ARE YOU HURT? DON'T DATE, HEAL!!
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Thank you guys for watching! THIS VIDEO is probably the most important thing I need every single women to know! Please please LIKE and SHARE with those who need to hear this 🗣️
I thank God for you. You have no idea how much you have helped me Breeny. God bless you sister.
Love you so much!❤
God bless you for giving us such amazing guidance I wish I watched you before I got into an ungodly relationship 😅
Breeny Lee
Great video , you couldn't have said it any better. It was very honest of you to highlight that NOT ONLY men cheat, we get hurt badly too and yes of course good men do exist too. So many women don't acknowledge that men have emotions too. I've been badly hurt and betrayed too, done over a year by myself .... very depressing . It's a very difficult proceeds as I'm not a party or social media person .Lol Yes, curiosity inspired me to be on CZcams as I really wanted to find out if there were many more persons experiencing similar or worst situations.It was then I saw so many persons and different coaching videos to encourage persons.Was living in London for a while Breeny Lee......didn't meet a " proper English woman " though DWL. Love you people accent. Great coaches and coaching videos overall... If only persons could meet on here.....far better than those exaggerated dating sites .
Breeny Lee it’s amazing how I came to this video and u made it right in the right time 😩‼️❤️
Relationships are for whole healed people!
Kimberly Sanders 100%
Kimberly Sanders facts
Wow, wise words.
True but one doesn’t have to be perfect because there is no such thing as a perfect person
Amen
“When you don’t heal after a relationship, you will disrespect yourself, and you will call it liberation.” Big facts
💯💯💯💥💥💥💥
Hurt 😔 people hurt people. Heal so you won’t hurt yourself or the next person.
yes!
That is true , I am being ghostet right now by a covert narcisisst. They are all hurt people.😢
A quote:
"If you don't heal from what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you."
''No other relationship on earth should validate you, other than the relationship with yourself and the relationshup with God'' YES PREACH !!
Ameen
8:17 love this:
When you are HURT you go into relationships with what can I GET.
When you are HEALED you go into relationships with what can I GIVE.
I really don't understand how people jump from one relationship to the next like they still ain't feeling some typa way about the last guy/girl. Y'all are moving madddd
That's why it's best to stay to yourself and grow and be more independent. The more you get that everything will be good
Camille CE 💯
Well said
Exactly!! I can't do it.
cheating has become a trend
"healed people heal people and relationships are for whole healed people" thank you Breeny ❤️❤️❤️
You couldn't had posted this at a better time
For real!
Needed this
💯💯
Honey yes
Ro seriously!!
Working on yourself instead of distracting yourself with a new relationship will be one of the best investments that you’ll ever make, as a healed, whole & complete person will attract a person who also possesses those qualities. Thanks for this timely message 💕
Yahuah Is My Everything ❤️
"You are scared to face the fact that you have been broken or that you are broken"
GIRL, I felt that in my soul!
These videos are coming right on time for me. "Did you know who you are before you entered the relationship?"Why you came at me sideways sis?! 👏🏿😩
I can’t wait until you find a good man. God bless you.
*Do you have a podcast? Get one ASAP!* 💚
Kristen Marie yes yes yes
Kristen Marie yessss 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes 🙌🏽
!!!!!!
Yess!!
me and my ex broke up after two years and a week later he was dating a new person. i thought he was just rebounding but its been about 2 months and he’s commenting i love you under her posts abt him. they are serious and its crazy how quickly he moved on (or cheated). im growing and single and happy and living my best life alone w friends. amen!
Paloma Telfort you got this!! My ex fiancé left me after 3 years and immediately starting dating her coworker. They’ve been together for a year i believe but idc I’m happy and single and focusing on myself
Girl block him..u cant heal still worried about what he is commenting on under another womans post! It's just going be a constant reminder of him..u cant fully move on until u no longer looking back at ur past wondering what he doing with the next..Fuck him and her post..time to level up and move different!!
