What I Wish I Knew Before Marriage || Stephanie Ike

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Komentáře • 187

  • @MercyKerris
    @MercyKerris Před 7 měsíci +222

    You don't find a partner in church, you find a partner in Christ. ❤

  • @motivated2010
    @motivated2010 Před 6 měsíci +38

    30 plus years of marriage and still learning-God is faithful..

  • @simphiwemanana9127
    @simphiwemanana9127 Před 6 měsíci +146

    "You don't know your brokenness until you're in an environment that brings it up".. ❤❤

  • @andrearonaldo11
    @andrearonaldo11 Před 7 měsíci +136

    “He’s healed wounds I didn’t even know existed.”
    That.Line.Right.There!!😭❤️

    • @marethabilemakepe6008
      @marethabilemakepe6008 Před 6 měsíci +3

      Wooow it helped me so much when she talks about being patient with other people because our journey is different thank you❤

  • @lynwilson9259
    @lynwilson9259 Před 7 měsíci +81

    "Some arguments you don't have face to face, you have them on your knees".

  • @lima_28
    @lima_28 Před 7 měsíci +37

    "Everyone is on a journey. Be patient with them "

  • @aliciagreen2206
    @aliciagreen2206 Před 27 dny +4

    Wow! "If you were the only image of God I see, would I want to know Him?" Such a POWERFUL statement!

  • @bonitabooker4440
    @bonitabooker4440 Před 8 měsíci +358

    What about the scripture that says we should not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers? I don’t think it’s wise to go into a marriage if you both aren’t Christians. However like the example Stephanie gave, if we have unsaved friends - both male and female, we can encourage them to come to know Jesus as Savior and Lord by the way we interact with them in love and patience, and especially praying for them. Marriage has enough challenges on its own. Don’t make it extra hard by going into it if one of you is saved and the other is not. What does the Word say? Lastly, if you find yourself in that situation once you are married, continue to pray for your unsaved spouse and walking in love, believing that they will get saved - especially if the unsaved spouse wants to stay married.

    • @m.h6858
      @m.h6858 Před 7 měsíci

      It is GOD that yokes people together, not religion. He knows the TRUE nature of a person's heart, not man.
      Take Queen Ester, for example, God NEEDED her in that position to save HIS people. King Ahasuerus wasn't a Jew/Hebrew, Ester was even told to hide her identity from everyone.
      So we can't box the Lord up, HE knows the plans He has for us, plans to prosper us, and not to harm us. He knew these plans BEFORE we were formed in our mother's womb. And it is HIS plans that will prevail. We simply must go to Him for our role and TRUST that our Father, our Creator, knows what is best for us🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @Lola-anointed
      @Lola-anointed Před 7 měsíci +31

      I love this. The dangers of being married to an unbeliever are too high, because the unsaved spouse needs to show willingness. My parents are married for more than 40 years. My dad hasn't changed and he is not interested in getting saved. He says he believes in cultural customs. He even knows that as his kids, we don't wish to have a marriage like theirs. He is so hard- headed.

    • @spirituallylovingme-11
      @spirituallylovingme-11 Před 7 měsíci +4

      💯 right

    • @praise3700
      @praise3700 Před 7 měsíci +13

      We need conversations like this from women submitted to God and their husbands!!!!!! I love this

    • @deesharii4893
      @deesharii4893 Před 7 měsíci +20

      I can’t even imagine how anyone who is truly saved can go into a marriage with an unbeliever! I think the elephant in the room are those individuals who claim to live and walk by faith but are actually walking in deception. People claim God said but it was really “I want…”.
      True faith does not covenant with the *unlikeness of God.

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 Před 6 měsíci +21

    That part. Marry a man that is saved and at least that one challenge that you don’t have to disagree about.

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci +19

    You don’t even know what’s broken until you are in an environment that brings it out. That’s good.

  • @sikemitayo
    @sikemitayo Před 5 měsíci +20

    Our job is to reflect God, not judge anyone. 📌

  • @efuaa2828
    @efuaa2828 Před 8 měsíci +132

    Learnt a lot here today… currently in a study group where young single women are being taught to be whole before they are attached to their husbands

    • @krissmith9952
      @krissmith9952 Před 7 měsíci +6

      Hallelujah ~ we are in new time, we need to be whole & love ourselves . Not be pressured into unhealthy relationships, not just marriage💚

    • @marianiwomugulizi3115
      @marianiwomugulizi3115 Před 6 měsíci +5

      Perfectly said we need to discover our selves more before inviting the other person in.... especially discovering our Worth and letting God to be the foundation of everything we do

