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- čas přidán 9. 01. 2021
- In this episode of "Minutes With" we sat down with Jono Lancaster, a 30 year old man who has Treacher Collins Syndrome.
Jono talks about being abandoned as a baby, the bullying he faced as a kid and what it's like dating with a facial disfigurement.
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I wish the best for this dude. Strong dude.
He should start a You tube channel, what a cool and interesting guy! I wish him all the best!
This guy got bullied for this?? Hes not even that different, fk those @$$holes, so hes different, big deal, that doesn't give ppl the excuse to act like pieces of sht
I think he looks cool
this is how modern gospel should be!
‘Both parents were horrified by the child’s appearance’
‘Both parents felt no maternal bond’
Imagine the pain he felt while hearing that. Nah mate, that’s fucked.
They did him a favour. He would have killed himself if he was raised by those filthy people. Imagine the psychological pain they would have put him through. Disgusting people
He's so kind that he still wanted to meet them when he grew up.
@@mitchellhayman381 "i was adopted by an incredible woman named Gene" 100% agreed ! This man talks and speaks like he was raised right.
@@mitchellhayman381 That's true actually.
The fact the parents abandoned him says a lot about what kind of people they are.
All children deserve parents.
Not all parents deserve children.
Amen
Amen
@@noori770 thats what he said
@@noori770 re-read the comment
@@noori770 Pls tell me you're not an idiot
Everybody keeps commenting on his birth parents and almost nobody talking about his adopted mother. Apparently this woman was akin to a saint because she obviously did a fantastic job raising him and giving him a proper perspective on life.
Ya kinda sucks he said life milessstones he owes to his birth parents for giving him life. They’d just as well left him to die in a forest.
It's not being a saint to love a child with a disability. She is an amazing mother, we can all agree on that!
So true.
@@yms4355 Yep, doesn't make you a saint. Especially if it's not your child. And you love it a little bit too much.... Those people are the farthest thing from a saint!!!
He was loved by a loving person. And the man we see talking is a loving person.
Spend 5 minutes with this man and you’ll understand what real beauty is.
You ain't lying
Sooo TRUE !!
That man is gorgeous, inside and out.
today i watched so many vids from this chanell that i am just full of sadness and i could cry until the morning. even ppl that we call normal are not always really normal, if they are laughing and pointing on someone. you are a very sweet beautiful soul, jono. i love you.
Easy to say, but I guarantee not a single women writing a comment like this would ever, in a million years, date him. It's like when women say they want a guy who is funny, sweet and sensitive. But actually date the exact opposite. It's just the kind of thing people say because they think it makes them sound like a good person.
I never understood what ugly means until I heard about this man's parents
@@das0ss23 fortunately nature has a way of fixing humanity's mistakes. Even if none of us live long enough to see the justice.
it is better that they left him to later be adopted by a kind hearted woman, than to keep him and resent him and make him feel unwanted every day.
yep alot of society is toxic af their normal is their insanity
What a BEAUTIFUL comment, it feels GOOD xxxx
You don't know what you would do until you are in that position.
Let’s not draw attention to his birth parents; if anything we need to be applauding his adoptive mother for raising an outstanding man 👏 👏 👏
Yes , lets not judge them for they obviously didnt feel they could cope , but you are so right , The adoptive Mother is one AMAZING WOMAN !!
No, let’s definitely draw attention to his cowardly birth parents. WTH? I think it’s quite easy to do both.
True
We can and should do both
I was thinking people should not have that option to reject the child however I fear his quality of life would have been impacted and I see the silver lining as a person whose parents also rejected them I feel he is owed a conversation, I did not have the challenges he had and that makes me feel in a way guilty for even being mad at any point, if my daughter had this condition I would love the shit outta her so she knows if we don’t have anyone she has me and that may not be enough but I would try my damnedest to make her feel special and loved,
I know we should also focus on the blessing but because of my Experiance it’s really hard to overlook and see someone Experiance the same
It was a blessed that they left him at the hospital. Because they could have hurt him or mistreat him .l am so glad that his adopt parents showed him love and kindness. He is a beautiful person inside out.
What a wonderful young man. His adoptive mom must be so proud.
❤❤❤
"The ultimate thing I want to share with my birth parents is that I am happy I am okay and I am healthy and I hope you are too" Legend!
Their response is part of the problem with our Society. A shame so many feel so selfish, in so many ways.
Bless the woman who adopted him. See gave him more than a home.
SHE*
It would be She not SHE
@@raoulduke8794 ok
yeah
@@Vyshnav-di5me Ok*
Your parents abandoning you and then not wanting to meet you: It’s truly their loss.
Agree !!! He is very special , and his parents cant see it . What a difference !
