Priming: How To Never Be Boring In Conversation
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In today’s video, we’ll go over 8 conversational habits that make people love being around you.
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0:00 - Intro
0:04 - #1: The false completion technique
1:40 - #2: Accept bids for connection
2:53 - #3: Add a touch during conversational high points
3:56 - #4: Friendly teasing
5:17 - #5: Act out your characters
6:14 - #6: Pause when you hear laughter
6:42 - #7: Take a 3 second punchline pause
7:17 - #8: Have go-to stories
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Ah the Emily Blunt Masterclass
:D
She's terrific.
Lmfao. She seems so warm, she's just a machavellian master.
Now we know why we all love her 😂
@Joshua-lh4oj perfectly worded
How do I get someone to like me more?
"In college, there was this girl who I thought to be the most annoying person on the planet.
Let’s call her Nicole.
I can’t put my finger on what annoyed me so much, but all I can say is it was really hard for me to be in a good mood when I was around her.
One day, I complained about her to my best friend. I told her how much I dreaded Nicole coming around.
She said, “Really? Nicole really likes you. Whenever I mention you she talks about how fit, beautiful, and smart you are as an engineer.”
That shut me up immediately. And from that day forward, I had a lot more tolerance for Nicole. I actually kind of liked her, though I still didn’t want to be best friends with her. It’s hard to dislike someone who’s been saying wonderful things about you to everyone you know."
_You want someone to like you?_
*Start talking about them behind their back, but only in the nicest way possible.*
*What you say will get back to them.*
I've made this a habit. I have nothing bad to say about anyone behind their back.
I do this subconsciously I guess. Just don't let myself tell unpleasant things about anyone behind their backs. Even if I know that someone doesn't particularly like me, I say positive things about this person because in the eye so of the person I'm talking to I become the person who doesn't say anything bad behind someone's back. If I hear you telling me what an awful person someone is, I think awful not about him or her but about you.
I try hard to only talk about someone as if they were possibly listening at the table next to me.
And I also sometimes try to think, If I wanted to give them a piece of critical but not harsh or judgemental advice, what or how might I say it?
The former has saved me a few times, either when the person really was nearby or when the recipient was actually a friend or good acquaintance.
The later has helped me as I’ve sought to reduce my own (unhelpful) habit of “complaining” in favor of trying to be more focused on helpful feedback. (Bill Bowen’s 21 Day No Complaint challenge defines something as not complaining if you are politely addressing the a person who may reasonably be expected to help with an issue.)
So interesting, Natan! Love the approach!
I totally get you, there’s someone who is so annoying that you don’t want to see/ meet her and it’s hard to pin point what’s annoying you, esp it will make you sound petty and childish when you tell a friend about it because it’s usually something trivial. That person is like the friendliest and warmest human being you ever met and at the same time I can just tell she’s so fake and I wanna puke. So I just shut my mouth and keep a good distance. Don’t say a bad word about her to anyone.
2 things this video taught me:
1 - Emily Blunt is a pretty cool chick
2 - She's actually been in more movies than I thought.
And yes the charisma tips are on point always
Same thoughts! I didn't know she was so funny!
😂lol, that is all you got from the video?!
@@thesussycat wait... there's more? 😂
@@thesussycat well tbf I've seen many of this channel's videos, so yeah not many lessons felt very new to me
I have a lot of time for EB, much underrated as a person and an actor. Good on the eyes also, which is a plus, Krasinski is one lucky guy..
This is _not_ 8 habits that make people love being around you - it is _obviously_ *8 Things thake make everyone love **_Emily Blunt._*
Yeah this dude just watched a bunch of Emily blunt videos and dissected them when she made him laugh and converted them into “tips” haha
Hahahaha but at least we could learn a thing or two
Well, I wouldn't have put it so Bluntly, but I agree.
@awalton9024 you deserve a "HAHAHA" reply for that
@@brahmwilliams5943ddd
Instructions unclear. I am now Emily Blunt.
Emily really is so charismatic and seems like a fun person to be around.
