Radical Contentment, Actual Self-Care, & Giving Up On Being Effortless
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- In the first TFC of 2023, Chelsea sits down with author and designer Jamie Varon to talk about what it means to be radically content, the dangers of productivity culture, and moving past the myth of constantly needing to improve.
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Happy new year, babes!
I wanted to jump in here and say -- as I see a little discourse brewing on the subject, lol -- that I indeed believe that raising chickens/homesteading/farming is hard and ambitious work! I have the utmost respect for it and the people in my life who do it, and believe it is much more demanding than the work I do typing away on my Macbook every day (lol).
The point I'm trying to make is that even work that falls into the non-professional/white collar category can be subject to the same social and algorithmic drives that lead us all to a never-ending cycle of feeling inadequate. That even work which is in theory meant to be about an authentic, personal connection with the land and animals around us can become a race to superficial perfection and optimization. Drawing a contrast between that choice and my own life is not to rank one above the other, but rather to point out that whichever path we take, this toxic culture of perfection can find us.
I didn’t take your comments as saying that, but your guest specifically says “have no ambition and raise chickens on a farm somewhere”. Hopefully just poor wording and people don’t actually think that?
I think your response in the video was on point but your guest may have misspoken or generalized.
@@kristina_lynn she really needs to do one of these on media comprehension 🤣
Your response is on point. Be very interested to see if there would be a TFC that focuses on media comprehension and how social media users' deteriorating comprehension impacts content creation, marketability to advertisers, and how comprehension drives engagement (positively or negatively) -- could this also be generational?
It seems like nowadays many people miss the forest through the trees.
I totally got it from your first take on this on the video, but I guess people will always find a way to manipulate what you said into a narrative that then allows them to come at you. In any case, you've now made this point SUPER clear, so that's that. Keep up the amazing work Chelsea!!
My sister broke that early bird myth. She wakes up at 11am and sleeps at 2am. She graduated with a masters in engineering at USC. She is def living her own best life for sure with a job she loves
I'm an energy lawyer with a doctorate and my ideal sleep schedule is 5am to 1pm. I can't always keep that up cos I do have a 9-5, but during the pandemic where I could work remotely and on other flexi - work roles, I did my best work and was most productive between 1am to 5am and could then sleep thereafter.
I hope we can all find what works best for us rather than try to fit into some generic, homogenous mould.
Me. But minus the job I really like... Lol I work retail but I'm blessed with closing shifts. I take the bus and learn languages on Duolingo to decompress at the end of the day.
I think raising chickens on a farm is pretty ambitious 😂 people underestimate how ambitious and productive farming actually is.
Raising chickens is the trifecta of joyful, fulfilling, and based
It’s a daily exercise. It’s not just a fun hobby.
It is actually a lot work. People think its easy.
Yeah that comment was super alienating to me. It felt like shorthand for rural ppl = lazy and dumb, which is definitely a sentiment that's around more than it should be in supposedly progressive urban professional feminist spaces.
@@naomilauren608 (assuming Chelsea was the she in your commet) I feel like Chelsea was agreeing that it's 2 sides of the same productivity/hustle culture. It's usually sold as the opposite to the urban CEO and the going against hustle culture when the content around it is still having to be the 'perfect aesthetic. Her comments read to me as just saying that she doesn't watch that content.
I do not know if anyone else has brought this up, but over 10 years ago, there was an article making the rounds online about how girls and boys are socialized differently when it comes to trying something new. They found that boys were praised for trying and persevering even if they didn't succeed, but girls were only praised when they appeared to have a "natural talent" for something and were very often discouraged from continuing to try if they didn't get it on the first or second attempt. Girls were pushed to stick with what they were able to pick up with minimal effort. The piece found, not surprisingly, that as a result men tend to keep trying and put forth effort exponentially more often than women, who tend to stick to things they pick up immediately or with only a try or two.
I feel this ties in with why women showcase everything as effortless, or rather, do not share anything that isn't effortless for them, because it feels like a failure for not coming easy.
Thank you for this. A few years ago I paid for life coach sessions because I felt I had lost my sense of ambition. Rather than push me to regain it, she said “It sounds to me like you’re content - & there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.” The “permission” to just “be” was life changing.
