What is Executive Function and Why Do We Need it?

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  • čas přidán 22. 03. 2021
  • We always hear doctors talk about Executive Function, now let me explain what that is!
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Komentáře • 974

  • @Maddddddddy
    @Maddddddddy Před 3 lety +2021

    My laundry has been sitting on my bed for a week now. It's my most complicated task.

    • @CannedTunas
      @CannedTunas Před 3 lety +78

      F LAUNDRY

    • @categodfrey4722
      @categodfrey4722 Před 3 lety +116

      I'm horrible about this too but I just started sorting things before washing them by type, like shirts alone and pants next, so that when they come out there is less mental burden. It's easier to just fold everything when everything folds the exact same way. At least for me. Feel free to tell me to STHU

    • @springcrow
      @springcrow Před 3 lety +91

      And it NEVER ends.... laundry, the ultimate Bossfight, never to be won

    • @KevinStamps22
      @KevinStamps22 Před 3 lety +29

      @@springcrow Thank you Mario! But our princess is in another castle!

    • @oreoh_no6858
      @oreoh_no6858 Před 3 lety +64

      Ah yes, my chairdrobe is in a similar situation

  • @DaBetaDog11
    @DaBetaDog11 Před 3 lety +697

    “Ah, interesting.” I think, as I sit on the toilet watching my 20th CZcams video instead of completing the single simple task I’ve had a month to do that is due tomorrow. “I wonder if I’ve got issues with executive function?”

  • @foxwaffles
    @foxwaffles Před 3 lety +670

    I read online a few weeks ago that wanting to get something done yet somehow it's not getting done and WHY AM I SITTING HERE WHY CAN'T MOVE MY BUTT AND DO THE THING is actually not procrastination it's just executive function leaving the room...

    • @HowtoADHD
      @HowtoADHD  Před 3 lety +194

      hahaha "executive function leaving the room" is AMAZING

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +60

      Hah! I've considered buying a leash for mine

    • @SlickVicRM
      @SlickVicRM Před 3 lety +161

      I'm visualizing a board meeting where the CEO walks out and the other board members just stare at each other in awkward silence because they no longer know what to do

    • @coregoon
      @coregoon Před 3 lety +16

      This about sums up my life. 😅

    • @Ryan2020
      @Ryan2020 Před 3 lety +1

      I didn't know this thanks!

  • @ems9616
    @ems9616 Před 3 lety +708

    Irony, this poped up right in my feed after I just found out I missed my second vacciene due to my adhd... welp, one for the algorythm

    • @jasmint3207
      @jasmint3207 Před 3 lety +8

      Omg you made me laugh 😂 the algorythm is watching ... at least it showed you something helpful, right? 😁

    • @rev.rachel
      @rev.rachel Před 3 lety +11

      Oops! I hope you can get it sorted without too much executive function hassle :)

    • @benwh6540
      @benwh6540 Před 3 lety +19

      Yes, it’s what ADHD reWired coined as “ADHD-tax” 🤦🏻‍♂️every missed booking, every fine overdue, every lost item, every thing I broke because I got mad at it!

    • @Bozeman42
      @Bozeman42 Před 3 lety +43

      "iF iT'S iMPorTaNt YoU wilL rEMemBeR." /s
      No. No I won't.

    • @xdperrinette
      @xdperrinette Před 3 lety +3

      @@Bozeman42 yesss I feel you....but I must sya sometiime it slipped out and I say it to other (with a bit of sarcasm here and there)

  • @Kpop0223
    @Kpop0223 Před 3 lety +1435

    This channel has allowed me to overcome some shame I had trying to finish college with undiagnosed ADHD. After I've realized I have it, got medication, and work with my brain differently, I am in such a better place.

    • @Zalamandar
      @Zalamandar Před 3 lety +12

      Always such an awesome thing to hear. Don't let your guard down though! ADHD will be waiting... 😛

    • @penelopefp
      @penelopefp Před 3 lety +58

      I'm 53 and still working on college. I was diagnosed 7 years ago. No shame in slow and steady....!!

    • @knightofthewind1000
      @knightofthewind1000 Před 3 lety +13

      I'm in my first year of college and just started my first, lower dose of meds, still feeling like I have such a mountain to climb, is nice to hear that you have managed to get to a better place 😁

    • @whatever-ou2he
      @whatever-ou2he Před 3 lety +1

      Which medication are you taking?

    • @missytizon4477
      @missytizon4477 Před 3 lety +1

      Congratulations❤😍

  • @Mads_Hatter
    @Mads_Hatter Před 3 lety +376

    Smh we should make a petition to change ADHD’s name. It should just be renamed “executive function disorder” because I feel like the name ADHD only covers like two things about it.

    • @azlizzie
      @azlizzie Před 3 lety +22

      Definitely describes it better.

    • @Mads_Hatter
      @Mads_Hatter Před 3 lety +87

      @@azlizzie yeah, “attention deficit hyperactivity disorder” just sounds like a kid who can’t pay attention and is bouncing off the walls

    • @AlexandarHullRichter
      @AlexandarHullRichter Před rokem +43

      @@Mads_Hatter that's exactly how my mom characterized it, and that's why I'm now in my 30s withouta good foundation on how to manage myself.

    • @Hwelhos
      @Hwelhos Před rokem +10

      yeah cuz were ef'd

    • @alienspacekitten6187
      @alienspacekitten6187 Před rokem +8

      That just makes efd like imagine you explaining your efd to your neurotypical friend and they say "yah that's efed for you lol get it?"

