Gratitude! 🙏🏽 My situation is as follows “Narc husband NEVER responded to Divorce” I was to wrapped up in my new career to pursue finalizing it through Default, Then a incident occurred at work, putting me off on Workers Comp. After loosing my cousin,lil sister 5 days Apart, and my uncle the day after I laid my lil sister to rest.GRIEF & Codependency compounded pushed me back with the Narc!! DARKEST Existence I’ve EVER survived!!!! Fast forward I am as of TODAY preparing ALL the documents to walk the Default paperwork in court. He is so far GONE with hisself and reality! EVERYTHING DOCUMENTED from last year ALONE is GOING too “Forever SCAR our 7 year old daughter” Nonetheless Lawfully he will FOREVER SUFFER Abandonment, and FOREVER ABOLISHED for THE hell he intentionally dragged the MOST “INNOCENT/IMPORTANT LOVERS” he Faked love with REAL HATE!! He Lied/lies so HORRIFICALLY! I DOCUMENTED him texting “he was NOT served, Lying/Dismissing whats been documented in court” I have another documented case opened in 2022 with allegations.for his negligence by abandoning our kids, he left our daughter at his sons mother house unattended for a night! I cooperated and was cleared after investigation. I believe he abandoned his son! Then recently he abandoned our daughter again by leaving her unattended at his brothers house for a night!! He is Dangerous with NO CARE in the world, for the care he portrays to the world!! He is battling a lying WAR he intentionally caused/causing The already LOST/losing effect Documented by TRUTHFUL events Proving “His failures Harmfully Failed EVERYONE surrounding him with LOVE” MOST IMPORTANTLY he FAILED Our innocent children, so he remains passable himself for others!!!
I experienced more abuse after my divorce. Your heading is so appropriate. It was a nightmare and it lasted for nearly 20 years. I am grateful that is all in the past... Love and Light, Danish 💕🕯️
Absolutely correct. I knew for sure what the monster was capable of doing after separation. So I waited for my so to turn 18 and then moved out of the house. He failed to convince my son to stay with him. He made nasty smear campaigns against me and tried to trouble me but failed. I taught him a lesson.
It's very hard if you don't have support. You've had no support all your life if you had a narcissistic mother. You have nothing to build a new life on.
That's why you need places like this. People here know. If your city or county has mental health services, by the way, try seeing if they have support groups for trauma survivors. There are also online groups, like on betterhelp. Good luck. You are NOT alone. ❤
You got this. There are ways and even though it doesn't seem like it, its worth THAT trouble than the Narcissistic he'll you're living in. You got this.💪🏾💛😍
MY divorce was hell. He ended up getting physical custody of the children he never cared about. (Workaholic). Accused me of being mentally unstable & that I abandoned my sons. 20 years later I am still damaged.
I RAN to youtube to connect to Danish videos today because I feel bad after having my parents over for a week. They left two days ago and I felt okay until today something hit me. Depressed, no energy, feel like a mess. Can barely eat. Went to store to buy food but was struggeling to know "how to shop" 😢. Confused out of my mind and I don't understand why. But I know something was done to me during those days.
Oh such drama, sounds like you were drained, I set the tone "now" with family members, feeling secure at 63 if not now then when, hope you can shake it off, serenity now!
I understand you. I have had a visitor in my house, 2 days for lunch. After 2 days i realised, what happens, what person he was. A narcissist. I felt bad.
Spot on! Wow. I'm so grateful to have had the support of my close family to help me stay cool, factual, and business like. I couldn't belief what hit me when i moved out. And thankfully i had covid, and had to isolate. Packed my things and moved into an apartment that i had just secured. 24 hrs later the nightmare started. All communication was through text, so i compiled all that and send it to my lawyer. After he had read the exchanges, he said you have two options. Get a protective order in place (lawyer) or you can go through the rcmp which can result in a criminal record against the narc. I was dealing with a covert/vulnerable narc. So underhanded and subtle these individuals. What an eye opener. I should also mention that i had a prenup. Still keeping fingers crossed that its all done. Thank you for posting this information! Stay safe, be you, and be well ❤
Hello 👋 Danish 😊. I lost many family members and relatives because of my mom's smear campaign against me. She is the oldest of 6 children. My maternal grandmother was one of the few people who believed in me and my abuse. But, sadly she passed in 2013. She was very angry at my mother for how she treated me. So, I am an outcast to most of my family. I have not spoken to my immediate family in about 2 years.
I like it, you've a good mind set, too high a price for me, he's still worth, I've got him hog tied but it can be a daily struggle especially this time of yr when cabin fever abounds but I'm so very happy for you, you're acing it!
