INTJ's Unsung Hero: Extroverted Sensing (Se)
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- This video describes INTJ's inferior function of Extroverted Sensing (Se) and how it affects our daily lives.
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I kinda cried on the part when you said younger INTJs tend to have miscalculated theories, it's hard when you build yourself up to a certain mindset and then growing up you realize that you were wrong all along and now you gotta deal with the inner changes. 😅 Well INTJs are built to adapt so there's a long road ahead
People don't understand when I say that I've lived multiple lives and what I mean is exactly what you mentioned, that I've constantly had to adapt and adjust as I age. Trust me when I say that I understand you 💯 INTJ, it's annoying to admit that you were wrong but that's the mark of an educated mind. Just like science, theories can be proven wrong at any moment and the result is usually advancement in humanity. Keep growing INTJ, you got this ✊
This is so true! People mistake me for an extrovert and are surprised how fun I can be in social settings because I’ve learned to develop my Se. I think it is extremely rewarding for all young INTJs to develop Se
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My Se is like a twelve year old wanting to explore everything, do new things, get to know people. Se is spontaneous and adventurous. I love trying and learning new things. Se keeps my mind and spirit young. It may be in the 4th slot but it brings all the building blocks to a fulfilled life! I love your videos! I don’t feel as awkward after watching them. Thank you!
INTJs will forever feel old and young at the exact same time 😂
So this is why everyone i meet say i seem young for my age lol i can't imagine planning things, i just know what i need right now and then figure out what i need to do in the moment to get that thing, i don't need a plan for that.
I do appreciate you guys for your Ni advice, but sometimes i want to give you guys a vacation from being so anxious all the time 😂
INTJ here ~ Love these videos that do such a good job in honouring the core essence of being an INTJ while breaking down the stereotype of the cold, autistic, robot INTJ.
As of the last couple years, I have grown to love and appreciate my Se, whereas when I was younger in my early 20's I undervalued it in favour of Te and Ni (I used to secretly wish I was an ENTJ without thinking about it in MBTI terms...)
But the more I think of it, Se (and also Fi) has always been a big part of my life - I love driving, snowboarding, dancing, raving, meeting interesting people, immersing myself in beauty. Things that aren't usually associated with being an INTJ yet are so much of what makes me, me.
Yes totally on same as another non-stereo type INTJ. The world sees only small glimpses of us in general and to be fair we like it that way I realize as I grow older. Seems INTJs have the ability to shift into so many personas no single person other than themselves will fully understand! 🤔🤷🏼♂️ I also accept and realize this is incredibly rare. Hiking, painting, reading/research, home renovations, psychology, museums, gardening and acting as life coach just a fraction of my interests…🤔😆
I love archery, fencing, laser tag, paintball, gardening, hiking, dancing, museums, etc too, even Ren Faires, anime conventions, and God Help Me, Disneyland (Galaxy's Edge)...but usually just one activity in a given time period cus Yeah, I've set out snacks for the crows and called it as enough time outdoors some days.
It really does take a while for an INTJ to accept and engage with Fi & Se but it so worth it when we do. It's always nice to hear from another INTJ about their own experience with acceptance 🙂
I am an INTJ 75 yo female retired clinical.psych professor...this was REALLY good. Kudos!
Thanks for your comment and I agreed spot on JON
Thank you very much! I really do appreciate the support 🙏
I think Se comes around once an INTJ learns that great plans still need to be field-tested lol.
That's interesting what you said about Se kind of informing Ni and supporting Te. I've noticed in myself and I'm sure in other INTJs that we can comfortably hold separate and conflicting ideas at the same time. Based on what you said, that is probably Se in action
Te: this fact is true.
Se: let's see if we can find an exception.
Yup 100%. Se is a blessing in disguise ✊
We see beyond the obvious that’s why INTJs tend to be conspiracy theorists. We don’t take things superficially, or accept information being spoon fed to us. Skepticism is our friend.
Yes indeed as another INTJ everyone sees us as wanting to just be rebellious and question Authority not knowing all along it’s in their best interest!! 😂
I always wonder if "normal people" seem crazy to "crazy people" 😅
Intuition, prescience.
@@jasonfreeman3089Relatable
I'm a bit of an older INTJ, I used to work with this great guy who was just fun to be around. He had plenty of humor, and it rubbed off on me. We got along and had fun with the humor and I was able to get into it. Good times, wish he still worked there with us.
As an INTJ, sure it took a little bit of time to gain my trust first, but once that happened I was able to relax and be more open in our conversation. I naturally tend to be on the quiet side by default, not that that is really an INTJ thing, just part of me.
As it starts getting warmer out, I'll be running more and that will give me plenty of world sensing. I usually run for up to an hour and have multiple purposes for running. Engaging with the passers by is not really my thing, just a nod or a wave will do, especially since I'll have earbuds in.
