📦 STARTING TO PACK UP MY LIFE // BEGINNING STAGES OF DIVORCE

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Komentáře • 486

  • @AnnsHappyHome
    @AnnsHappyHome  Před 20 dny +33

    FYI: I DO NOT use tarot cards. It’s a guy I watched on CZcams for a week a month ago!! I will watch anything I want if it get my mind off of what’s going on. Rest assure I go to church!

    • @Esh486
      @Esh486 Před 18 dny +9

      You don't have to explain...I think people should worry about their own faith\belief or lack thereof. Good luck with everything, I wish you happiness, healing and a successful move

    • @toriladybird511
      @toriladybird511 Před 16 dny +4

      As a Christian it's not my job to judge. It's support and pray that life becomes wonderful for you.
      I truly pray God rewards you with joy and blessings

    • @starwarsmom
      @starwarsmom Před 12 dny

      I did the same

    • @adventurousdoglover
      @adventurousdoglover Před 11 dny +2

      Tarot readings helped me not only become closer to God but helped me through some of my darkest moments

    • @stormwatch7245
      @stormwatch7245 Před 11 dny +2

      Who cares.... it's not anyone's business how we choose to live, entertainment ourselves, or get our minds off things. People who say rude things are just angry at the world and try to deflect their own misery onto others :( the majority here love you and you're very likely HELPING sooo many of us get through a similar situation... keep being you and do not worry about what ANYONE thinks. We all deal w things in our own way and you are helping so many of us. Thank you❤

  • @lynette5085
    @lynette5085 Před měsícem +547

    My dear, I feel your pain. My husband left me after 20 years of marriage and married the mother of our daughter’s best friend. I felt like my entire world was just blown apart and I was desperately trying to find my way out of the devastation, the grief and shame and embarrassment. But something surprising happened that I really did not see coming….. I thrived! In ways that I never saw coming…..I absolutely blossomed! This journey is hard and painful BUT you will find your way. You will learn that you are resilient, strong, capable and deserving of all of the blessings that got blocked along the way. My home is stress free and I am finding all my joy that was lost amongst raising kids and trying to be the right match for the wrong person. As hard as it was: there is much beauty is self discovery. Hang in there darling, you are not alone, personal growth can be momentarily messy, but oh so worth it! Onward!!!

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 28 dny +37

      Thank you so much for sharing and those kind words ❤️❤️

    • @LindaFoyle
      @LindaFoyle Před 27 dny +20

      I know what your going through, I was married to a man for close to 20 years, I truly loved him❤ only find out, he had been cheating on me with another girl for years!!! My heart was broken. I’m now way over it, but very difficult…honest you will get through this, and even counseling with a third party, sometimes will help, God Bless you❤🙏🏻you.

    • @Belluser-we1uc5cb2l
      @Belluser-we1uc5cb2l Před 27 dny +34

      If he cheated on you with this person and married her, he will cheat on her too. Consider yourself, free girl. He is HER problem now. Life Is too short❤ You are no longer with a selfish person.

    • @user-pb7pn3bh4y
      @user-pb7pn3bh4y Před 27 dny +15

      Please please hear me… this will pass. God has a plan for you. You will experience such relief and joy in a very short time. Hand all your sorrow over to God. ❤

    • @AmandasBudgets
      @AmandasBudgets Před 27 dny +13

      My ex dated a girl who was days into 18 at 32 (he’s 2 years older than me) He’s going on 37 now she definitely didn’t last! I’m happily married now but back then it hurt 😢

  • @lauram4124
    @lauram4124 Před 23 dny +59

    One door opens and a better one opens, trust me!

    • @chantellucky4565
      @chantellucky4565 Před 5 dny

      Yes, in theory it should be true but in my reality, after the 1993 divorce till today 2024, no new doors opened! 😂 just one struggle after another and still struggling to this very day as I am writing this comment! 🥲 it may just be my sad destiny…

  • @eunicenield9631
    @eunicenield9631 Před 23 dny +56

    Good luck. I got divorced after 30 years, left most things behind because I wanted to start anew. I've never been happier.

  • @blessingsonthecoast
    @blessingsonthecoast Před 29 dny +119

    I am a new subscriber. I was divorced after 30 years of marriage. I am now remarried for seven years to my soulmate and have never been happier. You've got this! ❤

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 27 dny +6

      Thank you ❤️

    • @AmandasBudgets
      @AmandasBudgets Před 27 dny +7

      Me too! You got this girlfriend 🎉

    • @ladetx
      @ladetx Před 24 dny +3

      Me too! God bless you girl 🫶💪❤️😘

  • @judybryant3880
    @judybryant3880 Před měsícem +83

    You show your normal positivity in this sad situation. I liked what you said in your announcement video that you would not change your channel name as you will be happy again. That is a very positive way to look at it.

  • @stephaniebaxter339
    @stephaniebaxter339 Před měsícem +256

    Girl, leave everything except ur clothes and personal items. Start fresh and leave the mess for him to deal with.

    • @sarahholland2600
      @sarahholland2600 Před 29 dny +68

      Starting over is v expensive. Take everything you need.

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 28 dny +19

      Love it!

    • @Nandat3675
      @Nandat3675 Před 28 dny +24

      If u have the money to get everything new, absolutely!! New beginning new stuff, but sadly, sometimes you don't...

