6 Qualities to Look for in a Husband | David Marvin
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- In this message, David Marvin walks us through 1 Timothy 3 to unpack 6 qualities to look for in a husband. Men, these are the qualities you should aim to have. Ladies, use these 6 areas to examine a man before committing to marrying him.
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Do you ever feel like your dating life is constantly at a disadvantage? Maybe it’s the right person, but the wrong time or you see the red flags 🚩 but red has become your new favorite color. Well, worry no more. It’s time to turn the tables and gain the advantage of your dating life. In this series, we’re tackling the biblical principles one should bring to the table when dating God's way.
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1. Timothy 3
1. Commitment.
2. Humility.
3. Reputation.
4. Initiative.
5. Self-Control.
6. Trust in God.
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I like to add kindness in words, action and attitude...
@@Womenswell022 yes!
Thank you!
Thanks for posting this list 😉
@@Womenswell022 If someone has humility, he's likely to be kind in words with action and good attitude :)
I just broke up with my bf after two years . I was so confused about him. I have really good discernment and knew he wasn’t the one for me. Because he is nothing that was described I often would read Timothy and compare him to the word and just knew he is not walking on the right path . This was confirmation. I made the right decision
I’m at a point in my life where I’m not ready for dating anymore. Just waiting on God to send the right man while I wait living on my knees and asking for discernment.
I recall a recent video from life church where the pastor mentioned instead of waiting, perhaps make yourself the best partner you can be in Christ, to become what your best special someone will want to pursue Jesus with.
Something pulled my heart to say this^^
@@franciszekbanek7556 Thank you. Much appreciated 🌸
@@franciszekbanek7556 true, but also keeping in mind that if God's will hasn't planned a partner for you in this life, that you be CONTENT in His grace, and use your singleness always for His glory.
I don’t believe God does that. We have to mingle with people. we have to get to know these people we meet
I believe people put too much pressure on Hod when he has already said, “be fruitful and multiply”
I became a Christian in 2020 and watching the porch in quarantine was one of the things that helped me grow and was such an amazing resource that God guided me too because I was alone as a new baby Christian, thank you David Marvin for using your gifts and talents for Gods glory, you are an amazing man of God, I pray God would keep on guiding you wherever you go 🤍
Ive never been married ive served the Lord overseas, i adopted a lil girl, more important to follow Jesus, than to settle for a relationship... still prayibg believing God called me to be a mommy to a precious girl He can send her a daddy that can love her just like i do.
Amen ..ask and it shall be given on you... Our God is a miracle worker his timing is the best .my sister it shall be well...amen🙏
That’s so beautiful God bless you, He has the perfect one for you 🙏
Praying for you ❤
Wow, both the wife and husband qualities videos have really changed my perception on what’s important when it comes to dating and marriage
Same here..🤔😘
This sermon has blessed me in my season of singleness. God is writing my love story. Thank you! God bless you ❤
If only I had seen this video in May of 2018..would have saved me years of heartbreak and emotional/verbal abuse.
Thankful to see this now though.
As someone who has watched/listened to the porch for a long time, David will certainly be missed by more people than he thinks. God has given him incredible gifts of speaking. God bless you in your next journey.
Been following the Porch for 4 years. David, you’ve been a blessing and an inspiration.
An absolute joy listening to this, it’s just so hard waiting, 40, no guy yet in sight.. constantly reminded of how much of a failure I am coz I’m not married and not yet a mother… it was so nice to hear you say you are proud of me. So Thank you, your message gives me hope.
This was such an excellent teaching.
Aw, I am sad to see that David leaving, but I am excited to see what more God is going to do through him and his family for the body of Christ. Aw, I hope to see still him teaching online somewhere! He is how I found the Porch and how I found my current church home that I was actually just baptized at this past Sunday. I appreciate what you guys are doing at/with The Porch ministries. David, you will be missed.
Such a good message as well as the one towards the ladies! This is so needed, im 38 and single and seeing these kind of guys in my area is so hard to see, bc they are few..... i pray God gives strength and power moves in men in our world!
Amen
I needed this !
39:00 thisss is why we listen to David right here!!!
Thank you, David, for your ministry! You’ve been such a blessing to my life!!!! God bless you and your family moving forward!
So grateful for you David and your leadership at the porch! Excited for what is next for you and your family ❤
Wauw this video was an eye opening thank you may God bless you and your family 🙏
Thank you David, keep shinning for Him!
LOVE. THIS. SERIES!!!!
David, I've listened to many of the Porch sermons from here in Canada over the years, and I wholeheartedly agree that you have an amazing gifting of teaching. I've been greatly touched by many of your sermons, including this one. May God bless you and your wife in your next steps!