  • @arianne2670
    @arianne2670 Před 3 lety +562

    I spent hours yesterday trying to get myself to step away from my phone and do something I enjoy (learning embroidery) - I failed. Sometimes it feels like I'm holding myself hostage, and that really sucks. At least when I watch these videos I know I'm not alone in it :)

    • @Bozeman42
      @Bozeman42 Před 3 lety +66

      I feel that! I have been wanting to work on some electronics stuff, but IT IS DOWNSTAIRS. What an impassible gulf. Instead of taking 5 minutes to bring the things I need up, let's scroll twitter for 3 hours!

    • @madlycountingsheep139
      @madlycountingsheep139 Před 2 lety +49

      God do I relate to this. As an artist I have so many projects I want to work on and things I want to try but I can't get myself to move and do it and I just sit there in bed on my phone SCREAMING AND BEGGING TO MOVE. It's so hindering.

    • @musicislife7464
      @musicislife7464 Před 2 lety +6

      I can only avoid my phone for so long 😭😭😭. My watch helps me to not check it as often . I can’t read I can’t sit down and read a book ever :(it’s super annoying :(. . I’m going to get re tested in a few weeks . To see if I still have it? Lol. Don’t think you can grow out of it.

    • @nicholekennedy362
      @nicholekennedy362 Před 2 lety +2

      @@madlycountingsheep139 OMG IKR, I’ve just been asking myself WHY JUST WHY!!

    • @ahumuzamuzoora
      @ahumuzamuzoora Před 2 lety +4

      I’ve been struggling with this for so long!

  • @kritikataank
    @kritikataank Před 3 lety +127

    “We can do hard things but we don't need to do them in the hardest way possible.”
    Jessica

  • @katieannrocks7947
    @katieannrocks7947 Před 3 lety +187

    I was literally just thinking about how I can't function correctly in this moment and boom your video showed up.

    • @Zingius
      @Zingius Před 3 lety +6

      same here. Delaying work right now. Feel paralized

    • @Ginamations3267
      @Ginamations3267 Před 3 lety +1

      Literally sameeeee

  • @kimberlypence2615
    @kimberlypence2615 Před 3 lety +188

    One thing that I have learned is that if I need to do something "weird" in order to accomplish things then I should just do that. I used to think that if I just kept trying to do things the "normal" way eventually it would click and I would get it, but if I let myself do things the "weird" way I am much more likely to get them done. Like installing a program that blocks me from my computer two hours before bedtime. Or having a continual list on my phone, or making people write notes instead of just telling me, or buying a certain kind of sock because its the only kind that doesn't set off my sensory issues. These things make my life so much easier

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +23

      You touched on something VERY important. Yes! We do have to be willing to be "weird". Our ADHD challenges demand creativity, innovation, bold experimentation, & brave exploration. I've learned to claim weirdness as a superpower🦸‍♀️

    • @SweetStuffOnMonarchLane
      @SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Před 3 lety +16

      YES, so true! Took me so long to come to that conclusion too! They need to teach that to the younger kids with ADHD so they don't waste half their lives trying to conform to things that don't work for them.

    • @Plethorality
      @Plethorality Před 3 lety +13

      yes!! i have wasted decades trying to be normal, and for what? it got me nowhere and blocked the creativity.
      weird is the way forward.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Před 2 lety +7

      @@Plethorality Better weird than boring!

    • @jhonellemcguire760
      @jhonellemcguire760 Před rokem +1

      This. This right here. You nailed it.

  • @sullennessa3819
    @sullennessa3819 Před rokem +8

    At 72, I watched this and almost cried. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression but can now see that, while they were right that I had both of those, the missed the underlying reason why. Better late than never. I will be looking for a adhd specialist. Thanks.

  • @bia7932
    @bia7932 Před 3 lety +65

    perfect timing.... just sent an email (the body was only 1 phrase) that I've been procrastinating off writing for 2 days..

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +2

      Yesss!

    • @arianne2670
      @arianne2670 Před 3 lety +6

      Honestly, I'm proud of you! I know how much effort it can take.

    • @bia7932
      @bia7932 Před 3 lety +2

      @@arianne2670 aww :(( this made my day thank u ily

    • @arianne2670
      @arianne2670 Před 3 lety +2

      @@bia7932 ❤️

  • @LegionOfWeirdos
    @LegionOfWeirdos Před 3 lety +393

    I have routines set up for the kids. One has ADHD and the other doesn't, but I make them both do them to reinforce the idea, as having a routine isn't going to hurt a neurotypical kid... They've been massively helpful to me as an adult. People who've known me have called them "quirks," but whatever. Those "quirks" often let me perform better than neurotypicals in many areas.

    • @prethambbs5087
      @prethambbs5087 Před 3 lety +39

      Hi, would you mind sharing some of the routines you use? I'm struggling for ways to organize my life. But I'm always willing to learn.

    • @JudgeyJudgeyable
      @JudgeyJudgeyable Před 2 lety +7

      Yes! Routines are such lifesavers! Gretchin Rubin’s book on routines turned me onto it.
      It can be hard to get into them but once you do, you’re flying. Your kids are lucky you are helping them get into routines early.

    • @MarsellaFyngold
      @MarsellaFyngold Před 2 lety +5

      Dude, routines are like.....the original lufe hacks. Regardless where you are on the neurodivergence-typicality spectrum.

    • @lilianzelaya-coria1509
      @lilianzelaya-coria1509 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Do you mind sharing the routines?

  • @BreGrant98
    @BreGrant98 Před 3 lety +44

    For anyone who has trouble showering:
    Buy a Bluetooth speaker, start music and lock your phone outside the bathroom. Don't leave the bathroom until the thing is done. Trust me, it helps!

  • @celestewatson8351
    @celestewatson8351 Před 3 lety +31

    I swear no matter what the video is about, I always end up weeping due to the validation.

    • @OkieCam16
      @OkieCam16 Před 2 lety +12

      ...and then again when reading the comments.