His parents are not humans but beings with stony heart
YES THEIR LOSS BUT I WAS SEVERELY REJECTED TOO AND IT DOES HAVE AN AFFECT ON O E, BUT THE REJECTION IS THEIR ISSUE - NEVER A BABY OR A CHILD OR WHEN GROWN THEIR ADULT CHILD. I AM 76 NOW AND WAS ALL MY LIFE REACHING OUT FOR WHAT JUST REFUSED TO BE THERE, A MOM, A DAD. ONE EVENTUALLY LEARNS TO LET IT GO FOR ONE'S OWN SELF WORTH. HOW MANY TIMES HAS IT BEEN RECOGNIZED THAT PHYSICAL APPEARANCE IS SO OFTEN SHALLOW IN COMPARISON TO A PERSONS SOUL/HEART QUALITIES. AT FIRST GLANCE PHYSICAL IMPERFECTIONS CAN STAND OUT BUT IN JUST A FEW MOMENTS TALKING WITH THAT PERSON THE IMPERFECTIONS LIKE VANISH I. LIGHT OF THEIR WONDERFUL AND GENUINE CHARA TER AND SOUL, DEPTH ... IT IS AS THOUGH ONE NO LONGER SEES ANY PHYSICAL IMPERFECTION. I KNOW BECAUSE I WAS A PARALEGAL AND O CE WORKED FOR A VERY INTELLIGENT PATENT ATTORNEY IN THE USA. THE MOMENT I MET HIM TO HAND HIM MY RESUME, HE LOOKED UP AT ME HAVING SEVERE SCARS ALL OVER HIS FACE. I DID WONDER WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM. BUT AFTER A SHORT CONVERSATION I WAS MET WITH SUCH AN AMAZING KINDNESS, GRACE, AND EVERY ASSORTMENT AND IMAGINABLE HIGH QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT TO THIS DAY IT IS STILL ENDLESS TO RELATE !!! HE WAS EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT HAVING 2 SEPARATE ENGINEERING DEGREES, HE WAS A GREAT ARTIST, WAS A LINGUIST (7 - 8 LANGUAGES), A LAW DEGREE PLUS IN AMERICA ONE HAS TO PASS THE INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY AND TRADEMARK EXAM TO PRACTICE PATENT LAW IN THAT COURT. THE MAN WAS JUST THE MOST PLEASANT HUMAN I BELIEVE I HAVE EVER KNOWN. HE MARRIED HIS PREVIOUS PARALEGAL AND HAD 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDRE. AND WAS A WONDERFUL HUSBAND AND FATHER. HE TOO WAS INSPIRING.
very common, happened to myself.
Sounds like the best decision they could make for him. Maybe they did not have the introspection to know they were not equipped/qualified/intelligent/patient enough to raise this boy and left room for someone apparently incredible to raise him.
I cried my eyes out watching this. What a a man of strength. God bless you, today and always.
He still doesnt get love and affection from any woman besides the few months with the one called beth. All of you with your big word and yet you are not able to love someone like this.
@@WHOTHAFUCK Actually he dated a woman called Laura for ten years! Unfortunately they broke up though because they weren't growing together as a couple.
But you're right that some people would say they wouldn't care about how someone looks and date them anyway, but in reality they wouldn't. Thankfully there's also people who actually can get over how someone looks if they're a good person on the inside. Looks aren't the most important thing in a relationship anyways
@@WHOTHAFUCK when i date a man, i more watch his gestures, his personality, his words, his behavior, his sweet heart, his intelligence and our converations, his style and his laugh. these are things which make me to call a man sexy and beautiful. so, i would love to date him. not all woman are the same and not all men are. this makes the world to a better place.
4:30 when he said "i never wanted to take my own life, but i wanted to be in a car accident" it hit me like a bunch of bricks. this man and i may have had entirely different life experiences but speaking as someone who has dealt with mental health issues his entire life, i fully understand that feeling. not wanting to attempt but wanting something accidental or sudden to happen to take your life. i can't even begin to imagine how he felt during this period of his life but it brings hope to myself seeing somebody openly express these feelings, overcome the dark thoughts and thrive regardless. this man is beautiful, inside and out, and i truly hope the absolute best for him in his life.
Not wanting to die but not caring if it happened anyway. I know that feeling. Its what made me seek help with my depression. It was a real wakeup call.
totally agree and a lovely comment!
The only ugly people I see are his parents.Their loss .
Don't judge them. If they didn't abandom him he wouldn't be the strong minded beautiful inspirational human being you see right now. The man is beacon of light and hope and I swear to God he is beautiful inside and out and very special.
Look your speaking out of your current perception. You need to have the ability of empathy and imagination. Maybe his parents were what were your saying or maybe something else went on of which you had no knowledge.
It's sad how talk cheap is when you refuse to stand in the shoes of the person you judge.
Fact is you don't know. Time is timed perfectly by the hand of destiny. He's the best version of himself NOW. Don't expect most people to understand and that's ok.
@A R T Don't judge them are you lost?? They abandoned their child because he didn't look 'normal' that's fucking disgusting! have a word with yourself.
Absolutely despicable imo
@@199compound i'm actually curious why you think like that in this situation. Thats like the equivalent of reading about Hitler killing a lot of people and saying "its not okay to talk shit about him".
@@199compound either you're dumb asf or you're trying too hard to be positive imo. Interesting comment though
The kindest people are the one's who've been hurt the most because they don't want you to ever feel like they did.
Same with monsters
AMEN, WELL SAID . - THEY LOOK FOR WAS TO COMFORT AND UPLIFT OTHERS -
All too true!
To paraphrase Robin Williams: I am driven to make people laugh because I don’t want them to ever feel like a p.o.s. like I do!
Truth!!
I believe that from the bottom of my ❤️.
Its really strange, but from the moment he opened his mouth, the timbre of his voice just exuded a warmth, depth, intelligence and humanity. Quite an exceptional young man, and I reckon we all wish him health and happiness. Whilst troubling in its' context, this is truly an uplifting video. Thanks for producing and thanks for posting. I'm going to show it to my young kids as a shining example of what REALLY counts in life!
In a way, his biological parents did him a favour by abandoning him - imagine how those toxic people would have treated him! He is so precious, and thank god he is nothing like his bio parents.
BooooOOOOM Jackpot,Exactly!!
Good thing they weren’t stupid enough to keep him only to neglect him and hate him unlike a bunch of parents who keep their kids when they don’t even want them instead of put them up for adoption. Seriously if you don’t want to be a parent then DON’T be a parent. Better to simply put the kid up for adoption with a high chance of a loving family wanting to take them in instead of being raised by horrible, neglectful biological parents.
