No way was Jessica going to be with a 24year old, short, personal trainer but a 27 year old, tall, engineer? Now that’s different. She was not attracted to Mark period.
Aurangzeb Ali I dont think race had anything to do with it but nice reach. I’m pretty sure it was how he looked like his height which is sad. I dated a guy my height and it was a beautiful relationship
@@M_D_Y0 race definitely had something to do with it. I can't count how many times she kept emphasizing their "different backgrounds" and saying things like "Mark isn't someone I would usually go for" way before the reveal while they were in the pod and right after he mentioned he was Mexican. Ofcourse after the reveal, his physical appearance also played a role in why she didnt want him but you can't say his race and background didn't matter to her with your whole chest...we ain't blind Cindy
TRACY EPPS you are right. She felt above Mark and Amber because they are not „sophisticated“ enough in her mind. She is very into social status and Mark did not fit into her frame. And that’s how ppl actually are in real life, most of the times. Anyhow what I find even more cringy is the way Mark gave her soooo many chances. I felt sorry for him as he didn’t have any self-steem😞
Amber straight up hates Jessica. I hated Jessica too, she was a snob and into herself. She thought she was too good for Mark but actually, it was the other way around.
She just didn't fall in love with Mark completely. She wanted to because he was so perfect. That's what Jessica said about a million times. Pay attention! :)
Amber should be annoyed by Jessica. How many times did Jessica come onto Barnett after pod choices (Mexico, at the Apartments). Even if Amber was a bit of a mess, Barnett made his choice. There was a lot of coloring in the editing of course. But she still clearly kept trying to push pass all the clear 'friendzone' signals from the man.
Mary-Kate G but he wasn’t actually a player. He ‘played’ the field during the preliminary dating episodes. But as soon as he chose amber he didn’t budge. Dating around initially was well within his rights and probably why they are still together - he was sure on his choice
Alyssa Klise I couldn’t agree more, their wedding was heartbreaking to watch. I couldn’t stand watching his mother holding him as he cried.. it was so obvious she was going to say no at the altar, why drag it on ? She should’ve ended it immediately after she figured out she was still inlove with Barnett lmao
I wish they would’ve brought up how respectful Barnette came across about his relationship with Amber when Jessica was throwing herself at him. He totally stood his ground about how he felt about Amber when Jessica would try to manipulate him to say something unbecoming about Amber like when she would bring up how she hopes it’s not just a physical thing between them....
Exactly! He was a perfect gentleman! :) They met and felt in love in pods! Of course it's not just physical you silly woman... I couldn't stand how fake, disrespectful, manipulative and crazy Jess was!
Barnett’s proposal to Jessica was if everyone left he would marry her, that’s not a proposal he basically said I’d choose you if there was no one else left
When I watched that part, I was so confused why she got so excited over that. He said something like “If nobody else was here, I’d ask you to marry me tonight” and that’s basically saying, “I like you enough to marry you, but there’s other people I connect with more.” She was probably too tipsy to realize what he actually meant, I guess. 🤷🏻♀️😅
Before people judge Amber they need to remember she had a difficult life. Losing her dad at a young age, growing up poor, having depression, etc. life isn't easy for everyone. She is a bit rough around the edges but she's a genuine person. I wish the best for her.
I liked Amber because of all of those reasons. She didn't come across as fake like Jessica did. When she was telling Barnett about her student loan debt, her credit card debt, and how she was homeless, I really thought that was dope to be that vulnerable. Too many people are hiding behind their trials and tribulations trying to portray a perfect lifestyle. But she was so real. I too wish the best for her.
I lost my dad when I was 16, and I was just like her for many years. Depression, shopping sprees, inability to grow up and take responsibilities... It's just weird. I felt like I was forced to grow up super fast having to face my father's illness and death, and in some way, it made me unable to grow up on all the other aspects of life. I honestly think I was grieving till I've reached 30. Being an only child made it really hard to turn the page. Most people were hard on me. They didn't get it. People give you two years max to grieve. Then you're supposed to move on. Not that easy. So yes, I understand Amber... but I know most people won't. I hope Barnett will give her a stable home so she can start a new life and become an adult. Only when I moved in with my husband did I start feeling secure and that's when I started growing up.
@@louloutre I hate that people put a time frame on grieving. Especially when it's a loved one that close. You never get over the death of a parent or child or close relative. Or anyone you loved dearly for that matter. Glad you finally feel secure. 😊😊
I think Amber is stronger than she was portrayed. And Barnett was more together than I gave him credit for during the show. I'm glad they are still together ❤
Being that it's a show and clips are edited to make it more entertaining for TV. A lot of TV shows skip over the normal boring stuff and only highlight cringey or shocking moments.
@mariposafria, I totally did the same. It's editing! Producers should be ashamed of themselves for making us judge people wrongly. Including Jessica. We don't really know the story!
This made her seem so much more chill and like able. Thank goodness! Honestly Barnett, too. They were clearly both portrayed a certain type of way on the show
mariposafria I wonder if she's gotten a job to help out financially, since the show ended a year ago. Because all I got from this interview is that he actually has to pay off his loans AND hers.
TheShalalala22 that’s why I love Amber. Cause she’s confident enough to not let whatever anyone would tell. And I really appreciate that she didn’t take in account whatever thing other people said but instead went to Barnette himself
i was waiting for him to connect the dots and see the red flags and i honestly think her bailing was the best that could've happened to him in the long-run (and to her because she never wanted to be with him, just finding excuses after excuses). but i checked her ig and they seem to be friends irl so good for them if they worked through it to a friendship level.
She finally did the right thing! I'm sad Mark got hurt but I think it's the best thing for him in the long run, he definitely deserves someone who is equally passionate about him!
Exactly...she even told Mark one time that Barnett is so hot and all...Mark was so upset...but again he forgave her....but that girl broke his heart. ...and she said at the end of episode that she didn't feel sorry at all...like really?...You broke his heart💔
Happiness Happens, yeah, I don’t like how she keeps cutting him off. It’s like it’s HER interview and not theirs. He looks pissed off but maybe that’s just his face lol
Easy. He doesn't seem to have a clue what he's looking for in a relationship which is why was always confused about who he wanted to be with before the proposals. My theory is that he was just confused about what he was looking for as Jessica which is why they bonded in the pods. To me it appears he just wanted to make it to the next step and chose Amber.
All the shock about Jessica letting her dog drink wine - but what I found even more shocking was that she then DRANK OUT OF THE GLASS AFTER THE DOG!!!!!!!
Right!! I love my dog but absolutely NOT. I gagged..that's disgusting, and WHY would you give your dog wine in the first place.. Jessica needs to get her shit together man
Can we just talk about everyone before they got married all of them said “ oh I’m so happy I’m so in love can’t wait to get up there and get married” *steps up to the alter* “nah I’m good” lol okay?
I feel like they weren't allowed to leave the relationship after Mexico. At that point I think they had to go up on the alter and say no. Jessica was just lying about her feelings though. And that red head guy (who was with the blond hispanic) was just weird.
Darienne Empire The editing made Amber seem flaky and a golddigger, but in the end she seemed one of the realest person out of the bunch! Hope she’ll start a yt channel! I want to see more of her!
Yes he did I said the same thing! He knew what he wanted and shame on his brother for trying to change his views on marrying amber as well. I believe he sincerely wanted to change his life and the way he handled Jessica proved that
StephJes Forbes i think his brother meant well, he did take him aside to talk to him as opposed to putting Amber on the spot by talking about it in front of her. The editing might have made him seem like a bad guy. His brother did show up at the wedding. Man, netflix should do a season 2 soon!
Jessica being 34 is the most childish on the show . She said she wasn’t throwing herself for Barnett ( calling him hot I’m front of mark when drunk) and the then says I WOULD NEVER ! NAHHH she would if she was single and wasn’t hurting mark she really doesn’t care about amber she just doesn’t want her ass beat lol . I feel bad for mark she toyed with him so much . Mark deserves so much better 😭😭😭
Amber always talks about "destroying people" and "beating them up" and that is such an immature thing to say in situations like that. Jessica definitely did not respect Amber and Barnett so I understand why Amber was and is upset, but the facial expressions she pulls and the things she says...they´re just so childish in my eyes and I can´t help but cringe everytime
I was very on the fence about Amber the whole show. I really liked that she was loyal to Barnett and at no point second guessed her decision. She always spoke her mind and she didn't pretend the thing with Jessica wasn't bothering her. I personally really respect that in a person. But at the same time, you're completely right. She did come off as very childish and straight up psycho at times. I felt like, especially in the earlier stages of the relationship, she was over possessive and territorial. And I guess this is kind of subjective but she has crazy eyes and you can't trust crazy eyes. But I was happy for her when they got married
I dont like Jessica , she did alot of mistakes in the show but the one I hate most is Amber. I feel like she's not a good person especially when she confronted jessica in the reunion , she was so rude , she could have chose a good choice of words but she was aggressive . I also noticed in the reunion every time Jessica talked , Amber would change her face and look annoyed . Amber is immature both Jessica and Amber should grow up .
