I think part of the reason why many families who homeschool have better behaved kids, is because the parents are able to address more behaviors and correct it. Teachers are so limited on discipline in the school, even in Christian school. It isn't that homeschool kids are perfect, but the parents often parent better....because they see and correct behavior.
I guess the main reason is that most people that home school are very invested and involved in the upbringing of their children and they are also probably from financially and emotionally stable homes. Both is on average less likely for the average public school kid. I think most of this advantages equal themselves out when you are controlling for social and financial background as well as a parents‘ willingness to actively parent.
Homeschool kids aren't weird, they are INDIVIDUALS. Since they are not constantly being influenced and peer pressured by 100s to 1000s of kids in their school they can just be themselves and not follow the crowd.
Someone correct me but I have a friend who homeschools and her kids interact with a lot of people and not just kids their age? Like people from all ages and backgrounds because they are exposed? They are absolutely delightful to talk to and conversate with hah.
I used to work near a Starbucks that was a meeting spot for a group of homeschooled kids. The mom's would chat and sip, while the kids studied. There was a botanical garden or something similar nearby as well, where they would have their "Field trips".
It’s true! I homeschool two of my kiddos and they interact with all ages and are very social! They will sit and talk with the elderly right down to the baby. We also do homeschool group activities and learning that include a wide range of kids. It’s a lifestyle I never imagined doing but now I can’t imagine doing it any other way ❤.
Homeschool mom here. My youngest is going into her senior year. I've been homeschooling for 20+ years now and my kids are second generation homeschoolers. I love giving my kids lots of opportunities to interact with people of different ages and give them different experiences. If not for homeschooling we wouldn't have time to have such a full life. 4H, sports, homeschool co-ops, music, church, photography, dance lessons, homeschool activities such as dances, volunteer work, etc.. And my kids had homeschool and public school kids. They have had mentors and mentored others. Especially my youngest. I am so thankful for the community we have been blessed with through our time homeschooling.
To the point of falling behind, it's really amazing to have the opportunity to cater the curriculum to how the child learns. Public schools don't have that type of flexibility or time to switch anything when it's not working for the child.
As a child who wants to home school, there is many different reasons I should I have extreme social anxiety physically and mentally. I can’t focus at school but my home is my safe space.
in the past before we became more aware of things like autism schools weren't (and likely still aren't) set up to deal with kids who are neurodivergent. And so many families of these "weird" kids ended up homeschooling.
We just pulled our kindergarten son from public school last week because of this. The school truly tried and offered him all that they could, but there just wasn't a good place for him at school. I'm a little worried the socialization part will be an issue for us in the future because the homeschool groups around us all seem to be very structured activities and he can't really do those (who knows if he will be able to in the future or not) but for now he's close enough to preschool age we can just find pre school play groups that both he and his little brother can play in. Those seem to be mostly free play and story times, both things he really loves.
Thanks for this! My husband says these things when I say I would like to homeschool my almost 6 month old. Obviously we have some time to decide but I think it’s smart to research in advance. Our son has 8 cousins, 3 of them younger than him!!! (and he’s only almost 6 months old! lol), so he will have plenty of socialization regardless of what we decide to do.
Yes! There are so many more positive ways to socialize then being put in public school. Again, read hold on to your kids with your husband. It isn’t even a homeschooling book but may change his mind about socialization.
It's a really growing movement, and the bigger it gets, the more it will encourage more to do it. The public school system is toxic these days and teachers are leaving it in droves, often w/ ptsd, because kids are getting so out of control. I see such a difference w/ homeschooled kids and esp. their parents.
I'm pregnant now and I'm also a teacher. Being a teacher made me 100% sure that I don't want to send my kids to school. It's not a good environment or even necessary for them.
I both homeschooled my children and later drove a school bus. I was sure i made the right decision in homeschooling, but after driving a school bus I have no doubt.
Thank you for your content I so needed this....I'm in the verge to pull my son out of school in the UK but I'm so scared to ruin his education as I'm messy. But he has been ill catching bugs at school almost every week and I'm not ok with that.I loved your video a good reminder for any christian mum who is thinking in HS.