I needed to hear this.😊
That is profound
oh wow. i think this is me
I experienced the same thing after graduating college a couple weeks ago and came to the same realization. Everything is calm and I’m happy but something felt off and it was that I was for once not pursuing something academic for the first time in my entire life. Accepting that I’m content in a new chapter of rest is so liberating! I get a rush just from thinking of how awesome it is that I’m finally relaxing like I wanted to 🥹 I’m very happy to hear that coach was so wise
I found that being content with my life led to a few weeks of incredible amounts of laziness. It was really nice just... being. Then suddenly something unexpected happened: I regained the ability to just go HARD into working on programming my game. For so long I couldn't keep at it, then suddenly it's become my main focus in life. Just letting myself be okay with my life allowed me to direct it towards something I'm extremely passionate about. It's great.
I was a recruiter and some guy literally wrote on his *resume* that he wakes up at 4am everyday. The cult of early = best needs to stop!
Yes! 🙌 And these people always brag about how they're in bed by 7 PM to do it again the next day. So if a night owl is awake for the same exact number of hours but shifted later, how is that morally worse all of a sudden?
“My most authentic self takes a lot of effort.” Needed to hear this today!
I grew up on a farm. Missed a lot of school because of lamb season. It's insane work, especially when you're in school and working a full time job. It's not easy.
This idea that women can have it all, that you can “balance” motherhood with having a big career is so damaging. It is freeing to accept that at any given moment we are always choosing one over the other.
I'd say it'd be even more freeing if we ask "why should we choose one over the other"? I wonder if there are systemic and cultural ways to help women who want to do both. It'll be good imo if women ponder for a minute that feeling like you have to choose one or the other might be a collective issue, and not an individual failing.
I don't think we can ever have it "all" at the same time at 100% each, but it's worth thinking about.
I mean you can, my mom isn’t perfect but she’s a nurse and was able to have 3 children and we grew up with moderately good circumstances. It takes a community to have balance, but it is still doable
@@Daveyjonesvi community is the key word here. IMO our society has lost a lot of community so the average American woman doesn’t have the same support as previous generations to raise children.
I'd say we should extend the "balance burden" to the fathers as well
Some women can. The trick is to become really successful before having children, and pay for childcare when they have the resources. I have seen many brilliant female scientists running research labs while raising children.
TFD team - I am a resident physician. I would love for you to talk to people who have careers that obligate many hours, especially durning prolonged training, and strategies to help maintain wellness and an enriched lifestyle when you only have margins of time.
Hi Molly, I’m just a random person who works a soul draining desk job, but want to thank you for your dedication for your career path. There should have to be ‘tips to manage’ the amount of hours y’all are Obligated to put in. You should be working NORMAL hours. The system is wrong and needs to change, not you. It’s inhumane, isn’t it?
ICU nurse here. I don't work as many hours, or as hard as a resident, but I feel this too.
Most of the regular productivity advice doesn't work for people like us.
That would be great! I think it's generally easier to have guests who already have an online presence (both for name recognition for viewers and as an easier way to connect), which may be why it hasn't happened yet. I really like Mama Doctor Jones' channel, she may be interesting to have on!
Resident also and I agree - quiet quitting who is she, 24 hour call, baby!
I feel this struggle as a public school teacher, too. I love what I do at the core but the hours suck. I’m not a morning person but there’s no choice and it’s really difficult to set boundaries even after work hours because of all the unrealistic expectations and what needs to get done. And please no one come at me about summers “off”, we get paid so ridiculously low summers are for second jobs!
I'm also so tired of being shamed for not being a morning person and I've started being a lot more strict with setting boundaries when people are trying to schedule me in to early morning meetings. Luckily we have a policy at work where the generally accepted hours to book a meeting is between 9 am to 3 pm. Outside of those hours you can't assume someone's available just because their calendar says so. But those hours are more in practice to accommodate people who have kids and that have to leave or pick up kids from daycare. I still feel like there's not a general acceptance of me, as a childless person, being allowed to say "No, that 7:30 am meeting doesn't work for me" without being shamed.
