what she wants.
"Wormhole" What a choice of words.
Imagining babies coming out of stark trek wormhole now.
We all know it's a blackhole, it sucks happiness and gives debt.
Woah their manners and attitude is so delightful to see, I’m taking notes
I like the man who said it depends how both partners feel about it. It really does! Not everyone wants the experience to be the same and that's okay.
if this was me i would say
"husbands were present in the making, they should also be present in the outcome"
Thank you u said this in the most graceful way possible
best comment here lol
They should be present if the female wants him present
100% should also apply to the money. Maybe in better times.
Yepp couldn't say it any better myself!
I get the feeling that many of the older men are positive about the idea because they regret not being able to see their own children born.
Lmao
I did not go in for my first child, but did for my second, It was amazing, unfortunately 30 years later I lost him in January 2021 to suicide.
:(
@@lifeiswhatyoumakeit5027 im so sorry
@@lifeiswhatyoumakeit5027 I'm really sorry for your loss😢, and wish you the best, no one should ever have to lose his own child😔
"As far as I'm concerned, mate, it's got nothing to do with me. I'm not married".
Mood
My dad wasn't there when I was born, he was in a different town buying a cow ☺
Shout out to the man at 2:02 who was the only guy who considered the feelings of the woman giving birth!
Suzan Y Yeah, he’s a good guy.
@@KonstruktiveKritik he was born in the 1800s yet he had the brains to say it (notice his nervous laugh, he knows there was women "against" it)
Absolutely! His answer was most considerate of everyone involved and each unique situation.
The first dude was considerate too.
I doubt I'd want him there, either. All these doctors and nurses staring between your legs and your body in agony, but please honey why don't you watch? Think I'd prefer what little privacy I'm able to at that moment.
I liked the one guy who basically said it's up to the husband and wife. That's how it should be.
Time stamp - 2:01 2:02
Wise man in fedora :) 2:01 ish
Well ofcp
Although I agree with you in part. Why is it such an issue? I mean. Some things should be sacred between and in opposition of a man and wife, no?
Those were indeed wise words from an elder
I love the way they all talk. Their voices are very different from how people talk now and they have a beat with every word they say it’s truly wonderful
2:03 he clearly is the husband we should look forward to being sounds like a great example of a man
„Do you think husbands should watch the birth of their children?“
„No I am German“
Underrated comment. Aliens!
Nibogen Cupcake Not all heroes wear capes
*vegetable*
I remember from last video 😂😂👏👏
lmao u remember that video 🤣🤣🤣
This guy was a CZcamsr ahead of his time.
Otherwise known as a journalist.
@Josh: OMG, that comment made me cringe so hard! 😂 "Man on the Street" interviews are the standard. It's like someone mentioning a disposable pop group from this period of time and saying the Beatles sound like them instead of the other way around. You must be really young!
@@lemurianchick Wow. It was a joke.
@@ComedyLoverGirl Ah, yes, "journalist": a primitive precursor to our glorious lockstep propaganda machine. Thank Rupert we evolved from such vulgar practices. Hail Ignorance! Hail Arrogance!
Lmao
Husbands need to protect their wives in their most vulnerable moments. The criminal mistreatment of labouring mothers has improved with the presence of their husbands who subsequently brought charges against the medical authorities.
My father watched the birth of my sister. After that my mother didn't want him to watch my and my brothers birth, because he made everyone nervous.
“Depends on the temperament of the husband and feelings of the woman” periodt 💅🏼💅🏼
It's weird how he was considerate of women's feelings, I wonder how they photoshopped that in...
@@MrKoyama2004 not all people of the older generations were so oppressive to women. Many loved their wives dearly and cared for their feelings
i cringed reading this
@@MrKoyama2004 i wonder who photoshoped this skewed image of people in your brain. They must have done a splendid job sadly
@@allwordzaremadeup-voidz6229 You know, women back then were chained to ovens in their kitchens, and the 50's and 60's were basically Gilead from Handmaid's Tale, they told me that in my social studies classes.
“It depends on the temperament of the husband and on the feelings of the wife.” This guy’s got the biggest brain of all of them!
Yes! I thought the exact same thing! It all depends on both parents making the decision together. And I couldn't imagine a couple deciding against him being present today. I certainly wanted to be there and my now-wife wanted it, too.
Yea this one was the real ahead of his time of all
Yeah if he's afraid of blood or not going to be supportive why have him there? Also many women went them out in response to pain or lack of privacy and also the opposite. But I do really think it helps many men engage with their children. Whether they see the birth part or not certainly they should be with them for the day.
