Brené Brown: The Quest For True Belonging | Chase Jarvis LIVE
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- Brené now holds the record for the most cjLIVE appearances, this being her third time on the show. She is a vulnerability and empathy expert and has one of the most watched TED Talks of all time on the subject and is the author of four New York Times best selling books, one of which, Daring Greatly, is my playbook for staying creative and true to myself. Her new book, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone, has come out at a time where we need it most with our world being as divisive and disconnected as it is, it’s giving us the tools and ideas to use our unique skills to help connect with each other.
Like in our past episodes, we quickly go deep in this conversation. Brené drops bombs about the importance of connection and how to use your art and creativity to get there. We talk about power of paradox and you need to look no further than the paradox of her no bullshit Texan way of communicating her vulnerabilities as a paradox in itself. It was so refreshing to break down boundaries with Brené again after a year- hope you enjoy the interview as much as I do.
In today’s episode:
We talk about how divisive times are good breeding grounds for good art and how that art may be just what we need to form stronger connections between us. Art can save us.
Brené has such a unique way of talking about valuing your work. Have a strong back and a soft front. We talk about how to set boundaries around your worth and communicate that value without being a jerk.
Everything in this episode comes down to taking the reigns on your brain. You will learn about and tactics on how to use your intellect to your advantage, especially when your lizard brains wants to take over.
Timestamps:
0:00 Introducing Brené Brown
0:43 Chase Jarvis Live Intro
0:58 Brené's Book: Braving the Wilderness
4:28 Prevalence of Disconnection in Society Today
9:07 Using Art to Transcend Loneliness
13:36 Advice for Disconnected Creatives; Belonging
17:07 Navigating the Wilderness: Being Misunderstood
22:09 Brené's List of People Whose Opinions She Cares For
24:22 4 Practices of True Belonging
27:56 Becoming a Creative is Signing Up for the Wilderness
29:16 4 Practices of True Belonging (cont.)
36:00 Social Media and The Worth in Belonging
39:11 4th Practice: Strong Back (Boundaries)
46:32 4th Practice: Soft Front (Vulnerability)
50:47 What role does braving the wilderness play to getting your bain to work for you?
56:42 Qualities of Great Leaders
1:00:33 What role does speed play in leadership?
1:02:07 Patterns in Innovation and Failure
1:04:43 Trust and Accountability
1:06:23 About Brené: Fun Facts and Experiences
1:14:59 Advice on Managing Personality/Energy in a Relationship
1:21:29 Importance of Diversity and Inclusion
1:25:31 What's bringing you joy right now?
1:28:33 Brené's Book & Social Media
1:29:18 Outro
Show notes available at chasejarvis.com/shownotes
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Chase Jarvis is well known as a visionary photographer, fine artist and entrepreneur. Chase is cited as one of the most influential photographers of the past decade. As an entrepreneur, Chase created Best Camera - the world's first mobile photo app to share images direct to social networks - sparking the global photo sharing craze. He is currently the founder & CEO of CreativeLive, the world's largest live-streaming online education company, having delivered more than a billion minutes of free live education worldwide.
Self love begins with listening to Brene Brown
This is the absolute truth!!! I. Love. Her!!
If I ever doubt the world, I tune in to these podcasts and my heart sings. What a beautiful world we live in, to hold these heart-warming authentic conversations. Thanks! I'm glad to be alive right now! We live in an exciting time. "Fierce and kind, tough but tender"...true poetry....
wow, thx so much Mark, you made my day.
So much great wisdom here in small sound bites
to etch into the psyche. thank you both
Love both of these people. Brenee is a new discovery for me, and Chase seems thoughtful, and 🔥😂 ✌🏻.
As a singer and songwriter I've been calling MY calling a hobby for years. After watching this I think I'll stop doing that!
what I love about Brene Brown is that when she talks, she's not afraid to STOP and think before she speaks. And that makes the whole thing so human especially when there are questions that are so deep and very difficult to answer. She doesn't make vulnerability sound easy because it is not easy to be vulnerable. And I love her for that.
