My in-laws are my relatives, I served them and respected them with my heart. My service was appreciated like you appreciate a good servant. The lesson I learned from my life that people use you, if you are a good person.
Agreed Dr Sahb means well but as a man he doesn't understand the dynamics of women ...bahu kidney bhi dey dey toh she will be considered an outsiders ....a wife's main focus should be her husband...Baki logoun k sath respectful rahein lekin over honai ki zarurat Nahi
In my 10year marriage life I faced many unusual circumstances but I didn't let down myself and I feel that I have great patients and a humble personality. Today I can say proudly that my mother in law even all my husband's family members are thankful to my mom that you gave us a precious daughter 😇ALHAMDULILLAH I feel myself so blessed 😇😇🙏
دیکھیں مریم ۔۔ ہر جگہ ہر طرح کے لوگ پائے جاتے ہیں ہمارے ہی معاشرے میں اچھے اور برے شوہر موجود ہیں۔۔ سخت مزاج اور شفقت کرنے والی ساسیں موجود ہیں۔۔ بدتمیز اور ںاخلاق بہوئیں بھی ہیں۔۔ سڑیل اور اچھی نندیں بھی ہیں۔۔ ۔۔۔۔ اب آتے ہیں دوسری طرف کہ سسرالیوں کا رویہ، میں خود اس پر بہت زیادہ سوچ بچار کرتا رہتا ہوں کہ آخر کیا حل نکالا جائے اس مسئلے کا۔۔ کل کو اگر میں شادی کروں تو ان چیزوں کو فیس نہ کرنا پڑے۔۔ مثال لیتے ہیں کہ، آپ کی ساس کا آپ کے ساتھ روکھا رویہ ہے، تو کیا آپ نے کبھی سوچا کہ ایسا کیوں ہے؟ اور نکتے کو ڈھونڈا جس کی وجہ سے ایسا ہے؟ اور اس نکتے کو دور کرنے کی کوشش کی؟؟ باقی میں یہ نہیں کہہ رہا کہ صرف لڑکیاں ہی قصوروار ہوں گی، میرا ماننا یہ ہے کہ ہمیں اپنا سو فیصد دینا چاہیے، اور اس کے بعد اچھے بدلے کی امید رکھنی چاہیے، اچھا بدلے ملے تو ٹھیک نہیں تو اللہ کے ہاں تو یقیناً اس کا اجر اچھا بلکہ بہت اچھا ہی ملے گا ان شاءاللہ۔۔ رب تعالیٰ سب کی مشکلیں عطا فرمائے
sir I am a clinical psychologist and by nature I am a linenent and polite person. I tried to keep every relation in my life but eventually I realized that in the process of keeping everyone happy I was loosing my husband and myself as well. so at the end I decided to take care of my husband (my very first responsibility & priority) and a bit of myself. now am living peacefully.
this is a million dollar point, if you and your husband have a great understanding you'll stay happy, would be even great if you could take all the other relations along the journey of your life
Please mere liye Dua kren shadi ki age aa kr nikl rhi h sab dost cousins ki shadiyan horhi Bchy hogye Mgr Maa bap ko na parwah h na koi koshish din rat preshan rhti hn
Be that mom for ur children ... Be the first drop of rain and u will see the change in the society sooner or later ... It's the law of physics ... Khuda hafiz o nasir
100 batoon ki aik baat!!!! Khuda k liyai kabhi bhi apni zindaghi ko isi koshish Aur tagudo May barbaad naa karain k meri saas, mera sasur , mera shohar, mera sasuraal mujsay razi ho jaay, yeah insan hain kabhi bhi kisi bhi haal may khush nahi rehta, aap inkay liyai mar bhi jaain to bhi nahi 😑 Niyat karain k may in sab k sab rishto ko apni taraf say puray khaloos k saath nibhaon gi, Qurbatan illalah. Basically Allah ko razi karnay k liyai in sab ki raza hasil karnay ki koshish karon gi. Kaam asaan!!!yaqeen karain kuch Aur hasil ho na ho, sakoon e qalb Aur chehray pay Noor Aur itmenaan zaroor hasil hoga. Insha Allah Banday banday ki ghulami, Aur rang bhirangay chotay chotay khuda bana k unko razi karnay May apna waqt zaya karnay say behtar hay, faqat aik ki ghulami ho, jo asal Khuda hay, Aur sirf wohi iska haq bhi rakhta hay, kuch bhi ho jaay uski rassi Aur Raza ko nahi chorna, Insha Allah dunya Aur aakhirat ki khair e khair haasil hogi.
Haseeb Khan Na qadray bando k hathon may apni betio/ behno ki qismat na dain, khuda pay bharosa rakhain, Aur jaisay hi yaqeen ho jaay k yeah miss match hua hay , chor dain, zindaghi Aur waqt barbaad na karain aisay logo k theek honay k intezaar may. Jo log apni qadar khud nahi kartay , unki na qadri hoti hi chali jati hay. May yeah baat apnay tajarbay say keh rahi hoon.
Dear sister Zahra Batool, Allah paak apko apki mehnat ka khoob sila ata farmain ghay, Insha Allah Jab jago tabhi savera, karna abhi bhi apko unhi rishto ki khidmat hay, Lekin aub niyat aub Raza-e-Ellahi ko hasil karna hay, aap dekhna din ba din ap apnay wajood May aik zabardast qisam ki taqat mehsoos karain ghi, Insha Allah Allah paak hum sab ka hami o Nasir ho, Aamin.
