Choose a date. "September 14th, 2027. It will be twins, one girl and one boy. He will be a CPA and she will be an astronaut. Their names are Jasmania and Horatimous." Stick with that story EVERY time someone rudely asks.
Roxiepoe: I LOVE those names! Clearly, you are a genius! Side note - we adopted a baby on a 3 day notice. (That's a common thing when you adopt.) So we borrowed a baby name book and started looking. We decided that Sherlock and Boris would fit the bill: Boris Sherlock for a boy, and Sherlock Boris for a girl - Sherly for short. It was a great joke, and I told a friend of mine. When we got home from the airport with our baby girl, there was a large hot pink poster taped to our window that said "Welcome home, Sherlock Boris!!". I still have it, 30 some years later.
❤ to anybody who is struggling… you are not alone and you should not be embarrassed. Having said that… it’s your journey and it’s up to you who joins you for which parts. People get excited and they don’t think through what they might be doing to your mental health. But that doesn’t mean they are bad people. Often they just need telling that you will discuss it with your partner when you and your partner are alone. A polite to firm change of subject and normally it’s not mentioned again. You will find your own way that suits you to tell them where your boundaries are but whatever happens, you are worthy, valued and loved. ❤
I hate the "when are you having kids" question and when I was younger I always used to reply "you are assuming I can have kids" that shut them up and stopped them asking again .... I recommend it as a strategy irrespective of whether you can have kids or not .... people should not ask that question at all, they do not know your circumstances and what you might be battling.
Word of warning if you have a nosey family with no shame like mine be prepared to answer that question. I can't have kids and they all asked "so which medical condition, illness, or accident caused that." I am physically disabled, you can't tell unless you know, and have multiple auto immune diseases. Those aren't the cause but they would complicate a pregnancy greatly.
@@WildflowersCreations Frankly, if they continue to be that intrusive and rude I reckon you have two possible courses of action : 1 / be just as rude back by asking them if they have piles or something which they will find equally embarassing to talk about and if they tell you you're being rude respond with "well, so are you", or 2/ burst into tears and leave the room. If they want to put you in an uncomfortable position, then you should return the complimeht. On a different note I'm sorry to hear you can't have kids I was in a similar situation to you but don't let the bar stewards grind you down, just because they're family doesn't give them the right to scarify your soul. Edited for typo.
We were asked that question also. Once at a family dinner and my reply to them was rudely, " It's not from lack of trying!" That shut it down. We wanted children, about 4, I even had names picked out, but it never happened.😢
What is so darn hard to say to people... Its none of your business. And leave it at that? Both our our parents never asked because they knew that would be our answer. No friends or relatives either, well except my great grandma and before i could answer, she answered herself saying oh my thats right rude of me, never mind. 😂 We had a good laugh lol
Thank you for this video. My husband and I are going through the same thing; we've been married for three years and haven't had any luck. I hate when someone asks me about kids or tells me to hurry up.
I got asked 'When are you having kids'???? So, I went out and rented a 'kid' goat 🐐 from a dear friend!!! The next time THE question was asked, I told her that I already had a 'kid' and showed her photos 😊. Funnily enough, never got asked that again 😅😊😅😊😅😊. I loved 😍 the peace and quiet 🤫 🙊 Even included the 'kid' in the wedding photos 😁😁😁😁😁!! Best $50 I ever spent 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do what you want. But maybe be honest with your relatives and then they will probably stop. Most family loves you and would maybe help you with anything that you might be going through. Usually just trying to break the ice to get a conversation going
Choose a date. "September 14th, 2027. It will be twins, one girl and one boy. He will be a CPA and she will be an astronaut. Their names are Jasmania and Horatimous." Stick with that story EVERY time someone rudely asks.
Roxiepoe: I LOVE those names! Clearly, you are a genius! Side note - we adopted a baby on a 3 day notice. (That's a common thing when you adopt.) So we borrowed a baby name book and started looking. We decided that Sherlock and Boris would fit the bill: Boris Sherlock for a boy, and Sherlock Boris for a girl - Sherly for short. It was a great joke, and I told a friend of mine. When we got home from the airport with our baby girl, there was a large hot pink poster taped to our window that said "Welcome home, Sherlock Boris!!". I still have it, 30 some years later.
❤ to anybody who is struggling… you are not alone and you should not be embarrassed. Having said that… it’s your journey and it’s up to you who joins you for which parts.
People get excited and they don’t think through what they might be doing to your mental health. But that doesn’t mean they are bad people.
Often they just need telling that you will discuss it with your partner when you and your partner are alone.
A polite to firm change of subject and normally it’s not mentioned again.
You will find your own way that suits you to tell them where your boundaries are but whatever happens, you are worthy, valued and loved.
❤
I hate the "when are you having kids" question and when I was younger I always used to reply "you are assuming I can have kids" that shut them up and stopped them asking again .... I recommend it as a strategy irrespective of whether you can have kids or not .... people should not ask that question at all, they do not know your circumstances and what you might be battling.
Word of warning if you have a nosey family with no shame like mine be prepared to answer that question. I can't have kids and they all asked "so which medical condition, illness, or accident caused that." I am physically disabled, you can't tell unless you know, and have multiple auto immune diseases. Those aren't the cause but they would complicate a pregnancy greatly.
@@WildflowersCreations Frankly, if they continue to be that intrusive and rude I reckon you have two possible courses of action : 1 / be just as rude back by asking them if they have piles or something which they will find equally embarassing to talk about and if they tell you you're being rude respond with "well, so are you", or 2/ burst into tears and leave the room. If they want to put you in an uncomfortable position, then you should return the complimeht.
On a different note I'm sorry to hear you can't have kids I was in a similar situation to you but don't let the bar stewards grind you down, just because they're family doesn't give them the right to scarify your soul.
Edited for typo.
We were asked that question also. Once at a family dinner and my reply to them was rudely, " It's not from lack of trying!" That shut it down. We wanted children, about 4, I even had names picked out, but it never happened.😢
Same. 13 miscarriages and we finally realized that The Powers That Be had decided. We try to shuffle the questions off, but people are rude.
What is so darn hard to say to people... Its none of your business. And leave it at that? Both our our parents never asked because they knew that would be our answer. No friends or relatives either, well except my great grandma and before i could answer, she answered herself saying oh my thats right rude of me, never mind. 😂 We had a good laugh lol
It’s just a wedding, if people take it this serious, just fucking elope
Thank you for this video. My husband and I are going through the same thing; we've been married for three years and haven't had any luck. I hate when someone asks me about kids or tells me to hurry up.
Heavily intrigued by this title.
I got asked 'When are you having kids'????
So, I went out and rented a 'kid' goat 🐐 from a dear friend!!!
The next time THE question was asked, I told her that I already had a 'kid' and showed her photos 😊. Funnily enough, never got asked that again 😅😊😅😊😅😊.
I loved 😍 the peace and quiet 🤫 🙊
Even included the 'kid' in the wedding photos 😁😁😁😁😁!!
Best $50 I ever spent 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I never asked….it was between my daughter and DIL…no one else. Yes, I have 2 delightful granddaughters ❤❤❤
"We've been having problems..."
"I'm gonna stop you right there and try to deflect where I think this is going..."
Do what you want. But maybe be honest with your relatives and then they will probably stop. Most family loves you and would maybe help you with anything that you might be going through. Usually just trying to break the ice to get a conversation going
Its a question that everyone needs to stop asking, not everyone can have or want children.