I hope one day his son watches and learns from this video because now sadly this would apply to him. Coach did mention that he was creating this content initially as a guide for his son. RIP coach. Thank you for all your powerful insights and for being the father I never had.
Thank you so much for your vídeo. Starting to heal, raised by single mother. Everything you said is true, specially the part where you mentioned that your mom sees you as her man, not a her son. Wishing everyone to heal from the absence of a father figure 😊
I love u man. Honestly, u r like the father i need after my dad died when i was 12 and i am 21 right now but i have started to understand what i need. I will follow u and become the best man i can possibly be and more. I will one day meet u as a successful doctor and a musician which is my dream.
It took me over 35 years to understand that fact of life. As a man , at some point you have to break up with your single mom spiritually. You will make up at a later and appropriate time. Otherwise, no relationship will work in your life. Single moms turn their sons into their servants and in turn into nice guys. And women and spiritual power are not attracted not nice guys. 👑
Yep. Its lacking bro's. By me who are raised by single mom (by my grandmother) its hard to move out in this world and become a real men. You dont know what to do. What men is like. Its like a self learning. Also suffer from emotions. Its like a hole in your heart. Your incomplete. Still dealing with this. Im 26 years old.
I'm on the same boat brother, same age too. I always felt like something was off when I was growing up. I even remember telling friends (girl friends, because of course being raised by single mother fucks with your head and you get girls as friends instead of bros, to be more emotional) that I felt like this emptiness, this feel of being incomplete that you talk about. I never really understood what it was until a couple years ago, when I started to watch videos like this. It was eye opening and actually pretty painful, dealing with life as a man who didn't have a father figure is pretty hard. It's all on your own, dealing with fear, pain and everything. But just remember this, you are not alone in this situation. You might not talk or see people like us in your regular life, but there are thousands or millions of guys that have this same issue. So stay strong and don't give up, I will certainly don't.
I am also 26 years old I did have a father in my life and he is still in my life but he was 16 my mother was 20 he was not ready to have twins and on top of that my mother had a girl when she was 16. So basically for most of my life I have witnessed my dad struggle to take care of three kids while he is still growing up himself also both parents were alcoholics and did drugs. Today my father is with another woman he actually married I got to see what a real relationship looks like my mother is still alone my father is still with the woman he left her for. I don't think my father has prepared me for the anxiety and fear of life but I don't think he prepared himself either. One other thing that keeps bothering me is my dad was very good looking when he was 16 I keep comparing myself to him he is kind of a extrovert and because of their past and stuff that happened in their childhood they basically raised me to stay inside and become an introvert. All of their bad behavior made me want to stay far away from it but maybe that was too detrimental for me.
Ay bro, same here, raised by single mother and often with other family members, including grand parents, but the best thing you can do is don't let that stop you from achieving your objectives. Use your weakness as a strength. Consider that if this is the best I can do and still be good enough to compete against others today, then assuming I was raised in a fair environment (most optimum upbringing possible), I'd kill the current competition/challenges that I am already handling well so far.
Yep…..I agree. It took me 48 years to realize that I was more like a woman than a man. Not that I’m gay but having been raised by all women, I’ve adopted a lot of feminine traits but I didn’t know that until late in life. Of course, this has caused a lot of relationship issues with women because I was the ultimate beta male. It wasn’t until I learned how to become an alpha male that I felt truly in control of my life and my emotions. Let me tell you, it was a very difficult transition but well worth it. My next step is to go my own way as I now realize that marriage isn’t worth it and I’m over it with women (outside of the sexual aspect). Hang in there guys…..it’s not your fault that your father wasn’t there but you will have to learn how to be a man at some point.
I found good information in books "no more mister nice guy" and "can´t hurt me" but, there are another sources of information that you could suggest me?
According to your logic, a boy’s outcome depends on whether a parent is more masculine or feminine then? That’s a bunch of gender-stereotype bullshit lol.
Spot on CRP. Push through your fears and they will diminish. It's a process. Once you've decided that you're sick of being afraid you will achieve more despite setbacks. Just never give up, guys.
The soothing mother leads to the son being cowardice. The hard pressed controlling father leads to the son being an unpleasant toxic narcissist no one wishes to be around or live with. There needs to be a balance between the two personalities.
Everyone is just different. My sons father doesn’t have a soothing mother at all in fact she showed him no type of nurturing. He is the biggest coward.
