I was once in a foster home and I can honestly say telling the child that it is not their fault is something that really needs to be said many times. Most children no matter the situation at home always think it was their fault in one way or another. This video really hit home with me. It’s a very scary thing going somewhere you’ve never been with people you don’t know. Sleeping in a strange bed. Makes you really just want to disappear honestly. Children need a lot of attention at the beginning to fit in and not feel alone. I remember being scared to just ask where the bathroom was or afraid to get out of bed in the mornings worrying if it was to early or not knowing what I was going to do so I would just lay there waiting and listening. Thank you for your videos first time foster parents could really benefit from watching your channel.
@@Just_One_Tree No worries. All worked out for the better I had a great foster mother then I was adopted and was raised by the best family. I honestly couldn’t have asked for a better mom and dad to take me in just as if I was there own
Sometimes I think feeling that it’s their fault is a control response. Because being able to blame yourself makes you think there’s something you could have done or could still do to prevent the situation. For some it might be scarier to accept that bad things can happen to people who don’t deserve it and there’s nothing they can do to stop it.
I was in foster care from ages 12-18, and I think it's really difficult for older kids to not blame themselves and too often foster parents imply older kids/teens behavior issues or values/morals are to blame for why their families are "bad". There's still that undercurrent of the belief that poverty, mental illness, addiction all imply families lack morals, values or religion and there's foster families very big on teaching those types of very ultra-conservative, "Christian" values that imply this was missing from the way you were brought up and thus why you and your parent(s) were bad and thus why you are in foster care. So, I'm not sure if just saying you're not to blame really works for older kids and a lot of what the foster parents I had really implied a lot of blame and how they felt they were so much better.
One of my closest friends spent around 7 years in foster care (I’m actually the one who reported her family so I was very close to the whole situation) and I witnessed how horrible her experience was being thrown around and ending up in a cockroach and rat infested home where she had to beg for food for years until finally aging out. I quickly decided that being a foster parent was something I need to do when I’m older. I’m still too young and just a college student but I’m 100% dedicated to providing a home for those who need it once I’m able to. I’m going to be a teacher because I’m very dedicated to helping the wellbeing of kids and teenagers and it hurts me to know how many kids get abused in the system even after being removed from their homes. If I can help just a few kids get through such a traumatic experience then it’s worth it.
This is the same reason that i want to become a therapist. The amount of pure SHIT i have seen my friends go through makes my blood boil, and i want to do what I can to help anyone i can.
@@JesusLightsYourPath she was being sexually abused by her parents so even though both situations were awful she was slightly safer in foster care. Plus there was no way to know she was going to end up in a horrible home, at the time I thought foster care was a safe alternative because I was a kid who had no former exposure. Once she was in it’s not like we could just get her out. At that point the only thing I could do was be there for her so she had at least one consistent thing in her life and she in no way blames me for how things ended up because she’s happy to have gotten out of her original situation.
@@arkarts2987 I have to agree that even a cockroach/rat infested home and begging for food would be a slightly better situation than s3xual abuse. Hell, I’ll take physical abuse over s3xual. Of course that’s no excuse to the messed up “parents” who decide to foster, but in your friend’s specific scenario it definitely sounds like the right call
I’m a foster parent but I started crying with how well you handle these things. It really is so hard to explain. I have only had kids fourth grade and up so they can understand a little bit better. Some even really understand that it’s for the best, it must be very very hard for little little kids to understand what’s going on. I also like to include that even though I am their foster mother, I am never trying to take the place of their biological parent. I tell them that they always have their parent, and to think of me more like an auntie, who cares about them very much.❤
It's so important to let them know it's not their fault. Every single kid in foster care I worked with thought it was somehow their fault. I told them (in a nutshell) that sometimes even grown ups make bad choices. This one little girl didn't see her mom for a couple of months. The day she was finally getting a visit, she grabbed my face with her tiny hands and says "my momma is making good choices!" Made me nearly cry. She was so excited
im not a foster kid or anything infact im an adult but for some reason your videos just make me feel good. like the picky eater one makes me feel so good as a person with arfid and sensory issues its like. i wish yhe people around me would treat me like you treat foster kids
I literally watch her videos and realise my actual blood parents should have taken some tips from her. I'm NC with them but I genuinely wish that my mom had had a foster parent like this when she was young because her parents were awful, and maybe it would have protected us from intergenerational trauma.