Bunda agr itni mehnut Allah ko razi krne k liye kre to akhirut to snwer hi jati he, Allah dil ko bhi sukoon ata krta he or asal hasil Dil ka itminan hi he. Jo Allah ki raza ki talash MN lg jata he us k liye Allah hi kafi ho jata he or jo logon ko razi krne k liye mehnut krta he us k hath or Damun humesha Khali hi rehte hn.
But u know what khuda ko razi karne me tnii mehnat nahi lagti jitni bandy ko razi karne me lagti ha. Or agar ap khalk e khuda ko razi kar rahe ho to khuda ap se naraz nahi balk razi hi hoga
That were my thoughts exactly when I married, I thought when you are good ,behave good then everyone will be good. I forced myself into kitchen the very next day and said plz let me cook, and guess what my mother in law gave all kitchen duty to me, she said ok cook this in lunch and then cook another dish for dinner I started doing my duties happily, didn't complain but what I received was not appriciation but my 'shikayat' in front of every guest. " Ajkl ki larkian ko to Kuch banana nhin ata" ajkl ki Bahuain aisi Hoti Hain waisi Hoti Hain blah blah... Now my thoughts are changed completely.. when you do good to every one, do their work and do everything in your reach to make them happy then they bagan to take you for granted, they bagan to think that you not being "good" it's your "duty" ! So sir doing good in every possible way and your in laws appreciate you is an ideal case scenario. Those in laws who speak good for their "bahoo" are also good and their numbers are small.
Thank you Sir. Really this thing is missing in today's generation girls. A dinner set or tea set has become more important than the living relationship. Sir but pleas also make a video about the tarbeat of boys as well. Because it is equally important and I believe that you can really create a change in the life of your listeners.
Maryam Khan sahi kaha pakistan mein larkiyon ki tarbiyat par to bara zor rakhte hain larkon ko bilkul kuch nahi sikhate aur kehte hain larkon ne kon sa kisi ke ghar jana hai lekin doosre ki beti to ghar mein late hain phir un ka jeena haraam kar dete hain
Muhammad Asif koi hal nahi jo bat sch hai wo unhon ne boli lekn mardon mn to sch sunany ka hosla nahi foran badtamizi py utar aey aurat jitna hosla r sbr mrd mn aa jaey to masly hi htm ho jaen
Or aj kAL ki saas sirf larki ku hi keh rhi hoti ha kay tumhari trbiyt nhin hui. Buhat sey ghrany achy bhi hen jahan saas or nand bety ku kehti hen nhin nhin smjhota karo essey chorna mt . Or kai jagah aesa bhi hota saas pehli bahu kay kmrey mein beith kr hi bety kay sath uski dosri shadi ki baten krti ha. Its true.
Topic of working mothers is also very important, some ladies don't have an option to not do a job, the society has to be supportive of such ladies who manage job and home. Alot needs to be taught on this topic( it is hardly ever addressed) r as this will help the working mums run the house well and train the kids appropriately too. She cannot do so without husband, in-laws and work place support.
Ap ny sahi kaha. Hm 3 behnein hain. Bachpan main maa foot hogai. Step mother sy guzara keya hm bilkul wesi hesusral main hain jesa ap ny btaya. Pichly 10 12 salou sy.lykin phir b susral walou ke اندرونی syasat chlti rehti ha. Kbi kbi hd ho jati ha. Pr 1 acha shohar ho to sb theek hojata ha. Bohat metha bnein to nigal leya jata ha. Krwy houn to thooka jata ha. Pechy myky main laad dyny k leye maa ni.allah ka shukr ha k kbi susral sy naraz ho k ni Jana pra. Agr koi galt fehmi ha b kisi k sath. To discuss kr lyty hain. Ni to agly sy bool chall km کر k usky sary kam pory kr k usko uski glti کے ehsas dilaty hain. Allah ka shukr hy sb theek thak chl rha ha. Ups and down b lgy rehty hain. Meh. Mehmano ke b ryl pyl ha. Freinds koi b ni. Bs sb risty dar myky susral ronaq lgi rehti.
aap saas susar k sath muqabla krny ki training ki bjaye اعلی اخلاق سکھائیں ۔ ساس سسر کا ادب سکھائیں پھر دیکھیں کہ کیسے راج کرتی ہیں اپنے گھر پر۔ انشاللہ
Sir also advise how in - laws should treat this new person/ addition in life and give her acceptance space and love. Our society greatly lacks training of men for marriage and hardly ever talks about proper bahaviour with daughter-in - laws
Girl is full of love esp for her family and husband some men may fail to get it out of her, only few literate realize baqi ko samjana dewaar se sir marna. Can't change their mind being alone can't influence much ,get to know of their mentality formost imp thing.
Me bhens ke samine been bajane ke khilaf hu lekin aik acha business man khabi ghalat cheez peh invest nhi krta .. or kabhi kabhar ap sabar ki investment se life me kamyab ho jate he Be an optimist but not a fool
Thank you so much Jawed Saab me from India I'm a mother of two daughters my daughter's are small now but really I will apply all your advices in growing up my daughter's aapka bohot bohot shukriya
Assalamualaikum sir u r great ,the way u teaches thats so loving .Im a mother of 20 years old daughter please pray for her bright future as well .jazakAllah for this video .
