Bomb diffusing is not much of a news as compared to bomb blast, though lives are saved in first case (though no TRP), This vdo likewise have saved future suicides 🙏🏼 Nice, kp it up👍🏼
Her parents might be heartbroken right now, but had she been alive and failed to clear the exam, same parents would cuss over her, threaten to marry her at younger age and taunt her for wasting their money FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. And it takes guts to tell the truth.
Sorry i don't agree on your comment, cuz no one can say anything about anyone's family. They can forgive her, she can restart her life of after she failed in Jee mains. Non of our family think any wrong about ourselves. They will think best for her.
@@AmirKhan-fj5hi Most aspirants who gave up their lives did mostly bcoz of parental pressure, and there is taboo in India that we don't talk freely and open mindedly to our parents nowadays. There is no other possibility.
Lol reality is govn fail. Govn can ask for min wage in all jobs. Bt Govn never try for that and never make good laws so PPL can get enough salary. We all know if we don't have any large property, business then in future if we didn't get any white collar job we are doomed.
Bhai ekdam sahi bola.Maine 2023 mein NEET diya nahi hua Maine Ghar pe bhi bola nhi hoga lekin Forcefully phirse bhejdiya Issbar bhi nhi hoga lag rha hain.Raat ko neend nhi aati ye sochkar kya hoga issbar mummy papa ko muh kaise dikhau😢😭
@@amzadbarbhuiya I took a drop this year and last year my percentile was 95% and still Jee went bad for me because of heavy stress and depression! Even though i have April attempt left still i don't feel to eat food. My parents are supporting me without saying a word because they know the amt. of hard work i put in studies and advising me to take admission to Low tier college and focus on future studies or GATE. Still i don't even like to live. It hurts alot 😭😭
@@YourFuhrer1933 Govn is responsible for this. In India we don't have strict min wage laws. In foreign many PPL do blue collar jobs cuz they get enough salary there. In India we all know if we don't get any white collar job or don't have any property, business we are doomed.
@@jenniegem510 the people like living nearby of my house haven't even proper meal to eat. They work hard get 300 rs only can't even a eat a roti with ghee. So y i said
I had never shown that letter i wrote to mom to anyone - I have never discussed my failures so openly before. today i can look back and smile at my failures - but back then - they were the end of the world for me. Hope those watching can learn / share the same - then the purpose of this video would have been served. Kill the pressure - not students.
As a retired college teacher with almost 36 years of mingling with students, I can say that you’ve done invaluable service to students, teachers and parents with this presentation. Our primary duty is to teach students how to handle life’s problems and failures and to constantly support and encourage them in their endeavours. Not becoming an engineer, doctor or corporate honcho is NOT the end of the world. There are better, more suitable alternatives for every child. I just can’t thank you enough, Akash. God bless you.
Sir is teaching a good job? I also want to pursue it, but all of my friends are becoming engineers, i want to do teaching because i love it and i will be happy,but i also feel scared that later my friends will earn so much buy good cars and live a luxurious life and i will be no where, what is important? Money or happiness?
@@fugdivines8641 Money is important, no doubt about it, but it can never be as important as happiness. Go ahead and follow your heart; I believe you will never regret it.
Akash-ji You won't believe how deeply your message has moved me. I am right now almost at the exact same juncture as you were in your 11th. I'm also in 11th standard. My problem is not passing/failing (I was class topper) but ill health - so I might not be able to complete 11th this year. I too got those exact same bad thoughts like Niharika. I literally cried when I saw your message. It was so honest, heart-felt, and sincere. Also, because it gave me hope. If you could make it, I also can somehow and it might not be 'hunky dory', but somehow or the other I too will be able to succeed in life. Thank you so much for for giving me that hope and saving me!
5-22 years - school , college, pg 22-30 bachelor life , working a JOB 30-60 marry, take care of kids That's life in India Where is social security? Unemployment benefits, free medical, clean drinking water & air Just a dream... Parents are bound to bow before society pressure , follow what others are doing, show off, fulfilling parents own unfulfilled dream. Unequal payout for manual labor than techie/government job... to name a few
In reality, we DON'T need lots of money to survive Its NOT important to spend Lakhs of marriages Its NOT important to give DAHEJ (dowry) Its NOT important to marry in expensive Halls (temples are enough) Its NOT important even to Marry (its just a choice) Its NOT important to have Millions in our bank accounts Its NOT important to buy or own a House (rented house are good) Why spend your 20s, 30s, and 40s in chasing and gathering Money ?? Why not live a "Simple life" by learning Arts, Music, and other payable Skills ??
Thanks Akash, I have a 21 year old and this sends shivers down my spine. It's a jolt for parents and also a very deep learning for the kids. Remember kids, this is NOT or NEVER the end- you mean the world to us.
Its not a PR stunt. She was paid to sensationalize Cervical Cancer (HPV) as Bill Gates has relaunched a vaccine. Do not get that vaccine at any cost. It is not a common disease and the vaccine has very serious side effects. 7 girls died in Andhra during the trials & it was later covered up as Gates paid for it. Search "Andhra HPV vaccine" for the truth.
@@MadAtheist bruh then we all are forced birth. I understand your natalism point of view. I feel that too. But it's just unfair and we can't do anything about it! All of us are the victim. There was no kid who gave permission to be born. It's like that. We can't do anything to change it
As someone who never got more than 70% marks and constantly used to hear that I wouldn't do anything in life, now I am running a small engineering business. The topper of my class has even asked me for a job, and most people have left the engineering field. Failure is fine; mistakes are okay. People can be happy selling tea on the street and be unhappy traveling on a private jet. Veritasium did an amazing video about real happiness, meaning it's not just success or money, but the connection and family. Focus more on teaching children how to be happy and well-rounded individuals rather than just a calculator
Very true. But with toxic parents and I say in India majority of them are toxic, happiness isn't a thing dude. Unfortunately, the happiness of kids doesn't matter to them. For them it's their happiness. Their way to show society. That's why we are so poorly ranked in the happiness index. As a 32 year old female, I now understand the reason is not job stress, bad work culture or anything. We are mistaken. The very reason is in our homes only.
Parents often fail to understand that their happiness should come from them and not their kids. They make kids do things that they think will make them proud in society, and here we go- their ultimate happiness!! Be it good grades, their lavish marriages, they making babies cz log kya kahege! They can rob the tiniest of happiness someone craves for. My friend once told me she and her husband wanted to go for a movie day out on a weekend and her MIL insisted them to stay home just cz her anty gang was coming home. And bahu ni hogi to acha ni lagta na. It's her happiness she was seeking through her kids by showing in front of those aunties that her DIL is so obedient by serving them tea. It's always them and their happiness.
@@lekhanair7809 Indian parents look as their children and try to project their failure on them as a parent of one year old me and my partner decided to give the child every opportunity we can buy never expect anything PS not my place to say but the husband should have talked to the mother and stand up for his wife not to turn her into a showpiece
@@thedeshbhakt SIR ONE VIDEO ON ASSAM DE TEN TION CENTRE AND ITS INHUMANE ACTS PLS Noor Begum is mentioned in the New York Times article as a poignant example of the human impact of the National Register of Citizens (NRC) in Assam, India. She lived in a small hamlet in a flood soaked district and was deeply affected after finding out that *she and her mother had been excluded* from the citizenship lists. *Noor's father and seven siblings were included on the list.* The exclusion didn't make sense to the family, as they all lived together and were born in the same place. Despite their shared circumstances, some family members were considered Indian citizens, while others were labeled as illegal foreigners. Noor's father, Abdul Kalam, a retired laborer, emphasized that she considered herself Indian and even used to sing Indian national songs at school. Tragically, the stress and anxiety over the citizenship list led to Noor Begum spiraling into depression. In June, *on a bright morning, she han ged herself from a rafter at the age of 14.* Her case exemplifies the profound emotional and psychological toll that the NRC process is taking on individuals and families, particularly those who are erroneously excluded from the citizenship lists. The arbitrary nature of the determinations and the lack of proper documentation contribute to the despair and desperation felt by many affected individuals.
Excellent presentation with your personal experience. As a psychologist, you are absolutely right. What you shared about your life was very convincing. Please continue the wonderful work you are doing. We need many honest presenters like you. Thank you
Even i failed multiple times, but i realised that life is easy going when we take things lightly. Even life doesn't teach u. You yourself have to learn from life.