@@joseenoel8093 I come from a poor family, my father took his own life when I was too young. My brother had a rivalry with me since I was a child and was the first narcissist to traumatize me. In high school, I was under the toxic influence of a narcissist who abandoned me like garbage when he no longer needed me. Then a failed marriage and divorce from a narcissistic, paranoid woman and blackmail with love for her child. In the last year of my professional career, I was bullied by two narcissistic sadist clients. I have been following this channel for almost a year, I started going to psychoanalysis twice a week and I can only see the destruction these toxic people have wrought in my life. This year I took custody of my daughter, ended my cooperation with these psychopaths at work and converted to my native faith. These experiences have taught me that these people use fear and illusion and can kiss my ass, sometimes you just can't stand it anymore. I would like to thank this community and, above all, @DanishBashir because they gave me faith that it is possible to get out of this, but it is impossible to do it alone. Narcissistic hyenas prey on our isolation. God bless you
Yes you apologize but they never do or never admit their wrong when they are it’s always one sided and they always want you to beg them for forgiveness even when they start the problem to begin with thier crazy self centered people but his actions just made me stronger it makes you realize your own self worth and value that your better off without them so they actually help you too😂
Thank you for making these videos, I have NPD the very covert type you talk about with conduct disorder and DID, I decided after many years of treatment to help people escape narcissistic abuse and i enjoy watching you do the same, i want to collab with you if you agree I can tell honestly stuff now that I dedicated myself to it.
In my case it has gotten worse, to the point that my health has severely suffered. I have been trying to get my divorce for nearly 5 years and for a while couldn't fight it. He regularly tells me he wishes I would drop dead. But now I am determined to move forward and get it done this year ASAP. He will not destroy me ❤
Flip the script on your narc! Mirror them the way they do to you. Confuse your narc while planning your exit very carefully, stash away money! Then pull the rug out from underneath them the day you move out and vanish! Don't feel guilty, you're just trying to save your life!
Record him. He's committing a Federal crime. Hope he likes 3 meals and a cot! Wouldn't get your hopes up with the current Federal government though. They side with criminals nowadays. They protect their useful idiots. Cause chaos with them and come in to pretend to save the day by taking your money and rights.
This is me!!! My stbx is 100% worse! I never thought he would do this to me. I haven’t worked in over 10 years due to my health! He left and took everything out of the bank and opened his own account and used his new girls friends name as part of the pass word it was in the email lol and give me no money now. I live with my daughter and son in law and 2 granddaughters. They support me 100%! I’m so grateful for them. I couldn’t stand him cheating anymore. I took his abuse for 32 years! I can’t get an attorney because I can’t afford one. So I can sue my ex for alimony. So right now I have nothing!
Currently dealing with a vindictive narcissist at my college. Used to be my best friend. Don't want to step up to his level and take revenge because karma will do the job.
Spot on, they do not know what mutual respect is, compassion, understanding ...... only torturing and putting down their victim, and yes mentally unstable, crazy and weaponise the children ...
I am going through a similar thing. I filed for divorce from my soon be to ex wife of 16+ years. She has been terrible emotional abusive towards me and to my 9 year old daughter. Now she wants to see her all the time despite not wanting to do anything with her prior to moving out. I can't even have her not see her since the state of Florida/ attorneys say that emotional abuse is hard to prove. 16 years of hell and not even understanding all the things going on only to realize the full extent recently with lots of trauma counseling. These people are truly evil. I believe my ex is a covert/vulnerable narcissist.
Well… it took me a year to see the truth. She bread crumbed me and once a month we world try to get together. It would take her 5 minutes to say the most hurtful thing possible. It was my birthday she always made my birthday an event. I thought she had just forgot. After a year I see she planned it. She had anticipated my question. As we were eating the pizza that was just served she answered my vulnerable heart felt inquiry. Wow. She gutted me as my metaphorical insides slid deep gash from my abdomen up through the heart. (At the time I just had no idea that it was a brilliantly efficient disembowelment. Maximum effect least effort. Looking back now I began to observe how much she would avoid effort as to not waist energy on something or some object that did exist in her inner landscape. I walked out when she said it. I had had one bite of pizza. Several dinners she did this as soon as dinner was served. Attest 5 or 6 tones. She took a bite right after she did it. She did not even look up from her plate. The her chewing did not break its steady rhythm. I walked home. She would never comment when I texted her about it. When I was walking I thought I noticed a smugness a moment of happiness or pride. Like it was a work of art. It is was like a body language like tossing into the crowd after touch down. A subtle fist pump.