    • @bridgetsapabil5606
      @bridgetsapabil5606 Před 5 měsíci +1

      I can I joined the group and how do I join please

    • @chukwumachikamnesokamsy6136
      @chukwumachikamnesokamsy6136 Před měsícem

      Please, how can I join the group

    • @AmbalaPauline
      @AmbalaPauline Před 29 dny

      Please how can i join the group

  • @jehannedufresne3998
    @jehannedufresne3998 Před 7 měsíci +66

    The question is: if you are a woman dating someone who claims to be a Christian but is not, what to do? Hmmm... the answer in this Clip for me was not clear enough.
    I prefer what a commenter said in here: do not be unequally yoked. Let's keep it plain and simple. We, single women of God, have no business dating a man who has no relationship with God.

    • @chosen1316
      @chosen1316 Před 7 měsíci +3

      I agree. I didn't know about being unequally yoked until it was said straight from the bible. It's dangerous being unequally yoked as a believer. This should have been clearly stated as you shared. Encouraging video nonetheless.

    • @DSN430
      @DSN430 Před 6 měsíci +1

      I think they're discussing it in the context of marriage. Some people become Christians after marriage and they are the ones who ask questions like that.

    • @kannshane9353
      @kannshane9353 Před měsícem +1

      I humbly offer 1 Cor. 7:12-16 and 1 Peter 3: 1-7
      not to encourage being unequally yoked but there is guidance if you are

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 Před 6 měsíci +11

    Every marriage has challenges even if married to a preacher or saved man. Pray pray pray. Marriage can be fun when you too are true friends.

    • @ianmcdonald8648
      @ianmcdonald8648 Před měsícem +1

      Friendship is a critical foundation for any Godly marriage. But that doesn't mean that you have to spend years trying to be a friend. It can happen naturally over a short time.

  • @mufunwapatience4972
    @mufunwapatience4972 Před 7 měsíci +38

    When she says man and wife is " an office in God" 💞

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo Před 5 měsíci

      Except that the statement isn’t Biblical.

    • @walkingministries5803
      @walkingministries5803 Před 4 měsíci

      @@Ad-Lobut how is it Not? We have a duty to speak the gospel to build the kingdom. Is it not? That in its self is a responsibility we are held to

    • @azpersonal
      @azpersonal Před 2 měsíci

      @@Ad-Loget the meaning of what she was trying to pass across

  • @carolbagonza4295
    @carolbagonza4295 Před 7 měsíci +3

    wow thank you so much, this so encouraging given the fact that tomorrow is my anniversary, we are making 3 years. thank you for shining more light on submission. i love it. Indeed Love is Patient

  • @Pomaa25
    @Pomaa25 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Just what I needed to hear!!

  • @tumelofaith5909
    @tumelofaith5909 Před 7 měsíci +12

    I love this, i was laughing through out because i can relate so much, i can't get angry at my husband all day like i cry for two minutes and next moment am happy.

  • @effortlesslynj
    @effortlesslynj Před 7 měsíci +6

    Seen Stephanie and had to click! Love hearing from a wise woman! ( before listening to the podcast). Will definitely drop a comment after :).

  • @omiquewilliams1478
    @omiquewilliams1478 Před 7 měsíci +2

    THIS WAS SO GOOD!

  • @cedarsable1014
    @cedarsable1014 Před 8 měsíci +6

    Oh my God, she really dropped wisdom ❤❤

  • @emekaazubuike8432
    @emekaazubuike8432 Před 4 měsíci +3

    I don't know how i stumbled on this. I must confess that this was such a wholesome, sound, healthy, spiritual and amazing content. Thank you for making it look so easy.😊😊

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci +1

    Love that answer: exposure is valuable

  • @abenaachie
    @abenaachie Před 7 měsíci +2

    This blessed me. Help me daily Holy Spirit ❤🙏🏾

  • @cassandrakwakye5941
    @cassandrakwakye5941 Před 7 měsíci +5

    This video blessed my morning ! I admire you both ! God bless ❤

  • @adebankebello
    @adebankebello Před 7 měsíci +4

    So many profound insights to pick from this. Thank you so much ❤️❤️

  • @LaRennEstherTV1985
    @LaRennEstherTV1985 Před 6 měsíci +5

    I love Pastor Stephanie ! I listen to her all the time!❤

  • @nadinedominique414
    @nadinedominique414 Před měsícem +1

    Stephanie is so wise! I can listen to her speak all day. I also love how I can connect with the way she thinks and explains everything. What a blessing!