I have so much respect for you. this is a huge huge responsibility and absolutely affects these young children for the rest of their lives. I don't know if you know how special you are and how very valuable you are. Just in case no one has told you today, you are one incredible lady!!!!
Thank you for doing this. I feel like I would’ve been treated much better if I had the opportunity to be a foster kid of someone like you. I appreciate the strength and guts to do something like this and to share valuable wisdom online with others :))
So many of your posts just give me goosebumps, theyre just so compassionate! I wonder sometimes how many families youve helped to make the decision to foster, and how many foster children youve indirectly helped with your videos. Youre a real life hero.
I remember as a kid, my parents would get drunk and dad had an awfully mean temper. They would say if i ever called the cops for help, they would put my brother and I in foster care and split us up and that it would be all my fault for destroying the family...maybe if mom and dad got help when i was a child i wouldnt have grown up with so many mental health issues...I know not all foster parents are as nice as you but maybe i couldve gotten lucky and had an adult not tell me i was worthless p.o.s. everyday...
Always let them know it’s NOT THEIR FAULT!!!! Unfortunately their parents made poor choices but even as the children grows the parents grow and some do change for the better. Life is hard. Treat these children with love and support and they will blossom into beautiful adults. ❤❤❤❤
I think you are such an amazing human and I get so much from watching your videos. Not a foster carer yet but maybe I will actually have to tools to do this some day ❤
I can't say I know what it's like to be in foster care, but Sesame Street has a history of covering topics not a lot of kids shows do. There was a part where Gordon and Susan adopted Miles into their family, the foster care episode, and they tackled the topic of death when Mr. Hooper passed, and now they have this ig account for kids in military families which is helping me even as an adult, so I think media and playing it out is a nice way to present something in a way kids can understand. ❤
I wonder if bringing up things like puppies and kittens could help? Because they are also fostered. Sure some kids might not know about animal fostering but... Maybe showing a video of someone caring for baby kittens or something could help? "Those kittens' mommy and daddy can't take care of them. So their foster mom is going to feed them and keep them safe and healthy until they can be taken care of by Mommy and Daddy" This might not be perfect because most foster kittens aren't returned to their biological family, unlike kids, but still it's a good analogy imo especially if the kid likes animals
Maybe it would be a helpful analogy for some kids - I think it would also be important to specifically call out the differences between fostering pets and fostering kids. Kittens and puppies are fostered until they can be adopted into a new family. Kids are fostered until they can go back to their parents (when possible).
My mom was in foster care and she said there was only like one foster parent that she really liked. Her and my aunt were in foster homes all throughout their childhood.
Teacher here! (I've worked with kids in foster care and I intend to foster soon) At that point the child probably knows why they're in foster care and they may have been in the system for a while. Reassurance that they are safe and it's not their fault definitely still applies here. There will probably be less confusion than with little ones. Be prepared for harder questions. Don't kick the child out at 18 if they haven't gone back to their parents before then. Nobody deserves to be homeless because their biological parents couldn't take care of them. With teens there's probably going to be a lot of heavy trauma to deal with, so make sure the child has access to resources like therapy. I'm sure there are plenty of books that are at a middle school/high school level to explain it to a child as well.