He was cheating on you before, you were just not aware!! They do this all the time..
To be honest I think your God just saved you from an toxic relationship.God bless you🙏
The same thing happened to me. Me and my ex broke up 2 fridays ago and by last Friday hes with someone new. Found out theyve been together since February, he was just stringing me along for months.
So true, i had my heart broken and went on a sex, drug and alcohol binge. But I soon realized this didn't make me happy at all and was just making me more depressed. Now I'm focusing on healing myself and building a better life.
I did the same thing. Healing now feel sooo much better!
"When you don't heal after a relationship, you will disrespect yourself and call it liberation. You're not liberated; you're just hurt." Babe, I have been self-reflecting on my actions. I kept asking myself why I did stupid things I don't usually do. You have answered them. I'm glad to know that I am not alone experiencing these things. Breeny, I've been watching your videos. I just want you to know how much it is helping me. THANK YOU! 😘
I love these car talks ❤️
Exactly!! That's why I'm single since 1 year now.. And I choosed that.. I'm still healing and I don't want to get hurt or hurt someone again.. I'm learning to love my self completely so I can be able to give love to someone else..
It's really important thing to talk about ..thank you ❤️
“Your value doesn’t come from being with somebody other than yourself....” felt that deeply😩❤️
This one pastor named Michael Todd was talking about this too he was saying maximize your singleness and get to know yourself like take yourself on a date love yourself
The relationship goals'series yeah
Alecia LOVE THIS.
Alecia OMGGGG HE IS MY PASTOR !!!! HES REALLY THE BEST PASTOR
Nathaly Ortega Oh wow that’s amazing I watch the churches CZcams channel all the time I wish he would come to my church in Pittsburgh California him and Breeny lee really has helped me with their video
Lol crazy cause I just finished watching one of his vids and it brought me here 😭❤️
I’ve noticed this same situation within my own life. I realized there were lessons that I needed to learn from the break up that needed to be faced alone. A new relationship would only delay the healing process. Although it’s painful, I feel that some of the most necessary lessons can be learned through a break up. Or at least in my case.
Sis JUMPED in with the heat I had to pause and rewind real quick. Ok😳📝
💫✨⚡️✨You’re soooooo beautiful. I’m not talking about your looks ( even though, girl, you are finnnneee!!! 🔥). I’m talking about your soul!!! I pray that I meet a friend like you that’s so grounded and wise! Blessings to you!
* going to journal right here real quick *
I broke up with my bf a month ago and I don’t regret it at all however the way he started treating me afterwards I’d assume was bc he was hurting and his way of coping was being hard and hurtful, that being said he is now dating another girl (almost exactly) a month later even though we both agreed that we need to take time to truly understand and strengthen and develop our selves so seeing that’s he’s with someone else makes me wonder if he’s truly over it or still coping hazardly, with that being said I totally agree that fboys were not born as fboys and are actually just hurt ppl that were not encouraged to get better and began to determine that is who they are when it truly is not. A lot of people hurting now a days and want to say their in love when they don’t even truly love themselves. The narrative of relationships needs to be rewritten bc the stereotypes enforced in media of “just dating to date” needs to go
Amen. Just dating to pass time is not helpful because it will likely lead to unnecessary ties to people you really don't need to be with and you're back to square one.
Don't be jelous of these relationships you see out there!!, many of the things people are putting up with from their spouses you would never be able to stand it for a second!! I know people right now that's in marriages and relationship so bad that they just pray daily for God to get them out!!. Be careful what you ask for..
I could not agree with you more I was married for 12 years and have been single for 7 years now and I have also dated a lot and recently made the decision to be celibate I feel I am finally ready for a committed relationship but it took a lot of growing a lot of self-evaluation and time alone to be at this place I do feel that people jump into relationships way too fast and don't allow themselves to get to know each other and know what they really want
I'm also considering being celibate and not getting into a relationship unless the man is absolutely fantastic with the highest possible values and who is super-compatible.