  • @rashonmcnair978
    @rashonmcnair978 Před 7 měsíci +52

    Stephanie is so dope!! I absolutely love her. True woman and servant of God. Great interview!!❤🎉

  • @Mvpsavannah
    @Mvpsavannah Před 8 měsíci +8

    This video was amazing I sent it to all of my friends

  • @olabisidurojaiye
    @olabisidurojaiye Před 3 měsíci +1

    I luv you Stephanie. You really hit the nail on the head

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci +2

    WOW!!!! This is an awesome interview.

  • @BiboaraYinkere
    @BiboaraYinkere Před 5 měsíci +1

    'Authenic to yourself' I love this ❤️

  • @Saddafk
    @Saddafk Před měsícem +1

    God bless everyone listening to this ❤

  • @elshadiebirratu6003
    @elshadiebirratu6003 Před 6 měsíci +7

    Oh! Wow! This message is for me. I received it and will be patient to see the transition because I know that whatever I have been and am still praying for, will come in God’s time, which is the right time. Thank you both for this conversation. I have been trying to reach Paster Stephanie, but maybe one day, God will, we will cross our path when the time is right. God is Good! 🙏

  • @ashleyelabo1714
    @ashleyelabo1714 Před 7 měsíci +6

    I thinks thats easier said and done when you and your spouse love each other and you both are committed to God.

  • @cherylt.7327
    @cherylt.7327 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you for sharing such wonderful wisdom.

  • @Lenanohmy
    @Lenanohmy Před 7 měsíci +2

    This was so good 🩷

  • @ruthjanet3222
    @ruthjanet3222 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Thank you so much for this amazing content.
    Powerful 🔥

  • @niceyenuf1
    @niceyenuf1 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Great video! Learned lots. I found the interviewer's voice to be low though. Stephanie's was fine

  • @Blue77Blue
    @Blue77Blue Před 7 měsíci +1

    I LIKE THE HOST GOOD TO SEE STEPHANIE

  • @wendyjali1170
    @wendyjali1170 Před 7 měsíci +18

    Such godly and eye opening conversation...learned a lot frm it n so comforted bcs lm not perfect n lm learning tht everyone has issues n we cn just work through them with the Lord's help that's always available...thanks Kingdom ladies 💝🤍💜

  • @MissFayeCBL
    @MissFayeCBL Před 7 měsíci +8

    This stood out to me, "Creating the right environment for her to thrive" - this is man's responsibility.

  • @A__vee
    @A__vee Před 5 měsíci +1

    Learnt a lot. God bless you both❤️

  • @victoriousqueen1995
    @victoriousqueen1995 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Very impactful sis 💖

  • @gracegraphics-gp3cv
    @gracegraphics-gp3cv Před 6 měsíci +2

    Thank you so much for this episode its so refreshing i learned alot from both of you.

  • @rickblackgirlmindset
    @rickblackgirlmindset Před 7 měsíci +6

    This was so helpful and definitely needed. I am holding onto these tools these two Godlt women and daughtes imparted to us. Thank you both 💓

  • @sparklelouison2668
    @sparklelouison2668 Před 7 měsíci +35

    Really love Pastor Stephanie, she is such a Lady.

  • @CieraLevelsUp777
    @CieraLevelsUp777 Před měsícem +1

    Great Interview!

  • @marianiwomugulizi3115
    @marianiwomugulizi3115 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Am blessed to hear The powerful message l pray that all beautiful ladies out there gets the message, glory and honor to God who Never goes against his promises, indeed Patience Pays...l have Learnt that we should always know that we're not the Head of our lives But God in our relationships, Heavenly father l surrender all to you for U have better plans for us which are always perfect, Thanks My role model, The Great minister of God Pr Stephanie like long live to talk of the goodness of God for this generation and generations to come we really need U Amen Amen 🙏 thanks to you all who Never give up on trusting God even in hard situations

  • @abeyruth2598
    @abeyruth2598 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Wow so so powerful. I’ll be patient and reflect Christ in everything I do and say. Thank you Jesus 🙌🏾♥️

  • @thando_t1723
    @thando_t1723 Před 7 měsíci +20

    Pastor Ike is so beautiful ❤

  • @nettas5437
    @nettas5437 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I needed this 🙏🏾

  • @user-mz3ii2cr2u
    @user-mz3ii2cr2u Před 23 dny

    This was awesome I learned alot love pastor Stephanie

  • @kgomotsopetlele7990
    @kgomotsopetlele7990 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Wow❤ Thabk you for this💎

  • @aliciasheffield-rw9em
    @aliciasheffield-rw9em Před 7 měsíci +6

    So good! It’s the posture of your heart for me! AMEN

  • @Wendie_hiltonb
    @Wendie_hiltonb Před 5 měsíci +2

    Thanks for this! 💕

  • @janelle9410
    @janelle9410 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Love this!!!