It‘s my biggest wish to become a good mom. Unfortunately I will 99% never have kids and it‘s extremely heartbreaking for me. I can’t have biological children because of my thyroid&uterus diseases, and I can’t foster or adopt because I‘m a trauma survivor myself, I have PTSD and I‘ve been to mental ward many times. I wouldn’t qualify as „stable enough“. It drives me crazy because there are so many kids being born to people who don’t care about them or even abuse them - then they get sent to foster care and are often treated like objects - and it‘s the fate that their parents chose for them… while there are many many people who would give absolutely everything to have a child and create a loving, caring, safe home for them. I went through therapies and I am indeed very stable now, but yeah, system never forgets. That sucks. Not every parent deserves a child, but every child deserves a parent… and you, dear lady, are doing the God‘s job. ❤ You must be an angel in human body, there‘s no other way. I can imagine that being a mom is the hardest yet the most rewarding „job“ ever, but being a foster mom, dealing with trauma, hearing heartbreaking stories, dealing with the government etc… it takes not only balls of steel, but a heart of gold to do that. I‘m really impressed by how educated, caring and loving you are. The world deserves more people like you. ❤❤ every child deserves love and care ❤
Oh,😢 I just realized how many books are all about "me and mommy". That must be so difficult with the little foster kids. I used to work as childcare for adult students and avoided those sorts of books because it could cause a cry-fest in the children who were separated from their moms for the few hours they were in class. It must be heartbreakingly confusing for the ones who are separated for many days.
How have the kids taken to making books about their lives? I have lots of childhood trauma and even as a kid making a book about my life would trigger me :( (sry for projecting lol)
I have probably only the normal amount of childhood trauma for anyone raised by boomers and I straight up walked out of a college classroom and dropped the whole class because the first assignment was a speech about our lives (and public speaking really isn’t an issue for me if it isn’t personal) they really need to stop doing this invasive shit
the book being referred to in this video isn’t an actual recount of the foster child’s life - it’s what’s known as a ‘life book’. it’s essentially just a scrap book that the foster child can look back on as an adult and be able to pinpoint moments in their lives and helps them not lose their sense of identity or what they’ve been through. oftentimes the child goes through so many foster homes that they begin to forget different things, different people, and their own life story becomes blurred. the life book is to benefit the child in adulthood more than childhood. it also doesn’t require digging through the past - just logging new, current memories made in the foster home :)
good news is - He doesn't! And as we celebrate Resurrection Day -- we remember He loved us so much that His son died (and rose again) in our place for our sins!
Ok so I’ve watched a lot of your videos because I’ve always thought about fostering/ adopting. I do have 1 question though. So I’m a religious person. I’m lds and so I am very consistent in going to church every week and another part of my religion is reading the Book of Mormon or bible every day and saying prayers and whatnot. So my question is, are there rules or regulations when it comes to religion? If you are fostering are you allowed to bring the child to church? What are the rules concerning religion? I would love to hear everything you know! This is really important to me! Thank you!
That's an interesting question. Specially if the child comes from a family of different faith or if the parents don't want their child to be indoctrinated before their age of critical thinking and consent. Or perhaps religion is considered a factor in choosing which kids go where...? It's certainty a difficult matter to talk and legislate about.
I wonder if it is a deciding factor. Because the parents may not want it. I’ve known several people within my faith that have fostered but I only know 1 story who hasn’t ended in adoption (yet). Anyway hopefully Laura responds with her knowledge about it!
Laura has spoken about this multiple times. Communication with parents is going to be hugely important here. I can see this being a particular issue for an LDS family fostering a non-LDS child. The LDS faith has a strong focus on proselytizing (missions and baptism of the dead, for example). What seems like sharing your faith could be interpreted as an attempt to convert a child, which if not okay.
I love how American Sesame Street is about social issues. The German one had content like "a circle is round" and "this is what 8 means", and the main puppets were naive (Samson) and precocious (Tiffy).
I the amazing idea of just "we are going to have the biggest longest funnest sleep over of your life...." i dont foster but this is what i would end up saying cause...best way for my brain to explain it.
Reminder that not all kids would like this. I was a foster kid and this would feel extremely alienating and insulting, as if the person was talking down to me. Might work well for like toddlers, but anything above 5 is pushing it with this kind of condescension. Some kids don't want a constant reminder that they're not with their family. Obviously being clear that they're staying at a new place is important, but don't fill their whole day with foster kid content, its just depressing.
Also I remember being super sensitive at random triggers as a kid. Reminders that my family was different was a huge one, so beating a kid over the head with reminders is a bit shitty
This is very good and helpful. But, this would not work for teens. Teens need just as much help accepting the situation, so how would we deal with that?