Erika Rodriguez girl when did you do all that? in a past life? you look so young! ☺️
@@geegar3825 lol thanks I'm 39
Omg you just read me for FILTH!!! I feel so attacked rn but you’re right I do need to take some time to heal 😅
😂😂♥️
we need more people sharing the Word in a relatable way to people, thanks Breeny!
Breeny, God is really using you! I don’t normally watch CZcams but I come on here just for your videos. You are really helping me & assuring me that I am going down the right path. You should definitely consider writing a book! ✨ I would love to read about your life & the process you had to go through to become the women you are today.
Listening to you is litearlly the best decision I’ve ever made
I did this. Thank you for telling ppl this. I did this. A guy asked me how long I've been single I said a year then I said oh wait no I've been single for 2 years! Time flew by so fast and I love myself. I'm healed!! I'm happy. I love who I am. Idgf about other girls if their fitter than me or if they're Kyle Jenner. I love me.
Yes self love and self care is crucial during the process of healing!! You’re speaking so much truth 👏🏾
I'm really loving this new sit down in the car+talk videos...
Can you talk about people who take "energy, feeling, help.. "from you and rarely even give back. Thanks and i love you so much ❤
Drop 'em... Simple... Keep them at arm's length
@@marvannie it's hard when you love them, but that's what i will do. Thanks
They're narcissistic... they take take and give bare minimum because it will blow they facade if they don't, that they actually care for you. Maybe..
@@S.mPearl maybe yes..
When you don’t heal “you will disrespect yourself and call it liberation.” So good!💡
Breeny you are doing Gods work
Girl I swear you got all the keys... great advice!💕
I needed that! I’m actually at that stage wheee I need to heal before anything.
Breeny does it again! another amazing video! I literally always take notes listening to your videos :)
“No other relationship on this earth should ever validate you, except for your relationship with yourself and your relationship with God.”
“Your value doesn’t come from being with someone other than yourself.”
“Relationships are for whole healed people”
preach👏it👏girl👏
♥️♥️♥️😘
You are literally my life coach right now breeny..
Wow! Right on time, yet again Breeny! 👌🏾😀🤗🤗💕💕🔥🔥🔥A friend and I were having this same conversation today. Why is it when you say you are not in a relationship people react in disbelief followed by them feeling sorry for you...PLEASE DON'T! I am not afraid of my own shadow or of spending quality time with myself. Singledom is underrated and has many positive aspects. I am definitely in a healthier and happier place within myself having had time to work out self acceptance and the value I am able to bring to my relationships moving forward. Never make do coming from a place of desperation or loneliness. If you meet your soulmate in the future. fantastic but if not sobeit! Taking time out peeps to cleanse, reevaluate and know thyself is very cathartic and healing. I would rather be happy on my own then unhappy in a relationship.😂
Well said, same here. Its better to be single and happy than to be in unhappy relationship. Honestly speaking, some guys are useless. No offense but its true. 🏂🏂
@@Richesworld1 🖐🏾 Absolutely!
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Hurt People, Hurt People but Healed People, Heal People. Life Gems 💎💎💎
You always upload at the perfect timing! Thankyou for this 💓
This is great. Notes taken: 1.) hurt people hurt people and healed people heal people. 2.) hurt people go into a relationship asking what can I get out of this. Healed people go into a relationship asking what can I give. This clarifies ALOT.
This is the first time I’ve ever commented on a CZcams video in my entire life but I just want to let you know that you are the most moving speaker I’ve ever heard out of all the ones I’ve listened to for the past half decade. I’ve been taking notes on your videos because your life experiences that lead to your insight is something worth affirming in my own. I believe God has chosen you to carry out this work for I am sure it will have a ripple effect. Thank you.
Dont just be alone work on yourself self love and HEAL FROM YOUR PAST. Learn about relationships and how to be in one.
