I suffer from anxiety. Even getting up every day is a an achievement. Lately I've been using these techniques and slowly but surely I'm improving. Not expecting miracles but there has been a little change.
I hope you are doing well. I've had some anxiety issues too. It's a lot better now, but I don't think my anxiety went away 100%. One motivational speaker said "Be brave enough to expect miracles. Be brave enough to know you deserve miracles." Just wanted to put this here.
To deal with anxiety: #1 Change your diet Lots of people are intolerant to foods they don't realize, they can become tired, weak, anxious, easily distraught. Food groups most commonly problematic 1. Dairy 2. Sugar 3. Wheat, possibly grains in entirety as well as gluten 4. Bad Fats (canola, grape seed, vegetable oil, peanut butter) all Omega 6 heavy 5. Night shades (potatoes, tomatoes, peppers) 6. Processed meats (hot dogs, deli ham, deli beef etc.) (Eggs, canned tuna, salmon, frozen meats are okay in my opinion) Now, if you do remove these from your diet, take care that you are still getting all your nutrients. To track EVERY nutrient, I recommend "wholesome" an app for food nutrient tracking. Also get Omega 3's a number of times throughout the week (canned salmon, sardines, sometimes tuna). #2 Stop masturbating and watching porn #3 Use CBT, mindfulness, meditation, whatever you want to call it, all you need to do is watch your thoughts and stop getting wrapped up in them. Learn to be in the moment, focusing completely on whatever it is you're doing. #4 Gradual exposures to your fears, working up to them in a Hierarchy. Make sure to use your CBT techniques in the fear situation. Continually expose to it, every day is best but do it as much as you can until your brain learns there's nothing to fear.
A quick recap that might be helpful for me and everyone else STUN technique 1) Spot you thinking 2) Separate your opinions from facts 3) What's true in any given case? 4) What's useful? Is is practical to have a particular view? 5) Find a new story that fits the facts (this way you'll go from victims to being aware)
I have been in CBT for the last 10 months and was really struggling today. Your video was very helpful in reminding me to be present/mindful and to stop with the catastrophic thinking. Hearing it from someone with such a great accent was just a bonus. Thanks for the video!
I liked the line change the things you can change; accept the things you can't and know the difference. I'm a textbook severe GAD sufferer. I catastrophize everything and ruminate endlessly. Constantly in and out of hospital having scans of all sorts because I think I've got various illnesses.
I could listen forever. I came across this video in a search for something to help with underlying general anxiety. I think altering my perception of events and experiences will help. The speaker here seems very competent in cbt.
You might like to know that my Australian university included this video amongst this weeks readings/videos for a social work theory unit (which is why I am here) :)
Great presentation Mark. I've been picking up CBT content from time to time over the years; it certainly aligns with my approach to maintaining good mental health. I am looking for free online videos about CBT that are well represented by professional PUBLIC SPEAKERS like yourself.
Thanks cuz, I'm in grad school finishing my 1st year in counseling, doing the whole "ahh, what theory am I?" Lol. The more I progress, the more CBT resonates with me. Anyways, this helped me a ton! I think CBT is it.
Thanks Nathan, that's a lovely comment and I wish you well. Really nice to get such a personalised response. Have a look at the other videos too. All the best from Brighton
Thanks for this video. STUN technique seems useful for dually diagnosed addicts in early recovery, where brief therapy is most of what's on offer. Have you any written (published or not) materials paralleling this technique with other, more widely known CBT techniques?
Thought it was interesting the use of the mantra "the wisdom to know the difference." I never remembered the beginning, and it is very interesting that it asks something outside the self. I heard CBT was inspired by Greek philosophy and it seems evident there is value in seeing mental states as pertaining to muses and Gods. in order to prescribe ourselves acceptance, love, gratitude, etc we must accept that ALL mental phenomenon are subject to forces beyond the mind. The body creates the mind. This is why excercise and nutrition makes such a profound impact on psychological health.
I think that You are a good speaker and that You covered so much in such a short time that it should be listened to more than just once, You remind me of my Uncle Dr. James Edwin Crosby on our long canoe trips down the Monocacy, He covered what You said, He quit general medicine to be a psychiatrist. Thank You
Yeah I did come to this conclusion. I am a psychologist. I have an issue that society does not teach people to understand themselves, but then everyone is surprised when people develop psychological disorders. Moreover, as these psychological disorders are not directly observable, the conditions are disputed and disregarded. Undoubtedly an individual approach to therapy will always be problematic as conditions play a crucial role in psychological disorders. Nevertheless, CBT is necessary!