And this video is beyond awesome! Why did I just find this channel now!!!
learning to be comfortable with the discomfort is a muscle we can build so that our heart space can expand
I too love how she stops to think about her answer, I have a son like that, he thinks of every syllable before he speaks, some people have asked me is he slow, ah no, he just t h i n k s about what he is going to say, it really reminds me of Brene.
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"Its beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. it means the mind is not influenced and contaminated by society.' J-K . There is a vast strength in being alone and it has nothing to do with being isolated and feeling lonely. Loneliness is entirely different from aloneness. That loneliness must be passed to be alone. Loneliness is not comparable with aloneness. The man who knows loneliness can never know that which is alone. And love can only flourish from a mind who knows how to stand alone! I love this woman !!! Beautiful video !! thankx
Listening to Brené always makes me reconnect with the deepest parts of myself. I think she's just great at asking the right questions.
+Alexander Nilsson yes! Totally agree
So much agree with this... it's spiritual!
This package of realistic, self-help strategy; will never grow old.
I find Dr. Brown to be honest, open, empathic, smart as hell, and real. I'm so happy I stumbled on her first TED talk!
She is so inspiring . I discovered her recently and I just ordered all of her books I am going to read them and pass them on and and order more to keep...
I think Chase brings Brene on for free counseling! She is amazing! I would too! Love both of you!
She is so phenomenal you know our true leaders are people like Brene Brown she is the most idealistic woman that I totally don’t even know, but love everything she says.
the funny thing about this is, for the last 2-3 years I would think to myself, "Brene Brown is the one person in the world that I would most love to sit down with to help me understand everything mostly including myself".......this conversation was everything I needed that I would have gotten from that private one on one with her. These are the questions Im wrestling with along with others Im sure, but kind of delivered in the most timely divine way to me .....
and Chase Jarvis, dude, I admittedly had never even heard your name before two days ago...I will not forget it now though
Listening to Dr. Brown is nothing but an invitation to authenticity to your true self. Thank you , thank you and thank you for your contribution to humanity:)
She really says what I know or feel but can't verbalize. So moving and powerful!
Y'all, as an artist, creative, and singer/songwriter I cried several times during this beautiful interview. Amazing. Important. Impactful. xoxo
That's me - outside looking in. I live near family and I still feel lonely at times. To me that is so sad. Yes, on the other hand, I can't stand being out with people who are laughing at ignorant and mean jokes, or someone shaming someone. So, I have isolated. I need to find my way back. Thanks you two for an honest talk.
You're not alone. I feel the same often
This conversation made me laugh and made me cry. Brene, thank you for your honesty, wisdom and grace. And Chase, thank you for expertly facilitating such a courageous conversation.
Yes Yes Yes to this!
Nearly two of my favourite people in the world. Good job!!
I agree! LOVE This podcast!
Seriously!!
I lack those deep connections in my life. Not sure how to fix it and tired of trying to figure out why
Don’t give up on it. Maybe try doing something for others, there you will find people also trying to serve others. More than likely that will lead to the kind of crowd who are interested in meaningful connections and being kind to others 💕💛
You are worth having good meaningful connections, and going through the process of finding your crowd is a very vulnerable place -but that courage is necessary to show up and find what you’re looking for. You can do it!
@@karenfernandez466 Thanks for the encouragement. Sometimes I just don't know where to begin.
For me, it happened with myself, being with just me, referencing everything thru how I feel ... And other connections are there but the first and primary one remains with me. Meditation plays a big part but it's more than that, it's valuing everything about myself, my life, first and not seeking anything concrete from others
"Stop walking through the world looking for evidence that you're not enough." 35 minutes into the video and Brené says that. #squadgoals
That's such a huge wow for me, I love it, thank you.
This is probably the best cjLIVE I've listened to. And I've listened to most of them. "The magic of all art is the ability to both capture our pain and deliver us from it at the same time."
"People are hard to hate close up. Move in." BEST. QUOTE. EVER.
LOVE this. And so grateful to connect with what I love about art. To hear art be appreciated and its power and role acknowledged, in a time when it's being near eliminated from school curriculums, and basically considered a luxury, something separate from daily life. Creativity and expression are part and parcel of what it is to be human.
I absolutely love that these videos with Brené seems like I'm watching two long time friends talking about life and all things in it. I think these are my favorites from the whole channel.