Damn! 7:30 AM! Whether you have kids or not, that's too early!
Soooo what happens ? Do you attend those early meetings, do you get a brief afterward, or do you have everyone re-schedule ?
YES!!! People assume because you're childless, you have no priorities or always avaliable. Like what??????
I always tell people that if they don't let me have a life outside of work while I'm childfree, I'll never manage to find a partner and build a stable relationship that allows me to have children in the future.
I just pre block out those times so they can't book it
Chelsea is absolutely right, people have different circadian rhythms and the data point to this as a genetic trait. It is merely our society which prizes the early birds, but the night owls are not "lesser" people, ha. I personally am an extreme early bird, but my productivity severely drops at 5pmish.
My happiness was never in the moment. It was always somewhere in the past or in the future. I felt that 💛
Everything she said in the first 5min is/was me. I've been working at changing that.
I love Chelsea getting heated about night owls and morning ppl . “It doesn’t matter when you get up it matters what you do with your time” yes ! (Sometimes I’ll even get up early and have a nice slow morning doing nothing “productive” just because …)
"You can't really be jealous if you're not actually doing the thing."
I love this, it's so helpful
16:28 Ditching social media was one of the best things I did in 2022, especially Instagram. Now, whenever I get that pang of “I should post this on IG!,” I’m forced to think about why since I no longer have the ability to just post it the minute it comes into my head. 99% of the time, there is no good reason why I need to post whatever I’m doing in the moment on IG.
I'm a morning person who does nothing with it and I love it 💕 I wake up at 5:30 because I need at least a full hour of sitting on my couch with coffee, TikTok, and a cat. Do what you love!
Imagine the amount of non productive work and meetings that would not exist anymore if people decoupled their self worth from their work!!!
I can't tell you the amount of presentations and documents that I create and add just to satisfy a boss' ask without a purpose
One of the most harmful side effects of the myth of “effortlessness” that you point out IMO is the fact that it makes some of us misunderstand rejection and how normal and okay it is to be rejected. If everything is supposed to be easy and seamless and that’s not our experience with whatever it is we’re trying, it can be so easy to give up and stop altogether because in that moment a person could easily feel that they’re not good enough. I think many of us have experience with this (myself included). I think this starts at a young age for a lot of people and definitely affects many of us, especially women, well into adulthood. The myth of having it all is part of this societal script that contributes to many women feeling behind in virtually all facets of life. Like having it all is exhausting and a recipe for burnout. Being able to say “no” to something and truly identify what you want (as opposed to feeling pressure to do everything just because ‘you can’) is a pretty powerful way to take your own agency back. This is the only life we get to live and it’d be a shame to not even try to do something we want to do because we don’t feel good enough or feel pressure to do what others think we’re ‘supposed’ to do.
TFD will break 1 million subscribers soon!! congrats Chelsea
Learning languages is a pain in the ass even for those of us who have a "knack" for it. You will mess up, yah gotta just roll with it. I am in a career field in the military where my job is to learn a language. They send us to a school to learn for 65 weeks or more. It's rough as hell, but rewarding when it clicks!
What do you do? It sounds super interesting!
@@ih2439 I am a linguist in the military.
God help you if you don't "click" with the culture of the language--biggest barrier to achievement. Never have I been so happy as when I was LOA'd at +33 weeks and went from CM to QB!! I connected SO much more...even to the extent our family has adopted holidays like Three Kings and learning a second language. Good luck with your own assignment, and be sure to take breaks for movement and sleep!! ✌🏻
Okay i had to comment again after listening some more. The part about women being discouraged or feeling stupid for trying is so real for me - I deff grew up (and still) fearing failure to the point that I'd quit things if I sucked at them or wouldn't even try if I convinced myself I wouldn't be good at them. But I'll be honest, a lot of the external voices in my life that shame me/look down on me for not knowing how do to certain things comes from other women, specifically older women in my life. It can literally be something as simple as how I peel a potato or chop veggies to how I decorate my house and maintain my relationship. It's another level of the effortless cult - older women have lived and experienced things and look down on young women as if they're so dumb or incapable of being as put together as they are. 😑😑
As someone who does wake up at 5/5:30am most days, I don't do it bc some fitness or lifestyle influencer told me to. I do it bc it's the only time of day I can work out before I have to work all day (i don't have the motivation to exercise in the evenings). 😅 it's become routine now, but I don't feel smarter, healthier, or better than say my bf who is a night owl and has a whole diff schedule. I just like that my workout is already done for the day. To each his own! If you don't want to wake up that early or don't need to, please get your Zzzzs!