I'm happy to hear that you had a coworker that allowed you to show the fun side of yourself. Se really does need to experience things before Ni creates a framework so that person sounds like they helped you develop a lot. I feel you on earbuds, I usually don't leave the house without them 😂
Might be the most accurate INTJ page out there. My guy Jon
Looks like you're living your best Se life by the videos you post on your channel. Good stuff dude ✊
@@justcallmejon22 thanks my boy ✊🏽
Our INTJ/ urban/ and none sports playing backstory sounds so similar. Amen on the blueprint for engaging with everyone.
Always nice to meet another person with a similar history 👋
I relate to this so hard. I definitely have strings of days where I don't leave my house and haven't talked to another human IRL and the thought of doing so is repulsive. But I'll text, for sure. And I'm doing a million different tiny projects at home and just ruminating - it feels like I have to make time to process all the experiences I've been through or I feel lost or nervous. When I was younger, I'd describe it as, "I can't hear my own voice." It's definitely gotten easier to pull myself out of excessive hermit mode as I've gotten older.
I tried explaining the, "I can't hear my own voice" to an ESFJ friend of mine once but he just gave me the most confused look. It's okay though, still one of my closest friend, I don't need all my friends to understand 😂
Those I've let in get to know my Se side really well because my Se is how I show love. Se is why I know the exact moment my family could use a little boost. In that moment I know I have to do what I can to try to help get everyone in better spirits. In most cases I'll cook a bunch of food where every person gets at least one thing they love and I spend hours (if not days in some cases) cooking. Doing things like this helps me not to feel like an alien all the time and lets me laugh at myself when I do dumb stuff. Se lets me blow off steam by dancing around like a goofy teenager. Se lets me experience here and now instead of living life 10 years from now in my head.
I laugh at myself all the time and people find it endearing. It really is a nice feeling when Te&Se teams up to take care of our loved ones ❤
You totally know what you are talking about. I am also an INTJ and feel so indentified with most of the things that you say. I don't know how something that seemed a meme at first like MBTI can be so helpful and accurate, I guess is the genius of Jung behind it.
Papa Jung knew his sh*t 😅
JustcallmeJon has done it again, folks! This makes so much sense. Thank you for making our lives a little more clearer~
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Perfect video ! You live in my head.
Well said, read facial expression is done through Se not by Fe like certains people could think.
Ni is magnetic, it's true. Going to supermarket feel like going on the battlefield sometimes.
Exactly I can in and out of the supermarket back home before market have drove to store with a list. Done this my life and it’s for good reason!
Thank God for Doordash 🙃
So gratifying.. Makes me feel so much better. I've done all this.
I feel so seen. Er, I prefer to be invisible. I feel so heard. Yah, that's it
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INTJs become ESFPs when drunk. I know it because when I'm drunk I suddenly become willing to dance, sing karaoke, wrestle, hug people etc.
Also, yeah, INTJs can't be bullshited, not for too long, we smell the inconsistencies with the Se and then Ni is like a restless detective that won't stop until it solves the case. Being honest is the only way to go with an INTJ.
Which reminds me, INTJs make great agents for any Intelligence Agencies or detective work, their paranoia and persistence are perfect for the task.
Agreed that we can't be BS'd for too long. We'll usually give a person the benefit of the doubt, that person might've misspoken or just used the wrong words but there's a point where it's like....uhhh what? 😂
Yeah, we assume we might've misheard, they might've mispoken, we even bet on the 1% chance that we are wrong. Everything to not assume the other person is just lying.
I haven't heard a single lie this whole video. EXELLENT JOB. Immediately smashed so many stereotypes.
Thank you and F* the stereotypes ✊
Hello Jon
I found your channel this morning and I've been binge watching your videos. This video resonated with me the most on such a deep level and it's the first of its kind talking positively about Se in great detail.
I'm in my mid 20's (INTJ female) and have bounced back and forth between extreme Ni and extreme Se. In my teenage years, I had fantastic group of friends that encouraged me to develop Se & Fi to the point I was that outgoing girl in the most popular group. However, when I went off to university (majored in physics) and left all my friends behind, my personality flipped and I was too serious and anti-social. I lost so much of myself and people in my social circle. I was too critical, judgemental, uncompassionate and difficult to be around (Se was greatly neglected). Two years after graduation, I decided I hated the new me and wanted to bring back my teenage self.
I started small by signing up to my local gym. I - awkwardly at first - interacted with people and read a ton of books on human psychology. I learned to smile and polish my social skills. Additionally, working out in classes has helped me regulate negative emotions (Engaging Se). I slowly became more humorous, outgoing, less argumentive and fun to be around.
My family were so taken aback by the flip in my personality that they thought I met someone and was in love or something 😂!
Truly, developing Se is the greatest gift an INTJ can give to themselves. I feel much more human and connected to society than I was before.
I will add what you said about Se NOT working for itself and for Ni, Te & Fi is true. I usually won't start small talk unless I already decided before hand: "this is useful practice for my social skills, and maybe I can learn something from her".. it isn't just for the pleasure of small talk or killing time.
Side note: I subscribed and hope you keep blessing us with new videos. Thank you!