    • @sarahholland2600
      @sarahholland2600 Před 28 dny +22

      @@Nandat3675 Exactly. I had strong words with a friend who was going to leave everything she'd bought with her own money behind. He didnt deserve to keep all the stuff she'd bought. He only paid the rent, she paid for absolutely everything else: all the bills, all the furniture etc etc.

    • @pamelaking4414
      @pamelaking4414 Před 26 dny +8

      Leave him the dirt he is !

  • @MK-et3gj
    @MK-et3gj Před 16 dny +10

    I've been there:
    Just take what you need.
    It's like "letting go" of the "emotional attachment".

  • @sweetjesusbyfaith3988
    @sweetjesusbyfaith3988 Před měsícem +42

    New subscriber sorry to hear your getting Divorced. I got Divorced him wanting it I literally took my stuff but sold it all and bought new to start my new life. God blessed me later with an amazing husband and 2 beautiful boys been married for 21 years now.

  • @TinyFreya59
    @TinyFreya59 Před 28 dny +43

    Sweetie, it gets better as soon as your mindset changes from pain to promise. Divorced after 33 years, new wife barely older than our daughter, new family… the whole thing.
    I spent the first few weeks just reacting and trying to let my feelings roll through.
    Then one day it hit me that I COULD start looking at this as a fresh start, a release from the people pleaser wife person I had turned into during this time and a chance to go rediscover who I ONCE WAS. That was the game changer.
    Sending you love and peace. You’ll get through this just fine. Just trust yourself.

  • @karencristobal4999
    @karencristobal4999 Před 28 dny +31

    You don’t want someone who doesn’t want you. On to better!! You got this. A woman who loves homemaking and tarot. Solid gold.

  • @ms.patrow1111
    @ms.patrow1111 Před 6 dny +3

    Looking back, the divorce I went through was the best thing that ever happened to me. It won’t feel like it now, but as some time passes it should get easier. I don’t say “my ex” or “my divorce” because I don’t take possession of either. It helps to take emotions out of it. Just like a job. Not “my job”. And if you want to listen to psychics, you do it! Don’t let anyone judge you.

  • @mariellahinde7696
    @mariellahinde7696 Před 24 dny +21

    Just subscribed today ! I am currently going through divorce - it was hard at the beginning but now I love my life - he cheated on me and his first ex wife couldn’t stay out of his life - we have just started speaking amicably - after 3 years - divorce is due to be final in September- he asked me if I want to stop the divorce - absolutely NO WAY! He had too many chances - life is too short - I promise you - it will take time but honestly you will get through this as a stronger person - I promise you !!!!!! ❤

  • @cats2ish
    @cats2ish Před 28 dny +28

    Please know that all the pain, the hurt, and feeling just down right abandoned does get easier to accept.
    My husband just out of the blues came to me wanting a divorce. We had been married 49 years 5 days after he broke me into tiny pieces. I was determined he was not getting the better of me so I managed to suck in my gut and prove to him I was going to be fine and I will move on.
    I know your pain and wish you the determination to get through the rough road ahead, but know this, you will and you will come out the other end a new and wiser person. Be strong my dear.

  • @paulathistleton1339
    @paulathistleton1339 Před 20 dny +9

    Taking the decore is simply taking rubbish that will be all thrown out. New decore will be an indication of starting over - less, fresh and new. He is getting solid furniture and so he is getting a better deal.

  • @sharosmith
    @sharosmith Před 23 dny +18

    Who gets the dogs? When I got my divorce I left nearly everything except some bedding, a few dishes and my clothes. Get a fresh start😊

  • @kongkalakshmipassah
    @kongkalakshmipassah Před 5 dny +7

    Whatever you do stay happy but please don't ever abandon those beautiful dogs....they are the only ones who love you unconditionally ❤

  • @jennifermanian1420
    @jennifermanian1420 Před měsícem +29

    The best thing is to keep it as friendly as you can. Remember your boys are listening and watching too.

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před měsícem +5

      Absolutely!

    • @jillhensley4919
      @jillhensley4919 Před 27 dny +6

      Not really. Ignore him as much as possible. I mean do not speak to him unless it’s absolutely necessary. No fighting in front of your children or anything like that but do not speak to him at all! This is important! Do this for you!

    • @mariaespinoza6358
      @mariaespinoza6358 Před 27 dny

      Mine just called the other day. Hadn't heard from him for over a yr, or so. Almost 21 days past my bday. 2½ weeks past my younger sister's bday. He forgot whose is whose day. He never said anything about wishing us happy birthday🎈 All he did was call twice and use the time to bash my loving, caring, wonderful mom and her ""lack"" of raising us ""right"". He didn't do anything to care for us. He was never around to do so.
      I sooo wanted to yell at him ... My point is: be there for ur kids. If he wants to come visit, unless there are extreme reasons for him to NOT be left alone with them, LET HIM!! Discuss it with ur children. Let them express their feelings. Whether you agree, or not. They will see you as doing ur very best to make their lives easier & happier. They will figure out who is causing the turmoil, if any, & be grateful they have you to love & truly care for them.
      My mom had her paperwork in a file box. We always sat & went through it, looking at a paper & asking her questions about this & that. She never told us No!! You can't look at that!! No, don't ask me anything about it! I'm not telling you! It's not kid's business. Up to a point. Because it affects their daily lives. You want them to know they can come to you, for anything & everything. Just nice & calm, breathe in & out. You have them. They have you & each other. You guys are GOLD🫂❤️‍🩹👣🧸

  • @user-is4hh8yw5p
    @user-is4hh8yw5p Před měsícem +16

    You are stronger than you think. Once all of this is over and you get settled down you will be so much happier. One day at a time. You got this!