When I first started homeschooling my youngest socialization was the most brought uo "concern" by people. I would tell each one, "talk to my son about anything you want and see how well he does." By the time he was about 6 or 7 people stopped asking about the socialization. parents who think they can't homeschool their children are thinking of how misbehaved they are from being put in the gov school system. Some kids are weird/unique and that will happen whether they're homeschooled or not. LOL One of the things I loved about homeschool kids is that the older kids took younger kids under their wings. There weren't any "age" segregations like public school kids. If my son had stayed in private school, they would have labeled him and he would have been behind. A lot of my son's peers went through public school and they're very angry with the school system. They feel the schools have failed them. And can we talk about how many can barely read and barely do math. Excellent video.
I have one in public school and two homeschooling. My homeschooled kids receive far less socialization time than my public school child. Unfortunately, a lot of her public school socialization results in insecurities and negative information. My homeschool kids do not have any close good friends though, like my daughter in public school does. For that reason, my 12 year old wants to return to picnic school after three long and lonely years.
Mine wasn’t either. He hates being nagged so I took a slow approach, we happen to meet a Dad who was homeschooled and has a successful career. My husband also likes watching CZcams so I watched some Daily Wire people talking about HS and his algorithm started suggesting things on HS so he watched things on it on his own. And I think the last thing that helped is that he spoke with a friend about me wanting to HS and his friend said his wife wanted to do it too and they were thinking about it too. He was on board after that, I think it felt more acceptable knowing how common it is becoming. Good luck!
You are so right. My grown children are all doing great. What do they really need to know. How to read and write papers and math. They need to know how to find information and put it together. They need to Love the Lord and love to learn. They can do anything with this in their toolkit.
I am happy to pray about it for you. 56, didn't get to have kids, and really feel for parents w/ all they are up against w/ how indoctrinating and against parental rights the public school system has gotten. W/ you ready to do it, that is half the battle for your husband. You'd gotten some great comments in here, esp. from mospinn, whose husband wasn't on board at first either. Your hubby will come around, I'm sure.
I’m gonna be the odd one out here, but I attempted to homeschool my son and though he was easy to teach and followed our timetable well, he did better in a school setting (private) than with me 1:1. When I consider Charlotte Mason’s 1st principle: Children are born persons, I saw that my extroverted son not only thrived but excelled in a school setting where he can look up to other authority figures. He is everything you described as a homeschooled child- mature for his age, speaks well and comfortably with both genders regardless of age and is very comfortable in himself and the Christian values we have instilled in him. My point being is not one size fits all. This message is mainly for the parent that clicked on this video due to its title wondering if their story is the opposite: we took our child out of homeschool and now he is thriving. I should point out that we have educated our child since birth and continue investing in his education by creating an atmosphere of learning in the home, we also chose a good school with a good curriculum. Not every parent can afford private school education so homeschooling with a community is another good option. I would also look to see if there’s a microschool in your area as that is another good option and more affordable.
This sounds like a mom who failed at homeschooling so she has to put it down to make herself feel better.. my homeschooled son is 2 grades ahead of his government indoctrinated peers.. he’s smart, mature, and well spoken
That is so good to hear! I have felt like I have failed many times and I am sure many homeschooled moms feel the same. It definitely hasn’t been an easy journey but I do not feel like I have failed when I let go of many beliefs I have had from the culture many of us grew up in.
Socialization while home schooling is not guaranteed. It doesn't "just happen" but rather requires the parent(s) to reach out for and with thier students/ children; some parents want thier children more isolated for a variety of reasons. This also addresses issues related to "weird kids". Social awkwardness is one reason children, and adults, are considered weird. An intune parent can address this without the psychological damage that can occur with bullying. But, as you mentioned those with less functional family dynamics remain a bit out of sight with homeschooling.
School and socialization aren’t the same . They are 2 different things that people love to combine as Justification for public schooling ..school should be learning that is it .. at school kids socialize for an hour max . I’m so tired of the whole school is socialization nonsense statement .
My younger siblings were homeschooled through my oldest siblings 8th grade year. The younger ones are far less weird than the older ones. I know that they are not the typical outcome. But my step mother was not a good home schooler at all.