1. The false completion technique
0:05
2. Accept bids for connection (double downs on the joke + laugh)
1:40
3. Add touch during conversational highpoints
2:53
4. Friendly teasing
(Use teases that are obviously not true, tease yourself too)
3:59
5. Act out your characters
(While telling a story)
5:17
6. Pause when you hear laughter
(When telling a story)
6:17
7. Take a 3 second punchline joke
(When telling a story)
6:45
8. Have a go to story to tell everyone
7:19
0. Be Emily Blunt
@@jsyony fr
They do post it in the description and time stamps but still a huge thanks for the effort, dude!
Thanks mate!
I’m doing the opposite of all of this so no one ever wants to be near me
A general sense of humor is EVERYTHING. Some people are often defensive or ignore the friendliness of others trying to connect. Laughter is like nutrition for your soul. If you bring it to the table, you will be very popular.
Lol not really. People will usually just think you’re a low value clown. A sense of humour is not the same thing as actually being funny. People are drawn to successful people. Be successful and you won’t need any of these videos
I just love how this channel exploded. I remember watching it like…probably 5 or 6 years ago when it just started up and you decided to go after your dream with this channel despite warnings from other people. Now I see it had 6M subscribers! Nice!!
Perfecting charisma is more important then you may think, could make everyone love having you around and this channel does and excellent job helping perfect such skill!
Honestly the best advice is just have fun and do not take life seriously
You read my mind, mind-reader! This comment deserves all the thumbs-up!
Such a fun and insightful breakdown of conversational habits! The false completion technique is a hilarious way to connect, and Emily's playful banter is contagious. Friendly teasing, touch, and storytelling tips are gold! Learning to pause for laughter and the 3-second punchline pause - game-changers! Looking forward to trying these out. Thanks for sharing!
You are creating a foundation not only for your life but for your legacy. You are needed for the world. You are necessary. It is vital that you do not exhaust yourself.
Long-lasting change comes from little steps, repeated regularly, over time. The little things you do, as tiny as taking a sip of water or stretching more often or going for a walk. These all add up to something much greater than the sum of their parts.
For anyone who hasn't seen the adjustment bureau, it's definitely worth a watch. Interesting concept with good direction and acting.
Just the bits and pieces I've picked up from the videos on this channel have helped me be more confident for those times the floor becomes mine (and I didn't want it).
I like Cruise saying, “It’s a challenge.” Using positive language in garbage situations is funny in its own way. I know Cruise wasn’t an example of humor in this video, but it reminded me of the fact that “inspirational euphemisms” are quite funny, especially if you appear to struggle to concoct one on the spot.
I love this channel so much and it inspires me to be a better person and it also fueled the beginning of my channel 😍😍 thank you CoC!
Thanks Charisma On Command for Highlighting Emily Blunt. She's terrific!
Always appreciate the content from this channel. I’m always learning here
What psychological facts you should know?
They key of confidence is walking into a room and assuming everyone like’s you.
Once you’ve accepted your flaws , no one can ever use them aganist you.
The hardest prison to escape is in your mind.
Speaking about your goals makes you lose motivation.
The structure of your brain changes everytime when you learn something new.
Listening 5 to 10 songs a day can improve memory , strengthen immune system and reduce depression risk by 80%.
When we’re constantly wishing for something , we overlook everything we already have.
Being forgetful is actually a sign of higher intelligence.
Edit: Try to appreciate other's work. So upvote..
What makes someone charming?
Talking less.
Talking calmly.
Maintaining a good eye contact while speaking.
Being respectful towards subordinates and strangers.
Keeping a faint smile throughout a conversation.
Exuding confidence in their gait and posture.
Admitting their flaws and mistakes with confidence and humility.
Not being too affected or excited by the presence of the opposite gender.
Doing what they consider 'right' and not caring too much about other's opinions.
Living happily and not complaining too much about life.
Love you yaar
Being genuine and....just a little....genuinely fake when needed.
Talking less to listen to others*
easier said than done lol
I think the gender presence is a great point and one that a good amount of people struggle with, especially in the dating world
Thanks for using female examples! More of these please.
The fact that I've been doing this over the last few weeks gives me hope.
Great video! And immensely helpful. Thanks to you and another channel talking about these issues. I have realised why I am how I am. These explanations have made me understand my behaviour and approach to life .
