Depression Lies About The Future
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- čas přidán 1. 07. 2018
- In this video, author and mental health educator Douglas Bloch talks about what happens to the brain when a person becomes severely depressed. The brain says that there is no hope for the future, that all is lost. But this is not true. A depressive illness distorts the brain's ability to see reality clearly. The fact is that hope exists and people do get better.
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"Your depressed brain cannot accurately forecast the future."
*Spraypainting this on my bedroom wall*
That is a good message to be reminded of
I just feel that is feel good rhetoric but baseless, I could also say that your euphoric brain makes you perceive the world as a fantastic magical place and that would also be deceiving ourselves. I speak from personal experience
@@leandrotami yeah but no one wants a euphoric one either, it’s just getting back to the average baseline.
spray painting it on my fore head
Depression lies about the past, too.
Prayer also helps so much...
True
@@rosesoftime5153 yes....I.pray..
@@kendallfound1358 very true.
@@rosesoftime5153 I was told once that prayer was the most important thing.
One of the greatest videos on the internet for anyone who went through the absolute hell of a clinical depression. I use to watch Doug's videos by the hour hanging to dear life. Your brain is sick and not working properly, don't listen to anything it says. You need to stay alive and try every possible avenue to get better and one day you will.
Thank you for your kind words. I hope you are feeling better now
0ppp
thank you
I love you Doug ...The World is my Family. I was born with only one hand and am a cancer survivor and a licensed Barber and real estate agent. You have saved me by God using you. Thank you so much because people can be very mean.
Thanks David. I’m impressed that you have overcome your adversities.
Hello David . You are an inspiration for me now. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. You are an inspiration for sure.
Sending you positive vibes and love ❤️.. Stay strong. You are important
@@chrisharder4854 thank you for the love Chris be blessed!
I'm having another crisis right now because I just turned 19 and feel like I have absolutely no future. Like it's too late for me to become any desirable adult. I really hope one day it passes.
That is your brain giving you wrong messages. At the age of 19 your whole future lies ahead of you. If these thoughts persist you might want to reach out to a mental health professional.
I feel the same way and I'm 20
I'm 21 and I feel the same.
@@NGU7754 same am fucked
Im 29 and feel the same
Depression is a distorting lens through which all thoughts and feelings pass - it distorts everything
Thanks Scott.
Definitely.
And the more severe the depression the more
it will distort.
I appreciate your sharing and desire to help others. I wish you the best.
That's one of the most horrible things about this Bloody illness. People that don't have it, don't understand it. So you become isolated.... and the shame of it kills you a little more each day. I know you're not supposed to but, sometimes alcohol is the crutch.
Definitely alcohol gets me through when prozac fails
@@garyreece5172 I hate the prescribed pills. I'm not sure their all their cracked out to be. I like the way alcohol makes me feel,but not the next day, if i over do it. I do a lot of exercise, and I'll go through periods of "normality" but then I get those mental cravings for alcohol,art and solitude. The pills feel so bad sometimes.God,Yuck. I gave my dad one of those pills one time because he was curious. He said it took him a half an hour to will to move off his bed to spring a leak :-D My late father always got up early. What is Quetiapine?. Guinea pigs.
“Depression survivor” doesn’t even sound possible to me
Yah. We all die eventually so why prolong suffering. I'm an atheist. The only thing close to a spiritual experience I've had was the hallucinations of psychidelics. I'm convinced now that all religion is based on hallucinations weather from starving, staying awake for days, or hallucinogenic plants. There is no objective evidence to support religion. I see the drive to survive as delusional because we all die eventually and we are not our children. Nothing of our true selves survives the death of our bodies, sun, universe. Our universe will either shrink back in on itself and crunch or expand so mutch that energy will be too spread out to do anything. Everything that we enjoy is an addiction. Its just playing around with nothing that could eventually amount to anything. Most people would like to believe in god but they don't. I think the ones that do have a mental structure that isn't useful for prediction. The only reason we exist is to sustain the pattern in time that is our species. This reality is untenable to me. I don't know why though. I don't even know what else is worth existing for hypothetically. Its like I don't want that to be my only for existing but all of my reasons are just the continuation of my species in disguise. I'm not evolved to be interested in anything else. My biggest reason for feeling this way is that I am convinced that climate change will make our planet uninhabitable to human life. We have no other alternative planet and mars cannot support a human population great enough to support enough genetic diversity to ward off genetic disorders that would end our species. The human race has doomed itself and I can't do anything about it and why do anything if I can't serve my primary function which is continuing the human race.
