How To Be Desired By Your Wife Again
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I have to say, many times women have simply forgotten how to act right. They aren’t the woman you dated, they become bossy, argumentative, masculine, and unappreciative. And most of all, disrespectful. If your woman is disrespecting you it’s probably over. The advice for this particular video that the man hast to become a Casanova to learn how to win her back is presuming that it’s the man’s responsibility to fix her. She needs to fix herself, to check herself, a little self analysis. If she has become all those negative things I described above, no amount of doing dishes is going to fix her.
Take the lead? We only stop taking the lead after the 100th consecutive "no im tired"
What if your leadership isn't valued, respected, and is neglected (turned down)…?
It could be the problem is with her and not with him. 🤷♂️ It really is too simple to say one thing will solve the problem. This might work in some situations. However if a guy starts doing everything that she asks she might see him as not a man. It is way more complicated than one video or a series of videos. I'll point you to evolutionary biology. It also helps when the woman is available and makes herself available to the man.
Facts.
Okay, give her a monster drink mixed with coffee, and trust be she was jumping literally.
Exactly. How many times does a husband have to be turned down before he gives up? I’m hearing this and saying, “nah” this is just textbook psycho-babble, you’re obviously not talking about any woman I know.
This lady just told y’all a bunch of bullshit. That is not how you get your wife to be attracted to you again. It’s not by trying to fulfill all her needs. The best way to get your wife to be attracted to you again is basically the same way you get ANY woman to be attracted to you, and that’s by working on reinventing yourself. Your mind, body and finances. Upgrade yourself. Put your priorities first and as a buy product, she’ll benefit from it as well. Rebuild yourself to the point that she feels you’re out of HER league and the attraction will start building back up again
This, right here. Nail on the head.
It's a combination of things not just thinking about yourself. You have to be more attentive to her needs also is how you get some sorry hun. 😊
In the romance novels those dudes are not washing no damn dishes either LOL
😂😂😂
When I open up and discuss what's on my mind, it quickly becomes about her. She generally tunes me out no matter what I say.
Then tell her that - as soon as the conversation becomes about her - tell her that once again we're talking only about you and you're tuning me out like a radio
Talk and open up more? We men have learned from experience that the more we shut up the more peace we have.
The cold truth is you can do as many dishes or loads of laundry that you want. When your wife decides she doesn't want sex from you, she's not attracted to you. She may love and appreciate being with you for the sake of keeping the family in check but will likely never feel sexual towards you again. She definitely won't lust after you like so many men hope for. It's not communication either that will do it. Men that are watching this video have turned over the easy stones long time ago trying to find what's wrong. There's something deeper that requires real help or no help at all.
We gotta ask ourselves did we stop being the man she fell in love with or she may unfortunately not be the one for you. That's hard when you have a family but accepting less is not an option.
I don’t think he is saying accepting less is okay. I think what he’s trying to say is what I feel as well and live everyday. My wife doesn’t want to sleep with me. And she doesn’t want to approach me and after a while it gets tiring of always following like a sad puppy and we’ll I think he’s just saying get used to it. So until something changes guess sex is just whenever.
Sometimes it’s true, once dysfunction has gone on too long it’s almost impossible to get it back. However, it’s not always impossible.
This woman actually hit the nail on the head, and I am not kidding. I tried having an intimate moment tonight with my husband myself, and it was terrible. But he if he had done any one of these things, I would’ve been so much more turned on then I was tonight. I have not mentioned the fact that I am the one to initiate sex in several years. But I Truly am always the one to initiate it. I just can’t do it anymore. I absolutely do need him to take charge. Not every time but at least once a freaking blue moon. I can’t just jump and want it. I need him to make me want it. Otherwise I just don’t want it at all and I’m just having sex to please him. But it always ends up as bad sex with me getting nothing out of it. Why? Because he did absolutely nothing to turn me on. And this is not to mention the fact that every time I try to have a discussion with my husband, about anything that I am feeling, he constantly tells me, “ I said that,” about something he absolutely never said. I thought it was just me for my husband. Now I’m finding out it’s just all men. And then when I try to discuss it with him, all he wants to do is stop the conversation and stop me from talking as quickly as he possibly can because he is uncomfortable talking about it. There’s only so much a woman can take. We need to discuss things. I’m sorry, men, we just do. And if you cannot talk to us about things then guess what? You are not going to be able to turn us on.