  • @TheTierraJ
    @TheTierraJ Před 7 měsíci +27

    Thank you ladies for this beautiful, enlightening conversation ❤ whew this is powerful!!!

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Also emotionally we are vulnerable,we love 100percent snd men know this,and instead of embracing they sbuse it

  • @sharriettefinley467
    @sharriettefinley467 Před 7 měsíci +17

    Marriage is two 80%s coming together, in Christ Jesus, to grow in wholeness and holiness together. Reminds me of something that Love McPherson said about interdependence. Thank you young sisters for this blessed conversation. 🦋❤️

  • @zoniqueoriginals
    @zoniqueoriginals Před 7 měsíci +28

    Finally I hear someone be real about what we've learned since being married.I really needed this! Thank you

  • @nalukuinaleliliswaniso674
    @nalukuinaleliliswaniso674 Před 7 měsíci +2

    So much wisdom. Thank you for such an authentic conversation.

  • @GraceAdeniyiOlamijulo
    @GraceAdeniyiOlamijulo Před 7 měsíci +12

    Yeah...😂 I'm also the processor😂😂😂...and my husband wants to talk about it all right away!😂😂😂😂

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci +2

    What!!! Stephanie Ike got married and I missed it. Where have I been

  • @takeauthority30
    @takeauthority30 Před 7 měsíci

    This was soooo good

  • @faithjoseph9615
    @faithjoseph9615 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Wow! 👏👏👏Such an enlightening podcast. Thank You Stephanie! Definitely learnt a couple of things as regards marriage and having an impact as a genuine Christian on people around you living a life reflective of the Gospel of Jesus.

  • @stepheessel6667
    @stepheessel6667 Před 7 měsíci +6

    This was refreshing to listen and watch. I learnt a lot❤

  • @lolafmcinga6684
    @lolafmcinga6684 Před 7 měsíci +5

    As God prepares him for me and me for him❤❤🎉🎉😊😊

  • @Mabel-oe9bv
    @Mabel-oe9bv Před 8 měsíci +4

    Learnt a lot in here❤

  • @peacefaith9441
    @peacefaith9441 Před 6 měsíci +3

    That was nice she was able to see someone like Sarah value her home. That touched me. That gives me something to work on since I never seen that.

  • @seratongbaroba3871
    @seratongbaroba3871 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Good sermon. 🎉

  • @angelaaaron9253
    @angelaaaron9253 Před 7 měsíci +1

    She's so awesome!

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci

    Know the foundation you stand upon. That’s good.

  • @faithphasha2300
    @faithphasha2300 Před měsícem

    I admire Stephen Ike so much

  • @user-yd2ie9mh6m
    @user-yd2ie9mh6m Před 7 měsíci

    You know what you are saying sister!

  • @BiboaraYinkere
    @BiboaraYinkere Před 5 měsíci +1

    It is a problem if a woman is under the authority of a 'King' (husband) who lacks maturity. I agree with you. The process of finding out who you are and who you're committing to is important.

  • @milcahh_g2871
    @milcahh_g2871 Před 7 měsíci

    Awesome 👏🏻

  • @pilatedndlovu8980
    @pilatedndlovu8980 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Educative.

  • @nicoleboyce
    @nicoleboyce Před 5 měsíci +1

    Truth!! 🤍🙏😇🪽

  • @florencejohnson6788
    @florencejohnson6788 Před 5 měsíci +1

    If you were the only IMAGE OF GOD I'll see, would I ever want to know him? This is my take-home nugget of wisdom . God bless you both 🙏 ❤️ 🙌. You are my Kingdom sisters, and I love ❤️ you both.

  • @nikyahmorgan2603
    @nikyahmorgan2603 Před 7 měsíci +6

    Thank you SOOO much for giving a healthy more realistic, refreshing perspective of Christianity! We are not to be judgmental, but to embody the character and patience of Christ 😊 You’ll😊😊 get better results!

  • @christabeloghinan9664
    @christabeloghinan9664 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Wow 🔥

  • @judithannorbah6444
    @judithannorbah6444 Před 7 měsíci +13

    We are supposed to both lead people to Christ and reflect Christ to them. Its contradictory to say in one breath to be careful who you are married to so you are submitting to a fool, then also downplay the person's walk with Christ. One who is not submitted to Christ will make foolish decisions. No daughter of Zion will be at peace submitting to that type of leader. We need to stick with the word and not mix in worldly idealogies.

