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Sounds to me, like my Mrs is a narcissist as she does most of them, and it's always been a bit odd for 22 years. Now I know why it's like this as I've never been a person that can be controlled and that clearly clashes with her ego .
My mother 😭
I think women are like children is all. And children are emotionally needy 🙂. Is it narcissistic or just the nature of being female ?
Signs you aren't a narcissist.
Knowing all of this✌
And the word sorry.
Brilliant!!!!
A narcissist would never consider the idea that they are a narcissist because it would infer that they aren't, "great". If you ever ask yourself whether or not you're a bad person l, more often than not that means you're a good person who is suffering especially in regards to not being your authentic self.
The word sorry came to mind today. I was thinking, she used to say sorry a year back the next day, now I don’t even get that
My wife, 9 out of 9... she's leaving me and I'm starting to realize uts the best thing that could happen to me
Took me a while to realize that as well. 17 yrs for me, had all of those 9 traits.
Not just women. I have a narc who has all these 9 qualities... Let's add 1 more. Always aggressive, irritable and miserable around me, even if I'm breathing and not talking to him. But when he is out with his mates, he's the most funny, loving and sociable guy who they absolutely love.
Sounds like my ex she was always like that she acted different in front of others.
@@davedave2472 they never change do they? How did she end up being your ex if you don't mind me asking.
These behaviors are genderless. The male narc I survived exhibited all of the behaviors.
@Modern Games Suck Victims don't "survive" and narc abuse is not a game.
And that is absolutely true however, most people don’t look at women in that light. My wife can be a nightmare. She checked more than half the list
@@advanceg2116 your wife your still with her
THANK YOU ! all ppl have these tendencies . Its how far they think they can get away with it . Be glad you are aware and smart ❤
They are far more present in females because of what females provide to the male portion of society. Nice try tho.
Yup, had a "friend" who was a total narcisist. She pretty much nearly drove me insane!
Waste of time same here
Couldn’t be more perfect !!!
I’m not female but I experience these things daily and I feel that it’s not just males doing this but all people so I hope one day we can all get the equality we deserve,if that’s even possible.
Sounds like every single woman I’ve ever known. -coming from a woman
Nothing is out of bounds for them, nothing!
Accurate! You can never do enough, and they will never do for you. They'll be sickly sweet in public and a different person inside. They'll give their version of events to complete strangers and never notice how uncomfortable that makes people. They'll tell you you're an angel worth the world until they decide your usefulness has ended, and then you're the dirt they walk on. Mine was my best friend of a decade. I feel like I went through some weird split reality with her where I lived two lives at once because to know her was to be constantly pulled into fabricated dramas and have your empathy exploited. At first, it was all sunshine. I thought she was the sweetest person who really saw me and I bonded with her children. As the years progressed, the denigrating started and the compliments had a more obvious edge to them. The neediness got worse, especially after I had the audacity to find love. Nothing was ever enough. The final straw came when she called my cell one time at 1 pm on a Tuesday and I didn't even know because I was at work. When I clocked off and saw the ONE missed call with no voicemail or text, I figured I'd call her back one I was home. I had JUST got home and she sent a paragraph about how I treated her like garbage and had time for everyone but her and she was sick of it. She then also messaged my mom telling her she would be over to their house soon to "tell you about her". This was after her being practically the only person outside of work I had seen in two months and would drive to her place after work too many days a week and stay there till midnight in some cases. This was also a couple days after I had attended her fourth baby shower and was on the cleanup crew, one of the literal last people to leave. I saw red, but my eyes fucking opened, that day. If you're in a romantic or any other type of relationship woth a narcissist, change the damn locks. Block them on everything. Even when they beg and repeat the same hollow words they've thrown at you for years. The apology is empty, and always has been. A narcissist needs constant attention and validation, by cutting all contact, you deprive the narcissist of what he or she wants the most and you save yourself at the same time. I meant it, CUT CONTACT.
Excellent advise. As soon as it rears its ugly head, look for the door and don't look back. It's not worth it. Life is precious and short. Hugs 🫂
You have open my eyes, I been living this for 20 years,
Oo the mother of my children, that's why they live with me and I'm an arsehole , apparently lol
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Good on you!
There are so many women I have met that match this criteria 💯
So many narcissists
Yes it is very sad my feeling is there all around the world
@@shovelheadpecit’s a spirit of narcissism. Ephesians 6:12. it’s not the person who is the problem. It’s spiritual warfare
My ex is full blood Narcissistic and I finally divorced her!! I wish I’ve seen it sooner. 😢
I "liked" this short, not only fr the good advice, but also do the great music ❤
THE MUSIC WAS TOO LOUD.