Yeah. Like the real problem was all the marriages of dubious consent in that era and the fact that men often weren't allowed in the birthing room if they wanted to.
Ameen best answer
The guy that said "it got nothing to do with me I ain't married"
Lol me
This video popped up on my feed this morning and made me subscribe. Now I'm down a rabbit hole watching all these old videos. Really interesting
I love how well dressed everyone is.
That's because this interview shows only one side of society, the rich suburban one.
Davide Vandelli true but i really just like the rich 50s look lol
@@keyboardcockatoo4567 mood
Davide Vandelli during that time most people left the house well dressed no matter their economic circumstances.
@@hdtaylor1977 this is my understanding as well. Maybe the materials were a bit cheaper more used and maybe you just had one dress or one suit but they definitely wore them out and took care of their clothes.
Sweet lord, that first dude so woke. Made him even more attractive.
Right?
“Woke” fuck that stupid word
Lol you women are so weird
What a catch he must have been! He was only thinking of being there for his wife and not what he personally had to gain or lose from the situation like the others.
No he wasn't
It should be the couple’s decision.
Personally, I was present at my second child’s birth. I wanted so much to experience it with my partner and I am so glad I did.
It turned out to be long and traumatic for my wife. Her waters broke at eleven in the morning and they ended up inducing her a few hours later, then we expected the baby would be born imminently.
Time dragged on, with my wife pushing and pushing beyond her threshold of endurance. I started to worry, but as the doctors didn’t seem the same, so I thought it must be okay.
Half past eleven pm arrived and a doctor mention “forceps” which made me freeze. I seen what forceps can do to the baby’s head
so I whispered into my wife’s ear “push! push, baby, PUSH!
Twenty to twelve on New Year’s Eve our precious boy entered this world; he was placed on mummy’s tummy while we admired his little being with tears in our eyes. It was phenomenal!
It made me see just exactly what women REALLY go through and I was so proud of her, and somewhat worried.
After the the whole experience my wife’s eye was blood red, which I put down to the extreme pushing: burst blood vessels.
Months later wife suffered frequent depression and excruciating headaches which had her cuddled in a corner in crying with unbearable pain which began to subside after forty five minutes. At that time she said she felt as if something was released into her brain. Her eyes would look dopey and the trauma would start to ease.
She has suffered this for years and takes medication which helps a bit, but if she experiences any stress in her life this can trigger one of these crushing headaches.
She often says -“What did I do to suffer so?”
And, I feel hopeless that I can’t help her.
As anyone ever experienced similar in their life, mainly the Headaches? I would like to know how you cope or know of a better medication.
Please write if you come across this. Thank you.
Ask the GP if she can see a neurologist they have better meds all. the time and a neurologist can tell her what is wrong hopefully. I am wondering if raised blood pressure affected her brain during. the birth which does sound traumatic. Hope this helps I am a retired RN. Delia Morris
„It shouldn‘t be too far.“
😶
That‘s always nice to hear.
The guy that said, "depends on the temperament of the husband and the preferences of the wife" hit it straight on. I was there for all 3 of mine. If she wants you there, you comfort your wife, give encouragement, realize that together you brought a beautiful life into this world, and immediately bond with your child, hopefully making you a better husband and father for the rest of your life.
"If she wants you there" If not Im marrying someone else 😂 gotta have these conversations before getting married 🤷🏾
I totally agree with this. Some husbands are just too controlling/hyper/cause more stress/think they should be the center of attention. I told my husband that it is my hospital room. I am the patient. If he hindered the experience, he can gladly wait outside. Some men just aren’t mature enough to handle it even though they may be okay in everyday life
@@Halfbloodprincesss8 Call me immature if you want, but if my future wife didn't let me see the birth of my own child then I'm walking out of the marriage. I would sooner shave my beard then miss the birth of my child
@@happygamer3395 I agree with you. The agreement between a husband and wife is to support each other through times like having a baby and creating a family. The people who have no right to be there for the birth of their kids are men who think they can alpha their way around the birth of their child by telling the wife that she can’t get an epidural or medication for the birth, or by sitting around complaining they are tired or hungry or playing video games instead of catering to the wife who is in labor for hours if not days. If the father of the child/husband is a supportive part of the process even if they have no clue what they’re doing (let’s face it most moms don’t either), then those are the guys who have every right to be there for their family. My husband knew the rules and he was respectful, brought me ice chips and popsicles, and knew when I just needed a quiet environment to focus. Not all men are like that in a stressful situation.
I couldn't imagine not being there for the birth of my child.
Right now, I am in the hospital with my wife, waiting for our first child to be born. I am extremely excited!