If older woman leave you feeling that way, change you woman validaters. Older women and younger women have always been my posse. Older woman accept me and take their experience and tell me often to forget the pressure, be yourself and what’s important in life. They look back and wish for me not to make the same mistakes. Woman have made the biggest impact, even sometimes over my husband or male friends, who love ‘em but they offer simple solutions I can’t always practice. Look careful at older women, and when you see what you like, learn from them. We are the ONLY society that over looks our elders, and they have learned to relax, enjoy and love hard.
I think the social media thing is generational because as a woman of 65 years I never have any negative feelings regarding people posting who have or do more than me. I also want to add that I love this channel and share it with my sociology students every semester.
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Very cool. What types or which videos do you share with your students?
The idea of using social media as a way to hurt myself really strikes home. I would be aspiring to reach mutually exclusive goals (like living a slow life in a cottage but also dominating a corporate environment - for me, those just do not coincide) and punish myself on both ends. That's given me a lot to think about!
"certain amount of creative energy per day"
yes, precisely. and this only works for self-employed folks or freelancers. employees need to stay in their job for the entirety of the shift, regardless of how they're feeling mentally. personally, that destroys my motivation and my overall happiness in life.
I love the sentiment of not telling people what your plans are unless you are actually doing it. I had a few business ideas/plans that I abandoned due to lack of ambition if I'm being honest, and telling a few close friends who then asked about it later just made me feel worse. Lesson learned.
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Ahh that get up at 5am discourse. And to boot you're also 'supposed' to also journal, exercise, meditate and do deep work on your side hustle after you wake at 5am.
...I get up at 0530am to go work at the hospital. I'm not getting up any earlier.
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We don’t need to constantly “fix” ourselves; we are NOT broken.
what she says at 28:28 reminds me of a John Green quote from Looking for Alaska, "Imagining the future is a kind of nostalgia."
The "paradigm of having it all"! That's exactly it! Social media and self help has put enormous pressure on women to just be more organized. I wish a lot of these women talking about their exceptional juggling habits stopped trying to make the rest of us feel inadequate. I actually asked one of them to bring her husband into one of her video so we could all see how HE was contributing!
This video is so calm and motivational! Love it!
Just the first five minutes THIS SPOKE TO ME SO CLOSE! I realised recently that before going through therapy I didnt realy know how to relax and actually live in the moment. Yeah I took time to rest and did resting activities - but my minds was not resting
i love this. so many lives wasted of people doing that they think they should, rather than what makes them happy! what a world we live in.
I loved this video. I also want to say thank you Chelsea for this platform. This is one of the few channels I’ve kept a subscription to for 2023 because of the great conversation and energy. I also really admire the way you run your company and aspire to be able to have something similar from a values perspective. Been a long time follower and wanted to take the time to say thank you.
Love the radical contentment philosophy, but I think it's a mistake to think of the mom/family/homestead-y life as the unambitious option; that's just as much work as gaining career status, just in a different form, and framing it as though it's the slacker option just validates the idea that outside markers of success (i.e. job title) are the only way to conceptualize achievement.
I'd say that the real version of "it's OK if you underachieve by outside standards" would be like, if you have a job you love but that isn't impressive on the family Christmas letter - maybe working in a bookstore that gives you plenty of time to yourself. Or if you do have kids, not caring about them winning things or getting straight A's, as long as they're having a chill and happy childhood.
Don't want to nitpick a point that's not central to the interview, just think that framing raising kids as underachieving can add to moms' psychological distress.
I don't think that Chelsea or her guest actually think that. I think it was just a really poor example that the guest used in the spur of the moment.