You should never change this background and these vibes
no truer words spoken!!! i was in such a bad mental state last year/ end of 2017 and i was forced to be still like you mentioned (because i had an ankle surgery) and at first i HATED it and thought that i would never be healed until i found someone else but i am SO thankful for the forced stillness and God probably did that for me because he knew i needed to learn and i am so much better because of it! I actually started rapping about everything like it was my journal and i really healed myself. all that said, i couldn't stop staring at your makeup while listening to you speak, absolutely gorgeous!!!
This was perfect, I just got out of a rebound relationship and you’re right it made it hurt worse 😫😫😫
Yes I knew who I was when I got into the relationship, one of the things that changes a person to lose themselves is if the is emotion physical abuse. Emotional abuse from the guy & his family & the physical abuse from his father. See you can be a very happy & be a whole healed person before entering a relationship & once you have without knowing what type of energy & influence a person really has on you, you have gone in too deep.
I gave too much love trying to help him heal without him asking because that’s who I am & also because he really acted & told me that we got a future together. The wounds he has came from his parents & up bringing. I didn’t know that simply because he played a very good role by acting like all was good & acting shoe size not his age. It’s sad to say.
So please don’t say that just because you forgot who you are coming out of that relationship means that you entered it without being healed. It doesn’t mean you didn’t enter it as a whole heal person 🙏🏾💯
It simply means that your other half really did a number on your health, emotionally, spiritually, mentally & physically
Such an important message. Love you sis!👏🏾👏😍🌟💋
"Your value doesn't come from being with someday other than yourself"
You're amazing I rlly love ur words
Yeees come through with the biblical WORD! Great advice🙏🏽✨
“Did you really know who you were before you were into the relationship?”
Damn, hit me right here.
So happy I found your channel...I see you as an older sis.
Just described my situation. First boy friend ever was a narcissist. It's almost two years...and yet, I still have feelings. Have dated since then, but keep meeting emotionally abusive men. And depsite that, I still club and still try to date.
Praying for healing!!
You are the reason that i've changed and my life to the best wallah thank you for every word you've said in every video ❤❤
*YOOO SAY THIS FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!!!!*
" you will disrespect yourself and call it liberation". Girl. That is a whole word right there
This is so true and after my heartbreak I was not myself and I hurt other people (not intentionally) bc I was hurting smh. But thank you for sharing ❤
You have helped me so much through this break up. He was my everything and when he left i felt like nothing... Working on myself daily and healing from it but it's hard
I’m seriously loving these videos and it’s amazing seeing young people love God....keep it up, it’s really insightful and crazy at the same time because you’re touching issues that people are having a hard time dealing with and for that I appreciate it and what you do
My gosh, you can notice by my comments that I'm on a roll with your videos, but every single one of them is perfect!!
You're amazing. The fact that you include men and sand for them too, it's beautiful! They need pep talks too and don't deserve to be attacked or excluded from videos like these... You're a beautiful soul!!
wow, perfect timing... i needed this because i’m still going through my heartbreak from my first love & i tried to get involved with someone else smh of course that didn’t end well.. but all of this is so true. thank you for this video!
This is GOLD
More like Platinum
Yeah❤
Yes yes yes heal before getting into another relationship
" No other relationship should validate you, other than the relationship with yourself and the relationship with God " Love this !
This video and topic are so good! The only thing I disagree with is being healthy and going into a relationship thinking about what you have to give. I think it definitely has to be a balance to give and receive especially for women. Women tend to give and give especially when they don't love themselves in relationships and Don't receive well enough or enough at all from the men they're with. If you're a good woman and have learned to love and value yourself, you already know what you bring to the table and you need to really be aware of what value HE will bring to your life!
I CANT BELIEVE THIS GIRL SHES JUST UNBELIEVABLE!! You’re so real!! Real and again unbelievable! U say what u say the right way!! Anyone else would flop this! Wow
Breeny! God truly talks to me through you! I haven’t even watched the video, but reading the title I already knew it was what I’ve been needing to hear. Thank you so much for sharing, so much love and blessings to you 😘
Girl you spoke straight facts 🙌🏼. I agreed with everything you said in this video because I say those things every time I see people going in and out of relationships and even including myself. After we have been hurt and broken the best remedy is to stay to oneself, stay true and focused so that we can have a proper amount of time to heal and learn from these experiences. Loved this video💜
I love you so much, your words are so comforting and so real.