Not his fault. When you see spoiled, effeminate men blame the mother and the state. They are who is truly responsible. Stop deflecting blame and accountability. You have this "It's never my fault" attitude and that is 50 percent of the problem. Pathetic bully who points fingers. True leaders point fingers at responsible parties be that others or themselves and take responsibility either way. Western women deserve the effeminate men and f**kboys they have created. They also deserve the porn addicts, the drug addicts, the video game addicts etc. You don't get to neglect AND emotionally traumatise boys and then bully them for not being man enough when they never had a chance to begin with. No wonder they are travelling abroad for loving women. No love in babylon. Only Greed and narcissism.@@jamierichards9926
Lol my wench of a mother never soothed my pain, instead she called me weak and stupid and told me I should quit now instead of continuing to fail and embarrass her. My dad was too busy trying to pay the bills so he took a passive role in my upbringing (not his fault) So as a result I suffer from fear, indecisiveness and low self esteem. Well the first step to fixing these issues is the diagnosis. And to be fair I have gotten a lot better since learning about my mental health issues, but I have a lot further to go. Thanks Coach Red Pill
Bullied by your own mother. A sad reality but a reality for more than you realise brother. Blind leading the blind. Talk to some Catholic soldiers. They can teach you how to live life properly.
A single moms, once they realize they can't get the man she wants, will start to sabotage and manipulate their own child to be the man they always wanted as mentioned in the video. The older she gets, the more aggressive they make sure. They get old...they don't want to be lonely and instinctively, they see it.
This comment really speaks to me because I feel exactly what you are saying I've just realized this I'm 26 that my mother has basically been making me into what she thinks her dream guy should act like. She would tell me things like girls would love a nice personality and you should be a gentleman and chivalrous and open doors for them you should treat her like she's the most important thing in the world to you. She would also complain that she went easy on my dad and that she could have taken him to the cleaners for child support but didn't so that means she's good? That whole conversation just told me that she didn't really even care about us as a family she just wanted to have that image and now she's upset that she's alone and he's married and maybe she took it out on me and my brother.
I’m a victim of a man raised by a single mother. He wreaked havoc on my life, then his mommy came out and saved him and moved him back home. She left his biological dad for a man that beat the shit out of him and his brother. He brother turned into a druggie and died at 20. He’s a 38 year old piece of shit. I can’t do relationships anymore, and she enjoyed every minute of it. Almost every conversation started with “my mom said I should…”
I'm 25 and only just recently broke out of the spell. I work in a restaurant and i'm constantly under pressure in a thankless, toxic environment. At one point I was a pushover. ran to my mom who did fuck all to help me. Went to female coworkers who did the same all the while Drinking on shift just to "soothe" myself but now I take it. sure every now and then I'll have beers after work but I stand up to the bullshit. I don't let people say and do what they want. I'm not afraid to make mistakes and learn from them, nor learn new things in my position, and now I'm not afraid of what my mom nor my family thinks of me. I'm my own person. I need to grow, learn and build on my own and be the man I'm suppose to me. The only thing holding me back a little is living with my mom, but i'm a few months away from my CDL so hopefully I can move out and finally start over.
Other cases a boy raised by a mother end up becoming pretty rough "becoming the man of the house" That feels the need to protect his mother, maintain the house and fix things that break. So it comes down to the individual.
When this man speaks , my brain grows and that was needed. I am raised by a single mother, but she was very maskuline authoritarian type , no soothing whatsoever ;) Anyway, after this vid I am sitting and connecting the dots, why did I not find this channel before?
"...because the woman you approach is not going to bite your head off, she is not like a praying mantis..." You haven't dated for a long long time buddy.
I'm in a long term relationship with my kids dad this really helped me understand him more but that fear part early....really hit, im not sure he /we can do it
My mother didn't sooth me after my father left. She didn't really have enough time to raise my sister and I because she had to work so much to make ends meet. She could never be a good male role model for me, so it took me many decades to learn how to be a good man - and I'm still learning. I was scared shitless when it came to chasing girls when I was young for sure. I picked women that were terrible for my life. Divorced twice. Success in sports was an issue. Mom never got me into sports as a very young kid. I'm a decent athlete, but never learned skills young enough to be outstanding. Music was an issue also. I had some talent as a musician but was never pushed to become excellent. So, I quit when I got bored. I learned at a young age, that I couldn't depend on anyone, including my mother. I'm now overly independent and try not to rely on anyone, but in reality, I do need people. Been single for 20 years now. I have the belief that no one really cares about me in my family. Mom does to some degree, but it's fairly minimal as we are very different people and see the world very very differently. One positive thing that's come of this is that I'm an independent thinker and a truth seeker. I've learned how to love myself more after 6 decades. Now I have to solve the issues of finding love for my future. The work is never done!