Before he ask me the divorce, i went to another city, and when I was back definitively, i was faced by feeling of guilty because i dont felt the same about him, like love, or care. He wasn´t doing nothing to protect me or demonstrate love. Later, he did many acusations of a lot of situations that never happened, send me e-mails and turn all the story to his side. I never called and blocked all the ways to acess me, but he did it by defamation, or sending me messages that was erased (on the other phone cell number) , or"weaponizing" their family and friends, even my friends against me, and sadly, i reacted sometimes.
If it included his narc parents he has a right to expose them too. I’ve exposed my past narcs (family included) if I never learned this mind F behavior it saved me and my life 😊
Not a vendetta. More like, they have given him the right to speak up on the subject. They gave him his experience with narcissists, his credentials, and his direction in life. And they are what made him relatable to people like me, who needed to know I wasn't the only one. I suggest if they didn't want people talking about them, they should not have been so damn interesting for all the wrong reasons. 🤔
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Gratitude! 🙏🏽
My situation is as follows “Narc husband NEVER responded to Divorce” I was to wrapped up in my new career to pursue finalizing it through Default, Then a incident occurred at work, putting me off on Workers Comp. After loosing my cousin,lil sister 5 days Apart, and my uncle the day after I laid my lil sister to rest.GRIEF & Codependency compounded pushed me back with the Narc!! DARKEST Existence I’ve EVER survived!!!!
Fast forward I am as of TODAY preparing ALL the documents to walk the Default paperwork in court. He is so far GONE with hisself and reality! EVERYTHING DOCUMENTED from last year ALONE is GOING too “Forever SCAR our 7 year old daughter” Nonetheless Lawfully he will FOREVER SUFFER Abandonment, and FOREVER ABOLISHED for THE hell he intentionally dragged the MOST “INNOCENT/IMPORTANT LOVERS” he Faked love with REAL HATE!! He Lied/lies so HORRIFICALLY! I DOCUMENTED him texting “he was NOT served, Lying/Dismissing whats been documented in court” I have another documented case opened in 2022 with allegations.for his negligence by abandoning our kids, he left our daughter at his sons mother house unattended for a night! I cooperated and was cleared after investigation. I believe he abandoned his son!
Then recently he abandoned our daughter again by leaving her unattended at his brothers house for a night!! He is Dangerous with NO CARE in the world, for the care he portrays to the world!! He is battling a lying WAR he intentionally caused/causing The already LOST/losing effect Documented by TRUTHFUL events Proving “His failures Harmfully Failed EVERYONE surrounding him with LOVE” MOST IMPORTANTLY he FAILED Our innocent children, so he remains passable himself for others!!!
They treat you miserably yet they make you feel like a horrible person for living them... Sad truth really. Damn if you do damn if you don't.
Quit feeling for a non-feeling being, incapable of any relationship.
It's all an act.
I experienced more abuse after my divorce. Your heading is so appropriate.
It was a nightmare and it lasted for nearly 20 years. I am grateful that is all in the past... Love and Light, Danish 💕🕯️
John 3:3. ESV Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.
Absolutely correct. I knew for sure what the monster was capable of doing after separation. So I waited for my so to turn 18 and then moved out of the house. He failed to convince my son to stay with him. He made nasty smear campaigns against me and tried to trouble me but failed. I taught him a lesson.
It's very hard if you don't have support. You've had no support all your life if you had a narcissistic mother. You have nothing to build a new life on.
That's why you need places like this. People here know. If your city or county has mental health services, by the way, try seeing if they have support groups for trauma survivors. There are also online groups, like on betterhelp. Good luck. You are NOT alone. ❤
You got this. There are ways and even though it doesn't seem like it, its worth THAT trouble than the Narcissistic he'll you're living in. You got this.💪🏾💛😍
@natztalk hell****
MY divorce was hell. He ended up getting physical custody of the children he never cared about. (Workaholic). Accused me of being mentally unstable & that I abandoned my sons. 20 years later I am still damaged.
I’m so sorry. Please don’t give up. Keep fighting to be happy again. Do not let him win. God be with you ❤
I’m so sorry. Please don’t give up. Keep fighting to be happy again. Do not let him win. God be with you ❤
I RAN to youtube to connect to Danish videos today because I feel bad after having my parents over for a week. They left two days ago and I felt okay until today something hit me. Depressed, no energy, feel like a mess. Can barely eat. Went to store to buy food but was struggeling to know "how to shop" 😢. Confused out of my mind and I don't understand why. But I know something was done to me during those days.
Oh such drama, sounds like you were drained, I set the tone "now" with family members, feeling secure at 63 if not now then when, hope you can shake it off, serenity now!
I understand you.