Jessica: Mark is 10 years apart I cant marry him Barnett: *7 years apart* Jessica: I love barnett he’s perfect for me edit: thanks for the likes guys I'm-
Right like them 3 years is a world of different. I hated her so much. Mark was a lil clingy tho too. I didnt like him either. Ambet and Barnett was my favorite. And I love Cameron and shit what's her name.
He doesn’t look happy. She seems way more in love with him than he is with her. Read his body language and look at his demeanor. She doesn’t even let him speak barely at all
he said Jessica was his favorite at some point. I think had she reacted differently to him being unsure and not walked out it might have progressed differently. He was being kinda unfair not communicating his doubts to all three women more clearly. I think it is good he is with someone he feels accepted by. I would have liked to see more of LC though.
@@lightgivener He didn't make an instant connection with one, he did have multiples. It's a tricky place to be in all around. You think you are connecting with someone, then they select someone else. The problem I have is that Jessica knew she was not feeling Mark. I believe the show forced them to remain on the show because they couldn't afford to let them go, regardless of how it ended at the altar.
She handled herself well because she knows Amber would've rocked her shit if she came back crazy ..and amber said she didn't know jessica was being that fake till the show came out
Marleni Almonte you know that’s bs she was there whenever Jessica would corner Barnett. Mark would complain to her all the time that Jessica wouldn’t give him the time of day. Of course she knew! She even threatened her at the party so how is she gonna act like she just found out how obsessed Jessica was? I don’t understand how people can see what trash Jessica is but make excuses for Amber. She’s a piece of trash too. Clearly into a parasitic lifestyle wants to be a stay at home thot and found the jackpot with insecure black sheep of his family Barnett.
I don't think Amber had an opportunity to tell Jessica off in person prior to that, that's way she was so passionate about setting her straight and basically telling her you played my friend but wanted to steal my fiance, of course after watching the show herself and realising what Jessica did behind her back.
Agree! Such a rude reaction for a reunion. Well, not a fan of Jessica either. But i hope Amber gets to find a job that could help on their finances, coz financial stability matters esp. if you are starting a family of your own. That’s reality.
I feel like that's one of the reasons their relationship worked... Barnett doesn't make up his mind easily he's kind of laid back while in contrast, Amber has a really strong personality and is very outwardly strong about her thoughts and opinions. I think their personalities go well with each other as a couple. Lol.
Comparison to them with Lauren and Cameron; Lauren and Cameron give each other the respect to talk and express. With amber I notice that she hardly gives Barnett space to talk. She needs to work on that. Wishing them the best
jessiknows when they first started connecting I was pining for him to pick her because I remember her standing up to him in the pod and I just felt like she would be good for him because she’s confident in herself, not cocky, and could put Barnette “in his place” if he ever got out of line
I agree, I was SO interested in the pods and was surprised they were cut so short. I thought most of the episodes would be conversation, so that was disappointing.
I understand why some conversations were kept unaired. They came in to know each other not share everything with everyone. I think however that they should put a time stamp illustrating how long they have been talking and maybe a checklist of topics just so we can understand the level of exchange and connection between two people....
ashley dawn exactly! The poor dude can never get a word in. She just talks and talks and is incredibly annoying. I feel like she’s not a nice woman and not someone I’d even want to be friends with.
@@Nathan-bg4nu she has that "alpha" female vibe to her which can be very intimidating as a friend so ya me too i wouldn't want to be her friend but at least she stood up for herself and set Jessica straight.
Watching the show these 2 are my least favorite couple. I don’t like the fact how Barnett led 2 other women to believe that he really liked even love them!
Matt to Jessica "seemed like you were kinda into me still and it came off like that but i'm with Amber and some of the things you said made it seem like you still had a thing for me" ... Jessica "WAAA?? MEEE????!!! NO WAYYYY NOT MEEE" ... LITERALLY EVERY PERSON WATCHING THIS "stfu Jessica, and get some self awareness", figure out what you want and stop playing effing games, Poor Mark.
They part was so cringeworthy! Especially with the conversation starting with “I could never see you two together” to ending with “I’m so happy for you guys. You guys look so happy together.”. Not too mention if had basically been three different conversations where he basically said he was happy with Amber. I couldn’t actually see him and Jessica working out. She drinks too much and she comes off like a spiteful person. I can’t forget early on when she went back to the ladies and said Barnett was a fuckboy for doing the same exact thing she was doing.
Yep & for nothing. She said she lives her life in the moment & being a vet, she'll always have money coming in. IDK why folks are making it seem like she's a bum. The only debt she had was student loans; which is the same as anyone else that's gone to college. She just dropped out & never paid on them (which again, is very normal lol).
Barnett seems so different outside the pod. He is introverted, shy and insecure. Amber is exactly how she presented herself in the pod. Her personality complements his and vice versa. Amber would stick by him, and shes easy going and fun. Jessica is just a mess, but the drama she brought was great for the show. Barnett handled her really well.
Can you imagine what Jessica would have said when she saw Barnett's house?? She was way too judgement for Barnett it would have never worked out. When Amber saw his place she was so respectful and gratful for what he had to offer.
Calista Cappuccio Jessica is just an old nag. It’s just in her nature. She comes off as very insecure, and worried about how she is perceived. Which is ironic, since most viewers dislike how she presented herself.
He clearly wasn't trying to talk much. We'd be sitting here forever waiting for him to pick up speed. Maybe he was tired or just not comfortable. I was thinking more like GOOD thing she's able to articulate and engage.
Jessica about Mark: “Mark has 24y old, he is 10y younger than me. The age gap never will work Nobody about Barnett: 27y old Jessica about Barnett: “Barnett is perfect to me” Gap: 7y 🤷🏽♀️ Jessica will ended up alone!
peter griffin exactly like all this acting for what ? She is so selfish because she didn’t want to go home like a loser after she has been rejected by Barnett at the same time i wonder like didnt she think that she will be hurting somebody who obviously has shown only love and support throughout the whole experience .
@@SimplyChillin. i noticed that. also noticed in some of the peoples lives on IG tonight that he didn't look like he was wearing his either. kinda makes you wonder whats going on! i'm telling myself that they sold them to pay off debt XD
@@katertaytor5129 There may be some trouble in paradise, but there may not be. The producers most likely asked them to refrain from wearing their rings, especially in public, until the finale airs, as they don't want the endings to be spoiled. They've had 1.5 years to get used to not wearing a wedding ring, and they've probably either forgot to put them back on or don't give a flying... wearing a ring doesn't signify your love and commitment to another person; your actions do.
Barnett gave up that beautiful house and now lives in an apartment - with her. I'm sure she drained all of his money, causing him to downgrade to apartment living. I have no sympathy for him, for choosing to marry something like that.
I think everyone is forgetting how short of a journey this is and how open your heart has to be to even get close to love without meeting someone or seeing them. Jessica is getting a lot of crap for her age, her behaviour, her leading Mark on and etc. But almost no one is talking about the little (big) things behind the scenes that have been revealed regarding her. Such as: her dog being deathly sick and Jessica being told that her dog was going to die during the show, how Jessica tried to make it clear that Mark and her couldn't work and tried to get off of the show but producers refused to let her. I'd be wasted as much as possible under that stress. And you know, im sure she actually loved Mark and tried to make it work and that he got a very good edit ( in comparison to Jessica). I think that Jessica was stuck between a rock and a hard place after realizing she couldn't continue with Mark after Mexico (realizing she made a mistake) and then was forced to make the best of it and stick it out. So she tried with Mark and Mark put in extra effort likely because he knew at least what was going on with her dog and wanted to try to be there as much as possible. Also. Barnette was actually a player in the pods. What he said to Jessica whether he meant it that way or not and the way he spoke about her (which was pretty damn well) leads you to believe he could've chosen her just as easily as Amber or LC. It wasn't until Jessica completely pulled the plug that he buckled down and looked inward and chose. I think a lot of women have been there. I have. I've told someone to choose and when they haven't I've left and they stayed with the other person (and then broke up anyways 2 years later.) I actually don't hate Barnette but you gotta remember that emotions are heightened and you have to be very open and he did lead her on whether he intentionally tried to or not. He did say things the way she described even if he didn't mean it like that. He told her to pull the plug on Mark and choose him and she would be his fiance, then the next night he took it back. She held up her end of it and talked to Mark saying she was unsure and then Barnette decided that he didn't want her as much as he thought. These people were engaged in 11 days. Her "coming onto" Barnett while Amber and him are engaged in an experiment? I dunno, doesn't exactly scream relationship sanctity after that short of a time. I'm sorry. It's a bit shady because of her dishonesty with Amber but I'm sure at the Bachellorette party - by then, she actually didn't want Barnette anymore. So I would not say that's entirely shady. She seems like she needed to do some personal work, and she says she has. Shes moved twice in the last year and a half and went back home to spend time with her family to reflect on herself. Shes also apologized to Amber and accepted that that may not be enough, she didn't even defend herself in the reunion.. she just took everything in stride and all she did was explain that shes taken time to work on herself and shes happier than she was then and that she truly wasn't ready for that experience at that time. Also, Jessica explained she has abandonment issues as well as issues with rejection from people she wants in her life. I'm sure that between Mark's emotional availability and Barnetts lack thereof for with her she felt so confused and hurt. She may have taken Mark for granted because she was heart broken but Barnett was the one who helped get her there. Usually you have time to heal from a barnett before a mark comes along... she didn't. All in all. Sit down and calm down. All of you are taking this way too personally for something that didnt even happen to you.
