HOW I LOST MY VIRGINITY BEFORE MARRIAGE AND HOW IT AFFECTED MY SEX-LIFE || Unashamed Episode 1
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- Hey beautiful people! welcome to unashamed season 1. On this episode, Miriam shared her story about how she lost her virginity before marriage and how it affected her sex-life.
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This is such an important conversation you're having! Most people shy away from these topics & it ends up causing more harm than good. Just like Miriam, it was based on the education my mum gave me while I was yet so little that made me decide to keep myself for my husband. Initially I was doing well because I hard a strong resolve & I love the Lord until I turned 24 and the temptations became intense! That was when the realization dawned on me that a man is kept only because the Lord keeps him. I started crying out to God to help me remain faithful. I just turned 25 a week ago & by the help of the Holy Spirit everyday just gets better. I am still keeping my commitment to God because he helps me to do so. No one can keep themselves relying on their natural strength but we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us! Thank you Miriam for sharing.
This is so apt. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
You're most welcome!!
God bless you bro.
Hmmm is not easy, I'm 23 the temptations is not easy at all not only the ladies but numerous people advising to
Lord help me and keep me🙏
You ladies stay strong. M 37 and a virgin never had a boyfriend but my journey has been easy because I don't watch ( lovy dovy movies), no friends at all, refuse to be in a secluded place w the opposite sex. Above all it is the grace of God that kept me
I do not practice Christianity but really wish i kept myself till marriage. I took part of hook up culture and it left me feeling void. I respect people who are able to shun the pressures of the world and kept themselves till marriage
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Having sex with the right person will Neva make u void actually.Even if u decide to keep urself till marriage, having sex in marriage with the wrong person still makes one feel void.
@@victorayodele2577 don't gratify fornication and something which is an alien to Africans. The fact that you couldn't control yourself doesn't mean it is normal. You don't know even implications of having sex with people not married to. Stop this evil slogan of having sex with good person. A good person will marry you before sex . Please stop that debauchery.
Jesus is the answer. I am encouraging you to come to Jesus and experience the presence of the lord . Bless 🙏🏾
You can heal through and through if you come to Jesus Christ.
We live in a promiscuous era that makes us think that being virgin or chaste is something unacceptable for young people while God created sex to be only enjoyed inside the marriage. Sex is sacred that's why we need to be wise before using it in the wrong way.
That's how it happens. You hold on to a point that you might start feeling confident IN YOURSELF. That's how I got involved in it after waiting for 23 years. The secret is to always see each day as a new day to depend on God and never lean on your own understanding.
Hmm... thanks for sharing ❤️
Hi Victoria I am so happy that you are having this conversation, I married as a virgin quite alright, but I had a couple of near misses, my marrying as a virgin was all God. However, I still dealth with the issue of guilt for over 5 years of my marriage. This is my 11th year now. The Good thing about this conversation is that it is making make certain connections, I never associated the guilt I felt after sex with all the smooshing that happened while we were dating. I always felt guilty anytime I found myself in those situations, me and my husband had a long distance relationship so it was always hard getting out hands off each other when we saw, it took God himself. Your guest has really given me an answer to a long time problem because I never understood it, I will get so upset and guilty after sex and I will keep reminding myself that I am now married and God is not upset with me. I had to start praying a lot about it and involved the Holy Spirit, and finally, I got delivered. Sex is a beautiful thing, but the devil will do everything to make you think otherwise. Especially for children of God who want to do things right and please God with our bodies.
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm so glad you were delivered from that. Sex is a gift, and we're to enjoy it in marriage. The devil is a liar!
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Thanks so much ❤
Absolutely!
Thank you ma
Hi Victoria. You are doing a greatly needed ministry in the Kingdom. Thank you! 🙏🏽 Being married for nearly 39 years, the issues are still the same except that now, we are able to talk about them more openly and freely. Pain and discomfort for first-timers in marriage may be the result of inadequate premarital counselling especially as well, first time of the physical exertion involved. Most counselling on marital sexual relationship is not as in-depth as it should be. Men and women respond to sex differently. New husbands and all ignorant husbands and wives must learn that men are like the gas cooker, easily aroused and quickly satisfied while women are like the electric stove. They take longer to get aroused, which is where foreplay is critical, and also take longer than men to be satisfied after intercourse. New husbands, therefore, need to learn to be sensitive, patient and gentle with their bride. They have all their life together to grow in their sexual relationship. We need to do our homework very well. Thanks once again Vic and Miriam. God bless you more.🙏🏽👏🏽❤️
Love the analogy, thank you so much for your comment ❤️
39 years of marriage in todays world. Great job
❤👏👏 its not easy to forgive yourself for breaking your committment. It hunts you each time. Thank you for this wisdom
What a conversation 🔥🔥🔥 Mrs.Fash you are doing the most for our generation... Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for watching ❤
Indeed🙏🏼
A very wholesome conversation. Almost like therapy 😊
Now I understand my journey a lot better, especially since I had an almost similar experience.