As a NEET aspirants from 4 years 😢 one thing that people dont understand that the fear of failure, lack of other options, and society and parent’s pressure is the biggest reason behind all this . Coachings and schools are not the problem
When parents pressure us we feel we should suicide yes 1 time I have also think but I didn't did nothing because that time I have confidence to do please don't parents give pressure and children don't do like this don't think about it..
Lack of other options? Seriously. Bro you're a Chump . There are several options like Aurveda, Unani, Homepathy, BDS, Pharma, Bio-Medical sciences. I can give you 15 more options. LoL. Par aap to chootiye ho. Aapko Sirf MBBS Krna h. Or fir sbko bolna hai lack of options 🤡
I am from KOTA and a MBBS doctor, and know the reality of coaching institutes, the competition, the struggle and the PRESSURE on students. I wish the parents understand that sirf doctor or engineer banna hi sab kuch nhi hai, BEING a good person and being happy is more important then anything else in this world ❤
After I moved abroad to The Netherlands, my son doesn’t have any homework and no books. But I was stunned to see that he was able to learn to read and write by UKG. I thank all my lucky stars that I took the decision to give my son this opportunity.
@@0ptic0p22 I am thinking bout going to Germany for my btech too my G! Is there any way that we can connect on social platforms and share some knowledge with eachother?
Wow! Nothing but the truth. You are really gifted in speaking and appreciate your courage to share things which help people in life. Continue doing the good work.
You are the man Akash Bhai. ONLY the one who can acknowledge his failures and laugh on it is the boldest. The country needs people like you. You are the role model.
You posted this video at that point of time, when I am struggling with my stress, anxiety and frustration. Pressure from parents, peer groups, relatives, society - really was making me think about the last option. Thank you so much for saving me.
Hey, trust me, you can make more money than being an engineer and a doctor if money is the only reason for getting into IIT or Medicine. Also, if you think being a doctor will be a respectful profession in India then you are mistaken. Doctors are being beaten up and treated as slaves. Therefore, don't worry and focus on developing your skills and interests. You would fare well in any field that is of interest to you. Seek help and talk to a psychologist if you feel the need to. But honestly, when you will look back after 5 years, these things won't matter at all. It's all about how you make the best of any opportunity that the universe throws at you. Nobody matters in this world but you. Nobody has the right to pressurize you. Live your life to the fullest.
I too wasted my 3 years for one entrance exam and still didn't got what everyone was expecting. Peer pressure influences our major decisions. And we continue on that path even if we r not happy. Thank u Akash sir for speaking about us
I failed in 11th also. PCM stream se. But because of my laziness and carelessness. I'm grateful of my father who supported me through that phase. Today I'm a Maths tutor.Even though I have done civil engineering but I knew it wasn't for me when I was in college. Now I try to mentor my students whenever I see them in trouble. It's most satisfying. I request to all the parents that Never force your ward.. Treat them like Sir said in this video.
I am a NEET aspirant in Kota and I can tell there is lot of pressure and it is not from parents or other , it is the self doubt that arise from seeing others who are doing better than us
I'm 30 years old girl... Doing nothing and unmarried... I cried today when I saw this episode... In my teen years I felt a lot burden of pressure and loose my confidence and interest from everything because my parents believed in motivational stories... Like auto wale k bachche ne ye kiya wo kiya... I was average in studies and I got interest in literature but the imposed their middle class fear on me... Fail hone se behtar mar jana mana jata tha mere ghar me... Faltu ka competetion relatives se... Whole my school life, college life I was in depression because the fear of failurity finally I ended up nowhere... I never spoke because since my childhood they taught me it's not good to speak loudly with elders or to argue with them... I regret all the time that I should have stood up at that time...now I'm okay but not satisfied and feel empty... No friends, no social life, no career, nothing actually....feel like I wasted my youth because of middle class families fear...
May I ask what is preventing from having a career now at 30? Fear of what? It need not be a very high flying career. If you have not been able to clear the top exams, you can also try working at entry level jobs like receptionist or admin staff. Koi kaam chhota nahi hota.
@@mohamedfaizan9844 receptionist was not a job in my home... It was a like a abuse... Lower middle class brahmin households has a lot social barriers...
@@Gsspm12xy sorry to hear that. I understand that self imposed social barriers can be even more difficult to beat than academic barriers. And it’s easy to tell people to “fight the system” but in reality it’s super difficult
@Akash this has been a long time I am following your channel & watching your videos, No doubt your videos are eye openers for society. But this video is genuinely one of the best social issues you have worked upon. All the best
Dear Akash Thank you for shedding light on the critical issue of students succumbing to exam pressure. Your efforts to share personal instances and advocate for a change in the 'all or nothing' attitude are commendable. It's crucial to address the mental health challenges students face during highly competitive exams. Your impactful content contributes to a meaningful conversation about reforming the education system. Keep up the great work!
I was into upsc for years Gave 5 mains Still couldn't crack it My father forbid me to look into back up plan and dint give my certificates to me Even forced me to give up jobs i got coz I am a girl from financially decent family Parents saw me only as a prestigious object who will crack upsc and bring pride to the family Finally attempts are gone I'm left without job And my father met with serious health issue and became brain dead All of our family savings went into his treatment Now we're in deep debts I wish i hadn't listened to my father then I should've joined the jobs i got Atleast that salary would've helped my family in these tough times Plz parents... Don't treat a girl child like a prestigious object Don't hamper her financial independence I beg you
It's really sad to hear this , but why did you don't work on plan b at that time ? I mean you can also do pary time work and prepare for upsc ... But its not your fault its fault of time , time teaches everything .. I think you learned more things in past years , well I must be proud of you for continuous believing in self and working hard to fulfill your parents dream , everything will be fine ... One day . hows is your dad now ?? More power to you ...
It’s not the bad kids or weak students; it's always bad parenting, poor teachers, wrong role models, and, above all, setting inappropriate expectations from children. To all the new parents-to-be and those whose children are growing up!
@@arman..2294 students responsibility is to work for his/her dreams not the others dreams And nobody are allowed to put pressure on a kid Failure happen until they realise and eventually it's a journey not about destination
4:28, as an IISc student, I can bet that this is true. My colleagues at IISc and IITs would also agree. The struggle is ongoing; life compels us to navigate between successes and failures. Things never get settled by passing or topping one exam or by getting into India’s top institute; instead, each success presents new challenges to overcome, introducing us to a continuous cycle of climbing mountains and facing failures. The difference lies in our ability to learn more lessons from failures than from successes.
Bro i am currently a dropper giving jee advance in a few months what branch and which year student are you I am confused between top iit, iisc and isi what's the main difference between them do you regret not taking iit anything like that since my friends and family are telling that iit are better than iisc but I want to do research in core technology so can you give me any suggestions
As I am a medical student, I can feel what Sir told about struggle and carrier.During my NEET preparation thought that it's a last struggle time and when I got into the medical College then struggle will end permanently. But actually this all are Moith, struggle never ends in life,so be happy and enjoy the journey not result.
Sorry to say but I can't help but notice, as a medical student, you don't know the spellings of "career" "myth" etc. I'm sure you studied English right?
@user-yq1ed7ko5y Oh yeah I have learnt English from nursery to Grade 11 and I was a good student. But NO! THIS is NOT typing mistake!!! They wrote incorrect spellings because they don't KNOW the spelling and grammar.
@@shovanabajracharya gyani baba mbbs sirf english medium ke student nehi lete hindi medium or regional language ke bhi lete hain.and you know what they have more merit than you and belive me neet/ iit is out of your league buddy,,!!!
@user-yq1ed7ko5y Who are YOU to tell me what is out of my league? Are you my teacher? You can't even reveal your name here bloody random "user". I'm talking about their English written skills. That also I had pointed it out in a polite way. It doesn't matter if they came from regional or whatever. Basic English is mandatory.
Appreciate the way you explained the importance to keep plan B/C/D... in life, highlighting your own life as an example. Hope children's of today, especially my child keeps his Plan C/D/E/F.... ready for his life. He is just 13 year old and big fan of yours.... Grt going.