I have had a visitor in my house, 2 days for lunch. After 2 days i realised, what happens, what person he was. A narcissist. I felt bad.
Thank you. Sometimes I just need to know I’m not crazy
That's certainly what they want and need us to think. You aren't the only one, not at all. ❤
Spot on! Wow. I'm so grateful to have had the support of my close family to help me stay cool, factual, and business like. I couldn't belief what hit me when i moved out. And thankfully i had covid, and had to isolate. Packed my things and moved into an apartment that i had just secured. 24 hrs later the nightmare started. All communication was through text, so i compiled all that and send it to my lawyer. After he had read the exchanges, he said you have two options. Get a protective order in place (lawyer) or you can go through the rcmp which can result in a criminal record against the narc. I was dealing with a covert/vulnerable narc. So underhanded and subtle these individuals. What an eye opener.
I should also mention that i had a prenup. Still keeping fingers crossed that its all done.
Thank you for posting this information!
Stay safe, be you, and be well ❤
You just told my story with all the mistakes I made. 😢
Having been through this, I 100% agree with this message.
Thank you for brilliant advice Danish . Exactly the case. Facts and evidence and no emotions when dealing with those monsters.
Hello 👋 Danish 😊.
I lost many family members and relatives because of my mom's smear campaign against me. She is the oldest of 6 children. My maternal grandmother was one of the few people who believed in me and my abuse. But, sadly she passed in 2013. She was very angry at my mother for how she treated me.
So, I am an outcast to most of my family. I have not spoken to my immediate family in about 2 years.
Why is divorce so expensive? - because it's worth it
Why is breaking up with a narcissist so emotionally costly? - because it's worth it
I like it, you've a good mind set, too high a price for me, he's still worth, I've got him hog tied but it can be a daily struggle especially this time of yr when cabin fever abounds but I'm so very happy for you, you're acing it!
@@joseenoel8093 I come from a poor family, my father took his own life when I was too young. My brother had a rivalry with me since I was a child and was the first narcissist to traumatize me. In high school, I was under the toxic influence of a narcissist who abandoned me like garbage when he no longer needed me. Then a failed marriage and divorce from a narcissistic, paranoid woman and blackmail with love for her child. In the last year of my professional career, I was bullied by two narcissistic sadist clients. I have been following this channel for almost a year, I started going to psychoanalysis twice a week and I can only see the destruction these toxic people have wrought in my life. This year I took custody of my daughter, ended my cooperation with these psychopaths at work and converted to my native faith. These experiences have taught me that these people use fear and illusion and can kiss my ass, sometimes you just can't stand it anymore. I would like to thank this community and, above all, @DanishBashir because they gave me faith that it is possible to get out of this, but it is impossible to do it alone. Narcissistic hyenas prey on our isolation. God bless you
Yes you apologize but they never do or never admit their wrong when they are it’s always one sided and they always want you to beg them for forgiveness even when they start the problem to begin with thier crazy self centered people but his actions just made me stronger it makes you realize your own self worth and value that your better off without them so they actually help you too😂
Thank you for making these videos, I have NPD the very covert type you talk about with conduct disorder and DID, I decided after many years of treatment to help people escape narcissistic abuse and i enjoy watching you do the same, i want to collab with you if you agree I can tell honestly stuff now that I dedicated myself to it.
You have interesting videos I hope you make longer and more about this.
Good job!
I’m going through this right now. I filed for divorce and left.
Thank you for your content.
In my case it has gotten worse, to the point that my health has severely suffered. I have been trying to get my divorce for nearly 5 years and for a while couldn't fight it. He regularly tells me he wishes I would drop dead. But now I am determined to move forward and get it done this year ASAP. He will not destroy me ❤
Flip the script on your narc! Mirror them the way they do to you. Confuse your narc while planning your exit very carefully, stash away money! Then pull the rug out from underneath them the day you move out and vanish! Don't feel guilty, you're just trying to save your life!
God bless that lady’s heart 😢
Yep mine is out to get me!!! He is still stealing our mail!!
Record him. He's committing a Federal crime. Hope he likes 3 meals and a cot! Wouldn't get your hopes up with the current Federal government though. They side with criminals nowadays. They protect their useful idiots. Cause chaos with them and come in to pretend to save the day by taking your money and rights.
$20,000 later … you are so real man
This amount only if you don’t fight for your rights, I leave most to be free
THIS NEEDS MORE VIEWS! 😭
This is so true, I didn't know how they plot and plan. I'm so thankful knowing these facts
Very true....still worth healing
Absolutely correct 💯 it carries on for years!
