French People Never Do Small Talk (Learn French)
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- Want to practice speaking French? A native Parisian explains why small talk isn’t the way to do it.
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Small talk. Some people love it, some people hate it. And while a lot of that comes down to personal preference, it can also be dependent on your culture!
In French culture, for example, we don’t really engage in small talk. At least, not in the way that Americans do. In fact, if you’re someone who struggles to be comfortable with silences in conversation, you may have some difficulty when speaking with French people!
In today’s lesson, you’ll learn some useful French vocabulary as we explore some of the unwritten rules around everyday French conversation, including what is considered “normal” or “acceptable” small talk versus accidentally engaging in a conversational faux-pas.
Take care and stay safe.
😘 from Grenoble, France.
Géraldine
A former boss of mine (French) once told me that in his opinion, Americans are like peaches and French are like coconuts. With a peach, everything is soft and easy on the outside and then you hit a stone that you can’t get past. With a coconut, you have to work to get past the hard shell but then everything is sweet. (“Once you’re in, you’re family.”)
spot on 👍
@Phillip Banes you do know that the nut in the center of a peach is called a stone, correct?
@Phillip Banes best guess at whatever the hell you meant about my former boss
Exaggeration.
@@kmw4359 he's objecting to the idea that Americans are "stone" at the center. Ppl aren't a monolith.
Depends how you define small talk. The example you gave of meeting an American woman who talked in detail about her life and family is not small talk. That's a person opening up immediately with complete strangers
Absolutely this video is misleading because I don’t think Geraldine understands what small talk is. I’m both French and English and it’s difficult to relate to what she’s saying, because she explains things in a confusing way, whether it’s about silence or small talk. I agree that talking about very personal topics are seeing as weird and some people do in France but they make the people around them feel uncomfortable. I would say the majority of French people actually do small talk. I love it myself but never talk about really personal topics with strangers.
Oversharing
Americans are accustomed to a paranoid environment. When an American is in the presence of strangers, they use personal talk to reassure everyone, without directly articulating it, that they are an ordinary, nice person and not there to harm you. In the US, one who says nothing or share nothing will draw suspicion.
Georgina, thank you for making that point. There’s a difference, and intimate disclosures are by definition not talking small. My American parents taught me to think of small talk as precisely what’s prescribed in a large party setting, and that’s it’s an important skill in building the ground story of relationships. If you refuse to do it, you’re either childishly shy or just being snooty. You shouldn’t have gone to the party in the first place. I think I’ve met that same lady who disclosed amazingly private stuff to me when I didn’t even know her name. Fortunately, I don’t come across her much.
@@DRL1320 thank you for your very thoughtful comment. I'm not against small talk, it's what keeps the social cogs of society running. People sometimes open up to strangers precisely because they are strangers, and they know they'll never see them again.
Some of the most lively conversations I've ever had have been in doctors' waiting rooms in France!
very interesting video, I am French and live in Paris. but I was raised in the United States.
I do small talk all the time and I have found that it surprises people but I usually get a nice reaction.
people in France are not used to be complimented, or noticed by strangers and it often brings a smile to their face.
I totally believe this of the French. My husband and I flew Air France once and it was the quietest flight I’ve every been on. The only people who talked at all were a small group of Americans who sat behind us. They weren’t talking loudly but it sounded really loud because the the rest of the plane was completely silent except when a flight attendant whispered something to a passenger and they whispered back. The plane could have been empty. We just sat there in silence for six hours whispering only when we had too. Fortunately we brought books with us.😂
French do not speak in planes and trains, they do in restaurants.
@@CipricusI understand. Life is unbearable when not eating, and in the company of complete strangers
Wasn't AF447, for sure.
I live in a small rural village in France and I don't do small talk I just talk to the small dogs that I meet on my walks. The dog owners I meet on my walks do the same with my dog so small dog talk is A ok:)
It's the most sensible thing to do apart from talking to yourself 🥰😂
So you’re saying if two people walk past each other on a sidewalk they won’t say “good morning” or somn? Or like a head nod like we do it🤣🤣🤣
This is an excellent topic to bring up, and it is quite true. My late mother, who was French, and most of her relatives, were just not comfortable with "small talk" and did not approve of sharing personal information with strangers, just for the sake of being friendly. On the other hand, once someone was considered to be part of their circle of acquaintance, conversation would go on for hours, often tackling politics, philosophy and many more "serious " topics.