K T this is everything I’ve wanted to say. I also think it might be so popular to hate on Jessica because she is like a symbol of the shame of the moments we’ve been rejected. I don’t understand all these people who can’t have any compassion for a woman who suffered some emotional fallout and messiness when was offered a winning relationship ticket only to have it taken away the next day and then had to go on holiday with her dream guy and the man she cared for but didn’t have that chemistry with. That shit would be hard as fuck
@@sarahjudd9710 have you seen the AMA on Reddit? Two cast members from the show who didnt make it to the finale or have a lot of screen time even said they thought Mark wasnt portrayed properly and that Jessica got a very bad edit for views. And we eat it up, because society sucks. Shes actually one of my favorites from the show because I think her Journey is the most realistic, wanting something but not knowing how to choose it - getting played in the process, obstacles in the way... or am i the only one that has this kind of love life? Either way, more relateable for me. I'm glad she just chose her and grew and tells everyone this. As well... apparently Amber and Mark had a thing in the pods and were considering one another..... NONE OF THIS WAS SHOWN. LIB can bite me, I won't buy their crap lol
Sebdcord Sebdcord How is Amber an alcoholic when Jessica is the one drinking almost every day.. Just because Amber didn’t have a job and stuff like that doesn’t mean she is a alcoholic..
Orion9 for real. He’s dating someone else. Seen it in a love is blind group where he was in it. I looked through his profile and he’s dating some chick from Georgia
Unconsciously copying her rival. LOL. She knows Jess is better than her. She just got lucky coz Barnett cannot handle a girl like Jess who earns better than him. Weak males would choose cheap females like Amber. They cant handle strong female like Jess.
@@HernilLynn lmaooo what are you talking about. I'm not for putting women down to lift others up. They are both attractive women but Amber definitely looks younger, has a nicer body, and a more likeable personality. He knew nothing about her finances before purposing to her.
Jessica made me roll my eyes so many times. I've met girls like her in college but they 18-22. Age really doesn't matter, I guess. She kept talking about like ten year age gap like it was a twenty year age gap. Plus she seems less mature than Mark. Just because you happen to have a good job and have lived longer doesnt make you fully developed and mature as a person.
Dar Candelaria im only 29 but she did motivate me to keep up with my skin care lol . I feel bad, though. What if she reads all these comments about looking old!?
@@noahsayyummy7661 I know I feel bad for saying but it's possible she lied about her age? You never know! I'm 36 but people have told me I look 30 atleast! I have zero wrinkles.
great interview! ash crossan did a great job balancing the questions between getting to know more behind the scenes content and context with fun funny questions. i love hearing about how they felt they were portrayed. i wish we could see more of them actually living and get to know them.
She talks WAY too much and doesn’t let him get a word in. Almost like she HAS to be center of attention. She was like this on the show too by throwing herself on him and just being REALLY extra🙄 I hope they stay married cuz she will make his life a living hell if not😂
Lol I like them together idk why. His family didn't seem to like her when they met though bcs she is very attention seeking and loud. I kinda think Barnett likes that about her though. It's different from him. Im a talker as well. I usually end up with men who are listeners who tend to prefer that I lead the conversation. Opposites attract.
@Lockjaw I thought so too and then Jessica showed us her house and then Barnett's... I think she's better off with someone else. Jessica is a little OCD. But her house is beautiful!
On the show I didn't like Amber, she seemed so braggy and on most of her airtime she only talked about herself. She seemed to over compensate low self esteem. Now she comes across way more reflective, calm and self assured. I wished the show focused more on the couple's conversations in the pods which was the most interesting part.
@@nil-8026 I'll Google The Circle, thanks for the recommendation. In my opinion sadly most dating shows sacrifice authenticity and the couple's process of having chemistry for dramatic effect. The show could have made a real impact, showing it's viewers, that everyone was essentially looking for the same and carrying around the same wounds, no matter the surface and the preconceptions. I think viewers crave for realness and honest vulnerability, we're sick of a shiny surface and artificial drama. At least I am. Too bad they only put above average looking people on the show. I would have loved a more realistic mix of contestants. The show then could have exposed society's superficiality and the way it's truly harmful to all of us, because it prevents us of being authentic. It could have encouraged more people to open up and be vulnerable..
I feel like they just showed what they wanted of each person and we should have taken it like a grain of salt. Because they showed short clips of amber saying things that made her seem eh... like for me personally I didn't know what to think of her because what they would show of her personality was so inconsistent. They really could have focused more on their goos sides than just throwing it together. At least it seemed like they rushed it and didn't really try to let people see them for them. Although i doubt there was anything they could do for Jessica 😂😂
I'm glad Amber had her time to speak truthfully without the show overly editing it. I think you can sense in the episodes that she's a genuine person that went through some stuff and the way they portrayed her as a kind of gold digger just didn't quite fit her personality entirely. Now at least i understand her better, and their relationship too.
She literally said her mantra is she doesnt work to live; she lives to work as her mantra for why she hasnt paid off her debt and why she wasnt currently picking up shifts after speaking about her debt. She also gave a different story on her instagram live lol
I don’t know if I’d classify her as a gold digger but she doesn’t sound overly ambitious career-wise and clearly has poor financial management skills. She admitted on the show that she doesn’t have any motivation to work and wants to be a stay at home which is a *major* red flag. They seem like a great couple together but having her chillax at the house 7 days a week wouldn’t be an option. Money doesn’t fall from trees and somebody will need to cover daily expenses, the mortgage, car/medical insurance and financially support the family unit.
@@johnharper140 Exactly. I heard that she only went to community college. How do you rack up $20,000 in student loan debt from community college that you didn't even finish? Aren't those usually just 2 years? Something's not adding up. I think the real source of that debt is sitting on her chest. I think her goal was to find a sponsor to take care of her. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay-at-home mom, but what exactly is she doing in the meantime? She said she wants to move into a bigger house. She could at least get a job in the time being to pay off her loans and save money for a down payment.
AMBER: "I sleep on my friends couches, I don't pay my bills, I don't work, I don't want to work, and I want to be a stay at home Mom and have babies. BARNETT: "Let get married so I can proved to my family I'm an adult". I just watched the Reunion. These two seem toxic to me. Take away the smiles and look at the body language.
@@minamoon4221 i think so too! their relationship just didnt make any sense to me. seems like she just kept him around for the money & to not have to do anything. He needed more.
I agreed she was way too extra. And I was cringing. But I realized that was an act and when she calmed down and stopped “ performing “ for the camera and showed more of herself, I really liked her. I love her after this video.
laptop laptop the goal is to be so financially planned that she would be able to do that- it benefits the kids and the parents(peace of mind, bonding). I have smart successful friends who wish they could be in that situation.
laptop laptop maybe you don’t understand other paradigms? It’s a goal, because children at home with a caring parent usually do better than in daycare. They have less chance of sickness, injury and other. They have more bonding and more chance of secure attachment style, less chance of mental illness etc. It is generally hugely beneficial for the child. It’s an absolutely incredible powerful goal. And while it may not win awards and lauded as the pinnacle of success...everything is connected, domino effect. When kids are healthy and connected, society as a whole gets healthier. As a medical professional, who didn’t stay home with my first...but did with my second, it is profound and impactful and I would do anything to go back and have done it with my first. I couldn’t at the time, as I was young and in school and couldn’t afford to stay at home. It would’ve been far better to have been able to be a stay at home mom for part of that. Additionally, before working in healthcare, I worked in childcare. Even with the most caring workers...you often get subpar care and attention then if a parent is devoting their time to that child. Get curious before getting judgmental.
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Barnett looking like someone woke him up and was immediately forced to do an interview...
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he looks irritable like he just got up from a nap like you said 😂😂
That’s his 24/7 look IMO 🤣
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Jessica kissed Amber at the bachelorette party so she could taste Barnett.
Ethan Bui omg this comment made my day😂🔥
That was creepy as crap
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Omg I’m so glad someone finally brought this up!! Literally the cringest part of the entire show
No way was Jessica going to be with a 24year old, short, personal trainer but a 27 year old, tall, engineer? Now that’s different. She was not attracted to Mark period.
Mark dodged a bullet
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I dont think race had anything to do with it but nice reach.
I’m pretty sure it was how he looked like his height which is sad.
