I have had GAD for decades but it comes and goes, depends upon circumstances. Dodgy childhoods are a nuisance, mine was awful but I got a great education and it helped me through life.
I think I have a mixture of things. The GAD thing of researching and trying to figuring it all out, ruminating, in, my head....and all those things he listed a traits, oh yeah.... perfectionism, hyperresponsible.....looking for threats, worrying, yep...all that...and that's probably why I'm writing this..... Been like this since young....then I think that led to overwhelm DP/DR..from high school on.....then that scared the crap out of me....panic attacks, agoraphobic, more anxiety...Then decades of trying to figure out the DP/DR...anxiety always right there...some peace....but always dealing with anxiety plus the keeping from freaking out from the DP/DR... Then come my 50's, hormones, life changes and tragedies piled up in a matter of months...the cushion to deal with stuff is less and I find myself having panic and a lot more anxiety....dissociation on top of DP/DR....then more anxiety and fear about that....Now things are hard to do, DP/DR that was there plus plus plus.....Hard at home.... ruminating, trying to figure out, fix....scared doing anything, harder to leave home, everything is just distorted, unreal, and it's hard to not get 2nd fear and sit and let this be.... terrified. Obcessing over it, over and over.... So to stop thinking seems dangerous, uncomfortable....to stop and to do something else seems not safe, plus been worrying and thinking so much over the years, literally do not remember how to just be. So my point being, I think these different types of anxiety things can blend together.....But yes my thinking style....yep...need to shift....👍. This podcast was very revealing......
GAD is what I suffer from now. And I am avoided things because I can’t eat in restaurants I am very phobic about being with people because I am nauseous almost all the time.
So I pretty much identify 💯 with how you describe GAD. Amazing. However recently I worried about a few things that I have no control over and my anxiety now is worse. Would I still treat it the same? Acknowledge the symptoms and don’t react?
Worry about things you can't control ... feel anxious. Walk away from that worry because its pointless ... also feel anxious because you are likely in the habit of using worry as soothing or seeking of safety, control, or comfort. It will feel wrong to leave your worries unaddressed. At that point the job is learning that you can handle that discomfort.
As a motorcycle mechanic i must think a lot and do it perfectly or something gonna go wrong. The responsability is huge. How to resolve that and not take things so seriously?
It's OK to take your work seriously. But after you've done the job and checked your work like any good mechanic would, its time to work on being uncomfortable with the idea that maybe the checking wasn't "enough" and that ruminating on it doesn't change anything even if you did miss something. Because I'm guessing that it's never been enough.
Really? It's not normal to worry about where to park a few hours before you leave for a destination? To me, that's the least you can do. I'd worry about best route to take, best time to leave/traffic condition, where to park, distance needed to walk, weather conditions, change needed to feed the parking machine, gas level, etc. the minute it was decided to go be it hours, days, weeks or months before. My wife on the other hand is the type who will just jump into the car and then ask how do we get there? Try as I may, can't get her behavior to rub off on me. Google search, Google maps, etc is feeding me well.
This is the best episode you've done that I've listened to.
I have had GAD for decades but it comes and goes, depends upon circumstances. Dodgy childhoods are a nuisance, mine was awful but I got a great education and it helped me through life.
"Dodgy childhoods are a nuisance" might be the best comment on the entire Internet today. No lie! And I'm really sorry you had to go through that.
I think I have a mixture of things. The GAD thing of researching and trying to figuring it all out, ruminating, in, my head....and all those things he listed a traits, oh yeah.... perfectionism, hyperresponsible.....looking for threats, worrying, yep...all that...and that's probably why I'm writing this.....
Been like this since young....then I think that led to overwhelm DP/DR..from high school on.....then that scared the crap out of me....panic attacks, agoraphobic, more anxiety...Then decades of trying to figure out the DP/DR...anxiety always right there...some peace....but always dealing with anxiety plus the keeping from freaking out from the DP/DR...
Then come my 50's, hormones, life changes and tragedies piled up in a matter of months...the cushion to deal with stuff is less and I find myself having panic and a lot more anxiety....dissociation on top of DP/DR....then more anxiety and fear about that....Now things are hard to do, DP/DR that was there plus plus plus.....Hard at home.... ruminating, trying to figure out, fix....scared doing anything, harder to leave home, everything is just distorted, unreal, and it's hard to not get 2nd fear and sit and let this be.... terrified. Obcessing over it, over and over....
So to stop thinking seems dangerous, uncomfortable....to stop and to do something else seems not safe, plus been worrying and thinking so much over the years, literally do not remember how to just be.
So my point being, I think these different types of anxiety things can blend together.....But yes my thinking style....yep...need to shift....👍. This podcast was very revealing......
this podcast IS gold
Awww thanks for the kind words. I appreciate it!
very eyeopening.
Omg is this why I can't shake my anxiety and DP/DR...lightbulb.
GAD is what I suffer from now. And I am avoided things because I can’t eat in restaurants I am very phobic about being with people because I am nauseous almost all the time.
So I pretty much identify 💯 with how you describe GAD. Amazing. However recently I worried about a few things that I have no control over and my anxiety now is worse. Would I still treat it the same? Acknowledge the symptoms and don’t react?
Worry about things you can't control ... feel anxious. Walk away from that worry because its pointless ... also feel anxious because you are likely in the habit of using worry as soothing or seeking of safety, control, or comfort. It will feel wrong to leave your worries unaddressed. At that point the job is learning that you can handle that discomfort.
As a motorcycle mechanic i must think a lot and do it perfectly or something gonna go wrong. The responsability is huge. How to resolve that and not take things so seriously?
It's OK to take your work seriously. But after you've done the job and checked your work like any good mechanic would, its time to work on being uncomfortable with the idea that maybe the checking wasn't "enough" and that ruminating on it doesn't change anything even if you did miss something. Because I'm guessing that it's never been enough.
I have GAD and I am afraid all the time and I am avoiding.
Amazing video.
Thank you. I'm glad you found it helpful or useful in some way!
Really? It's not normal to worry about where to park a few hours before you leave for a destination? To me, that's the least you can do. I'd worry about best route to take, best time to leave/traffic condition, where to park, distance needed to walk, weather conditions, change needed to feed the parking machine, gas level, etc. the minute it was decided to go be it hours, days, weeks or months before. My wife on the other hand is the type who will just jump into the car and then ask how do we get there? Try as I may, can't get her behavior to rub off on me. Google search, Google maps, etc is feeding me well.
How did you get so smart?