I'm the type to start talking philosophy and politics from the first conversation in both French and English 😂I love that the French are super invested in these kind of convos.
I am not French and have this attitude!
This is an illusion. Do you really think more than 0.5% talk philosophy in Paris? Notwithstanding the fact that pretentious intellectual discussion at a bar is by definition small talk, normal people have other topics of discussion. But when 3-4 Parisians talk at a table, they can talk at the same time.
I didn't know this of the French. The UK is the only place I've been in Europe and I definitely noticed the lack of small talk in SE England (London especially). We Americans love small talk and will strike up a short, pleasant conversation with strangers while in a shop or store or while standing in line. It just acknowledges your fellow humans and brightens the day a little. Now of course it can easily be carried too far (and you wish you could get alway from that person who keeps going on and on in an odd way), but for the most part I think it is one of the best qualities of our culture.
@ Jeff Morse: Well... French do have small talk! I don't know why she said that. It's better to defiine what 'small talk' actually is. And one region isn't antoher region as well.
It's so funny to me when I hear French people say they don't do small talk. I teach English and I do a class on small talk. During the lesson, I always preface the lesson with "Small Talk is very American" to get on their good side then all the students agree. *HOWEVER*, after living in France for over 20 years, I can honestly say that French people *do* engage in small talk. I've experienced it *a lot* and so have my other ex-pat friends. Sure, they might not do it as much as Americans, but they definitely do !
If the whole "ça va?" "ouai, ça va" thing isn't small talk, i don't know what is!! xD
@@KateOBrienCreative -That is very small talk indeed!
@@KateOBrienCreative et le temps qu'il fait/la température...autre sujet de "small talk" !
What a lovely lesson. Thank you!
Very interesting. Thanks!
Really love all your very useful and practical French lessons ! Thank Q!
Great video! Merci Géraldine!
Good manners or gentle consideration of “the other” is universal.
OMG I honestly have zero idea why did youtube algorithmes advertised this video to me - I neither study French nor am an established Francophone, but I`m so thankful! This was extremely entertaining and educating at the same time, thank you so much, Dear Géraldine! Merci beaucoup! I hope I still remember how to write this difficult word in French:) Je suis votre nouvelle abonnée !
Only that it's not true, so the education part is a no-starter...
Merci beaucoup pour enseigner cette magnifique et superbe et important leçon du jour
Merci. Cette leçon était indispensable. C'est pas toujours facile de comprendre où bien de savoir des nuances d'une culture étrangère. Vos leçons sont superbes comme d'habitude.
I like everything about your presentation. A pleasure.
I personally love this about French culture.
Excellente mention du trait de l'esprit, merci ma chere
Some people may just be shy socially but purposefully keeping silent because one does not "do small talk" is considered rude in America and makes people uncomfortable. We have to be aware of differences in what is considered acceptable manners while traveling.
It would be useful to define "small talk" at the beginning of the video. In London, one won't talk to strangers. When this happens (by miracle... or tipsiness) we do talk about the weather. It's easier to talk to strangers in Paris, like in a queue, to complain about everything but ourselves.
Yes so true!!if you complain in the queue a bit loud, often the people around will react. Doesn't mean the conversation will continue but you can have interactions!
Merci Géraldine. C'était intéressant et pourrait être utile; bien mieux que de garder le silence dans l'ascenseur. Les soi-disant "fillers" (je ne sais pas l'équivalent français).
Joyeux Noël et bonne année.
Merci, Geraldine. Vous toujours proposez à votre public des leçons pratiques, intéressantes et bien realisées.
So true! I find small talk is excruciating. 😅
We have an expression in the US that is fairly new as far as I know. "Read the room." I take this to mean one should adapt to the situation one finds oneself in. In the context of this discussion, I think whether or not one makes small talk or not, (by the way, Americans say "make" small talk not "do" small talk), depends on the receptivity of the people or person you're speaking to, whether they're well known to you or you met them standing in line in the grocery store. I should mention I am an American who is also a fluent Francophone. Some of the best chit chats I've had have been been with French people I've met casually while in France. Who says French people don't like small talk?