    • @siyandadlamini496
      @siyandadlamini496 Před 18 dny

      ❤ It hurts so much realising the torturous lives we’ve lived without diagnosis of this disorder. Makes me furious and weep at the same time

  • @rosewhipple7513
    @rosewhipple7513 Před 3 lety +60

    Wow, I literally just missed the deadline for my online quiz yesterday and I’ve been so frustrated that I couldn’t do any of my schoolwork anymore... perfect timing.

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +6

      You are doing great! Remember that there are excellent reasons -- REAL reasons -- why this happened. Don't beat yourself up. And letting your teachers know you have ADHD does not mean you're looking for an excuse or special privileges. It's giving them valuable information that they (the good ones anyway) will appreciate. Be well

  • @parasocialshepard7067
    @parasocialshepard7067 Před 3 lety +401

    I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for your videos. I'm recently coming to terms with some mental health problems I've had for my entire life, ADHD being one of the suspects. So thank you very much for the hard work, and all the support you show for those of us that are struggling.

    • @beepbeep6500
      @beepbeep6500 Před 3 lety +2

      :D

    • @therubbergymnast
      @therubbergymnast Před 2 lety +5

      Am I the only one that had to go back and re-listen to the definition of what executive function meant 20 times in a row until my executive function actually could focus and hone in to understand what executive function meant

    • @krg98
      @krg98 Před rokem +2

      ​@@therubbergymnastI just rewinded it for the second time 😢

  • @greenqueenn
    @greenqueenn Před 3 lety +247

    I am an adult at university and, yes, I still use a sticker chart...
    I genuinely don't know if I'd have managed to get any of my work done through quarantine without it😂 And I buy extra super exciting stickers for courses I don't like to make doing the work seem more exciting!!🎉

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +32

      I'm 62 & my university days are long past -- but I am going to buy glittery silly stickers the next chance I get! Believe it or not -- this kind of thing still works for me. Good luck to you!

    • @blazertundra
      @blazertundra Před 3 lety +21

      I sometimes bribe myself with a trip to the gas station for candy and a slushie when I need to do a hard thing, so I totally understand. 😂

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +11

      @@blazertundra Yup! For me it's ice cream & jewelry designs, but yours gets you out of the house. Even better

    • @penelopefp
      @penelopefp Před 3 lety +8

      I designed my own planner. Splurged on a $10 reem of really nice paper to print it on. (I can print my own planner for YEARS now!) And treated myself to my favorite pens. Now calendaring and habit tracking is WAAY more rewarding!!!

    • @Dancestar1981
      @Dancestar1981 Před 3 lety

      Does it work well for you?

  • @OnServantsWings
    @OnServantsWings Před 3 lety +70

    This explains so much about why I only started recognizing myself as an adult in the past couple of years. I've kept pushing myself to do "adult" things but only recently started experiencing myself as an adult despite being 31. Thank you!

    • @mariezguitar5029
      @mariezguitar5029 Před 3 lety +7

      I’m over 50 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. Pretty colour sticky notes help.

    • @debspayne2668
      @debspayne2668 Před 2 lety +3

      Snap, I'm 34 and always use the word adulting, omg it's just executive ummmmm I forgot the other word.......damn it!! Lol

  • @savannahhodson15
    @savannahhodson15 Před 2 lety +22

    I myself do not have ADHD but my husband does. I stumbled across your channel when I was trying to learn more about ADHD so I can help my husband find ways to keep him on track and make life more ADHD friendly. I hate when people get so angry at him because of how his brain works because at one point in time he began to be afraid to do anything or try anything because he didn't want to fail or disappoint or really just upset anyone in general. I showed him the video of you on Ted Talk and he cried because he related to everything you spoke about so deeply. These videos you are making I believe is so so so great and they truly are very helpful not only to those who have ADHD but for people like me who dont have it but are willing to learn more about it so they can try and help someone they love struggling with this. This channel has helped my husband make his days a little easier each day. Thank you so much. Please never stop what your doing ❤

  • @anthonyyork3216
    @anthonyyork3216 Před 3 lety +120

    ive struggled with adhd my whole life and nearly cost me my apprewnticeship which at 17 is everything including my education and after watching so many of your videos ive been able to cope better and socialings has become easier. i just really appreciate the effort you put into all your videos cause its makes a difference and you make a difference to other people in so many ways.

    • @Artecus
      @Artecus Před 10 měsíci +1

      Can you explain more? What kind of apprenticeship? How did it almost cost you the apprenticeship? Examples? What did you exactly change to get better?

  • @QuinnytheDM
    @QuinnytheDM Před 3 lety +24

    I keep trying to start this video, but then I get distracted, look away, and realize the video is half over and I still haven't listened to it. 3rd times the charm.
    After finishing the video, I struggle a lot with the idea that the executive function behaviors are being an adult. I understand why it is said, but it just results in me constantly feeling childish. This channel is an amazing resource and has been a big help in realizing just how much of my life is affected by ADHD. This has easily become on of my favorite channels Keep up the good work

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +2

      Hah! Exactly. I would take notes but where oh where is my notebook? And a pen I need a pen ...?

    • @whatisahandle221
      @whatisahandle221 Před 3 lety +4

      Please don’t look down on yourself-or buy into others’ opinions of “what is normal” or what you “should” be able to do or not do without some external aids.
      It’s like if you were 5’ 5” tall and needed a book from the top shelf of a 7’ tall shelf in the library of congress: would you feel ashamed of yourself for using a ladder? Would you really bother to cate about some 6’ 6” tall guy from making fun of you for using a ladder while he sits comfortably at his own desk with the books he was able to easily reach? Does it matter that he didn’t need a ladder but you do?
      Suggestions: Lookup the How to ADHD Fish Song. And, if you can/are interested in dipping a toe deeper: lookup Dr Russel Barkley’s “This is how you treat ADHD based off science”.
      And, really, start getting to know yourself-your strengths, your weaknesses, your gifts, and your common hiccups-with a lot less judgement about what is “adult” or “supposed to be able to do without [such-and-such-help]”, and start learning what and how you can work _with_ your brain versus trying to make it work exactly like everyone else expects.