Its a two way street. Remember that
When that happens, it's time to ditch the bitch.
1. She doesn't want to talk to me because she would rather stick her face in her phone.
2. I already do most of the housework.
3. I've been trying to take the lead for years and it results in rejection 99.99% of the time.
Number 3 is illegal BTW
Exactly man. The only way to get her to fuck is hand her divorce papers to sign. She'll either sign or fuck. You get laid one way or another.
I feel for you. Mobile phones and, the Internet, fucked society AND individuals up in many many ways.
Leave her
I pursue my wife every morning and every night. I get rejected every freaking time. It's getting ridiculous and I'm starting to get fed up. Her excuses are things like... I just washed my hands... I just put aquafore on my lips... I have to clean the house..... The rejection is getting to a boiling point. I work. She does not. I know she works hard around the house taking care of her daughter making sure everyone scheduled is accurate... But, she has no time or energy left for intimacy between us... It's not so bad that she's tired but it is bad that she's not even trying
“...getting her needs met.”
Tough to accomplish when the goalposts are on wheels.
“Take the lead...”
Open invitation to the litany of excuses: I’m tired, I worked all day, I need a shower, I have to get up early, the laundry (done) the dishes (clean) the...the...the...
There’s rarely a reason to want to, but always always some goddam excuse not to.
Male her chase you. Do things around the house just because it needs to be done. Not expecting anything in return. Don't make sexual advances but do flirt with her. When she wants sex turn her down. Turn her down a few times in a row. It will drive her crazy and she'll want to jump your bones.
@@Diesel-hq4yl No she won’t. I know, because I’ve tried that. Backing off and letting her take the lead is a tactic proven to fail, because many women’s drive is reactive and not proactive.
Lately, though, things have gotten a bit better. It’s every week or so, instead of monthly at best.
@@mikem6176 If things got better for you can I ask what advise could you share?
@@testchannel3187 After >20 years of once-a-month, and several times hearing it from me that it’s just not enough, she (get this) saw in a goddam TicToc video that guys need it every few days. I mean, holy shit, what a f*king epiphany.
@@mikem6176 Shit... I was expecting a different answer hahaha! Anyways thanks for answering!
Okay so, sounds like women are just unfulfilled. I have done all those things you said. I have tried the communication straight up and have had the convos with my wife and even have helped her with the dishes I do dishes every Saturday and at random when It seems she’s tired or just not getting to them, I massage her I help her clean I am obviously there for my kids I even would approach her and take the lead all the time to the point where she said it was too much. I have bought her flowers, I have tried not being too sexual and then I get called fake. Men if you apply these things to your life you might get a thank you honey or a good husband reward from her friends but I have not seen the desire. I went a whole month not approaching her and she didn’t even try once. Women have a sexual power over men. And I am tired of it. And then the days of oh I’m tired I want to sleep but hey they go on their phone 30 minutes prior. Rubbish. I don’t know maybe men aren’t supposed to be desired? This is how I feel. I am not a soy boy I even lost weight with the hopes that she would want to attack me and it ain’t working so I guess we’re just doomed? 🤷♂️ happy hunting men.
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Im constantly doing things for my wife. Washing dishes, folding laundry, etc.. I will work 60 hours weeks and make dinner 4 nights a week for the family when my wife is a stay-at-home mom. I'm pretty sure that this has changed our dynamic to where she doesn't find me attractive anymore. Because the s*e has stopped. And it's now becoming expected that I do all these things.
When wife looking for ways to control you, they withhold sex…
It's simple , tell her you are moving on. You can't please a dishonest, unaccountable person.
Asking my wife something doesn’t help.
She is too indecisive to make a firm decision. She expects me to “just know.”