The wrong relationship will make you lose your mind. Truer words have never been spoken.
Hello beautiful. I just started following you and I love you already. Really needed to hear this. Thank you ❤❤. I've been single since August after being dumped and cheating on. But I'm getting thru it with God, faith and trying to be strong.
Yes babe 🤗♥️
I Came to earth -here alone..such an informative video! Thanks for video- awesome❤❤no running😀
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As I think back over my relationships, ive always been the "rebound" girl or the "in the meantime " girl! They've all ended up going back to their exes or moved on and gotten married or in relationships!! I'm choosing now to just be single and get to know me!
You continue to encourage me when I need it the most keep going!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
You're literally the big sister we all need Breeny Lee! You're so precious. LOVE YOU ❤️
I can’t help but to agree.
I thought you were going to say the biased “man bad, women good” bullshit.
But naw your speaking faxx.
HU👏🏼NY👏🏼 big things are coming for you w the energy you're putting out
Thank God for you. When I was young I wish I had someone like you to listen too. I was in a very abusive relationship and as soon as it was over I went into another dreadful relationship. As soon as I got pregnant he left me. I was in a frying pan and jumped into a boiling pot.
Wow! When she said we confuse disrespecting ourselves for liberation! I lost it! So true!
Side note can we get a vid on this lovelyyyyy hair thoooo
- check out my last video, j just coloured it pink using LimeCrime hair dye in the colour "sext" 😘
You seriously hit the nail on the head with this one its important to heal and i didn't realize how important it was until my last relationship he took me through so much mentally that it started to show physically and at the end of the relationship i was a complete mess and I'm still working on getting back to WHO I AM its just really important that women hear this know your worth do not settle GOD HAS SOMEONE FOR YOU
I love you Breenylee ❤️😪.... You are my inspiration.❤️😭
Yess! We transfer our pain onto others, which is why we feel we are not good enough. Always vibrate higher! Past pain should fuel your growth. Not easy, but highly necessary. Keep this up!
*2:50** When you think you have been hurt & then hear this.😫*
“Be Still and Be Single”!!!!…Healing currently after 1.5 year relationship..Ex bf was already in a relationship only few weeks or less after the breakup. Hurt me tremendously! But karma is real especially when you were nothing but good to that person! God will see me through and I will definitely receive his many blessings in due timing!!!..🙌🏽🙏🏽💖✨🌟
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can you please also talk a bit longer as well. even though you talk alot, is still entertaining. This video was short. i enjoyed it
Haha, you know what I really felt like I was talking for long and then when I came round to editing it, it became short lol but I said everything I wanted to say. Some videos will be long and some will be short it just depends 🤗
I just love your messege. Its so openin. Its like a tip on wake up. The way yu described Your messege comparing as a wounded an infection.
"Wow. I love it"
More videos Like this please
And thank u for Sharing a peaceful message 🥀
Really love your advice videos.
Can you make a video talking about friendships, such as what can someone do if they dont have any good true friends. Because lately a lot i have been feeling so sad and hopeless, when i see my sister/ other girls have friends , while me here i dont have much. It makes me feel very sad.
I feel lonely too because i dont have that person (friend) i can spend time with for eg going out for a meal.
Thank you 🙂
Would love to see a video about that
This was the best and most truthful video I've seen in a very long time. Thanks.
Can you talk about your views on multiple dating? when I was talking to my guy Friend and he said that, that’s how some guys are. I watched some videos on it and professional dating coaches say that they recommend it because it helps with not being emotionally attached with one person. like not putting all the eggs in 1 basket. If one was to go about multiple dating, how should he/she do it ? Is it date Multiple ppl at once with boundaries or date 1 person and keep the rest as friends ? Idk 😐 it seems confusing but apparently a lot of guys do this. I’ve heard of girls doing this too.