Couldnt relate more. Thank you for raising such an important issue that gets ignored even by parents.I am 26yrs old rn and struggling with the same mental and family pressure. Cried multiple times during ur vedio, the last line is so important that * who will understand if parents dont* i wish i could show this vedio, i wish they realise it. btw its the same story with every competitive exam, not just about NEET,UPSC or JEE. Giving second option is very important, it becomes more critical in girls case, there are so many familes like mine are who pressurise their daughter to opt between marrying or getting succesful in parents aspirations. More powers to those who relate with me❤.
Talk to one of your parents or siblings or extended cousins about it. Those who can talk to your parents. You are worth more than these exams and just a name your parents could use in a gathering where all are bloating about the success of their kids.
Great episode Akash! it needs a lot of courage to share failures with the world. Nowadays people on social media are trying to sell an illusion of success. But, success is the journey not a destination.
The framing your rejection letter thing is such a good idea, last year, I couldn't get into a college, as I was too over confident after achieving 94% in boards and didn't study much for JEE... Took a drop year, saw most of my friends going college, broke my heart, but tomorrow is my JEE exam for this year, and I can say, I have learned a lot from this failure. This whole year was a lesson for me. This failure grounded me again from the heights I was flying after my boards.... Failures teach us a lot. 🎉
You know, gearing up for board exams nowadays, it's like this intense rollercoaster of emotions, you know? There's this mix of excitement, nerves, and just a whole lot of pressure. Every moment spent studying feels like diving into this deep pool of knowledge, and sometimes it's like swimming against the current. But there's also this determination pushing me forward, this drive to show what I'm capable of. Every page I turn, every concept I grasp, it's like a small victory. But then, there are those moments of doubt, those times when I wonder if I'll make it through. It's this constant battle between feeling confident and feeling overwhelmed. Yet, through it all, I know it's shaping me, molding me into someone stronger and more resilient. Yeah, it's a wild ride, but I guess that's just part of the journey towards those board exams.
So touching!! One of the best episodes you have ever done!! We, as parents need to learn and unlearn a lot of things. It’s an eye opener!! Thanks a lot Akash🙏🏽
Been studying for exams for the last 5 years now. Doctor told me that i had blood pressure problems yesterday, I might need the BP pills for life. I'm 23. Everyone around me thinks that I've got such an easy life that all I have to do is stay home and study. I've been depressed for almost 6 years. Have social anxiety. Still nowhere close to my goal. Thanku for making such videos and spreading awareness 🙏
Beta hum sab aap ke saath hai ...mujhe maloom hai aapne bahoot hard work kiya hai..ek baat jo hamare saath galat hui hai wo kisi aur ke saath na ho jay iska hame khyal rakhna hai..aur mai dua karongi ke aap jaldi se sehatyaab ho jai.. best of luck😊
Got a similar problem I'm jee aspirant and due to prolonged sitting I messed up my digestive system to such an extent that I got GERD(gastro esophageal reflux), causes me burning and breathing issues every single frickin day.
I have been binge-watching your videos since then last two days. I'm so glad CZcams recommended me your channel. The way you narrate everything makes it so engaging for the viewers. Ofc, the content is top notch as well. I am sure it takes a lot of research, skill and hardwork to make these videos. Please keep up the great work sir.
I am watching the episodes of Deshbhakt for the past 3 to 4 years, but this particular episode will be very close to me. As in the past 3 to 4 years I have not made a single comment on any episode but this episode was something else, which force me to do so. Thank you Akash Banerjee and the entire Deshbhakt team for this wonderful episode. Hope to watch more episodes like this in the future ❤
@@thedeshbhakt The New York Times article delves into the discriminatory policies and mindset of the Indian government, particularly within the framework of the National Register of Citizens (NRC) in Assam. The repercussions of the government's attempts to identify and expel alleged illegal immigrants have far-reaching consequences for individuals and communities, as illustrated by cases such as Noor Begum's tr@gic story. 1. Citizenship Determinations: The NRC places the burden of proving citizenship on individuals, yet the criteria for inclusion remain opaque. Noor Begum's case underscores how long-term residents can be classified as illegal foreigners based on bureaucratic decisions. 2. Mental Health Impact: Noor Begum's su1cde underscores the psychological toll of the citizenship verification process. The uncertainty regarding one's citizenship status can lead to severe mental health issues, including an xiety and de press ion. 3. Documentation Challenges: Many individuals, particularly in rural areas, lack the necessary documentation to prove their citizenship. Illiteracy exacerbates the problem, making it difficult for genuine citizens to navigate the bureaucratic requirements. 4. Selective Enforcement and Religious Bias: Concerns arise about the NRC process disproportionately targeting Muslims. Cases like Noor Begum's suggest that Foreigners' Tribunal determinations may be influenced by religious bias, with Muslims facing harsher scrutiny than Hindus who appeal their citizenship status. 5. Government's Populist Agenda: The government's push for the NRC aligns with a populist narrative that blames immigrants for economic challenges. BJP leaders, including Amit Shah, have used dehumanizing language, referring to migrants as "infiltrators" and framing the NRC as a means of removing them. 6. Potential for Forced Migration: The article warns that the government's plan to deport those deemed illegal immigrants, especially if the NRC process is extended nationwide, could lead to a massive refugee crisis, comparable to the Rohingya crisis or China's mass internment system. 7. Impact on Communities: The NRC process has created a sense of fear and insecurity within communities, particularly among Muslims. Noor Begum's case exemplifies how families can be torn apart, with some members deemed citizens and others labeled as illegal foreigners. 8. Arbitrary Determinations: The article highlights the arbitrary nature of the NRC's determinations. It suggests that even individuals with valid claims to citizenship may struggle due to bureaucratic inefficiencies and errors in documentation. 9. Human Rights Concerns: Human Rights Watch has expressed concerns about the arbitrary and discriminatory nature of the NRC process. This raises questions about the fairness and impartiality of the Foreigners' Tribunals. 10. International Response: The United Nations, Human Rights Watch, and the US Commission on International Religious Freedom have all warned about the potential humanitarian crisis resulting from the NRC process. 11. Lack of Attention: The article points out that the looming crisis in Assam hasn't received sufficient mainstream attention, raising questions about the accountability of the government's actions. 12. Historical Context: The roots of the NRC process can be traced back to the demographic shifts in Assam during the 19th century and the partition of the subcontinent in 1947. 13. Impact on Children: The detention camps, including the one under construction, raise concerns about the well-being and education of children. The government's assurance of providing educational facilities to detained children in nearby schools is met with skepticism. 14. Reluctance of Bangladesh: Bangladesh has expressed reluctance in accepting the stateless people, creating further uncertainty about the future of those facing deportation. 15. Comparison to Other Crises: The potential scale of forced migration resulting from the NRC process is compared to the Rohingya crisis and China's mass internment system. 16. Rise of Hindu Nationalism: The rise of Hindu nationalism and anti-Muslim sentiment in recent years has contributed to the urgency and enforcement of the NRC process. 17. Political Promises: The BJP's promises during the 2019 Indian election to implement the NRC and address the issue of Muslim migrants in Assam contribute to the political backdrop. 18. Legal Appeals Process: While individuals can appeal to Foreigners' Tribunals, the article suggests that the process may not be fair, with concerns that Hindus might receive more lenient treatment than Muslims. 19. Citizenship Amendment Bill: The proposed Citizenship Amendment Bill, which carves out exceptions for certain immigrant communities but not Muslims, adds to the concerns of religious bias. 20. Global Refugee Crisis: The article concludes by emphasizing that if India goes through with mass deportations, it could significantly contribute to the global refugee crisis, marking a humanitarian disaster of unprecedented proportions
@@thedeshbhakt SIR ONE VIDEO ON ASSAM DE TEN TION CENTRE AND ITS INHUMANE ACTS PLS Noor Begum is mentioned in the New York Times article as a poignant example of the human impact of the National Register of Citizens (NRC) in Assam, India. She lived in a small hamlet in a flood soaked district and was deeply affected after finding out that she and her mother had been excluded from the citizenship lists. Noor's father and seven siblings were included on the list. The exclusion didn't make sense to the family, as they all lived together and were born in the same place. Despite their shared circumstances, some family members were considered Indian citizens, while others were labeled as illegal foreigners. Noor's father, Abdul Kalam, a retired laborer, emphasized that she considered herself Indian and even used to sing Indian national songs at school. Tragically, the stress and anxiety over the citizenship list led to Noor Begum spiraling into depression. In June, on a bright morning, she han ged herself from a rafter at the age of 14. Her case exemplifies the profound emotional and psychological toll that the NRC process is taking on individuals and families, particularly those who are erroneously excluded from the citizenship lists. The arbitrary nature of the determinations and the lack of proper documentation contribute to the despair and desperation felt by many affected individuals.