She leaned in and kissed me... "I went from feeling ugly to thinkin I am like the sexiest guy in the world" . Honestly made my heart skip a beat. Everyone deserves to find someone that lifts them up like that and it is awesome that he found that for himself.
TOTALLY!!! I’m very normal
looking & may I say pretty .... 47 years old and Cannot find that.... 😢😢☹️😞
@@mcveljo Put yourself out there, give yourself exposure. That’s the only way to meet people.
His confidence is admirable, what a top chap.
@@greatcesari Sometimes easier said than done, unfortunately. Especially nowadays
no one deserves it...some get it, some don't
His parents leaving him was such a gift. Would have been horrible to be raised and by unloving people.
Yes, he was very lucky that he was raised by that other woman
Yes! I thought of that too! They are horrible human beings!
He’s such a lovely person.
Even ones who are raised by horrible people turn out to be great people it’s all about how you treat others can’t be a bad person an hope for a good lifestyle people will use you if you got a good heart nobody cherishes good people anymore they try to use them.
Try being abandoned by your parents before you call it a gift, Mary.
@@Nautilus1972 well said
i remember meeting him at a summit for foster children because i’m a child in care myself and he is honestly one of the most down to earth and remarkable human being i’ve ever met.
Such a beautifil soul, being able to still forgive and understand your parents despite your right to be angry. I love hearing that you love your face in the end. Stay blessed and awesome!
F his parents. They don't deserve forgiveness.
Thanks for commenting ☺️
And this ladies and gentlemen, is what a beautiful person looks like.
Aww lovely
And the people said, “Amen”.
A wonderful human being like the rest of us for sure, but beautiful?..now you’re just being patronising and he doesn’t need it, you’re just after likes.
He's not - that's the point. He is good and kind DESPITE his appearance.
Jono, if you are reading these comments, the appearance of the women in my life have ranged from model to disfigured. They have also ranged from White, Latino, to African. I'm sure that if you haven't already met a woman who judges you by your character, you will. Most of the women in my life have accepted the damage I took from almost being killed by a drunk driver in an attempted hit and run....
When he talked about girls daring other girls to ask him out is absolutely heart wrenching.
Coming from a position where I was bullied for a lot less, having been in the same situation with girls, i know how he felt at that time. It's terrible, it makes you feel like your entire existence is nothing but a joke for others.
@@robert9595 I feel that. It makes you feel like you shouldn't exist. That life is wasted on you.
That used to happen to me too. I once got a whole love letter from a boy just taking the piss. Feels like shit
Experienced that before as well from a girl I had a crush on and had recently confessed to and got rejected. I was so confused while all of a sudden she was asking me out after she had already said no. It wasn't a prank towards me specifically but it still hurt a bit. She had lost a bet with her friends and had to ask out everyone that said hi to her.
@@robert9595 damn i always got the im ugly from people until i carried myself better
Jean is his real mother not the woman who abandoned him! This guy deserves the best life has to offer and is so brave for sharing his story. Thank You 😊😊
I'd be friends with this guy he seems chill AF. Probably has good taste in music
Its interesting how the more he talked the less i even noticed his appearance. Like hes such a warm, grounded, cool person
He is a cool guy
The same here. I just started to see him as him.
I noticed the exact same thing too
So true !
The more he talked the more I saw his appearance and accepted him for his character and appearance.
Being blind to his appearance isn't the goal, I hear you all though.
I hope his biological parents see this and understand what monsters they are.
My thoughts exactly!
@@jdsguam worst part is it's an inherited condition. I wonder how many other babies they did this to.
I think his life was better with his adoptive mother.
@@ethanb4461 its not necessarily inherited though in more than half all cases it’s a new mutation.
@@nomadicbehemoth2830 either way I pray they didn't try again.
Nothing affects me anymore. Sometimes I feel like ice has frozen my heart. But this has touched me in a way I haven’t felt in years. There is so much I could learn from this man and I’m so grateful this interview exists
Ice melts
only if the ice melts, beauty has the chance to be seen and experienced. i always refused to close my heart. with a frozen heart you cannot live life to the fullest. so i take the pain for the beauty and get wiser from the pain and the beauty nourishes me. you can just win if you see life in this perspective. instead of closing your heart a lifetime, love yourself. if you love yourself, your heart is open for love from the outside. i mean there is nothing better than love.
I can see the strength in his eyes and hear the truths in his tone. His confidence is an inspiration.
Thanks for sharing.
Most of us would be lucky to have this kind man in our lives.
Thank you for this comment. Truth.
That's so true.
marry him
Most definitely!! I wish more men would be like him.
@@sisis_eyes_wide_open some of us were until certain types of women messed us up, society etc.. but yes hes an inspiration of self love/healing
I am a 49 year old man and I am a man's man. When he talked about the girl he liked, I could hear my tears hitting the sheet on my bed. He is special and he is a man most of us will never be.
You're absolutely right. He is truly special. Quite remarkable actually.
It takes courage to cry.
@@Melissab704 I had no choice in it. Hehe it just ran out like a river as calmly as can be. Made me think of the women I took advantage of in my youth like it was nothing to me.
Amen🙏💜❤️♥️💕
Even admitting that is an awesome display of being a man, kudos to you as well👍😊
I been bullied, talked about, teased, mistreated, picked on, I even had women tell me before I said a word to them, “Don’t even think about liking me, it’s not happening.” So I know how it feels when people don’t like your face. I’m happy he didn’t let that stop him. He moved on with his life. Amen.