I dated a guy my height and it was a beautiful relationship
@@M_D_Y0 race definitely had something to do with it. I can't count how many times she kept emphasizing their "different backgrounds" and saying things like "Mark isn't someone I would usually go for" way before the reveal while they were in the pod and right after he mentioned he was Mexican. Ofcourse after the reveal, his physical appearance also played a role in why she didnt want him but you can't say his race and background didn't matter to her with your whole chest...we ain't blind Cindy
This was so much it.
TRACY EPPS you are right. She felt above Mark and Amber because they are not „sophisticated“ enough in her mind. She is very into social status and Mark did not fit into her frame. And that’s how ppl actually are in real life, most of the times. Anyhow what I find even more cringy is the way Mark gave her soooo many chances. I felt sorry for him as he didn’t have any self-steem😞
Amber straight up hates Jessica. I hated Jessica too, she was a snob and into herself. She thought she was too good for Mark but actually, it was the other way around.
She just didn't fall in love with Mark completely. She wanted to because he was so perfect. That's what Jessica said about a million times. Pay attention! :)
@@resitill3764 Jessica, is that you???
ashleydeauna loooool righttt
@@SamuelsReview bahahahahaha It is!!!!
Amber should be annoyed by Jessica. How many times did Jessica come onto Barnett after pod choices (Mexico, at the Apartments). Even if Amber was a bit of a mess, Barnett made his choice. There was a lot of coloring in the editing of course. But she still clearly kept trying to push pass all the clear 'friendzone' signals from the man.
Amber comes across a lot better here than she did on the show. She seems much more mature - and stable - in this interview.
She's not stupid... she knows she looked a buffoon in the show. Even a 5 year old can sit still for 8 minutes🤷🏽♀️
It's exactly that, a show. She was portrayed the way that best fit the storyline that would keep you watching.
TheCarlScharnberg that’s because she doesn’t have a drink in her hand
*giggles* .. *SNORTS*
Agreed.
Jessica’s voice was really irritating tbh everytime she talked it was aggravating
I know. Mark was like "from when she said 'hey' I was in love" and I'm like, boy you got to be lying
she sounds like trisha paytes lmaoo
And she amped it up in the pods... got on my nerves so bad
I feel like she was an alcoholic 😂 🍷 🍷 🍷
It's called vocal fry.
Notice how he doesn't even refer to his time with Jessica as 'relationship' and says 'friendship'. Stanning Barnett a little harder.
Yeah, I like Barnett a lot better outside the pods. He even handled Jessica well during the show
So funny how Jessica was the one who said they’d all dates each other. Umm they had conversations through a wall 😂
@@at8052 but they did "date" during the pods. Wasn't everyone stating what number "date" they were on?
Right friendzoned lol
Okay but... I can’t get over Amber stroking Jessica’s hair and saying something like if you go after my man “I will destroy your life”
yes lol that was everything lmao
That part was hilarious lol. Like a psycho serial killer
That was the first time I saw Amber so calm... lol loved her for that
My favorite scene... "If you get in between Barnett and I, I will fuck you up" hahaha
What when was this??? How did I not see that?!
Barnett was arguably the biggest "player" on the show, and yet he is still with Amber to this day. i'm here for it.
Mary-Kate G but he wasn’t actually a player. He ‘played’ the field during the preliminary dating episodes. But as soon as he chose amber he didn’t budge. Dating around initially was well within his rights and probably why they are still together - he was sure on his choice
@@evegabriella7479 I had the feeling that Matt wanted as much choice as he could get by leading some girls on... so he could pick out of 3 girls...
@@evegabriella7479 touche, touche..
True P i keep forgetting his first name is matt and not barnett.
@totallyprudent49 his first name is Matthew aka Matt. I forgot his last name
I couldn’t stand Jessica, she was such a fake.
Alyssa Klise I couldn’t agree more, their wedding was heartbreaking to watch. I couldn’t stand watching his mother holding him as he cried.. it was so obvious she was going to say no at the altar, why drag it on ? She should’ve ended it immediately after she figured out she was still inlove with Barnett lmao
Alyssa Klise no she didn’t deserve mark
MESSICA!!!
Alyssa Klise she didn’t deserve MARK ... he was a sweet heart the whole way
Jessicow, she was so cruel to mark aswell
my favorite couple is cameron and lauren!! anyone else? UGH I CANT THEY ARE SOO CUTE
MEEEEEEE "JUMPING UP AND DOWN WAVING MY HANDS"😍😍🤩🤩😍😍😍🥰🥰🤣🤣😂😂
kateer yesss! omg
Same
Jackie Morera the fact that they are interracial makes the couple so beautiful
Faves 💕
I wish they would’ve brought up how respectful Barnette came across about his relationship with Amber when Jessica was throwing herself at him. He totally stood his ground about how he felt about Amber when Jessica would try to manipulate him to say something unbecoming about Amber like when she would bring up how she hopes it’s not just a physical thing between them....
Exactly! He was a perfect gentleman! :) They met and felt in love in pods! Of course it's not just physical you silly woman... I couldn't stand how fake, disrespectful, manipulative and crazy Jess was!
@@misssasanka yep, Jessica was bring a manipulative cow!
I noticed that too. Og
Brandy Bailey yes girl!! while i was watching that i thought amber’s going to b so proud of him!! he handled it perfectly!
totally agree-- he couldn't have handled it any better.
Is no one acknowledging that they’ve been married for a year and a half 😂
Grace’s Life whatttt?!?? That’s crazy
That's a looooong time!!!!!
Most people already knew the show was filmed in 2018-19
Def shocked about that lol
@@ashleycabiness8354 good for them
Barnett’s proposal to Jessica was if everyone left he would marry her, that’s not a proposal he basically said I’d choose you if there was no one else left
Point 👈. Totally agreed
Lmao that’s not what he said tho
@@aj5374 that is what he said
@@aj5374 It's exactly what he said
When I watched that part, I was so confused why she got so excited over that. He said something like “If nobody else was here, I’d ask you to marry me tonight” and that’s basically saying, “I like you enough to marry you, but there’s other people I connect with more.” She was probably too tipsy to realize what he actually meant, I guess. 🤷🏻♀️😅
Before people judge Amber they need to remember she had a difficult life. Losing her dad at a young age, growing up poor, having depression, etc. life isn't easy for everyone. She is a bit rough around the edges but she's a genuine person. I wish the best for her.
I liked Amber because of all of those reasons. She didn't come across as fake like Jessica did. When she was telling Barnett about her student loan debt, her credit card debt, and how she was homeless, I really thought that was dope to be that vulnerable. Too many people are hiding behind their trials and tribulations trying to portray a perfect lifestyle. But she was so real. I too wish the best for her.
I love Amber! She's probably as tough as those tanks she used to repair.
I lost my dad when I was 16, and I was just like her for many years. Depression, shopping sprees, inability to grow up and take responsibilities... It's just weird. I felt like I was forced to grow up super fast having to face my father's illness and death, and in some way, it made me unable to grow up on all the other aspects of life. I honestly think I was grieving till I've reached 30. Being an only child made it really hard to turn the page. Most people were hard on me. They didn't get it. People give you two years max to grieve. Then you're supposed to move on. Not that easy. So yes, I understand Amber... but I know most people won't. I hope Barnett will give her a stable home so she can start a new life and become an adult. Only when I moved in with my husband did I start feeling secure and that's when I started growing up.
@@louloutre I hate that people put a time frame on grieving. Especially when it's a loved one that close. You never get over the death of a parent or child or close relative. Or anyone you loved dearly for that matter. Glad you finally feel secure. 😊😊
She’s certainly got her sob story together. Poor singular her! 😂
I think Amber is stronger than she was portrayed. And Barnett was more together than I gave him credit for during the show. I'm glad they are still together
❤
Being that it's a show and clips are edited to make it more entertaining for TV.
A lot of TV shows skip over the normal boring stuff and only highlight cringey or shocking moments.
@mariposafria, I totally did the same. It's editing! Producers should be ashamed of themselves for making us judge people wrongly. Including Jessica. We don't really know the story!
Absolutely! These two, I prefer the organic growth of their love than Lauren and Cam. Atleast from what we weve been shown.
This made her seem so much more chill and like able. Thank goodness! Honestly Barnett, too. They were clearly both portrayed a certain type of way on the show
mariposafria I wonder if she's gotten a job to help out financially, since the show ended a year ago. Because all I got from this interview is that he actually has to pay off his loans AND hers.
Jessica killed me when she straight up got mad cuz he told her he didn’t want to marry her and she went back to try to sabotage Amber’s view.
TheShalalala22 right lol I said the same thing
Amber told Jessica straight up that she would whoop that ass if she went after her man.
TheShalalala22 that’s why I love Amber. Cause she’s confident enough to not let whatever anyone would tell. And I really appreciate that she didn’t take in account whatever thing other people said but instead went to Barnette himself
Mechaela Lapuaho yes she kept it very classy!
Lisa N Wiley which episode was this?
Barnett didn't even need to be present for this interview. Amber talks more than enough for the both of them.