J'aime bien ce proverbe chinois : "On se trouve toujours bien de ne pas dire ce qu'on n'est pas obligé de dire"
Love how your videos are directed towards Americans!! Most anglophone speakers you'll find in France are British such as those with CdS or maison secondarie. Really useful videos though especially for social situations.
As a curious French, I lauched your video and I must say repeating and articulate slowly is a good idea for non-fluent French speakers.
What a nice background do you have. This including the style of clothing and makeup. Pleasant yellowish light. Very appealing!
Hello! You're back!
I'm French and hate small talk.And I've always been a loner except for my Priests. Have a very Merry Christmas.❤
Priests?
Is that a mistranslation?
are you a monk ? (priests)
@@TesterAnimal1 In the confessional, maybe? If you don't open up in there, you've missed the point, I guess.
I'm American and I'm not big on small talk either. I'd rather stand in line in silence than try to think of something to say to fill the silence or pass the time with a stranger. If you are going to start small talk with me then you need to be good at leading the interaction. If the other person is really good at leading the interaction, then yes, I enjoy it and will engage. If not then periods of awkward silence it is. I have one good friend who is really good at leading conversations. It just amazes me sometimes.
I was just going to say the same thing.
@Phillip Banesand so is being silent. Try practicing that.
@Phillip Banes I was only providing you with unsolicited advice, so basically I copied what you did in your first comment.
@Phillip Banes "except"? Mine was meant with good intentions too. It seems to me that you've got a bit of ego going on there. Or you're projecting. But then again you're referring to youtube as "forums" - 1990's are calling, they want you back.
Il vaut la peine d’apprendre et de se rendre compte des différences culturelles pour éviter des malentendus, surtout si on va voyager à l’étranger. J’espère que vous vous amusez en cette saison joyeuse Géraldine. 🎄🎅🏻
True, true words if there ever were.
Bien sûr... and when I lived in France, I learned a vast amount about the French that I'd never suspected. They are both like, yet they differ from, the English, in many ways, but there is a lot of mutual understanding and sympathy, _away from international politics._ One lesson I have learned in France and other countries is, never to judge a nation's population by the idiots who govern them. Le Maistre said we get the government we deserve, but I'm not so sure, as those in charge seem often to be dismally unworthy of the people they govern.
This is fascinating and new to me (new subscriber by the way). I remember meeting a French girl in London years ago, and the first thing she said to me was, "You can talk to me about serious things but I don't do small talk" and I was shocked by how direct she was, I stayed well clear of her lol! But now I understand where she came from and actually she might have tried to say that if I had a problem or I was upset about something she would have been happy to help. Instead I thought she was being very abrupt and unfriendly - I have thicker skin now!
she was being abrupt and unfriendly
@@Marcel_Audubon typically french from my experience
You dodged a bullet.
She was simply saying "I won't share personal/intimate information" because English speakers have a tendency to ask personal questions or share private information with people they've just met, and that's considered rude to the French.
@@300books French do it all the time, stop buying dumb generalizations
I must be French at heart because this is me. ❤
EXCELLENT DEAR 👏 CHARLES STAUDT FROM BRAZIL 🇧🇷
tenir la jambe -- talk my/his/one's ear off 🤣très drôle, j'aime bien la phrase
Merci beaucoup pour cet information et votre explication. Je ne le connaissais pas. "Le silence, c'est du respect." Merci. :)
Our East Anglian twinning association liaises with a French town of similar size, and exchanges are annual (Covid permitting). The two communities know each well and everyone will chat happily all night, depending on their language skills obviously. The small talk issue is really about strangers, but we English are typically less open than Americans who, in my experience, can be pretty self-revealing on first acquaintance. On the London underground, it isn't really done to start chatting up a stranger, and in the Paris metro, I found things similar. But on longer French train journeys, I have had interesting chats, probably because many younger French folk like to practise their English! Living 'en famille' in France, as I often used to, I found they chatted about politics and life in general about as much as we English do.