  • @hunter_of_prayer
    @hunter_of_prayer Před měsícem +20

    Hello Ann, I am new here as of today. Your video was recommended to me. I wanted to tell you that I am so sorry for what you are going through, but despite being upset, you still choose joy and know things will get better. That is what caught my attention the most. I look forward to following your journey. Keep your head up, better things are to come! I'm praying for you!

  • @irenemonk7991
    @irenemonk7991 Před 19 dny +8

    when I got divorced I left everything behind but my clothes I didn't things that reminded me of or life together. new beginnings ❤

  • @livinglavi
    @livinglavi Před měsícem +20

    This is moving really quick for me. I said that because I’m coming from your announcement video. I can only imagine how you are feeling. But you’ve definitely given me the motivation to go through all the feels and move on. I definitely needed to see this. Thank you for being open to share your journey and let us who are going through the same journey know that things will get better. ❤

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před měsícem +10

      No point in prolonging the inevitable! You are welcome and you got this!! ❤️

  • @user-po8hh1qi5j
    @user-po8hh1qi5j Před 22 dny +15

    If you have kids.... Ask them what they would want or keep things for them. I was the one who left with my kids. I thought it would be so hard. It was the best thing I did. Trust yourself!

  • @susanmarten278
    @susanmarten278 Před 25 dny +15

    Take all "your" stuff, leave his stuff, and take half of mutual stuff even if you dont want it. You can donate, throw out, or sell what you dont want. It is very cathartic to deal with all the emotions. Best of luck with your new adventure.

    • @Tmp130
      @Tmp130 Před 25 dny +1

      Very good advice 👍

    • @RB-zf3qh
      @RB-zf3qh Před 23 dny +1

      Good advice.

  • @larahporter8123
    @larahporter8123 Před 21 dnem +9

    Did that 3 years ago after 14 yrs together, came back living w/my elderly parents and left all behind. We are very good friends and share one beautiful 17 yo boy who is strong and happier now. It was the best decision for all. Got my second degree and I am independent now, no more being the maid. It is difficult at first, but it will pass. It is just a phase in your life, it is up to you what to do with your new future, your new life, be smart bc this could happen again and you have to be prepared nxt time. It is all on you now.

  • @faithsinternationaldelicio2774
    @faithsinternationaldelicio2774 Před měsícem +20

    Hello Ann. I can relate to your situation. I know it must be hard, but just remember God is with you, and He sees your pain. May the Lord Almighty give you strength every day.

  • @amandabradley6256
    @amandabradley6256 Před měsícem +21

    With such horrible circumstances…..how blessed you are to have a home to go to, and family to surround you. Sending all my love and best wishes❤

  • @robindestasio7563
    @robindestasio7563 Před měsícem +13

    I've been where you are. Take it from someone who knows. Try not to think of this as an ending, it's a new beginning. I wish I could have looked at it like that back then. I was devastated but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm almost 70 and have had such a great life, one that I wouldn't have had if we hadn't divorced. This is the beginning of the rest of your life, all new chapters to come. I left my home and almost all of my belongings and at the time it hurt but with every new experience the hurt went away and happiness replace it all. I'm not saying it was easy, but one step at a time. New people will come into your life that you would never have met if you had stayed where you were. It's stressful but please try to look ahead and think about all the new things to come. Something new around every corner. It's hard but please try to look at it as an adventure. The only thing I regret about my past is wasting time on being sad about my marriage that didn't work out.

  • @rondabriggs5936
    @rondabriggs5936 Před 23 dny +5

    I am a new subscriber.
    You got this. Keep your faith and let God take care of the rest. I went through a messy divorce years ago, walked away with nothing but my clothes and my kids and their belongings. We did just fine. It was better alone than knowing he didn't want me anymore.
    Keeping you in my prayers.

  • @sharonjoachim2602
    @sharonjoachim2602 Před 29 dny +27

    Hi Ann ..Speaking from experience ..My marriage broke up after 22 yrs..With 3 children involved..He stepped out on me with someone 15 yrs younger than me..Boy it took 5 yrs to get the divorce ..So if you can get it done quickly ..because, more damage can be done later..I wanted it quick but, he kept dragging his feet messing with my head..he basically did not want to pay child support and wanted to work it out away from the court system..what a nightmare ..please surround yourself with people u trust and that support you..I have never gotten married again because of what happened ..so I have learned to survive on my own… praying and asking the lord for guidance..your stronger than you think..one step in front of the other and one day at a time!!❤❤❤.. God Bless!! Take care!!🙏😇☮️🌈🦋🌺✝️

    • @jamilgotcher365
      @jamilgotcher365 Před 28 dny +5

      I thought I wanted my first divorce to go quickly but now I'm glad it didn't. If it had gone quickly I wouldn't be eligible for the long term marriage social security and I'll be needing it. Glad it took at least a couple of years in order for me to qualify for his social security benefits as a long term marriage spouse.

    • @TheMimiof7
      @TheMimiof7 Před 28 dny +2

      My son is going on over 3 years. His wife left him for a transgender man. They have 3 children and it’s been awful. The wife feels entitled to take everything. She stayed silent on her sexuality for 18 years. As a family, we knew she was different with her silence and not carrying in a conversation. You would ask her a question and her response would be a laugh. She’s just like her dad was. Both of her parents have passed in the past 18 months. My son is so much happier now, but it as very tough for him and the family when it was shared.