@foster.parenting im an artist,do you have a P.O. box ? I would love to send you some coloring pages/books absolutely free. I could draw just about anything that might help to talk about tough things. If that is helpful at all i would be very happy to help.
I was once in a foster home and I can honestly say telling the child that it is not their fault is something that really needs to be said many times. Most children no matter the situation at home always think it was their fault in one way or another. This video really hit home with me. It’s a very scary thing going somewhere you’ve never been with people you don’t know. Sleeping in a strange bed. Makes you really just want to disappear honestly. Children need a lot of attention at the beginning to fit in and not feel alone. I remember being scared to just ask where the bathroom was or afraid to get out of bed in the mornings worrying if it was to early or not knowing what I was going to do so I would just lay there waiting and listening. Thank you for your videos first time foster parents could really benefit from watching your channel.
I am truly sorry you went through that. Thank you for sharing your experience with us ❤️🩹
@@Just_One_Tree No worries. All worked out for the better I had a great foster mother then I was adopted and was raised by the best family. I honestly couldn’t have asked for a better mom and dad to take me in just as if I was there own
Sometimes I think feeling that it’s their fault is a control response. Because being able to blame yourself makes you think there’s something you could have done or could still do to prevent the situation. For some it might be scarier to accept that bad things can happen to people who don’t deserve it and there’s nothing they can do to stop it.
I was in foster care from ages 12-18, and I think it's really difficult for older kids to not blame themselves and too often foster parents imply older kids/teens behavior issues or values/morals are to blame for why their families are "bad". There's still that undercurrent of the belief that poverty, mental illness, addiction all imply families lack morals, values or religion and there's foster families very big on teaching those types of very ultra-conservative, "Christian" values that imply this was missing from the way you were brought up and thus why you and your parent(s) were bad and thus why you are in foster care. So, I'm not sure if just saying you're not to blame really works for older kids and a lot of what the foster parents I had really implied a lot of blame and how they felt they were so much better.
@@KatTheo431 same I went through foster care from 7-14 and it was the foster mom always was you would be here if your parents were not middle class 😢
it's nice that your recommending media and activities to help explain things. thanks for fighting the good fight
One of my closest friends spent around 7 years in foster care (I’m actually the one who reported her family so I was very close to the whole situation) and I witnessed how horrible her experience was being thrown around and ending up in a cockroach and rat infested home where she had to beg for food for years until finally aging out. I quickly decided that being a foster parent was something I need to do when I’m older. I’m still too young and just a college student but I’m 100% dedicated to providing a home for those who need it once I’m able to. I’m going to be a teacher because I’m very dedicated to helping the wellbeing of kids and teenagers and it hurts me to know how many kids get abused in the system even after being removed from their homes. If I can help just a few kids get through such a traumatic experience then it’s worth it.
This is the same reason that i want to become a therapist. The amount of pure SHIT i have seen my friends go through makes my blood boil, and i want to do what I can to help anyone i can.
We need more of you❤ bless your journey and blessings to the children that receive your love and kindness ❤🙏
Whats the point in reporting if theyre just gonna be abused in the system?
@@JesusLightsYourPath she was being sexually abused by her parents so even though both situations were awful she was slightly safer in foster care. Plus there was no way to know she was going to end up in a horrible home, at the time I thought foster care was a safe alternative because I was a kid who had no former exposure. Once she was in it’s not like we could just get her out. At that point the only thing I could do was be there for her so she had at least one consistent thing in her life and she in no way blames me for how things ended up because she’s happy to have gotten out of her original situation.
@@arkarts2987 I have to agree that even a cockroach/rat infested home and begging for food would be a slightly better situation than s3xual abuse. Hell, I’ll take physical abuse over s3xual. Of course that’s no excuse to the messed up “parents” who decide to foster, but in your friend’s specific scenario it definitely sounds like the right call
I’m a foster parent but I started crying with how well you handle these things. It really is so hard to explain. I have only had kids fourth grade and up so they can understand a little bit better. Some even really understand that it’s for the best, it must be very very hard for little little kids to understand what’s going on. I also like to include that even though I am their foster mother, I am never trying to take the place of their biological parent. I tell them that they always have their parent, and to think of me more like an auntie, who cares about them very much.❤
You sounds like an amazing person. Thank you for doing what you do. ❤️
Your content drives me to want to give more of myself. Considering licensing for reprieve care to start.