I had to homeschool. Military family. The last two schools for 4 and 5 had so many bullies. I wanted my daughter to stay in school. But her mental health was declining in 4th grade!!! Now we are having the time of our lives. Just got back from disney world. We had a 70 degree day this winter so we went to the zoo wh8le all are bullies are sitting in class
I would argue that there are valid reasons not to homeschool that were not addressed in this video, such as lazy parents who are not fully involved/invested in their children's education or a child with special needs who benefits from specialized therapies that the parent may not be able to provide/afford outside of a school environment. I agree that homeschooling is fantastic for parents committed to making it work with the ability to provide for the needs of their children. I just still believe there are cases in which it may not be the best option, and I think it is important to be honest about these times. Otherwise, I agree with most of the points made in this video.
These are good points. Nothing is best for everyone. We are all individuals. But I would say that I have special learning needs in my family that were not being addressed in the public school system. I have had much, much more support with my child’s learning style after pulling out completely and getting grants for testing, and catered tutoring for learning disabilities to get her the help she needs. It takes lots and lots of time to research to find these solutions. But like you said, that takes a proactive parent. A lazy parent fails in so many more ways than education for their child. Most likely a child with a lazy parent will fail in public school as well, because of the lack of support in homework and extra help that child may need.
I think because homeschooling is not the norm that it's an easy thing to blame. That being said, I've seen enough bad homeschool situations to understand the stigma.
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Does your children take standardize tests in subjects that you already "taught them" to see if they will pass or fail the subject? The standardize tests should be taken at a testing site and not at home. Are the children ever going to be able to go to school when they are older? It is nice to homeschool when they are young but harder when they are older.
That is an interesting perspective. I know many who have sent their kids to school in later years and also those who have homeschooled to college with great success. I’m sure it depends on the kid and the parent.
@@FosteringCuriosityAre you going to have your children take standardized tests for each subject or at least before they move to the next grade level? The standardized tests should be taken at a testing center and not at home
@@FosteringCuriosityAre you going to send your kids to school when they get older? I know you mentioned what other parents do but what are your plans?
I think I'd be careful downplaying the need for good academic standards in favor of character development. You need both. It would also be good to do a video on why homeschooling isn't as good for the kids and mitigate those deficits. For example, homeschoolers start to think everything can go on their time. In the real world, you have to work to a deadline. Also, at school, you have to deal with a teacher with an accent or different religion, or who doesn't think you're the cat's meow, or who has a radically different set of values to your own. That's the real challenge in the end. Look how much energy adults have to spend to get radical ideologies out of government! You won't have the skills to deal with those evil things if you haven't had your beliefs tested. Then too, there are teachers at school who really know their subject, such as math, and can inspire you in that direction where your parents may not have the interest or love for the subject. And some teachers have far better communication styles; ie. they don't talk like Mom. I tend to agree homeschooling can be good for many parents, but certainly not all parents.
Oh my goodness! That book changed the way I view the world! There are so many things us parents are worried about that we really shouldn’t be at all! Love the book. 🙃
I think part of the reason why many families who homeschool have better behaved kids, is because the parents are able to address more behaviors and correct it. Teachers are so limited on discipline in the school, even in Christian school. It isn't that homeschool kids are perfect, but the parents often parent better....because they see and correct behavior.
I guess the main reason is that most people that home school are very invested and involved in the upbringing of their children and they are also probably from financially and emotionally stable homes. Both is on average less likely for the average public school kid. I think most of this advantages equal themselves out when you are controlling for social and financial background as well as a parents‘ willingness to actively parent.
Homeschool kids aren't weird, they are INDIVIDUALS. Since they are not constantly being influenced and peer pressured by 100s to 1000s of kids in their school they can just be themselves and not follow the crowd.
Yes! I love it. Freedom to just be. 💕
Amen 💞
Well adjusted kids are now called weird. 😢
Instead, they are influenced and pressured by their parents. Neat!
Someone correct me but I have a friend who homeschools and her kids interact with a lot of people and not just kids their age? Like people from all ages and backgrounds because they are exposed? They are absolutely delightful to talk to and conversate with hah.
I have noticed this in the homeschool world too! Socialization can be so much more positive when we take it by the reigns.