The way to do this is to collect data of the thoughts over a period of time. Negative Automatic Thoughts (NATs) will recur in a daily thought record. A supervisor can assist you in looking for the basic schemas within a thought record. These can then be helpful in assisting the person to look at how they organize all their perceptions of the world and their self-talk. Most schemas will be reflected on a daily basis without awareness. So it's easier for an outsider to notice.
Very interesting. I was recently diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I am not fan of the medications. Usually have no problem falling asleep but now it's 1:30AM and I'm researching CBT. I am going to look deeper into this (tomorrow) because I tend to think negatively often and I have noticed that when I am feeling, thinking positive and staying busy, I don't need the pills. I am willing to try anything. It beats sleeping life away and skipping a few days on the pills. Knowledge, Practice, Patience and Persistence. Missed any? Good night!
If you don't talk about it with someone it's only going to get worse, make an appointment at the doctors by phone or if you can't (I can't do phones) ask a family member or close friend to do it for you, if you need to you can bring said family member or friend along with you for emotional support (I'm booked in to see a doctor Wednesday, I'm a 27 year old man and my mum is coming with me). It'll be hard at first but nobody can take that first step for you. May the force be with you Han.
Wonderful stuff !! Thank you for your knowledge and articulation. What is your experience with 12-step programs? Have you worked with addicts in recovery? Do you feel they are better able to reframe than others who do not have this experience.
Great video. I have actually wrote books on using the same methods you speak of in this video. If we could only get more people to use these methods, there would be much less depression and anxiety in the world.
+Bradley “BB222” Burks I remember in one of my univ classes, this older guy was talking to a friend in which i overheard him saying that fields of study such as psychology are worthless and what not and that STEM is everything. while i did agree to a point , i think more people should go into the field bc there are still so much we dont know about how the brain/mind works . if we had more people in this field and come up with useful techniques such as this, people suffering with mental illnesses which affects a large portion of people(sadly its an issue that is underrepresented and pushed to the side) can improve and in turn people can contribute to the world more and make it better for everyone as a continuous cycle . your comment made me remember that moment lol thanks and keep the work up!
***** lol i mean we never really know whats someone is going through like the person i was talking about he had been to war and consequently lost one of his legs and im sure he has some sort of PTSD. You never know unless you are really in their shoes thats why we all have to be understanding.
+wiirules13 Agreed... you never know what someone is going through which is why I try not to judge people. As far as getting rid of the assholes. Well lets just say we can all be assholes... lol
Very true. Even to our closest loved ones. Either way we all should try to balance and be peaceful! Interactions like those are toxic for wellbeing whether we know it or not
Accepting CBT totally is sort of like taking a deep breath, and holding it, then taking another one, without exhaling the one you just took. Before writing CBT off completely give it a little more thought; however, if you think that your personal inter-judgement of CBT, along with others, after your extended consideration is spot-on, then you are more than likely Right. FR
I been struggling for the last 4 months since mum died but the last 3 months I haven't been able to work as the pain has been to much and caused alsorts of problems with stomach and limbs trembling and pains and panic attacks Iam starting in January with a local CBT group to see wether it helps me as Iam just over thinking all the time and it caused myself more pain and panic attacks
Trying to help young children (5-10 yr olds) with anxiety, so it helps in educational school setting. Where can I find info/ certification program, etc? I’m a special ed teacgerK-5th grades Thanks Ms Connie
I question why courses to teach these things aren't free or require one to jump through so many hoops to access and isn't well integrated into our educational system or other systems and wonder when all the energy we put into defense will be more equally allocated into prevention and healing.
CBT and NLP have some similarities but a very different root. In terms of school - yes I agree - more about conditioning people to be conformist than really educating them very often
Hello sir, when I get up after sleep, I get to know that I am going and talking with people. This is happened to me every day. What should I do, I feel tired, pain in head..
Hey, sorry for the late reply, been busy preparing for cbt trainee interviews. I'm working in Blackpool at the moment for Fylde and Wyre. It's a really busy service with lots of complex clients. Really impressed by the style of your presentation and the content. How long have you been practicing? Where are you in the world? Zahid
Do you ever hear of CBT making things worse? I tried this for my anxiety, but the more I thought about my fears the worse they became, to the point they're now obsessive. I try to think positively, but after examining them from all sides I can't fool myself into thinking they're not serious threats and dismiss them. After looking at them objectively I see they're very real and terrifying, far more so than when I could just go "ah you're just crazy, you don't know that." Why would this be?