I think most of the women who said no were scared their husbands wouldn't be attracted to them if they saw them in that state. Which is quite sad honestly
Yeah, if you're from a time where marriage was a requirement and the man you married wasn't necessarily one you wanted to, the societies were very separate. Women did Women Things and men did Men Things, and men encroaching on women's spaces/activities was so much more upsetting and privacy-destroying back then. A lot has changed in a relatively short time (for the better), but those older women were probably very much stuck in the "men have better things to do, and this is a Woman's Thing" idea.
@@asteroid152jes
For the better? The society today is a lot worse.
The divorce rates, marriages rates, how many men are becoming single (for the better) and look at how they view females and you can’t blame them for which feminism is the leading cause.
No men would date a feminist. You know exactly why.
Look at the single females and you notice they are one of them and once they are 30 and wish to seek to marry, settle down, & have kids, notice these men choose to ignore them. Why is that? It’s not that hard.
You often hear single females saying “where are the good men gone?” You know exactly why.
@@alohatigers1199
Can you explain why you think feminism is causing a negative view on women? Feminism is literally the belief that women and men should have equal rights and opportunities. Nothing more. From my perspective that seems quite fair.
And why are you saying men and you’re calling women females? A “female” could be anything, not necessarily a human. Could be be a dog. Not a crime to use the word female in this way but just wondering why.
Oh and as a feminist myself I can happily say that men actually do want to date me and there are actually quite a lot of good men out there.
Have a good day!
@@alohatigers1199 lmao you sound very sexist. Also the divorce rates are high because people actually feel comfortable getting divorced now. Back then there was so much stigma attached people frequently stayed married to people they didn't love or even people who were abusive or cheaters because they felt they had to. I'm glad the divorce rate is so high today. It means more people are choosing to be happy and move on. That's a good thing. If only people would stop getting married to begin with lol. Marriage is not for everyone. In fact I think the divorce rates prove that. But society still pressures people to get married. I predict another 50-100 years from now there will be less marriages.
@@alohatigers1199 "no men would date a feminist"
First of all, it's "man" not "men" in this sentence.
Secondly, I'm a feminist who has been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 years. I know LOADS of feminists who are in happy relationships with men.
Just admit you're a sexist bellend.
I not only watched, but literally 'caught' both of my children bare-handed.
No experience will ever match the feeling of that moment. Life changing.
3:39 the way shes looking at him looks like theyre in one of those old romance movies oml
Well that's how people where :)
@@realm1369 its literally so cute nowadays people just look at each other in sexual ways its disgusting like is this too much to ask for
It’s so wild that many woman were like, “absolutely not!” and many men were like, “absolutely, we’re partners”.
A lot of women back then wanted privacy.
The women were brought up with the idea that all that 'wimin's business' (menstruation, childbirth, possibly even nursing) is something shameful that should never be shown to the husband because he'd be grossed out by it.
@@TheNaexis The real answer.
I personally think couples didn't have enough intimacy for these kind of moments back then... which is really sad. Women feeling uncomfortable in front of their husbands when giving birth and men not wanting to be with their wives in such a raw and vulnerable moment bc it would "traumatize" them. It's just sad.
@@_tripalong It was, and even now, a lot more of an issue where women do not want their partner present because childbirth is a time when they're very much physically exposed. To be seen bleeding, or with urine or feces present, while a baby is on delivery is physically traumatic to the body and moee often then none a man was just anxious or insecure and had nothing to do in such a way that many just did not (and still don't) want them present. Privacy was and is a preferred option; but it's not always the case. Some people do want partners present and that's not a measure of intimacy. It's more to the nature of how private someone is.
"They're married to the woman, they should know everything that's going on." That's either really endearing or absolutely appalling.
the latter
The former
both
Appalling. Sounded like a control freak.
I think they mean for the situation of childbirth they should know everything idk
Did anyone notice ..all the women who says "yes the husband should be there" are single n without children but the women who have already had a child and married says "no the husband should not be there" ..idk I found that interesting 🤔
It’s crazy how different it is now. I had a baby right before covid hit and they let my husband deliver her (with the midwife and nurse there to guide him). It was an amazing experience for both of us and we were the first ones to hold her
The guy who said 'it depends on the temperament of the man and the feelings of the woman' hits it on the head.
2:03
I hate how men who dont have the temperament to witness it are vilified. Future fathers can learn from both sets of experiences. It's not going to be a pretty sight, if you go in ready you might be able to withstand the sight even if you have a very weak constitution.
to future fathers there will be afterbirth, there will be blood, there might even be faeces. Dont go in without educating yourself
@@umarb7325 some men just can’t handle it
@@umarb7325 to be very honest if you're not ready to witness the childbirth, then you're not ready to be a parent. that is the moment you will feel the most connected to your new baby and the mother of your child. nothing else in life or your relationship will ever be close to that.