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 27 dny +1

      Thank you for sharing and the kind words ❤️

    • @btsarmyforever3816
      @btsarmyforever3816 Před 22 dny +1

      @@TheMimiof7 Aren't there laws you can charge her with? In my country, it's a criminal offense to lie about sexuality and get married. Such a person won't get a penny in alimony or household objects and will get imprisoned and made to compensate as well. Because the trauma of touching/kissing/sex with someone who is not what they claim to be is too much. Needs therapy for life at times. The feeling of disgust and repulsion rarely leaves. Because our sexuality is different. Usually, their trick is to say "I suddenly felt I was lesbian/gay/trans" Just no. There is no sudden in this as all this is recognized early on in life, especially with today's social media. Def they will realize who they are as a person. As such courts should give a prison sentence to that ex-wife for fooling the husband.

    • @TheMimiof7
      @TheMimiof7 Před 22 dny

      @@btsarmyforever3816 The US has no law to charge the wife. In the “woke environment” you can identify with whatever you feel. I am 72 years young and I identify as a 40 year old 🤣🤣🤭🤭😉

  • @Nandat3675
    @Nandat3675 Před 28 dny +9

    I've been there done that empty nested at 40 as well, but it was a blessing in disguised bc now I can be the real me not the woman I had to be to make him happy which I didn't anyway. You got this 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @Lindasromperroom
    @Lindasromperroom Před 25 dny +7

    I love Nikki and Carlo! You go girl! First marriage ended but my marriage now is 36 years!

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 25 dny

      They are great!! Happy it all worked out for you ❤️

  • @Dana-ml7sy
    @Dana-ml7sy Před 23 dny +5

    Don’t forget to label boxes on the sides with what’s inside, not just on the top, so you can see at a glance what’s there.
    Be happy for you. Treat yourself as your best friend & plan to eat well & take walks, for your well being. Think of your husband as your ex husband. You are now free to start afresh on your terms. Don’t waste a moment on thinking about what happened, why it happened & if anything could have changed it. That’s the past. You can’t change it. The present is now & the future is yet to come. Change your mindset, it’s not the beginning of a divorce but the end of an unfulfilling relationship. It must have been because it’s broken. You can’t fix it & it’s pointless & destructive for yourself to wallow in misery & take on the role of victim but you can reinvent yourself, become the person you want to be & take steps to embrace your new life with excitement. Starting now.
    Research has proven that if you smile, even if you force yourself at first, it will help you smile for real. Fake it until you make it. Good luck in your new ventures.

  • @BlueBird-nf2gp
    @BlueBird-nf2gp Před měsícem +7

    Hi- Even though it’s a sad time I hope you get some moments of joy (no matter how small) in planning the decor for your new home. Your pets are adorable! ❤

  • @donnamcgowan6893
    @donnamcgowan6893 Před 29 dny +10

    This too shall pass.It will get better.Prayers

  • @ReginaCreates2
    @ReginaCreates2 Před 22 dny +5

    new Subscriber. I went through the same thing many years ago. It was devastating but i finally got through it. I now live a more peaceful life … drama free and much reduced stress. Now I avoid drama like the plague 🤣 You are not alone …. Hang in there … it will get better 🤗

  • @lucyf7740
    @lucyf7740 Před 23 dny +1

    This too shall pass… your pups are so beautiful and such a source of strength n joy! 🙏🏼❤️‍🩹🐾

  • @sarahbatcher6749
    @sarahbatcher6749 Před 27 dny +13

    My husband and I were married for 27 years and then one day poof it was gone everything I had done in those years I realized was not for me it was all for the person that was not the person I married and for our children. And I sat here one day right before the date of our separation and was thinking OMG what am I going to do. With me. Like what do I want? What makes me happy? What makes ME want to get out of bed. And to my surprise I had no idea what I wanted to do like not for the rest of my life kind of deep questioning just a frivolous what do I like to do and to my surprise I had no idea. Like I couldn’t think of one thing that (I) (ME) (Myself) what do I like to do. I really didn’t know. I know I like crafting and silly things like that but do I like bowling or going to the movies or walks in the beach or camping in the woods I really didn’t know because everything that I had done over the almost 28 years was for HIM and or for our kids like everything was for them. Which was great believe me I lived for my kids. But along the way I lost who I was as a person. I was the Wife, or the Mom, or whatever but it was never who (I) was so it took me a bit longer to find myself because my mom married me off at 15 so I’ve actually been a wife and mother since I was 15 years old and I’m 58 now so I actually never got to ever learn WHO I was WHAT I liked. What made me myself happy. So I took a 2 week road trip and camped (because I remember as a kid how much I like doing that. And surprise I still do. Anyway my point is as I realize I’m babbling so I’ll stop. But just know that you need to be you find you and your innermost joy and happiness and just be you before even considering any new relationship. And then when you find you, and you may want to start dating DO NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING BUT THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR WELL-BEING. Many prayers all things work out for your best

    • @MargaretHill65_
      @MargaretHill65_ Před 26 dny +1

      Sending hugs to you hun ! I was married at 15 as well and we were still really babies 😢

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 25 dny +1

      Thank you and thank you for sharing ❤️

    • @mariellahinde7696
      @mariellahinde7696 Před 24 dny +1

      I love this !!! You are so right !!