So your telling me that. Cognitive. People. Think louder then they speak ?? And sometimes are forgetful of what they say out loud then what they say in there heads?? Can you please help me understand this better. ??
Hi, I have done a bit of research on CBT for low self esteem, social esteem and anxiety. I find myself fitting into many of the criteria set out in these books/blogs/articles but I lack the confidence to speak to someone about it. After all I don't want it to seem as if I am 'attention seeking' but yet feel its now becoming an issue in my everyday life. What would you suggest I do? I have been putting this off for around three years now.Much appreciated and great video. Han xx
Sam Haas then you should have the power to change those facts about yourself. i'm sure people just don't hate people by default, so it's usually always an ongoing battle
Sam Haas The big problem here is you saying, negative thoughts about YOURSELF based on facts such as your boss hates you. Wait, what the hell? That 'fact' has NOTHING to do with you whatsoever!!! It has everything to do with your boss. What on earth does it have to do with you if somebody hates you? Don't be ridiculous! It has nothing to do with you if your boss hates you. That is a reflection of your boss and your boss alone. It only says things about your boss - it doesn't say anything about you. Furthermore, it is irrelevant that your boss hates you if you're sitting at home without your boss present. It is irrelevant that your boss hates you if you are about to see him. It is only relevant when you are face to face with him and he is actively displaying signs that he hates you. In other words, worry about things in the present moment when they actually arise, not thinking about them when they're not even relevant to the present moment. Also - fine for you to believe your boss hates you (fact), as long as you don't interpret that to mean there's anything wrong with you (a meaningless assumption, not a fact), or that it means something terrible will happen (a meaningless assumption, not a fact), or you feel scared and behave without assertiveness when you speak to him (giving the fact significance it doesn't need to have)... Do you see?
I do see, but that's easier said than done. You're talking about trying to change one's entire outlook on the world. A person's outlook develops through childhood and adolescence in part from the way they were treated throughout life, the social abilities they learned from their parents and peers and how they begin to perceive the world through inter-personal relationships at these formative times. I was emotionally (and sometimes physically) bullied throughout life, and this has now really turned my outlook pretty negative. I can point to many traumatic experiences that I truly believe have stunted much of my emotional growth and destroyed my inter-personal skills. And I tell you, I don't think you can just will away "negative thoughts" or a negative outlook on life and humanity. Some people are optimistic and some are not. Instead of trying to change the negative outlooks (because that's what CBT tries to do) of certain people (like me), self help schlockers should instead teach people (like me) how to adapt their outlook and internal "truth"/"philosophy" to the harsh and judgmental society that we live in.
"I do see, but that's easier said than done." Of course it is. Do you not think it's important enough to be actually done though? Sam, I HATE positive thinking mumbo jumbo. I am NOT advocating positive thinking, positive affirmations or turning people into optimistic ones because there is no need. None of that is necessary. I HIGHLY recommend mindfulness. A book I read and practised and I recommend you do the same if you are interested in doing work in this area is "Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world". I want to point out one thing now - "This change will be hard", "Some people are optimists and some are pessimists and this is hardwired", "The society we live in is harsh and judgemental" - these things are all just thoughts. They're beliefs. They're ways of seeing the world. I'm not saying they're wrong, but if you can learn to realize that these things are subjective JUDGEMENTS of reality and not REALITY ITSELF, you will make progress. Trust me. In fact, the biggest judgement you make is "I'm a pessimist". This is just a belief. It's not factual. It's a judgement. Compared to some people you're probably an optimist. Some people would look inside your head and say "You're an optimist". It truly is a subjective judgement and these beliefs can end up changing your other beliefs and behaviours so that it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I'm not recommending changing your thinking so you pretend you're an optimist. I'm saying, LOOK at this judgement as what it is and notice that it isn't actually reality itself. See if you can see your judgement as a phenomenon, a thought. See if you can observe it without identifying with it. And if you can do that, notice something interesting in your awareness happens. That is, if you're observing a thought, you can't be your thinking. Your thinking is another thing, isn't it? It's not YOU. How can your thinking be you, if you are the one observing your thinking? You're the one OBSERVING your thoughts. Every time you forget this and identify with your thoughts as if they're real, you're losing perspective. I'm not saying stop thinking because you can't, but just notice the thinking, observe it. You don't need to judge it (that would be more thinking) and you don't need to tell yourself to stop thinking (that would be more thinking), but it would be useful for you to simply observe all this and kind of 'know' deep in your bones that it isn't reality. Your beliefs and thoughts are PERCEPTIONS of reality. They are transient because they often change. They are like clouds in the sky, whereas your mind is the sky itself. Anyway. You can do whatever you want. Above is my suggestions and recommendations based on my own experience. And as well as mindfulness (seriously, check that stuff out and do it and you will notice changes), I DO highly recommend cognitive behavioural therapy. It's NOTHING to do with simply turning your thinking positive, and I think you've misread it completely if you think it is. It's purely about aligning your thinking more closely with reality by eliminating unhelpful assumptions, and by stopping yourself doomsdaying and predicting the future as being somehow catastrophic. Let's face it, is accepting that your delusions that the future is going to be terrible really "positive thinking mumbo jumbo"? No, it's not. It's more realistic than believing your assumptions. Sorry to hear about your past, by the way. But are you going to focus on your past or your present and your future?