Someone should do the same interview with people of this generation
We already know the answer
@Ronald Studuain 😂😂😂
people today think that all family, and in laws should be present
Ronald Studuain 💀
Horses4life1001 Hell no. Just my boyfriend/husband. If an in-law tries to but in in that personal time, I don’t want them around me anymore.
I feel like a father feels like he misses something - he has lost them with a relationship. They should be there at all times. Many fathers and children feel like that children are closer to their mother as been with them since birth.
My husband was at the birth of my daughter and (not to brag) but he said he had a new outlook on life and a great amount of respect after nearly 60 hours of labor, 3.5 hours of pushing, induction, and an emergency c section. It's a special moment for the father to be there for the birth of their child when the mother and father bond together watching their baby's entrance into the world.
Lmao not my babydad he fell asleep 👍
“Perhaps they wouldn’t have so many children if they could watch the birth” 😂😂
thats a good thing though
AJ wins best comment and Marky Mark wins for best reply.
For some it would be like watching your favorite restaurant burn down
@Yes Sir! really? Wow :o sounds like youre traumatized!
Marky Mark soooooo true 💯
“Well I’m married to the woman I should know everything that goes on” lol 😂 deeaaaddd!
I'm hoping what he meant is that they are one person and that goes both ways... lmao
I mean, he's right tho!😂
Just read this when he was saying it😅
It's still funny
@@aderiancreature8464 I did too
It’s so interesting listening to them talk and how different they talk from us now.
It’s because they’re British!
0:40 the way he says it is cute lol
Crazy to think 90% of the people talking are now dead.
Shows how fleeting life is, we are temporary beings having a physical experience!!
True! Life is short. We must be certain of our eternity! Jesus came to give us life, if we turn from our sin and put our trust in Him, we will be saved. If we reject our savior and creator, we will suffer eternally in the lake of fire where there is utter darkness, weeping, and gnashing of teeth. Repent, put your trust in Jesus. And then grow in the knowledge of God. Read His Word, the Bible, every day. Jesus loves you! ❤️ He did not come into the world to condemn the world but to save the world.
This is what i think when i watch this video too😂😂
skunkii exactly, they sound dumb
@@lurji there is a chance that life continues to exist after death. We have souls. Reincarnation is very possible too. I'm not a christian, I do not believe in religion, but for some reason I'm almost sure that there's something after death. If you really wish to survive. Why it is so delusional? I bet you didn't even experience something paranormal to be so sure about your theory. The only delusional people are those who say that there's no other kind of life after the death of the body. How can you be so sure? Having an opinion is fine, but don't make it public and offend someone with a different point of view than yours.
I thought more men would say no considering the time.
I expected this. Marriage was a lot more sacred and traditional back then. Plus, the 1960's were a relatively progressive time anyways lol.
@@dbzayan yea that is true, but with the way feminism and stuff is going it almost seemed as if men didn't do much of anything.
@@_trixieburg26 modern feminism is bs
Patricia Burgess modern feminism is different from back then. Many things were very sacred, esp to a married couple who was about to start a family
@@AlysonJackson yea I'm starting to see that now lol😂😂
I love how every respondent answered the question respectfully even if some of them seem to be in a hurry
I dont have kids yet but my dad was in the room for both me and my brothers birth, and he says it was the most beautiful and life changing moments of his whole life
It's fascinating how the accent was so different back then, especially considering it hasn't been that long.
It was done in Sydney, unless you meant an Australian accent :)
@@lillianmonet5952 i think he means with proper pronunciation of the words and the education to the words not like " oh yea na i reckon it be alright if man where there you know what I mean "
@@shaunmcfarlane9657 truth is people had a different way of speaking when the occasion called for it. It's just posh phone manner and mostly for show.
Lmao the egocentric nature of America can be so cute. Just what if Mulan 121 was an Australian! And he might be bewildered and question where the heck YOU are from to ask such a thing!
@Mulan 121
I always think about that!
Love the guy who said it’s a nice thing for a man to see his child come into the world.
The bloody Doctor though. Didnt want a bar of it.
@@patsyhodge9071 that’s where it all started.
@@patsyhodge9071 he probably seen too many to think much of it ..also probably doesn't want the guy hyperventilating and giving them an extra person to take care of 😛
Once he see the vagina stretch it never leaves his mind
I would like to say that all of these 4 replys before me was very amusing. What a nice talk
I knew a man, already father, who helped his Nextdoor neighbour giving birth to her first child. He was experienced, she was not, help was on the way, but she was still alone, and scared as hell. He happened to be at home that day. She begged him to help her. All went well. Some men are wonderful.