  • @misteegraham4172
    @misteegraham4172 Před 2 lety +2

    Hiring a house keeper who’s primary job was the laundry was the smartest thing I ever did. Miss Patty has been part of our family for almost 10 years. My 3 children (now ages 18,21,23) had a much better childhood because of her! I could always wash & dry the laundry… but it was just the folding & definitely the putting it away that got me stuck. So everyone in our family (including a then 8 year old) would wash & dry their own laundry & Miss Patty would arrive to 5-6 baskets of clean laundry & she’d fold & put away mine & my husbands laundry… but the girls were required to put away their own. She then tackle the bathrooms & floors if time… but laundry was always the main priority. I appreciate this woman so much. Plus, knowing she was coming on Thursdays… forced me to straighten up every Wednesday. Find you a helper. Your mind deserves it!

  • @JuhoHartikainen
    @JuhoHartikainen Před 3 lety +32

    I’ve created a sort of a dopamine menu as a color-coded word cloud of routines and possible things to do; written a lot of lists; kept journals; created timetables and charts and so on… but I keep polishing them too much and I’m having a hard time actually getting any of them affect my actual day-to-day behavior. Writing things down or talking about doing them makes me feel like I kind of almost did them already, but then I don’t follow up on that. Suggestions warmly welcome! ❤️

    • @heiditaylor3514
      @heiditaylor3514 Před 3 lety +4

      I do the same thing! Reminding myself to do something turns into thinking I already did it!

    • @xdperrinette
      @xdperrinette Před 3 lety +2

      @@heiditaylor3514 SAME omg

    • @howcomeitsbeeping
      @howcomeitsbeeping Před 3 lety +9

      Having a set of routines is great. But learning to follow them consistently takes a really, REALLY long time. I feel like my routines never become completely automatic, but remembering to use them does get easier, eventually.
      Don't try to do everything at once. Pick one very, very simple routine, like getting the dishes done. Put the steps on a post-it note above the sink, and set a timer to remind yourself to look at it each night. For me, steps 1 and 2 are generally "put on apron" (it's cute and it reminds me that I'm cleaning when I inevitably wander out of the room) and "music", because music helps me initiate new tasks. In a month, maybe the dishes are getting done more often. If not, you adjust and try something new.

  • @treefrog1018
    @treefrog1018 Před 3 lety +89

    Wow. The next time I feel embarrassed writkng a list for myself in a place where NO ONE else is, I'll just remind myself: Would I be embarrassed using a ramp while in a wheelchair? 🙃

  • @mamasaidno1749
    @mamasaidno1749 Před 3 lety +8

    I learned that I have ADHD last year at the age of 63. While at first it sort of 'threw' me, once I got over the initial shock, I was THRILLED. I now understood why I did or didn't do things, why I am so freaking funny and creative, and why I sometimes feel that I am being rejected, when I am really not. I am not sorry that it took so long to discover this about myself. I have had a wonderful life, even with the ups and downs of ADHD, and I intend to continue doing so. I am learning to work with my brain, not try to force it into a 'normal' mode, and it is working. I have a lot to be thankful for, and YOU, my dear girl, are a big part of that. You explain the different aspects of ADHD in simple, funny and practical ways (the pomodoro technique is life changing). God bless you, and I look forward to more videos.

  • @cheerfulbutterkitty9598
    @cheerfulbutterkitty9598 Před 3 lety +68

    I'm happy to say I got sent to this channel yesterday after getting diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. My counselor actually recommended watching you. You're doing an awesome job at this CZcams thing mate 👍👍👍

  • @historiansrevolt4333
    @historiansrevolt4333 Před 3 lety +19

    When a video on executive function comes up as I am having issues with it to get work done... hello brains!

  • @benjaminlamptey1867
    @benjaminlamptey1867 Před 3 lety +26

    Being an adult in university, I still need lists and charts to operate so I make a bunch (not that they work). Having other people keep me accountable has really kept me afloat. If no one cared I'd prob have dropped out a while ago (and shocked pretty much everyone who knows me, claiming I'm smart 😂).
    Thanks so much for doing this, I can imagine how hard it is. Know that it's extremely helpful. I'm almost wondering what I'd do without this channel 😆.

  • @kariccio
    @kariccio Před 3 lety +5

    “We can do hard things, but we don’t need to do them in the hardest way possible.” WOW. Great words! Do the things that work for you, in the way that they work for you🙌🏻👏🏻

  • @shanemcgirr3667
    @shanemcgirr3667 Před 3 lety +116

    Hey i just wanted to say thank you, i literally have gone through my whole life feeling out of step and like a fog and pretty much wasn't sure what was going on with me, i came across your videos and i just watched them and alot of what i learnt from you clicked with me and i went to the doctors to have a look into this possibility, it took a year and alot of appointments and assessments but it turns out i was right and have now started adhd medication last week and its like for once i feel so clear and for once that i can breath. Im 25 and it took me this long but finally things make sense and i feel for once in control and i really just wanted to thank you for helping me and educating me, you really helped me change my life and for that i will never be able to show you how much i appreciate it. Keep doing what you do, because you really are helping so many and just seriously thank you 😊

  • @ny020
    @ny020 Před 3 lety +10

    I really appreciate these videos. My wife is adhd and it helps me to understand what she is going through to support her better. We have been dating since we were kids and to watch her grow through this has been a real blessing. I wish I understood this better when we first met but better late then never right?

  • @gregofthedump
    @gregofthedump Před 3 lety +33

    I'm over fifty, and it's only this month that I've come to believe that I may have ADHD. Although I've always found it difficult to carry out tasks, it's actually becoming harder to do things as i get older.