Support goes both ways... Even if you do this and you get nothing.... It's over
You're looking especially gorgeous today, arica :) love the necklace :)
I have done all this to my fiance and she didn't respond to any of it. A lot of what you said it things she dose and I'm the one trying to get her to open up to me and she keeps it all in. I had her watch this and she said this won't work. I asked her why its a great way to get closer with out being intimate. I'm trying to show you I care about you and want to know what's on your mind and how your day/feelings are. And she responded with you just wouldn't understand. I responded with help me understand and help you help us. And that was the end before she shut down
re-think marrying her..
Divorce pure and simple.
What if I’m not attracted to my wife? What if my wife doesn’t think she has to do any work at our relationship?
😂😂 washing dishes and doing laundry doesn’t mean shit to my wife.
How many times has a man initiated it and been turned down? After awhile that shit gets old and we stop trying. Again that's somehow our fault?
My wife apologizes for the doing the same thing over and over and then does it again
It's like a broken record with the housework. Is that all I'm good for?
What if it’s the other way around when your husband has no desire for his wife?
Love your info.. im doing good...gonna take the lead
problem with a woman telling you what women want is that you can't believe anything a woman says only what she does. So none of this is valid in the least bit
Opening up doesn't work when she stonewalls you
Gotta say, there's good advice for women in here too.
Just by looking at these comments I can tell this video isn’t what I’m looking for
With stressful world and economy we’re in, as the man I’m reluctant to over share my concerns for the future of our country, our kids’ future world they’re going to inherit. If I get her worries what does that solve?
No sex for years, not a question on how i feel. Now some other women are expressing interest in me, jenuinely i mean, and i feel more needed and appreciated and loved in those 10 minutes interactions than all the other years being faithfully at home with her. I haven't touched anybody else yet, just realizing my situation now.
Guess what ?
She feels it and started to "pull the leash" a bit by talking talking talking talking (obviously no sex needed at all for her).
I'm trying to be respectfull and i talked about that to her being completely honest and opened.
No results. No change. Nothing.
I'm in such frustration i've never been in my life, i'm 42 and still looking sexy and beautiful and i want i life of happiness, pleasure, love and laughter.
Sometimes i feel like im just gonna cheat on her not giving a sheesh no more, but that is not the person i want to be.
Have you got some hints guys ? This is bad.
Thanks !
Eye opener seeing how many husbands are being sidelined and I speak from experience . Looks like women have become indifferent to chivalry devotion love respect in fact they are too comfortable to a point of boredom. A good struggle gives them a wake up call. Defining the struggle is for each man to decide. Ignore her and focus on your desires hobbies motivations. Rent out a spare room to a sexi pole dancer. Tell her it's to cover your therapiest fees. Who incidently has just started out fresh from uni.
we are just want reciprocation and if it's not forth coming get it elsewhere. I married you we took vows that cannot be fulfilled so there shouldn't be a problem having some fulfilment from a willing participant. A rigid frigid doesn't want to find pleasure so it's her problem to solve or accept there is an alternative that shouldn't be upsetting for her. No need for her to deny you that if she anyway doesn't need pleasuring. From you.
2 extremes in women. If she can't accept she can file for divorce. Keep the house and fill it with vibrant tenants . Reserve 1 room for the ex.
Get her to cognitive behavioral counseling. See if she has lack of empathy tied to personality disorder. She needs to understand that intimacy for a man and woman are not always the same. If you begin to shut down in your responsibilities to her, she will get angry. Sex is a duty of a wife to her husband and vice versa. This is a form of high disrespect. Create boundaries and you will see hire fast She beginnings to change. Go to the gym and prioritize your health, and friendly interactions over her. See how fast she changes
I have realized after years that I don’t think marriage is natural men need variety not just sex but mentally too …IMO
Finally, some advice I can use. 8 videos later this was magic. Thank you.
This is just superb, I've been looking for "my wife came back" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Jenaniel Forgiveness Blueprint - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my brother in law got great results with it.
Listening to your video and SMH about how many points you’ve made where I’ve failed her. She’s sleeping right now and I’m in my garage anxiously waiting for her to wake up. I can’t wait to ask her, “what can I do to support you today, this week or for the rest of my life? I’ll start with off baby steps though and and ask about with today. Thank you for these knowledgeable gems.