  • @loridamico3368
    @loridamico3368 Před 8 dny +1

    I just came across your channel. I'm so sorry for all the pain you are experiencing . Praying for you and all the people in the comments going through the same situation. 🙏❤

  • @Ali-gb7mf
    @Ali-gb7mf Před 24 dny +3

    This is a new beginning. You are going to be just fine. Go forward! 🍾🍾🍾🍾

  • @amandasusan9783
    @amandasusan9783 Před měsícem +6

    Hey girl! You are doing sooo great! Tip: if you dont want to deal with some of the more emotional stuff, just leave it for him to take care of. The things you shared are his responsibility as much as yours. Speaking of Tuscany, you should watch Under the Tuscan Sun! It's about a woman starting over, just like you! (Have you seen it??) Give your pups lots of cuddles and revel in their unconditional love :) You've got this!! Prayers for your healing and joy!!

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před měsícem +4

      I love that movie! I need to watch it again, thanks for reminding me about it ❤️

  • @jeanwhite6693
    @jeanwhite6693 Před měsícem +6

    Be strong, this is hardest part of packing. When you move away, your heart will be at ease. Wishing you the Best of luck ❤️

  • @triciadannegger8538
    @triciadannegger8538 Před 27 dny +15

    Been here before. Left him the house and the majority of all our stuff. Had to remind myself that even though his feelings changed, it's not what he wanted to happen. It was so hard to not let bitterness and regret eat me up. Stay true to the kind and caring person you are. Don't listen to the people that tell you to take everything and screw him over. Karma does exist and always comes around. You're beautiful and you WILL make it through this! ❤

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 25 dny +1

      Thank you ❤️

    • @junglesuperstar9270
      @junglesuperstar9270 Před 23 dny

      Really? If your husband did not want he would not divorce . And , no . Karma dies not exist

    • @triciadannegger8538
      @triciadannegger8538 Před 23 dny

      I disagree. I believe and have seen it in action. For instance I'm happily engaged now with property completely paid off. He's still alone in that house.
      I hope you heal from whatever made your heart bitter. 😘

    • @alexialira3839
      @alexialira3839 Před 19 dny

      @triciadannegger8538 How's having a home/roof over your head and being single "karma?" 🤷🏻‍♀️ I'd be ecstatic if I had my own place as a single person myself.
      Being "happily engaged" doesn't mean you're better than singles who have a roof over their head. Doesn't even mean you'll actually get married or last forever.
      I'm seriously at a loss here lol

    • @triciadannegger8538
      @triciadannegger8538 Před 19 dny

      Well let me explain. What energy you put out there is what you get. He thought he'd be happier with someone else, but ended up alone. So I guess him being true to himself is being single with a roof over his head. In the other hand, I want a simple life with a family and not living above my means. Hence, I was true to who I am and ended up with what I wanted.
      I'm not saying anyone is better than anyone. I'm saying what you end up with in life is a direct result of the choices you make.
      So you will obviously end up single with a roof over your head, because that's what matters to you. Best wishes. 😉
      P.S. I was single for 8 years. Bought and paid off a home with some land on my own. Guess what? I didn't have to be angry or screw anyone over to do it. So despite if we end up together, I still have a place that's completely mine.

  • @gracerodriguez6869
    @gracerodriguez6869 Před měsícem +5

    I am excited to see your new place, a fresh start for you. I am sending you a big hug

  • @irenegilmour2452
    @irenegilmour2452 Před 21 dnem

    Bless you and the four fur babies,you are doing a great job packing up your life.on to bigger and better times ❤take care x

  • @bridgettewilliford8438
    @bridgettewilliford8438 Před 23 dny +4

    Good luck with your new life and everything will be alright ❤

  • @jenramirez5329
    @jenramirez5329 Před 21 dnem +1

    New subscriber ❤… As women we go through a lots of painful situations in life but they lead us to believe and accept that life is forever - life experiences, growth, strength and joy once we are healed and find our way! I went through painful situations with my husband and I move many miles away and little by little the pieces of my puzzle (my life) are coming together and I’m hopeful to complete that puzzle in the near future!
    I pray for you and I hope you heal and have a wonderful and blessed life that you deserve! ❤🌹❤️

  • @craftybeautydiva1
    @craftybeautydiva1 Před 25 dny +7

    As someone who recently had to go through this 4 years ago when I came home to find my ex-husband had left me and found out he had been planning it for 6 months without telling me I feel your pain. I took a week off from work didn't think I'd ever be happy again. But I promise you this too shall pass and you will be fine. As hard as this was for me to go through I thank God everyday he was with me every step of the way I'm now happily engaged to a wonderful person who loves me unconditionally and even if I had never found this person I know I'm still going to be okay and I know you will be too, just keep taking deep breaths we need be and tell yourself you got this. Oddly enough I have forgiven my ex-husband for what he did and we are on decent terms.

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 25 dny +1

      Thank you for sharing ❤️ and for your kind words!

    • @judyy3827
      @judyy3827 Před 23 dny

      How long have you been married? Is he staying in the house? Yes, I’m nosey.