How can my physical pain be treated with CBT? Pain is a reaction to something that's gone wrong and a way of telling my brain to send stuff to help or/and for me to stop using or doing a thing which agrivate the area of pain. So how can CBT help?
interesting - I haven't heard this perspective before - did you come to this conclusion yourself or read about it? Is it the individual focus you don't like? and glad you liked it too :-)
I read some opinions that CBT is a very succesuful type of therapy, but for a short time. The results are fantastic, but not as lifelong solution. Would you agree with that point?
I love taking an exams, I love talking to a boss, I love job interviews, it all excites me and gives me adrenaline. I HATE ROOM FULL OF PEOPLE, I THINK EVERYONE WATCHES ME AND JUDGE ME. OMG hahahaha. I'm so fucking retarded, my throat just stops and my heart. Jesus.....
"Thinking error" term is already judging concept that is not truly appropriate to kbt idea- to be realistic as much as possible. I recenltly heard about term- thinking strategy- that sounds more adequate.
When I change the way I look at things, the things I look at change!
I suffer from anxiety. Even getting up every day is a an achievement. Lately I've been using these techniques and slowly but surely I'm improving. Not expecting miracles but there has been a little change.
I hope you are doing well. I've had some anxiety issues too. It's a lot better now, but I don't think my anxiety went away 100%. One motivational speaker said "Be brave enough to expect miracles. Be brave enough to know you deserve miracles." Just wanted to put this here.
Sarah Quinn-
I'm really sorry for what you're going through. I pray God wraps his arms around you and fills your heart with His love💗 psalm 139
To deal with anxiety:
#1 Change your diet
Lots of people are intolerant to foods they don't realize, they can become tired, weak, anxious, easily distraught.
Food groups most commonly problematic
1. Dairy
2. Sugar
3. Wheat, possibly grains in entirety as well as gluten
4. Bad Fats (canola, grape seed, vegetable oil, peanut butter) all Omega 6 heavy
5. Night shades (potatoes, tomatoes, peppers)
6. Processed meats (hot dogs, deli ham, deli beef etc.) (Eggs, canned tuna, salmon, frozen meats are okay in my opinion)
Now, if you do remove these from your diet, take care that you are still getting all your nutrients. To track EVERY nutrient, I recommend "wholesome" an app for food nutrient tracking. Also get Omega 3's a number of times throughout the week (canned salmon, sardines, sometimes tuna).
#2 Stop masturbating and watching porn
#3 Use CBT, mindfulness, meditation, whatever you want to call it, all you need to do is watch your thoughts and stop getting wrapped up in them. Learn to be in the moment, focusing completely on whatever it is you're doing.
#4 Gradual exposures to your fears, working up to them in a Hierarchy. Make sure to use your CBT techniques in the fear situation. Continually expose to it, every day is best but do it as much as you can until your brain learns there's nothing to fear.
@@Cstank5 most important, EXERCISE
A quick recap that might be helpful for me and everyone else
STUN technique
1) Spot you thinking
2) Separate your opinions from facts
3) What's true in any given case?
4) What's useful? Is is practical to have a particular view?