How did it go? ❤ ❤
So I’m supposed to help around the house when I’m running a business, working in the business, fixing the house, coaching the kids sports and with my my hour or two of exhaustion time I supposed to clean the house so my wife will be relaxed enough to desire me, maybe?
Golden advice .
Maybe , you can read a romance novel together?
Honesty is the best policy ❤
She sits in front of the TV and plays games on her phone. If I interrupt that, she is irritated.
Bro, do your own thing. Don’t ever let a woman dictate what you do and feel. This is called a low value man. Think about it she doesn’t need your attention because you have already given it to her. Back away and do your own thing or bring it up to her if it bothers you but don’t act needy.
@@KickingIt-In-the-Kitchen No worries mate. I just get on the Harley and do my own thing.
@@KickingIt-In-the-Kitchen really good advice. I let my wife know early on that i don't need her in my life. I want her. as soon as a woman gets a hint that you NEED her, she will view it as weakness weather she's actively thinking it or not and that's unattractive to women.
Bring home a babe and start banging her in front of your wife. See if THAT gets her damn head out of the phone!
@@billelliotdalton9730 hell yeah brother 😎
No, no, no, no. Any conversation leads to me being in the wrong, and responsible for all that is wrong in her life. Unless I completely agree with her, then I am attacking her. Sex, then is not a thing.
So just wanting to know ....take the lead ..ok but when you get rejected 4 times out of 5 ...i just take it again and again ...or is there something else maybe ..? Thks to anyone who wants to answer
It is called Choreplay
Take the lead. This doesn’t make sense. So as a man, I always have to initiate and show that I desire her and she has no interest even though she does. Same with being intimate. What’s the point then. Sounds like a one sided effort.
mine is broken. lost the receipt
Are you the actress from NCIS Los Angeles??
Yes. She has another career.
What dobyou do when the wife just refuses to have sex? No trauma or ill feelings for sex? Its more common for men to constantly get rejected by their spouse than for him to not be interested.
Why does it have to be the man to initiate? If I never asked I'd never get it.
Cuz we are always wrong
What about when she’s become asexual and only gives the occasional “duty sex”?
She requests you need to recreate Valentines Day each weekend “to get her in the mood.”
Treated her great (without gifts and flowers though), and had zero impact. Not worth the effort to get her near the point she thinks I must create her desire. She’s responsible for her own contribution to intimacy. If I have to become Casanova for one more duty intimacy, I’d rather walk away.
GOOD
I think I saw you on Ted Talk..
I cant even believe all these comments from husbands saying their wives won’t bang them. Makes me feel even more stupid for being the female in that same position
Women go through this as well
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I wish my wife comes to me and say let's make love. Why its always man who has to start , when sex is need for both. Its been 20 years of my marriage , she never approach me , when I ask why don't u start , she said iam shy.
I know it sucks, but she might be saying she's shy and doesn't want sex, for the following reasons : 1 she might feel that you're not doing enough around the house. I would ask her if she would like you to do more around the house, and then do things she'd like you to do. 2 reintroduce romance in the relationship. Buy her flowers on a random day, tell her how much she means to you,plan spontaneous dates doing things she likes to do. Run a bath for her when she's tired 3 when you make love to her, make sure you spend plenty of time on foreplay before you start with penetrative sex. By foreplay I mean, among other things, kissing, giving massages, roleplay and phone sex. In general, women need more stimulation than men to be ready for sex. The reason i'm suggesting all of this to you is that i'm guessing that your roots are in a non western country. I'm of indian origin myself. I grew up in the west, and i've found out from experience that many of these things work. Part of the problem in indian culture is that, since dating before marriage is uncommon, indian men don't know what women want before marriage, and often don't know what women want after marriage, because there's no culture of openness on issues of romance and sex. Part of the reason why your wife might not be initiating sex is the fact that she would like, or expect you, to do the things I mentioned, and is too shy to say it. Another thing which I think you should know is that 80 percent of women don't climax from penetrative sex. They need to stimulated orally or with your fingers. By oral stimulation, I mean that you lick and suck the clitoris. I know this sounds disgusting, but if you do it gently, there's a very high likelihood she'll enjoy it. I'm speaking from experience. Also, if you're not doing this, i'd try fingering your wife. By that I mean stimulation of the clitoris with and vagina with no more than two fingers. I'd make sure that your finger nails are cut before you do this. I'd start with slowly inserting your index finger in her vagina and stimulating her clitoris. When she's reasonably wet, i,d slowly stick my middle finger in her vagina, and stimulate the rest of her vagina, while you're stimulating her clitoris with the other finger. I'm sorry if my post might seem slightly offensive or graphic. I'm genuinely trying to help you, and I feel that talking about the way men approach love making can be part of the problem at times. In my opinion, if you do.most of the things I mentioned, your wife will feel so free with you,that there's a good chance she'll slowly start initiating sex with you. Hope this helps.