Cheers from Brazil, keep up the good work! ;)
Right?! They totally should do videos together once a week. I could watch them for hours!
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Two of my favourite people chatting together - what a treat! :) Thanks for sharing this with us Chase - you rock!
I adore Dr. Brown, and love how this interview is so candid, and Chase obviously loves her as well. It's so sweet, tender, and powerful! Thank you for making and sharing this vid!
It took me a long time to figure out why I wanted to start a youtube channel and share my challenge videos. And just recently I started to understand that it has got a lot, if not all to do with what Brene Brown stands for: "vulnerability is power" - "daring greatly" - "step into the arena and get dirty".
I call it "the behind the scenes". I might do a challenge on waking up early for a month, but I'm not so much interested in strategies as I am in what it does to my psyche and to me as a person. And I love sharing that, because, aren't we all Human. Isn't it always so comforting to see someone else being Human as well ;-) And than we call it BRAVE. You are so brave for being you, for being honest and showing the less "perfect" parts of the journey. And I'm like: OF COURSE, that is the only place where it is actually INTERESTING ;-) That is where all humans can finally meet each other. :-)
Quite passionate about that! :-D
Im in the middle of this great book but this talk with Chase, wow, she's dropping fierce wisdom here directed right AT ME, a photographer.
This is my favorite interview by far, Chase. Excellent job bringing out the best in Brené. Excellent and insightful interview.
i feel so very much safer and less alone when i fondly listen to the both of beautifully real ... you.
There's simply nothing from Brené Brown that I find boring. She presents the most beautiful, down to earth methods for growth, change and leadership...then gives firsthand experience and perspective.
She is, without a doubt, one of my top 5 role models in life.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 love her and this show!!!!!!!!! Thanks for having her on again!
Anything and everything about Brene Browne is truly remarkable and worth watching!
Love this! Thank you for talking about charging for a service. I'm a newly certified Health Coach and totally get that.
The story telling thing was so good. 🙏🏼🙏🏼✌🏻️
Thank you Brene and Chase enjoyed the conversation!
I so love the way she talks about art... thank you for sharing, caring enough to talk from your heart. BOTH OF YOU
Who else is listening covered in goosebumps? Humming nerve endings telling us to get IN THE FIGHT or resonate lower!
I love Brene so much! Absolutely grateful she exists! ❤
Hahahaa! Brene' I was raised in Missouri and heard "stuck in my craw" all of my life, but... please let me share my one of my Mother's (may she rest in peace) profound sayings about people who wanted to attempt to entice bad feelings in others about themselves and that was "Girl, you just have to let those people go ahead and chew off their own arms and legs, that's their choice if they wish to live only as a head and a torso" Soon they'll have to hire someone to pull them around in a wagon and if they keep chewing; no matter how old they are, they will eventually fit" HAHAHAA!
Been looking forward to this since the sneak peek on Facebook Live.
Speaking to your question to Brene about being a big personality, I think you should be unapologetically you. I think you should have the audacity of authenticity and be okay with it. You should be who you are and you belong to yourself. You are the wilderness and it will make some people uncomfortable but if you come out to the wilderness, you'll find some of us like you that love you for who you are and exactly for everything that you are. Take up space Chase! There is space out here in the world that only you can take up, and that the world will miss out if you don't.
Thank you so much for this. In each of the three interviews that you have had with her, I have learned more about myself and come to a better understanding of my calling and experience.
Omg ! Just had a wow moment when she spoke about art ...our lives is an art and there is no shame in sharing in it . If my joy and sorrow connects me with another and helps me heal in the process the world would be a better place.
OMG. This spoke to me when these two talked about the worth of my creative art at minute 39. I have worked as a graphic artist for 15 years for a small business that tears every part of my work down, and then says things like, "*eyeroll* artists are so touchy" when I resist. I get paid less than half the national average for someone in my field, yet l feel like my life circumstances (disabled daughter) have trapped me in this position. As a result I have become terrified to put my own creative work out there and have been stuck in a slump with my graphic art, photography and painting. I agree to do so much pro-bono work chasing approval that I get buried and no longer get any joy from the creative part. I really have to do something about this cycle.