Just don't marry her young and naive and then wait for a miracle to happen. Plus educate her so that she can write her own future by the Grace of Allah.
Thankyou so much Sir! My Father lack this ability to communicate effectively with me.. But this video made me understand some important aspects of marriage. While my mother is not that kind of role model but I'll be the One for my daughter surely ^_^ thankYou!
Cluster jolly. I’m a mother in law 4 times over. All mothers need to develop an age related vocation or interest in life. That way they’ll focus more on themselves rather than breathe down their children’s backs all the time. Elders should be role models and the rewards will be obvious
Wah Dr, sab, this is the actual moral knowledge which is lacking today in our curriculum, that's that's is why we only producing medical doctors but empty with the moral and ethical codes, teachers lacks in this,
Extremely grateful to you Sir, for sharing such precious words. May Almighty reward you infinite for such impactful videos. Can you please share some tips for how possessiveness and insecurity can be reduced in mother-in-laws. And how a positive relationship can be developed with her from beginning ( just after getting married ) without losing self-respect ?
Pakistan main 24/7 nokarani ko wife kahtay hen-achee nokarani ko sosraal walay achee bahoo kahtay hen-agar larka wife say payyar or respect karay to kahtay hen wife k nachay lag geya hay-Most marriages are joke in Pakistan.
Sahi ye is lye admi deen se door han. Islam me kisi per susral ka boj nahi dala and admi ko agar wife ek ghar me tang ha to use kehne per gusra ghar dia jae jahan wo bachon per tawaja de sake or privacy bhe rhe. Allah ne kaha agar mere jese char khuda hote to kaynat ka nizam darham barham ho jata.
سر میرا خیال ہے لڑکوں کو اور اُن کے ماں باپ کی کونسلنگ ہونی چاہیئے بیٹے کی شادی سے پہلے۔میرے خیال میں آپ غلط کہ رہے ہیں اس تربیت کی ضرورت لڑکوں اور اُن کے ماں باپ کو ہے۔
Honi chahiye bilkul..lekin yahan betiyon ki bat ho rahi hai...betay kay hisay ki tarbiyt betay ko or beti kay hissay ki trbiyt beti ko...agur apni jgha donon ko trbiyat di jaey to aik acha khandan aik achi family brqarar rahay gi...kiyun kay zindagi aik mrd or aik aurat kay sath muhasir hoti hai..
آپ یقین کریں آج مجھے احساس ہو رہا ہے کہ میں کتنی اچھی ہوں ۔۔یہ سب ٹپس میں کر چکی ٹپ سمجھ کرنہیں دل سے خلوص کے ساتھ پر حاصل بس ⁰ ہی پے آج 16 سال بعد میں یہ کہہ رہی
Jab hmra wasta jahal logon se hota ha to hum jeet nahi sakty jo bten uncle kr rahy hn ye soch her larki susral ly k jati ha lakin agla mahol us soch ko b bdal data ha
Whatever you said sir my father also advised the same thing and I did everything but my in laws troubled me so much. See in laws have to respect their daughter in law as well and try to understand her as well. In my in laws bait he baat karna is something alien.
ماشاءاللہ ثاقی تیری خیر تیرے مے خانے کی خیر تیرے پینے والوں۔ اللہ کرے تیرے یہ جام پینے والوں کو یوں ہی مخمور کرتے رہیں۔ الحَمْدُ ِلله یہ انمول ہیرا میرے دیس میں جڑا گیا
میری والدہ نے ان میں سے بہت ساری باتوں کی نصیحت کے ساتھ مجھے رخصت کیا تھا اور آج 36 سال بعد بھی میرے اپنی سسرال والوں کے ساتھ بہت اچھے تعلقات ہیں۔بیشک ایک خاندان کے سارے افراد آپکے لیے نہی بدل سکتے لیکن آپ خود میں تھوڑی سی تبدیلی لا کر سارے گھر کے ماحول کو بدل سکتی ہیں یہ میرا تجربہ ہے جو اچھا رہا
why always girls? Those who r negative will always b negative no matter what you do to win their hearts. So why wasting tym on them... let them hate.. u r gonna rock
Agher yhe mentality ho k agla banda negative hai chahy mein kuch bhi keron tuh kabhi achayyi hogi e nhi bandy say so u have to think positive about others in order to spread that positivity otherwise there will be lots of problems
Sir Allah apko jaza e khair ata frmaey Bohat mushkil imtahan ha Logon ko khush krna bohat mushkil kaam ha. Ap na bohat masomiat sa sari batein samjhain. Ap bohat kind or soft banday lagty hain Saray baray aisi shafqat waley ho jaein to kya baat ha Allah kray Allah hamari islah frmaey hm per Rahmat nazil frmaey. Ameen
ہر بندہ مختلف طبعیت کا ہوتا ہے۔۔ جب ہم اگلے کی طبعیت سے مختلف ہوتے ہیں تب ہی معمالات خراب ہوتے ہیں۔۔ ہر کسی کو گنجائش رکھنی چاہیے اور تربیت کی ضرورت لڑکا اور لڑکی دونوں کو ہے۔۔
Getting married soon InshAllah. And jo bhi baatien ki hain , I would've disagreed or taken to my ego a few years ago , but Alhamdulillah Allah gave me wisdom and i 100% agree with everything you said. We as girls shoild look at our side of the behaviour and leave the rest to Allah swt. First video I watched and really liked it.