This is simple psychological principles and conditioning. Basically all Pavlovian dogmas that freshman Psych 101 preaches. In a nutshell, let your kids fuck up some so they learn, grow, improve in confidence, and master their necessary milestones for growth and development.
I push my kids more than their dad you know! My youngest son once that's child abuse because I would push him so hard into baseball ,I try him in every sport until I find the one he's good at . Stop saying single mother cannot raise a successful man it's all depends on the individual.
ahh man I've been on a gap year since finishing sixth form. Going uni in September and been at home since last March. Always lived with my mum she was w my stepdad for about 10 years but they split up about 3 years ago now. I've nailed in on all my habits I got into the "self improvement" stuff and I feel like it's all bullshit. I feel like there's something missing now that I've cut out every bad habit, and I think it's the fact that I'm too scared to really go and do anything big. I have no direction. I hope I can figure this out.
Thank you so much for the video, I raised by a single mother, my father died when I was 16 and now I am through this battle by myself and know how to control my fears.
As a single mom myself, raising two children, a boy and girl, I try to learn how to help my son thrive, because In reality I can do so much to really help him be a man. I agree with most of what you said, that women soothe and men teach you how to face your fear. Ironically I do both already. I do allow my children to feel their feelings and soothe and do things the things a mother should do, but I am VERY conscious about how I raise my kids, and i also teach them to process and face their fears in their own way. I do agree that men can do a better job at that than a woman because it can be confusing for a child to see their parent as doing both. One thing I do not agree with is how you try and normalize that it's ok for dad to tell kids to "Get on the fuckin bike" And "traumatize" them. It's NOT a masculine quality to treat people, especially children, like shit by cussing at them. That's just a shitty person quality, don't get that confused. Other than that, yeah mostly can agree.
Here's some unsolicited advice. Find a man that will love your kid as his own. If that isn't a realistic option find him a group of male mentors, put him in a sport such as tackle football, wrestling, or Jiu-jitsu at a very young age. Women were never meant to play both rolls. Children need two parents, anything else is simply attempting to limit the damage. Mother's tend to coddle, men tend to teach and raise their boys like they're raising someone to replace them in time. Two parents offer the kid balance and show gender roles. Best of luck to you.
@@dameanderthank you, yes I plan on getting him into stuff that will allow him to get that much needed dose of testosterone. Finances play a big role in that right now, but in time it'll happen. I glad that I am conscious of it though, most moms do not care but I do. Thank you for your advice.
Remember the Opening scene from the Movie 300: The Son at the age 6 was taken from his Mother and thrown into the Fighting pits (of course with training) to make a Man out of him. SPARTANS KNEW THAT THEY NEEDED REAL MEN TO continue their Freedom n tradition.
Kind of interesting as a single mother, I soothe my son but have a balance and push him out of his comfort zone. He gets mad about it but 🤷♀️ I just want him to experience the most in life and not be afraid.
Some single mums can be a better father than the dead best dads out there who did nothing ! Please stop generalizations!! I was a father and a mother - I didn’t just soothe - I also was thst mum who told him to get back on !! My god in this day and age please stop these insane generalizations!!!
But thats not the norm. Its the exception, not the rule. Why don't you read all the comments on this page to clearly see that from they guys on here growing up without a dad around. Stop making it about 'you' and 'your' circumstance and look at the big picture. The world works on generalizations, not exceptions. You're triggered when your personal experiences don't conform to the majority (FYI that's also what a father teaches a son. Reality! Exceptions don't make the rule. You have to live in reality no matter how you 'feel' and accept generalizations) Oh, and don't complain about dead beat dads. You chose the guy. Try taking some accountability.
That's funny, because my father used excessive violence to make me write better and do math, and today both my math and handwriting suck because I developed an aversion to them. What is the right way of making your son try again and again?
The only thing that a small boy need is a male figure Mine was my uncle My father wasn't a real man he was a dog so I have to disagree with you because a 6 year old will get on the bike because his buddies are watching
i had a motorbike crash at like 10. I just burnt my leg but my mother made an over-the-top deal of it for years. Even once it healed she spent years taking me to doctors to solve the scar, which eventually just went away. But if I am being honest am still scared of motorbikes
Maybe this is for white culture lol My mom, a single mother, successful black woman, watch me fall off the bike, and told me to get back on it. My mom was balanced, she nurtured and knew how to be hard at times. I do wish I knew my dad, but my mom did the best she could.