Same here buddy I’m married for 2 years now never has she once asked me haha😂 I’m not bad looking either in a lot of girls opinions but I guess im not good looking enough for her anymore smh😰
Amen
Just beg it works
What if you’re the one who always cleans and opens up ?
Then you're the woman
@@fordshojoe8080 sad mindset. Humans should know how to clean. 🤷🏿♂️
@@uglyskateboards4457 if you do all of it then you are taking on that roll and she doesn't open up or clean she's taking the other.
Not being an asshole just speaking from exp. You need to talk to her and tell her you can't be the man she wants you to be if she doesn't let herself go around you and open up to you.
The real question is how to be desired by Erica
After years…I don’t care anymore.
Yo I am a stay at home dad clean the house and I make 100 k a year in sales when she’s in nursing school and is so busy she doesn’t give it up so wtf lol
She’s good 🔥
Perfect example of why a man should never take advice from a woman on how to be a man. This advice is so pathetic.
Do the dishes! 🤣
I'm reading in the comments guys saying that taking the lead wont fix the problem but she did mention that taking the lead is scary because of the possibility of rejection. Who cares? As a man, you should be a leader in every area of your life. Focus on developing those leadership skills and dont fall victim to making excuses. I rather lead and deal with rejection than be scared to lead and not getting any results at all. Eventually she will see the changes and desire you even more.
How long have you been married?
@@michaelreynolds4.0 By the grace of God coming up on 6 years. 8 years together.
@@Electronicsflippa Amen brother. 10 here!
The problem is when it's literally every fucking time you even try you get rejected. That shit gets old after a while and you think well why even fucking try.
Eventually you get tired of the BS. In other words, why be with someone who does not want to be with you? Life is too short.
All of those novels have a very important back story which most men don't realize. The guy is usually rich with a 6 pack and a very checkered past that the woman tries to fix or change. That's the key. The woman's power to change a bad boy into a loving caring understanding mate. The sex is the result
Yea and then she succeeds at changing him and then wonders why he's not the bad boy she fell in love with
did not work
Open up...LMFAO!!! That's how you get into a fight and become the bad guy. Any problems you have will be turned into her being the victim and you the bad man.
Also women only want you to take the lead if she's ALREADY hot and ready to go!!! If she's not you go to prison for that.
The real problem is you got married. Don't do that, it does nothing for you and only creates liability and damage. Just pay up front. Never cohabitate, never marry.
But she is already menopause so how???
This doesn't work
Simple don’t get married, your wife’s thinking about someone else or getting it from someone else, it’s going to happen weather your married or not, why tie her down with commitment She’s not your it’s just your turn. It is impossible for a woman to love one man forever sorry I don’t believe it you’ll always go for what’s best for you, let’s just end marriage there’s no reason to have it anymore
I’ve overly communicated my feelings, I do the majority of the house work - including caring for the children and I’ve tried the aggressive sweep her off her feet approach many times. Still I’m getting rejected because she says she just has a low sex drive. Yet, we use to have sex 3-4 a week and now I’m lucky if it’s once a month. I love her very much but as this continues I feel like I just keep getting broken down. Help!!
Arica Angelo Thank you for your advice. I will give that a try.