I failed twice in my graduation first year. The world seemed like it has ended for me. Everybody lost faith in me: friends, relatives and society around mocked me and labelled me as a failure. I also started doubting my life choices. The worst phase of my life. I also boiled down to the 'last option'. However, luckily my parents especially my father showed faith in me and gave me confidence to try for one last time. I worked hard this time from ZERO like you did. I worked on my handwriting very much like you from nursery cursive handwriting books. I studied maths of class 11th and 12th by myself and taught calculus to myself. This hard work paid off and got passed my exams this time and eventually completed my graduation. This is my story. I hope it inspires you. And remember failure is not the end of the world rather it's the beginning of a new and better one.
@@beamerican6766 I said 'eventually' completed my graduation. Of course first year was difficult as I failed twice in the first year but then I worked hard and eventually completed graduation.
@@user-jw5bl9iu7nyes I can understand as everyone is not lucky to have supporting parents who support their kids in thin and thick. But don't worry about that and just keep faith in yourself. And I'm sure you'll surpass every hurdle that is coming your way. Good luck.
@@rohit_1309 I have also fear about my 1st year since entrance are near and don't know which college and branch or a Bsc degree. So asking since not good at study but I also started reading sci from 6th-10th(failed but I've completely math). But some wrong people and lack guidance have take drop. But again almost failed. And don't want my local college BSC degree as 11-12th were study is joke for government teacher and classmates. Teachers be like no can remove and classmates be let play pubg or make gfs And I don't want unskilled or no knowledge degree(as you seen in 12th fail bani banai vyawasta- teachers gives Copy to students to pass and don't teach whole year).
Very introspective I must say. Life isn't about reaching destination brimming with happiness it's a journey of struggles, even if we don't reach this destination we must learn to enjoy this journey. I loved you sharing something so personal to you and even I haven't achieved everything I wanted, but the fact remains that I try to do so and won't ever give up and I hope people after seeing this video realize the same
Well said…life is full of challenges and everyone has to go through it wether rich poor, in IIT or in random college. Be a IAS or business tycoon….life is not easy for anyone. No failure is bigger than your life. Thanks for sharing your story.
thanks for sharing your inspiring story. As a parent i will always keep this in my mind till my last breath. Huge respect for you. God bless you. will Pray for your success.
This video was more like," There's a path always leading you to become someone you can be proud of " than a so-called " motivational " video. You nailed it, Mr. Banerjee. Much appreciated.
This coaching centre and blind and deaf parents is a very dangerous combination. My parents forced me to take science. My 12th was miserable. Self study is important and more impactful than coaching centre.
Akash your story and failures have made you what you are ... The best thing is that you are living with your morals ... And that's inspiring ... Thanks for The Deshbhakt channel 🙏🙌
ravinder - i only know understand what kind of impact parents have - maybe living with morals comes from there however without member support that would have been even more difficult - so thanks
Dear Akash, you are so inspirational & practical. By shifting to "Humanities" you did the right thing. The world actually needs to be taught humanity in every aspect today. Keep up the good work 👌🏻❤
One of the loveliest episode by you and your team. Call me middle class probashi bengali with similar start, but I am sure millions watching this would be able to resonate their struggle and get the strength for another innings in their life. Thank you dada. 🥰
Bomb diffusing is not much of a news as compared to bomb blast, though lives are saved in first case (though no TRP),
This vdo likewise have saved future suicides 🙏🏼
Nice, kp it up👍🏼
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*Defuse/Defusing
Impressive🎉🎉 Akashbhai❤❤
Her parents might be heartbroken right now, but had she been alive and failed to clear the exam, same parents would cuss over her, threaten to marry her at younger age and taunt her for wasting their money FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. And it takes guts to tell the truth.
Realest comment..
I can feel it 😞
Sorry i don't agree on your comment, cuz no one can say anything about anyone's family. They can forgive her, she can restart her life of after she failed in Jee mains. Non of our family think any wrong about ourselves. They will think best for her.
@@AmirKhan-fj5hi Most aspirants who gave up their lives did mostly bcoz of parental pressure, and there is taboo in India that we don't talk freely and open mindedly to our parents nowadays. There is no other possibility.
@@AmirKhan-fj5hi No one can say anything about family. True, that's why she suicided.
parents fail, teachers fail, society fails- not the kids! heart goes out to these children
Lol reality is govn fail. Govn can ask for min wage in all jobs. Bt Govn never try for that and never make good laws so PPL can get enough salary. We all know if we don't have any large property, business then in future if we didn't get any white collar job we are doomed.
सही कहा 👍
Bhai ekdam sahi bola.Maine 2023 mein NEET diya nahi hua Maine Ghar pe bhi bola nhi hoga lekin Forcefully phirse bhejdiya Issbar bhi nhi hoga lag rha hain.Raat ko neend nhi aati ye sochkar kya hoga issbar mummy papa ko muh kaise dikhau😢😭
@@amzadbarbhuiya I took a drop this year and last year my percentile was 95% and still Jee went bad for me because of heavy stress and depression! Even though i have April attempt left still i don't feel to eat food. My parents are supporting me without saying a word because they know the amt. of hard work i put in studies and advising me to take admission to Low tier college and focus on future studies or GATE. Still i don't even like to live. It hurts alot 😭😭
@@YourFuhrer1933 Govn is responsible for this. In India we don't have strict min wage laws. In foreign many PPL do blue collar jobs cuz they get enough salary there. In India we all know if we don't get any white collar job or don't have any property, business we are doomed.
Thanks! you just saved my life right now
Give this to those who need it most
It will come return to you
@@therakeshkumarrathore who are they?
@@jenniegem510 the people like living nearby of my house haven't even proper meal to eat.
They work hard get 300 rs only can't even a eat a roti with ghee.
So y i said
@@therakeshkumarrathore But Akash also apparently saved his life so even he deserves it........
@@sudhanvahs9173 akash is already rich
I had never shown that letter i wrote to mom to anyone - I have never discussed my failures so openly before.
today i can look back and smile at my failures - but back then - they were the end of the world for me.
Hope those watching can learn / share the same - then the purpose of this video would have been served.
Kill the pressure - not students.
Requesting you to make a video on #Indiaout Campaign going on Bangladesh
Truly flattened by you story.
Saw tears in your smile
😊😊😊😊😊
@thedeshbhakt
*SIR PLS MAKE A VIDEO ON ASSAM DE TEN TION CENTRES AND ITS INHU MANE ACTIVITES*
Respectful, inspirational, emotional, reality,
Literally I listened that voice which I want listen
🇸🇩 🇮🇳
Only
As a retired college teacher with almost 36 years of mingling with students, I can say that you’ve done invaluable service to students, teachers and parents with this presentation. Our primary duty is to teach students how to handle life’s problems and failures and to constantly support and encourage them in their endeavours. Not becoming an engineer, doctor or corporate honcho is NOT the end of the world. There are better, more suitable alternatives for every child. I just can’t thank you enough, Akash. God bless you.
thanks sir - this means a lot
Sir is teaching a good job? I also want to pursue it, but all of my friends are becoming engineers, i want to do teaching because i love it and i will be happy,but i also feel scared that later my friends will earn so much buy good cars and live a luxurious life and i will be no where, what is important? Money or happiness?
@@fugdivines8641 Money is important, no doubt about it, but it can never be as important as happiness. Go ahead and follow your heart; I believe you will never regret it.
@@ashishmittra2091 Thanks a lot❤
The reality is there are not if there was we would not have so many coaching centres
আপুনাৰ দৰে এজন Mentor পাই মই সচাকৈ বহুত সুখী। Akash sir & Dhurv sir....... You're doing a great work.