Believing that you are worth more than you value yourself at this point... If you don't believe you are worth the investment, who will?! It starts there. And regarding getting swamped in work that you actually end up despising: "no" is a full sentence 😅
I'm blown away! Chase (and his team and his guests) are pumping out soo much valuable content out there! And every time they hit the nail by delivering content which is actually present in the head of the creative viewer! Oh and by the way... Great talk by Brené Brown!
I've watched all 3 interviews today with Brene and every single one of them has made me shed a tear, multiple times! The clarity from the raw truth that is shared between each interview is..... Stunning, relatable and just a breath of fresh air ♥️♥️♥️
9:50-10:59 is so well-said, Mr. Jarvis! Although these times are some of the most psychologically traumatizing times, this is one of THE most opportune times for artists to step out and step up! We need it so much!
Really loved the part about being OK all by yourself to be able to really be open to others, thanks for that. I'm just now (after watching the three Brené Brown interviews, reading "Emotional Intelligence" and a slew of other stuf on the matter) starting to realise just how terrible I am at "being human". I don't mean that I absolutely despise myself, but that I have just fallen into so many bad habits (first and foremost being self-centred) that keep me from developing meaningful relationships. I'm really grateful to the friends I have for doing all the heavy lifting that went into that friendship. Much to learn...
Good on you, Jan. An E.I. book that changed my world is The Other Kind of Smart.... check it out. Author = Harvey Deutschendorf
Thanks for the pointer, I'll check it out!
She is brilliant huh?
From Lake Taupo, New Zealand - just read this book and I'm reading it again ... going to read the rest, wow love it, love Brene!
I'm going to like anything with Brene in it!! She's so smart and so relatable.
Can't tell you how many times I've rewatched ALL your talks with her - they're full of so much good stuff, from both of you! Thanks for making these ♥
I think this is one of the best interviews I’ve heard overall, and especially of Brene Brown! Thank you Jarvis for this most revealing and insightful interview. I’m reading this in 2019 a year after it was recorded. This country is in worse shape than ever as far as people not communicating with each other, as she put it were huddled down in our bunkers one side against the other. It never used to be like this we (I) used to be able to discuss issues with my neighbors, with my friends! Now everything is so polarized, it is we all pretend that everything is OK, but everything is not OK! This is a very dark time in this country, and I hope people realize this! Let’s hope there’s a light at the end of the tunnel!
My hero! DR.BERNE BROWN! We all want to be contributors in life which is multi dimensional..DR BROWN has shifted our thinking while healing so many and enriching lives..thank thank you!
Yaaaaaay! Shiny, new Brenè vid. Thank you
Great video Chase and Brene! Brene, your books are so incredible, just like authors like Matthew Kelly, you're so authentic and what you teach so human, I love what you do!
This is exactly how I feel in my life: like I belong everywhere and I belong no where both true for my life.
Watching in quarantine, wow times have changed even more in such a short time.
So powerful..... thank you so much. I truly appreciate this valuable content you created for me and for the world... More power to you
BRILLIANT!!! I am going to put this on a loop and listen to it all day. THANK YOU!!!
So damned thoughtful, so relevant, soo much to take in - gonna have to watch this one a few times to really get and absorb everything that is useful . Thank you both for this.
So fantastic! Love Brene's work as a starting point. We have a long way to go to encourage the lack of labels, the encouragement of creativity, the change for government that is shifting the society to a world of shame and lack. March for vulnerability and freedom
Angela R well said Angela, we teach the children to be caring and compassionate but than to survive in this world we loose that. About the government.....corruption in high places . They should listen to Dr Brown talks once a week to stay on straight and narrow...
I read daring greatly, and riseingstrong when I began to seek real change in my life, and found my life , go for it!!
l like the way you direct the conversation like a good sailor, so we 24:53 like crew members and others enjoy the ride. thanks Jarvis
Ahoy! 🫡😅
WHOA!!!! Listen carefully at 12:18. It blew me away!!!! Never heard something so on the bullseye and profound!!!
Thank you both for being a part of the creation of the NEW and IMPROVED me!