Lol he seemed a little shy or out of it. He would have made the interview twice as long if he was answering more
Big Facts. She’s super dominant and he’s very passive to be an scorpio tbh
Lockjaw yes also that lol
Liz Moreno well she is an Aries tho 😂👏🏼
Just let him talk! Also why the blonde?
Barnett, blink twice if you need help... Signal us somehow.
😂🤣😂🤣😂
he probably needs help. amber is stupid
Nikola Tesla 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😳👀
🤣🤣
I kept thinking Barnetts first name was Barnett and once in a blue moon when they'd call him Matt I'd be confused for a sec lol
Atiyeh Moghaddam wait, what? His name’s Matt?
Lmfao you just made me realize
And Damian is actually Mark Damian....
It was mentioned in the first episode that it was his last name but all his friends call him Barnett
Dont tell me Cameron is a last name..
*Thank God Jessica bailed...she didn't deserve Mark....*
Totally agree she was never in it
i was waiting for him to connect the dots and see the red flags and i honestly think her bailing was the best that could've happened to him in the long-run (and to her because she never wanted to be with him, just finding excuses after excuses). but i checked her ig and they seem to be friends irl so good for them if they worked through it to a friendship level.
She finally did the right thing! I'm sad Mark got hurt but I think it's the best thing for him in the long run, he definitely deserves someone who is equally passionate about him!
Jessica wanted Barnett.
Exactly...she even told Mark one time that Barnett is so hot and all...Mark was so upset...but again he forgave her....but that girl broke his heart. ...and she said at the end of episode that she didn't feel sorry at all...like really?...You broke his heart💔
Ambers personality is a little overwhelming, Barnett looks like he legitimately has no clue how he ended up here 🥴🤣
Happiness Happens, yeah, I don’t like how she keeps cutting him off. It’s like it’s HER interview and not theirs. He looks pissed off but maybe that’s just his face lol
I feel like he always looks like that and I had to realize he just is an expressionless guy. She understands his personality thats why they work.
@@itsasia_ what have you been watching? He hasn't had an expressionless face yet. But I'm only on episode 6
@@munnalee Have not watched the show, but she does look like an overbearing person
Easy. He doesn't seem to have a clue what he's looking for in a relationship which is why was always confused about who he wanted to be with before the proposals. My theory is that he was just confused about what he was looking for as Jessica which is why they bonded in the pods. To me it appears he just wanted to make it to the next step and chose Amber.
I’m glad that she cleared the air about the finances. Makes sense.
All the shock about Jessica letting her dog drink wine - but what I found even more shocking was that she then DRANK OUT OF THE GLASS AFTER THE DOG!!!!!!!
And had the dogs ass in her face
Y Knot
White people..
@@MMMMD1 exactly what I said when I saw it
Right!! I love my dog but absolutely NOT.
I gagged..that's disgusting, and WHY would you give your dog wine in the first place.. Jessica needs to get her shit together man
And mark continued talking like that shit didn’t happen
Everyones talking about Barnett's face, and how hes uncomfortable, or being held hostage. Honestly I think that's just his face😂😂😂
Yeah I was thinking the same thing why was he looking like that the whole time 😂 yes I think it's just his face 😂 😂😂
Kimi Rhaven Rose held hostage😂 what!?
Did they not watch the show? He made that face throughout his whole season. It’s just his normal face.😭
He looks unhappy
Hahahahahaha resting confused face
Ok but Barnett looks like he’s aged 10 years
Because he's got that leech on him?
probably ambers debt bills he has to pay lol
He lives a stressful life with this woman
True. He looks ugly now. Well, his house looked dirty, too.
Jade Miao omg yesssss he probably stressed out too
Can we just talk about everyone before they got married all of them said “ oh I’m so happy I’m so in love can’t wait to get up there and get married” *steps up to the alter* “nah I’m good” lol okay?
I feel like they weren't allowed to leave the relationship after Mexico. At that point I think they had to go up on the alter and say no. Jessica was just lying about her feelings though. And that red head guy (who was with the blond hispanic) was just weird.
Ari Damien (the redhead) and Gigi (the blonde) are still dating! They wanted to take things at their own pace.
@@ellav.1521 Really? Thats good to know! Gigi was like a little ray of sunshine. Love her smile and laugh
Barnett handle Jessica flirting with him so well tho. I knew theyd say I do.
Darienne Empire i was very impressed with him! He seemed like such a player back in the pods.
@@lillyv9430 I had a little feeling throughout that these 2 would end strong. They just seemed perfect for eachother.
Darienne Empire The editing made Amber seem flaky and a golddigger, but in the end she seemed one of the realest person out of the bunch! Hope she’ll start a yt channel! I want to see more of her!
Yes he did I said the same thing! He knew what he wanted and shame on his brother for trying to change his views on marrying amber as well. I believe he sincerely wanted to change his life and the way he handled Jessica proved that
StephJes Forbes i think his brother meant well, he did take him aside to talk to him as opposed to putting Amber on the spot by talking about it in front of her. The editing might have made him seem like a bad guy. His brother did show up at the wedding. Man, netflix should do a season 2 soon!
Jessica being 34 is the most childish on the show . She said she wasn’t throwing herself for Barnett ( calling him hot I’m front of mark when drunk) and the then says I WOULD NEVER ! NAHHH she would if she was single and wasn’t hurting mark she really doesn’t care about amber she just doesn’t want her ass beat lol . I feel bad for mark she toyed with him so much . Mark deserves so much better 😭😭😭
I'm having a hard time believing Jessica is 34! She looks 44!
ikk mark deserved so much better.
@@darcandelaria that's what I kept saying.
She also looks way older than 34 and was the most obnoxious woman in the show
@@darcandelaria yep! Def. Looks way older
Barnett has said he doesn’t like being on camera because he gets uncomfortable. He’s not being held hostage calm down people
Seriously! Thanks for saying this! I think they’re great together
Yet he went on a reality tv show where he is constantly on camera 🥴 lol
@@salvadorhernandez7995 He said that he doesn't want to be interviewd
Amber always talks about "destroying people" and "beating them up" and that is such an immature thing to say in situations like that. Jessica definitely did not respect Amber and Barnett so I understand why Amber was and is upset, but the facial expressions she pulls and the things she says...they´re just so childish in my eyes and I can´t help but cringe everytime
I was very on the fence about Amber the whole show. I really liked that she was loyal to Barnett and at no point second guessed her decision. She always spoke her mind and she didn't pretend the thing with Jessica wasn't bothering her. I personally really respect that in a person. But at the same time, you're completely right. She did come off as very childish and straight up psycho at times. I felt like, especially in the earlier stages of the relationship, she was over possessive and territorial. And I guess this is kind of subjective but she has crazy eyes and you can't trust crazy eyes. But I was happy for her when they got married
I dont like Jessica , she did alot of mistakes in the show but the one I hate most is Amber. I feel like she's not a good person especially when she confronted jessica in the reunion , she was so rude , she could have chose a good choice of words but she was aggressive . I also noticed in the reunion every time Jessica talked , Amber would change her face and look annoyed . Amber is immature both Jessica and Amber should grow up .
Ikr!! I don’t know why everyone is pretending Amber isn’t extremely rude and childish.
Yes and people act like she was “popping off” and it was “everything” but I thought it was SO cringey and immature..
Jessica apologized in the reuniion, which was very classy and mature. Ambers response to that was very immature and bitchy
Jessica: Mark is 10 years apart I cant marry him
Barnett: *7 years apart*
Jessica: I love barnett he’s perfect for me
edit: thanks for the likes guys I'm-
ugh jessica is so hypocritical its so annoying I feel bad for mark but its been 2 years since they last filmed this so
Right like them 3 years is a world of different. I hated her so much. Mark was a lil clingy tho too. I didnt like him either. Ambet and Barnett was my favorite. And I love Cameron and shit what's her name.
@@korylojewski5930 Lauren!
😂😂😂😂😂
Melvn.y I thought I was the only one that thought that was stupid 🤣🤣🤣
Amber’s face when Jessica is mentioned is priceless!
awalker91180 ya little jelly lol
Right...🤣🤣🤣🤣
Barnett follows mark but not Jessica lol
The smile she had on her face said it all.
Oh yeah she hates her guts
He doesn’t look happy. She seems way more in love with him than he is with her. Read his body language and look at his demeanor. She doesn’t even let him speak barely at all
Mackenzie Barich sure!! That’s way they are married for one year and a half
@@iohannacampos9626 a year and a half and Anver has already looked for divorce lawyers, like she said in the reunion.
Neither of them are in love.