Akash-ji You won't believe how deeply your message has moved me. I am right now almost at the exact same juncture as you were in your 11th. I'm also in 11th standard. My problem is not passing/failing (I was class topper) but ill health - so I might not be able to complete 11th this year. I too got those exact same bad thoughts like Niharika. I literally cried when I saw your message. It was so honest, heart-felt, and sincere. Also, because it gave me hope. If you could make it, I also can somehow and it might not be 'hunky dory', but somehow or the other I too will be able to succeed in life. Thank you so much for for giving me that hope and saving me!
God bless you
Same here.
5-22 years - school , college, pg
22-30 bachelor life , working a JOB
30-60 marry, take care of kids
That's life in India
Where is social security? Unemployment benefits, free medical, clean drinking water & air
Just a dream...
Parents are bound to bow before society pressure , follow what others are doing, show off, fulfilling parents own unfulfilled dream.
Unequal payout for manual labor than techie/government job... to name a few
Abroad jao .
it's actually not in India .Here parents decide everything even in my case.Now they are forcing me to do government job preparation.
You're wrong. You just didn't chose your own path. That's why you've given one
In reality, we DON'T need lots of money to survive
Its NOT important to spend Lakhs of marriages
Its NOT important to give DAHEJ (dowry)
Its NOT important to marry in expensive Halls (temples are enough)
Its NOT important even to Marry (its just a choice)
Its NOT important to have Millions in our bank accounts
Its NOT important to buy or own a House (rented house are good)
Why spend your 20s, 30s, and 40s in chasing and gathering Money ??
Why not live a "Simple life" by learning Arts, Music, and other payable Skills ??
@@tonguewarrior5020 lol this is india except doctor, engeneering mba or government job everything you do is failure
Thanks Akash, I have a 21 year old and this sends shivers down my spine. It's a jolt for parents and also a very deep learning for the kids. Remember kids, this is NOT or NEVER the end- you mean the world to us.
Its not a PR stunt. She was paid to sensationalize Cervical Cancer (HPV) as Bill Gates has relaunched a vaccine. Do not get that vaccine at any cost. It is not a common disease and the vaccine has very serious side effects. 7 girls died in Andhra during the trials & it was later covered up as Gates paid for it. Search "Andhra HPV vaccine" for the truth.
@@MadAtheistforcing birth is not a thing it's just illogical.
@@MadAtheist bruh then we all are forced birth. I understand your natalism point of view. I feel that too. But it's just unfair and we can't do anything about it! All of us are the victim. There was no kid who gave permission to be born. It's like that. We can't do anything to change it
mean the world to us?? Yeah we mean the world to us if we crack what you wanted and now what we wanted
Only genuine concern could have made Akash make his failures public....Thanks for that !
0:42 30 nahi the more than 50 bacche the lekin media Wale cover kaha karte hain 😊😊😊
Indian media things 😍😍😍
🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Yes true.....kuch log ghar jake marte hain....ya ... missing rahte hain bahut din
As someone who never got more than 70% marks and constantly used to hear that I wouldn't do anything in life, now I am running a small engineering business. The topper of my class has even asked me for a job, and most people have left the engineering field. Failure is fine; mistakes are okay. People can be happy selling tea on the street and be unhappy traveling on a private jet. Veritasium did an amazing video about real happiness, meaning it's not just success or money, but the connection and family. Focus more on teaching children how to be happy and well-rounded individuals rather than just a calculator
the concept of a well-rounded individual is still alien to most :(
thanks for watching / sharing your POV / and the long standing support
Very true. But with toxic parents and I say in India majority of them are toxic, happiness isn't a thing dude. Unfortunately, the happiness of kids doesn't matter to them. For them it's their happiness. Their way to show society. That's why we are so poorly ranked in the happiness index. As a 32 year old female, I now understand the reason is not job stress, bad work culture or anything. We are mistaken. The very reason is in our homes only.
Parents often fail to understand that their happiness should come from them and not their kids. They make kids do things that they think will make them proud in society, and here we go- their ultimate happiness!! Be it good grades, their lavish marriages, they making babies cz log kya kahege! They can rob the tiniest of happiness someone craves for. My friend once told me she and her husband wanted to go for a movie day out on a weekend and her MIL insisted them to stay home just cz her anty gang was coming home. And bahu ni hogi to acha ni lagta na. It's her happiness she was seeking through her kids by showing in front of those aunties that her DIL is so obedient by serving them tea. It's always them and their happiness.
@@lekhanair7809 Indian parents look as their children and try to project their failure on them as a parent of one year old me and my partner decided to give the child every opportunity we can buy never expect anything
PS not my place to say but the husband should have talked to the mother and stand up for his wife not to turn her into a showpiece
@@thedeshbhakt SIR ONE VIDEO ON ASSAM DE TEN TION CENTRE AND ITS INHUMANE ACTS PLS
Noor Begum is mentioned in the New York Times article as a poignant example of the human impact
of the National Register of Citizens (NRC) in Assam, India. She lived in a small hamlet in a flood soaked district and was deeply affected after finding out that *she and her mother had been excluded*
from the citizenship lists. *Noor's father and seven siblings were included on the list.*
The exclusion didn't make sense to the family, as they all lived together and were born in the same
place. Despite their shared circumstances, some family members were considered Indian citizens,
while others were labeled as illegal foreigners. Noor's father, Abdul Kalam, a retired laborer,
emphasized that she considered herself Indian and even used to sing Indian national songs at school.
Tragically, the stress and anxiety over the citizenship list led to Noor Begum spiraling into depression.
In June, *on a bright morning, she han ged herself from a rafter at the age of 14.* Her case exemplifies
the profound emotional and psychological toll that the NRC process is taking on individuals and
families, particularly those who are erroneously excluded from the citizenship lists. The arbitrary
nature of the determinations and the lack of proper documentation contribute to the despair and
desperation felt by many affected individuals.
Failures are important in life, but most important is your attitude over it, how you learn and proceed in future
We don't fail we learn and we come back even more stronger and knowledgeable then before. Failure teaches us what success cannot.
You earned a subscriber and pricked my bubble of lies and fake hopes. Thank you
Excellent presentation with your personal experience. As a psychologist, you are absolutely right. What you shared about your life was very convincing. Please continue the wonderful work you are doing. We need many honest presenters like you. Thank you
Even i failed multiple times, but i realised that life is easy going when we take things lightly. Even life doesn't teach u. You yourself have to learn from life.
Well said
@@prajwalff6024 I feel I did, coz now i no more have/care the fear of failing or losing anything. I just do what I feel is right.
Same i realised this
Parent of a teenager myself. Much needed wakeup call for all of us. Thank you Deshbhakt.....will be sharing this video with my son.
Wake up call! This is happening all the time.. It's not any first time
This is so true! Sharing this and completing it is better than endless and mindless scrolling.
It's called doom scrolling for a reason!
@@user-jw5bl9iu7n we might not trigger emotions from big incidents but its these little videos and news that can instigate that feeling
Thanks Brother Akash for sending such a strong positive practical message to uplift the spirits. The world needs mentors like you. Keep rocking.
Very well said - “real life success and failure ke beech mein dagmagati rahti hai”
As a NEET aspirants from 4 years 😢 one thing that people dont understand that the fear of failure, lack of other options, and society and parent’s pressure is the biggest reason behind all this . Coachings and schools are not the problem
oh my god
pls give your number i want to talk from karnataka
When parents pressure us we feel we should suicide yes 1 time I have also think but I didn't did nothing because that time I have confidence to do please don't parents give pressure and children don't do like this don't think about it..
Lack of other options? Seriously. Bro you're a Chump . There are several options like Aurveda, Unani, Homepathy, BDS, Pharma, Bio-Medical sciences. I can give you 15 more options. LoL. Par aap to chootiye ho. Aapko Sirf MBBS Krna h. Or fir sbko bolna hai lack of options 🤡
Bhai tumlog ke parents 4 -5 drop kese allow kar dete hai ..
Limited options@@NOVAAAAAAAAAa
I am from KOTA and a MBBS doctor, and know the reality of coaching institutes, the competition, the struggle and the PRESSURE on students. I wish the parents understand that sirf doctor or engineer banna hi sab kuch nhi hai, BEING a good person and being happy is more important then anything else in this world ❤
Never seen a doctor on youtube
@@rakshith2336 online doctor
@@rakshith2336 youre kidding right. there are so many youtubers who are doctor
Nowadays youtubers earn more than doctors.