We love you David
So grateful for you Pastor David
Oh D. Marv
You are a good teacher of the word. Thank you for the years that you've consistently poured into young adults like me all over the world. May this word that you have so faithfully taught be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path. We love you.
Thank you for your strong, stern but gracious teachings, my son and I follow your sermons for the last 2 years. May you be blessed in your new journey may God give you a peaceful transition wherever you are going to next - all the way from S. A.
I’ve been following the ministry since JP was here and it’s been a HUGE blessing for me! I attend church on Sundays, and young adult midweek, but this ministry has become a staple in my week as well. Prayers for David and his family as they follow the Lord’s lead!
Thanks David for all the amazing messages you have brought across over the many year. I have learned so much from you, being led by God. Thank you for bringing across the word in a direct way not altering the word. Once again Thanks
God bless you, Brother David and your wife on this new journey God has bestowed upon your family. Thank you for your godly service. 🙏🏾✝️
Thank you! The guy that walked into my life wanting marriage doesn’t check any of the boxes…at all. I’m repentant of sin and allowing myself to submit to this individual. ❤️🩹✝️bin Jesus name amen 🙏🏽
Yikes
Very Good message, thank you ❤
I wish I would’ve gotten this teaching 11 years ago.
Proud of y'all my sisters! Don't lower your standards.
I agree with most with the exception that I need to belong to a church because the leaders will vouch for me later. God is everywhere. I have lived alone (with God) for almost 25 years. Not everyone who goes to church is Godly behind closed doors. I was raised Catholic and went to a Baptist Sunday school from time to time. For a decade, I’d go off/on with a co-worker to their Lutheran church. I later became Christian because I wanted a more one on one relationship with God. Having been exposed to several kinds of Christianity, I’ve seen that each sect has rules they want believers to follow.
I just focus on improving the quality of my fruits as well as practicing discernment when evaluating the fruits of a potential partner. I talk with God often. I ask for his advice and praise the blessing of waking up each morning. Marriage and children are blessings and everyone is blessed differently.
Thank you, God so much for this blessed series. It can also be related to Godly women.
I understand. Dating is very frustrating. I am at the point your at. I pray…wait. I date still…but?!? Challenge!! Praying the dating process is over soon. Gods timing!! Not ours.
A lot of patience waiting for Gods will and timing. Stand in faith!!
Thank you Jesus for my Godly, honest, respectful, trustworthy, and kind…husband.
Amen
Powerful
I've never been married am really wanting to know for sure if it's what God wants or if because people don't want me to be.
Thank you David for always reminding us to have scriptural values, not superficial ones. I am from the Land Down Under but you're part of why I stepped out to move to S/E Asia. I pray that so many more would follow you as you follow Christ Lord, bless them, for you are the author of time and we want to enjoy your glory for all eternity!
The lady’s acronym is
PRETTY
and the guys….
CHRIST…
Oof guys -
Is that really the message?
The intended messages are important…
But oof
Lovely message, David. Best wishes to you and your journey!!!
Bless your family!
If Jesus provides an out for marriage (infidelity) in Matthew 5, then we can’t say that cheating is not a legitimate reason for divorce. Bc at that point the cheater is the one who broke the marriage covenant.
To have a heart ready to forgive anything and everything, is a heart after God's own heart. God meant it to be broken by nothing. Period. That's the heart to have going into a marriage. If both are seeking God that deeply, chances are, nothing like infidelity will ever happen. And I said chances are, not that it won't.
@@jenniferwalsh1731 Yeah in an ideal world
Is the porch done? I havent seen any new videos for a while now
The tears... 🥲
Does a man have to possess ALL of these qualities already to be worthy to date/pursue? If we see them working to check some of these boxes should we be patient and continue getting to know them?
Prayers for my daughter....she’s married to a narcissist...he has as good as abandoned them in Montana...he’s secretive in all he does...he’s changed his job....he doesn’t tell her about his new job...he’s very secretive...prayers needed...they have three children together ( set of two year old twins and a five year old...my daughter has one daughter going into this marriage (this daughter’s dad is past away..)
He has three children by a previous marriage...two are out of the situation out on their own and he has a twelve year old who has tried to hurt the five year old...she’s both suicidal and wanted to hurt/kill
32 years old and I have never met a single man who checks these boxes. They’re all married 😢
36:00👏👏🙌🙌amen
Amen
Ummm. I’m sorry. Newsflash. My ex said he was all about marriage and the “covenant“ and showed up at our wedding stoned. Ended up walking out on me 30 years later. People lie. Claim they are a Christian etc. people deceive.
Yes people deceive but God doesn’t, keep praising him.
Of course people deceive. We are all sinners. That's why a close personal relationship with God, who knows all, is so important. He will guide and give discernment and help you avoid situations like that. He is faithful. We are the ones who are not faithful.