I used to work near a Starbucks that was a meeting spot for a group of homeschooled kids. The mom's would chat and sip, while the kids studied. There was a botanical garden or something similar nearby as well, where they would have their "Field trips".
It’s true! I homeschool two of my kiddos and they interact with all ages and are very social! They will sit and talk with the elderly right down to the baby. We also do homeschool group activities and learning that include a wide range of kids. It’s a lifestyle I never imagined doing but now I can’t imagine doing it any other way ❤.
Homeschooled kids are actually a lot more socialized than children who aren’t
Homeschool mom here. My youngest is going into her senior year. I've been homeschooling for 20+ years now and my kids are second generation homeschoolers. I love giving my kids lots of opportunities to interact with people of different ages and give them different experiences. If not for homeschooling we wouldn't have time to have such a full life. 4H, sports, homeschool co-ops, music, church, photography, dance lessons, homeschool activities such as dances, volunteer work, etc.. And my kids had homeschool and public school kids. They have had mentors and mentored others. Especially my youngest. I am so thankful for the community we have been blessed with through our time homeschooling.
To the point of falling behind, it's really amazing to have the opportunity to cater the curriculum to how the child learns. Public schools don't have that type of flexibility or time to switch anything when it's not working for the child.
True!
As a child who wants to home school, there is many different reasons I should I have extreme social anxiety physically and mentally. I can’t focus at school but my home is my safe space.
in the past before we became more aware of things like autism schools weren't (and likely still aren't) set up to deal with kids who are neurodivergent. And so many families of these "weird" kids ended up homeschooling.
We just pulled our kindergarten son from public school last week because of this. The school truly tried and offered him all that they could, but there just wasn't a good place for him at school. I'm a little worried the socialization part will be an issue for us in the future because the homeschool groups around us all seem to be very structured activities and he can't really do those (who knows if he will be able to in the future or not) but for now he's close enough to preschool age we can just find pre school play groups that both he and his little brother can play in. Those seem to be mostly free play and story times, both things he really loves.
Thanks for this! My husband says these things when I say I would like to homeschool my almost 6 month old. Obviously we have some time to decide but I think it’s smart to research in advance. Our son has 8 cousins, 3 of them younger than him!!! (and he’s only almost 6 months old! lol), so he will have plenty of socialization regardless of what we decide to do.
Yes! There are so many more positive ways to socialize then being put in public school. Again, read hold on to your kids with your husband. It isn’t even a homeschooling book but may change his mind about socialization.
It's a really growing movement, and the bigger it gets, the more it will encourage more to do it. The public school system is toxic these days and teachers are leaving it in droves, often w/ ptsd, because kids are getting so out of control. I see such a difference w/ homeschooled kids and esp. their parents.
I'm pregnant now and I'm also a teacher. Being a teacher made me 100% sure that I don't want to send my kids to school. It's not a good environment or even necessary for them.
I agree!
I both homeschooled my children and later drove a school bus. I was sure i made the right decision in homeschooling, but after driving a school bus I have no doubt.
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you so much ❤️ Struggling homeschool mom here, having a bad week 😓 Your words put me back into focus. God bless you 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
You got this!
Thank you for your content I so needed this....I'm in the verge to pull my son out of school in the UK but I'm so scared to ruin his education as I'm messy. But he has been ill catching bugs at school almost every week and I'm not ok with that.I loved your video a good reminder for any christian mum who is thinking in HS.
Such a great video, I hope lots of people watch this!! These myths can get very tiresome to deal with. 😊
I think so too!
While in school the kids couldn't even talk to each other. And they had to stand at least 6 ft away from their peers. And they have to wear masks.
So sad!
I needed to hear this SO much! Thank you!!!
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much for ALL OF THIS!
Of course! 💕
Thank you for this!
Glad it was helpful!
What a great video. Thanks for sharing.
Amen!
Loved hearing your thoughts mama! Great video ❤
When I first started homeschooling my youngest socialization was the most brought uo "concern" by people. I would tell each one, "talk to my son about anything you want and see how well he does." By the time he was about 6 or 7 people stopped asking about the socialization. parents who think they can't homeschool their children are thinking of how misbehaved they are from being put in the gov school system. Some kids are weird/unique and that will happen whether they're homeschooled or not. LOL One of the things I loved about homeschool kids is that the older kids took younger kids under their wings. There weren't any "age" segregations like public school kids. If my son had stayed in private school, they would have labeled him and he would have been behind. A lot of my son's peers went through public school and they're very angry with the school system. They feel the schools have failed them. And can we talk about how many can barely read and barely do math. Excellent video.