@@therakeshkumarrathorebut only few of them not everyone
You are not negative you just spit facts and people now a days do not want to listen facts they just want to live in delusions
Facts = Negative
😳🤦♂️
That's a good pun! "Stop Pushing Students Over The 'Edge' "
Kota Coaching Capital ❎ Kota Sucide Capital ✅
The reason is either
They are in the wrong stream
Or Are in wrong influence
agreed
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After I moved abroad to The Netherlands, my son doesn’t have any homework and no books. But I was stunned to see that he was able to learn to read and write by UKG. I thank all my lucky stars that I took the decision to give my son this opportunity.
i see no point in educating myself from india, germany, im coming
@@0ptic0p22 I am thinking bout going to Germany for my btech too my G! Is there any way that we can connect on social platforms and share some knowledge with eachother?
@@animememes7531 bro same here!! Gimme your Instagram so we can connect if you don't mind
I also wanna leave this country for my study.
But my parents cannot afford so much.
@@animememes7531 same here bro ! Give me your insta so we can connect if you don't mind 😊
Thank you for sharing this! Very well said!
Wow! Nothing but the truth. You are really gifted in speaking and appreciate your courage to share things which help people in life. Continue doing the good work.
You are the man Akash Bhai. ONLY the one who can acknowledge his failures and laugh on it is the boldest. The country needs people like you. You are the role model.
You posted this video at that point of time, when I am struggling with my stress, anxiety and frustration. Pressure from parents, peer groups, relatives, society - really was making me think about the last option. Thank you so much for saving me.
Hey, trust me, you can make more money than being an engineer and a doctor if money is the only reason for getting into IIT or Medicine. Also, if you think being a doctor will be a respectful profession in India then you are mistaken. Doctors are being beaten up and treated as slaves. Therefore, don't worry and focus on developing your skills and interests. You would fare well in any field that is of interest to you. Seek help and talk to a psychologist if you feel the need to. But honestly, when you will look back after 5 years, these things won't matter at all. It's all about how you make the best of any opportunity that the universe throws at you. Nobody matters in this world but you. Nobody has the right to pressurize you. Live your life to the fullest.
Please dont❤
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Brother or sister there is noway you can put your life for others words stay strong we are all suffering same in this world🎉
Thanks for making contents on almost all imperative social topics, appreciating every effort of you sir and every youtube video of yours.
This is beautiful! Thanks for sharing your story. I appreciate you on a whole another level now
I too wasted my 3 years for one entrance exam and still didn't got what everyone was expecting. Peer pressure influences our major decisions. And we continue on that path even if we r not happy. Thank u Akash sir for speaking about us
Kota me to roj suicide hota hai
For me it was 4 yrs
I'm wasting my second year just cause my 11th school was trash
@@Detox456 NEET ?
@@Tushar_995 yes
After cracking competitive exams, the new set of struggle starts ...😢 That's real
This was the most required video for students and for all of us i believe....Loved this video Deshbhakt❤
Just amazing , can't explain in word how positive vibes give this episode 😊
I failed in 11th also. PCM stream se. But because of my laziness and carelessness. I'm grateful of my father who supported me through that phase. Today I'm a Maths tutor.Even though I have done civil engineering but I knew it wasn't for me when I was in college. Now I try to mentor my students whenever I see them in trouble. It's most satisfying. I request to all the parents that Never force your ward.. Treat them like Sir said in this video.
same as me bro , but i im in IT now
best wishes
I am a NEET aspirant in Kota and I can tell there is lot of pressure and it is not from parents or other , it is the self doubt that arise from seeing others who are doing better than us
Thank you for making this episode. Very well said.
Amazing presentation of reality, Aakash bhai.
Peace be unto you.
Thanks for raising this important point!
Which currency is this?
@@Prerna_1232 Swiss Franc
@@Prerna_1232 Swiss franc
@@Prerna_1232 swiss francs
this is swiss franc, you guys cant even understand this, instead focus on your education system.@@Prerna_1232
I'm 30 years old girl... Doing nothing and unmarried... I cried today when I saw this episode... In my teen years I felt a lot burden of pressure and loose my confidence and interest from everything because my parents believed in motivational stories... Like auto wale k bachche ne ye kiya wo kiya... I was average in studies and I got interest in literature but the imposed their middle class fear on me... Fail hone se behtar mar jana mana jata tha mere ghar me... Faltu ka competetion relatives se... Whole my school life, college life I was in depression because the fear of failurity finally I ended up nowhere... I never spoke because since my childhood they taught me it's not good to speak loudly with elders or to argue with them... I regret all the time that I should have stood up at that time...now I'm okay but not satisfied and feel empty... No friends, no social life, no career, nothing actually....feel like I wasted my youth because of middle class families fear...
May I ask what is preventing from having a career now at 30? Fear of what? It need not be a very high flying career. If you have not been able to clear the top exams, you can also try working at entry level jobs like receptionist or admin staff. Koi kaam chhota nahi hota.
@@mohamedfaizan9844 pressure of getting government jobs, upsc,
@@mohamedfaizan9844 receptionist was not a job in my home... It was a like a abuse... Lower middle class brahmin households has a lot social barriers...
@@Gsspm12xy sorry to hear that. I understand that self imposed social barriers can be even more difficult to beat than academic barriers. And it’s easy to tell people to “fight the system” but in reality it’s super difficult
@@mohamedfaizan9844 thanks for your kind words...
Respect for you for coming out and talking about the phases of life so well...
@Akash this has been a long time I am following your channel & watching your videos,
No doubt your videos are eye openers for society.
But this video is genuinely one of the best social issues you have worked upon.
All the best
Dear Akash
Thank you for shedding light on the critical issue of students succumbing to exam pressure. Your efforts to share personal instances and advocate for a change in the 'all or nothing' attitude are commendable. It's crucial to address the mental health challenges students face during highly competitive exams. Your impactful content contributes to a meaningful conversation about reforming the education system. Keep up the great work!
Competing with urself is the path to growth 👍but comparing urself to others is like drinking poison 🤒
Akash, you're raising voice against such conservative thinking of our country.
Hats off to such videos. ❤
khub bhalo laglo bannerjeee , ajke khub bhalo laglo , kotto mehnat kore aekhan obdi pahuche cho , bhalo bhalo
A big thank you for this. With so many narcissists around, this one is truly a gem of a creation. Hope people learn something from this.
I was into upsc for years
Gave 5 mains
Still couldn't crack it
My father forbid me to look into back up plan and dint give my certificates to me
Even forced me to give up jobs i got coz I am a girl from financially decent family
Parents saw me only as a prestigious object who will crack upsc and bring pride to the family
Finally attempts are gone
I'm left without job
And my father met with serious health issue and became brain dead
All of our family savings went into his treatment
Now we're in deep debts
I wish i hadn't listened to my father then
I should've joined the jobs i got
Atleast that salary would've helped my family in these tough times
Plz parents... Don't treat a girl child like a prestigious object
Don't hamper her financial independence
I beg you
You are after 18+ money matter a lot
God bless you
Karma will hit hard back to you
It's really sad to hear this , but why did you don't work on plan b at that time ? I mean you can also do pary time work and prepare for upsc ... But its not your fault its fault of time , time teaches everything .. I think you learned more things in past years , well I must be proud of you for continuous believing in self and working hard to fulfill your parents dream , everything will be fine ... One day . hows is your dad now ?? More power to you ...
It’s not the bad kids or weak students; it's always bad parenting, poor teachers, wrong role models, and, above all, setting inappropriate expectations from children.
To all the new parents-to-be and those whose children are growing up!
U can't blame them all. May be they are at the fault but there is some responsibility of students as well.
@@arman..2294 students responsibility is to work for his/her dreams not the others dreams
And nobody are allowed to put pressure on a kid
Failure happen until they realise and eventually it's a journey not about destination
@@arman..2294 tu balak buddhi hu
SIR, YOU'RE JUST WONDERFUL.
Jabardast episode...... Mind boggling
Best video , for me as a father of two graduating daughters, from you. Thank you 🙏
Well sir take care of family well there is no way we can replace them ❤
Thanks for raising the voice of students
raise hi hogi voice usse aage kuch hoga nahi lol
Thank you for sharing your story. And very well spoken.