It's always a nice feeling hearing that other people are enjoying my videos so thank you for the kind words and support! It really is night and day when an INTJ learns how to access our Se and how much it improves our lives. I'm happy to hear that you consciously put effort into engaging it with positive benefits! Keep it up fellow INTJ Queen, the world is our playground ✊
I have been binging your videos because YOU GET IT!!!!! Like god, you might as well replace "INTJ" with my name in this video! I went to Orlando Studios for Halloween Horror Nights, and I loved walking around through all the people, all the lights and noise, getting jump scared almost constantly. And I feel like the INTJ stereotype is that we would *never* go to that type of thing. But it's just not true! Even the "taking it all in" while taking out the trash-- I DO THAT!
Anyway, I subbed LOL
Happy to hear that you're enjoying the content! F* the stereotype and continue living your best life my fellow INTJ ✊
You trigger so much thoughts in me that I would love to have a really productive discussion with you. I guess like many other INTJs or in general interested people and viewers of your channel.
What you point out in this great video is why I often think I'm not an INTJ but at the same time nothing describes me better than being an INTJ.
But since I found the MBTI Spektrum/system/theory how ever you want to call it, I feel I found the second time an explanation why I think in ways that I think and perceive the world like I do.
The first time was when I made an Asperger-autism test and read many things about Asperger-autism.
I think both spectrums overlap in some ways.
I'm 28 and I know that I changed in the last 3 years extremely because of some life-changing events that makes me develop my Se immensely.
I feel deeply thankful and relaxed since then.
Been considering doing a live session to answer ad-hoc questions that you guys might have. I'll make sure to post it ahead of times if I ever have the cahones to do it. Still, regardless of whether you're an INTJ or not, just make sure to see it as tool for learning and not as your identity ✊
@@justcallmejon22 I absolutely understand what you mean, however, I am still relatively new to the MBTI topic and have been strongly motivated since I learned about it.
I see it as a tool to understand myself better and also to recognize and balance my weaknesses.
But I still see it as a facet of my personality and identity. However, I do not let it dictate me.
I guess that's what you meant.
I hate identity groups because I'm individualistic through and through, although of course we all generalize regularly to get to our arguments more quickly.
I spent most of my childhood as ESFP, I was noisy, active, I liked sport, attractions, I didn't like school, cuz I couldn't sit still. I was everywhere. But my childhood was horrible, later I hated my behavior, cuz I understood that I'm noisy, but I couldn't stop me. I had some points of INTJ behavior, but it was difficult to notice them. Later I become quite and private. In college I tried to open and I became ESFP again, I was hanging out a lot and I was doing stupid shit. Now I'm OK and I prefer being alone most of time, do my stuff, explore something and hung out with my close friends sometimes. It's so difficult to explain people that I'm not a crazy party girl, I was in a hard stress and I couldn't control myself. I also had problems to recognize my personality type, cuz I thought I'm prospective definitely. I'm 18 now and I feel like I woke up. I have some regrets, cuz I could do a lot and find out more, if I wasn't in a hard stress most of my life. I understood this thing right after I found out about cognitive functions, so it opened my eyes, I can feel fault for myself less. It would be nice if MBTI community was talking about "stress mode" more and stop devaluing the last cognitive function.
Welcome to adulthood my INTJ niece/nephew! Instead of saying that you were an ESFP as a child, let's instead say that you engaged with Se more as a child, which I relate to as well. I love playing sports, I love being outdoors in nature, and I do enjoy socializing (in small bursts). I also want to add that MBTI is not your identity, it's only a tool used for self-discovery, so who knows what type you actually are, and to be honest, it doesn't matter. As long as you continue to improve your life and your situation, that's the most important thing. Acknowledge that you have flaws, everyone does, what makes you different is how you engage with it. You're doing great, and you have your entire life to figure out who you truly are, so don't feel you need to rush. Life is about the experience and there really is no destination when it comes to self-improvement and understanding ✊
@@justcallmejon22 wow, thanks for this reply. You said important things)
Se is so hard... wether it is trying or doing something, research or going to a concert or restaurant... It just is so extremely hard to find enjoyment when the mind says "this is what is done with this, this is fake, that is useless and I don't want to be here".
But then the situation where Fi comes in, suddenly Se is something that is easily engaged. Things such as aestethics, the beauty of something you appreciate, value and love. Nature or victorian architecture for example. Is it useful for what I do? No, but it does make the mind feel at ease that there IS something in this world to connect with instead of the Ni world we have in mind.
It's in such a weird spot. It required the right conditions and I guess the right exposure to options that makes life richer.
I understand dude. I still struggle with letting Se have it's fun time but that's the beauty of friendship, they're usually the ones that forces me to do things. You'll do things if you truly care about it, for everything else, cheat a little and have other people plan it for you 😅
Thanks for your words today
I laughed at "Doordash sponsor me" DD and food delivery is the best thing EVER. Some things on permanent rotation, quick scan for something new if I'm feeling adventurous, and on to whatever I'm doing that's more interesting. :)
I love food delivery too because it allows me to try different type of food that I probably wouldn't try if I had to physically sit at the restaurant 😅
I couldn't agree more! In my adolescence I disrespect my Se and it always came to the surface when I least suspected it. I can't say I am friends with Se now but it's more healthy relationship than before. I smirked when you mentioned autism. I thought about it because of social aspect. It's so true that Se helps a lot, and we intj should value it more. Yes, when we experience something we do it with fun. I adore playing with kids and behave like a kid myself. And yes, if Se takes charge, then we need a break. Sometimes I need the whole week alone after one night of social fun. Good point about us able to connect with almost any group. I think so too. My Se doms friends like when I am ready to go on the spot. My fe/fi friends like that I am authentic and loyal. No need to talk about ne/ni users😂 that's just heaven. Thank you for this video! Let our Se experience the world in a fun way!