Whenever I have communicated my feelings on this issue with her in the past she tells me that talking about it puts pressure on her and that she has a low sex drive. That response from her doesn’t make sense to me given how active our sex life was before. I’ve flat out asked her before if I’m doing something wrong and she always tells me I’m doing nothing wrong.
It’s extremely hurtful to feel so powerless in this situation. I am an in shape attractive man in my thirties. I’m a good husband, father and provider with a great professional career. I know I can get sex with little to no effort elsewhere but that’s not what I need. I need my spouse. She just thinks all I want is sex when in reality all I want is her to be intimate with me. If all I wanted was sex I could get that.
I do so much for her and our family without her asking and without me pointing out all I do. I don’t ask for recognition. I take care of her because I love her and I just wish she’d reciprocate that. Isn’t that what a marriage is suppose to be? Not having to worry about taking care of everything you need because your spouse should be fulfilling those needs giving you the time and energy to focus on fulfilling the needs of your spouse?
Arica Angelo I tried what you said and I’m getting a lot of pushback. Again, she’s saying it’s not me and that her sex drive just isn’t there. That she’s always been like this. It hurts that I’m somehow no different than anyone else she’s been with...
I asked her to compromise with me on the matter as I don’t expect her to be sexually active with me 100% of the time that I want. I recognize that she obviously gets to choose what she does with her body. She seems completely against foreplay as alternatives to sex and ask that I find other ways that she can satisfy my need to feel desired by her without any of that. I’m at a complete loss as I don’t even know if that’s possible. What do I do?
Why would a woman tolerate having a “low sex drive”? Get her to a doctor she needs to have her hormone levels checked. If she doesn’t want to see a doctor then you have a scary situation on your hands.
Joe Mancini yup I think it’s time to jump ship if your issue has not been resolved??
Maybe she doesn't want pussy
Hey Angela is been long time always lovely.
I just have to disagree with take the lead ( for the bed)
I think woman 90 % of the time are in testing mode, everything we do is been observed and analyze. I see situation were I take the lead only to be criticize or bombarded, but if I decide to slow down and chill I still been criticize as well. I believed that comunicacion is fundamental but we need less criticizing and more understanding when we take the initiative to try to help.
Samson and Delilah is a metaphor for men and women. If you remember, she found out that his weakness was his hair and they cut it and he lost his strength. Same thing with women. After the emotional beginning and especially after you marry them, they will focus on you and look at all your weaknesses and then things will be different. So you will no longer be something special to them. They will look at you and say to themselves, hes a slob. He doesnt have manners. Hes fat. But they wont leave you especially if you are doing well but things just wont be the same.
Or the worst " I need you to be a man"
Sure enough, they seem to be unable to resist increasing amounts of disrespect as they get comfortable with you over the years. I’m becoming convinced that dating them, and never marrying them, is the only way to get them to act right. The moment to marry you they begin a path toward not acting right.
The millennials of which my sons belong have a strong bias to never marry but carry on as if that was the case. This is very common now. It puts women at a big disadvantage as they do not have the protections marriage affords, IE division of assets, alimony, so they will treat you better. That is for sure. Humm @@GuruOfwisdom
My wife is a dismissive avoidant! Do you have any tips for that type of partner?
They never answer this question.
such bullshit ive done all of this for 10 years 😂 it doesnt help get a sidechick that helps 😎
So basically men are delusional because they're having conversations in their head and not with their spouses? How do you just automatically assume that somebody's not having these conversations with their spouse? That it's all in their head. I get a little resentful when there's no factual coping mechanisms, or evidence of this method or that method actually working.