My in-laws are my relatives, I served them and respected them with my heart. My service was appreciated like you appreciate a good servant. The lesson I learned from my life that people use you, if you are a good person.
اچھے بنتے جاؤ
استعمال ہوتے جاؤ
@@atifyousaf952 use to dunia karti ha achi bat ha susrali use kr k azab nahi banay gi let them take whatever they want .
Very well said
Well said🎉
Agreed
Dr Sahb means well but as a man he doesn't understand the dynamics of women ...bahu kidney bhi dey dey toh she will be considered an outsiders ....a wife's main focus should be her husband...Baki logoun k sath respectful rahein lekin over honai ki zarurat Nahi
In my 10year marriage life I faced many unusual circumstances but I didn't let down myself and I feel that I have great patients and a humble personality. Today I can say proudly that my mother in law even all my husband's family members are thankful to my mom that you gave us a precious daughter 😇ALHAMDULILLAH I feel myself so blessed 😇😇🙏
Thanks for sharing your experience
I also want to b a very good wife n a daughter in law 😭
Lucky one
so it's mean ur in laws they appreciate good things..good luck sister
@@abidabegom2210 inshallah u will get good husband and good family who will appreciate you
Allah har bachi ky naseeb achy kary ameen
Amen
You're amazing. I wish every daughter gets an open-minded father like you.❤️
yup
Yope 💕
Allah sb betion k naseeb achy bnaey or achy logo se milay Ameen♥️
Meri behen k shohar nasha karte hain
Ameen
Allah pak aap ko jaza ata frmaet
Ameen 🤗
Mantasha Mantasha Allah hadyet day 🙂
Your advice is for heaven ap dykein 80% larkiyan boht compromise krti h or pir b halat Bury h
دیکھیں مریم ۔۔
ہر جگہ ہر طرح کے لوگ پائے جاتے ہیں
ہمارے ہی معاشرے میں اچھے اور برے شوہر موجود ہیں۔۔
سخت مزاج اور شفقت کرنے والی ساسیں موجود ہیں۔۔
بدتمیز اور ںاخلاق بہوئیں بھی ہیں۔۔
سڑیل اور اچھی نندیں بھی ہیں۔۔
۔۔۔۔
اب آتے ہیں دوسری طرف کہ سسرالیوں کا رویہ،
میں خود اس پر بہت زیادہ سوچ بچار کرتا رہتا ہوں کہ آخر کیا حل نکالا جائے اس مسئلے کا۔۔
کل کو اگر میں شادی کروں تو ان چیزوں کو
فیس نہ کرنا پڑے۔۔
مثال لیتے ہیں کہ، آپ کی ساس کا آپ کے ساتھ روکھا رویہ ہے،
تو کیا آپ نے کبھی سوچا کہ ایسا کیوں ہے؟
اور نکتے کو ڈھونڈا جس کی وجہ سے ایسا ہے؟
اور اس نکتے کو دور کرنے کی کوشش کی؟؟
باقی میں یہ نہیں کہہ رہا کہ صرف لڑکیاں ہی قصوروار ہوں گی،
میرا ماننا یہ ہے کہ ہمیں اپنا سو فیصد دینا چاہیے، اور اس کے بعد اچھے بدلے کی امید رکھنی چاہیے، اچھا بدلے ملے تو ٹھیک نہیں تو اللہ کے ہاں تو یقیناً اس کا اجر اچھا بلکہ بہت اچھا ہی ملے گا ان شاءاللہ۔۔
رب تعالیٰ سب کی مشکلیں عطا فرمائے
Good
वही तो compromise mat करो जितना झुकोगे उतना काटोगे जनाब 🙏🙏🙏
yani 20% larkon ka haal bura hay.
Agreed
Bhot bht bht acchi tips batai aapne..Inshallah zarur aml krenge
great advises Allah apko bht khush rkhy Ameen suma Ameen
sir I am a clinical psychologist and by nature I am a linenent and polite person. I tried to keep every relation in my life but eventually I realized that in the process of keeping everyone happy I was loosing my husband and myself as well. so at the end I decided to take care of my husband (my very first responsibility & priority) and a bit of myself. now am living peacefully.
You are absolutely right .. I don't understand Everytime why girls and women have to compromise why not the in laws ammend their ways ?
So true. 💯
offcourse your husband is your first priority. He feeds and clothes you, who else you want to make first priority ?
this is a million dollar point, if you and your husband have a great understanding you'll stay happy, would be even great if you could take all the other relations along the journey of your life
Hr behan ka naseeb acha ho dua ha mere dil sey Aameen
Aameen suma ameen
Ameen suma ameen
EllahiAmeen
Ameeeen
Please mere liye Dua kren shadi ki age aa kr nikl rhi h sab dost cousins ki shadiyan horhi Bchy hogye Mgr Maa bap ko na parwah h na koi koshish din rat preshan rhti hn
Bht zabardsttt baat diamond advise 😍
most precious words
one thing i want to say here : parents should also focus on their sons upbringing.