I’m Italian I make the best eggplant balls in the world ! they flavor the gravy like nothing else ! Thank you for your work it’s very powerful , Namaste 🙏
This is what am working on too much appreciate finding this 💜
Only a snippet from this amazing video. Art + Love prevails over all!!!
I love this lady !
I love everything about this talk! Cheers Brenée and Chase!!
She never appears to be nervous, or insecure, or vulnerable. What an inspiration!
Grateful for this conversation. Thank you both. ❤️
I wish Brene would do a new TED talk....they're all so good.
Me too!!
41:30 - "People are afraid to put value on their work." I'm shook...
personally transforming this for myself. oooohhhh weee...because we are taught to be workers and not innovators and bosses.
I love Brene! I’m around people but I’m lonely.
I'm the loneliest in a crowd!
Thank you so much for this message!!! I feel the freedom, release and empowerment in this!!
I can't say thank you enough for this.
Love.. love.. love this episode! Feeling inspired thank you.
Wow. Thank you so much for sharing this interview. Brene Brown is changing the way I think about my life and now I'll need to add Chase Jarvins. This is amazing stuff
Such a wonderful interview, thank you very much Chase and Brene.
"if you don't put value on your work, no one else will" (42:22)
Thank you so much for this. Chase, you ask great questions. The questions at the end got me most. In essence how do we follow our dreams and seek our own goals alongside our partners. Every partner dynamic is different but the self-help world doesn’t talk about this. How do we seek our different dreams together well? Thank you both for your leadership!
Brene is my absolute favorite. Excited about reading this book.
Hey, this was such a great interview and I’ve been thinking a lot about your conversation about being big.
I’ve been there too - on both sides, actually. I’ve definitely felt small around my parents when they were being big and have watched a dear friend get small when I was having a big moment.
First, I have got to acknowledge your courage in talking about this, Jarvis. Mad props. That takes a willingness to look at yourself in a deep and honest way. I agree with Brené when she says that we should never apologize for being big. 100%. But I know that the times when others have felt small around me, my “bigness” was more about performing than it was about pure passion and connection. Passion draws people in, but performance pushes people away, especially when that person loves the real you and can tell that you’re not being genuine. Might be something to consider.
Thanks for being you!
X Lauren Killam
Belonging everywhere but nowhere is such a piercing sentiment...when adapting to a new home..city..or village..when you arrive there can be settling in time but when you have an adaptive quality..you know where it is you belong..but from where it is you came from and to where it is
you are going..makes it no where
Thank you Brene....giving clarity
to what is in the now...☺
Wow! Yes hating the same people ... so true. We are more divided than ever before
I love this- trained in social work, now artist who sculpts pets. My background enables me to communicate with my customers who are often grieving a loss. Tons of helpful information here. Thank you
48:40 Conflict Resolution around the stories we make up. Good Stuff.
Yaaaaaas!! I've been waiting for this! Thank you so much!
Can't they just do every show together?
Connection has become more and more lost. Let someone pull in when in heavy, crazy traffic. 70-80% of the time you will not get the slightest wave of "thanks". Walk toward a stranger, smile, and say "hello" and watch them frown and look the other way. It's troubling what's happening in today's society. I consider myself a compassionate, empathetic individual, but I feel so disconnected to almost everyone around me.
21:00 gets me every time.
Carl Yung is just a one of a kind... The archetype and the journey with the the Tarrot in midlife crisis when u face those dragons in the wilderness alone.... And that CHILDHOOD TRAUMA dragons can eat u if u don't slay them...
Willem Hendrik Van Greunen how do you slay childhood trauma dragons?
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@@puma5471It may be helpful to look up Gabor Mate on CZcams. He has done a lot of great work in regards to childhood trauma and working through it.
This is some amazing work of Brene that Ive started to follow and just stumbled upon. Congratulations on creating a paradigm shift!
Thank you for bringing this into the open. At c42mins - the reality of pro bono work and the resentment it generates. So true. Every time.
Science loves Art, thank you Brené
Helped me sooo much. Thank you so much!
Amazing!thankyou so much for such a wonderful interview😍😍😍
Brene is #lifegoals
Oh I love this lady already!🌹and I am only 5 minutes in.
She’s the best! ❤️👍🏼
Awesome as usual!! Brene you are the best!!