Thank you for opening your heart to this and considering!
It's so important to let them know it's not their fault. Every single kid in foster care I worked with thought it was somehow their fault. I told them (in a nutshell) that sometimes even grown ups make bad choices. This one little girl didn't see her mom for a couple of months. The day she was finally getting a visit, she grabbed my face with her tiny hands and says "my momma is making good choices!" Made me nearly cry. She was so excited
You shouldnt tell a child that their parents are bad
@@FuriosasWarRig I never said you should
She is just made for fostering, it comes so naturally to her, absolutely amazing.
This calm tone of voice is so beautifully calming and reassuring. All humans should speak to each other this way. I think you're wonderful!
Your videos really help me, I've been fostering 3 via kinship care since October. I really appreciate you putting out this content. ❤
God bless you!!
Laura your videos are comforting.
im not a foster kid or anything infact im an adult but for some reason your videos just make me feel good. like the picky eater one makes me feel so good as a person with arfid and sensory issues its like. i wish yhe people around me would treat me like you treat foster kids
I literally watch her videos and realise my actual blood parents should have taken some tips from her. I'm NC with them but I genuinely wish that my mom had had a foster parent like this when she was young because her parents were awful, and maybe it would have protected us from intergenerational trauma.
I have so much respect for you. this is a huge huge responsibility and absolutely affects these young children for the rest of their lives. I don't know if you know how special you are and how very valuable you are. Just in case no one has told you today, you are one incredible lady!!!!
Thank you for doing this. I feel like I would’ve been treated much better if I had the opportunity to be a foster kid of someone like you. I appreciate the strength and guts to do something like this and to share valuable wisdom online with others :))
So many of your posts just give me goosebumps, theyre just so compassionate! I wonder sometimes how many families youve helped to make the decision to foster, and how many foster children youve indirectly helped with your videos. Youre a real life hero.
every single one of your videos make me cry. you touch my heart every single time. you have an amazing gift. god bless you
You are a wonderful person. Thank you for your love and light for those children.
Seseme Street is wonderful ❤ Long live Seseme Street especially the episode on Foster parents ❤
Your videos give me hope for the humanity ❤️Thank you for being an amazing person and making the world a better place ❤️
I wish I had someone like you in foster care. Watching your content does wonders in healing my inner child.
You are such a special person ❤
I love watching your videos. You explain everything with so much love, kindness and clarity. A big hug from Spain
Thank you so much for your videos! I am a family therapist and I am learning so much from these.
you seem so amazing, I’ve never been in either situation but wow thank you for taking care of people
Beautiful service you are providing
What an incredibly healthy and beautiful way to help these precious children!!
I remember as a kid, my parents would get drunk and dad had an awfully mean temper. They would say if i ever called the cops for help, they would put my brother and I in foster care and split us up and that it would be all my fault for destroying the family...maybe if mom and dad got help when i was a child i wouldnt have grown up with so many mental health issues...I know not all foster parents are as nice as you but maybe i couldve gotten lucky and had an adult not tell me i was worthless p.o.s. everyday...
Always let them know it’s NOT THEIR FAULT!!!! Unfortunately their parents made poor choices but even as the children grows the parents grow and some do change for the better. Life is hard. Treat these children with love and support and they will blossom into beautiful adults. ❤❤❤❤
My name is Carlie. When I was little, I dreamed of being adopted like in Matilda. Someone to keep me safe and love me.
You are the most amazing human.
I think you are such an amazing human and I get so much from watching your videos. Not a foster carer yet but maybe I will actually have to tools to do this some day ❤
You’re an amazing soul.
Thank you for all the good that you do in God's blessings upon you
Thank you for being alive
I love the book " families change"
You give me such hope for children who need care. Thank you for your exemplary videos.