Kids are the best! I know there are some INTJs out there that don't enjoy playing with kids but my Ni&Se has the best time with them because we create so many new games and I love to see how creative they are!
I realized I need to apologize to my Se for all these time that my Ni and Te have been on steroids. The Family Guy meme hit home lol. Thank you for this enlightening video! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Good, now go let baby Se touch some grass! 😂
As you say, love how INTJs explore the world purposefully, connected, humanised and attuned by Se, making real what "could be" into "what is". Yet externally Se drives our cold, evil robot reputation, exploring the world only when Te decides we have good reason, engaging people only if Ni needs something or Fe decides they matter to us.
I didn't realise how internally, Se collects real world data, initiates projects, moderates our nerdy interactions and tries stuff out to seek Fi's approval for Ni's refined blueprints and planning then simplification / execution by Te.
I also didn't know that Se integrates so importantly, filtering social cues, and microexpressions and regulating appropriate INTJ behaviour. Appreciate these great insights as always, especially how hobbies within our big plan can bypass sensory overload.
I was unaware of the importance of Se as well until I started actually learning about cognitive functions. Se really does help us out more than we give it credit for 🙂
Absolutely agree. My Se was incredibly underdeveloped around the time I met my current wife (ENTP) in my 20's. Fortunately, our love language is verbal sparring so after 17 years of being together I'm much better at interacting with people than I ever was before we met.
Admittedly, getting used to an ENTP took some time (especially for my poor battered Fi) but once I figured her out, we now get along famously. Really my only complaint day-to-day is not getting enough alone time.
When you get the two of us in a social setting, we tend to end up being the life of a party - which is a damn strange feeling when I reflect on it later lol
Always love hearing about the INTJ & ENTP pairing. I imagine the amount of trolling involved and how fun it is to have a person who can match your pace and ideas 😄
Damn, the comment about the groceries is so accurate that is frightening
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Young man! You have kicked ass with this one!!! So much truth in one space. So many stereotypes debunked. I will be doing an audio response soon. I absolutely must.
Excited to hear it ✊
Again wonderfully explained. Thank you! Three points that hit me good...1. Recently I would be wondering to myself, if any of my friends and family, have yet realized that I am proactively practising (thus growing) my advance social engineering knowledge and skills on or with them. I do think that about ten (10) specific ones (of them) realize exactly what I am doing, while the others are clueless 😂 .....2. During COVID 19, from Nov 2020, I joined a Walking Group in my Community, and started walking 3 to 5 to 8 miles, once a week.....Recently, I have added on 5 miles, first thing in the morning, or last thing in the evening, three to four more times a week, for a total of about 4 to 5 times a week out in the community walking. This has made my SE-ing a wonderful thing, as I interact daily now with several of my community members, but, still have my long work hours, and when 'Mama leaves without Notice' spent mainly alone! It is wonderful! 3. It took me years to develop a strong healthy (thus wealthy) and consistent SE-ing Mode in my life, and I am now living in the blooming stage of such a development. I call it 'Diamond Blooming Living'. PG!
I went on a roadtrip last year for several months (alone of course), and yes grocery shopping was one of the biggest chores, new store ever time and a language I cannot speak...lets just say there were a few night I was hungry (also because I provably was a bit lazy sometimes 😬). I spoke to my mum about it, she just couldn't understand, and I wasn't able to describe it properly, so thanks for your video :)
generally your videos are very good, especially when you apply it to day to day situations, props
When making these videos, it's the details that matter the most imo. It's also oddly comforting knowing that other people are out there starving because of the same low-Se issue that I have 😅
Haha you're like my identical twin. Here I am skipping breakfast and lunch and justifying it by calling it "fasting" and "getting my summer six pack in".
Still waiting for my six pack to form 😂
@@justcallmejon22 eating clean for 6 days than shoving 18000 calories of sweets and booze down as Se sensory shortage? ^^
🤣🤣🤣 same same LMAO
I noticed that with Se "maturing" I act more and more like a kid, just trying to do stuff and have fun. I'm not an outdoorsy person, but I love nature, so every now and then I haul my ass to see pretty views, be it walk in a park or hiking. After such feat I'm not leaving house and I'm having trouble with going shopping for a few days, so there's that :V
INTJs are all Benjamin Buttons 😂
Spitting truths today,
6:05 that would explain why I prefer shorter weekend getaways to weeklong vacations...
6:35 ... chores are absolutely the worst and I never actually get my place spotlessly clean, I just don't even notice that there is a backscratcher in the middle of the room. But this is why I have 2 boxes of soylent in my pantry, instant food in a pinch.