Be that mom for ur children ... Be the first drop of rain and u will see the change in the society sooner or later ... It's the law of physics ... Khuda hafiz o nasir
I agree with you 100%. No one focus on boy’s upbringing. They only put pressure on girls only.
بہترین گفتگو۔۔۔۔بہترین موضوع۔۔۔۔ہمیں رشتوں کو متوازن انداز میں نبھانا سیکھنا چاھیے
Masha Allah i agreed
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@@qasimjunejo5128 p
Sab larkiya kosish krti Hai asy he dil jeetny ki... Lekin kamzarf log mil jaen tu kbi skoon sa ni rhta banda.
@@thistlexxx9240 sab qismat ki bten HI.. Jis ki. Jha chalti ha chala lete hai
True
True
Very true
Bilkul sahi kaha hai ap ne
Sir your most nobleminded and Inspiring Educationist and Speaker. Best regards, Arfa A Khan
بہت اچھی باتیں آپ کرتے ہیں ویری نائس
If only we would give that much stress in moral training of the men in our society
Wonderful tips sir. JazakAllahu khair.
InshaAllah
Jazakallaho khairh
Kiya baat hay janab aap nay dil jeet liya you are grate person
100 batoon ki aik baat!!!!
Khuda k liyai kabhi bhi apni zindaghi ko isi koshish Aur tagudo May barbaad naa karain k meri saas, mera sasur , mera shohar, mera sasuraal mujsay razi ho jaay, yeah insan hain kabhi bhi kisi bhi haal may khush nahi rehta, aap inkay liyai mar bhi jaain to bhi nahi 😑
Niyat karain k may in sab k sab rishto ko apni taraf say puray khaloos k saath nibhaon gi, Qurbatan illalah. Basically Allah ko razi karnay k liyai in sab ki raza hasil karnay ki koshish karon gi. Kaam asaan!!!yaqeen karain kuch Aur hasil ho na ho, sakoon e qalb Aur chehray pay Noor Aur itmenaan zaroor hasil hoga. Insha Allah
Banday banday ki ghulami, Aur rang bhirangay chotay chotay khuda bana k unko razi karnay May apna waqt zaya karnay say behtar hay, faqat aik ki ghulami ho, jo asal Khuda hay, Aur sirf wohi iska haq bhi rakhta hay, kuch bhi ho jaay uski rassi Aur Raza ko nahi chorna, Insha Allah dunya Aur aakhirat ki khair e khair haasil hogi.
Aslkm - na qadre bande na qadre hi hote hai ladki ki taqdeer achi honi chahiye 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
MashaAllah! Gr8 advice...
Haseeb Khan
Na qadray bando k hathon may apni betio/ behno ki qismat na dain, khuda pay bharosa rakhain, Aur jaisay hi yaqeen ho jaay k yeah miss match hua hay , chor dain, zindaghi Aur waqt barbaad na karain aisay logo k theek honay k intezaar may. Jo log apni qadar khud nahi kartay , unki na qadri hoti hi chali jati hay.
May yeah baat apnay tajarbay say keh rahi hoon.
Ap ny sahi kaha hai mai ye sab face kr chuki or kr rahi hn koi khush ni hota kabi b😓Maine tu apni jaan mari hai
Dear sister Zahra Batool,
Allah paak apko apki mehnat ka khoob sila ata farmain ghay, Insha Allah
Jab jago tabhi savera, karna abhi bhi apko unhi rishto ki khidmat hay, Lekin aub niyat aub Raza-e-Ellahi ko hasil karna hay, aap dekhna din ba din ap apnay wajood May aik zabardast qisam ki taqat mehsoos karain ghi, Insha Allah
Allah paak hum sab ka hami o Nasir ho, Aamin.
I am so blessed to listen to this fatherly advice. I cannot be much grateful
Boht achi batain ki hain Sir ap ny. Dil m utar gyin
Bohat bohat shukriya apka jo ap mujhe itni piyari piyari bate batate he
Excellent Advice for our young generation. Great Teacher Great Mentor
Yes , no doubt
Ma Shaa Allah . Jazak Allah Khair Sir, for Superb tips.
All the points mentioned by him is abide by my mamii , i can imagine her while he is talking ..he is saying so truee ❤❤
Wow vry nice nd truly talk👌👌👌
Bunda agr itni mehnut Allah ko razi krne k liye kre to akhirut to snwer hi jati he, Allah dil ko bhi sukoon ata krta he or asal hasil Dil ka itminan hi he.
Jo Allah ki raza ki talash MN lg jata he us k liye Allah hi kafi ho jata he or jo logon ko razi krne k liye mehnut krta he us k hath or Damun humesha Khali hi rehte hn.
So true 👍
Well said 👍
Very very nice
But u know what khuda ko razi karne me tnii mehnat nahi lagti jitni bandy ko razi karne me lagti ha. Or agar ap khalk e khuda ko razi kar rahe ho to khuda ap se naraz nahi balk razi hi hoga
Very very true
Bus yahi buhat deer se samjah aee.
Fav person. ❤❤Great teacher great doctor...