That's remind me back in 88 I had my military service in Germany and sat in the train next to a guy marking student's papers, he was an english teacher and talking he revealed he was serving in Vietnam as US special forces for intelligence in the Viet villages, he was speaking French and said if more of french fluent had been missionned, tons of more information would have been gathered as local were in confidence with the French, as nowadays I proudly count many fellows countrymen of Vietnamese origin who fled communist yoke.
The culture and practice of small talks is depending a lot on the area of France....
This is very good to know. I love quiet. Small talk in America is usually a way of finding commonality or a way of possibly making a new friend. True, in your face personal information is very off-putting when meeting anyone. I'm curious about the culture of making friends in France.
Très intéressant. Je pensais que les français n’étaient pas très amiables, en fait, un peu distants. Merci pour l’information.
You're generally not wrong
I have learned that o need to small talk
Business and high society ...it is a must
But you cannot be in silence forever
I am a shy reserved ...I must learn to small gosh
No ever talk about personal things!
That is not small talk
A culture after my own heart.
😳 Why not? Still, enroll in some pronunciation course, there’s a long way to the port.
Je suis anglaise et je vis dans l'extrême sud-ouest de la France. Les gens ici sont très bavards, quelle que soit la situation. Je suis assez calme par comparisan et j'aime le silence. Les gens ici sont adorables, très amicaux et chaleureux, et j'aime vivre ici.
Les Français du Nord prétendent souvent que les gens du Sud sont des "hypocrites"-faux et enclins à faire semblant d'être amicaux. J'ai fait l'expérience de la vie dans les deux régions (étant, comme vous, anglais). Je pense que cette attitude a p/e été exacerbée par l'administration de Vichy pendant la guerre, à en juger par ce que les Français m'ont dit au fil des ans. Une telle division nationale peut avoir des effets secondaires pendant longtemps.
@@kh23797 Je trouve que la gentillesse des gens autour de moi ici dans le Sud est vraiment authentique.
@@kh23797 Je trouve que la gentillesse des gens autour de moi ici dans le Sud est vraiment authentique.
French talk all the time, constantly.
I am confused. You can have small talk with long time friends or one's own mom and dad. Also, two total strangers standing together in a line can strike up a conversation that is NOT at all small talk if both want to. Small talk is harmless, banal pleasantries or sometimes might develop in a shallow observations of sports, recent weather abnormalities or price increases. Diving into a deep discussion about the causes and implications of this or that with a stranger is very unwelcome--even in America. Small talk lies between just saying "Good morning" and having a lengthier, detailed conversation.
I don’t find Americans diving into personal things during small talk either, just surface-level inconsequential stuff.
I lived a Paris ily a trente ans… at that time i understood it was impolite to ask ‘qu’est ques vous fait dans la vie?’
Is that not true any more??
Love your channel ❤
if you are invited to a party and there are many people maybe you could ask someone sitting next to you but it wouldn't be the most appropriate question in order to engage a conversation. I would choose to sit next to someone as lonely as me and ask something like "Do you know xx for long ?" If the person knows nobody and seems to be willing to talk then i would continue with " how did you meet ? " and then ask questions according to his or her answer.
Moved to the US 58 years ago,and up to this day i’m not really comfortable with small talk.There were instances where some people got offended by my lack of engagement,so I try now,but it doesn’t come easy as for me it’s not natural.
"Hi Jean! Did you talk with Andy?"
"O yes, I did. It was a nice small talk."
"Alright, what did you talk about?"
"Well, I asked how he is, he replied that he is fine, and I said that it's nice to meet him, and we said goodbye."
" ..... "
Je parle le français assez courrement---mais chez nous je trouve la petite nuance...merci bien.
You do a good job on explaining stereotypes and the existence of exceptions. Nevertheless, I don't like this aversion to small talk. I mean like there are some days we have a lot going on and would like to be left in silence but in general i thought all human beings like to try to connect. I don't know why that would be generally unacceptable to French. I am also curious if this observations are relevant to all French speaking people, or only to those from European France? For example, what are the attitudes of French Canadians to small talk?
Every nationality has a skewed view of themselves. That's why travel is so beneficial.