@@AkkarisFox dam dude what u said just idk kinda blew my mind. I believe in god though.
This truly is a helpful video....your doing good work here. You have to have been there to understand what you are speaking of. Thank you...
Doug you are a wonderful man I hope that you can find the strength to get through your current struggle. You will get there buddy. Sending kindness and love buddy ❤
Douglas, it's truly wonderful having your personal experiences, when you share I know you relate to what I'm going thru. Your so inspiring. Thank you.
Thank you sir. That was an amazing video. I felt very good watching this video. I am going through a depressing situation right now, and I have lots of thoughts in my mind including suicidal. I feel like this won't end, this will go on, but somewhere in my mind I say to myself that this will end, and I will feel better again.
Thank you once again.
Thanks Doug for always being here and answering my questions during live streams. My life hasn't been settled yet (in addition to the crazy landlord I talked about on the live stream)so it's been a tough month in Ireland but I am holding on. I hope one day I can come out of this hopeless state.
You will come out of it.
Thanks Douglas, glad to see you are doing well and looking healthy
Good to hear from you.
Awesome positivity sir. You are getting so many blessings from all of us. God must also be proud of your dareness.
Your videos literally saved my life. Thank you, Douglas. God sent!
Your videos are always very helpful. Whenever I feel like sliding into depression or anxiety get on CZcams just to look for some words of encouragement. I find all these motivational speakers and wannabe studio therapists, but your videos are the only ones that hit the right spot. Thank you very much.
I’m glad they were helpful.
Great video Douglas! Thank you!
Hi Douglas. I am very depressed right now. I am grateful that I can binge watch your channel. Thanks!
You’re more than welcome. Do you know what is causing your depression?
Great video Douglas! I see you have a nice number of new subscribers. Well deserved!
Wow, I haven't heard from you in awhile. you should join a live chat.
Thank you, sir, today was such a painful day for me emotionally. For a while there it seemed like I’d never feel good ever again. I came out of it, though, and your video was a lifeline.
I’m glad you came out of your dip I have a favorite saying that I created: “what goes down must come up.“ All emotional states are temporary and if we can hold on long enough they will pass.
Hi Douglas I think your videos are so helpful and have helped me through the past year! Keep up the great work 😊
Thank you.
Thank you Douglas.
Got me crying, but it's a healthy cry.
This was very helpful 🤗🤗
Really appreciated your sharing about depression lies about the future. Thanks Douglas, your so inspiring for me.
Douglas, keep the good work up, I had a extremely rare severe reaction to a general anaesthetic in 2013 where I woke to severe depression and anxiety disorders. I woke in hell and so began my 4 year journey of suffering, discovery, understanding and recovery back to life, but amongst other tools your website and great videos and advice such as 'when going through hell don't stop' helped to save my life! I wish one day I could meet you and shake your hand and thank you in person. God bless and thank you, Norm.
You are welcome. Have you read my memoir, "When Going Through Hell ... Don't Stop!" If not, let me know your email address and I will email you an e-book.
Thanks Douglas, I'll send you an email. On my recovery road I have met a number of people at different levels of depression, each one I pass on your site details as I firmly believe that you give real help and support, and hearing your own struggles and experiences is just such a relief as I can relate directly to you with my own similar experiences such as severe reactions/intolerance to meds, so knowing I'm not on my own was an amazing boost! As antidepressant etc were no good to me my own recovery began with understanding my depression and severe anxiety disorder. This is where your site was a real eye opener to me and a 'go back to' reference for information and a 'survive minute to minute' start for me. I think as an engineer I took well to CBT as I found it logical and structured. Lorazepam, though extremely addictive and gives memory problems, slowly brought my anxiety under control and after 3 years taking it I tapered of it 6 months ago (took 8 months and supervised by my doctor). But taking Lorazepam gave me some light respite and the chance to bring my depression under control where now I am living again, but fully aware that that black cloud is always not too far off, so as part of my life I have learned to avoid stressful situations and use CBT all the time. I could write a book on my experiences and journey. Thanks again Douglas and always take good care, Norm
Thank you so much Douglas for these videos. I have several of them saved under "hopeful messages". I listen to them with tears as I try to hold on. It's like listening to encouragement from a good friend who's been there. But I get so tired of feeling this way every day, trying to trick myself or distract myself into making it through another day. It's so hard to have hope when these bad feelings just won't go away 😪
Rachael. Thanks for your comment. You are doing exactly the right thing. Your bad feelings have not gone away yet, but they will. One thing that will help is if you are under good professional care with a counselor and or a prescriber. Are you able to do this? Also, if you go to my channel home page tomorrow, Sunday, at 12 noon Pacific coast time, you can join our live video chat and support group where you will get lots of support and encouragement from the other people. I hope you can attend. The online support occurs every Sunday at noon.