11:05 ...I'm getting better but like 2 days a week is usually my max, but I have found that staying off the internet speeds up the recovery. Which is odd since that's basically just Se'ing quietly.
11:40 okay, I can't do raves or concerts but yes just being there and in the moment is a core part of my being. INTJs are surprisingly spontaneous and go with the flow, it's probably one of the easiest ways to tell apart ISTJ and INTJ.
Okay I am guilty of saying you can meet INTJs all over the place. I think it's more that INTJs don't loiter, in a sense you don't "meet INTJs they meet you" as unless they have the objective of being social and meeting people they are cold, aloof, focused, and take a good 30 seconds to warm up to a sudden conversation partner. Which likely means the best way to meet an INTJ is to be introduced to one, like if I had higher quality relationships with my family and didn't need to constantly maintain a friend group I would be super hard to meet in public. But it's true the vast majority of INTJs I have met were at college or at work, they are hard to notice, hard to approach, and objective focused.
I used to fall into the trap of suggesting places to meet INTJs and as one myself, it blows my mind that I can't answer the question when someone asks how they would meet me outside of work, friends, or hobbies 😂
As an INTJ whose hobby is dance I resonate so much with what you said! Once I started developing my Se my Ni expanded so much more & helped me become a healthier INTJ. Thanks for always explaining!!
Keep those feet moving fellow INTJ! 💃
As a younger INTJ I needed to hear this toughts so thank you so much for this
You got this ✊
Excellent video!! 🎉
Thank you! 😃
I am start thinking that I could be an INTJ after watching this video
Welcome to club INTJ! Whether you are an INTJ or you're another type, make sure not to make your results your identity because it's just tool for self reflection. There's drinks and snacks in the back, go help yourself 😁
HA! Great video as always! I did know the workings and the effects, didn't know the actual name of the thing - Se. I'm at a point where I can pass as "normal" among others. It's incredibly draining, and I can only do it for a few hours at full capacity, but today I can go to a social event and just be "normal", even charming and charismatic if needed (that needs extra energy, but heck, it's kinda fun and empowering doing it because, well, you can). But like you said, until those blueprints (spot on analogy btw), those flowcharts on how to interact with other people are at production level, it's hard. I was a fountain of awkwardness and a social faux-pas machine in my early years. I'm cringing just thinking about those days... But it's kinda strange, I cannot pinpoint exactly when that happened, but I distinctly remember being puzzled and confused by displays of emotion from others in one day, to be completely aware of the most minuscule body expressions and what they meant the next one. That was an awesome upgrade to my firmware, to be able to tell in real time when someone is getting bored, mad or sad with what I'm doing or saying, as opposed to find out a month later... That improved my social dealings dramatically! Yeah, young INTJ's out there? Just be patient, it'll come eventually
I'm always glad to hear that other INTJs have the same experience I did. I don't remember the moment when I felt "normal" as well but it really is interesting that it just all clicked one day. It's like the start of a new life 😅
Glad I found your channel. I recently took the personality test after watching a video about how the CIA collects data ad creates a profile of an individual. The CIA uses Myers-Briggs for recruiting and assessing whoever they are collecting info on, tell me that doesn’t sound very INTJ to even watch that! So, then, of course, research time and your videos really flash out this personality type that I have to me. I am not young and I always wondered why I was just a bit different. I invest in real estate and the overarching plan is working.
I'm glad you're enjoying the content! I'm not sure what the CIA is doing with our taxpayer money but I wouldn't be surprised 😅
You feel….like a distant friend from a time long long ago….. *turns and runs
**if caught denies having said anything
-another INTJ
Thank you fellow INTJ 🙏
Ahhh so that is how it works … I have always wondered about the dichotomy between the two … you nailed it exactly 🙌👏🙏
I got you ✊
I love your comment on sports. I’m an intj myself, but have found happiness in band and tennis
Always happy to hear when INTJs find your Se outlet! Tennis is my outlet as well 🙂
This video gave me the motivation to buy groceries, awesome
Don't starve INTJ 🙃
I appreciate these videos. I grew up being told I am too serious about life but this community makes me feel seen. even the words feel seen make me cringe but you really said that very well. ta.
INTJ signing out
Embrace your Fi and Se my fellow INTJ! Trust me when I say life is a lot more enjoyable when you take it less seriously.
spot on
Thank you 🙏
"We can be the entertainers." Me: wut? "Then we need 3 days to recharge." Me: "Oh. Yes that's correct then."
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Great video! I had a good laugh at choosing to order food (or starve) than cooking/going out.
Ni-Se combo is amazing. It does not hold prejudice. It just accepts and processes the information in front of them, adding more into the blueprint. Hence why we can hangout with anyone in any walk of life if required so.