Exactly how my best friend of 7 years was. She betrayed me the entire time. Scary honestly.
Stunningly accurate
😮 Right
I just had the unfortunate pleasure now 2 months ago finally meeting one of these Female Narcissists & she cut our relationship short after 10 months together, breaking up with me 4 separate times, and absolutely did all of those 9 different things to me.. 🖤💔😵💫
Thank you for your content.
They certainly leave you twisted inside when they discard you
Count your blessings.
This list just clearly helped me identify her, she ghosted me 3 weeks ago. I've watched many videos and she exhibits all these 💯 . But damn I still love her and broken 💔 this shit is tough
You were addicted to the push pull in the relationship. I take a while to get off of that.
My son is in the same situation. I hope you have healed.
Thank u
You
Living with a narcissist can also "add" some of those traits onto you. I know for sure I became petty as heck. Weaponizing intimacy isn't always easy for the female narcissist, I think tears have become a lot more common and males don't use this tactic as often.
My husband did all these things to me for 5 years, I inherited a lot of these to cope with trying to fight these things for so long. If you can’t beat them, join them. He was the first man to ever weaponize sex against me, even went as far as accusing me of using him for sex, and calling me a sex addict, now he doesn’t get any 🤷🏼♀️
I read that living with a narcissist can trigger narcissist behaviors in yourself. I don't know the way that works but it speaks to my own behaviors while with my narcissist partner. I actually don't recognize myself.
@@evewhite2581 I really do empathize with you there, I often don’t recognize myself when we’re in a spat nowadays. I also read that too, that people do develop those traits after living with one for so long. I grew up with a narc mother, and realized it when I was 16 and did a lot of research on it, but never thought to look out for those things in a partner. It took me 4 years to realize I basically married my mother (my husband) he acts just like her, and treats me the way she did and now get why I was more susceptible to attracting a narc partner. I’m sorry you’re going through the same things btw.
@@spennie96 the sex thing.. I swear to God for yrs I thought it was normal for your partner to say no every single time you asked... now I know I was being punished withholding any kind of affection.
@@evewhite2581 my husband knew I was physically affectionate (hugs, and and handholding with woman friends with extreme social anxiety) with friends while we were dating and hid his true self until after we were married. Then I was constantly verbally abused for giving affection to friends that he felt he was solely entitled to, as he refused to be as intimate as we used to be. Being nice to strangers was such a crime to him. As a bisexual he constantly accused me of cheating with friends... guess who was the actual cheater 🙃 😒
They never admit there not perfect. I've dealt with them as well.
Yes all of those are true. I have 4 decades of experience with one woman who has used every tool in her box to win at all costs.
I survived and other men can too
You survived but how do you feel about yourself and your life at this point? Honest question. Content? Dissatisfied? Resentful? Vengeful?
4 decades is a long time to play second fiddle to someone elses needs. I'm 3 decades in and I'm surviving...but just barely. If I'm being honest I'm more than a little bitter about it. And I don't know what to do about it. Survival is one thing. Being content, happy, satisfied and secure are all together different things.
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The ex discarded me in 2019 at the lowest point of my life. They have turned our adult child against me and that's the most painful part. Together those two women along with my own sister had me committed as they're more than willing to perjure themselves in order to hurt me. I spent 20 days locked up and only got released because I was being denied my rights. The divorce was final in 2020. I blocked the ex, and adult child a year ago having blocked the toxic sister in 2020. I was served court papers two days after Christmas in 2022. Of course the suit was for back alimony and some old credit card debt that in the original divorce paperwork I was ordered to pay as well
I am currently working on cleaning up the financial mess that I had dumped in my lap. I don't think the Judge will lock me up on contempt as long as I continue to demonstrate effort to resolve the old unsecured debt now that the alimony is caught up. One thing is the ex and her attorney sought a order of protection against me prior to serving me with this lawsuit. Once again the ex committed perjury in order to convince the Judge to grant the restraining order. I had been no contact about 9 months and had avoided the ex.
Now I believe that the smear campaign is wearing off that was in place at the time of the discard. I have no idea what all was told in this small town in the past 4 years but I have retained my sanity some how going through all this. My attorney told me that the exes attorney told him that I had threatened the Judge. I have told him that if they're willing to make lies up and then perjure themselves on the witness stand to gain a false unwarranted order of protection I have no defense as I have been avoiding them the entire time for him to seek to make the order of protection mutual ( apply to them equally) that I will be ok with that. Idk when the next hearing will be scheduled on the matter.