I was raised by a single mom but I still got chicks all the time. The idea that a young male being raised without a father will certainly end up being a forty year old virgin is pretty much a ridiculous statement. Women can raise their boys that way; but they can also put their son into boy scouts, sports, karate, or even let him hang out with the other boys in the neighborhood, and they can still manage to develop as a man in a mostly normal way.
No offense but getting chics all the time even if you were raised by a single mom means nothing. Everyone w silly grandiose ego always finds a way to brag to strangers about this w or w/o a father. Further, with all due respect, your entire paragraph wreaks insecurity and complete ignorance of what it's like to "develop as a man in mostly a normal way." Joining boy scouts, sports, karate, hanging out w other boys is so short sighted and such a very diluted version. Yes, you'll have male influences, and develop friendships along the way, but the masculine role model a father provides and guides you through your early stages of development is missing and is something no woman can ever provide or substitute.
"I was raised by a single mom but I still got chicks all the time" and thats the proof of your problems. you are value your selfesteem not by who you are but by female you can get (misarable live...)
@@qweqwe5186 you’re definitely reading too far into it. My point/argument was only that being raised by a single mom would not automatically doom a man to a live of involuntary celibacy. It’s not a fucking curse to be raised by a single mom, but Coach Red Pill is trying to say as much is true because of a lack of a positive male role model.
@@qweqwe5186 Furthermore, I get my self esteem from all kinds of stuff thank you very much! I don’t run around basing my self-worth on the number of notches in my belt, but you presupposed as much because you thought it would somehow prove your point. Well, it doesn’t prove anything except the fact that you’re presumptuous and quick to pass judgement. I might also argue that there is the added risk of growing up with an extremely patriarchal attitude, and the opinion that women were put on the planet to serve men only, if you were raised by an abusive father who was overly harsh with criticism, punishment, and discipline too. And no, I’m not trying to diminish what CRP has said entirely, just that he is not correct in every case. He may be right to some degree in many cases, but he is not correct to speak for all men who were raised by a single mother.
Hahhah... my mom was the asshole who pushed me to be more accomplished regardless of my feelings, and my dad was the soother who was emotionally more caring and accommodating.... so yeaaah I think your gender role stereotypes can't apply to everyone 😂
I was raised by a single mother, and this is the fucking truth man.
I hope one day his son watches and learns from this video because now sadly this would apply to him. Coach did mention that he was creating this content initially as a guide for his son. RIP coach. Thank you for all your powerful insights and for being the father I never had.
Thank you so much for your vídeo. Starting to heal, raised by single mother. Everything you said is true, specially the part where you mentioned that your mom sees you as her man, not a her son. Wishing everyone to heal from the absence of a father figure 😊
Thanks that means a lot.
I love u man. Honestly, u r like the father i need after my dad died when i was 12 and i am 21 right now but i have started to understand what i need. I will follow u and become the best man i can possibly be and more. I will one day meet u as a successful doctor and a musician which is my dream.
“A Woman can raise a Man, but cannot raise a Man the way a Man can raise a man” - Tupac Shakur (raised by a single mother)
Pretty sure that besides being murdered, Tupac turned out more successful than most people from 2 parent families.
Word man
Event the Great Notorious B.I.G was raised by a single mother
A woman CANNOT RAISE A MAN PERIOD
He never said that 🤣🤣🤣😭
It took me over 35 years to understand that fact of life. As a man , at some point you have to break up with your single mom spiritually. You will make up at a later and appropriate time. Otherwise, no relationship will work in your life. Single moms turn their sons into their servants and in turn into nice guys. And women and spiritual power are not attracted not nice guys. 👑
Yep. Its lacking bro's. By me who are raised by single mom (by my grandmother) its hard to move out in this world and become a real men. You dont know what to do. What men is like. Its like a self learning. Also suffer from emotions. Its like a hole in your heart. Your incomplete.
Still dealing with this. Im 26 years old.
I'm on the same boat brother, same age too. I always felt like something was off when I was growing up. I even remember telling friends (girl friends, because of course being raised by single mother fucks with your head and you get girls as friends instead of bros, to be more emotional) that I felt like this emptiness, this feel of being incomplete that you talk about. I never really understood what it was until a couple years ago, when I started to watch videos like this. It was eye opening and actually pretty painful, dealing with life as a man who didn't have a father figure is pretty hard. It's all on your own, dealing with fear, pain and everything.
But just remember this, you are not alone in this situation. You might not talk or see people like us in your regular life, but there are thousands or millions of guys that have this same issue. So stay strong and don't give up, I will certainly don't.