Excellent video Sir, I totally relate with myself as well, thank you so much Sir
4:28, as an IISc student, I can bet that this is true. My colleagues at IISc and IITs would also agree. The struggle is ongoing; life compels us to navigate between successes and failures. Things never get settled by passing or topping one exam or by getting into India’s top institute; instead, each success presents new challenges to overcome, introducing us to a continuous cycle of climbing mountains and facing failures.
The difference lies in our ability to learn more lessons from failures than from successes.
Bro i am currently a dropper giving jee advance in a few months what branch and which year student are you I am confused between top iit, iisc and isi what's the main difference between them do you regret not taking iit anything like that since my friends and family are telling that iit are better than iisc but I want to do research in core technology so can you give me any suggestions
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As I am a medical student, I can feel what Sir told about struggle and carrier.During my NEET preparation thought that it's a last struggle time and when I got into the medical College then struggle will end permanently.
But actually this all are Moith, struggle never ends in life,so be happy and enjoy the journey not result.
Sorry to say but I can't help but notice, as a medical student, you don't know the spellings of "career" "myth" etc. I'm sure you studied English right?
@@shovanabajracharyai think you are a English student i should tell you that there is a term called typing mistake 😂😂😂😂
@user-yq1ed7ko5y Oh yeah I have learnt English from nursery to Grade 11 and I was a good student. But NO! THIS is NOT typing mistake!!! They wrote incorrect spellings because they don't KNOW the spelling and grammar.
@@shovanabajracharya gyani baba mbbs sirf english medium ke student nehi lete hindi medium or regional language ke bhi lete hain.and you know what they have more merit than you and belive me neet/ iit is out of your league buddy,,!!!
@user-yq1ed7ko5y Who are YOU to tell me what is out of my league? Are you my teacher? You can't even reveal your name here bloody random "user". I'm talking about their English written skills. That also I had pointed it out in a polite way. It doesn't matter if they came from regional or whatever. Basic English is mandatory.
Sir! really loved this vdo...the way u explained ur failures nd ended up with a positive note is jst wow💙
Appreciate the way you explained the importance to keep plan B/C/D... in life, highlighting your own life as an example. Hope children's of today, especially my child keeps his Plan C/D/E/F.... ready for his life. He is just 13 year old and big fan of yours....
Grt going.
Couldnt relate more. Thank you for raising such an important issue that gets ignored even by parents.I am 26yrs old rn and struggling with the same mental and family pressure. Cried multiple times during ur vedio, the last line is so important that * who will understand if parents dont* i wish i could show this vedio, i wish they realise it. btw its the same story with every competitive exam, not just about NEET,UPSC or JEE. Giving second option is very important, it becomes more critical in girls case, there are so many familes like mine are who pressurise their daughter to opt between marrying or getting succesful in parents aspirations. More powers to those who relate with me❤.
Talk to one of your parents or siblings or extended cousins about it. Those who can talk to your parents. You are worth more than these exams and just a name your parents could use in a gathering where all are bloating about the success of their kids.
Video hota hai vedio nai
@@CountingStars333 🙏
@@CountingStars333 Bhai Bhai ! etne spelling ke khabar?
Great episode Akash! it needs a lot of courage to share failures with the world. Nowadays people on social media are trying to sell an illusion of success. But, success is the journey not a destination.
Loads of Love Man! Truly inspiring
Highly needed video. Splendid!
I can relate this as A Student, very Sad 😢
so sad 😭😭😭😭😂
The framing your rejection letter thing is such a good idea, last year, I couldn't get into a college, as I was too over confident after achieving 94% in boards and didn't study much for JEE... Took a drop year, saw most of my friends going college, broke my heart, but tomorrow is my JEE exam for this year, and I can say, I have learned a lot from this failure. This whole year was a lesson for me. This failure grounded me again from the heights I was flying after my boards.... Failures teach us a lot. 🎉
Maidan fateh karke aana bro. Mera aashirvaad hai ✋️.
good luck on your exam. Also dont forget that even if you dont get a seat your life is not over. It is you who can decide your future. All the best!!!
all the very best bhai
Go bhai give your best and crack jee advanced 🎉
2nd shift
Thanks for sharing your story, really inspiring.
Great talk, thank you, God bless
You know, gearing up for board exams nowadays, it's like this intense rollercoaster of emotions, you know? There's this mix of excitement, nerves, and just a whole lot of pressure. Every moment spent studying feels like diving into this deep pool of knowledge, and sometimes it's like swimming against the current. But there's also this determination pushing me forward, this drive to show what I'm capable of. Every page I turn, every concept I grasp, it's like a small victory. But then, there are those moments of doubt, those times when I wonder if I'll make it through. It's this constant battle between feeling confident and feeling overwhelmed. Yet, through it all, I know it's shaping me, molding me into someone stronger and more resilient. Yeah, it's a wild ride, but I guess that's just part of the journey towards those board exams.
Yes plan B,C,D so on.
I always say to students never ever depressed if you failed to achieve your goals just focus on other chances.
Thank you sir. It was much needed.
This guy needs a applause
Such true thing, no one dares to speak this reality ❤
This is what true motivation actually means🔥
So touching!! One of the best episodes you have ever done!!
We, as parents need to learn and unlearn a lot of things. It’s an eye opener!! Thanks a lot Akash🙏🏽
Been studying for exams for the last 5 years now. Doctor told me that i had blood pressure problems yesterday, I might need the BP pills for life. I'm 23. Everyone around me thinks that I've got such an easy life that all I have to do is stay home and study. I've been depressed for almost 6 years. Have social anxiety. Still nowhere close to my goal. Thanku for making such videos and spreading awareness 🙏
Beta hum sab aap ke saath hai ...mujhe maloom hai aapne bahoot hard work kiya hai..ek baat jo hamare saath galat hui hai wo kisi aur ke saath na ho jay iska hame khyal rakhna hai..aur mai dua karongi ke aap jaldi se sehatyaab ho jai.. best of luck😊
Got a similar problem
I'm jee aspirant and due to prolonged sitting I messed up my digestive system to such an extent that I got GERD(gastro esophageal reflux), causes me burning and breathing issues every single frickin day.
Don't worry build skills
5 saal m bhi nahi ukhad paye chodh de na. tum mehnat krne walo m se hote to 2nd time m kr lete, tum late latif ho baap maa ke paise waste bnd kro
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I have been binge-watching your videos since then last two days. I'm so glad CZcams recommended me your channel. The way you narrate everything makes it so engaging for the viewers. Ofc, the content is top notch as well. I am sure it takes a lot of research, skill and hardwork to make these videos. Please keep up the great work sir.
My first ever comment....heart touching video..me mother of 12 year old daughter...touched so much...great job keep it up...go places
As a neet aspirant 2024
Totally can relate 😢😢
Thanks Sir... It really needed... 😊
Hatsoff for such open discussion
I am watching the episodes of Deshbhakt for the past 3 to 4 years, but this particular episode will be very close to me. As in the past 3 to 4 years I have not made a single comment on any episode but this episode was something else, which force me to do so.
Thank you Akash Banerjee and the entire Deshbhakt team for this wonderful episode. Hope to watch more episodes like this in the future ❤
will do our best
@@thedeshbhakt
The New York Times article delves into the discriminatory policies and mindset of the Indian
government, particularly within the framework of the National Register of Citizens (NRC) in Assam.
The repercussions of the government's attempts to identify and expel alleged illegal immigrants have
far-reaching consequences for individuals and communities, as illustrated by cases such as Noor
Begum's tr@gic story.
1. Citizenship Determinations: The NRC places the burden of proving citizenship on individuals,
yet the criteria for inclusion remain opaque. Noor Begum's case underscores how long-term
residents can be classified as illegal foreigners based on bureaucratic decisions.
2. Mental Health Impact: Noor Begum's su1cde underscores the psychological toll of the
citizenship verification process. The uncertainty regarding one's citizenship status can lead to severe
mental health issues, including an xiety and de press ion.
3. Documentation Challenges: Many individuals, particularly in rural areas, lack the necessary
documentation to prove their citizenship. Illiteracy exacerbates the problem, making it difficult for
genuine citizens to navigate the bureaucratic requirements.
4. Selective Enforcement and Religious Bias: Concerns arise about the NRC process
disproportionately targeting Muslims. Cases like Noor Begum's suggest that Foreigners' Tribunal
determinations may be influenced by religious bias, with Muslims facing harsher scrutiny than
Hindus who appeal their citizenship status.