    • @junosegabriel3432
      @junosegabriel3432 Před 7 měsíci

      Li you 😊

    • @Gerealistic
      @Gerealistic Před 7 měsíci

      I agree💯

    • @Ad-Lo
      @Ad-Lo Před 5 měsíci +5

      It isn’t contradictory because shes addressing two different groups of women: she saying if you are saved, don’t marry someone who is unsaved. However, some people only become saved after they are already married. In that case, the saved person shouldn’t missionary date, but the Christian who gets saved later shouldn’t manipulate. It’s consistent with the Apostle Paul’s teachings.

    • @daisiesandpandas1218
      @daisiesandpandas1218 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Even a saved person has times of making foolish decisions. Submission doesn't mean going with everything you've husband says without thinking. It's submitting to a mission, anything that's being done for the good and betterment of your union

    • @olubusolaawolaja6831
      @olubusolaawolaja6831 Před 5 měsíci +1

      The other partner may even be a Christian and they are lukewarm, making foolish decisions. The genuine Christian partner will still be led by foolishness. Marry purpose, marry someone whom you both can fufill God’s purpose together.

  • @thomasclarrett1918
    @thomasclarrett1918 Před 7 měsíci +1

    JUST FLESH ...IN THE LAST DAYS MAN WILL BE LOVERS OF THEMSELF

  • @belledelemos9615
    @belledelemos9615 Před 7 měsíci

    That was essential

  • @10minword
    @10minword Před 7 měsíci +9

    it was difficult hearing Daf

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Před 7 měsíci +1

    My take on oneness is marriage,is a. Teaching on how God yarns for intimacy from us one day back 2017,the Holy Spirit asked me why we make Him,so lonely,God needs a close relationship with us

    • @janekogi6442
      @janekogi6442 Před 7 měsíci

      Just like we have with our partners

  • @dexteroushearts6808
    @dexteroushearts6808 Před 16 dny

    I am blessed

  • @vickiehughes9697
    @vickiehughes9697 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I enjoyed the interview, and both of you ladies were Awesome!!!
    Pastor Stephanie you are an Amazing woman of God!
    My family, friends and I love listening to you and Pastor Sarah Continued Blessings to you and your church family! We can’t wait to see you at the conference!

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci +1

    Great Question: if you are the only image of God I see, would I want to know Him

  • @joy222duhwrld
    @joy222duhwrld Před 7 měsíci +1

    is there a longer video?!? omg

    • @drdafshow
      @drdafshow  Před 7 měsíci +1

      Here: czcams.com/video/fHVkmG9zYE4/video.htmlsi=NHgH9Ng1mSeEhWSr

  • @SueChef100
    @SueChef100 Před 8 měsíci +17

    😂😂😂😂❤❤❤Enjoy your singlehood👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle
    @TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Před 5 měsíci +3

    That’s such a great answer: it’s not your job to lead anyone to Christ. Your job is to reflect your authentic relationship with God.

    • @ianmcdonald8648
      @ianmcdonald8648 Před měsícem

      you can only lead someone in the good sense if they want to be lead.

  • @Atalkwith_pjay
    @Atalkwith_pjay Před 15 dny

    Lord i receive my Boaz

  • @monicabotchway8038
    @monicabotchway8038 Před 7 měsíci

    I love you woman og God.

  • @Ad-Lo
    @Ad-Lo Před 5 měsíci

    Where in the Bible does it say that, “marriage is your first ministry”?

  • @vickiehughes9697
    @vickiehughes9697 Před 5 měsíci

    I strongly agree, Do Not marry un equally yoke!
    It is written! Being in a marriage,submitting,being an example,praying for that spouse’s salvation can be
    long,lonesome,horrible walk!!! I wouldn't want anyone to go through! The marriage ended in a Divorce,Ihonored God and my marriage,God honored and blessed me(my children honored and respected me to the utmost) and so does their father.
    That was 16years ago,a person has to want something for them self,Not to say it won’t ever happen!Our God is Able! I am a true respecter of his timing!
    I am so Grateful to Our Lord,for him rescueing me!
    Ladies/Men date and collect your data!!!
    For you that are already in it,God is in the mist of everything,let him guide you,his will shall be done
    make sure you stay in your walk cause we are held accountable as individuals!! He’s an Awesome God!!!
    Live,Learn,Forgive,Love, and Share!

  • @user-eu8jm4rg9p
    @user-eu8jm4rg9p Před 19 dny

    Please pray for me Katarina, thanks, God bless you ...who is my kingdom husband ?

  • @lyndianaambroise8177
    @lyndianaambroise8177 Před 29 dny

    If you are a divorcee is it a sin to remarry if your spouse is still alive ?