I am also 26 years old I did have a father in my life and he is still in my life but he was 16 my mother was 20 he was not ready to have twins and on top of that my mother had a girl when she was 16. So basically for most of my life I have witnessed my dad struggle to take care of three kids while he is still growing up himself also both parents were alcoholics and did drugs. Today my father is with another woman he actually married I got to see what a real relationship looks like my mother is still alone my father is still with the woman he left her for. I don't think my father has prepared me for the anxiety and fear of life but I don't think he prepared himself either. One other thing that keeps bothering me is my dad was very good looking when he was 16 I keep comparing myself to him he is kind of a extrovert and because of their past and stuff that happened in their childhood they basically raised me to stay inside and become an introvert. All of their bad behavior made me want to stay far away from it but maybe that was too detrimental for me.
Same here bro. And I just turned 26. The loneliness was the greatest hurdle I wasn't prepared for. The true loneliness.
Ay bro, same here, raised by single mother and often with other family members, including grand parents, but the best thing you can do is don't let that stop you from achieving your objectives. Use your weakness as a strength. Consider that if this is the best I can do and still be good enough to compete against others today, then assuming I was raised in a fair environment (most optimum upbringing possible), I'd kill the current competition/challenges that I am already handling well so far.
Join the Army. I'm fucking serious. Love and prayers, young man.
Yep…..I agree. It took me 48 years to realize that I was more like a woman than a man. Not that I’m gay but having been raised by all women, I’ve adopted a lot of feminine traits but I didn’t know that until late in life. Of course, this has caused a lot of relationship issues with women because I was the ultimate beta male. It wasn’t until I learned how to become an alpha male that I felt truly in control of my life and my emotions. Let me tell you, it was a very difficult transition but well worth it. My next step is to go my own way as I now realize that marriage isn’t worth it and I’m over it with women (outside of the sexual aspect). Hang in there guys…..it’s not your fault that your father wasn’t there but you will have to learn how to be a man at some point.
Can you tell me what strategies did you apply to become more masculine and alpha?
I found good information in books "no more mister nice guy" and "can´t hurt me" but, there are another sources of information that you could suggest me?
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No... It's not your father's fault... It's you mother's fault.
According to your logic, a boy’s outcome depends on whether a parent is more masculine or feminine then? That’s a bunch of gender-stereotype bullshit lol.
Men raised by single women are angry. Men are taught compassion from the dad.
im eaised like rhat and i been told
my fear and seen my fear is so much more huge than other ppl.. i also have lots of unresolved anger
my singlemother was very masculine , authoritarian type, while my father was more of the soft type
truth
I was raised by a widow so was a little bit different but your points are spot on, a child needs both parents
Spot on CRP. Push through your fears and they will diminish. It's a process. Once you've decided that you're sick of being afraid you will achieve more despite setbacks. Just never give up, guys.
"Get on the fucking bike kid" you were one of one big bro rest easy 😂😂😢🙏🏾
The soothing mother leads to the son being cowardice.
The hard pressed controlling father leads to the son being an unpleasant toxic narcissist no one wishes to be around or live with.
There needs to be a balance between the two personalities.
Everyone is just different. My sons father doesn’t have a soothing mother at all in fact she showed him no type of nurturing. He is the biggest coward.
Not his fault. When you see spoiled, effeminate men blame the mother and the state. They are who is truly responsible. Stop deflecting blame and accountability. You have this "It's never my fault" attitude and that is 50 percent of the problem. Pathetic bully who points fingers. True leaders point fingers at responsible parties be that others or themselves and take responsibility either way. Western women deserve the effeminate men and f**kboys they have created. They also deserve the porn addicts, the drug addicts, the video game addicts etc. You don't get to neglect AND emotionally traumatise boys and then bully them for not being man enough when they never had a chance to begin with. No wonder they are travelling abroad for loving women. No love in babylon. Only Greed and narcissism.@@jamierichards9926
Lol my wench of a mother never soothed my pain, instead she called me weak and stupid and told me I should quit now instead of continuing to fail and embarrass her. My dad was too busy trying to pay the bills so he took a passive role in my upbringing (not his fault)
So as a result I suffer from fear, indecisiveness and low self esteem. Well the first step to fixing these issues is the diagnosis. And to be fair I have gotten a lot better since learning about my mental health issues, but I have a lot further to go. Thanks Coach Red Pill
Bullied by your own mother. A sad reality but a reality for more than you realise brother. Blind leading the blind. Talk to some Catholic soldiers. They can teach you how to live life properly.