Hard work and ambition are 2 different things. While yes raising chickens does require lots of work, it's a slower-paced lifestyle and doesn't need to be scaled up. It allows you to fall into a routine and you know exactly the resources & time you need each day. But the ambitious go-getter lifestyle never settles into routine in this way, it's fast-paced and always demanding of not just physical labor, but of one's mental labor.
Ambition requires that you stay 2 steps ahead of the game, anticipating market trends and shifting goals that lead to personal evolution and constant growth. Raising chickens on a homestead doesn't have those same pressures - sure, the pressures are there but often they're manageable. Honestly, nobody goes into raising chickens bc of "competitive drive" or "ambition", they go into it to decouple themselves from the overly-ambitious, dog-eat-dog, corporate consumerist world in order to have a content lifestyle on their own terms.
Raising chickens has manageable expectations that a career path does not, and I think that's where everyone is mischaracterizing what she meant. If you're commercially raising chickens, that's a different story - but using context clues, it's obvious that's not what she was getting at. Bad example aside, everyone here is derailing the conversation and the point she was making, so let's focus.
"Morning person worship" LOL. Good point!
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I needed this video. Thank you🌻 (I stopped in the middle of the video and unfollowed or muted people on Instagram & curated my feed.☀️)
Chelsea and the TFD team taking care of us making us start the year with this convo >>>>>>>>
This is SUCH a good episode! So glad you went into this. Happy New year!
Yay the perfect conversation for the new year! Thanks Chelsea and Jamie!
I spent many years learning the Mandarin Chinese language and it was definitely a humbling experience but also very fun. It's important to take action towards improving ourselves so there are no regrets. Wishing you all the best with 2023!
Totally agree. I have dreamed of learning mandarin for a while, and have the mandarin blueprint course. But definitely procrastinate and 'I'll start tomorrow', necessary to really fight this because I will regret it one day.
I wanted to say I have always been a morning person - I remember waking up at 4am to study for exams but I could never study UNTIL 4am, I need sleep to function.
Now this translates great to my work life - because starting early means I get to stop at 17 which is better for me. I don’t think it‘s in any way better that someone else‘s routine, but it‘s nice to work at a flexible place accommodating early risers or starting work at 11 and that‘s no issue.
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Oooooh! I love Jamie Varon! Thank you for this. Will watch it soon.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! This channel has been such an interesting resource base and here’s to great videos ahead 👏🏽
Happy New Year! This is such a timely spot on discussion for me to listen to right now because I just made learning Japanese as one of my 2023 goals! I have been a little afraid of trying to learn it because I def hate feeling like I am looking or doing something dumb. Spot on discussion. Thanks for giving me a little push.
Side note, love Chelsea’s dress.
I'm so glad I found you on TikTok! You're such a breath of fresh air.
this is my second video, you are so aggressive in like such a real but fun way that I just can't help but be hooked. I'm getting the vibe that you are here going through the things we're seeing too, calling them out, but just having fun in the process and I love that. I will keep on watching haha
This is my favorite TFD video so far!! I really enjoyed it!! Thank you ❤
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I'm listening to this while starting my workday att 1PM and I basically scrambled up the stairs to my computer to say, solidarity to Night Owls.
I truly enjoyed this talk, Chelsea!
Especially the part about embarrassment when learning a new language and about how many hours of work are actually realistic/necessary.
I marked it to return to it again in the future and recommended it to friend already.
Thank you and greetings from Buenos Aires, where I'm currently learning Spanish 😉
“Personally, I’m not really after being good enough anymore” PREACH 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I resonated so much with this video. Thank you so much for posting, Chelsea, and for the phenomenal and real guest!
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Thank you for introducing me to Jamie Varon! This was a great video - excellent interview questions as always Chelsea!
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Fellow night owl here 🙋🏻♀️🦉Thanks for that comment and I completely agree. It doesn't matter what time you wake up, and why do people care so much if your most productive hours are at night or in the evenings? I have tried my whole life to "be a morning person" and I never could do it.
Happy New Year. Cheers from the Pacific West Coast of Canada.
These TFC videos always include what I truly need to hear to have a better mindset. I fucking love it. Thank you so much.