Remembering to eat until you're already starving is the bane to my existence! That's a great way of putting it, that Ni-Se doesn't hold prejudice. I hope you don't mind but I'm taking that 😅
@@justcallmejon22 I've read that forgetting to take care of ourselves is also due to demon Si. Since Si is functioning mostly to preserve comfort and safety, having demon Si means we recognize the need for comfort but we can easily discard it, most especially if it unnecessarily hinders progress. That's why it's easy for INTJs to take risks and personal sacrifices. It just doesnt bother them as much... or at all. Adding the blindspot Fe to the mix, we work with zero heed for neither attachments nor comfort. Thus why they claim INTJ to be the coldest among the 16. Sadly, they forget that we have Se in our primary stacks. We can be fun. We are funny.
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Also, I dont mind at all. Learning is fun that way.
Exactly
Hope you get that DoorDash sponsor, discount code when? 😂
Seriously though, as an older INTJ I think you nailed it once again. I've always expressed having low Se as that feeling of, "I know how about 90% of situations I can predict finding myself in will go, and I only ever need to "check in" with the sensory world to make sure those predictions are still accurate." But Se definitely does a lot of the "human" work in the background when you start adding people to your plans.
When I'm gaming and raiding, I recognize that it's Se who is observing everyone else and allowing me to do the "magic plays" where it just seems like I happened to be in the right spot at the right time, when in reality it's Se telling Ni, "This person tends to do X, this person favors Y, and this person clearly doesn't understand Z or A so this is the most likely outcome," to which Ni's response is, "Execute plan XXX-3, we'll worry about explaining everyone's misunderstandings later." On the flip side of that, the low Se is also the reason I can spend 3-4 days in advance looking at video guides and clear examples of stuff and Ni will still feel reluctant to actually go do it, even though both Te and Se have already acknowledged that you have to actually test your plan before you can know if it even works or needs a tweak.
I'll also attribute Se to being the reason INTJs always seem calm in a pinch. It's because logically we understand that panicking will just make the ship sink faster in the long run, so it's almost like a second nature instinct when people start freaking out to just breathe, observe the situation, understand the objectives, evaluate what's feasible, and in a sense go into triage mode. Whenever there was an unexpected "crisis" my girlfriend would always ask, "How can you always be so calm when something like this happens?" and my answer has always been, "Because I know you're going to panic initially, and if we both panic, nothing gets done. So I just focus on remaining calm and understanding what needs to be done. If a freak out is warranted, I'll probably have that happen later when it feels like I can make the time for it," and that recognition of needing to remain calm I attribute to Se, cause believe me once the situation has calmed down a bit, Fi is definitely going to come back and say, "So, you ready to freak out now? It's fine, no one will notice if you do it now."
Se is also the attribute that really does keep our darker humor in check. Fi may be able to tell that a topic of conversation or idea makes someone uncomfortable, but Se is like the final check to say, "Maybe don't make that joke RIGHT now... hold on and see if the vibe changes." Ultimately, as you said, getting in touch with your Se and knowing how to regulate and incorporate it, instead of fighting it constantly, it is a much more fulfilling experience all around.
Noticing positioning is for sure Se. I think I mentioned it before that I tend to play healer because it allows me to observe, instruct, and pick up the slack for other members. Staying calm when half the party wipes truly is a super power that only some types have 😀
I wish you had a twin who was an INFJ ;). You make it so easy to understand. Thank you for another great video Jon.
Thank you for the compliment! It's not going to be in the near future but I am working with people of different types and I'm hoping to launch those videos before my YT career ends ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Dude, you're gonna be around and famous for the long haul.
Frolic!!! I love using that word!!! Cus yeah, when I'm exploring, I *am* a child with all the wonder.
I dont like sports, but i used to play feild hockey and was the golley because my reflexes were superhuman. I indulge in se i got barefoot shoes so if i step on a rock i really feel it.
My Se is literally a toddler
6:14 HEY STOP CALLING ME OUT LIKE THIS OH MY GOD LMAOOOO
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INTJ female here…
True, I can get along with all kinds of people. In high school I was friends with the surfers, nerds, jocks and goths… the goths were my fave
The goths with their overt display of Fi were interesting to be around 😅
Good one.. I always thought myself "I have an accurate intuition as superpower" but turned out it was the Se function instead...
Anyway, it is true I rather avoid social events but I might still attend and "recharge" myself in between.. Usually in the middle of meeting, party or whatsoever.. I would go to a corner sipping coffee or reading stuff just to avoid conversations or being social.. That is part of my "recharge time" and also partially made me seem intimidating because I may be seen all serious..
And also, I sometimes use the "entertainer" mask as well.. In order to let myself observe people more...
Aww, i love my little Se friend lol
I like your tiny Batman
Thank you 😁
Solitude SE I mean we may go out for fun that day but the next day we may act like we don't know you.😂
I'm usually just embarrassed because I forgot their name most of the time 🙃
Yes I can please a room..public speaking is easy for me...and yes I can get along with almost anyone and yes, it drains me. People tell me they and others in general, are fascinated by me and are drawn in because I seem so in tune with life and others. Yes I feel ON at those times. Im not faking anything I am just into my extroverted sensing mode. I am now a happy person and I like myself. I was a very morose teen, painfully shy and introverted. I felt no one liked me. That possibly wasnt true, even then. As I aged, it just felt like the parrarely ts of my personality just jelled into someone I like so I feel comfortable around others. Still though I am a very private person amd divulge my troubles when I have thrm, to virtually no one ext my signoficant other. When I lose my significant other it feels like a ladder has been picked out from under me..I crash to earth. I lost my mate of 41 years last September. HE, because he too was an INTJ, knew me like no other human ever has.