Sesame Street is forever amazing
I can't say I know what it's like to be in foster care, but Sesame Street has a history of covering topics not a lot of kids shows do. There was a part where Gordon and Susan adopted Miles into their family, the foster care episode, and they tackled the topic of death when Mr. Hooper passed, and now they have this ig account for kids in military families which is helping me even as an adult, so I think media and playing it out is a nice way to present something in a way kids can understand. ❤
Can you do a video on how to talk to the children of the caretaker about being sensitive to the foster child.
I wonder if bringing up things like puppies and kittens could help? Because they are also fostered. Sure some kids might not know about animal fostering but... Maybe showing a video of someone caring for baby kittens or something could help?
"Those kittens' mommy and daddy can't take care of them. So their foster mom is going to feed them and keep them safe and healthy until they can be taken care of by Mommy and Daddy"
This might not be perfect because most foster kittens aren't returned to their biological family, unlike kids, but still it's a good analogy imo especially if the kid likes animals
Maybe it would be a helpful analogy for some kids - I think it would also be important to specifically call out the differences between fostering pets and fostering kids. Kittens and puppies are fostered until they can be adopted into a new family. Kids are fostered until they can go back to their parents (when possible).
My mom was in foster care and she said there was only like one foster parent that she really liked. Her and my aunt were in foster homes all throughout their childhood.
How would you do this but with a 13 to 14 year old?❤️😊
Teacher here! (I've worked with kids in foster care and I intend to foster soon) At that point the child probably knows why they're in foster care and they may have been in the system for a while. Reassurance that they are safe and it's not their fault definitely still applies here. There will probably be less confusion than with little ones. Be prepared for harder questions. Don't kick the child out at 18 if they haven't gone back to their parents before then. Nobody deserves to be homeless because their biological parents couldn't take care of them. With teens there's probably going to be a lot of heavy trauma to deal with, so make sure the child has access to resources like therapy. I'm sure there are plenty of books that are at a middle school/high school level to explain it to a child as well.
It‘s my biggest wish to become a good mom. Unfortunately I will 99% never have kids and it‘s extremely heartbreaking for me. I can’t have biological children because of my thyroid&uterus diseases, and I can’t foster or adopt because I‘m a trauma survivor myself, I have PTSD and I‘ve been to mental ward many times. I wouldn’t qualify as „stable enough“. It drives me crazy because there are so many kids being born to people who don’t care about them or even abuse them - then they get sent to foster care and are often treated like objects - and it‘s the fate that their parents chose for them… while there are many many people who would give absolutely everything to have a child and create a loving, caring, safe home for them. I went through therapies and I am indeed very stable now, but yeah, system never forgets. That sucks.
Not every parent deserves a child, but every child deserves a parent… and you, dear lady, are doing the God‘s job. ❤ You must be an angel in human body, there‘s no other way. I can imagine that being a mom is the hardest yet the most rewarding „job“ ever, but being a foster mom, dealing with trauma, hearing heartbreaking stories, dealing with the government etc… it takes not only balls of steel, but a heart of gold to do that. I‘m really impressed by how educated, caring and loving you are. The world deserves more people like you. ❤❤ every child deserves love and care ❤
Kids always want to know the ‘why’ for things, so what do you tell them if they ask why mommy and/or daddy can’t take care of them right now?
Hi the videos are so helpful
Oh,😢 I just realized how many books are all about "me and mommy". That must be so difficult with the little foster kids. I used to work as childcare for adult students and avoided those sorts of books because it could cause a cry-fest in the children who were separated from their moms for the few hours they were in class.
It must be heartbreakingly confusing for the ones who are separated for many days.
I love these videos, but they give me anxiety. I couldn't do this because I would constantly be worrying about doing something "wrong."