First time on your channel and I loved it👍🏽
It is well. Thank you for watching ❤️
This is my first time here and I enjoyed every bit of it. Thank you for being vulnerable
Aww... thanks so much
I enjoyed this!... I'm glad alot of people are still interested in upholding God's standard...I just subscribed
It's beautiful listening to this, it has made me tell my self i can still do it, i can keep myself to marriage,,, this discussion is very crucial and impacts many people ❤❤,
I’m really enjoying this series, let me keep watching☺️. Your guest is amazing, she did so well by being vulnerable, God bless her.
This is nice Mrs Fash 🥰.
Yes! Amen... Thanks so much
love the candid conversations on this channel. subbed!!!
Thank you
You two look like twins and the atmosphere is really exhilarating. Miriam is a very lively and magnetic personality.
Sex is not a sin. It is only a sin when we do it outside marriage. We should look forward to it.
This awesome... So inspiring and educative.
Thank you ma's for this insightful conservation🤗. There are times when peer pressure pushs us to do things we ought not to do as young people. God bless you😌
❤❤❤wow Victoria. I love this content. Its awesome 👌. You are great at interviewing . Much appreciation to your guest for her openness. ❤️
Aww.. thanks so much!
Wow.... this is great... continue doing this Vicky
Example of Conversations that we should be having😊 thank you so much ma'am for this enlightenment.
Thanks so much
Beautiful story.....God bless her and her husband 🙏🙏
Wow! What a great talk.
Really enjoyed the whole conversation. I'm really blessed❤
Thank you for watching ❤️
Such a beautiful conversation. You and your guest are amazing especially because of the realness in the conversation. Is my first time on your channel and I loved it. You just got a new subscriber😊
Aww... thanks so much 🙏
This my first time here and...wow I'm thrilled, 25 and still a virgin barely talked Abt. On my side though but didn't think complacency can cause stuff that to happen...thank u 4 this tnx 4sharing❤
I'm really glad you found this helpful. Thanks for shared
It was so nice listening to this convo between you two amazing women... You both kept it so real and wholesome... So much I learnt from here🙌... God bless you both🙏🙏💯
Thank you so much for watching ❤
I stumbled into this channel, just to see what's up and I end up finishing the video.
More grace for the great work
Thank you! ❤️
I am super impressed seeing beautiful young christian women speaking with wisdom
Thank you so!
This pain happened to me too! Loosing my V b4 marriage was a horrible mistake it took years of spiritual work for me to forgive myself so I could enjoy intimacy in marriage. Thx for ur courage to share/encourage
Wow. Thanks for sharing
What a conversation…. Thanks for sharing 🙏🙏🙏
I enjoyed every bit of the video
The smiles, joy on your faces and much more
Thank you 🥰
Biggest mistake I made! period! Stay the course and be safe not sorry is best for man/woman before marriage
I really love this series and I’m looking forward to more of it. Thank you Miriam❤
Thank you!
Oh my 🔥My first time chancing on your channel! This is some wholesome content. Thank you both for this. God bless you. You got a new sub😊💕😁
Thank you so much for watching! You're very welcome!
Welldone sis....you are going a good job
Am super excited for this series Mrs Fash , and thank you Mirriam for sharing your story 🤗.
Thank you so much for watching ❤
This is a good one. Alot to learn
❤ I love 💕 the last words "advice" , Mrs Fash thanks God bless you.
Amen. Thank you so much for watching ❤
Loved this video used it as a wake up call❤
Waouh what a small world, to think I went to secondary school in Cotonou with her! Thank to both of you for sharing 🙏
Wow! It really is!
This is a very rare topic people discuss online. Well-done ma
Thank you! ❤️
This video definitely helped me a lot . I now understand better that we need God's help even in situations liké this; preserving one's self until marriage and even the sex life in marriage, WE should seek Him always and in every situation. This gave me liberty!! Thank You! God bless❤
Absolutely! Thank you 🥰
Awesome page. Why am I just seeing this page now.? Thanks Victoria
You're welcome 😊
Thank you dearest Victoria, God bless your guest & continue to lead & protect her marriage. She was venerable & not many people can❤ you both look beautiful by the way😊❤
Amen! Thank you so much
I love her vulnerability, interesting conversation too
This is so wholesome ❤
Wonderful discussion
Am so glad for this session,😊 I love hiw you kept pointing us back to yhe Holy spirit I know its very important
He is very important
Thanks for this Vicky...God bless you
Amen! Thank you so much for watching ❤
I learned alot.. thank you, thank you 🎉
As I'm seeing this video, is just like you're sharing my own situations 😢. At 28😢😢. I see it as what marital delay can cause. It's so so painful, I tried, I didn't want this to happen, wasn't intentional at all but then, the deed has been done.