Thankfully I met another good man, an INTP. He is different. I really see our differences as persponality types. I have to explain myself more to him, but he is open to that and I am open to learning his personality. It is an adventure...I feel like an explorer and it's fun. Like my INTJ mate, he is loyal, dependable, easy going and very intelligent...all absolute requirements in a mate for me.
Perdóname por escribir en español, no soy muy buena escribiendo en inglés, soy una mujer INTJ y enserio gracias hahaha, eres el único canal que me ha ayudado demasiado, me encanta tu contenido y me da risa que muchas cosas son ciertas hahaha, prefiero morirme de hambre a levantarme por comida porque no quiero ir a comprarla HAHAH, pero si gasto mucho dinero en aplicaciones que te traen la comida ya hecha hahaha. Y ah, amo el gym, estoy dispuesta a levántame todas las mañanas con tal de tener un mejor aspecto físico, me cuesta pero es necesario hahaha, también puedo llevarme muy bien con todo tipo de gente y les caigo bien, puedo ser lo que quieren que yo sea hahaha, pero me tomo tiempo, saludos desde méxico
¡Gracias por las amables palabras y gracias a Google Translate por ayudarme a entender su comentario y responder! Siempre estoy feliz de escuchar cuando un INTJ comienza a relacionarse con Se, así que sigue así, parece que lo estás haciendo muy bien. ✊
Yes! Love to *frolic* 😂. Aside from science fiction/fantasy reading and puzzling through new code, my hobbies include weightlifting, snowboarding, skydiving and metal/rock guitar. And I will throw down at a concert or out dancing. And then hide in my house the rest of the week.
I grew out my hair once so that I can flick it while head banging at concerts 😅
I doordash wayyyy too much. Dashpass baby!
I wish 😂. I am married to an ISTP and I have wheat allergy. I am forced to cook constantly. Not out of choice, that's for sure!
You know I made it as a content creator when Doordash sponsors me 😅
Se explains how I had the skills to survive and thrive in politics, during my younger days.
Oh for sure! An INTJ won't survive in politics if not for Se 🙃
Re: around 7:00 - always have a drawer of ramen 🍜; it takes 3 min to boil water and cook. I have every shade of spicy 😂
Ramen runs out dude! 😂
this video explains so much about me
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12:04 insanely well said!!
Se fending for itself...😂🤣😂🤣
I think I am figuring out how to get Mama back in (for me) by watching this Se video. It really is about the sum of parts. I have been learning the functions in silos. So, Mama needs to be... motivated to 'act'. That means I need data. Either from my Ni or my Se, I am lacking data anyhow. If I allow my Se a guided tour of the part of my world that makes sense (I imagine Aunty Fi helps with that), I can bring Mama Te back home, and then be on my way back to self. Sigh... I hope this works. Here goes... something..?!??
Feels like this video is more of a motivating speech for INTJs 😁 (which I also believe is a good thing) 💪.
I'm curious on your thoughts though (gonna be long, sorry):
Suppose an early 20s INTJ, who's ever since his school years terrible at sports involving balls, but do pretty well in swimming. At first he felt like he's left all behind with his other friends excelling in soccer, volleyball teams, etc.
Then one day, at age 14, he tried airsoft guns, and quickly liked it despite missing a few shots at the range. It all went back to him at how he also enjoyed playing arcade shooting games since kindergarten.
It became his desire to try and be more excel at those 3 (swimming, airsoft, arcade) to this present day, because he believes that he may not be able to do good in ball sports compared to other people, but he can try to be better at other sports that people either not do much, or not as good as they are with balls. At the same time, he's also seeking for his 4th "sport".
Does that have anything to do with the Se development fueled by Fi and Ni?
Anything in life can be related to a cognitive function but humans are all complex, therefore we like different things. It sounds like swimming, airsoft, and arcade are just something that you enjoy and the rest don't click with you. My INTP friend used to be the biggest gamer when we were teens and haven't touched it as an adult, whereas I'm still a huge gamer. Se is just the function of engaging with something so it is being engaged with but it's difficult to type se to liking something. It can be Fi, or Te telling you to continue it. I hope that makes sense ✊
I’m a younger INTJ and I have found that it makes me addictive to foods and sort of drugs. It’s sort of hard for me to control. However people are surprised when I can be funny or enjoy music and cooking
Se has made me indulge in a lot of things in life just to feel alive so I understand my INTJ nephew. As long as you're safe and not hurting anyone, do whatever it takes to make you happy, I support you ✊
Im an INTJ with agoraphobia 💀 and as an intj i KNOW its ridiculous to be scared of leaving my home but also, sensory overload 🤧
I understand. I have to realllllly want to do something if I know that there's going to be a crowd 😅
No I'd completely understand and cater to that, it's the worst when you're going through a little phase of it and people just don't understand what's going on 😂 😂
@@ishyameru6232 GENUINELY like depending on the amount of stimulus I know I'm going to experience and my current level of overload I can end up sobbing in a restroom before I go out somewhere cuz I already know it's gonna be a sensory overload hellscape ☠️
@@divinityomine6935 Literally 😂 😂 I remember my sophomore year of high school going to a new school and just being unable to do it. The first class I had I just skipped in the bathroom and my parents were like why but I couldn't explain in a way that made sense 😂
I think that a lot of INJs could get an autism diagnosis (not that they are necessarily autistic).