That were my thoughts exactly when I married, I thought when you are good ,behave good then everyone will be good. I forced myself into kitchen the very next day and said plz let me cook, and guess what my mother in law gave all kitchen duty to me, she said ok cook this in lunch and then cook another dish for dinner I started doing my duties happily, didn't complain but what I received was not appriciation but my 'shikayat' in front of every guest. " Ajkl ki larkian ko to Kuch banana nhin ata" ajkl ki Bahuain aisi Hoti Hain waisi Hoti Hain blah blah... Now my thoughts are changed completely.. when you do good to every one, do their work and do everything in your reach to make them happy then they bagan to take you for granted, they bagan to think that you not being "good" it's your "duty" ! So sir doing good in every possible way and your in laws appreciate you is an ideal case scenario. Those in laws who speak good for their "bahoo" are also good and their numbers are small.
May Allah bless you with Long and healthy life 🙏 I feel so blessed to be able to hear you ❤️ thank u so much for sharing such good things ❤️
He is a Great Man..May Allah Pak bless You sir..
Masha Allah. Sir I will follow these advises in my life.
Allah sb larkiyon ko sakoon wali zindagi ata kry
Thank you Sir. Really this thing is missing in today's generation girls. A dinner set or tea set has become more important than the living relationship. Sir but pleas also make a video about the tarbeat of boys as well. Because it is equally important and I believe that you can really create a change in the life of your listeners.
Tarbiyat sirf larkiyon ki he nahi larkonn ki tarbiyat bhi bohat zaroori hai
Right
Maryam Khan sahi kaha pakistan mein larkiyon ki tarbiyat par to bara zor rakhte hain larkon ko bilkul kuch nahi sikhate aur kehte hain larkon ne kon sa kisi ke ghar jana hai lekin doosre ki beti to ghar mein late hain phir un ka jeena haraam kar dete hain
Muhammad Asif koi hal nahi jo bat sch hai wo unhon ne boli lekn mardon mn to sch sunany ka hosla nahi foran badtamizi py utar aey aurat jitna hosla r sbr mrd mn aa jaey to masly hi htm ho jaen
Muhmmad asif kisi insan ko haq ni k kisi 2sre tzleel kre. Haq bt sun na sikho
Or aj kAL ki saas sirf larki ku hi keh rhi hoti ha kay tumhari trbiyt nhin hui. Buhat sey ghrany achy bhi hen jahan saas or nand bety ku kehti hen nhin nhin smjhota karo essey chorna mt .
Or kai jagah aesa bhi hota saas pehli bahu kay kmrey mein beith kr hi bety kay sath uski dosri shadi ki baten krti ha.
Its true.
Aap achay andaaz main bolte hain.... Shukriya betiyaan khne k liye!!!
Thanks 👍 ap ka mujhy bought achi baat ki ap ny ,,👏👏👏👌
Nice.....shukriya sir bhut kuch sikha iss lecture say.....
Marriage = fighting on all fronts, all alone, for entire life !😥
Agree 😒
Zehra Raza 😘Love you sister, we are all sailing in the same boat.
Ye ALLAH aur nabi sallalaho alihe waelehi wasalim ne to nahi sikhaya
200% agreed indeed-respect from usa.
Meri pyari Behan aisa to Kuchh Nahin Hai - sabka Apna Apna naseeb Hota Hai.
Sir your all conversation is full of wisdom. You've revealed all secrets of happy married life. Jazak Allah khair.
Ammazing lecture sir 👍 bht important bt h Jo apny khi
Mashallah bahut accha lecture hai
Bohot kam ki batain amal sa zindagi ban jati ha bateyon ki May Allah reward u keep more videos coming in
Such a great teacher . Nice Sir
Wow .. kafi kuch seekhny ko mila apki video dekh k
Dr sahab apny itni achi batainn batai Hain Allah apko khush rakhy
I needed to hear this before getting married. Thank you so much.
Lovely speech as always!
Insan muhabbat sy sab kuch jeet skta hy in uncle ny bht achi baaty ki aur shukr alhamdulillah mere susral waly bht achy hn ..
Important batain kitni asani se samjha dete hy , great sir❤️
behtareen advice mashALLAH indeed very much needed this time
Bht achi BT mry smjh aayi h Shukriyaa sir
Topic of working mothers is also very important, some ladies don't have an option to not do a job, the society has to be supportive of such ladies who manage job and home.
Alot needs to be taught on this topic( it is hardly ever addressed) r as this will help the working mums run the house well and train the kids appropriately too. She cannot do so without husband, in-laws and work place support.
Mashaallah.. Bht Sahi Bat batai aap...
بسم اللہ ماشاءاللہ
جزاک اللہ خیر
Your doing fab job sir MashaAllah God bless u
Ma Sha Allah Ma Sha Allah nice talk
Ap ny sahi kaha. Hm 3 behnein hain. Bachpan main maa foot hogai. Step mother sy guzara keya hm bilkul wesi hesusral main hain jesa ap ny btaya. Pichly 10 12 salou sy.lykin phir b susral walou ke اندرونی syasat chlti rehti ha. Kbi kbi hd ho jati ha. Pr 1 acha shohar ho to sb theek hojata ha. Bohat metha bnein to nigal leya jata ha. Krwy houn to thooka jata ha. Pechy myky main laad dyny k leye maa ni.allah ka shukr ha k kbi susral sy naraz ho k ni Jana pra. Agr koi galt fehmi ha b kisi k sath. To discuss kr lyty hain. Ni to agly sy bool chall km کر k usky sary kam pory kr k usko uski glti کے ehsas dilaty hain. Allah ka shukr hy sb theek thak chl rha ha. Ups and down b lgy rehty hain. Meh. Mehmano ke b ryl pyl ha. Freinds koi b ni. Bs sb risty dar myky susral ronaq lgi rehti.