He has a strange beauty about him. You can tell he is kind and pure of heart. He will make a great boyfriend/husband.
Don't patronize him.
I think you are so right. I could listen to him talk for ages!
He just needs to shower, respect waymen and drink water
It's his spirit
He is beautiful💗
I had a son w/treacher Collins. I was just 21 and I loved my son, because he was mine. Sadly, his condition also included breathing problems. I lost my son on May 5th, 1993. He was just 20 days old. My husband and I had decided the night before he passed that we would not have any other children so we could dedicate ourselves to him. Our son, Kevin, would have turned 28 yrs old this year. Not a day goes by that I don’t miss him. My heart broke as I heard this story but am very proud of his endurance. Wish I could give him a strong hug. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss.
❤️
So sorry ❤️, that honestly made me cry for a good minute, I’ve got Treacher Collins Syndrome & I’ve loved to have my own child but I am terrified of what could happen.
Bless ye lass.
Your beautiful son..May he rest in peace 💜💜💜
This man is totally amazing. We all need to take a lesson from him.
It's very rare to find ANYONE as emotionally tough as him with a forgiving heart and no ill wishes for people that have hurt him the most.
This man is a fucking ace. We need more men like him.
Seriously. This man is what I hope to achieve in my lifetime. Been through so much and is like this. Heart of gold.
What kind of people would give a thumbs-down to this video? Bizarre…
He is a true champion in every sense of the word.
You got so called men bitching about the tiniest shit and then you have alphas like this dude.
the people who have lived with pain have lost their Ego, the greed of validation. I fucking love these people, fuck the fakes.
A moment for Beth who boosted this guys morale and change his life in a positive way.
Beth seemed sweet, and it seems like they’re still friends at least
People like Beth are the reason the world goes round. Blessings to her.
this guy can teach us SO MANY THINGS. I am so amazed by his reaction and feelings.
When I was five years old my mother accidentally ran me over with a riding mower (allegedly). All of the damage was received by my left leg my heel was amputated and severe damage to lower left leg. The doctor's advice was below the knee amputation. As you could imagine my parents did not want this for their child and opted for reconstructive surgery in an attempt to preserve as much of their child as possible. Now no longer having a heel presented a bit of an issue so the solution was to remove what muscles were left on my leg and diy it into makeshift heel bone and skin graft it into place. So after recovering from the hospital I was enrolled into the public education machine and thrown into the wolves of kindergarten. My left leg was a few inches shorter than the right and to counter this situation they would manufacturer a platform onto my left shoe. You could imagine it kinda like the platform disco shoes that were once po topular only I was wearing only one. You may be surprised to find out that my classmates noticed. So the first question I would get was "what happened" so I would have tell this story over and over every time I met a student from school and their was a lot of them adding another straw on my self-esteem camel's back. You also may be surprised that my fellow students wasn't very sensitive when it came to this. I'm sure you're surprised about this behavior from children attending public school. This one incident I will never forget as it's been burned permanently into my memory. We were at lunch and the cafeteria was completely full of students and as I was walking to find a table with my lunch tray one of the kids said "limp, limp, limp" and soon the entire cafeteria was chanting "limp, limp, limp" despite my one sweet disco shoe kids didn't seem to want to be my friend so I had no destination I basically was just looking for an open seat next to someone less likely to pick on me. These encounters have such an impact on who you are and how you're developed and causes such irreparable damage and can lead one vulnerable to many unhealthy behavior's in order to cope. So these have life long affects. What's kind of ironic is that when your heel is made out of your calve muscles it leads to complications and as they became more serious when I turned 18 I elected to have my leg amputated below the knee. This decision improved my life so much both physically and mentally. In fact most people don't even realize that I have a prosthetic until I tell them. Had my parents agreed with the doctor's recommendation I may have been spared a lot of pain. Now I'm 40 and happily married with two children. Unfortunately I'm currently unemployed I developed substance abuse and I'm focusing on recovery for my family. As hard as it's been I'm feeling optimistic and soon will be back on my feet, well foot.
Dad refused to wear his shoe because he felt like Frankenstein wearing them. One leg was 6 inches shorter .as a child I overheard him talking about it.
His childhood was mostly in a hospital having surgeries. I heard it was TB of the bone, I also heard he turned over while riding a tricycle and a stick stuck in his leg which set up infection. So I am not sure of the facts of his childhood trauma. But he worked and was raising 5 kids when at age 36 he was murdered.
I look forward to seeing him in the resurrection.
Best wishes for you mate, here’s to overcoming your hurdles
This is what a real man look like kids. A real man deals with whatever life gives him.
Yes mate.
Couldn’t be more right. He doesn’t give himself excuses. He doesn’t play the victim card. He deals with the hand god dealt him.
AMEN
Exactly. We gotta do what we gotta do goddamnit
100%
The more I look at him, the more I realize how normal he actually is.
@5th Amendment I really doubt this person thought he was an alien... They are just making a point about prejudice and how easy it is for us to judge.
Bro this sounds weird but you and me look almost Identical.. I saw your pfp and for a sec thought it was me... there’s videos of me on my page if you wanna see lol
I was just getting ready to say the exact same thing your a wonderful person
No matter what anyone says, this world really is obsessed with image and people like this dude know it because of the the way he was treated. I'm glad he found good people with kind hearts who supported him.
He has more grace and strength than his birth parents ever possessed. He is amazing and attractive with his facial differences. Being able to change his perspective of himself shows his emotional intelligence his birth parents never possessed. I'm sure his adoptive mother can take so much credit for providing him the nurture he needed. He has a real important message to deliver on acceptance. I am so glad he loves his face. I do too! ❤
Ugly? This man is Beautiful.