We're from a small town where everyone knows everyone and many people are wising up to what's really happening. Of course the ex is only exposing themselves with the lies in court and the smear campaign. The ex is the perfect victim and I'm considered to be the Evil Ogre in all of this. Just know that you can cause a narcissistic injury and not even know that you have caused one. When they summon their army of flying monkeys look out.
Now I hope telling this story helps you or someone else who might be in danger of being attacked by an ex in such a situation.
Now I'm healing and figure that I will be working on that for the rest of my life. I have been doing so much better since I forgave myself for loving them so much that I allowed them to hurt me and accepted it all for being what it is knowing that I haven't done anything wrong or criminal that has caused me to be so viciously attacked and smeared with rumours that these people spread in their ruthless, cruel efforts to get me locked up and sent away.
I will also say this is and has been a long ongoing struggle to retain my sanity. Eventually everyone will know that everything that's happened was about revenge because the ex feared exposure as a faker, liar, and the exes reputation will be known for what they are. I hope you or someone else will be able to avoid being sent to jail for your exes satisfaction and revenge.
I'm going to be fine but I haven't always been. I am thankful for being discarded so cruelly because it has been a long ongoing struggle and I'm so much healthier and happier than I have been in years
Peace
I survived narcissist family and girlfriend. I removed them all from my life.
@@LaurenceOConnor-fg4dk
Props to you. Going no contact with the toxic people in my life wasn't something I took lightly. It's not popular and hard for me to do. We as men/women are social creatures by nature and going hermit mode can be difficult to cope with.
Peace
In one step a modern day feminist.
They treat you suddenly nicely when company arrives, and back to trash as soon as they leave.
Edit: falls under "sweet in public".
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I think Jealousy burning jealousy even towards their own children, husband, siblings is the Num 1 sign of female narcs.
Yes, she even will admit and apologize to the victim. If cinfronted with it later will deny never apologizing in front of other. They will say, " i never said that!" Making victims look crazy.
Men exhibit the exact same behaviors.
Yes, thats why it specifies female narcissist in the headline you tool.
This is about women.. men are talked about a lot.
@@greatmedicine7142Statistically most man are narcissist, that's why they're talked about a lot. Moreover, these behaviors can be for both genders, my ex boyfriend was awful in many ways and showed the exact same behaviors that are in the vid.
@@chenluna9659not true. Narcissism is 50/50 in gender but men tend to be the ones seen as narcissist because they can be more aggressive and we often don’t tend to assume women can be narcissists.
@@chenluna9659 Statistically speaking men are less likely to report abusive behaviors of women. Women are more likely to report abusive men. It's not that there is more male narc's it's just female narcs are just not reported. Multiple studies done on this and it's more like 50/50
This lady should be preserved at all costs
I left a 12 yr relationship with one of those ... Kept blaming myself ... Im not mad at her anymore ..im mad at myself for wasting 12 yrs of my life because i didnt know any of this at the time
The same with me! I blamed myself for staying in that unhealthy relationship for so long! I never knew about narcissist when I was in a relationship with her. Time wasted
House Devil - Steeet Angel.
you are so pretty Elizabeth 💟
I know a woman who is like this.
Yesssss, let those waves shine through ❤
And it's important that is a woman who is pointing it 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I got #10- they'll play the victim and accuse others of narcissism when those people try to enforce their own boundaries or hold her accountable for anything.
You just described my mother perfectly as well as other things thank you for allowing me to better understand her in a certain way that she couldn’t do for herself because I’ve struggled trying to get around describe her in my own way and couldn’t really put it as a way of understanding. I guess that comes with the anxiety.
But she does this and I end up nervous I’m nota good way. She gets agitated easily to the point where I don’t even want to ask about her behavior it nerve causing and I don’t want to feel anxious trying to communicate when she gets a certain way. She has a problem with everything and I struggle trying to find a peace of mind and I don’t think she even cares that she makes others afraid of her. I’m tired and I don’t really exactly know what to do, if I end up out there, she’s always trying to get at me with the help of others who like to attack people and that’s the crowd she attracts. Bad mouthed people and those behaviors.
Go to dr Ramani's channelto learn everything about narcissism...she is excellent.
They are spot on but not exclusive to females, I’d say a likely subset to more classical behaviours ie gaslighting, blameshifting, lack of empathy, projection etc
What’s frightening about these are is that with just a little distance and help they are all recognisable in our current or hopefully past partners. I could even see it as it was happening but what victims really need that none of these sites provide sadly is insight about being susceptible and why we remain. That’s partly down to their tricks obviously but it’s US we need to work on-not them.