@Douglas Bloch Thank you for your kind response. I've started seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. I'm on my 4th antidepressant and praying that this one will work. I've had some really good days here and there, so maybe we're onto something. Thanks for the invitation to the live chat!
You're welcome. I hope you can make it
I recently fell into an episode 😖… again … I go back to your videos they are so helpful. Even the older ones like this one. Last time I visited was 7 years ago in my last episode.
I’m so glad you exist.. I’m in such a bad state that I have to put in a huge effort just to be able to put some words together and write this comment and have it make sense.
Greetings from Beirut, Lebanon ❤
Thank you. I’m glad my videos have been helpful. Keep persevering, and remember this, too, shall pass
Thankyou for your encouraging thoughts😊
Thank you for this reminder. When I can't accomplish a lot today and am just hanging on, the future looks bleak. The goal is to survive, not fret the future, which is what I have been doing. Thank you!
Yes, we survive one day at a time. Then one day we will hopefully thrive.
Idk wat i would do without these videos
Thanks Douglas Bloch❤️
You're welcome
Thank you for your valued help in my depression time.
Douglas!!! My God. Your friend Michael was spot on! ^_^ And not only about the book, you are saving friendships, marriages, LIVES!!! You have no idea what a blessing you have been for me and my loved ones. People dismiss those who are mentally ill, or going through traumas like they should figure it all on their own and that will make them better when in reality they are the ones that need us the most! Thanks to your work I have learned how to be more understanding of my own loved ones and it is PRICELESS to learn what you shared, not only because it has helped me, help others stay alive, but because it comes from a person who has been there and is a survivor of this terrible monster. You are so strong for overcoming all your struggles, and yet are there helping others like you do. Great job truly. That explanation that you gave from your book helped me even more so. I see what sufferers mean and it just helps me react with compassion rather than frustration. Thank you.
Thank you. Feel free to join me on my Sunday live chats at noon Pacific coast time, USA. At noon go to:
czcams.com/users/healigdepression and click on the link to the live chat. You can also subscribe to the channel and get notified of new videos
Douglas Bloch I saw that. ^_^ I set up my alexa to remind me 1 hr before you go live!! Looking forward to it. Thank you
Thank you for your advice.. It helped me a lot.. Please continue to convey this message. You are important to us ❤️
I’m glad the information has been helpful
Thank you Sir. I appreciate you and the hope you give.
I lost my fiance while I was in the psychiatric ward. Family turned on me because, I'm assuming, they were feeling awkward, and my son's turned on me and now are staying with their dad and I'm an embarrassment to them. I'm having trouble seeing a good ending, but, I'll keep trying
Debbie Thomas I hope all is well❤️
I hope you are better now LOVE YOU
@@cliffkonkle3467 thank you. It's day by day but I keep moving forward. I wish you a healthy and happy life, as well
Debbie Thomas hope you getting better, I wish you things get better, I’m in the bad place too
@@debbiethomas4472 Debbie, you are a warrior. It's sad that your child is not with you. But one day he will and he will see finally that you were a warrior. Please hold on because we need to see that smile on your face. You deserve all the happiness you can gather and I send hope from this side and you find it in you to work for it and get it. Love from India!
Thank you, sir. Very soothing words as always. Stay safe.
Thank you kindly
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
So glad!
I’m so glad I’ve found your videos, they’ve been helping me a lot and I’ve only started watching them yesterday.
Thanks. Let me know which ones are most helpful
Douglas Bloch so far besides this one, You Can Be Restored, Three Ways to Combat Hopelessness, your video about being productive with 6 things to do even while depressed and basically just the idea that “this too shall pass” and the saying “when going through hell, don’t stop”. I’ve honestly never heard these things before and it’s totally helped me caring for my little children at home day in and day out with depression and anxiety.
Thanks for letting me know. I am glad that you have found these coping strategies helpful
@@susygenevieve how are you today dear?
I'm doing really really well! I was able to begin counseling a year ago and have been going every week since. Depression has subsided, along with a significant amount of anxiety. I still deal with some anxiety but Im much better at coping with it than I was before.