    • @craftybeautydiva1
      @craftybeautydiva1 Před 22 dny

      @@judyy3827 I was married for 12 years and we both left the place we shared

  • @kristieb8109
    @kristieb8109 Před 29 dny +6

    Hi Ann, I'm a new subscriber. I just found your channel and I'm so sorry you're going through this. You seem like a very sweet person and while you're hurting now I know happier times are coming to you. Sending you love and prayers ❤

  • @cleanwithmimi
    @cleanwithmimi Před měsícem +2

    I'm here watching!! I hope you have an amazing weekend despite everything happening. Praying for you! 🙏🏽❤️

  • @Losingmymind1609
    @Losingmymind1609 Před 21 dnem +2

    Don’t go through this alone . It is hard . Ask for a help when you need it . I describe this like someone that you loved so much died . It is exactly like that . First you go through shock , then grief and after that you find peace. Hang in there ❤. First time here and your new subscriber . Wish you all the luck ❤

  • @HeyItsLilJeannie
    @HeyItsLilJeannie Před 27 dny +2

    I'm so proud of you for seeing the positive, and seeing the bright side! And there definitely will be exciting new things to look forward to. And me along with so many others will be right here with you on your new journey ❤

  • @emguilbe
    @emguilbe Před 28 dny +7

    Although, you are divorcing and separating, time can allow us to feel like it is death! Habits with a spouse is hard for both No matter what! Be strong to make choices, decisions and movements that will allow you to grow as a woman and the individual you are! Your kids need you and you got this! You’re stronger than what you know! Prayers will be answered on Gods time! Be patient

  • @kathmann7402
    @kathmann7402 Před 29 dny +7

    Beautiful home. You had it decorated so lovely with great furniture. Your next home will be as beautiful.

  • @sallywestgard7328
    @sallywestgard7328 Před 26 dny +8

    I have been where you are. Just keep going friend… you have no other choice. And one day it will be clear why this happened.

  • @candyhr4152
    @candyhr4152 Před měsícem +7

    We are with you. No one is alone who has friends. Even subscriber friends!

  • @justasmalltowngirl_lynne5089

    New subscriber….and I’m so sorry to hear about your broken heart 💔…Sending you TONS of positive vibes and happier days ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kimwood5239
    @kimwood5239 Před 20 dny

    I’m truly sorry that your going through this. I pray for your strength and God to give you hope and bless you so much.

  • @donnat4650
    @donnat4650 Před 22 dny +2

    Hi again! Idk if I mentioned it before, but counseling is a good option, as you are struggling emotionally. In my divorce experience, the judge was very supportive of me, as a woman, and was leaning toward me keeping the house. But, it looks like you have that part worked out. Prayers 🙏🏽 will also get you through! Feel better ❤️‍🩹 and don’t give up. 🤗

  • @sharonniconishin1012
    @sharonniconishin1012 Před 29 dny +5

    Hi I’m new, very sorry to see you in pain. I’m in Australia but I’m here for you. Very excited to see you bounce back and thrive. It will happen.❤

  • @ditzychic1031
    @ditzychic1031 Před měsícem +20

    I hope you took all the wine! Girl take that wine!! lol.

  • @dorotejavidic960
    @dorotejavidic960 Před 27 dny +4

    I went trough the same 4 years ago,it was not easy,but it worth it,I am much happier now...

  • @triciabuenaluz6438
    @triciabuenaluz6438 Před 22 dny +1

    Sending prayers your way dear. Better separate now then years from now. You still have so much time to do what you want to do thank goodness. It's also incredibly freeing not to have to worry about how a partner feels or walking on eggshells around his ego. Less stressful all around. You'll be smiling soon enough. Hugs.

  • @dianepiatt5503
    @dianepiatt5503 Před 24 dny +3

    Business stores have moving boxes. Amazon has them. And uHaul has them to buy too. ❤️. Hoping and praying for all good things for you. ❤️

  • @LolaAlmaguer8797
    @LolaAlmaguer8797 Před měsícem +1

    I'm new here and I am in awe of how strong you really are! Even through your extreme sadness, you are strong. You will find complete happiness again with the right person.

  • @kathymusgrove8518
    @kathymusgrove8518 Před 29 dny +4

    Go get boxes from the alcohol store. They are heavy duty and the perfect size for heavy things. Also, make yourself a document on word with all the categories you are packing. Print them out and attach each to your boxes. You only need to circle the category you just packed.

  • @cindyrasmussen7497
    @cindyrasmussen7497 Před 19 dny

    My heart aches with you💔 I’m so glad you’re moving and making a new start near family. May the Lord comfort and walk with you bearing you up every hour. Hugs

  • @lorettadavis9508
    @lorettadavis9508 Před 29 dny +5

    I’m a new subscriber! I’ll be praying for you. Hang in there you’ll be ok honey ! Try to think of the positive life ahead of you . I give you props for sharing this part of your life . God will get you this! I promise ❤😢😊

  • @markellwilliams3594
    @markellwilliams3594 Před 27 dny +4

    Hi Ann. I’m so so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’m kind of in the same position except we were engaged. Been together since 2018. I don’t look at this video as boring I look at it as if I’m being here and supportive for a friend. Praying for you. Darling ❤🙏🏽

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 25 dny +1

      Thank you so much and I’m praying for you as well ❤️

  • @patriciadifferding7688

    You are doing great and will thrive! Bless you.