    • @tolstoy21
      @tolstoy21 Před 3 lety +10

      Talk to a therapist. I went through this in my 40s. I found life just gets harder and the complications intensify as you get older and don’t seek treatment. That you posted this comment makes me believe you have some reason to think you have a problem that needs working out that you’ve been unable to overcome yourself. I delayed seeking help for my whole life, knowing as far back as my teens something was off. I always knew I wasn’t like other people. Didn’t think like them. Didn’t act like them. Didn’t understand them. Still felt like the child in the room up into my 40s despite being very successful at what I do. Didn’t realize I had ADHD until I had a kid who is classic hyperactive / dyslexic. Learning about ADHD through him made me realize ‘holy sh*t! the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”

    • @Dancestar1981
      @Dancestar1981 Před 3 lety +4

      I have heard that female hormones can make ADHD worse at different life stages too

    • @xdperrinette
      @xdperrinette Před 3 lety +3

      @@Dancestar1981 Oh non please...

    • @SweetStuffOnMonarchLane
      @SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Před 3 lety +5

      I was diagnosed at 48 and am 52 now. Yes, it does get harder. Medication helps A LOT with focus and motivation for me... not so much with the memory issues... but, still so glad I was lucky enough to be diagnosed as it can be difficult, especially when you're older. Don't waste anymore time... get tested and diagnosed friend! You'll be so glad you did!

    • @ivanarbanas6990
      @ivanarbanas6990 Před 2 lety +2

      @@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Hello from Croatia, I have adult ADD and use medication Cocerta, it helps me a lot, in fact it changed my life.., it was extremly hard to live without treatment.. 😉

  • @rachelleverone9268
    @rachelleverone9268 Před 3 lety +11

    executive dysfunction almost ruined my life, getting diagnosed and on meds has improved everything tenfold

  • @ericasmith5531
    @ericasmith5531 Před 3 lety +2

    As an undiagnosed ADHD brain I know I’ve been coping with my executive dysfunction by trying my hardest to write important things down on my calendar or agenda every day AND make sure I constantly re-organize my stuff to make daily tasks easier on on executive function, as well as re-evaluate my executive function tools like white boards, digital calendars, notepads, to-do lists, sticky notes, etc to see what’s working best for me *right now*... it’s such a struggle to keep up with my demanding brain just to do the simplest tasks, but seeing these videos are extremely validating and motivational. Thank you for making me feel welcome and supported! Thank you for educating, and doing your best while you do! ❤️

  • @ich_musste_das_fur_komment5897

    I needed that. Yesterday I had one of those "Why can't I be neurotypical"-days?
    Today, I'm happy again to be a fellow brain. Thank you for rallying us up. I helps incredibly to know, I'm not alone with it.

  • @TheSaneHatter
    @TheSaneHatter Před 3 lety +3

    I just got off of three days struggling with "executive function": got my bicycle fixed, did SIX loads of laundry (with a bad machine), ditched the trash & recycling, survived walking home without the bus, met online with my ABA guy, and juggled three huge pieces of business & therapeutic correspondence . . . and I'm not sone yet. My head HURTS!!!

  • @butterflyeffect6298
    @butterflyeffect6298 Před 3 lety +12

    popped up in my recommended while I was struggling to study for a chem test... another point to the algorithm!

  • @Grifta
    @Grifta Před 3 lety +22

    My job needs me to fill in a daily timesheet, but if I leave it until the end of the day then it just grinds my life to a halt. I did the things and moved the project forward, but it just always seems impossible to remember what I did or how long it took afterwards.

    • @RetepElpmet
      @RetepElpmet Před 3 lety +7

      Similar situation with my job. I ended up just writing everything down but then I also started using my phone to take pictures of the time (from a computer screen, time clock, whatever) so I could narrow down exactly what time I was starting and stopping a task. It helped with jogging my memory.

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +5

      It still surprises me (years after diagnosis) when the seemingly simplest things are not so simple for ME! There's a little five-year-old inside who stomps her feet & has a mini-tantrum because "It's not fair!" Good luck to you! Trust Miss Jessica -- she's almost always right.

    • @510amy5
      @510amy5 Před 3 lety +6

      @@susanzoeckler4926 I have issues with this! I really struggle with change sometimes and then when I haven't slept well and have had a hard day someone at work comes up to me saying hey we are changing this small thing and my whole brain just throws a fit. I struggle to remain calm until the convo is finished before I send my husband angry texts lol. The worst part is when I know it's an unreasonable reaction and part of my brain is saying whoa chill it's no big deal but most of my brain is just screaming incoherently -_-

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +4

      @@510amy5 Yup. SO familiar! It sounds like you have an understanding husband -- me too & it helps a lot

    • @Dancestar1981
      @Dancestar1981 Před 3 lety +3

      @@RetepElpmet oh god yes working memory issues but once the information is transferred to long term memory it’s easier to recall it

  • @superfluityme
    @superfluityme Před 3 lety +26

    The analogy should have been having to build a ramp for my access whilst being in the wheelchair.

  • @user-iw4lj6vg6o
    @user-iw4lj6vg6o Před 3 lety +7

    Some teachers have mastered the art of making homework questions that you won’t find answers from any of the course materials or even from google, the amount of executive functioning needed to answer decently and on time.. haven’t seen 👀

  • @saitamablackgoku2889
    @saitamablackgoku2889 Před 3 lety +8

    This channel really has helped me with my adhd I swear I be telling my mom this and she just thinks I’m using my adhd for excuses for things normal people can’t understand what we go through 😭

  • @PetersonRyan97
    @PetersonRyan97 Před 3 lety +75

    1.7k likes and not a single dislike. You can tell we really appreciate your videos! You've helped so many of us better understand and work with our ADHD. Thank you :)

  • @anthonydepaula7176
    @anthonydepaula7176 Před 3 lety +5

    I'm 32 year's old my cognitive thinking process didn't fully come in till 29, along with a cleaner diet and cognitive herbal supplements. I also didn't start taking medication till 27 when my son was diagnosed. it's really insane how much of a shell i used to be i was always raised taught that I was "lazy"... anyways I just wanted to say thank you! for doing what you do & bringing more awareness to ADHD in adulthood.