Just another Tuesday conversation for us 🙃
That imgflip watermark tho. INTJ moment. I've done that too.
It's going to be in every one of my video until I'm big enough to hire a video editor 🙃
I feel like my SE grew exponentially around age 30 when I married my ISTP husband who has his SE almost as his top function. It's SE out of control and I have had to learn to ride that ride. Then I became a Realtor and SE became so important to succeed. So my SE I feel is very developed now.
Was definitely NOT in my 20s. And most definitely people thought I was autistic as a child and young teen.
It's crazy how different an INTJ can be from 20 to mid 40s. Especially if we have been forced to develop Se.
My husband literally has dragged me out if the house every week for SE experiences. For 14 years!!!. And I have done zumba since I was 18 years old . Still shows up as clumsiness constantly though 😂. My husband changes my phone screen protector every 5 months as it gets dropped constantly .
Your ISTP husband sounds like my ISFJ friends and family members. To them, we probably look like grown babies how little we know how to engage with the world 😂
I tried beer, wine, and cigarette. Just for experience. But I didnt feel any good about them, so basically I never used them again. But I’m addicted with ice so I can tell the diference of the water’s taste and it’s fun that most of people can’t 😂😂😂
I learned to love beer because it allows baby Se to come out without having to fight the rest of the functions 😂
I don't necessarily think of myself as a conspiracy theorist but it's more like I'm not going to just follow some concept or instruction just because someone in "authority" says so. It simply MUST make sense to me. I used to talk to everybody in all the cliques when I was in high school and at university. I also am a huge goof ball. 🤓I explore Se by jogging, taking a walk or being drunk. 😅
Always happy to hear about another INTJ that's a social chameleon as well! I think being a goofball is part of an INTJ's charm and being drunk really does bring our ESFP side out 😅
How to avoid or deal with the regret or that embarrassing feeling that you get the next day (or after some moment) after you 'Se' too much?
There's no getting over that dude, it's part of the process. Trust me, I still go through it all the time 😂
Everyone knows my no explanation deadpan “no”. 😂 also, I can get along in any group but I never join groups. Absolutely not.
I just moved to another state so I need to find a new group but man is it hard because it feels so unnatural to put in the effort 🙃
autism ... I really could be. and some intjs are!
That sounds terrible that you get drained for 3 days you need to recover? How do you overcome that? How does that effect your close relationships?
It's honestly the only life that I know how to live so it doesn't bother me much. My relationships are usually fine as well because the people I surround myself with understand my introversion 🙂
would filling and organizing physical things (the physical labor of cleaning and organizing not the creation of systems) be an Se task?
I find filing things to be unpair with smalltalk with people who have no interest in the deeper of things or in learning in a loud environment, when it comes to draining me of energy
Yes, organizing the physical world is definitely a Sensory task. INTJs tend to get overwhelmed by Se easily so we tidy up as much as possible 😁
@@justcallmejon22 also are there ways of making sensory task require less energy?
also thank you for responding so quickly (5 minutes) don't think anyone has responded to one of my comments this fast before
Have you ever watched any of C.S. Joseph's videos?
Yes indeed super interesting and next level…another rabbit hole 😂
I've seen some of his videos. What's up?
@@justcallmejon22 Have you seen his video titled: "Who Are The INTJs (The Ranger)? | INTJ Cognitive Functions"? Also, have you seen any of his typing famous people videos?
Are you familiar with the Barnum effect?
I feel like any person who believes in typology has been told about the Barnum effect too many times to count 😅
As long as Domino's delivers, I'll never starve....sure, I might get cranking busy with a project till the wee hours (cus the fam is gone for the weekend or such and this is my chance without disruptions) and forget to eat cus I'm simply not hungry, but I'll never starve, LOL.
The thin crust pizzas from Domino/Pizza Hut were always my favorite!
@@justcallmejon22 Me too tho that makes them dangerously easy to eat entirely on one's own!
Gothicness is the epitome of intj right ?
Maybe! I just like dark colors 🙂
This video is based on the nonsense assumption of scientific realism
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Hi bro,
I am Rakshith
INTJ from India
I need to discuss something very important
I do need to contact you
How can i do it
Hey Rakshith - The best way to contact me is via the email that's listed on my channel. I don't do typing session though so hopefully that's not what you're hoping to hear
@@justcallmejon22 thank you for the reply
@@justcallmejon22 your email id is not visible on the channel
Can you please sharebit here