So thanks again, and please keep up the great content
What's the other channel?
Ah the natural moment when you are interviewed as a hollywood star, so relatable. Would be fun to see non celebs in interview situations when the interviewer already loves them and laugh at everything
If you want people love you. Just listen don't always speak. And listen with not just yes. Listen to actually remember what they say. I am actually not at all talkative so I just let people speak and only reply when necessary. Almost 90% of the people I meet are impressed with me in the first time and always eager to meet later.
thanks for making this video :) you're a gentleman and a scholar.
This video is super helpful and interesting. As a young woman I'm also so glad to see so much of Emily Blunt here. She's probably the funniest actor I've seen and she's also super charming and charismatic
Actress !!!
Actually, starting over a decade ago, both men and women are now referred to as actors.
Great video! It's worth listening to it. Thank you
I now understand what charming is, Emily exudes it, and is honest not a false flatter
I swear this channel has been a heaven sent for me
Thanks for the insights, wonderful
omg, I myself find it hard for people to make me laugh and I actually use the trick of watching some funny memes before going out. I am so happy you noted that point🤝🤝
This channel is full of value
8 habits to make people love being around you
1 - Be Emily Blunt
I never miss a CoC clip!
Yes, Jordan Peterson has a GREAT sense of humor. Excellent. Good one CoC.
Finally! A video that uses a lady as an example! I love it! Great job.
I’m biased since I went to LSU--GREAT VIDEO
Love your story telling narrative
emily blunt is really something
emily: *throws stephen colbert notes and laughs*
colbert: you are such a delight
Just gotta say, I LOVE all these breakdowns based on celebrities and fictional characters. It's great. However, I do miss when either you or Charlie also used to show up in front of the camera and share about yourselves and your own experiences with employing the charisma you guys educated us on. I dunno if you changed your style to strictly these breakdowns because of viewership and algorithm reasons, BUT if you could also bring back some of the more personal and local examples that would be awesome to have alongside this.
She's just INCREDIBLE and so FUNNY!
Introvert me really need this. Thanks!
Emily Blunt, Jennifer Lawrence, Emma Stone are all so fun in conversations. Their laughs are everything.
Backhanded compliments are the way!! 👍
how easy to be charismatic, just be funny so everybody laughs. Thanks, this changes everything 🙂
Exactly. This video is assuming that there are people out there who could be making funny comments during conversations, but for some reason it has never occurred to them to do so.
@@reggie18bthese channels are literally just for entertainment. Don’t expect to get any value from it
Excellent video😊
this is gold!!
So yes Emily has so much magnetism
Great video!
Best book ever written on this subject is How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Excellent read and best way to be a great conversationalist.
Hint = it all starts and ends with being a great listener which for most people is much harder than it should be.
Dear god it's dry as fork though. I read to the halfway point three times before putting it down for good.
The author is a product of his time and the examples are so verbose - most of the book could be condensed into a CZcams video much like this one, with far wider appeal and ability to action.
I 50/50 liked the book. Dale put way too many tactics in selfish, manipulative ways.... For me, number one is to be authentic with people.
One on Jhon Mullaney would be really cool and you could deconstruct things to avoid as well!
love your videos
Great tips 🎉❤
Thanks, now I need some stories...
Hey, big fan, can we get another video on Self Awareness? In another video you said you wish more people asked about it, I'm asking about it, please.
This is: How to tell everyone that you have a crush on Emily Blunt without telling everyone, you have a crush on her
I am stronger than I thought! Amen!
This video is better known by it's real name: Emily Blount is funny as hell. Great suggestions I will try to use them.
CAN YOU PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ON TECHNIQUES FOR INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE WHO YOU DISLIKE/ARE RUDE?
Upvote for visibility 🙏🏽
Hey
I do the "finish friend's line with a joke" often, and they hate me for that :(.
So... use with caution and find good friends.
sounds like a way to find out if they're actually your friends then
Maybe your jokes are bad and misplaced
The only thing better than finishing someone's sentence with something ridiculous is when they go along with it like it was exactly what they were going to say.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
Great video
Ay we gotta recognize that The Rock also primes his friends to say something funny, he consciously makes his answers longer for other people to step in and have fun, great guy
Ótimo conteúdo
Love it
post something about how to be charismatic virtually/ for people working from home
Yup! Love her to 😅😊
Interesting!