Thanks so much sis Victoria for doing this.
It gives courage, strength and lot more.
Keep the fire burning ma.
@sis Miriam, I celebrate you👏.
#Sexual urges are not needs 👌📌
It is well Sis.
Two weapons the devil uses against believers are: Doubts and guilt. He makes you feel guilty when you unwillingly commit a sin, then he starts making you doubt your salvation , and the fact that we have been justified in Christ. Remember Christ paid the price, but just remember to sincerely repent when you find yourself in a sinful situation.
Thank you for sharing. such an insightful video.
Thank you for watching ❤️
I'm grateful for this video........Thanks for sharing ma'am😍😍
I love this show. Women should keep their virginity because of God and it relationship not for the purpose of your husband cause himself might not be a virgin. He might have destroy other people future wife,he can't be a purpose for keeping it.
It’s not women. It’s everyone that is supposed to be a virgin. I don’t know why we turn it into a gender thing. Thou shall not fornicate is for all
WOMEN AND MEN!!! Emphasis on both genders
@@mariamalfa7026 thank you for the …thou shall not fornicate
Thanks for your transparency❣
Thanks for watching ❤️
God bless you and Miriam
Beautiful!
You gat this, keep it up.
Thank you so much! ❤
Thanks for the vulnerability
Can't wait for the next episode.
Thank you Rebecca! Waiting for your own story 😁
@@VictoriaFash Very soon 🙈
I couldn't view this video since I saved it and tonight is such a perfect time to watch.
Thank you so much Mrs Fash for all you do for me personally with all your videos.
This particular one is what I can relate with pretty well. The guilt I went through after waiting 25years and I eventually lost it casually.
Thanks to the Spirit of God that never leaves nor forsake us. Understanding the love of God also helps the healing.
I strongly believe the same strength of God that made me rise again is the only one that can carry me through the journey...
It is well Sis. God's love never ends 💖
@@VictoriaFash yes. Thanks so much ma'am
Thank you do much for this❤
Just discovered this channel ,i am astonished as to how open your guest is I've got a million dollar question, later i would like to know what her husband's reaction was when he realized she wasn't a Virgin and how they both came together to navigate the situation
We'll look into this... Thank you for watching ❤️
Lovely conversation❤❤
Thanks Sis!
I can't say so much but I really appreciate this video. Thank you both ❤️
You're welcome
Inspiring video. More Grace Victoria
Thanks Sis!
This is so beautiful.
This content is super 👌 👌from you and the invite, more inspiration from your end Vicky, God be with🙏⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘.Yes ,it's good to enrich yourself spiritually when still single, so you can be a mature woman when you finally get married and be well equipped to weather the storm of married life.
Absolutely! Thank you!
Please this is welcome to the unashamed series 😅🎉.
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That's what I thought it is
Switching off the mindset on sex and emotions isn't easy to switch back on, as one may have thought.
It isn't easy at all to gain back the emotions/feelings should one meet the right person, and that's if that person is patient enough to understand that it would take some time and process to get back in tune.
Say it louder!
Thank you so much!
I really love your guest...God bless her
Thank you so much ❤
God bless you ma for this...
Thank you so much for watching ❤
Thank you ma'am for sharing, God bless you 🙏
Thank you so much for watching ❤
I really enjoyed this teaching
I'm glad!
Vicky darling , to be sincere with you I love this tik tags you've been doing for couple of weeks now . I love it keep it coming gurllll we are enjoying every conversations ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much ❤️
Beautiful ladies:you are lovely nice conversation
You just got a follower. Thank you!
Thank you 🥰
This is my first time here! I was shocked when I even saw this video topic. Because obviously most young christian women shy away from this topic even though they may be guilty of it.
Thanks for watching ❤️
Very informative
Is there any virgin man in this comment session for me? Am 32 and still a virgin cuz am waiting for the right man from God
Here I'm dear!!!
Yh I am 23
Chale we dey
It's quite hard to meet virgin men because hook up culture makes it seem like men who "indulge in sex" are studs and they're "learning" to please their future spouse... Which is really sad because sex between married people is about exploration and learning each other... Not outside the marriage...