5) Find a new story that fits the facts (this way you'll go from victims to being aware)
Local Guide - that acronym doesn’t work at all
Great stuff. I started turning around my attitude the day I started looking back on all my negative predictions and realized they were the problem...
I have been in CBT for the last 10 months and was really struggling today. Your video was very helpful in reminding me to be present/mindful and to stop with the catastrophic thinking. Hearing it from someone with such a great accent was just a bonus. Thanks for the video!
YO how are you doing?
David Brent's more of a chilled out entertainer than a boss. How could you not like him?
amazing, explained it so well. This is something that needs more attention for people dealing with mental health.
I liked the line change the things you can change; accept the things you can't and know the difference. I'm a textbook severe GAD sufferer. I catastrophize everything and ruminate endlessly. Constantly in and out of hospital having scans of all sorts because I think I've got various illnesses.
Thank you! You're very clear and I like your style.
Jack.
We are our own worst enemies sometimes, what you said makes sense, its a lot to do with perspective.
I could listen forever. I came across this video in a search for something to help with underlying general anxiety. I think altering my perception of events and experiences will help. The speaker here seems very competent in cbt.
This was really helpful! Thank you for putting this out there!
You might like to know that my Australian university included this video amongst this weeks readings/videos for a social work theory unit (which is why I am here) :)
Very informative video. I am a school counseling student. This helped me think of ways to help students deal with negative self talk.
I thought this was excellent and simple. I enjoyed it.
thanks you really show this confidence it gives me some.
Great presentation Mark. I've been picking up CBT content from time to time over the years; it certainly aligns with my approach to maintaining good mental health. I am looking for free online videos about CBT that are well represented by professional PUBLIC SPEAKERS like yourself.
Great video. CBT saved me a few years back.
thank you and gad you're OK!
Neil Bergstrom really?
You look like the guy in the video, OMG!
Thank you a very clear and defined explanation. Very Helpful
I start CBT next tuesday, this video has helped me understand more about what it is and how it works. Thankyou : )
An awesome explanation on CBT, I believe it is a very helpful kind of therapy, worth sharing!
Thanks for the video - it was interesting and useful!
I think would of useful to show some of the cbt techniques so can be used
great resource. thanks for sharing
Thanks cuz, I'm in grad school finishing my 1st year in counseling, doing the whole "ahh, what theory am I?" Lol. The more I progress, the more CBT resonates with me. Anyways, this helped me a ton! I think CBT is it.
very informative video, presented in a very laid back and digestible way. Encapsulates CBT principles. Zahid
Thanks Nathan, that's a lovely comment and I wish you well. Really nice to get such a personalised response. Have a look at the other videos too. All the best from Brighton
if kids had classes of this at school we would be living in a better society surely
Good stuff, I feel enlightened
thanks for the video, i could do with reaching out to you, i have had my first psychiatrist appointment and suggests that i do CBT.
Thanks for this video. STUN technique seems useful for dually diagnosed addicts in early recovery, where brief therapy is most of what's on offer.
Have you any written (published or not) materials paralleling this technique with other, more widely known CBT techniques?
Thought it was interesting the use of the mantra "the wisdom to know the difference." I never remembered the beginning, and it is very interesting that it asks something outside the self. I heard CBT was inspired by Greek philosophy and it seems evident there is value in seeing mental states as pertaining to muses and Gods. in order to prescribe ourselves acceptance, love, gratitude, etc we must accept that ALL mental phenomenon are subject to forces beyond the mind. The body creates the mind. This is why excercise and nutrition makes such a profound impact on psychological health.
I think that You are a good speaker and that You covered so much in such a short time that it should be listened to more than just once, You remind me of my Uncle Dr. James Edwin Crosby on our long canoe trips down the Monocacy, He covered what You said, He quit general medicine to be a psychiatrist. Thank You
Good stuff! Very useful!
Love it!Going to see your other videos...Im searching around for info to add depth to filmmaking ! :)
that makes sense, it reminds me of the quote about being well adjusted in a sick world too
Very helpful, thanks.
this is very helpful
Yeah I did come to this conclusion. I am a psychologist. I have an issue that society does not teach people to understand themselves, but then everyone is surprised when people develop psychological disorders. Moreover, as these psychological disorders are not directly observable, the conditions are disputed and disregarded. Undoubtedly an individual approach to therapy will always be problematic as conditions play a crucial role in psychological disorders. Nevertheless, CBT is necessary!