  • @martinweir4007
    @martinweir4007 Před 3 lety +5

    I vividly remember taking tests at the age of 40 to see if I have ADHD. Turned out yes, inattentive type. My executive function came to a screeching halt when the “working memory” test came up. Pre-diagnosis, off course, so I beat myself up something awful. Love this show, love that you call us “brain”! Thank you!

  • @1QueenAliquippa
    @1QueenAliquippa Před 3 lety +12

    Thank you! What confuses me is that, as I get older, it seems like it's getting worse. I didn't find out I had ADHD until around 43 years old, but when I did everything made so much sense! I really appreciate your videos because you break things down in a way many can understand and you're very relatable!

    • @SweetStuffOnMonarchLane
      @SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Před 3 lety +5

      I'm 52, diagnosed at 48, and yes, it does seem to get worse. I find that I do much better if I eat well and really get my sleep. If you're female, it (especially memory!) can get much worse around perimenopause and menopause with the hormonal changes. Rick Green at TotallyADD just had a video about that where he talked with a doctor who specializes in it. She said the ADHD medications typically don't help with the memory problems, but hormone replacement might. He had interviewed another doctor awhile back and she said a lot of people in nursing homes being treated for dementia really have undiagnosed ADHD... including her own sister because the doctors won't believe her! She even brought them studies to prove what she was trying to tell them! Her sister is getting much worse because she is not getting the correct medications. I feel so bad for those older people that were never diagnosed and continue to suffer. We have come a long way, but there is still so much to be done!

    • @ShadowRaven66669
      @ShadowRaven66669 Před 2 lety +1

      The longer that your downstairs/primitive brain is stuck in survival mode, the worse it becomes.

  • @KP-rh5qz
    @KP-rh5qz Před 3 lety +12

    Perfect timing, this is a great reminder for me and my son.

  • @kseniiab5733
    @kseniiab5733 Před 3 lety +10

    After being diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago (at the age of 30), I’m still in the process of learning and understanding my condition properly. And this video (as of course so many others on your channel) just very quickly and shortly explained most of my struggles with “being an adult”. I’m still shocked every time things that I’ve always been viewing as flaws of my character (“laziness”, lack of self-control and self-discipline etc.) turn out to be ADHD symptoms and not facts confirming that I’m a useless human being 🤷‍♀️
    Also, I’m definitely having a “bad brain day” due to a lack of sleep, since I’ve binge watched “How to ADHD” videos till 3 am last night 😅😅

  • @spencerhodgson4540
    @spencerhodgson4540 Před 3 lety +3

    It’s been a literal year since I’ve watched one of these videos because I’ve been so overwhelmed by everything

  • @nekkomemes3647
    @nekkomemes3647 Před 3 lety +4

    I've been studing clinical studies on this, and man, i will give credit to the work she puts in finding the truth.👍

  • @jasmint3207
    @jasmint3207 Před 3 lety +5

    I'm so happy you made this video! I struggle a lot with executive functions and also often don't know how to explain to others what the problem is. Instead, I often feel ashamed that I can't "just" do things that seem so basic and easy to virtually everyone I know. Thank you for giving me the words!
    Looking forward to more videos about this :)

  • @settembrini3301
    @settembrini3301 Před 3 lety +5

    I feel like the executive function bit is what impairs my life the most. I'm writing an essay for university which is due in three days. I had three month and I was highly motivated in the beginning, than I got sidetracked, switched topics a few times, got way to many books from the library and forgot to give them back on time... Yesterday I finally started writing, because now its urgend enough for me to do it, even though I know, it will not be good enough and that I messed up, what could have been a really good essay. Your videos are very encouraging. Thanks for your great work and sorry for my bad english.

    • @Dancestar1981
      @Dancestar1981 Před 2 lety

      Definitely I have Aspergers and ADHD Inattentive so doubly affected by the executive functioning being impaired

  • @mushymarz2341
    @mushymarz2341 Před 3 lety +11

    i love these videos as i may have adhd but got Diagnosed with anxiety keep it up

    • @amritas-edits
      @amritas-edits Před 3 lety +4

      the same thing happened to me too originally

  • @benjaminlamptey1867
    @benjaminlamptey1867 Před 3 lety +3

    Imho this is the hardest part to deal with when it comes to having ADHD. Cos we live in a world where the ExecFunct is an absolute necessity.

  • @limalicious
    @limalicious Před 3 lety +2

    I wanted to tell you that I set up an "inbox" in each room of the house where I am allowed to place miscellaneous items back in January. I haven't lost anything for more than an hour since then because using the boxes is becoming habit and I can check them!

  • @skankinthecomments
    @skankinthecomments Před 9 měsíci +1

    My therapist sent me this video! I've been subbed for a while, but the fact my therapist recommended you to me just goes to show how much research/care you put into your videos ❤❤❤

  • @litoaranda1810
    @litoaranda1810 Před 3 lety +10

    Thank you, your videos, Tips and experiences help us understand our own obstacles and challenges, and let's us have empathy to know we are not alone in this world.

  • @thelifedyslexic
    @thelifedyslexic Před 3 lety +6

    My executive function stopped my watching this video until I had finished work for the day. Good job, delaying gratification brain.

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +2

      Sounds so easy. But it's not. Not when you have to remind yourself to remember not to forget. Bravo!