I tried so hard, tolerated abuse, blamed myself, looked after their needs, avoided feelings, and lost my way compromising some values….like we all did. Why? I now see them and even see their process, what Shakespeare would call, “the art of their necessity”. But we have our own process Elizabeth and perhaps you could offer help to others about why this process “ makes vile things precious” , to complete the King Lear quote
Bingo
Perfect description of what I have been dealing with !!!
She almost had her hooks in me !!
I dodged some of the bullets, others hit and man it hurts !!!
Broken bones hurt less and heal faster !!!!
1.YES 2.YES 3.YES 4.YES 5.YES 6.YES 7.YES.8.YES 9.YES.... Dont forget 10.Lack Empathy. 11. Takes please in providing Pain to others. 13. Terminally emotionally broken. The list goes on and on.
So so true. Dealing with one now. She’s never wrong, oversteps her boundaries, gaslights, controlling, seeks admiration.
Best advice I heard was to ignore them because a narcissist’s thoughts supersedes any other thought…in their mind. Quite sad
When you see these signs, run like hell.
Woman..you are good!!! It's like you hit the nail on the head!!
Pray about it forgive doesn't mean you gotta hang around them move on
Well this answers a lot of questions
I never noticed #2 so much, but nailed all the rest.
My wife
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Thanks for sharing!
Yup. Says it all
Yup . My mother & my 2 sisters .
Truth prevailing
NAILED IT!!
FACTS
Don’t forget, they turn you into them, so if you feel like you’ve had some of these behaviors, that’s why. Spend some time alone, and you’ll remember who you really are. And it ain’t a narc.
Nailed it
Exactly THAT.😢
Spot on.
Great song!!
VERY TRUE
You just described my dad!
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Damn, thanks for the narcissism tips, also excellent taste in music 👍
Bang on
Facts!
Facts!!!!💯
Thank you for teaching. So much makes sence to me now.. 😢
Heck yes!
That's my sister!
She just described the western women 😁
Description of both my sister and ex wife... i don't speak with either!
You've obviously met my wife 😂😂
I see this in my relative. it's sad they are like this
You look very becoming with your hair that way!! Very pretty!!
Good grief. Thankfully something seemed wrong and I ended it. Thanks for sharing.
ALot of this is immaturity..
I'm still growing and learning as life goes on every 10 - 15 years?
Never grow up
Love the music you are playing❤ and I agree
The music, who is? Please, thanks.
Add compartmentalize and extreme clothing vanity. From having a lo income Mom uniform for school functions to Unaffordable brand new name-brand outfits for catting around, and for married-guy play dates.
So true
Indeed.
I would add 10. 'Appropriates the work and contributions of others as though they were her own achievements''. This would include plagiarism - my own experience.
11. Regards their nearest and dearest as bit part players to their prima dona role. Failure to support correctly results in punishment - for example, shining too brightly or 'shaming' the prima dona in any way will result in severe punishment.
You had me worried until The end
I like your synopsis !
Outstanding, woman use it as a weapon
Add another one to the list, constantly asking the father of her children for money but refusing to let him see his kids.
Married one, 40 years of torment.
4 years single and I'm free again.
I still want a partner...butttttttt
Being alone is better than living with that.
She has every thing you speak of
😔 You just described my middle child. Her father, my STBX, is a malignant narcissist n she's his Golden Child. I left the home I shared with them both one year ago n I've never been happier 🥰
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Pretty dark blues omg ❤❤❤❤❤❤⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐✨⭐✨ 💜
Yep, the only time she admitted fault was when she was trying to make a point that her partner was a terrible, selfish person. Her partner was a giver/empath. When he started to regain his independence, she was berating him and at one point said “I was a jerk but you are a bigger jerk”.
All 9 On-point! Thank you for teaching others…❤️🩹
Checks every box! GOSHHHHH! HORRIBLE PEOPLE!!!! What stinks is a lifetime not knowing who they were. My mother, a sister & 2 of my oldest friends. I am disgusted by the connected dots but I left them all permanently. Hind sight is 20/20 & cruel. Bittersweet is right.😬
Everything but the Acting sweet in public part ...That's her in a nut shell
Wow! Beautiful
Right on the nail!
Yep my MIL. No contact 12 years now after 17 years of abuse.
Yup!😉
I mixed with one; what a ride 🤯
My Mother…probably not got long to live…Life is bitter sweet.
Well this explains alot.
Love your hair and shirt.
Sounds exactly like my father.
Thank you for sharing!
These characteristics are spot on. I wish I knew this before my last relationship. But no one could have convinced me. The love bombing was like a drug that I didn't want to do without.