Definitely multiple dating with boundaries. It's literally like doing interviews lol you do not kiss any of them until you've made your choice. You reserve all physical contact till you are committed to one. Talk a lot on the phone, hang out in the day and really get to know their mind. I personally don't have the capacity or the time to date more than two at a time but that's just me. Do what works for you. Remember, you are just getting to know them ♥️
Breeny Lee thank you so much ! The guy I was dating just a month ago was dating 2 girls at once! Me and another. Physical contact and such. I highly doubt that’s how it was supposed to go. that’s not multiple dating that’s being a f*boy. I left.
Breeny your highness i love watching your video!
thx to you me being getting rejected at a job position which i did not get got healed because you remind me i am worth more then to be down!
I like to see you becoming a important person in the government!
This is the first time i shed tears from your words of wisdom!
I’ve just asked my guy for some space while I decide if I wanna continue the relationship but he won’t leave my house what can I doooooo ?!
Dear you sure need some space, freedom is priceless. Even married couples, need sometimes to live apart from each other, like traveling for few days and leaving your partner behind. Partners need to miss each other to reunite together
Express this to him xx
@sally I did ! On Saturday I directly told him I wanted some space and he literally hasn’t left my house (I know he has things to do ) and he is just refusing to speak to me 🤷🏾♀️ ps we live together.. i don’t think he has anywhere else to go but .. tbh I don’t feel like that’s my problem
@racheal yessss thank you, he makes me feel bad for wanting space.. we legit live in each other’s pockets .. but his reply was ‘ i see this coming’ he feels like i broke up with him but then again he didn’t even let me give my reason as to why I wanted some space
Tamara Jones I hear what you’re saying and the fact that you live together isn’t an easy situation. If he is a reasonable person he will understand your needs and give you your space. I’m sure he had friends and family that he can move in with while you sort yourself out x
Please make a video on pain from parents. It’s something that effects people just as much as those who’ve felt pain from romantic relationships
how you mentioned that men also get hurt is on point 💯 its not only women
I just found your channel recently and I'm in love with your content, whenever I watch your advice videos it feels like a big sister to little sister conversation. These type of videos mean a lot to girls like myself who don't have people who sit down and really talk to them about the things you talk about, and i want to thank you for that.
Breeny . We all need companionships, relationships. We are social beings. Some relationships take soo long to heal from. One bad relationship could take years to recover from. Feeling let down abandoned by people you thought were there for you, is one of the hardest things to deal with. Once you realise the kind of people who you have had the fortune or misfortune of being surrounded by, and take time to focus on SELF CARE things can become clearer. The HEALING PROCESS CAN BEGIN.
Realising certain types of people are attracted to you and getting to know how they make you feel, once they leave your space can give you an indication of whether you want these individuals in your life or not.
I have decided that at my CORE BEING IS LOVE. I'm not going to allow anyone to change that. If that means I have to let toxic people go so be it. I send them off with love in my heart.
One thing I have found to help me in my own journey is being in nature. Looking up at the night sky is great. Seeking positive and supportive friends is a bonus.
The most important relationship will be the one with yourself and GOD. I like to believe in a compassionate God. Not one who wants to PUNISH me at every turn. I had to stop going to church for a long time because some of the people there were just too much to take.
Once I understood that I am SURROUNDED by God's LOVE EVERY DAY and every moment I started to RELAX a little. I don't have to go to a building to find GOD once a week. He, she, they are with me wherever I go.
Love your videos. God bless you Breeny you are a brave young woman. Thankyou for sharing.
Mannnn this was so on point, I didn't even know how much I needed to hear it!! I've gone thru a lot over and over again with men. And like you said with men, I didn't heal or confront persay, I "coped" .....thank you thank you 4 this. I've been rougher than usual on men. Maybe it's due to not being fully whole yet.