Getting into his mind by expertly knocking down his psychological walls and making him tingle with feelings of pleasure, means you're doing it right. There are many so called "canned phrases" to make it happen, for example go’ogling something like Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire was the perfect formula for me
If the excuses are always cleaning then why don't clean you the house? if the house is a stress point for her take her to a hotel maybe a themed bed and breakfast? so she could step out of that headspace every once in awhile women really do think about a hundred things its all spinning in their mind at once. taking her out of that and into a new headspace can help. I didn't realize how little we were having sex until it hit only twice a month and then we realized something had to change. we moved to a smaller house so I can quit my job in the medical field that was making me work 7 days out of the week. Every time we finished a new project at the house we celebrated with sex in that room. We've been here 3 months and we've had sex more here than we had in our previous house for 5 years. For women sometimes it's humiliating having to use lubrication. it could be age or medication. I was worried he would think I was not attracted to him. I did eventually find a vitamin called slippery elm that did help a lot, but for two years I was so worried about that. I can't use most lubes I'm prone to yeast infections. that goes back to the things in our minds that keeps spinning, that make it near impossible to relax and enjoy yourself in a sexual situation. I had an ingrown hair that prevented me from having sex for 3 months because I was so embarrassed. One more thing we have always kept our bedroom a no kids zone. we only have one child but she knows she is not allowed in our bedroom that is our space.
Hey I just want to let you know on the lube thing don't be embarrassed. Trust me coming from a man that has to use numbing cream we have things that embarrass us as well. But if you find the right thing that helps omg it will do a 180 after we figured out what was wrong with me it was literally the best in years.
So it's ok to need a little help if he really loves you he won't care and will still love you the same.
Woman don’t want communication.
Yea. For sure. Romance novels are a place I escape to. There isn’t any fire in our bedroom and I’m actually repulsed by my husbands lack of hygiene. He bathes. He brushes. But he isn’t afraid of being dirty during intimacy. And I just get disgusted by it. I prefer certainty that cracks and crevices are clean. Is that too much to expect?
Then if we do concur that and I capture him straight out of the shower, I happen to be in the mood…. All a huge feat I must add, he has zero interest in learning how to turn me on. So why bother?
I just muster enough ambition to let him get his rocks off now and again and such is life.
Gross lol. I never understood how some men just don't care about hygiene or appearance.
Guys, this woman’s heart is in the right place. But don’t listen to her.
As if a pretty lady like this has ever had a problem
Open up to your wife?????? You just list any credibility. Wives only say they want you to “share” , but if you actually do, she will never respect you after that…… ever
This is the most basic information that any inexperienced person would give. I'd bet most men who found this video already tried this junk. I really with therapists would stop approaching marriage advice from the stance that every man is a caveman, and man do dishes once, man get sex! This advice is worthless to any man who's put in any effort already.
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Most of what you give as advice will turn a man into a weak nice guy!
this was the most trash advice ive ever gotten
Lol did it work
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Worst advice ever guys, I have done all of these, it doesn't work
Why are all these intimacy therapists super hot and wear low cut tops?!?! THIS DOESNT HELP LOL
Your advise fits woman not alpha or who wish to be alpha!
She wants fantasy characters to take the lead and drag her upstairs! Problem is them not you they got some ig fantasy stuck in their brain and they are chasing a high school memory men do it too!
Real reasons to fix:
1. Tired - you feel as ‘sick’ when overworked
2. No exercise - low mood, low energy, low drive
3. No hormones - eat good fats & proteins
4. You - must be at your best. Stamina, good humored, giving (is the real receiving).
If it’s workable. If not then arrange/negotiate your needs. You picking her is pretty arbitrary. Find another if there are no kids. If she won’t do her part to keep the wheels greased. You ain’t roommates LOL.
Make sure it’s not you first, gentlemen.
Then you have info about what it is about her…
Fellas don't waiste your time
None of these tips have worked, but I´ll try again.
Ask a man instead. Women don’t even know where they want to eat, how can they tell you to be a man?
Don't get married stay single young millennials. You will thank me later. You're life will be full of experiences and happiness produced by multiple people good and bad not just one person. In doing so you will learn more about yourself.
I have been married 31 years. We have a daily sex life. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't marry people who are not your soul mate. Choosing a mate is the most important decision you will make in life.
None of this advice would work at all
this is not a funny subject. You are mocking us
Such terrible advice here
I feel like the more I tell her the more she gets turned off it’s seems like she wants me to talk less and not tell her so much! Like if I had a bad day at work it’s like a turn off because she looks at it like a weakness or omg is the money gonna be ok and just like the stability seems to be at risk if I reveal to much. Your better off not saying anything or just saying work was great