That "it's not your fault" hit hard
Remember kids tend to blame themselves because if there not to fault then there not in control
How have the kids taken to making books about their lives? I have lots of childhood trauma and even as a kid making a book about my life would trigger me :( (sry for projecting lol)
I have probably only the normal amount of childhood trauma for anyone raised by boomers and I straight up walked out of a college classroom and dropped the whole class because the first assignment was a speech about our lives (and public speaking really isn’t an issue for me if it isn’t personal) they really need to stop doing this invasive shit
the book being referred to in this video isn’t an actual recount of the foster child’s life - it’s what’s known as a ‘life book’. it’s essentially just a scrap book that the foster child can look back on as an adult and be able to pinpoint moments in their lives and helps them not lose their sense of identity or what they’ve been through. oftentimes the child goes through so many foster homes that they begin to forget different things, different people, and their own life story becomes blurred. the life book is to benefit the child in adulthood more than childhood. it also doesn’t require digging through the past - just logging new, current memories made in the foster home :)
@@lenamariejackson ik what the book is. & thx for the insight that it doesn’t have to be past related whatsoever
@@the.sapling i assumed you were unaware, considering you talked about not feeling able to recount the past.
@@lenamariejackson I watched the video tho 😭😭
Thank you so much for doing what you do.
If God has favorites, you’re one of them for sure
good news is - He doesn't! And as we celebrate Resurrection Day -- we remember He loved us so much that His son died (and rose again) in our place for our sins!
My daughter loves Slumberkins! We just got the routine chart and sloth and we have yeti. Those are perfect for all kids! I swear by those books!
This hurts my heart 😢
You should write a BOOK!
The koala plushies are so cuteee
Ok so I’ve watched a lot of your videos because I’ve always thought about fostering/ adopting. I do have 1 question though.
So I’m a religious person. I’m lds and so I am very consistent in going to church every week and another part of my religion is reading the Book of Mormon or bible every day and saying prayers and whatnot. So my question is, are there rules or regulations when it comes to religion? If you are fostering are you allowed to bring the child to church? What are the rules concerning religion? I would love to hear everything you know! This is really important to me! Thank you!
That's an interesting question. Specially if the child comes from a family of different faith or if the parents don't want their child to be indoctrinated before their age of critical thinking and consent.
Or perhaps religion is considered a factor in choosing which kids go where...? It's certainty a difficult matter to talk and legislate about.
I wonder if it is a deciding factor. Because the parents may not want it. I’ve known several people within my faith that have fostered but I only know 1 story who hasn’t ended in adoption (yet).
Anyway hopefully Laura responds with her knowledge about it!
@@sophieglass916 yeah, hopefully she answers here or with a video
I didn’t even think of a video but that would be great!
Laura has spoken about this multiple times. Communication with parents is going to be hugely important here. I can see this being a particular issue for an LDS family fostering a non-LDS child. The LDS faith has a strong focus on proselytizing (missions and baptism of the dead, for example). What seems like sharing your faith could be interpreted as an attempt to convert a child, which if not okay.
I love how American Sesame Street is about social issues. The German one had content like "a circle is round" and "this is what 8 means", and the main puppets were naive (Samson) and precocious (Tiffy).
I the amazing idea of just "we are going to have the biggest longest funnest sleep over of your life...." i dont foster but this is what i would end up saying cause...best way for my brain to explain it.
This channel reminds me of the day my dad died, and that day I stayed at my neighbor's house
Reminder that not all kids would like this. I was a foster kid and this would feel extremely alienating and insulting, as if the person was talking down to me. Might work well for like toddlers, but anything above 5 is pushing it with this kind of condescension.
Some kids don't want a constant reminder that they're not with their family. Obviously being clear that they're staying at a new place is important, but don't fill their whole day with foster kid content, its just depressing.
Also I remember being super sensitive at random triggers as a kid. Reminders that my family was different was a huge one, so beating a kid over the head with reminders is a bit shitty
Can foster kids have friends over to the foster home like normal or is it a different situation?
God is probably really proud of you ❤
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Wow love this Sesame Street episode ❤
i love seasame street so so much
This is very good and helpful. But, this would not work for teens. Teens need just as much help accepting the situation, so how would we deal with that?
She has other videos about helping teens 😊
Thank you sesame street... ;-;
Please keep your glasses off to not scare the vhildren like a scare crow I would hate having to go to your house as a poor little child
This isn't what it's like at all but its nice to pretend
Definitely not their fault.
@foster.parenting im an artist,do you have a P.O. box ? I would love to send you some coloring pages/books absolutely free. I could draw just about anything that might help to talk about tough things. If that is helpful at all i would be very happy to help.