5. Government's Populist Agenda: The government's push for the NRC aligns with a populist
narrative that blames immigrants for economic challenges. BJP leaders, including Amit Shah, have
used dehumanizing language, referring to migrants as "infiltrators" and framing the NRC as a means
of removing them.
6. Potential for Forced Migration: The article warns that the government's plan to deport those
deemed illegal immigrants, especially if the NRC process is extended nationwide, could lead to a
massive refugee crisis, comparable to the Rohingya crisis or China's mass internment system.
7. Impact on Communities: The NRC process has created a sense of fear and insecurity within
communities, particularly among Muslims. Noor Begum's case exemplifies how families can be torn
apart, with some members deemed citizens and others labeled as illegal foreigners.
8. Arbitrary Determinations: The article highlights the arbitrary nature of the NRC's
determinations. It suggests that even individuals with valid claims to citizenship may struggle due to
bureaucratic inefficiencies and errors in documentation.
9. Human Rights Concerns: Human Rights Watch has expressed concerns about the arbitrary
and discriminatory nature of the NRC process. This raises questions about the fairness and
impartiality of the Foreigners' Tribunals.
10. International Response: The United Nations, Human Rights Watch, and the US Commission
on International Religious Freedom have all warned about the potential humanitarian crisis resulting
from the NRC process.
11. Lack of Attention: The article points out that the looming crisis in Assam hasn't received
sufficient mainstream attention, raising questions about the accountability of the government's
actions.
12. Historical Context: The roots of the NRC process can be traced back to the demographic
shifts in Assam during the 19th century and the partition of the subcontinent in 1947.
13. Impact on Children: The detention camps, including the one under construction, raise
concerns about the well-being and education of children. The government's assurance of providing
educational facilities to detained children in nearby schools is met with skepticism.
14. Reluctance of Bangladesh: Bangladesh has expressed reluctance in accepting the stateless
people, creating further uncertainty about the future of those facing deportation.
15. Comparison to Other Crises: The potential scale of forced migration resulting from the NRC
process is compared to the Rohingya crisis and China's mass internment system.
16. Rise of Hindu Nationalism: The rise of Hindu nationalism and anti-Muslim sentiment in
recent years has contributed to the urgency and enforcement of the NRC process.
17. Political Promises: The BJP's promises during the 2019 Indian election to implement the NRC
and address the issue of Muslim migrants in Assam contribute to the political backdrop.
18. Legal Appeals Process: While individuals can appeal to Foreigners' Tribunals, the article
suggests that the process may not be fair, with concerns that Hindus might receive more lenient
treatment than Muslims.
19. Citizenship Amendment Bill: The proposed Citizenship Amendment Bill, which carves out
exceptions for certain immigrant communities but not Muslims, adds to the concerns of religious
bias.
20. Global Refugee Crisis: The article concludes by emphasizing that if India goes through with
mass deportations, it could significantly contribute to the global refugee crisis, marking a
humanitarian disaster of unprecedented proportions
@@thedeshbhakt SIR ONE VIDEO ON ASSAM DE TEN TION CENTRE AND ITS INHUMANE ACTS PLS
Noor Begum is mentioned in the New York Times article as a poignant example of the human impact
of the National Register of Citizens (NRC) in Assam, India. She lived in a small hamlet in a flood soaked district and was deeply affected after finding out that she and her mother had been excluded
from the citizenship lists. Noor's father and seven siblings were included on the list.
The exclusion didn't make sense to the family, as they all lived together and were born in the same
place. Despite their shared circumstances, some family members were considered Indian citizens,
while others were labeled as illegal foreigners. Noor's father, Abdul Kalam, a retired laborer,
emphasized that she considered herself Indian and even used to sing Indian national songs at school.
Tragically, the stress and anxiety over the citizenship list led to Noor Begum spiraling into depression.
In June, on a bright morning, she han ged herself from a rafter at the age of 14. Her case exemplifies
the profound emotional and psychological toll that the NRC process is taking on individuals and
families, particularly those who are erroneously excluded from the citizenship lists. The arbitrary
nature of the determinations and the lack of proper documentation contribute to the despair and
desperation felt by many affected individuals.
I failed twice in my graduation first year. The world seemed like it has ended for me. Everybody lost faith in me: friends, relatives and society around mocked me and labelled me as a failure. I also started doubting my life choices. The worst phase of my life. I also boiled down to the 'last option'. However, luckily my parents especially my father showed faith in me and gave me confidence to try for one last time. I worked hard this time from ZERO like you did. I worked on my handwriting very much like you from nursery cursive handwriting books. I studied maths of class 11th and 12th by myself and taught calculus to myself. This hard work paid off and got passed my exams this time and eventually completed my graduation. This is my story. I hope it inspires you. And remember failure is not the end of the world rather it's the beginning of a new and better one.
How you complete 3yrs in one year. 1st, 2nd & 3rd year?
Well at least your parents had faith on you 😂 here in my case, they're the most negative persons in my life
@@beamerican6766 I said 'eventually' completed my graduation. Of course first year was difficult as I failed twice in the first year but then I worked hard and eventually completed graduation.
@@user-jw5bl9iu7nyes I can understand as everyone is not lucky to have supporting parents who support their kids in thin and thick. But don't worry about that and just keep faith in yourself. And I'm sure you'll surpass every hurdle that is coming your way. Good luck.
@@rohit_1309 I have also fear about my 1st year since entrance are near and don't know which college and branch or a Bsc degree. So asking since not good at study but I also started reading sci from 6th-10th(failed but I've completely math). But some wrong people and lack guidance have take drop. But again almost failed. And don't want my local college BSC degree as 11-12th were study is joke for government teacher and classmates. Teachers be like no can remove and classmates be let play pubg or make gfs
And I don't want unskilled or no knowledge degree(as you seen in 12th fail bani banai vyawasta- teachers gives Copy to students to pass and don't teach whole year).
appreciate Your authenticity....very very good job 👏 👍
Kudos!!! to your honesty. Keep it up
Very introspective I must say. Life isn't about reaching destination brimming with happiness it's a journey of struggles, even if we don't reach this destination we must learn to enjoy this journey. I loved you sharing something so personal to you and even I haven't achieved everything I wanted, but the fact remains that I try to do so and won't ever give up and I hope people after seeing this video realize the same
Well said…life is full of challenges and everyone has to go through it wether rich poor, in IIT or in random college. Be a IAS or business tycoon….life is not easy for anyone.
No failure is bigger than your life.
Thanks for sharing your story.
You did a great service to the country. Respect.🙏
thanks for sharing your inspiring story. As a parent i will always keep this in my mind till my last breath. Huge respect for you. God bless you. will Pray for your success.
Akash bhai ye episode ab tak ka sabse badhiya...I can co-relate with you and your struggles..thanks for sharing❤🙏
This video was more like," There's a path always leading you to become someone you can be proud of " than a so-called " motivational " video. You nailed it, Mr. Banerjee. Much appreciated.
Perfectly said Akash. I hope all parents alter their mindset for the better...
"my story of failure" perfect title🙌🏻 love you sir... Inspiring..
This coaching centre and blind and deaf parents is a very dangerous combination.
My parents forced me to take science. My 12th was miserable.
Self study is important and more impactful than coaching centre.
U r so lucky to have such parents❤
Kya baat hai bhaiya .
Aapke baat ko mera pura samarthan.
It’s a blessing to have parents who believe in you and back you up no matter what the circumstances are. And I feel lucky to be blessed in this life.
Akash your story and failures have made you what you are ... The best thing is that you are living with your morals ... And that's inspiring ... Thanks for The Deshbhakt channel 🙏🙌
ravinder - i only know understand what kind of impact parents have - maybe living with morals comes from there
however without member support that would have been even more difficult - so thanks
Dear Akash, you are so inspirational & practical. By shifting to "Humanities" you did the right thing. The world actually needs to be taught humanity in every aspect today. Keep up the good work 👌🏻❤
Best video,best message 🙏thankyou ❤
Inspiring..parents should watch this...self motivated 👍
One of the loveliest episode by you and your team. Call me middle class probashi bengali with similar start, but I am sure millions watching this would be able to resonate their struggle and get the strength for another innings in their life. Thank you dada. 🥰