@@helaka whether they are in love with eachother or not he is defintely not in love with jessica cos he chose amber
Barnett being so done talking about the Jessica/Amber situation. Good luck buddy
And Jessica wasn't even his number two.. she was number three!
he said Jessica was his favorite at some point. I think had she reacted differently to him being unsure and not walked out it might have progressed differently. He was being kinda unfair not communicating his doubts to all three women more clearly. I think it is good he is with someone he feels accepted by. I would have liked to see more of LC though.
maya Imagine Jessica watching the show and hearing what Barnett didn’t choose her 💀
@@lightgivener He didn't make an instant connection with one, he did have multiples. It's a tricky place to be in all around. You think you are connecting with someone, then they select someone else. The problem I have is that Jessica knew she was not feeling Mark. I believe the show forced them to remain on the show because they couldn't afford to let them go, regardless of how it ended at the altar.
She was actually his favourite I think he said that but man he really dodged a bullet
To be honest, I think if she did not walk out on him, he might have ended up with her.. he did say she was his favorite.
Amber’s face while Barnett is talking about Jessica is PERFECT
Shes like 😊😊😊😊
Jessica was crazy, yes, but she handled herself well at the reunion and Amber needs to let go.... it’s been over a year.... like
She handled herself well because she knows Amber would've rocked her shit if she came back crazy ..and amber said she didn't know jessica was being that fake till the show came out
Marleni Almonte you know that’s bs she was there whenever Jessica would corner Barnett. Mark would complain to her all the time that Jessica wouldn’t give him the time of day. Of course she knew! She even threatened her at the party so how is she gonna act like she just found out how obsessed Jessica was? I don’t understand how people can see what trash Jessica is but make excuses for Amber. She’s a piece of trash too. Clearly into a parasitic lifestyle wants to be a stay at home thot and found the jackpot with insecure black sheep of his family Barnett.
I don't think Amber had an opportunity to tell Jessica off in person prior to that, that's way she was so passionate about setting her straight and basically telling her you played my friend but wanted to steal my fiance, of course after watching the show herself and realising what Jessica did behind her back.
Jess is still better. She has better finances and no debt.
Agree! Such a rude reaction for a reunion. Well, not a fan of Jessica either. But i hope Amber gets to find a job that could help on their finances, coz financial stability matters esp. if you are starting a family of your own. That’s reality.
Barnett went from being the player to the scared puppy who only talks when she's not talking...which is never.
He looks horrible like he dips snuff or something😒
@@lynntodd2845 Or too much drinking.
what is he supposed to do ? Interrupt her ?
I feel like that's one of the reasons their relationship worked... Barnett doesn't make up his mind easily he's kind of laid back while in contrast, Amber has a really strong personality and is very outwardly strong about her thoughts and opinions. I think their personalities go well with each other as a couple. Lol.
Larisa West yes! Honestly people just hate to hate I swear lol.
The whole "reach out to me if anything" which translates....'I hope you's fight and argue and you come running to me'...so shameful
TeRina McGregor
Yeah, that was gross.
TeRina McGregor such sad desperation 😩
Wish she’d checked herself. Additionally, her drinking didn’t help...at all 😬
So I’m the only one who thought she looked just like Jenna Marbles.
Nathy Suarez I SAID THE SAME THING LOL. i told my husband she looks a little like and reminded me of jenna marbles lol.
oh my gosh I couldn't stop saying that!
No, my boyfriend said that when we were watching the show!
With Cardi b’s mannerism
I said it too.
Amber has crazy eyes. She is the kind of woman who will flatten your tires, key your car etc if she gets angry. How can people not see this?
Comparison to them with Lauren and Cameron; Lauren and Cameron give each other the respect to talk and express. With amber I notice that she hardly gives Barnett space to talk. She needs to work on that. Wishing them the best
Same, I got a toxic controlling vibe.
As soon as Barnett said, "Amber scares me" I knew right then he was going to pick her! They are literally perfect for each other.
I did too! The look on his face when he said it!
jessiknows when they first started connecting I was pining for him to pick her because I remember her standing up to him in the pod and I just felt like she would be good for him because she’s confident in herself, not cocky, and could put Barnette “in his place” if he ever got out of line
Me too!!! OMG!
Thats what my boyfriend tell her mother about me. Lol. He still never let me go 🤣
women everywhere are taking note to be more scary 🤣
I think next season should show more of the pod conversation
Miss Katz Life I hope so!
I agree, I was SO interested in the pods and was surprised they were cut so short. I thought most of the episodes would be conversation, so that was disappointing.
The whole way they kept referring to the pods and we didn’t even see those conversations
Miss Katz Life and show us more of the awkward convos
I understand why some conversations were kept unaired. They came in to know each other not share everything with everyone. I think however that they should put a time stamp illustrating how long they have been talking and maybe a checklist of topics just so we can understand the level of exchange and connection between two people....
Idk what it is, I just dislike Amber so much. It would have been nice to hear from Barnett a bit more in this video.
ashley dawn exactly! The poor dude can never get a word in. She just talks and talks and is incredibly annoying. I feel like she’s not a nice woman and not someone I’d even want to be friends with.
@@Nathan-bg4nu she has that "alpha" female vibe to her which can be very intimidating as a friend so ya me too i wouldn't want to be her friend but at least she stood up for herself and set Jessica straight.
Watching the show these 2 are my least favorite couple. I don’t like the fact how Barnett led 2 other women to believe that he really liked even love them!
You do know other people were doing the same right it wasn’t just him
Matt to Jessica "seemed like you were kinda into me still and it came off like that but i'm with Amber and some of the things you said made it seem like you still had a thing for me" ... Jessica "WAAA?? MEEE????!!! NO WAYYYY NOT MEEE" ... LITERALLY EVERY PERSON WATCHING THIS "stfu Jessica, and get some self awareness", figure out what you want and stop playing effing games, Poor Mark.
Lol after he told her that she completely shifted her legs back and away from him buuut she wasn’t “in to him” lmao
🤣😂🤣🤣Exactly what I felt when I watched that episode
H C Not to mention there's no way she's 34.
They part was so cringeworthy! Especially with the conversation starting with “I could never see you two together” to ending with “I’m so happy for you guys. You guys look so happy together.”. Not too mention if had basically been three different conversations where he basically said he was happy with Amber. I couldn’t actually see him and Jessica working out. She drinks too much and she comes off like a spiteful person. I can’t forget early on when she went back to the ladies and said Barnett was a fuckboy for doing the same exact thing she was doing.
@@Rachietutu that's what I was thinking 34 more 44...Her wrinkled eyelids
The show did portray her as someone muddy looking for a easy way out.
True 🤪
She’s broke af
I still believe that
Yep & for nothing. She said she lives her life in the moment & being a vet, she'll always have money coming in. IDK why folks are making it seem like she's a bum. The only debt she had was student loans; which is the same as anyone else that's gone to college. She just dropped out & never paid on them (which again, is very normal lol).
That’s def the case, but I hope these two work out
He looks so anxious and Amber seems extremely controlling.
Barnett looks like he’s being physically and mentally abused 😂
Latifa Hajar seriously lol, he looks like he’s not allowed to speak
Maybe she threatened with denying sex
He's done.
I give it 2years at most
They’re happy, let them be.
He is
She’s not giggling every second. The honeymoon phase is over! But I love this side of her
Barnett seems so different outside the pod. He is introverted, shy and insecure. Amber is exactly how she presented herself in the pod. Her personality complements his and vice versa. Amber would stick by him, and shes easy going and fun. Jessica is just a mess, but the drama she brought was great for the show. Barnett handled her really well.
well said lol I totally agree
Agree!
I totally agree too. She kept looking back at him too to make sure that what she was saying was agreeable for them both and that was sweet.
Can you imagine what Jessica would have said when she saw Barnett's house?? She was way too judgement for Barnett it would have never worked out. When Amber saw his place she was so respectful and gratful for what he had to offer.
Calista Cappuccio Jessica is just an old nag. It’s just in her nature. She comes off as very insecure, and worried about how she is perceived. Which is ironic, since most viewers dislike how she presented herself.
Why can’t Matt talk? She’s doing all the talking. Poor Matt can’t get a word in edgewise.
I totally agree!!! This bugged me about this interview.
Clearly she's running him
He clearly wasn't trying to talk much. We'd be sitting here forever waiting for him to pick up speed. Maybe he was tired or just not comfortable. I was thinking more like GOOD thing she's able to articulate and engage.
I was gonna ask who is matt but i totally forgot matt is his first name☠️
He is married now, men like that
Every time she says Matt my brain goes “who”
Jessica about Mark: “Mark has 24y old, he is 10y younger than me. The age gap never will work
Nobody about Barnett: 27y old
Jessica about Barnett: “Barnett is perfect to me”
Gap: 7y 🤷🏽♀️
Jessica will ended up alone!
Dany Dants Jessica is all about looks
EXACTLY!!!! That's what I keep saying! She only chose mark bc Barnett didnt choose her. Poor mark
Dany Dants she is the fakest one amongst them I felt really sad about mark
@@SoukyNz her stupid friend had the nerve to say.. its sp embarrassing for Jessica
peter griffin exactly like all this acting for what ? She is so selfish because she didn’t want to go home like a loser after she has been rejected by Barnett at the same time i wonder like didnt she think that she will be hurting somebody who obviously has shown only love and support throughout the whole experience .