♡
Stop fishing for likes
@@nash06 stop hating
@@nash06 the man is actually beautiful, the way he speaks and carries himself.
Right? He’s got the most pure soul 🥺🥺.
He's honestly handsome. He puts himself together really well
@BlackSoul98 you you have to be a stereotypical "edgy" eyeliner "I don't care what you think" 20 year old douchbag?
@BlackSoul98 shhhh
@BlackSoul98 You need a KO... lol
Those were my 1st thoughts honestly
This story made a grown man cry. What a good guy is Jono.
What a beautiful soul. My goodness.
He isn't ugly at all, he genuinely looks incredibly handsome
He legit looks better than a lot of totally normal people lol
@@joemartinez8105 He is normal.
yeah no, stop virtue signalling
@@egg-iu3fe virtue signalling?!?!?!? Bro i aint trying to look like a good guy all im saying is the dude looks just fine he aint ugly one bit
@@justsomeguywitharedeyes3472 Aw well.
He doesn't need pity, he needs respect. He's an inspiration and I find his story very relatable.
Agree with the pity versus respect bit 100% I don't feel bad for him because he has to struggle, I respect him for what he's been able to do, he hasn't let his struggles define him and that shows an immense amount of strength.
What if, they are respecting you out of pity?
Yes please tell me what he needs. You seem like a reliable source for personal information from another person.
Well, he certainly has my respect.
That was one powerful story.
@@cupcakemcsparklebutt9051 that's not how respect works
This is a real Alpha Male. This is a real role model for boys and young men. He doesn’t need to show off and shout ‘I’m an alpha male’ unlike other men on here. What a brilliant intelligent interesting warm and lovely kind guy, I admire him so much ❤
As cruel as his bio parents and looky loos can be; EVERYONE in this comment section has nothing but amazing positive heartfelt things to say. I hope he reads through these if he ever feels down on humanity as this here shows there is still a lot of great people out there in his corner. Your story moved me just as it has to everyone else here. Stay strong and stay blessed.
Within a minute, his personality has made such an impact that his appearance doesn't matter at all.
World needs more people like you dude
Great explanation. I felt the same way but didn’t realize until I read your comment
So true.
took the words from my mouth, i feel exactly the same
You really worded it perfectly.
It's so unfortunate that the most humble and inspiring people are always those who have suffered the most. He seems like such an amazing man. I would love to just sit and talk with him to hear more of his story.
Those two things are intimately connected
@Maurits it does
Why make peoples lives worse when you know how it is to be on the ground, people who’ve never experienced tragedies lack empathy
how? this is inspiring? why though? just think for a second and reconsider why this person is anything. He's currently getting loads of attention and love and adoration because of only his condition. he's had a fine life, he was just bullied and alienated, lots of people have the same but no real reason behind it. youre blind.
@@santioliva Your comment genuinely made me upset. It's sad that you can't see the bigger picture.
I hope Jono reads these comments. He'll know we all love him !
I just love him. He’s so calm, charismatic and wise and has more honesty and insight than 99% of this population. The more you look at him the more beautiful he gets.
I agree. As I was intently listening to him, I can honestly say the deformity just went away and I didn't see it anymore. In spite of his trials, he is a terrific young man and an inspiration to me and many others. Best wishes to him for a long, fruitful life!
i agree
I'd take him over some concieted "Hollywood type" anyday.
Stop lying.
I love how the two people in the comments trying to start an argument get no attention but me talking about them
I hope his birth parents see this video and see how much more beautiful this man is than they’ll ever be. What an awesome dude
if they will be able to understand that
Nothing wrong with his parents. They were just exhibiting evolutionary instincts. We can't expect everyone to rise up to the challenge.
@@Miquelalalaa whats the use of them breeding then? Still a sinful decesion. If you believe in God, the Bible said, *_Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him._* *Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.*
I think they still turn a blind eye because they are deeply ashamed of the hurt and pain they've caused him and they can't face the idea of how terrible they have been as human beings. That's what I think.
@@snuckle2421 God concepts are totally irrelevant. Made up stories have no bearing here.
I would like to be friends with this guy. He seems so chill and definitely inspires me to be strong no matter what kind of person I am
The face is a thing for about 5 seconds. The moment you hear the guy speak, you forget the face and see what the ACTUAL beauty is. This person is well educated, well spoken, has a good head, and an even better heart.
The words he chooses, the subjects he touches, his general demeanor is indicative of an individual who has progressed past the trauma and allowed himself to enjoy life as it is. We may get dealt a shitty hand but by God, this man is raking it all at the table.
Well done. All the best, Jono.
Yes!!
As a father, I cannot even comprehend leaving my child in the hospital regardless of disabilities. In fact, if my child was born with a disability I think that would’ve reinforced my protective and paternal instinct.
Likewise ...
My parents, especially my --- recently deceased --- mum, was terrible towards my younger, severely disabled, sister, and my self. The fact that I have never grown past 5'2" must have severely disappointed her ...
Yet, despite, or because, of both the abuse (including sexually, by our biological dad, a fact which mum tried to cover up right up past the point he pled guilty, and was sentenced to prison for nine years ...), I have an absolute, borderline ferocious, instinct of protecting my sister, part because of what I saw, part because of the guilt that that 14-21 year old me bares for not doing enough for her, and part because I don't ever want history to repeat itself ...
Currently I am not in a good place mentally, but that pales in comparison to what I see as the injustices in my mum's will towards my sister. Sadly, I am not an Executor, but I will go to court, if necessary, to ensure my sister's rights are protected, by me ...