  • @cindynewburg4084
    @cindynewburg4084 Před 27 dny +16

    My husband and I had a pretty small argument on my 40th birthday - after 12 years of marriage - and basically he never came home again. The divorce took 4 years. He not only didn't acknowledge my birthday the day of the argument but had not bought me a present. It was all par for the course. I hired a " crisis " therapist to help me work thru it and she was the worst !!! She gave me the worst advice ever. Long story short I was only 41 and hooked up with the best boyfriend I ever had. We separated 10 years later on good terms. I think that is what happens when you don't have to divorce. My husband - altho I find it hard to believe - did have a girlfriend. I could hardly believe it at the time. The man was 14 years older than me and I was his 3rd wife. Like Shannan Watts said - he had no game. But evidentially that was not true !!! In any event, what I regret is how easy I made the divorce for him. He got so much more than he deserved thanks to the loser therapist !!!

  • @sharongibson1161
    @sharongibson1161 Před 29 dny +2

    I am sorry you are going through this 😢! Been there, its hard , without a doubt. Please try to look forward, rediscover yourself and take care of yourself❤❤❤ ill be praying for you 😊

  • @a_latte_mama
    @a_latte_mama Před 28 dny +2

    I feel this video so hard! But I am excited for you to get all new things that are just yours and I just subscribed! I always say life is short and id rather have a couple of bad months rather than a lifetime of unhappiness. Your glow will return

  • @A.L.I.S.O.N
    @A.L.I.S.O.N Před měsícem +4

    High regards at how you are trooping through this process. Some of these tasks in my situation have either been deterred or deferred. I went back & forth even just regarding having my ring on or off. As I mentioned previously, we are still separated, not divorced...but I haven't seen him is almost 5yrs & we haven't spoken in around 3yrs now. Strange, I know. It's amazing how our emotions, connections get associated to our "stuff". The emotions regarding all of this makes me think of pulling apart a chicken tender, slowly while also correlating it to pulling a hangnail.
    Though technically it isn't still Memorial weekend, I am sharing that this morning, my dogs & I were awakened by being hit with a tornado. It was an interesting experience to say the least. The sirens never sounded, so almost immediately huge, severely intense bursts of wind bust to the windows & doors, rocking everything all over the place. The wind whipped around in every direction. In, around, then it did like a suction action pulley out every bit of air. It was quite surreal. No one got hurt, praise God. My boys (2 pups: Spencer & Austin "Audie") are still rattled. I was so worried that Austin might have been sucked out of the room but then saw he was standing, frozen in the doorway of my room. So, I guess that's how my holiday ended, lol.
    I'm looking forward to seeing your place in the country. Good times ahead.☺️👌♥️

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před měsícem +2

      Oh my goodness!!! What a way to start the day 😳 I’m happy you and your fur babies are all safe! ❤️

    • @A.L.I.S.O.N
      @A.L.I.S.O.N Před měsícem

      @@AnnsHappyHome Oh my. My auto correct is horrible. Glad you could make sense of what I meant, lol.
      ☺️🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️😄

  • @lauriepeeler3705
    @lauriepeeler3705 Před měsícem +5

    I’m new to your channel, I just wanted to say, you go girl. You got this.

  • @Ourhomeschooladventures
    @Ourhomeschooladventures Před 22 dny +1

    God Bless, so sorry your going through this. *hugs*

  • @calilayne5569
    @calilayne5569 Před 11 dny

    New subscriber! I'm so very sorry you're going through this. I went through the same 5 years ago
    ...I promise, it gets so much better. Be good to yourself. I'm praying for you! Xo

  • @DebbieSaxby
    @DebbieSaxby Před měsícem +3

    Hi just to say you are a kind caring person and your journey has just begun on life's new adventures so look at everything around you and take into account how time heals Debbie from England please take care and chin up

  • @sasharix8685
    @sasharix8685 Před měsícem +9

    Hi im a new sub from england wishing you all the best ive done this many times too, i can sympathise with you onwards to better days xxx😊

  • @user-on2hk6hc7x
    @user-on2hk6hc7x Před měsícem +12

    I’m normally a silent subscriber but I just want you to know that I have been through this. It will sting fore a long time but it will get easier. Wish I was there to help and give you a hug . Just know I’m sending prayers. 🌸❤️

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před měsícem +1

      Thank you so much for the kind words and prayers ❤️🙏

  • @user-tv5hl8zu9s
    @user-tv5hl8zu9s Před 23 dny

    I'm grateful to you for make this videos you are a nice honest person ✨️ 😌 💕

  • @SouthernTeaIntuition
    @SouthernTeaIntuition Před 10 dny

    Things happen the way they're supposed to. Sometimes it's hard to understand why but it's important to feel what you feel & reflect on what is meant to be learned. Speaking on tarot, the tower comes in to move us on to better things that are meant for us. Much ❤️

  • @donnapalaussie19
    @donnapalaussie19 Před měsícem +1

    Hi Ann, I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’ve got this and I wish you all the very best for your future! New sub from Australia 🇦🇺 😊

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 28 dny +1

      Thank you for the kind words and for subscribing!! ❤️

  • @lmm7762
    @lmm7762 Před 4 dny

    GIRL!!! I LOVE ANT!!!! HE IS A TFIP AND WILL MAKE YOU LAUGH AND FEEL BETTER. ANT ALSO WILL TELL YOU STRAIGHT OUT TO WALK AWAY AND GIRL BYE ON TO BIGGER BETTER THINGS! I LIVE IN GHE SAME CITY AS HIM !
    I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 23yrs and he cheated and got someone pregnant and during all of it I stood by him and then one day just a month ago he chose her and I am having a really hard time but nothing I can do about it so I’m left with the pain and he is in happy land. Jerk! Blessings to you

  • @kittytirado8893
    @kittytirado8893 Před měsícem +1

    Hi Ann, Once you leave there I know you’re going to feel better.❤ I’m praying for you that you could get by this situation very quickly and move on to a happier life.😊God bless!!!🙏

  • @222ouch
    @222ouch Před 27 dny +1

    Hang in there. You popped up on my feed. Subscribed to support your channel. Feeling your pain. Things will get better

  • @carolwoodward6141
    @carolwoodward6141 Před 27 dny +1

    New subbie as of this morning. I can tell you are a strong woman. It sounds like you have a kind heart.