Omg they’re still together 💕 Surprised to see Amber like this actually, she looks way more settled and happier with him now. Happy for them!
At 00:22 she’s not wearing a ring
@@SimplyChillin. i noticed that. also noticed in some of the peoples lives on IG tonight that he didn't look like he was wearing his either. kinda makes you wonder whats going on! i'm telling myself that they sold them to pay off debt XD
@@katertaytor5129 There may be some trouble in paradise, but there may not be.
The producers most likely asked them to refrain from wearing their rings, especially in public, until the finale airs, as they don't want the endings to be spoiled. They've had 1.5 years to get used to not wearing a wedding ring, and they've probably either forgot to put them back on or don't give a flying... wearing a ring doesn't signify your love and commitment to another person; your actions do.
Miykala Horton i been married for three years and neither one of us rarely ever wear our rings
@@katertaytor5129 it s a show guy...nothimg real .
I mean... he looks like he wants to talk too... I want to hear what he has to say before she takes over every time
Barnett gave up that beautiful house and now lives in an apartment - with her. I'm sure she drained all of his money, causing him to downgrade to apartment living. I have no sympathy for him, for choosing to marry something like that.
I think he was into her looks more than into her personality. now two years in is the question why he stays ...
Jessica was SO dishonest and off the wall. Yeah. Immature and offensively unstable.
Amber: "I have $20,000 in student loan debt"
Me: "That's it?!?!?!"
Erin Berube ditto! I wish 😅
No hate but no degree either
Erin Berube girl I wish I was her
😂 right!
😅
I think everyone is forgetting how short of a journey this is and how open your heart has to be to even get close to love without meeting someone or seeing them.
Jessica is getting a lot of crap for her age, her behaviour, her leading Mark on and etc. But almost no one is talking about the little (big) things behind the scenes that have been revealed regarding her. Such as: her dog being deathly sick and Jessica being told that her dog was going to die during the show, how Jessica tried to make it clear that Mark and her couldn't work and tried to get off of the show but producers refused to let her. I'd be wasted as much as possible under that stress. And you know, im sure she actually loved Mark and tried to make it work and that he got a very good edit ( in comparison to Jessica). I think that Jessica was stuck between a rock and a hard place after realizing she couldn't continue with Mark after Mexico (realizing she made a mistake) and then was forced to make the best of it and stick it out. So she tried with Mark and Mark put in extra effort likely because he knew at least what was going on with her dog and wanted to try to be there as much as possible.
Also. Barnette was actually a player in the pods. What he said to Jessica whether he meant it that way or not and the way he spoke about her (which was pretty damn well) leads you to believe he could've chosen her just as easily as Amber or LC. It wasn't until Jessica completely pulled the plug that he buckled down and looked inward and chose. I think a lot of women have been there. I have. I've told someone to choose and when they haven't I've left and they stayed with the other person (and then broke up anyways 2 years later.) I actually don't hate Barnette but you gotta remember that emotions are heightened and you have to be very open and he did lead her on whether he intentionally tried to or not. He did say things the way she described even if he didn't mean it like that. He told her to pull the plug on Mark and choose him and she would be his fiance, then the next night he took it back. She held up her end of it and talked to Mark saying she was unsure and then Barnette decided that he didn't want her as much as he thought.
These people were engaged in 11 days. Her "coming onto" Barnett while Amber and him are engaged in an experiment? I dunno, doesn't exactly scream relationship sanctity after that short of a time. I'm sorry. It's a bit shady because of her dishonesty with Amber but I'm sure at the Bachellorette party - by then, she actually didn't want Barnette anymore. So I would not say that's entirely shady.
She seems like she needed to do some personal work, and she says she has. Shes moved twice in the last year and a half and went back home to spend time with her family to reflect on herself. Shes also apologized to Amber and accepted that that may not be enough, she didn't even defend herself in the reunion.. she just took everything in stride and all she did was explain that shes taken time to work on herself and shes happier than she was then and that she truly wasn't ready for that experience at that time.
Also, Jessica explained she has abandonment issues as well as issues with rejection from people she wants in her life. I'm sure that between Mark's emotional availability and Barnetts lack thereof for with her she felt so confused and hurt. She may have taken Mark for granted because she was heart broken but Barnett was the one who helped get her there. Usually you have time to heal from a barnett before a mark comes along... she didn't.
All in all. Sit down and calm down. All of you are taking this way too personally for something that didnt even happen to you.
Well said.
K T this is everything I’ve wanted to say. I also think it might be so popular to hate on Jessica because she is like a symbol of the shame of the moments we’ve been rejected. I don’t understand all these people who can’t have any compassion for a woman who suffered some emotional fallout and messiness when was offered a winning relationship ticket only to have it taken away the next day and then had to go on holiday with her dream guy and the man she cared for but didn’t have that chemistry with. That shit would be hard as fuck
@@sarahjudd9710 have you seen the AMA on Reddit?
Two cast members from the show who didnt make it to the finale or have a lot of screen time even said they thought Mark wasnt portrayed properly and that Jessica got a very bad edit for views. And we eat it up, because society sucks. Shes actually one of my favorites from the show because I think her Journey is the most realistic, wanting something but not knowing how to choose it - getting played in the process, obstacles in the way... or am i the only one that has this kind of love life? Either way, more relateable for me. I'm glad she just chose her and grew and tells everyone this.
As well... apparently Amber and Mark had a thing in the pods and were considering one another..... NONE OF THIS WAS SHOWN.
LIB can bite me, I won't buy their crap lol
AMEN. Perfectly said.
@@sarahjudd9710 I agree, people need to cut Jessica some slack. We all loved to hate her but show would have been a bore without Jessica.
Barnett looks so SAD and MISERABLE!! Poor guy!!
Mamie Smith he does , he looks drained :(
I agree!!!!!
I feel like he’s always looked that way
Amber’s face when Barnett said he didn’t think Jessica was trying to steal him 😂 love them together though.
Sebdcord Um, Jessica is the alcoholic.
Kimberly - lol yes she is, did you see her huge ass wine glasses
Sebdcord the show was filmed a year and a half ago, things might have changed
Sebdcord Sebdcord How is Amber an alcoholic when Jessica is the one drinking almost every day.. Just because Amber didn’t have a job and stuff like that doesn’t mean she is a alcoholic..
@@sebdcord yea that's a hard pass for me even tho she hot
I saw the chemistry between them since day one.
Jissy Hey they aren’t together anymore lol
@@karrihartman4996 for real?
Orion9 for real. He’s dating someone else. Seen it in a love is blind group where he was in it. I looked through his profile and he’s dating some chick from Georgia
Karri Hartman wait what? No way lol
Oh my god!
Didn't like Jessica but she was the only interesting part of the show..
Lies and garbage....Cam and Lauren 🥰
Nah, they were all interesting except Kelly and her bae
@@gisellekateerteatime boring but cute
Never disrespect the Hamilton’s like that ever again
I agree
Weird how Amber's hair looks like Jessica's now
Unconsciously copying her rival. LOL. She knows Jess is better than her. She just got lucky coz Barnett cannot handle a girl like Jess who earns better than him. Weak males would choose cheap females like Amber. They cant handle strong female like Jess.
@@HernilLynn lmaooo what are you talking about. I'm not for putting women down to lift others up. They are both attractive women but Amber definitely looks younger, has a nicer body, and a more likeable personality. He knew nothing about her finances before purposing to her.
In the beginning I thought Matt was a player,but at the end he proves his love for Amber.i love u both.
Jessica made me roll my eyes so many times. I've met girls like her in college but they 18-22. Age really doesn't matter, I guess. She kept talking about like ten year age gap like it was a twenty year age gap. Plus she seems less mature than Mark. Just because you happen to have a good job and have lived longer doesnt make you fully developed and mature as a person.
She kept talking about the age gap because in reality she's 44 years old! That's my beliefs, honestly she looks way older.
Dar Candelaria im only 29 but she did motivate me to keep up with my skin care lol . I feel bad, though. What if she reads all these comments about looking old!?
@@noahsayyummy7661 I know I feel bad for saying but it's possible she lied about her age? You never know! I'm 36 but people have told me I look 30 atleast! I have zero wrinkles.
Dar Candelaria she must have had too much sun exposure or maybe just poor genes idk
@@noahsayyummy7661 humm yeah poor girl can't imagine when she's in her 40's 😦
great interview! ash crossan did a great job balancing the questions between getting to know more behind the scenes content and context with fun funny questions. i love hearing about how they felt they were portrayed. i wish we could see more of them actually living and get to know them.
She talks WAY too much and doesn’t let him get a word in. Almost like she HAS to be center of attention. She was like this on the show too by throwing herself on him and just being REALLY extra🙄 I hope they stay married cuz she will make his life a living hell if not😂
Lol I like them together idk why. His family didn't seem to like her when they met though bcs she is very attention seeking and loud. I kinda think Barnett likes that about her though. It's different from him. Im a talker as well. I usually end up with men who are listeners who tend to prefer that I lead the conversation. Opposites attract.