A single moms, once they realize they can't get the man she wants, will start to sabotage and manipulate their own child to be the man they always wanted as mentioned in the video.
The older she gets, the more aggressive they make sure. They get old...they don't want to be lonely and instinctively, they see it.
This comment really speaks to me because I feel exactly what you are saying I've just realized this I'm 26 that my mother has basically been making me into what she thinks her dream guy should act like. She would tell me things like girls would love a nice personality and you should be a gentleman and chivalrous and open doors for them you should treat her like she's the most important thing in the world to you. She would also complain that she went easy on my dad and that she could have taken him to the cleaners for child support but didn't so that means she's good? That whole conversation just told me that she didn't really even care about us as a family she just wanted to have that image and now she's upset that she's alone and he's married and maybe she took it out on me and my brother.
I’m a victim of a man raised by a single mother. He wreaked havoc on my life, then his mommy came out and saved him and moved him back home. She left his biological dad for a man that beat the shit out of him and his brother. He brother turned into a druggie and died at 20. He’s a 38 year old piece of shit. I can’t do relationships anymore, and she enjoyed every minute of it. Almost every conversation started with “my mom said I should…”
I'm 25 and only just recently broke out of the spell. I work in a restaurant and i'm constantly under pressure in a thankless, toxic environment. At one point I was a pushover. ran to my mom who did fuck all to help me. Went to female coworkers who did the same all the while Drinking on shift just to "soothe" myself but now I take it. sure every now and then I'll have beers after work but I stand up to the bullshit. I don't let people say and do what they want. I'm not afraid to make mistakes and learn from them, nor learn new things in my position, and now I'm not afraid of what my mom nor my family thinks of me. I'm my own person. I need to grow, learn and build on my own and be the man I'm suppose to me. The only thing holding me back a little is living with my mom, but i'm a few months away from my CDL so hopefully I can move out and finally start over.
Coach my mom wasn’t the soothing type but this stuff is so helpful thank you so much for doing what you do
Other cases a boy raised by a mother end up becoming pretty rough "becoming the man of the house" That feels the need to protect his mother, maintain the house and fix things that break. So it comes down to the individual.
Oh may God bless you for this comment.
This is true I'm a single mom I shared this with my son's I hope they watch this boys need there dad's .
Gonzalo Lira (Coach Red Pill) I remember him well. RIP
When this man speaks , my brain grows and that was needed. I am raised by a single mother, but she was very maskuline authoritarian type , no soothing whatsoever ;) Anyway, after this vid I am sitting and connecting the dots, why did I not find this channel before?
Wow, that was genuinely the best analysis I've ever heard and really hit home. Perfectly articulates my own situation.
On point "its what she wants" and , that's what she makes him !
"...because the woman you approach is not going to bite your head off, she is not like a praying mantis..." You haven't dated for a long long time buddy.
She bitwa more than your head off..
Thank you brother! RIP
Indeed, i am with Frank Herbert on this, fear is THE mindkiller.
I'm in a long term relationship with my kids dad this really helped me understand him more but that fear part early....really hit, im not sure he /we can do it
My brother and I were raised by my mom. He's much more fearless than I am. Sometimes it's just genetics. Some men are just more beta than others.
I was raised by a single mom but I can be composed in life or death situations for as long as I can remember
Thanks man I needed that
My mother didn't sooth me after my father left. She didn't really have enough time to raise my sister and I because she had to work so much to make ends meet. She could never be a good male role model for me, so it took me many decades to learn how to be a good man - and I'm still learning. I was scared shitless when it came to chasing girls when I was young for sure. I picked women that were terrible for my life. Divorced twice. Success in sports was an issue. Mom never got me into sports as a very young kid. I'm a decent athlete, but never learned skills young enough to be outstanding. Music was an issue also. I had some talent as a musician but was never pushed to become excellent. So, I quit when I got bored. I learned at a young age, that I couldn't depend on anyone, including my mother. I'm now overly independent and try not to rely on anyone, but in reality, I do need people. Been single for 20 years now. I have the belief that no one really cares about me in my family. Mom does to some degree, but it's fairly minimal as we are very different people and see the world very very differently. One positive thing that's come of this is that I'm an independent thinker and a truth seeker. I've learned how to love myself more after 6 decades. Now I have to solve the issues of finding love for my future. The work is never done!
Tough love is the best love.
Thank you for making this one.