Very inspiring
lifeshort thanks
VERY INSIGHTFUL....THANKS
The way to do this is to collect data of the thoughts over a period of time. Negative Automatic Thoughts (NATs) will recur in a daily thought record. A supervisor can assist you in looking for the basic schemas within a thought record. These can then be helpful in assisting the person to look at how they organize all their perceptions of the world and their self-talk. Most schemas will be reflected on a daily basis without awareness. So it's easier for an outsider to notice.
Very good!
great video
Very interesting. I was recently diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I am not fan of the medications. Usually have no problem falling asleep but now it's 1:30AM and I'm researching CBT. I am going to look deeper into this (tomorrow) because I tend to think negatively often and I have noticed that when I am feeling, thinking positive and staying busy, I don't need the pills. I am willing to try anything. It beats sleeping life away and skipping a few days on the pills. Knowledge, Practice, Patience and Persistence. Missed any? Good night!
Kevin Roy Hope you're doing somewhat better now...
This video is rather interesting.
His boss is ricky gervais, why doesnt he like him...?
Nice intro. Thanks. !
CBT is somehow related to narrative therapy, the way we perceive, how we focus on the narratives of our lives or situation.
If you don't talk about it with someone it's only going to get worse, make an appointment at the doctors by phone or if you can't (I can't do phones) ask a family member or close friend to do it for you, if you need to you can bring said family member or friend along with you for emotional support (I'm booked in to see a doctor Wednesday, I'm a 27 year old man and my mum is coming with me).
It'll be hard at first but nobody can take that first step for you.
May the force be with you Han.
thanks Dan, teaching some of these things in Kabul now!
Great video
Wonderful stuff !! Thank you for your knowledge and articulation. What is your experience with 12-step programs? Have you worked with addicts in recovery? Do you feel they are better able to reframe than others who do not have this experience.
Great video. I have actually wrote books on using the same methods you speak of in this video. If we could only get more people to use these methods, there would be much less depression and anxiety in the world.
+Bradley “BB222” Burks I remember in one of my univ classes, this older guy was talking to a friend in which i overheard him saying that fields of study such as psychology are worthless and what not and that STEM is everything. while i did agree to a point , i think more people should go into the field bc there are still so much we dont know about how the brain/mind works . if we had more people in this field and come up with useful techniques such as this, people suffering with mental illnesses which affects a large portion of people(sadly its an issue that is underrepresented and pushed to the side) can improve and in turn people can contribute to the world more and make it better for everyone as a continuous cycle . your comment made me remember that moment lol thanks and keep the work up!
***** lol i mean we never really know whats someone is going through like the person i was talking about he had been to war and consequently lost one of his legs and im sure he has some sort of PTSD. You never know unless you are really in their shoes thats why we all have to be understanding.
+wiirules13 Agreed... you never know what someone is going through which is why I try not to judge people. As far as getting rid of the assholes. Well lets just say we can all be assholes... lol
Very true. Even to our closest loved ones. Either way we all should try to balance and be peaceful! Interactions like those are toxic for wellbeing whether we know it or not
Accepting CBT totally is sort of like taking a deep breath, and holding it, then taking another one, without exhaling the one you just took. Before writing CBT off completely give it a little more thought; however, if you think that your personal inter-judgement of CBT, along with others, after your extended consideration is spot-on, then you are more than likely Right. FR
glad you liked it, any parts in particular that were useful?
cool, I did psychology at uni, good luck with the stats!
glad you liked it
i think the most important point here was to spoil the thoughts at the time of negative thinking
I been struggling for the last 4 months since mum died but the last 3 months I haven't been able to work as the pain has been to much and caused alsorts of problems with stomach and limbs trembling and pains and panic attacks Iam starting in January with a local CBT group to see wether it helps me as Iam just over thinking all the time and it caused myself more pain and panic attacks
Hi Zahid, I'm in Brighton and have been working with these kinds of techniques for around 6 years, though I'm a trainer not a therapist
ah yes, I read him as a child actually - loved it :-) Knots and The Divided Self
with training i imagine it would be a good base. Good luck. - Mark
you're welcome Jessy
Thanks - what kind of videos are you looking for exactly?
used a hell of a lot people who have addictions(and we all have them, sometimes called hobbies)
What you said was interesting
Very helpful, to remind you of the things you've forgotten but already know haha
Trying to help young children (5-10 yr olds) with anxiety, so it helps in educational school setting. Where can I find info/ certification program, etc? I’m a special ed teacgerK-5th grades
Thanks
Ms Connie
Really liked this video, it was insightful, useful and the instructor was a good speaker. Only change would be more background light please.
thank you
I would always recommend working with a trained profesional as there are many errors we can make self-applying techniques. I wish you well
I like the way I think...