It’s also important to be stunning and likable.
Lovely Emily Blunt tutorial! Can we get a Phillip Schofield tut?
What're ten most common facts of social psychology?
Control how you respond to things sent to destroy your peace,
Your child will follow your example, not your advice. This is how life shapes up in society,
80% people remain quiet even when they really want to say something in order to avoid an argument with someone they care about,
Healed people will automatically stop trying if they feel unwanted . They won’t fix or beg . They simply walk away,
Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it’s better to be alone than in bad company,
Most of us are not a product of our circumstances, we’re a product of our own decisions,
No one knows our story like we ourselves do . Don’t let anyone define us . Let’s create our own identity, tell our own story & be proud of our growth,
Sometimes we’ve to suffer in life- not because we were bad - but because we didn’t realize where & when to stop being good,
Haters are just a part of the game in social circles. Use haters as fuel to keep surprising yourself,
It’s funny how you can do nice things for people all the time & they never notice. But once you make one mistake, it’s never forgotten,
Just Chill.!!
Nice video!!!! What do you think about using Zapier so we can use the memory key of GPT?
Amazing
Humor is culturebound. Recommendations like these here presented can backfire dangerously in other countries, not following the US model.
Ive always loved Emily Blunt and now I know why!
Ah, the Emily Blunt advertisement.
No 1 and most important and only rule. Be good looking .
You can be the nicest , polite , friendliest and the most easy going person but people won't engage if you are not attractive.
The Adjustment Bureau is what introduced me to the wonder of Emily Blunt. Nothing bad shall ever be said of it.
Most of these examples are people who are “primed” meaning expected to laugh or entertain, it’s not as easy in a random setting g like at they gym, also some techniques that kill with certain people fall flat with others because of just a personal disconnect.
Hey guys the video is awesome but a little advice, incorporate at the end of the video a short summary, that properly summarises all the points in the given video. Cheers guys!
I think I loved Emily Blunt before. But now I know.
Jobs will pay your bills business will make you rich but investment makes and you keep you wealthy the future is inevitable, I pray everyone here becomes successful
Noted! And what are the actions needed to be successful?
@@madiezancanellatl9205No specific one really, because there are lots of investment plans and strategies littered all over the internet today, for instance, investments like real estates,gold, drop shipping crypto currency and lots more
Starting early is the best way to getting ahead of build wealth, investing remains the priority
@@jeremygood3246absolutely 💯
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I’m a Emily blunt fan now lol she’s very charismatic
Make a video on raymond reddington, please, I'm asking you this for 3 years now
Emily is someone that you need to be your lifetime partner, a person that never gets you bored 😊
Emilia Clarke seems like a lot of fun to be around
You mean Emily Blunt? I've heard good things about Emilia Clarke, too, but I didn't see her in this video ☹️
@@amandajakle8202Emilia another video. She does seem like a lot of fun though. Genuine.
@@Izzybellebelle I'm going to go look up that video! Thanks 😊
Emily is so lovely and funny, i bet she's an excellent mother
Huge girl crush on Emily Blunt 😊She exquisitely pulls of sarcasm without offending or belittling. A+
Emily Blunt is a gem. It's no wonder why she is successful.
Nice video
She’s the best,,
Does Charisma University have subtitles in its videos for people who do not speak english as their first language?
So be like Emily Blunt. Got it.
I agree.
As an introvert on the spectrum....im taking notes😅
We would honestly love a breakdown of Ariana Grande’s Body Language (like her Eyebrow raises, How she moves etc) because that’s the thing that her Impersonators copy the most. Also what made her be copied so much?
Could you do one on Patrick Bet-David from Valuetainment next please?
Pretty damn good Tom Cruise impression.
Love Emily Blunt!!
Let me ask you all a question:
In your experience what emotion do you feel the most when talking with a charismatic person?
Happiness and comfortable to be myself
that i look so good in the mirror?
:)
There's a kind of excited energetic warmth, I look up to them even if they're shorter than I am, and I feel quite safe and almost protected
Safe, comfortable and sort of protected.