You know what, this video really helped me. Greetings from Finland!
Thank you. I'm about to get a Finnish sauna.
This was actually helpful...this new question is going to help a lot. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Great video Douglas.Thank you.
Some of the best advise i have heard, it isnt about surviving the next year it is about surviving the next 12 hours or whatever it takes, could have so used this a few years back.
It’s always good to have this tool in your toolbox in case things go south. I depended upon it for my survival in the past
Thank you for the inspiration
You're welcome.
Thank You Mr Earth Angel , I will try!😇🙏I do subscribe! ❤
Thanks for sharing on You tube , I have a limited attention span so can’t seem to read much but like your hope based video’s !
I really needed this today. Thank you.
You’re more than welcome. You might want to watch another video of mine called “your pain is not forever.”
@@DouglasBloch thank you I will
Honestly this video really helped me.
I needed this.
Thank you, love to hear you.
Thanks. I’m glad the video was helpful
For some people it will pass. Some will never recover. Life is cruel. Expecting a good outcome would be naive. Many people go out sad and miserable. This is no charity. This game of life
Yes, but most people can make things work out
Thanks Douglas. It’s exactly where I am. Great advice.
You're welcome.
you are inspirational doug
Thanks. Are you subscribed to the channel? If not, simple go to this link and click on subscribe and the button to the right.
czcams.com/users/healingdepression
Thank you a lot for this video, it really helps me🤍😌..& really appreciate your work 🙌🤍🤍
Happy to hear that!
Thank you Mr. Bloch.
Well said douglass. Thank you
This is a powerful message thank you. I am trying to break stigma, guilt, and shame from having to rest a lot with chronic illness because I am NOT a lazy person on my non flare days ..but when I flare my mind tells me this is to much pain and I have no future. It's a lie.
Yes it is.
Thank You
We love you!
Hello Douglas, Things do get better,, however I have one scar that never will fade. As hard as I try it simply does not diminish. Thank You for yet another Great Video! I am doing my best to watch, what I know now is over 200 video's. Thank You,, and to all who make these video's possible.
Thanks Joey. Have you really watched 200 videos?
@@DouglasBloch No Sir,, I am sorry I wrote in is that now I know that there are over 200 video's.. that is my goal. I probably should have worded it different, however I am well on my way there. You are very calming to me... and definitely THE REAL DEAL! I will have seen them all very soon. THANKS!
Good. I’m glad you haven’t watched all of them yet. We all need something to look forward to
I love you Douglas! Thank you for everything you do cheers!
Thanks. You should join my live chat on Sunday at 12 pm pacific coast time.
Oh gosh I will sure try!
in next 50 years, this will be most watching channel
Thank You for Your talk
again, thank you!
This too shall pass. Thanks Douglas
this is one of the best videos on this channel
I'm so glad you found it helpful.
Thank you so much for the wonderful video
You are so welcome!
Thanks , Douglas, yes this is how I feel. Now I have some extra challenges which are life practical decisions and actions but feel really weak and anxious as it's so very hard to do the things that have to be done in this condition. there are financial and even housing circumstances that if I don;t move to go and do what's goat be done I'll be in a worse situation and that can't happen.. What is your advice for when someone has to get up and do stuff and make decisions and fight because the world and life don't stop to wait for another year of you being depressed.. while you're actually not going to get better anyways if you don't move.. Thanks for the words, made me cry hearing that someone truly understands..
Do the best you can to do what you need to do. Also, reach out for support. Having a good therapist would be very helpful.
this was great thank you it reminds me of very important information.
Glad it was helpful!
Love it!
Sage advice indeed Douglas.
Great information ...
This is sooo good. I'm often asking if I will ever get out of this hole. Wrong question. God bless you richly for your videos. They are extremely helpful 🤔🎵
Thanks. You should also look up my video “four words that can save your life.“ It’s about the words this too shall pass.
Thank you. This helps.
Douglas! Mate! I hope you live long to help more people
Thank you.
Excellent advice
Thank you man
sure appreciate your good work Douglas. All, very helpful & ignorance/mis-information shattering...K
Thanks Douglas
bloch thank you so much!
You are welcome
Currently on my third month of manic on & off depression. Lockdown here and I haven't worked in months, money is low & its almost like I don't see an end in sight.