Wow... thanks for this. You're greatly blessed!
Amen. Thank you so much ❤️
GOD bless you Mrs Fash. This is awesome and insightful, btw my regards to Mr Fash 😂😂. Am loving this series mehn❤. Maryam did well too kudos ladies
Thank you so much for watching!
Well done sister
I cannot wait to see and learn from all that this series have to offer.
Thank you Victoria for yielding to the Holy Spirit.
Thank you Mariam for sharing ❤️
❤❤ I'm from benin republic too
This is wholesome
I really love what you do here cuz am seeing myself in your shoes
Thank you so much! ❤
Thanks for this video, I enjoyed every bit of it. I will back to share my experience when I get married.. my husband wait I'm coming ooo or come and get me ...😊😊😅😊
Well done ma'am
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Wow great vedio....so nice...❤
Thank you! Cheers!
First time on your channel. I’m not a virgin but have been practicing celibacy via the help of the lord …..
Weldone!
Educational conversation. I enjoyed your course. Your guess was great. When she said,"Jokes on me" I lol. I just enrolled in your class. Thank you both.
Thank you for watching ❤️
Thanks.
how i even got here... Thank you Lord!
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My first time here. I already subcribed.
What an insightful conversation. 😢😢😢the guilt and shame for loosing my v* at 26 too. I kept asking myself, "why couldn't I wait?" 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
My dear, let it go. God does not hold it against you, so why should you? Commit to keep honoring God with your body
Following the video with volume at 0 coz am with colleagues at work, listening will follow later when alone in the house🙂
My fiancee is 29, a virgin, and a doc. She is just determined to marry as a virgin
That's good for her
She is lying to you brother. Women can NOT wait that long. However, I dont mean to ruin your relationship just telling you the reality of western women.
@@_trust9994 I wouldn't argue with you on this because I doubted her the day she made it open after a year of our relationship, it was a long-distance relationship. I never knew she was, it sounds bizarre at the age, right? I want to tell you today that she is still a virgin
With my own experience, if a lady close to you tells you she's a virgin, there's every chance that she really is. The sad bit is that being a virgin doesn't guarantee a good or better wife than other women.
@@ikevalentine4085why are you dating someone you don’t trust? There are 40 years old virgins. Believe it or not, religion aside some people can stay off sex.
Please how do u make this kind of video where u hv discussions with someone and share screen? Pls?
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Ma i was thinking you will ask her how her husband felt at first when she told him she was no longer a virgin.
I really wanted to get that part
Well.... maybe next time
Ok no prob ma
Thanks highlighting this, it would have been the icing on the cake to a wonderfully open and wholesome conversation.
I've found that time and time again another hinderance to ' openness in relationships', is the fear of how the partner would deal with the news/information.
Having your guest comment on how they were able to bring themselves to get help is good, seeking Holy spirits help is also good, now going a step further to overcome the fear and then sharing with the partner and being open to share how the partner dealt with it, the steps and all, if any, would be a good help to many. The broken and hurt out there are many and those who don't even know how to navigate these waters abound.
Thanks for this platform, and may God engrace you to reach more. Shalom
😂😂 I was smiling, laughing through out the video ❤😅❤😅
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Hello ma'am. Thank you for this video. I'm 28, single and a Christian. I would like to ask if you hold counseling sessions?
I was going to share my story here but I just felt the comment section is not safe enough. I would appreciate it if you have a session with me. Thank you ma.
Please send me a DM on Instagram or email. See the description box
Victoria said Holy Spirit has seen something 🤣🤣🤣. I got married as a virgin, I was 27 and it’s been 2months now I still feel like whenever we are down.I feel like he hits something inside of me and it makes me shrink in pain but I wouldn’t want to stop because of him and most times after the act I feel pain in my abdomen. I really taught something was wrong with me I kept asking Google questions, and for the pleasure for me sometimes I like it but some other times I’m just not feeling it but I just kinda remain there just for my husband. I’m still in the process and trust me I still cry out to the HolySpirit most times during penetration when I’m grabbing the sheets I’m like help me oh Lord!!. It can be a lot but it’s worth it.
I don't know know if I should laugh or feel sorry you.. my dear, we all go through it. It will get better. Soon, you'll be the one asking for it 😋
see a gynaecologist though
Jesus! I'm scared already 😢😢😢
Please see a gynecologist; it shouldn’t hurt that bad
@ Victoria Adeyeye Nah!! It doesn’t hurt that bad, it’s like a feeling of discomfort which will fade away with time. Not excruciating pain