Voici la définition de bavarder sur le site du Larousse : parler abondamment de choses sans grande portée
C'est exactement ce que l'on appelle small talk ou chit-chat en anglais
I do I agree with this video but in comparison to Londoners, Parisiens are quite chatty and relaxed. Having moved from London to Paris, I find Londoners are more reserved / quiet / shy in the presence of strangers (unless we're drunk)
All of a sudden I recall another CZcams channel episode that spoke about so many young students both male and female who find it very difficult or impossible to make any friends in some European cities. Maybe more openness wouldn't necessarily unravel the fabric of culture.
Géraldine, est- ce que vous avez bien compris ce que le " small talk" veut dire ??
Oh, I see that my comment is very similar to many others here. One person says: "I don’t think Geraldine understands what small talk is." 😆
What you say is very true generally speaking for the country, but it's totally untrue for the region " Hauts de France " , Nord Pas de Calais, people in this region love small talk and most of them practice small talk on a daily basis , and they dare to do it even with strangers, but they'll do it even more with the people they meet during the day. That's one of the reason why the so called Ch'tis give to other French people this impression of openness and warm attitude towards others and towards life in general, i'm a parisian , i have traveled inside the country in most parts of the country, i have never witnessed in any other parts of the country such an ability and natural love for small talk like in the Région Nord Pas de Calais, i love their attitude, also they do not like to complain , which is also quite a big difference with the rest of the country haha
you could work on your pron of words such as "southern", or "adjective", "elevator." "philosophers". hairdressers. Usually stress errors.
Otherwise very interesting.
In France you do small talk all the time and I am so tiered of it, it leads to nothing, nothing at all!!
it is like this but in french..it is raining hard...oh yes, it is raining...so much rain..yes, today is a rainy day...yes, they promised a rainy day yesterday...just pouring now...and so on and so forth...mind numbing...
I've heard that Norwegians are like that too. They don't make small talk with strangers, but will with people they know.
Very lively and engaging as always, but I don't know why the lady refers to the American approach to small talk -- not all students of French are American and want to be lumped in with them.
i hv visited france few times..
wanting silence and not wanting to talk to strangers are 2 different things
yes in a way, mybe french don’t like small talk, but based on my visit, they DEFINITELY not silent. even Parisian can be loud when they want to
mybe i shud go again n try to see it after watching this video
It is not respect, it is courtesy, know the difference
Well, I can't speak for all Brits, but 'Le silence, c'est du respect' sounds just fine to me. I'm certainly not one who has to have his ear glued to the phone all the time!
Small talk in the states can be draining. 😞
« Tu fais quoi dans la vie ? » I’ve always been told that this is very impolite, since it seems to ask “how much money do you make?”. Maybe things have loosened up since I studied French.
In the US, strangers would tell me: "Hey, nice earrings" or "Those are cool earrings!"
In France, I once complimented a stranger: "Excuse me madam, sorry to bother you, but may I say that your earrings look very nice on you?"
And what did she say?
@@leeann6662 She was startled I spoke to her, then she said thank you :)
In France a person doesn't usually address a total stranger just to remark on something they're wearing, because it's sort of like invading their private space, so they find it awkward and strange. Although, once you know the person, they won't mind a compliment.
@@300books I know, I'm French :)
I just wanted to compare the two experiences
@@300books in other places either. Come on ! Who on the earth stop you on the street/ mall/ restaurant...to tell you how nice is your skirt/ earing/ 👜...
I’ve got the feeling that the definition of “small talk” is wrong here…I use small talk as an introducción when socialising, sometimes it evolves in an interesting conversation sometimes does not… this is one way you make good friends…one of the best conversation I had was on a train, on a 2 hour trip with an old lady that started with the underestimated small talk… do not underestimate small talk is all about communication…
This goes for all Northern Europeans (I’m Swedish)
I clicked the video in horror that I may have committed some faux pas in France just to find out that this is mostly aimed towards US-Americans lol I'm good
I’m an American, but one of the few who despises small talk. I avoid it at all costs. J’étais français dans une autre vie.