This is me!!! My stbx is 100% worse! I never thought he would do this to me. I haven’t worked in over 10 years due to my health! He left and took everything out of the bank and opened his own account and used his new girls friends name as part of the pass word it was in the email lol and give me no money now. I live with my daughter and son in law and 2 granddaughters. They support me 100%! I’m so grateful for them. I couldn’t stand him cheating anymore. I took his abuse for 32 years! I can’t get an attorney because I can’t afford one. So I can sue my ex for alimony. So right now I have nothing!
Currently dealing with a vindictive narcissist at my college.
Used to be my best friend.
Don't want to step up to his level and take revenge because karma will do the job.
85% of the time , abusers get custody! Survivors are considered non credible as they are never convicted.
Rebecca Zung recommends leverage!
Dude - this is it!!! To a T
Thank you 🙏 so much for your videos and your helpful information it’s so important people understand these kind of people ❤❤❤
Spot on, they do not know what mutual respect is, compassion, understanding ...... only torturing and putting down their victim, and yes mentally unstable, crazy and weaponise the children ...
Exactly 💯
Just the beginning, kids r grown, start over
I am going through a similar thing. I filed for divorce from my soon be to ex wife of 16+ years. She has been terrible emotional abusive towards me and to my 9 year old daughter. Now she wants to see her all the time despite not wanting to do anything with her prior to moving out. I can't even have her not see her since the state of Florida/ attorneys say that emotional abuse is hard to prove. 16 years of hell and not even understanding all the things going on only to realize the full extent recently with lots of trauma counseling. These people are truly evil. I believe my ex is a covert/vulnerable narcissist.
Gosh a narc mother is a horrible demon.
Gosh I just realised that not just my mother but my father is a narc eww how disgusting.
Thank you for this vid
Well… it took me a year to see the truth. She bread crumbed me and once a month we world try to get together. It would take her 5 minutes to say the most hurtful thing possible. It was my birthday she always made my birthday an event. I thought she had just forgot. After a year I see she planned it. She had anticipated my question. As we were eating the pizza that was just served she answered my vulnerable heart felt inquiry. Wow. She gutted me as my metaphorical insides slid deep gash from my abdomen up through the heart. (At the time I just had no idea that it was a brilliantly efficient disembowelment. Maximum effect least effort.
Looking back now I began to observe how much she would avoid effort as to not waist energy on something or some object that did exist in her inner landscape.
I walked out when she said it. I had had one bite of pizza. Several dinners she did this as soon as dinner was served. Attest 5 or 6 tones. She took a bite right after she did it. She did not even look up from her plate. The her chewing did not break its steady rhythm. I walked home. She would never comment when I texted her about it. When I was walking I thought I noticed a smugness a moment of happiness or pride. Like it was a work of art. It is was like a body language like tossing into the crowd after touch down. A subtle fist pump.
Any evidence is better than no evidence!
Before he ask me the divorce, i went to another city, and when I was back definitively, i was faced by feeling of guilty because i dont felt the same about him, like love, or care. He wasn´t doing nothing to protect me or demonstrate love. Later, he did many acusations of a lot of situations that never happened, send me e-mails and turn all the story to his side. I never called and blocked all the ways to acess me, but he did it by defamation, or sending me messages that was erased (on the other phone cell number) , or"weaponizing" their family and friends, even my friends against me, and sadly, i reacted sometimes.
Absolutely 💯 I wanted to leave but it was a manipulation tatic....when you do it's starts reverse discarded cycle.
They wont be cinvicted. Do not let them back in your life or into your inner circle!
Hii Danish,
How can I connect with you??
Need your help.
@narcabusecoach #askDanish Would you please cover will and inheritance in narcissistic relationships, parents, siblings. Thank you!
Tyvm
Hii Danish..
Just watched Oppenheimer can anyone watch and see narcissist in that man plz comment who is narcissist?
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They were never there! Putative parents. But it seems as if you WERE there Danish, but you would have been a child I think!😊
TITLE DOES NOT MAKE SENSE ⚠️
Lucky you, unfortunately like many horrors this must be lived to be known of, he might be saying shit never ends.... Every case is different....
@@joseenoel8093 he corrected the title .
Thanks for your input
Danish ,don’t give your personal experience with father ,and mother.iT sounds like personal vendetta.
If it included his narc parents he has a right to expose them too. I’ve exposed my past narcs (family included) if I never learned this mind F behavior it saved me and my life 😊
Not a vendetta. More like, they have given him the right to speak up on the subject. They gave him his experience with narcissists, his credentials, and his direction in life. And they are what made him relatable to people like me, who needed to know I wasn't the only one. I suggest if they didn't want people talking about them, they should not have been so damn interesting for all the wrong reasons. 🤔