I really loved this conversation.
Honestly I feel like 4 hrs of focused work is the sweet spot for me too. Maybe even for most people. We're just not really designed to focus for 8 hrs plus or sit in a cubicle all day.
Well done Ladies. This is a topic that should be discussed far and wide! Not just women but men also need to go through this transition. I’m a neurodivergent who has burned out and am no longer able to work. Had I had such insightful ideas as a young woman I may have been able to finish my career.
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I love this conversation. This needful discussion feels freeing. ❤ Chelsea I am loving your outfit. 💕
Night Owl in the house! If I just do my thing naturally, I sleep from 2am-10am. 8 hours. Not really sleeping the day away. I find my most focused, on-target times are 6:30p-12am. I'm weary of the "make yourself wake up at 5am to..."
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Thank you, Chelsea for sharing so openly, your video on Toddler husbands I will watch next and also sounds right up my alley LOL. This is so needed talk for women, especially. I identify as a Traditional Catholic, have 7 kids. Good at judging myself deficient. Interesting how you said you talk to your sister often, though she has taken a very different track. You can appreciate the differences, not ridicule them. Yes, having kids has been a hard path... My second born, now age 22, has severe autism so it has added to my struggles w isolation. I do see things differently than most people but have learned to accept myself. Grew up as an identical twin, but we are not close anymore.
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Girl, you have 7 kids and you think you're deficient?! And one child with autism? I'm handing out trophies to all the women in my life with any kids, let alone 7!
I'm wondering though if the self judgement is also a little voice saying "I feel a bit depleted in some essential parts of myself". I say that because you mention feeling a bit lonely and that you're not close with your sister anymore. Do you wish to be? Do you feel like you need more of a team around you? Or do you wish you could be more present when you do have time for friends or yourself? Power to you, whoever you are 💕
iconic & powerful convo
this was so inspiring! thank you
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Great talk!
Great topic!
I really enjoyed this conversation
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About what Chelsea said on 'homy' lifestyle having become competitive in itself and people trying to have the perfect farm home: even boudhist monks become competitive at fasting eventhough the idea behind fasting is to actually kill that drive to being better than the others (in this case by eating luxurious foods). You can just see how people, by design in my opinion, have this drive to be competitive, even in living a simple life 😅
I really loved this video, it was exactly what I needed in my life right now. I'm in a new environment after starting a new education and it's quite hard to seperate my own desires from the rat race of achieving that this new place keeps pushing unto me. I wish i could turn it off like i have with social media, but if your environment is the epitome of TikTok trends for example, it gets hard. i'm 26 and i shouldn't get so worked up over younger people being more successful or beautiful but it's hard
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Oh. My. God. YES! ❤all of it. Yes!
I looooooved this video. I think an interview with Josh Fluke would be a great continuation of the "debunking corporate b.s." conversation
Great talk. We honestly don't need that much in our lives
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I vote for a convo about publishers!
I agree with you on night owls ... I tried so hard to be a morning person and it never worked and I finally don't care anymore and and accept that I am not a morning person
I also love ❤ the pie analogy.
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If I had my way the world would start at 10 am, I post this wide awake after 1 am
"Unless we stalk the campaign. . . which we have done" 😄 Chelsea, i love your honesty!
I always thought there was something wrong with me when I hit a point where I went “ this is good” and stoped trying to get better at my job or family or home life. It’s good it’s safe it’s comfy, I don’t want to hit another ‘personal best’ I’m good.
Hi Chelsea. It would be so great if you could do an interview with KC Davis. Like something about the finances of being Neuro divergent
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Love the episode, not through the entirety yet. Love the content as a night owl myself! Also the dress is beautiful. Seen it a few times and I want one like it. Same with that floral long sleeve with the bow that you have been wearing recently. I need some nicer clothes and I like your style Chelsea! I need to leave the college t shirt and sweatpants behind
As a fellow night owl, I love when Chelsea gets defensive on behalf of ~ * our people * ~
Effortless perfection is a lie. It takes work to earn good grades, a fit body, etc
Effortless Perfection is an idea that has been around for generations, long before Social Media.