More Technique is also recuired
I question why courses to teach these things aren't free or require one to jump through so many hoops to access and isn't well integrated into our educational system or other systems and wonder when all the energy we put into defense will be more equally allocated into prevention and healing.
I did find this helpful. I suffer from OCD.
I like CBT.
thanks, what did you like about it?
i hope it goes well and it may be very different from this
you're welcome, what did you like about it?
CBT and NLP have some similarities but a very different root. In terms of school - yes I agree - more about conditioning people to be conformist than really educating them very often
Hello sir, when I get up after sleep, I get to know that I am going and talking with people. This is happened to me every day. What should I do, I feel tired, pain in head..
Hey, sorry for the late reply, been busy preparing for cbt trainee interviews. I'm working in Blackpool at the moment for Fylde and Wyre. It's a really busy service with lots of complex clients. Really impressed by the style of your presentation and the content. How long have you been practicing? Where are you in the world? Zahid
So what are is the biggest difference between CBT and SFT?
thank you Zahid, where are you in the world?
Do you have program for people with mental disorder like bipolar and anxiety?
Do you ever hear of CBT making things worse?
I tried this for my anxiety, but the more I thought about my fears the worse they became, to the point they're now obsessive. I try to think positively, but after examining them from all sides I can't fool myself into thinking they're not serious threats and dismiss them. After looking at them objectively I see they're very real and terrifying, far more so than when I could just go "ah you're just crazy, you don't know that."
Why would this be?
So your telling me that. Cognitive. People. Think louder then they speak ?? And sometimes are forgetful of what they say out loud then what they say in there heads?? Can you please help me understand this better. ??
I came here for a postgrad assignment, but that accent though.
Hi, I have done a bit of research on CBT for low self esteem, social esteem and anxiety. I find myself fitting into many of the criteria set out in these books/blogs/articles but I lack the confidence to speak to someone about it. After all I don't want it to seem as if I am 'attention seeking' but yet feel its now becoming an issue in my everyday life. What would you suggest I do? I have been putting this off for around three years now.Much appreciated and great video. Han xx
thank you - who would the light help? Or just an aesthetic thing? - Mark
I haven't seen that evidence - I tink different things work well for different people
But what if the negative thoughts you have about yourself are based on fact?
Like what if your boss really does hate you?
Sam Haas then you should have the power to change those facts about yourself. i'm sure people just don't hate people by default, so it's usually always an ongoing battle
Sam Haas The big problem here is you saying, negative thoughts about YOURSELF based on facts such as your boss hates you. Wait, what the hell? That 'fact' has NOTHING to do with you whatsoever!!! It has everything to do with your boss. What on earth does it have to do with you if somebody hates you? Don't be ridiculous! It has nothing to do with you if your boss hates you. That is a reflection of your boss and your boss alone. It only says things about your boss - it doesn't say anything about you. Furthermore, it is irrelevant that your boss hates you if you're sitting at home without your boss present. It is irrelevant that your boss hates you if you are about to see him. It is only relevant when you are face to face with him and he is actively displaying signs that he hates you. In other words, worry about things in the present moment when they actually arise, not thinking about them when they're not even relevant to the present moment. Also - fine for you to believe your boss hates you (fact), as long as you don't interpret that to mean there's anything wrong with you (a meaningless assumption, not a fact), or that it means something terrible will happen (a meaningless assumption, not a fact), or you feel scared and behave without assertiveness when you speak to him (giving the fact significance it doesn't need to have)... Do you see?
I do see, but that's easier said than done. You're talking about trying to change one's entire outlook on the world. A person's outlook develops through childhood and adolescence in part from the way they were treated throughout life, the social abilities they learned from their parents and peers and how they begin to perceive the world through inter-personal relationships at these formative times. I was emotionally (and sometimes physically) bullied throughout life, and this has now really turned my outlook pretty negative. I can point to many traumatic experiences that I truly believe have stunted much of my emotional growth and destroyed my inter-personal skills. And I tell you, I don't think you can just will away "negative thoughts" or a negative outlook on life and humanity. Some people are optimistic and some are not. Instead of trying to change the negative outlooks (because that's what CBT tries to do) of certain people (like me), self help schlockers should instead teach people (like me) how to adapt their outlook and internal "truth"/"philosophy" to the harsh and judgmental society that we live in.