For my first child I said I wanted my husband to stand at my head the whole time so he didn't see anything shocking. For our third he assisted me solo on our bedroom floor and it was amazing.
❤💕
“No, I think a woman should have privacy at that point”
Privacy? Has she forgotten how the baby was conceived in the first place?
Missionary in the dark under the blankets. Different times, less to none sexy times
to be fair if i ever give birth i wouldn't want my partner around lol most people shit during childbirth that's not something i want them to see
I do agree with her. 80% of women defecate and another large percentage tear their vaginas or perineum. Soooo yeah. It is up to the individuals, like if they choose a c-section, maybe not so bad. But I would like Privacy.
@@VieraXXII yea everyone's different, but I have to laf omg, my mum told me it's cause the doctors tell you too push, and it's very hard to distinguish what your pushing when your cervix has dilated to the width of a human head 😶
if you had sex with someone would you also like them to watch you take a shit? childbirth is probably even more personal than to have someone watch you on the toilet
Material aside, it’s interesting that their accents sound more British back in the day. It’s still clearly unique, but it’s also different than today’s Australian accents
I was just wondering what accent that was! I mean, they sound American to me but from some unknown region. Does anyone know what that is?
It’s truly incredible how accents change over time and change in specific areas!
This is an applied accent for tv and aristocrats back then, called the Mid-Atlantic or Transatlantic accent. Many articles and even CZcams videos talk about it :)
@@zillashimmy This is in Sydney, Australia, in 1962. It is not in the United States. The initial comment here makes a good observation: The accents sound more English than the Australian accents we hear today.
I had no idea it was filmed in Australia. To my ears, I'm hearing an British accent. Shook
Loving the fact everyone (both men and women) were able to give their own opinions just to see what both sides think about it. It’s also great hearing differing opinions with no arguments
Absolutely. It's an experience that will live with me forever witnessing the birth of my daughter 💕
She said "I think some men...it'd do them good to see that" AND DID A DRAMATIC walk away....
Girls got some STORIES I tell ya😂
She was 100% adorable and right!
I love how the interviewer did a silent and respectful bow as she left 😂
She was going to miss her bus
It's actually sad isnt it? Such toxicity patriachy still exist.
Its true, go to countries were women are treated as property, raped, killed for being women, or misogynist communities that hate women, say their less than, etc. it does still exist, even if its not as much as it once was.
At that time they spoke elegantly and answered everything politely.
I suppose they would cut out the clips of a drunken bum slurring through his answer.
I feel like some of these responses might have been seen as rude back then but the way we talk has just changed a lot since
In the past, politeness was a requirement of all things that appeared in formal media, and cut out the rude people. Today, we look to the media for entertainment, and cut out the polite people.
Oh yes! It was such a beautiful time.
You're seeing the best of the best; remember this when you form an opinion of the past.
One of the women looked so much like Sally Phillips the comedian - I thought it was a mocumentary when I clicked the link. How wonderful to hear such respectful discussion.
The accent of this time was ✨amazing✨
I agree, it's called the transatlantic accent and they thought it as curriculum in school
@@realm1369 No. It is in Australia. Nowhere near the Atlantic.
They dressed so classy.
@SO Hello, and women. I have to level up my appearance.
Men look so professional, now they look horrible. There is no pride in appearance anymore.
well now there are half naked people walking around
@SO q how would you feel if i said "i wished women still dressed classy🙄, now theyre all walking around half naked" even tho i dont believe this. Would i be in the wrong/sexist?
@@kv.2060 she'll probably call you sexist.
@@kv.2060 shhhh, you can't say that.
This is really surprising though. I figured more men would laugh it off, but they seem invested in it.
More so than the women.
I think it really illustrates the degree to which men romanticise relationships, and particularly parenthood compared with women.
Congratulations, you've been highly suggestively influenced by the media around you to think a certain way about men...
@@eggsnspam Men?? Empathic??? HOW?!?!?
/s
@@bombkangaroo ???
Best experience of my life, holding my son as he popped into my arms and into the world, he yelled his lungs out and I chatted to him. We BONDED. He grew up very close to me and knows I will always be there for him.
I'll put it this way, husband's help make the baby so they should be involved in the pregnancy and birth process as much as humanly possible. Being responsible for the life you helped make starts by being there as it enters the world. Seeing your wife give birth to your baby is a beautiful thing and something no man should miss out on.