This is simple psychological principles and conditioning. Basically all Pavlovian dogmas that freshman Psych 101 preaches. In a nutshell, let your kids fuck up some so they learn, grow, improve in confidence, and master their necessary milestones for growth and development.
Both my parents were the 'get back on the bike' type. They were very athletic, and I didn't want to be, but they demanded, and I developed. Thank God!
Your dad ok
But your mother 2???😲
I push my kids more than their dad you know! My youngest son once that's child abuse because I would push him so hard into baseball ,I try him in every sport until I find the one he's good at . Stop saying single mother cannot raise a successful man it's all depends on the individual.
Ill always miss this guy man...
Really good video I’m sure we’re all here for the same reason. Good luck
🔴To any man raised by a single mother reading: this video saved you a minimum of one year of psychological therapy.
Amazingly spot tf on
... i am raised with single mother and nothing i fear...because i am not follwing all her words since am kid ... but its good perspective
Rest easy Lira
I wonder how did you learn all the knowledge you have, thank you
yes. Very wise man.
ahh man I've been on a gap year since finishing sixth form. Going uni in September and been at home since last March. Always lived with my mum she was w my stepdad for about 10 years but they split up about 3 years ago now. I've nailed in on all my habits I got into the "self improvement" stuff and I feel like it's all bullshit. I feel like there's something missing now that I've cut out every bad habit, and I think it's the fact that I'm too scared to really go and do anything big. I have no direction. I hope I can figure this out.
Thank you so much for the video, I raised by a single mother, my father died when I was 16 and now I am through this battle by myself and know how to control my fears.
Sublime
Awesome advice
I gotta lay off the pasta.
Hey Coach. Glad you are safe
Rip buddy
As a single mom myself, raising two children, a boy and girl, I try to learn how to help my son thrive, because In reality I can do so much to really help him be a man. I agree with most of what you said, that women soothe and men teach you how to face your fear. Ironically I do both already. I do allow my children to feel their feelings and soothe and do things the things a mother should do, but I am VERY conscious about how I raise my kids, and i also teach them to process and face their fears in their own way. I do agree that men can do a better job at that than a woman because it can be confusing for a child to see their parent as doing both. One thing I do not agree with is how you try and normalize that it's ok for dad to tell kids to "Get on the fuckin bike" And "traumatize" them. It's NOT a masculine quality to treat people, especially children, like shit by cussing at them. That's just a shitty person quality, don't get that confused. Other than that, yeah mostly can agree.
Here's some unsolicited advice. Find a man that will love your kid as his own. If that isn't a realistic option find him a group of male mentors, put him in a sport such as tackle football, wrestling, or Jiu-jitsu at a very young age. Women were never meant to play both rolls. Children need two parents, anything else is simply attempting to limit the damage. Mother's tend to coddle, men tend to teach and raise their boys like they're raising someone to replace them in time. Two parents offer the kid balance and show gender roles. Best of luck to you.
@@dameanderthank you, yes I plan on getting him into stuff that will allow him to get that much needed dose of testosterone. Finances play a big role in that right now, but in time it'll happen. I glad that I am conscious of it though, most moms do not care but I do. Thank you for your advice.
im 46 and im still trying to figure this out. Its so debilitating
Remember the Opening scene from the Movie 300: The Son at the age 6 was taken from his Mother and thrown into the Fighting pits (of course with training) to make a Man out of him.
SPARTANS KNEW THAT THEY NEEDED REAL MEN TO continue their Freedom n tradition.
I can totally relate to this
The comment section is a serious circkejerk.
Great video. Very true 👍
Never too late.
Nah my mom would tell me to man up
Thank you sir 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
CRAP!! You're right!!
What I took from this video that fear is tool
Kind of interesting as a single mother, I soothe my son but have a balance and push him out of his comfort zone. He gets mad about it but 🤷♀️ I just want him to experience the most in life and not be afraid.
A child needs a mother AND a father, and no one of them can replace the role of the other part.
I was raised by a single mother please if u still can DO NOT raise that kid by urself it’s not about oppressing women this is for ur child’s future ❤
When he figures the other half out though he will be better for that.. if he can figure out the rest
My dad did teach me shit about life or how to asking a girl out my life has bin a disaster.
Some single mums can be a better father than the dead best dads out there who did nothing ! Please stop generalizations!! I was a father and a mother - I didn’t just soothe - I also was thst mum who told him to get back on !! My god in this day and age please stop these insane generalizations!!!