Its funny hearing about the situation at the party about their behavior, because I hear the same thing everytime about my girls who are homeschooling.
Love it!
Thank you! This was so good, it blessed me
I’m so glad! 🥰
I needed this. Thank you 💕
You're so welcome!
I have one in public school and two homeschooling. My homeschooled kids receive far less socialization time than my public school child. Unfortunately, a lot of her public school socialization results in insecurities and negative information. My homeschool kids do not have any close good friends though, like my daughter in public school does. For that reason, my 12 year old wants to return to picnic school after three long and lonely years.
Have you looked into co-ops in the area? My 10 year old made some very close friends in our co-op. Maybe give that a try.
Can you say a prayer for me. I want to homeschool but my husand.is not on board.
My husband wasn’t either. Actually I think he would still rather them be in school. Pray for your husband. He may come around! 🙏🏼💕
Mine wasn’t either. He hates being nagged so I took a slow approach, we happen to meet a Dad who was homeschooled and has a successful career. My husband also likes watching CZcams so I watched some Daily Wire people talking about HS and his algorithm started suggesting things on HS so he watched things on it on his own. And I think the last thing that helped is that he spoke with a friend about me wanting to HS and his friend said his wife wanted to do it too and they were thinking about it too. He was on board after that, I think it felt more acceptable knowing how common it is becoming. Good luck!
You are so right. My grown children are all doing great. What do they really need to know. How to read and write papers and math. They need to know how to find information and put it together. They need to Love the Lord and love to learn. They can do anything with this in their toolkit.
I am happy to pray about it for you. 56, didn't get to have kids, and really feel for parents w/ all they are up against w/ how indoctrinating and against parental rights the public school system has gotten. W/ you ready to do it, that is half the battle for your husband. You'd gotten some great comments in here, esp. from mospinn, whose husband wasn't on board at first either. Your hubby will come around, I'm sure.
Praying for you ! ❤
I needed this today.
Hugs! 🥰
I read part of that book! Very good!
Agreed!
I’m gonna be the odd one out here, but I attempted to homeschool my son and though he was easy to teach and followed our timetable well, he did better in a school setting (private) than with me 1:1. When I consider Charlotte Mason’s 1st principle: Children are born persons, I saw that my extroverted son not only thrived but excelled in a school setting where he can look up to other authority figures.
He is everything you described as a homeschooled child- mature for his age, speaks well and comfortably with both genders regardless of age and is very comfortable in himself and the Christian values we have instilled in him. My point being is not one size fits all. This message is mainly for the parent that clicked on this video due to its title wondering if their story is the opposite: we took our child out of homeschool and now he is thriving. I should point out that we have educated our child since birth and continue investing in his education by creating an atmosphere of learning in the home, we also chose a good school with a good curriculum. Not every parent can afford private school education so homeschooling with a community is another good option. I would also look to see if there’s a microschool in your area as that is another good option and more affordable.
Great insights! I completely agree!
Love the book Hold Onto Your Kids
This sounds like a mom who failed at homeschooling so she has to put it down to make herself feel better.. my homeschooled son is 2 grades ahead of his government indoctrinated peers.. he’s smart, mature, and well spoken
That is so good to hear! I have felt like I have failed many times and I am sure many homeschooled moms feel the same. It definitely hasn’t been an easy journey but I do not feel like I have failed when I let go of many beliefs I have had from the culture many of us grew up in.
I'm autistic my kids are too. We're doomed to be weird anyway lol.
Socialization while home schooling is not guaranteed. It doesn't "just happen" but rather requires the parent(s) to reach out for and with thier students/ children; some parents want thier children more isolated for a variety of reasons. This also addresses issues related to "weird kids". Social awkwardness is one reason children, and adults, are considered weird. An intune parent can address this without the psychological damage that can occur with bullying. But, as you mentioned those with less functional family dynamics remain a bit out of sight with homeschooling.