Hence, even though she is my sister, there is far more of a paternal instinct I have, and always will, for reasons I can't explain, as I don't know ... but I know is there, and what makes me utterly believe you, in your words ...
"Good men don't need any rules. Today is not the day to find out why I have so many ..." :- Dr. Who
"These three a Wise Man fears:
A storm at sea;
A night without a moon;
And the Anger of a Quiet Man"
I want you to know you're a very strong person and should be proud of the kindness and also the resilience you have.
U can't judge anyone
So true mate...
@@gaisai5429 Why not?
Seems like a very insightful and intelligent dude, glad he's around.
@Coi Pansat It's not rare. It's just people don't use it.
Coi Pansat That’s Lowkey disrespectful
@Coi Pansat Intelligent people don't judge others
@Coi Pansat Then you have just proved my point to be very unintelligent. I guess Elon Musk doesn't know what he's talking about because he loves anime. Very nice, Panshat.
This man gets my respect... I wish him all the best.
Wow. Listening to this man's account has really worked to put my own life's problems into perspective. What I'm going through is NOTHING compared to what he has had to endure. I'm so grateful that I've stumbled upon this video, and I'll be sure to revisit it when I'm worried over the trivialities of my own life. Thank you so much!
Brandon
While you’re good for having compassion for him, don’t forget your own struggles dude. Everyone has problems and they’re not to be dismissed easily. Rich people get depression, homeless people think the world came together having a safe and warm place to sleep for one night. I get the comparison though, all I’m saying is your struggles are valid. Only time they aren’t is if you complain with no real effort to try and get better.
I can understand people taking a second look it's something that just happens when you're suprised or shocked on something but I never understood people legit going out of their way to make fun of someone especially in front of them. It's hard to understand why people are like that. Hearing him talk about how he won't ever find love or have a family because of how he looks was sad. I think quite a few of us get those kind of feelings maybe not because of this look mines more of not being out going and a lame personality lol. Loved his date story though Really cool you don't find too many ladies who are that open
Watch the documentary. He’s found the love of his life now. She’s gorgeous and sweet, and she loves him and is very dedicated to him.
I think he looks like a rock star. And you know what, he IS a rock star with his personality and attitude.
He does have a something-something about him......
As a mother, I truly cannot understand how anyone could reject their child, regardless of their appearance. I just don't get it.
And then that they could do it *again* 25 years later, that just ripped my heart out :(
I feel like he probably had a better mother in his foster mom than that loser of a birth mother he was born to.
Evil people
Awful, I can't imagine, I'd love my children no matter what, true unconditional love. So upsetting, I am sorry for the experience you had to go through with your birth parents, but God bless your mother who adopted you!!
I often find that people who are viewed as “ugly” by society are some of the kindest individuals. Facing adversity due to their physical appearance yet still finding love and meaning in the world. Nothing but respect from me!
“Both parents felt no maternal bond and left 36 hours later without the child” he’s better off without them.
You and I both know these "parents" will get whats theirs one way or another. If you are rotten enough to behave like that, its only a matter of time.
I feel bad for any other children they likely have
@Heloise O'Byrne how can you even defend that? No time to bond? She carried a child for 9 months! Those parents are disgusting. They need to be castrated !
I believe that this worked out better because he got to grow up in a loving environment instead of with those who would resent him. Their loss, his gain.
@Heloise O'Byrne it’s unfortunate, but many people shouldn’t be parents. Better if they acknowledge this instead of putting their child through psychological hell. We don’t even know if he’d be around still if he ended up living with them.
Man this guy just humbled the fuck out of me. You are a legend mate.
same here
Bruh same here. I honestly want to have a words with his a....hole parents.
Same bro
Completely agree, absolute legend!
I want to hang out with this guy!
Seems like such a genuinely kind hearted man. I'd be honored to be his friend.
This man has an admirable, incredible spirit. God bless him and the
wonderful woman that saw the true value of an innocent child. The
world needs more people like Jono. Wow, he's amazing!
Dude is more real than most people, fuck the fakes. Mad props for being honest, we need more honesty.
I fucking hate people with fragile Egos, they are so fucking annoying. Next time I see someone acting I will just say it out loud...These people act like someone else with different people, I even got friends who do that. Fuck the fakes. It seems to be even more common these days
@@prozac5314 couldn't have said it better myself
eh, I don’t know, everyone has ego. I value authenticity so much that I recognize how difficult it is for myself to be committed to that value.
If I’m being authentic whilst being completely honest with myself and reflecting on my actions, I’ll come to find there are certain things I should change. But that change honestly only happens probably 20% of the time.
Gonna defend our constitution in months and years to come? The blatant tyranny that goes unchecked in America is abominable.
newest bear .....no one was talking about politics?
I can't imagine turning away from my baby for any reason. What horrible monsters. They should feel eternal shame for what they did.
I know right!! I could never!!
They will 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Not parent material, they didn’t deserve him.
I must be in dark days because I want them to hurt as much as they hurt him. Twice! They obviously never grew as humans over the years. Very bad people!
Abortion is evil, harassment is evil, yet you judge people for giving kid for adoption. Please shut up.