I'm sure it makes evolutionary sense to have some of the tribe night owls and some early birds...the night owls could be awake keeping lookout while others sleep and vice versa. Keeping eachother safe?
Tbh the whole "I finished my work and then had to wait" isn't real anymore. Bosses have understood and I don't know anybody who's NOT overworked
Being a mother is a very noble, but also very hard job. Scientifically, every modern human child needs about 5 hours of parential attention (playing together, reading the books together, going for a walk together) per day. Tet-a-tet. If 4 children run around mother, - each one with his own needs, worries & wishes, - none of them will get enough attention, help & care. It's a simple math. Most of the kids with a big amount of siblings get just few minutes tet-a-tet with a parent per day. And they are often not especially happy.
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night owls unite! We are an oppressed group!
Sooooo 1m subscribers in the first week of 2023. It's happening
You're fun to watch and you offer an alternate view on many finance related topics that add a nuance to my own views. Here's my take on this conversation... Most channels offer their views as an option just like you do. I have not felt the need to "keep up" with anyone. Could be because there IS no pressure to do so. So i respectfully disagree with your views here. Also, thank you for giving us an opportunity to introspect. We now have a choice to control our impulses
Definitely don't agree with calling farming or raising kids an unambitious life 🤨😐
Could yo please send the data and studies about night owls? would love yo read them.
You know... The whole night owl / morning person oppression thing is real. At my work it became a thing for meetings to move earlier and earlier. From 9 to 8 to even 7. I can wake up at 5 if i have to. I can do it for a week if there is a need. But eventually it really messed with my sleep. I went to bed early. I was in bed by 9.30. but eventually it got to where my sleep suffered. I would wake to at 3 and not fall asleep again. I had anxiety and was no longer fully rested. Then i would inevitably fall asleep 30 min before my alarm went off.
The funny thing is even tho it was now defacto mandatory for everyone to be there early, the 'early birds' still knocked off at 4 and if any late work had to be done, it still defaulted to the 'night owls'
This is just wild and sorely a reflection of middle-class Americans/Habitants of the west. You're either a homestead person or a high flying CEO. Creatives are now emulating the stodgy, out of touch corporate scene they regularly take the time to verbally distance themselves from. It's so pretentious and so out of touch. For a second I thought I'd accidentally clicked onto a video created by Gwyn Pals Goop, it's so Soho/Malibu.
My comment isn't about the comment that has been pinned but the over all privileged aura of this video. It's soooo uncomfy. Chelsea, who I respect, the CEO of a company say's 'I dont wake up at 5'... Lifestyle privilege is a thing and goes further than what car you drive to work every morning or whether you can afford a Peloton.
Historical fact: most of famous scientists, writers, inventors, musicians have been night owls. For some interesting reasons, the brain of highly creative - or genius - people works more intensly and is more productive in the evening, or even at night.
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Being shut down and ridiculed for trying too hard has been the biggest self esteem derailer for me. It’s disgusting how many people will side eye and arm chair critique you out of sheer jealousy. Often times they even have the stones to say “you’re making us all look dumb/bad/lazy. Stop trying so hard.” This mentality is why I left public school early, and why I shut off and shut down a lot of people around me. It’s so gross being surrounded by people who want to see you fail because you are going after something you want or actively and enthusiastically putting in the effort and are proud of it. I’m not trying to say; all these haters out here dragging me down! But it comes to a point where people get envious because you’ve put so much effort in that it LOOKS effortless. But when you try to be frank and honest, showing how much work it really took and sacrifice, they attribute all the success to some “advantage” that you had. It’s really disheartening to see a large majority of people actively wish failure on people out of sheer envy.
i want to wake up at 5am! but in reality, i have to be at work at 6am and thus have to wake up at 4am.
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Can someone tell me why emily is in the thumbnail? Tldw
I'd like to know too... only thing i can imagine is that her lifestyle seems to be perfect while effortless?
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Also here yet again to comment that Chelsea is an adjective queen
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Vision is the primary sense. Light is key and early birds are the standart
And yet night owls keep existing
@@samuzamu bats are blind
So what?