    • @Bozeman42
      @Bozeman42 Před 3 lety +1

      I... watched this video instead of getting ready for work. It is past time to take my ADHD meds!

  • @Heothbremel
    @Heothbremel Před 3 lety +1

    That moment when you have to rewatch this because you tried to pay attention and your brain retained basically none of it...
    This is a really great one!!!

  • @victoriagolden4233
    @victoriagolden4233 Před 2 lety +1

    My parents said I didn’t get things done because I was lazy or I didn’t care. Learning about executive dysfunction (as it relates to autism) has explained and helped so much. It’s great to replace guilt with strategies for success.

  • @dane.dagreat
    @dane.dagreat Před 3 lety +9

    Thank you for posting this! I am still struggling but these vids help. GOD Bless and keep going.

  • @mistyarcher802
    @mistyarcher802 Před 3 lety +7

    As an ADHD mom trying to navigate raising an ADHD child, my life is sometimes a literal circus 😅
    These videos help me in a lot of ways, for myself and my kiddo! Thanks for making them and keep up the great work!! 💕

  • @Everin04
    @Everin04 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you. Been wanting to talk to social worker and nurse colleagues so we can be more compassionate and more helpful :)
    Been looking for a short high quality video like this

  • @mariamf.6773
    @mariamf.6773 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow 30% delayed! This video is so empowering. I just want to show it to everyone so they could get a glimpse at why some things are so hard did me.

  • @dorkyderpterio8649
    @dorkyderpterio8649 Před 3 lety +3

    , I've put off so many chores, work and essential tasks and this explains it so much 🥺

  • @Jognt
    @Jognt Před 3 lety +3

    "You know how you sometimes do something?"
    "...yeah?"
    "Well, turns out that's actually a two-part thing, deciding to do it and actually doing it."

  • @maryannryan9423
    @maryannryan9423 Před 3 lety +1

    Great video! When I feel that general blankness that comes over me when I get mentally paralyzed, which is at least once a day, this is where I now come to get unstuck.

  • @colinwebster8930
    @colinwebster8930 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks to finally putting a term into what I felt for so long! I always described it as a railroad from my brain to my hands/mounth/feet to be able to do tasks but somewhere along the line the train car derails and I cant get it back on track.
    Now to work on it...hopefully 😂

  • @laurenink8953
    @laurenink8953 Před 3 lety +17

    I can’t wait to see you go more in depth on this! 💕💕💕 I love your work so much!!!

    • @HowtoADHD
      @HowtoADHD  Před 3 lety +12

      Oh yay! Good! The video I'm writing now is going to be more about working memory :)

    • @whatisahandle221
      @whatisahandle221 Před 3 lety

      @@HowtoADHD - Could you include some of the source citations for where you get your latest research?
      (I’m reading a book from 2011 of Dr. Barkley’s on how no one agreed-or properly measured-executive function, but I’m not quite sure where his working theories are these days.)

  • @briansforzo2607
    @briansforzo2607 Před 3 lety +4

    This is the best explanation of EF I've seen! Thank you!

  • @staceyklj
    @staceyklj Před 19 dny +1

    Yup. 💯. I research endlessly on what to do next, gathering evidence, making decisions, and then 💥. I can't move on to the next obvious steps. Thank you for the knowledge!

  • @Agowns94
    @Agowns94 Před 3 lety +3

    I was diagnosed last week and your videos have helped big time - I don't even know where to start attempting to explain how my adhd feels to my loved ones but you do it so perfectly!!

  • @dracawyn
    @dracawyn Před 3 lety +4

    I'm so tired. It feels like I have to fight myself every day just to get the simplest things done. I'm so tired of fighting. When do I get to rest.

    • @Dancestar1981
      @Dancestar1981 Před 3 lety +2

      I’m with you on that one except when we are involved in activities that we enjoy and then it’s ooh bouncy with excitement

    • @natalieviner5231
      @natalieviner5231 Před 3 lety +2

      Gamify stuff? Small tasks deserve rewards. Even music with timers beatvthe clock. Split up big tasks into smaller ones, and even smaller ones even if it feels silly to write them down. Sometimes even ticking off a tiny task spurs you on. Good luck u can do this

    • @mariezguitar5029
      @mariezguitar5029 Před 3 lety +2

      Jessica suggested Habitica in one video and it worked for about a month. Also BUJO, that worked for about a year, maybe less. I feel like I need to change motivation systems in order for them to work.

  • @pnut9995
    @pnut9995 Před 3 lety +6

    I needed this today. Realized I was out of my ADHD meds last night. UGGGGG! #BadBrainDay!

  • @reinorivers854
    @reinorivers854 Před 3 lety +2

    This channel is bringing me sooo much peace. Ive wanted answers to my ADHD for YEARS!! This makes sooo much more sense.

  • @emilyharkness9685
    @emilyharkness9685 Před 3 lety +1

    Here's a tip! Voice typing! I've still got tons of issues with executive processing, but found that voice typing helps. If I've got an assignment where I know the answer and just need to type it out but don't want to do that, phones and google docs tend to have the option for voice typing. It's a great way to get started and is much more interesting then regularly writing stuff out.

  • @-TSApril-
    @-TSApril- Před 3 lety +7

    It’s hilarious how when you were mentioning how every brain can have different impairments, I thought “What about mine I wonder?” and then I spent going back and forth maybe 10 times because I kept forgetting the meanings of each of the executive function processes. 🤦‍♀️😂
    Welp- I guess I have confirmed that my working memory is *bad*

  • @tamberjune
    @tamberjune Před 3 lety +7

    Thank you for this video! I keep trying to explain these things to my family and doctors and all the things. No prioritization here... 🤷 Working on it daily!

  • @ihaveawebcamja
    @ihaveawebcamja Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for these videos and not just because I now know when Tuesday happens. Helps keep me on a schedule. I also am now going to be using this video to explain my zero executive function.