I believe there is small talk otherwise i would have never talked with people on parties where i knew nobody. What did we talk about ? uninteresting things but a lot of jokes as well. When i meet my neighbours (it took a few months) we do small talk now: weather, how prices went up, how is their dog doing, how was christmas ... But there are things we have to be careful like making compliments to one another, it's not easy.It can make the person feel really ashamed if people are around (a new haircut for example, i told a woman i loved her new haircut when no one was around. A client made a compliment to me in front of everybody (an english man) and i was very red and wanted to hide. He was a bit strange too as he was insisting and me not responding as i didn't know what to say. So awkward.
What country is yr American friend from?
Cultural norms exist. Some people need to learn that here. No worries.❤️🇫🇷
She seems to have some confusion about what small talk is for English speakers. In USA, small talk is not sharing personal details with a stranger, but closer to the the french" parler de tout et du rien." If you know really someone, small talk can extend to "échanger des banalitiés. Otherwise, small talk is only weather, fashion, non controversial current events, maybe a little joke (like when the elevator gets crowded), or a simply "how is everyone today" to which everyone lies and says "Fine" or "Ok" and maybe shares what they are on their way to do.
As an interior designer buying antiques in Paris over many decades I find the opposite. We are expected to greet the dealer with Bonjour, ca va? etc. In the US we get right to the work to be done no waste of time with pleasantries.
Right. I find French to be more social in that aspect. People should define what small talk is before saying who engages in what.
Americans tend to be friendly in that we can have an engaging conversation with strangers and part ways without a second thought. Whereas - in my experience - French do the polite chatter to keep social peace.
@@lavinder11 I agree with you. The definition of small talk differs according to culture, where you live and what you have been brought up to do.
The lack of stringent social etiquette and formality in the US is sometimes viewed as a lack of culture by foreigners who come from older cultures (Europe, Asia). But for many, it's refreshing because you aren't required to do the verbal dance.
She does say at the start of the video about having made a broad generalization..
Last week I casually asked a French guy whom I've spoken with 3 or 4 times, "Hi Joseph, how are you, how is your week going?" and he frowned and said "yes... okay... are we ready to start?". It was a business call and we were waiting for others to join. Did I commit a faux pas?
Alain Delon movies of the late 60's and early 70's are a prime example of the French not doing any small talk.
Vous avez raison; les Américains ont peur de silence.
Toward the end of this video, I was surprised by the amount of "tutoyer". Isn't that rather informal and impolite unless you are well acquainted with the person? I know of young brides who wait months for their in-laws to give permission to use "toi". Perhaps a video on this subject would be helpful.
Really? French people love small talking with me. Or maybe it's because they know I'm American and assume that I want to talk to them.
Anyway, French do the polite hello how are you to promote a good social atmosphere whereas Americans tend to bypass all of that to get down to business.
What we do is have personal conversations with strangers without a second thought. If this is how you define small talk, then yeah Americans do this a lot. I find it nice how we strike up conversations with no expectation for it to go anywhere. It's just a pleasant social interaction in the moment.
I thought "small talk" was conversation using words with two syllables or less.
How to say "You just lost the world cup!" in French.
Interesting. So as an American, how on earth are you meant to form a relationship with a French guy mostly over text? He rarely starts a text convo and it peters out v quick, and we can’t meet often unfortunately.
unfortunately nothing you can do. just say "hi" and "bye". when a man is interested he will call and arrange visits.
French people small talk all the time, they just make it sound deep because they think so highly of themselves
😅 true ! Small talk ...c' est monnaie courante !
I start to follow you for learning French. Can you please speak less English en more French. The ideal will be using the English occasionally. Instead of using English to explain, use French with English subtitle. Just a suggestion. Thanks for your work and efforts.
There are lots of French language blogs out there too.
Yeah, tell her how to run her own channel, why don't you? smh
The more I dive into French culture the less excited I get to go 😢 it sounds like from all the people who make CZcams about or visiting France ( mainly Paris) sound like they are arrogant and rude 😅
2:43: Si "le silence = le respect," je vous présente Cyrano, qui condamne son ami LeBret, toujours entouré d'"une foule" d'amis, qui, à l'avis de Cyrano, ne valent rien. Celui-ci, il préfère les ennemies--dangereux, peut-être, mais au moins honnêtes!