I cannot express how grateful I am to have randomly stumbled across this video- I lost my right eye due to severe mental health issues around 5 years ago … at the time it happened, I didn’t care less as I was so unwell I didn’t even really acknowledge what had happened, but once I started working on myself and my issues and became aware of what happened fully, it then severely impacted my life and my confidence and I wear sunglasses even when just sat talking to my family (who have NEVER judged me for what happened and compliment my appearance every time I get very self conscious!- I’m so heartbroken his parents couldn’t accept him but also overjoyed his adoptive mum gave him all the love and support he deserves 💚)
When he said about pulling his eyes up in the mirror, I became OBSESSED with doing this as I felt my eye ‘drooped’ (even though after consulting the surgeon who did the initial amputation and him measuring it and saying it’s pretty much still symmetrical and I do NOT need surgery!) I still could NOT accept the way I look now over a minor flaw- this video has really put things in to perspective for me and I think Jono is GENUINELY attractive inside and out! It’s so reassuring to know he is in a stage of life now where he is comfortable and loves his appearance, which is all I’ve ever wanted to feel since my incident and from today onwards I’m going to ditch the sunglasses and embrace my uniqueness with my false eye! 💚💚
Thank you so so much for sharing as I truly feel this video will change my life xxx
@@ponkoadamfo997 it is my picture- thank you so much for your kind words 😊💚xx
I’ve got nothing to say except: what a fantastic person he is!
This guy's a true prince, both inside and out. Pure class and courage
Unlike his parents
I was born with this syndrome too, and honestly I'm really grateful to have stumbled across this video! 🙏🏻 This story breathes so much love, positivity and respect, and I feel truly inspired. I'm 20, my face is less affected by this malformation, I've been through ~10 surgeries, and haven't been rejected at all, but yet I do relate to some situations and feelings he opened up about. Watching this has made my day. Jono, if you read this, you are a superhero, keep moving forward! ✨ Love from France 🇨🇵
I have a question, if you wouldn't mind.
Does Treacher-Collins Syndrome affect your senses or ability to physically walk or run?
Thank you for your time.
@@Charidemusify As far as I know, usually it doesn't prevent from walking or running, but I think people who've had it worse can have difficulties for that. At least for the majority, no, it's not a regular thing.
As for the senses, most are fine except hearing, since TC always touches the ears. Personally my ears look almost regular but I'm hard of hearing. Some kids don't have the chance to have ears at all.
I hope I answered your question properly :)
From Illinois you have my good vibes and prayers in my heart today 🤗🤗🤗
@@alanyde I apologise for the late reply. Thank you for your insight. Be well and take care:)
Mon ami priere a St.Margaruite de cortona...Elle est abondoner par ses parents parce ce que de ces infirmaries.
Pray to St.Margaret of Cortona he parents abondonded her due to her infirmities.
You are the purest form of light! Thank you for being you! I wish you nothing but peace and happiness.
I really loved the way Jono told the budding love story with Beth. He's real good at conveying feelings into expressive words. He'd be a good poet if not already.
I can't imagine having a child, abandoning them, and knowing they're existing in this cold world. That's insane.
Exactly.
And then rejecting him again when he reached out...that's just cruel.
@Gothboy Kurt - I knew a young girl with Treacher-Collins whose face was severely effected; she literally looked like a deer with a small mouth and practically non-existent jaw that thrust forward, no cheekbones, severe ear deformities, deafness, and non-verbal. She was removed from her parents because of neglect. She had been fed only applesauce (bad for her development). She never went to school or left the house. Now she was in school and although badly delayed from the neglect and lousy nutrition, her teacher thought that she would catch up eventually. She got a hearing aide and began to learn sign language Her nutrition was addressed. She was trached and a long term plan formulated for facial reconstruction. Best of all, like Mr Lancaster, she was adopted by a loving woman! I think of her often and hope she is well and happy.
I found my two sisters and brother on facebook 46 years after I was adopted by my mother, at this moment the two sisters have me blocked, one sister because I disagreed about criticizing our drug addict mother, and the other one I have no idea why.
They just werent up for the task. Maybe having a child was too difficult in the first place and when the child was not 'normal' it got way too real and hard for them. One thing the biological parents did wrong was not wishing he the best of luck in life and you know overall kindness towards him later when he reached them. They could have said that they weren't ready and its their fault and not his.
BOY, does this man knows how to tell a story. He should be a writer
He’s a motivational speaker
Yes
Indeed, he is
@Alex Jwhat? elaborate please
@Alex J wow! I would never think that someone could understand my comment like that. I was praising his ability to tell his story in a engaging and moving way. I guess that that the way people internalize the things that others say , says a lot about the kind of person they are. But then again u are probably just a kid. So I don't blame you if u didn't understand what I meant
What an angel his adoptive mother is!
And this man is what gratitude and thankfulness looks like.
I’m glad someone showed him that he is just as normal as all of us.
Not quite JUST as normal.
I would argue that he is not normal, but that his abnormality adds to who he is. Doesn't take away from it. He has a strength because of this adversity that is unrivaled by most and when he finds love he will know it is real.
Nobody is 'normal'.
@@MrSimpsonSimpson was gonna say this haha this man is more normal than some people I know lmao, he seems very polite and well managed, he knows what's wrong with him and he has came to normality with it but yeah I agree nobody is normal.
@@Mtb-cp6gz You dirty old man.
I can't believe parents would actually do that to their own child. Their loss, this guy's awesome.
I think he is cool.
fing is , its not just their loss. they caused life long damage to their child whilst those two twats just got on with their lives like nothing happened
@@starfox1 What’s the purpose of typing with an accent? Lmfao.
@@freebandzjin huh ? what do you mean ?
@@freebandzjin what bc he said “fing” ???
Such a beautiful man. His outlook on life and existence is so wise and inspiring. I pray to be like him one day. Honestly, I might be his biggest fan.
My guess is that his parents are utterly ashamed of how shallow and selfish they are. Facing the child they abandoned would painfully reflect there own ugliness.