  • @rhael42
    @rhael42 Před 3 lety +1

    thank you for explaining that different aspects of executive function can be affected to different degrees! I was wondering why I seemed fine with some things but horrible with other aspects

  • @jcandnp
    @jcandnp Před 3 lety +3

    Great video. Such an important topic to talk about at this moment in human history. Although Barkley is a great source of information, I would highly recommend Peg Dawson, the educational psychologist, who frames the executive functioning picture more in terms of executive SKILLS, and then goes DEEP into the treasure trove of strategies to help kids (and anyone) develop those skills.

  • @strongpowerty9377
    @strongpowerty9377 Před 3 lety +4

    Every episode i'm once again amazed at how on-point the animations are!! The cognitive processes chart? Genius! How have i never thought about like that

  • @fredrikfarkas
    @fredrikfarkas Před 3 lety +1

    You are so important! These bite sized videos is just about what i can consume on the fly when i usually discover you put up a new one. Then it lingers in my head trough the day, i end up with questions and need for detail, and go for deep dives into the web when couch time comes at the end of the day. It's just perfect🙏🏻♥️✨

  • @juliaa__.
    @juliaa__. Před 3 lety +1

    literally every time i'm having a SUPER bad adhd day jess ends up posting a video. Life's good!

  • @amberfriend839
    @amberfriend839 Před 3 lety +5

    Do you guys have any favorite calendar/to-do/habit apps or hacks that help you actually get things done? I’m so bad at creating that structure for myself!

  • @APufferfish
    @APufferfish Před 3 lety +7

    I always do that :/
    I think of something great I could do that would be good, but then when I try and do it I realise I cant

    • @bernadeneadams1960
      @bernadeneadams1960 Před 3 lety +1

      so many times!

    • @susanzoeckler4926
      @susanzoeckler4926 Před 3 lety +2

      Yes you can. Unless it's trying to turn into stegosaurus & fly to the moon in a teacup -- you can do it. Break it down. Step by step by step.

  • @BloomzMember
    @BloomzMember Před rokem

    I'm watching 2 yrs after original post ... and crying. Releasing. 😪
    Thank you for making this channel and these videos. It's helping me better understand my late-in-life ADHD diagnosis, helping me resolve guilt and shame, helping me find ways to help myself going forward.
    🕊✌️🦋

  • @annafutch5842
    @annafutch5842 Před 3 lety +1

    So so so so so so glad to have found your channel. I am one of those parents that figured out that I have adhd whilst my kid was being diagnosed. I am relating to your videos so much and already it’s made such a positive impact 😊

  • @user-hb4zz4gh5e
    @user-hb4zz4gh5e Před 3 lety +3

    This channel is honestly such a blessing😭

  • @andrew4635
    @andrew4635 Před 3 lety +3

    Really looking forward to the rest of the executive function videos! I’m ready to let go of a lot of guilt :p

  • @dare2liv_nlove
    @dare2liv_nlove Před 3 lety +2

    Just what i needed. Waiting for the "Emotional Disregulation" vid in this series now! :)

  • @amrutaponkshe
    @amrutaponkshe Před 3 lety +1

    @How to ADHD
    Thank you so much Jessica and team @howtoadhd I worked my way through a lot of your videos since last year and have been finally diagnosed now, at 36! Thanks for creating this community and the amazing, amazing content that recognizes our struggles.

  • @nimit9575
    @nimit9575 Před 3 lety +6

    Diagnosed with ADHD a couple of weeks back. While it helps me connect the dots and gain self-acceptance, I find myself really impatient with developing healthy habits and better EF. Could you please talk about how ADHDers can better deal with impatience around the new habits/ treatment they are working with? Thanks

    • @TheBaumcm
      @TheBaumcm Před 2 lety

      Imoatience, along with the dopamine seeking need for novelty, can often derail habit forming. She’s made a bunch of great videos on motivation, habits and maintaining it long enough to see benefits that might help. Maybe even look into her videos about rewards since long term goals and benefits are often too far away to serve as motivation. She has said ADHD is very now or not now. Anything you can do to focus on bringing not now to now would help, I would imagine.

  • @aoifefitzgerald7379
    @aoifefitzgerald7379 Před 3 lety +3

    Lmao i’m watching this while trying to watch TV when i should be doing homework and also exercising lol

  • @dougandcandacebishop7259
    @dougandcandacebishop7259 Před 3 lety +1

    So clear & helpful. Been watching your vlog for about 4 yrs since our son was diagnosed w/ADHD. Thank you SO MUCH! We've now been introducing him to your channel so he can find ways we can help him and he can feel better about dealing with life. Many blessings to you & your team!

  • @Maryam-mz7jo
    @Maryam-mz7jo Před 3 lety +1

    your videos have helped me so much with learning the vocabulary i need to explain how my brain works! i havent been diagnosed with adhd but i have severe anxiety and depression and i keep finding a lot of common ground among them

  • @Someone-km3mx
    @Someone-km3mx Před 3 lety +6

    My executive function memory section hasn’t been well since I don’t remember because my memory isn’t working :’)

  • @brontesaurusrex7235
    @brontesaurusrex7235 Před 3 lety +5

    Hey! I just found your channel yesterday. I started watching because I've had many questions about my own brain since seeing those "things you didn't know were symptoms of ADHD" memes. Whatever the answer to that turns out to be for me, I'm also an elementary school teacher and your videos have given me a lot to think about when it comes to giving my students the supports they need to be and feel successful. Thank you!

  • @BrassicaRappa
    @BrassicaRappa Před 3 lety +1

    Great job getting another video out!
    Don't forget your piano!

  • @lauraholzler1417
    @lauraholzler1417 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much. I think you just helped me understand something about my children.