Cyrano:
À force de vous voir vous faire des amis,
Et rire à ces amis dont vous avez des foules,
D’une bouche empruntée au derrière des poules !
J’aime raréfier sur mes pas les saluts,
Et m’écrie avec joie : un ennemi de plus !
Le Bret:
Quelle aberration !
Cyrano:
Eh bien ! oui, c’est mon vice.
Déplaire est mon plaisir. J’aime qu’on me haïsse.
Mon cher, si tu savais comme l’on marche mieux
Sous la pistolétade excitante des yeux !
Comme, sur les pourpoints, font d’amusantes taches
Le fiel des envieux et la bave des lâches !
- Vous, la molle amitié dont vous vous entourez,
Ressemble à ces grands cols d’Italie, ajourés
Et flottants, dans lesquels votre cou s’effémine :
On y est plus à l’aise… et de moins haute mine,
Car le front n’ayant pas de maintien ni de loi,
S’abandonne à pencher dans tous les sens. Mais moi,
La Haine, chaque jour, me tuyaute et m’apprête
La fraise dont l’empois force à lever la tête ;
Chaque ennemi de plus est un nouveau godron
Qui m’ajoute une gêne, et m’ajoute un rayon :
Car, pareille en tous points à la fraise espagnole,
La Haine est un carcan, mais c’est une auréole !
(Trans by Brian Hooker):
Watching you other people making friends
Everywhere-as a dog makes friends! I mark
The manner of these canine courtesies
And think: "My friends are of a cleaner breed;
Here comes-thank God!-another enemy!"
Le Bret
But this is madness!
Cyrano
Method, let us say.
It is my pleasure to displease. I love
Hatred. Imagine how it feels to face
The volley of a thousand angry eyes-
The bile of envy and the froth of fear
Spattering little drops about me- You-
Good nature all around you, soft and warm-
You are like those Italians, in great cowls
Comfortable and loose- Your chin sinks down
Into the folds, your shoulders droop. But I-
The Spanish ruff I wear around my throat
Is like a ring of enemies; hard, proud,
Each point another pride, another thorn-
So that I hold myself erect perforce
Wearing the hatred of the common herd
Haughtily, the harsh collar of Old Spain,
At once a fetter and-a halo!
"When talking culture, you have to generalize." lol
It is true though.
Comment engager la conversation avec un français ? C’est simple : se plaindre ou critiquer quelque chose ou la politique 😂
How to start a conversation with a french person ? It’s very simple : Complain about something or criticize something or the politics 😂 I swear it is how 100% of the conversations start here in France. 100% true
I am curious. Is there an exception to this rule when women go to hairdressers?
In French upper middle and upper class, you NEVER leave a "temps mort". Silence is anathema in French "polite" society.
I’m an American who has lived in France for24 years. It’s true the French do not engage In small talk unless they are very close to you. On the opposite side, most Brits I know love small talk. Especially when it’s a chance to gossip or moan. Any where, any time. There are a few Brits who stay to themselves for the most part, but this is definitely an exception to the rule.
I'm a Kiwi who's lived in the UK and France. The Brits don't do small talk that much, but the French less so until they know you well. Cultures vary; I've spent a lot of time in the US and they are more inclined to make small talk. Perfectly pleasant people all of them; there are just variations between nations, which makes travel interesting.
La video était la meilleur démonstration de la manque du "small talk". Ça n'était beaucoup plus que se saluer. Moi, comme allemand aussi ne maitrise pas l'art de parler de tous et de rien. Je me reste muet avant de parler des choses irrélevantes. Ça m'étonne toujours ici en Espagne: La capacité des gens de parler pendant demie heure d'on ou on a acheté quelle chose ou si ce magazin est mieux pour les chaussures ou ce autre. Néanmoins, qui ne connait pas les situations dans lesquelles il faut être sympa avec le voisin/la voisine du table qui tu ne connais pas. J'essaye connecter avec les gens quand ils parlent d'un lieu que tu aussi connais et choses comme ça. J'en ai besoin personalent de l'impression d'étre rélevant pour moi même.
To my belle mere: ca roule? Sympa tes chaussures! Les enfants vont bien?