@@jenniferwalsh1731 When someone claims they are a Christian I give them the benefit of the doubt. I’ve had a personal relationship with Christ for 50 years. Sometimes being trusting is not wise whether you have a relationship or not. It’s not Christ being deceiving.
I believe this is why he mentioned the need for examining their reputation. What do those close or around him say about him? He might tell lies about his beliefs and commitment, but people around should bear witness to it. I dont think we should just marry a stranger or an isolated person.
@@jenniferwalsh1731. I prayed the whole length of our dating / engagement life that I was doing the right thing. God provided everything we needed to become married as he lived in another area of the state. He provided him a job etc.
Does adultery not create biblical grounds for divorce?
Matthew 19:9
And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, *except for sexual immorality*, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Mark 10:9 is a great answer to your question.
I know this a commandment from Jesus Christ. But what about domestic violence or emotional abuse? I think this something important to address
@@SpencerTuom if that completely negated the two acknowledgements in Matthew of sexual immorality/ adultery being grounds for biblically justified divorce, the verses in Matthew wouldn't have been specially been worded that way in the first place.
I think it's difficult to discern the best answer for every situation, but when it comes to the old testament law and Jesus' commands overall Jesus calls us to a tighter moral standards not looser. So when looking at a situation there should be a discernment of this call. Not saying that there isn't a place for divorce in some situations but it should be an exception not the rule, even in adultery, and such situations. Not because it's easy but because Jesus has been faithful to us in this very way, as we the church sin and walk away from Him, he never walks away from us His church and bride.
@@jessahgase6919 I 100% agree. I believe that every single situation is just different, and that God has individual plans for every couple who goes through things like that...I can't even begin to imagine what some people have endured..
Love this! But so divorce is never an option? Really if they cheat on you? That’s not what the Bible says lol
God encourages us to attend church, in Hebrews, but it is not a commandment.
anymore live videos?
Covenants can be broken. Infidelity is one of those ways. If my wife breaks the covenant I have grounds for divorce. Same for her. If I sleep with another woman and move across the country leaving her. She should divorce……
You can't control others and their actions. Preparing you heart for anything, to forgive, will cultivate a heart after God that is deep. I want that kind of heart. Why go ahead and state failures. Let's just prepare our own hearts to be pure and let all negativity go! Thank you Jesus, praise God!
So what’s the point in “till death do us part” in the vows, cause that’s a lie, there are conditions in which you would leave.
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Not all personality types chase after women. Sometimes it’s reversed.
at time 15:29 i dont agree with this statement, god clearly says that divorce is a sin except in the cases of adultery, the woman has lied about her ability to bear children, abuse, or abandonment.
His point is do you want to commit yourself fully or not? God committed Himself to us fully, even despite our unfaithfulness to Him. That's the kind of heart I want when marrying. Thank you God for showing us what true love and commitment truly are.
What women really want in a husband:
He's abusive. He's controlling. He's jealous. He's not a real Christian so he cheats. He's hateful. Anything else you want to know.
haha
The women that want that, aren't ready for a Godly relationship. It takes maturing from God to want the right things.
Sorry! Not all men r sincere in there answers, they say what the lady wants to hear,u can have an awesome reputation but as a husband u get to see the real man!
God can help you see that before marrying someone. God sees the heart.
I’ve never been so ridiculed and made to feel out of place than by believers in God.
I was raised in the church and spent most of my adult life studying the Bible.
Do the creators of this channel actually read the comments other “Christians” leave ?
Christians today just spread fear and it’s going to spread like wildfire. It’s so sad but true. It’s becoming a club.
Why were you ridiculed and felt out of place?
Rhi, those Christians are not actually followers of Christ. Ignore anyone making you feel like that and know that they are mistaken. Keep your focus on God’s love and ignore anyone distorting God’s love.
There are people like that everywhere, in every place, believers and nonbelievers. Seek out the church with authentic loving Christians with fruit and let God give you a solid family. If you seek Him, He will do it. He cares for His children.
Be encouraged, Trust in God’s word and the words of Jesus , not in the words of these professing Christian’s who are spreading negativity and not encouraging and loving people. Christians should be the most mature and loving people if we truly follow Jesus. Even Jesus was doubted when he did miracle after miracle and sinned not. They saw him bring people back to life and still Tryed to slander his reputation and find fault in him, church people that is( Pharisees, Sadducee’s, John’s followers)
My worth isn’t based on what believers say to me or think of me, I don’t care what any of these Christian’s say to me, or if they come against me. My worth is based on How God sees me. God loves me and that’s enough. Everything we going through Jesus went thru as well as Paul, And even the prophets in the Old Testament
Praying for Israel 🙏🇮🇱🇺🇸✝️