Bilkul shi main bhi apni beti ko isthara teach kr rhi hon
خوبصورت باتیں خوبصورت انداز 🥰
Each and every word is diamond...Respect for Dr. Javed😌
MashAllah aap ne bohut sahi baat kahi
Beshaq sabr or shukar me hi behtaraai hai
Ji sir shukriya bahut bahut Allah sb like betiyon ko khush rakkhy
Or sas sussar ki tarbiat kon krega jo hamari bachio k hr telent ka satianas kr ny pr tuly hoty hen
100% agree.. Kya bat kahi apne
Wahh buht durst frmaya aap ne
Well said
aap saas susar k sath muqabla krny ki training ki bjaye
اعلی اخلاق سکھائیں ۔ ساس سسر کا ادب سکھائیں پھر دیکھیں کہ کیسے راج کرتی ہیں اپنے گھر پر۔ انشاللہ
I agree،he is talking some nonsense۔
Bht achi suggestion hai.Allah bachion ko tofeeq dai aur ap ko jzai khair.
👍🏻very nice informative video....
Masha'Allah doctor Sb very beautiful talk, Jazak Allah
Sir also advise how in - laws should treat this new person/ addition in life and give her acceptance space and love.
Our society greatly lacks training of men for marriage and hardly ever talks about proper bahaviour with daughter-in - laws
V true
Very true
True she's a new member needs time to adjust and insan he ha us ko farista nahi bna sakte pehle khud farista bno she will follow.
Girl is full of love esp for her family and husband some men may fail to get it out of her, only few literate realize baqi ko samjana dewaar se sir marna. Can't change their mind being alone can't influence much ,get to know of their mentality formost imp thing.
Bilkul sahi kaha
Too much selflessness results in exploitation and they all start taking you for granted, no matter how much efforts and sacrifices you put in......
True
Yes
Bilkul Jo befaiz log hoty hain un k sath jitna bhi Kar lo koi Sila nahi
So do u have a better plan ? Please let me know
Me bhens ke samine been bajane ke khilaf hu lekin aik acha business man khabi ghalat cheez peh invest nhi krta .. or kabhi kabhar ap sabar ki investment se life me kamyab ho jate he
Be an optimist but not a fool
Feel so good to hear these advices in such a polite and humbled manner...
Thank you so much Jawed Saab me from India I'm a mother of two daughters my daughter's are small now but really I will apply all your advices in growing up my daughter's aapka bohot bohot shukriya
Assalamualaikum sir u r great ,the way u teaches thats so loving .Im a mother of 20 years old daughter please pray for her bright future as well .jazakAllah for this video .
Just don't marry her young and naive and then wait for a miracle to happen. Plus educate her so that she can write her own future by the Grace of Allah.
Allah naseeb achhy kre
May your daughter remains in the mighty protection of ALLAH ALMIGHTY. May she get success throughout her life. May she be the pious one
Love you and respect ❣️ you sir live long 💯
My daughter name is also Zainab nisar. Masha allah.
Ap ny buhat achi batain batai hain
One of best lecture i ever heard related to susral..... JazakAllah
Thankyou so much Sir! My Father lack this ability to communicate effectively with me.. But this video made me understand some important aspects of marriage. While my mother is not that kind of role model but I'll be the One for my daughter surely ^_^ thankYou!
thats a good one
Exactly.. My father never even calls me, it's good to know that there are elders like him too
@@ayesharaffi5575 yes! :)
Cluster jolly. I’m a mother in law 4 times over. All mothers need to develop an age related vocation or interest in life. That way they’ll focus more on themselves rather than breathe down their children’s backs all the time. Elders should be role models and the rewards will be obvious
First time i listen you .your personality is really inspirng.you are role model for us.keep it up
yes
Sooooperb professor sahb superb
Boht pyari baten thanku
Wah Dr, sab, this is the actual moral knowledge which is lacking today in our curriculum, that's that's is why we only producing medical doctors but empty with the moral and ethical codes, teachers lacks in this,
Extremely grateful to you Sir, for sharing such precious words. May Almighty reward you infinite for such impactful videos.
Can you please share some tips for how possessiveness and insecurity can be reduced in mother-in-laws. And how a positive relationship can be developed with her from beginning ( just after getting married ) without losing self-respect ?
ALLAH Sab larkiyon ko hidayat dy ❤️
Bht fruitful batian h ..
Pakistan main 24/7 nokarani ko wife kahtay hen-achee nokarani ko sosraal walay achee bahoo kahtay hen-agar larka wife say payyar or respect karay to kahtay hen wife k nachay lag geya hay-Most marriages are joke in Pakistan.
Bilkul sehi kaha...