"I do see, but that's easier said than done."
Of course it is. Do you not think it's important enough to be actually done though?
Sam, I HATE positive thinking mumbo jumbo. I am NOT advocating positive thinking, positive affirmations or turning people into optimistic ones because there is no need. None of that is necessary.
I HIGHLY recommend mindfulness. A book I read and practised and I recommend you do the same if you are interested in doing work in this area is "Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world".
I want to point out one thing now - "This change will be hard", "Some people are optimists and some are pessimists and this is hardwired", "The society we live in is harsh and judgemental" - these things are all just thoughts. They're beliefs. They're ways of seeing the world. I'm not saying they're wrong, but if you can learn to realize that these things are subjective JUDGEMENTS of reality and not REALITY ITSELF, you will make progress. Trust me.
In fact, the biggest judgement you make is "I'm a pessimist". This is just a belief. It's not factual. It's a judgement. Compared to some people you're probably an optimist. Some people would look inside your head and say "You're an optimist". It truly is a subjective judgement and these beliefs can end up changing your other beliefs and behaviours so that it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I'm not recommending changing your thinking so you pretend you're an optimist. I'm saying, LOOK at this judgement as what it is and notice that it isn't actually reality itself. See if you can see your judgement as a phenomenon, a thought. See if you can observe it without identifying with it.
And if you can do that, notice something interesting in your awareness happens. That is, if you're observing a thought, you can't be your thinking. Your thinking is another thing, isn't it? It's not YOU. How can your thinking be you, if you are the one observing your thinking?
You're the one OBSERVING your thoughts. Every time you forget this and identify with your thoughts as if they're real, you're losing perspective. I'm not saying stop thinking because you can't, but just notice the thinking, observe it. You don't need to judge it (that would be more thinking) and you don't need to tell yourself to stop thinking (that would be more thinking), but it would be useful for you to simply observe all this and kind of 'know' deep in your bones that it isn't reality. Your beliefs and thoughts are PERCEPTIONS of reality. They are transient because they often change. They are like clouds in the sky, whereas your mind is the sky itself.
Anyway. You can do whatever you want. Above is my suggestions and recommendations based on my own experience. And as well as mindfulness (seriously, check that stuff out and do it and you will notice changes), I DO highly recommend cognitive behavioural therapy. It's NOTHING to do with simply turning your thinking positive, and I think you've misread it completely if you think it is. It's purely about aligning your thinking more closely with reality by eliminating unhelpful assumptions, and by stopping yourself doomsdaying and predicting the future as being somehow catastrophic. Let's face it, is accepting that your delusions that the future is going to be terrible really "positive thinking mumbo jumbo"? No, it's not. It's more realistic than believing your assumptions.
Sorry to hear about your past, by the way. But are you going to focus on your past or your present and your future?
Reality is in the minds’ eye, right?
It’s fragmented... multi-faceted. Isn’t that why we gravitate to “ like-minds?”
How can my physical pain be treated with CBT? Pain is a reaction to something that's gone wrong and a way of telling my brain to send stuff to help or/and for me to stop using or doing a thing which agrivate the area of pain. So how can CBT help?
Susan Miller hey! look up 'EFT'.
interesting - I haven't heard this perspective before - did you come to this conclusion yourself or read about it? Is it the individual focus you don't like? and glad you liked it too :-)
comments welcome
I read some opinions that CBT is a very succesuful type of therapy, but for a short time. The results are fantastic, but not as lifelong solution. Would you agree with that point?
so the 12 steps are not about a god or higher power? looking at it from a realistic view its actually CBT?
I love taking an exams, I love talking to a boss, I love job interviews, it all excites me and gives me adrenaline.
I HATE ROOM FULL OF PEOPLE, I THINK EVERYONE WATCHES ME AND JUDGE ME. OMG hahahaha. I'm so fucking retarded, my throat just stops and my heart. Jesus.....
"Thinking error" term is already judging concept that is not truly appropriate to kbt idea- to be realistic as much as possible. I recenltly heard about term- thinking strategy- that sounds more adequate.