  • @HelenCottrell-Starkey
    @HelenCottrell-Starkey Před 29 dny +3

    Ann, so sorry you are going through this right now. I too have been there but rest assured, it's hard at this moment but you will come out at the other side much much stronger. Hope your fur baby boy is feeling better. Much love from the UK 💖

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 27 dny +1

      Thank you so much! He is feeling much better ❤️

  • @chantellucky4565
    @chantellucky4565 Před 5 dny

    …but one thing I do know is that ‘the pain subsides day by day and the hurt no longer lingers on as it did’ and ‘acceptance of what it is’ gradually taken over and you move on..

  • @melissaulibarri1273
    @melissaulibarri1273 Před 22 dny

    I wish there was something magical that I could say to help your beautiful heart right now. I have been where you are. Remember time really does help heal. I just felt touched by your story and wanted to reach out and express to you how you are not alone. Some days it takes all you have inside to just put one foot in front of the other. Be gentle with yourself and reach out when you need support. Your story touched my heart!!❤

  • @bernieburciaga3279
    @bernieburciaga3279 Před 22 dny +1

    Hun i hear your pain. I'm so sorry this is happening.

  • @prettythingshomedecor
    @prettythingshomedecor Před 26 dny +1

    So sorry you are going through this! I do hope that you find some peace in this journey.

  • @KristineS73
    @KristineS73 Před 28 dny +2

    I love Nicky and Carlo!!! Whar great style they do have. Been reallly loving the Tuscany house and that new kitchen right??? Listen find that strength that all woman have and look at this as a new beginning!! Not losing but gaining life experiences. You will be ok i promise. Jusr keep that mindset itll help so much!!!😊 New sub from your last video and it seems like you might have a channel that grows into a whole new thing for you, how amazing for you 😊

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 27 dny +2

      Thank you ❤️ and I loving the Tuscany house too!

  • @user-wo2rz1sn7v
    @user-wo2rz1sn7v Před 26 dny +2

    I feel you. I'm four years out from my ex deciding to start a band and leaving at 25 years together (23 married). But, he was the one who wanted out and did some questionable things so I got the house and just about everything in it except his clothing and personal items (he is a police officer in our city and didn't want the public to know anything). I did not realize until he left how dependent on him I had become (I didn't even go to the grocery store by myself). I felt like I wanted (needed) him with me at all times unless we were at work and always wanted to have family time (we have two boys, both grown). I now know that I am strong and can handle most things. I do still wonder why sometimes and miss the life I thought I had.

  • @ameliasarno1210
    @ameliasarno1210 Před 26 dny +1

    You got this!! You have a new start and a complete re-do. I agree leave al that stuff for him. New house new life new stuff!!

    • @AnnsHappyHome
      @AnnsHappyHome  Před 25 dny

      I wish I could just leave all my things but I worked hard for all of it so it’s going with me!

  • @kathylewellen5620
    @kathylewellen5620 Před 24 dny

    Oh goodness I couldn’t stop watching you. I can hear your pain. Been married now for 30 hrs but have been so close to divorce so many times. We had a tragedy with our son who had a near drowning at age 3. Again hard times for sure and I am now his nurse and full time caretaker. He is severely handicapped and it definitely takes us both to care for him. I feel like you will find so much happiness in the future I don’t know why. I think it’s your sweetness and good heart. I had a friend whose husband just left her after 20 years. She was devastated but just a few years later she is married to a great man and has 2 grandchildren. She is thriving. It’s amazing to see how she went from just pure sadness to know pure joy. I feel this will happen to you. I subscribed and will support and follow your journey. Sad now but happiness is coming.

  • @faysalkus1083
    @faysalkus1083 Před 19 dny +2

    I have been divorced twice. First time was after only 3 years. I was 24 and had know idea how to live on my own. I learned quickly. Remarried at 42 and by 57 was divorced again. This time I wasted no time. I found a house and bought new furniture. Old stuff went to basement rooms. I have been divorced nealy 15 years now. There are days I wished I had a responsible companion but see I may not find him so I shall do life on my own. Not so bad.

  • @conniemalone8939
    @conniemalone8939 Před 29 dny +5

    Iam Glad your leaving all the items in the Cabinet for him to deal with I would of done the same! I also feel your pain My husband found another person & Iam gonna try to b as nice as I can about her but she’s no count! After a 39 year Marriage! But Trust Me Thiers someone out thier for you! And a Happy Life!🐶🐶🐶🐱♥️

  • @angelicavasquez3870
    @angelicavasquez3870 Před 25 dny +1

    I hope you get to keep the beautiful kitty!

  • @rosecrawford1616
    @rosecrawford1616 Před měsícem +2

    I saw ur thumb nail and watched your video on divorce.
    I have never seen your channel before but I want to take this trip with you so I subscribed immediately.
    Been there, done tgat and am here watching your journey and here if I can help.
    Rosie