Yes this is helpful as i said in your other videos i will not make another video about my depression problems & instead i will list it here like i already talked about my father drowning in pool which happened while i closed my eyes for not that long
starwars adventure cards lol love it! great video
I have failed in everything I have ever tried. I am 26 years old now. So many people are already rich and famous and many more are becoming rich and successful who are even younger than me. As a man I feel like I have already failed. I have to go back to school now and finish my final thesis, only to slave my life away 1 second at a time until I am finally no more. What a wonderful life this is...
Damn, if this ain't true. I'll keep this in mind the next time I go through an episode.
Yes Freddy, you should do that!
Thank you
Thank you 🙏❤️
You are so welcome
This is extremely helpful. Last Tuesday I had a very scary thing happen with a sibling (I'm trying to cut said sibling out of my life as she's very abusive and manipulative) and I'm not handling it well. I've fallen into quite a depression, scared to even go to work, karate, or aerials. Im a mountain man (woman) re-enactor and I do the local parade, but I'm afraid to do that. I'm afraid of what she'll do. Its been a very long time since she's scared me like this and even though everyone says she can't do anything, its hard to believe. But anyway, this was very helpful. Thank you Douglas.
Sorry about your lapse, but you will come out of it. The key is to reach out for support. Friends are a good place to start. Do you have a therapist you can call?
Douglas Bloch I'm trying to find a therapist but its really hard. Also, I've talked to a few friends and explained what's going on. My cousin suggested I try to find a therapist too. Its just really hard to find one.
Your videos are so helpful to me thank you.
Thank you Doug for everything you're a great help
You’re welcome. I’m glad I can be of service
Is this even the case when suffering from a sudden onset? I recently became very anxious and depressed (although I have a history of this). Since then all I could about was how badly my future will be affected by past mistakes coming back to haunt me
As I said, I don't believe that your brain is telling you. You can reach out for help and find a good mental health practitioner to work with
I STRESSED ABOUT PAST MISTAKES BUT NOW I FEEL BETTER
Thanks Doug. I really needed this tonight. I have been wondering how I will make it through everyday until I die naturally. I've been in therapy for about 40 years and psych meds for about 30 years. Life beats the shit out of us. I wonder how much longer I can go on. Thanks
The key is to take one day at a time, and write down any moments where you feel even a modicum of pleasure. Keep these in a journal, and over time you’ll see that you have been given at least a few reprieves.And every now and then, we get a full day of peace.
Douglas Bloch thanks!
@@joho9815 write me please
@@dariabat1837 hi Daria
@@joho9815 let’s chat somewhere else. I really want to know your story… I thought we could morally help each other
Love from India, this video was amazingly helpful, thanks!
You’re welcome
Watching and crying 😔😭🥺
I've been in a state of hopelessness since I was about 12. It's been 15 years. Life has turned out exactly as I thought, there was no hope.
you explained it perfectly what it's like to have no hope for the future
but will It go completely that's usually what I wonder, I mean the thought of having to go through this ups and down process for the rest of my life is the most horrible thing I can think of, and not that i'm seeking sympathy but I also suffer from health anxiety to and that truly is hellish in fact it's prob the worst thing I suffer from,
You are correct. Health anxiety is tough to overcome, but I have known people who have done it. Depression lifts and when I do come up for air, there enough worthwhile things in life to keep me going day by day.
that defintely helps to hear that, I guess you've just got to be persistent, but I really appreciate people like you that make these kind of videos they really do help
Thanks Douglas, I'll try my best to survive the 12 hours.
One hour at a time. Have you reached out for support?
Really helpful video am struggling at the moment just waiting for a appointment with the mental health team. Could take up to 6 wks.. am hanging in there and it's 1 day at a time..
Happy independence Day
Enjoy the fireworks ..
Liverpool city centre are celebrating independence
Day there flying flags and theirs a dance festival in on of the main streets ..
Thank Doug xxxx
Thanks for checking in. Why does Liverpool celebrate an American holiday?
The trouble is; i've concluded, i'm not living, i'm just surviving, that's all i've even done! But the most important thing in my life is to survive. I want to be able to keep going, to keep working in a job, to be able to support myself. Thanks for another inspirational clip, I hope you can help me to save my life.
You just listed three reasons to keep on living. What kind of social support do you have?
@@DouglasBloch I don't have any social support! This present covid 19 situation does'nt help. I live by myself, it's pretty tough. I worry about my job, i'm a Postman in England. I don't know how i keep going!
Just found your channel. Any tips for social anxiety that’s just ALWAYS there? Thank you from a new subscriber!
I haven't yet done a video on social anxiety, but I should. There must be lots of good information on CZcams.
Douglas Bloch yes sir please do