Ambers smirk everytime Barnett said “friendship” when referring to Jessica 😂💕 love Amber
Amber's smirk will long live. Why? THOTs will be coming for her "man" and challenge her now that their both exposed to the world. #YourManIsNotSafe
I don't think this two where supposed to be married. This guy made a mistake my thoughts
Shannen S hahaha I was cracking up looking at her face lol She hates Jessica 😂
I'm pretty sure she scared that man into not referring to Jessica as anything but that. He probably can't even say that name when not in interviews. 😂
@Lockjaw I thought so too and then Jessica showed us her house and then Barnett's... I think she's better off with someone else. Jessica is a little OCD. But her house is beautiful!
“A lot of growing can be done” the shades amber is thrrrrowing lol
Jessica is so lucky that’s all Amber did 😂
She needs to do some growing too
@@darkgirl222 💯 a whole lot!
I found it weird that they don't look at eachother on the eyes.... Something is truly off with them
Amber just wanted a meal ticket and dove headfirst & jessica was actually thoughtful about the decision.
Pls interview Cameron and Lauren toooooo!!!
Edit: yay they did! 😍
Please 1000x
I love Cameron and Lauren 💖
they were my fave couple!
They did!
They did!
On the show I didn't like Amber, she seemed so braggy and on most of her airtime she only talked about herself. She seemed to over compensate low self esteem. Now she comes across way more reflective, calm and self assured.
I wished the show focused more on the couple's conversations in the pods which was the most interesting part.
Julia Darling Agreed, for a show about falling in love “blind”, they barely showed any of the process and let viewers get attached. Unlike The Circle
@@nil-8026 I'll Google The Circle, thanks for the recommendation. In my opinion sadly most dating shows sacrifice authenticity and the couple's process of having chemistry for dramatic effect. The show could have made a real impact, showing it's viewers, that everyone was essentially looking for the same and carrying around the same wounds, no matter the surface and the preconceptions. I think viewers crave for realness and honest vulnerability, we're sick of a shiny surface and artificial drama. At least I am. Too bad they only put above average looking people on the show. I would have loved a more realistic mix of contestants. The show then could have exposed society's superficiality and the way it's truly harmful to all of us, because it prevents us of being authentic. It could have encouraged more people to open up and be vulnerable..
I feel like they just showed what they wanted of each person and we should have taken it like a grain of salt. Because they showed short clips of amber saying things that made her seem eh... like for me personally I didn't know what to think of her because what they would show of her personality was so inconsistent. They really could have focused more on their goos sides than just throwing it together. At least it seemed like they rushed it and didn't really try to let people see them for them. Although i doubt there was anything they could do for Jessica 😂😂
Doesn’t change the fact she just got married because she was broke lol
I can’t get over the fact that people call him by his last name when “Matt” works just fine. 😂
Because he wants to 🤷🏽♀️
Sharese Hendricks he wants to what?
@@BrokTheLoneWolf he wants to be called that
Barnett’s face: if 🙁😱🤭😟 was a person 😂
Barnett looks like he needs a drink.
I'm glad Amber had her time to speak truthfully without the show overly editing it. I think you can sense in the episodes that she's a genuine person that went through some stuff and the way they portrayed her as a kind of gold digger just didn't quite fit her personality entirely. Now at least i understand her better, and their relationship too.
She literally said her mantra is she doesnt work to live; she lives to work as her mantra for why she hasnt paid off her debt and why she wasnt currently picking up shifts after speaking about her debt. She also gave a different story on her instagram live lol
I think she truly is a gold digger. Barnett looks stressed
I don’t know if I’d classify her as a gold digger but she doesn’t sound overly ambitious career-wise and clearly has poor financial management skills. She admitted on the show that she doesn’t have any motivation to work and wants to be a stay at home which is a *major* red flag. They seem like a great couple together but having her chillax at the house 7 days a week wouldn’t be an option. Money doesn’t fall from trees and somebody will need to cover daily expenses, the mortgage, car/medical insurance and financially support the family unit.
@@johnharper140 Exactly. I heard that she only went to community college. How do you rack up $20,000 in student loan debt from community college that you didn't even finish? Aren't those usually just 2 years? Something's not adding up. I think the real source of that debt is sitting on her chest. I think her goal was to find a sponsor to take care of her.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay-at-home mom, but what exactly is she doing in the meantime? She said she wants to move into a bigger house. She could at least get a job in the time being to pay off her loans and save money for a down payment.
AMBER: "I sleep on my friends couches, I don't pay my bills, I don't work, I don't want to work, and I want to be a stay at home Mom and have babies. BARNETT: "Let get married so I can proved to my family I'm an adult". I just watched the Reunion. These two seem toxic to me. Take away the smiles and look at the body language.
Agree.
It’s a limited portrayal. 1.5 years of marriage later 🤷🏽♀️
She's very overbearing
The only thing she has to offer is her looks. Shes low quality and his family knows that.
No offense, I’m getting *Toxic Relationship* vibes.
Barnett still looks scared of Amber haha
lmfao took the words out of mouth, I think that's a huge part of why he loves her though
@@minamoon4221 i think so too! their relationship just didnt make any sense to me. seems like she just kept him around for the money & to not have to do anything. He needed more.
shay murr 😂😂😂 Right!?
Best line from the finale, she's so happy he said I do because "I didn't want to go to jail"
@@foodbag312 Right, I was like WTH
This Amber girl used to be so extra with all the smiling and screaming. Cringe af.
She seems way better now, even prettier.
Julia Jundi she was just tipsy lol
Never trusted her.
I think she drunk the entire season
Personality wise yeah but the brown hair was a lot nicer than the blonde imo
I agreed she was way too extra. And I was cringing. But I realized that was an act and when she calmed down and stopped “ performing “ for the camera and showed more of herself, I really liked her. I love her after this video.
I think that their personalities compliment each other really well. I wish the best for them
mark was so denial it was obvious jessica didn’t want him, if he focused on someone else from the jump he would’ve found love. he is a good man.
Barnett, blink twice if you’re being held hostage
lmfao
He’s scared of her.
mizzv he said it many times.
🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I didn't like them at first but they grew on me so much. They're so great!
Amber is actually really insecure when it comes to Jessica.
Adel A Very true. I really hated it how she attacked her on the reunion episode even right after she apologized. Like woman get over it.
Nah she just thinks shes a wanker.
Nah, I would have a few things to say too.
@Lockjaw So someone can do all those things to your man, their own man and they can get away with without you saying something about it? Lol okay.
@Lockjaw I mean they are still married almost two years after the show. I don't know what more you want.
So wonderful to see a great high-quality video representing social work!
When she said "being a stay home mom is a goal and not an expectation", I just gained so much respect for her!
It just confused me even more🤷 who chooses to be a stay at home mom for a goal. Thats not a goal..
@@iamsoiexist7192 why not?
laptop laptop why not ? she served as a tank engineer already i believe, and she’s making enough money now to be a stay at home mom 😂
laptop laptop the goal is to be so financially planned that she would be able to do that- it benefits the kids and the parents(peace of mind, bonding). I have smart successful friends who wish they could be in that situation.
laptop laptop maybe you don’t understand other paradigms?
It’s a goal, because children at home with a caring parent usually do better than in daycare. They have less chance of sickness, injury and other.
They have more bonding and more chance of secure attachment style, less chance of mental illness etc.
It is generally hugely beneficial for the child. It’s an absolutely incredible powerful goal. And while it may not win awards and lauded as the pinnacle of success...everything is connected, domino effect. When kids are healthy and connected, society as a whole gets healthier.
As a medical professional, who didn’t stay home with my first...but did with my second, it is profound and impactful and I would do anything to go back and have done it with my first. I couldn’t at the time, as I was young and in school and couldn’t afford to stay at home. It would’ve been far better to have been able to be a stay at home mom for part of that.
Additionally, before working in healthcare, I worked in childcare. Even with the most caring workers...you often get subpar care and attention then if a parent is devoting their time to that child.
Get curious before getting judgmental.
People feel sorry for Mark (and I did too for a bit) until you actually realize He's blessed!
He dodged a BULLET.....OR A POSSIBLE UZI lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ain’t gonna lie ... he dodged a bomb not a bullet...
These two special people deserve each other. Good luck!
Love you guys!
Amber's impersonation of Jessica is spot-on: "I would neverrr!" 5:08
Mark= bug eyes
I'm happy for them, a lot of people doubted their relationship
Oh i still do . You can bet a divorse is going to happen .
Jeanie Snowden *divorce you mean? But nope I don’t think they will.
kimmyw010 she has no ring did you notice that
Jeanie Snowden yup she has no ring might already be divorced
Victor Madrid I think so too! Specially after the closure part. They are probably not together anymore
This two are just amazing❤️❤️
The way the room colors are split makes it look like they’re in two different video calls
R Jensen I can’t unsee it now