But thats not the norm. Its the exception, not the rule. Why don't you read all the comments on this page to clearly see that from they guys on here growing up without a dad around. Stop making it about 'you' and 'your' circumstance and look at the big picture. The world works on generalizations, not exceptions. You're triggered when your personal experiences don't conform to the majority (FYI that's also what a father teaches a son. Reality! Exceptions don't make the rule. You have to live in reality no matter how you 'feel' and accept generalizations) Oh, and don't complain about dead beat dads. You chose the guy. Try taking some accountability.
Some I agree some I don't.
You still should make a video on how to ask a girl out
That's funny, because my father used excessive violence to make me write better and do math, and today both my math and handwriting suck because I developed an aversion to them.
What is the right way of making your son try again and again?
What do you think the right way is?
unfortunately his son is now in this position
Excellent
Great
thank u .
It's great to have the videos back, and that you can now monetize from your previous work. However, it sucks that the quality is down to 320p.
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Haven’t seen you in forever.
The only thing that a small boy need is a male figure
Mine was my uncle
My father wasn't a real man he was a dog so I have to disagree with you because a 6 year old will get on the bike because his buddies are watching
Yea he will get on it but if he falls and cried mommy will be there the save the day ….. that’s the whole point why he needs a strong father
nice guys can't beat wooly mammoth down because their moms are too afraid to lose them on hunt.
so it ends up tragically they all starve to death.
Men …..
need to create value for themselves ⚓️
Women ….. just be 🌹
i had a motorbike crash at like 10. I just burnt my leg but my mother made an over-the-top deal of it for years. Even once it healed she spent years taking me to doctors to solve the scar, which eventually just went away. But if I am being honest am still scared of motorbikes
Was this man raised by a single mother?
No
I would argue that they are a bad woman if they become a single mother. Don't be naive.
Maybe this is for white culture lol
My mom, a single mother, successful black woman, watch me fall off the bike, and told me to get back on it. My mom was balanced, she nurtured and knew how to be hard at times. I do wish I knew my dad, but my mom did the best she could.
Momma worship
Same my mom is just like that, my dad is more emotionally empathetic and intelligent
Mother's don't get to run away like men do. Raised by a single mom? You should be grateful she didn't take off.
I was raised by a single mom but I still got chicks all the time. The idea that a young male being raised without a father will certainly end up being a forty year old virgin is pretty much a ridiculous statement. Women can raise their boys that way; but they can also put their son into boy scouts, sports, karate, or even let him hang out with the other boys in the neighborhood, and they can still manage to develop as a man in a mostly normal way.
No offense but getting chics all the time even if you were raised by a single mom means nothing. Everyone w silly grandiose ego always finds a way to brag to strangers about this w or w/o a father. Further, with all due respect, your entire paragraph wreaks insecurity and complete ignorance of what it's like to "develop as a man in mostly a normal way." Joining boy scouts, sports, karate, hanging out w other boys is so short sighted and such a very diluted version. Yes, you'll have male influences, and develop friendships along the way, but the masculine role model a father provides and guides you through your early stages of development is missing and is something no woman can ever provide or substitute.
@@lowkeyalien6477you’re definitely entitled to your opinion.
"I was raised by a single mom but I still got chicks all the time"
and thats the proof of your problems. you are value your selfesteem not by who you are but by female you can get (misarable live...)
@@qweqwe5186 you’re definitely reading too far into it. My point/argument was only that being raised by a single mom would not automatically doom a man to a live of involuntary celibacy. It’s not a fucking curse to be raised by a single mom, but Coach Red Pill is trying to say as much is true because of a lack of a positive male role model.
@@qweqwe5186 Furthermore, I get my self esteem from all kinds of stuff thank you very much! I don’t run around basing my self-worth on the number of notches in my belt, but you presupposed as much because you thought it would somehow prove your point. Well, it doesn’t prove anything except the fact that you’re presumptuous and quick to pass judgement. I might also argue that there is the added risk of growing up with an extremely patriarchal attitude, and the opinion that women were put on the planet to serve men only, if you were raised by an abusive father who was overly harsh with criticism, punishment, and discipline too. And no, I’m not trying to diminish what CRP has said entirely, just that he is not correct in every case. He may be right to some degree in many cases, but he is not correct to speak for all men who were raised by a single mother.
Hahhah... my mom was the asshole who pushed me to be more accomplished regardless of my feelings, and my dad was the soother who was emotionally more caring and accommodating.... so yeaaah I think your gender role stereotypes can't apply to everyone 😂
I do like and appreciate most of what CRP says, but I don’t agree 100% with everything he says.
The mother's have no interest in sons...!!!?
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