School and socialization aren’t the same . They are 2 different things that people love to combine as
Justification for public schooling ..school should be learning that is it .. at school kids socialize for an hour max . I’m so tired of the whole school is socialization nonsense statement .
My younger siblings were homeschooled through my oldest siblings 8th grade year. The younger ones are far less weird than the older ones.
I know that they are not the typical outcome. But my step mother was not a good home schooler at all.
Aww that’s too bad. Of course it would be best to have a stable mother being the one teaching.
I had to homeschool. Military family. The last two schools for 4 and 5 had so many bullies. I wanted my daughter to stay in school. But her mental health was declining in 4th grade!!! Now we are having the time of our lives. Just got back from disney world. We had a 70 degree day this winter so we went to the zoo wh8le all are bullies are sitting in class
That sounds amazing!
Weird? What does that mean exactly?
Right? I actually see it as a compliment now! I don’t want to be “normal”. 😂
Weird= Not following the trends
Like she stated in the video, weirdo kids are raised by weirdo parents.
I would argue that there are valid reasons not to homeschool that were not addressed in this video, such as lazy parents who are not fully involved/invested in their children's education or a child with special needs who benefits from specialized therapies that the parent may not be able to provide/afford outside of a school environment. I agree that homeschooling is fantastic for parents committed to making it work with the ability to provide for the needs of their children. I just still believe there are cases in which it may not be the best option, and I think it is important to be honest about these times. Otherwise, I agree with most of the points made in this video.
These are good points. Nothing is best for everyone. We are all individuals. But I would say that I have special learning needs in my family that were not being addressed in the public school system. I have had much, much more support with my child’s learning style after pulling out completely and getting grants for testing, and catered tutoring for learning disabilities to get her the help she needs. It takes lots and lots of time to research to find these solutions. But like you said, that takes a proactive parent. A lazy parent fails in so many more ways than education for their child. Most likely a child with a lazy parent will fail in public school as well, because of the lack of support in homework and extra help that child may need.
I think because homeschooling is not the norm that it's an easy thing to blame. That being said, I've seen enough bad homeschool situations to understand the stigma.
It’s true there are some sad situations in homeschool or not. 😢
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Does your children take standardize tests in subjects that you already "taught them" to see if they will pass or fail the subject? The standardize tests should be taken at a testing site and not at home. Are the children ever going to be able to go to school when they are older? It is nice to homeschool when they are young but harder when they are older.
That is an interesting perspective. I know many who have sent their kids to school in later years and also those who have homeschooled to college with great success. I’m sure it depends on the kid and the parent.
@@FosteringCuriosityAre you going to have your children take standardized tests for each subject or at least before they move to the next grade level? The standardized tests should be taken at a testing center and not at home
@@FosteringCuriosityAre you going to send your kids to school when they get older? I know you mentioned what other parents do but what are your plans?
@@FosteringCuriosityWhy don't you you give a direct answer instead of saying "that is an interesting perspective?"
I think I'd be careful downplaying the need for good academic standards in favor of character development. You need both. It would also be good to do a video on why homeschooling isn't as good for the kids and mitigate those deficits. For example, homeschoolers start to think everything can go on their time. In the real world, you have to work to a deadline. Also, at school, you have to deal with a teacher with an accent or different religion, or who doesn't think you're the cat's meow, or who has a radically different set of values to your own. That's the real challenge in the end.
Look how much energy adults have to spend to get radical ideologies out of government! You won't have the skills to deal with those evil things if you haven't had your beliefs tested. Then too, there are teachers at school who really know their subject, such as math, and can inspire you in that direction where your parents may not have the interest or love for the subject. And some teachers have far better communication styles; ie. they don't talk like Mom.
I tend to agree homeschooling can be good for many parents, but certainly not all parents.
So true!! My kids are so social 😂 sometimes I asked them to be less! I’ve never heard of that book! I need to read it!
Oh my goodness! That book changed the way I view the world! There are so many things us parents are worried about that we really shouldn’t be at all! Love the book. 🙃
Hah this is me with my kids, one in particular will share her life story with anyone who will listen and talks like she’s got an energizer battery 😅.