Sahi ye is lye admi deen se door han. Islam me kisi per susral ka boj nahi dala and admi ko agar wife ek ghar me tang ha to use kehne per gusra ghar dia jae jahan wo bachon per tawaja de sake or privacy bhe rhe. Allah ne kaha agar mere jese char khuda hote to kaynat ka nizam darham barham ho jata.
Jo marzi kar lo susral Waly kabi khush nai ho sakty
@@umairalam2903 true 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Dear for your kind information apnay ghr ka Kam krny sy koi kamwali nh ban jati
سر میرا خیال ہے لڑکوں کو اور اُن کے ماں باپ کی کونسلنگ ہونی چاہیئے بیٹے کی شادی سے پہلے۔میرے خیال میں آپ غلط کہ رہے ہیں اس تربیت کی ضرورت لڑکوں اور اُن کے ماں باپ کو ہے۔
Honi chahiye bilkul..lekin yahan betiyon ki bat ho rahi hai...betay kay hisay ki tarbiyt betay ko or beti kay hissay ki trbiyt beti ko...agur apni jgha donon ko trbiyat di jaey to aik acha khandan aik achi family brqarar rahay gi...kiyun kay zindagi aik mrd or aik aurat kay sath muhasir hoti hai..
Javed saab verey nice
Buht zabardast talk
#yousafalirox
آپ یقین کریں آج مجھے احساس ہو رہا ہے کہ میں کتنی اچھی ہوں ۔۔یہ سب ٹپس میں کر چکی ٹپ سمجھ کرنہیں دل سے خلوص کے ساتھ پر حاصل بس ⁰ ہی پے آج 16 سال بعد میں یہ کہہ رہی
Tu kia in sb ka asar hua apki life men?
Seriously
Jab hmra wasta jahal logon se hota ha to hum jeet nahi sakty jo bten uncle kr rahy hn ye soch her larki susral ly k jati ha lakin agla mahol us soch ko b bdal data ha
Beshuk aesa bi hy results zero hoty
اچھی بات ہے ۔
Whatever you said sir my father also advised the same thing and I did everything but my in laws troubled me so much. See in laws have to respect their daughter in law as well and try to understand her as well. In my in laws bait he baat karna is something alien.
A million dollar video. Worth Watching. Takes my heart
ALHUMDULILA❤️Mei or meri Husband's family we all i cnt explain k hmara relation waoooo not explainable in words....There is so much love ❤️
ماشاءاللہ
ثاقی تیری خیر
تیرے مے خانے کی خیر
تیرے پینے والوں۔
اللہ کرے تیرے یہ جام پینے والوں کو یوں ہی مخمور کرتے رہیں۔
الحَمْدُ ِلله
یہ انمول ہیرا میرے دیس میں جڑا گیا
میری والدہ نے ان میں سے بہت ساری باتوں کی نصیحت کے ساتھ مجھے رخصت کیا تھا اور آج 36 سال بعد بھی میرے اپنی سسرال والوں کے ساتھ بہت اچھے تعلقات ہیں۔بیشک ایک خاندان کے سارے افراد آپکے لیے نہی بدل سکتے لیکن آپ خود میں تھوڑی سی تبدیلی لا کر سارے گھر کے ماحول کو بدل سکتی ہیں یہ میرا تجربہ ہے جو اچھا رہا
This man is going to change my life 💯 may Allah bless you with your daughter's
Everything Is True!!
Allah hum sb lrkio K Naseeb achy kare... Ameen ❤️
SumaAmeen..
why always girls? Those who r negative will always b negative no matter what you do to win their hearts. So why wasting tym on them... let them hate.. u r gonna rock
Agree 👌👌👍✌️
Exectly yehi 👆 tarbeat ha ajkl ki maon ki. Jbhi ghar on se sakoon khtm hogea.
Agher yhe mentality ho k agla banda negative hai chahy mein kuch bhi keron tuh kabhi achayyi hogi e nhi bandy say so u have to think positive about others in order to spread that positivity otherwise there will be lots of problems
OK follow 😂
q k ghr girls ka hota ha 70 fesad , or Boyes ka bahr hota ha 70 fesad.
Sir
Allah apko jaza e khair ata frmaey
Bohat mushkil imtahan ha
Logon ko khush krna bohat mushkil kaam ha.
Ap na bohat masomiat sa sari batein samjhain.
Ap bohat kind or soft banday lagty hain
Saray baray aisi shafqat waley ho jaein to kya baat ha
Allah kray
Allah hamari islah frmaey hm per Rahmat nazil frmaey. Ameen
ہر بندہ مختلف طبعیت کا ہوتا ہے۔۔
جب ہم اگلے کی طبعیت سے مختلف
ہوتے ہیں تب ہی معمالات خراب ہوتے ہیں۔۔
ہر کسی کو گنجائش رکھنی چاہیے
اور تربیت کی ضرورت لڑکا اور لڑکی دونوں
کو ہے۔۔
ڈاکٹر صاحب کمال کر دیا
Getting married soon InshAllah. And jo bhi baatien ki hain , I would've disagreed or taken to my ego a few years ago , but Alhamdulillah Allah gave me wisdom and i 100% agree with everything you said. We as girls shoild look at our side of the behaviour and leave the rest to Allah swt.
First video I watched and really liked it.