For him, he's a top boy. I hope his parents face up to their responsibilities some day and he gets to meet any brothers or sisters he may have.
I have two theories: either they are soullessly narcissistic and they can only accept the "perfect" or they freaked out in the hospital, did a very selfish thing and now have such heavy guilt they are unable to face it ever. With every passing day that guilt could only get heavier. Their only choice is to pretend this thing never happened.
@@drrodopszin Just like in Joe Dirt
After having all those years to reflect on what they did when Jono Lancaster was born, it's excruciating that they're STILL denying him the love he deserves to have had from his bio parents. I'm sure he's thankful to the moon for all his adoptive parents have done for him - and those two certainly deserve to have been graced by the magically beautiful Jono for his entire life - but it goes without saying that he was unnecessarily forced to endure the bio-parent's fear and dysfunction. So much fear and dysfunction that they couldn't see how much improved their own lives could have been with him in it. But I don't suspect they'll ever come around if they haven't already. Pity.
But my guess is that even Jono has compassion for the pain that *must* exist in the bio-parent's lives. They couldn't POSSIBLY have lived happy, fulfilled lives full of love. That - in itself - is tragic. At least Jono has the joy and drive within himself (much to the credit of his adoptive parents) to learn how to navigate this weird and challenging planet and be a fantastic human being, full of love, bravery, curiosity, humility, intellect, self-confidence, understanding, courage, compassion... all things those original two people have -sadly- probably never known.
Like you, Mark, I hope that someday he will indeed be able to meet any bio-relatives, and that they're far more like Jono than Jono's parents.
That all depends if the parents even told them about him.
@@youthecatlove of a parent is neither here nor there. Some people think that “a roof over your head and clothes on your back and having food” is love. Like a bare bones answer. Love is more than that ; and many people will never understand what it means
Guy's so well put together, hair, beard, clothes, tats, his whole overall style is rather impressive. Sad children are so shitty about anyone different. Clearly looks like a winner!
yea man. the guy looks like a winner
The World is rising to higher vibrations of Love!
isn’t this proof that parenting isn’t any good? kids should be taught not to judge, or at least an attempt made
I was thinking the same think when I saw your comment.
Not all children are assholes, it's not a children thing, 80% of people are though, regardless of age and race I blame social media. And selective media coverage, and social pressure.
Well, damn dude. You’re an incredible inspiration. Abandoned by birth parents and grew up with all sorts of challenges, yet here you are with the most badass sense of style, looking fit, sharp as a tack, sweet tats, etc. You’re a f*cking legend my guy. Wish I was half as cool as you.
Same!
Bravo!
Same! That is one cool freakin' dude!
Nice and worthy words dude. That shows u care
Right on the money, neighbor! My Fiancee' and I were bullied and sniveled early on. Our sandboxes were relatively QUIET, so we get it..
Been nice to have a friend like Jono and you as well!) Stay up, GENTS!! Chow!
Honestly, if I would meet this guy, I would go out with him. I get such a good, sweet, mature and loving vibe of him! 😍
I would too. He's very well spoken and seems kind. I like his hair too.
Okay? Keep your opinions to yourself, weird minority.
@@dt564 What about his vacuum face? Does that also turn you on, you contrarian?
As a 53 year old man, truly I found inspiration from Mr. Lancaster's testimony, and learned something today. Thank you for that,
Ravi Peiris M.D.
By the end of the video, his face legitimately looked normal to me. After hearing him speak, listening to his story, learning about his struggles, and feeling his emotions it completely humanized him to the point that his face simply looked different, no longer deformed. All that happened in 12 minutes.
Exactly dude
I felt the same way
Same
Goes to show how when we take the time to get to know the person, rather than just look at the exterior, how much it can change our perspective for the better.
Just one conversation, just listening for 12 minutes, can make all the difference.
That was super interesting how his Treacher Collins syndrome practically disappeared after looking at him for five minutes.
That his parents left him is actually a good thing, this way he could be found by the woman that raised him to be this absolute legend. The fact that he came to terms with it in this way and still wishes them happiness and good health says alot about this man.
I think that they made the right choice to give him up as a baby, but that's only because I think they're shitty people and wouldn't want ANYONE to grow up with them. Like they wouldn't even face him when he was a full grown adult. That's heartless and cowardly to the core.
@@H240909 exactly. A parent who would abandon their child, literally the day it was born, doesn't deserve to have them. It would not have been a home
@@H240909 also, I had written my reply before I finished the video and saw that his parents wouldn't even see him. Wouldn't even speak to him. Wouldn't even WRITE to him. It's one of the most pathetic displays I've seen in my life.
Not a good thing in itself, but it was a bad (maybe even evil) thing that was allowed to happen so that greater good could come of it
U are beautiful
Words cannot describe the mental fortitude this man possesses.
To face his challenges in this day and age most of us would have surely crumbled.
What a saint his adoptive mother is❤️
So articulate and well-grounded. What an amazing man.
"I properly fancied the pants off Beth" is the most british statement i have heard in a while.
The "I can't believe you've done this" meme is mine
I was thinking the same thing
it´s so british I can't even understand what he meant (I'm not a native speaker of English)
@@pedrokeller6869 He found her very attractive and fell in love with her basically
@@flowerpower003 thanks flower
If he were my son, I'd thank God every day that he gave me such a wonderful son.
doubt
or you're just very religious
This man has an inner strength, I can never imagine.
This guy is incredible with his optimism and resilience. Props to him.
Your birth parents weren’t deserving enough to have such a brilliant human being like you in their life.go knock the world bandy mate 👍🏻